One of the really amazing things about our Private Support Group is the fact that women are always talking about different strategies that I don’t really cover in all that much detail here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery.
Now, one of the most popular strategies on the group right now is “the law of attraction” or “LOA” for short.
I remember the first time that someone ever told me about this I just rolled my eyes and thought,
There is no way that will ever work. That’s stupid….
It’s a sentiment that I am sure a lot of people have when they hear about it for the first time.
Nevertheless, I gave it a try and really tried to open myself up to it and I have to say that it’s pretty incredible what this mindset shift can accomplish.
So, I decided to take things a step further by doing an interview with one of the worlds most popular law of attraction experts, Arielle Ford.
I really wanted to get a sense of how this stuff could apply to getting an ex back since that is what I think most people here are gunning for.
Watch our interview below,
Now, if you are interested in learning more about Arielle and her course I highly recommend you check out her website.
Georgina
September 3, 2017 at 7:45 am
Hi! I hope this comment will be noticed and answered please. I’m desperate.
My ex and I broke up a day after our 3rd anniversary on August 17. Tbh, I made a mistake of texting him with hurtful things such as, “jerk, dumbass, stupid, insecure and a douche,” bcoz he was implying that I was flirting with another guy on FB but I wasn’t. I regret it later that day but it kinda pushed him to break up with me. Since he wasn’t texting that day, I checked his FB and found a chat from the girl he used to cheat on me two months ago (a day after, I got him back coz I fought for him). The chat was nothing especial, he was trying to buy credits from her to text me. But I was soooo paranoid since I noticed that the girl’s reply wasn’t complete, only to find out that he deleted the convo, making sure that I wouldn’t see it so there would be no drama. Unfortunately, I saw it and exploded. In the end, I regretted what I did but it didn’t matter to him. Two weeks on going after the split, we had sex three times and more than once in said days. I thought that it might change his mind. In the end, he didn’t and I was so devastated. I also committed a lot of the deadly sins like begging and being needy and desperate. A total opposite of how he met me as an independent, strong and clever girl.
He’s an honest man but it took two weeks for me to know the truth of our break up. At first he said that he wasn’t happy anymore, he got used to the fights and my paranoia that he got bored and that I don’t deserve him. But even if he said that, everytime we meet for school matters, he misses my physical love such as hugging him. And I got more confused! I’m sure that he just miss the feeling of being hugged and having sex, not me.
In the end, he said that he’s in love with the girl he used to cheat on me bcoz she was there when he truly needed someone during his problems. I’ll confess, I wasn’t always there for him due to fam problems and other stuff but believe me, I was head over heels for him even if I’m sweeter in words and not in actions. I was heartbroken. He said that even if he wanted to (so basically he doesn’t want to anymore), we are not getting back together. Because of that, I cutted myself three times on my wrist. I know it was wrong but my emotions were overflowing that I did it.
Today is Day TWO of my NC. And he texted me today with, “Gie?” since this is my nickname. But I’m scared that he’ll pursue the girl since I’m out of the picture. Even though we’re at a small college, I’ll try my best to avoid him at all cost and improve myself and he’ll only see me on my FB posts. A lot of my friends and his friends notice that I’m getting beautiful (maybe because I decided to wear make-up PROPERLY and learned to fix my hair which I didn’t do much before since I don’t care about my appearance at that time). He once said after the break up that, “Stop seducing me.” I laughed because I thought it was working. But his decision was final. He said he doesn’t love me anymore. And he said that he’ll miss me. But I’m afraid he and the girl (who also loved him before but Idk now and I guessed she still does) might get together during my NC. And he said that he’ll not text me for us to move on. He asked me to do well in my academics. He’s concern but maybe bcoz if I fail, he’ll blame himself (I think).
I’m 18 but even if I’m young, I believe that he’s different. He was with me from my darkest and weakest point to my sucessfull moments and got my back all throughout and I’m so stupid to not do that for him. I didn’t have a father figure and our relationship was the longest one in my life. I love him so much. I want him back. He’s been in to so much crap so I should’ve been the one who he least expected to do that to him.
Do we have a chance of getting back together?
I desperately want to buy the Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO book but since I don’t have a job and is still studying, I can’t even if I wanted to. Please help me. I’m just losing it.
Georgina
September 3, 2017 at 7:56 am
Btw, as much as I wanted to, I didn’t reply. I’m also into deep research about the Law of Attraction.
P.S. HOLY FUDGE!!!!? HE JUST CALLED! I LITERALLY BIT MY FINGERS TO NOT ACCEPT NOR DECLINE IT.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 4, 2017 at 7:48 pm
HI Georgina,
that’s good that you didn’t answer. Check this ones:
How To Make It Through No Contact Period
EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant
Laura
June 5, 2017 at 10:21 pm
Hi I am in a difficult situation. So basically I was in a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend, he got jealous over a male friend I had back in July and he was convinced I cheated. I didn’t cheat but I did realise I did make my boyfriend feel uncomfortable when I shouldn’t have. I apologised but back then he didn’t believe me so he broke up with me and I moved out. Before this he had no insecurities. He then came back to me in December and said he misses me and wanted to try again, very briefly we dated and again in January he told me he couldn’t commit so we ended it. In April he came back again and we spoke allot about the insecurities and he said he now believes me and wanted to try again. We have been dating again since April and taking it slow but he has become very busy with work and is unbelievably distant. Going from being unbelievably happy and being together almost all the time, we now see each other once a week max, sometimes less and although he texts me every day, he doesn’t initiate dates, never compliments me, is physically distant and doesn’t do anything to make it romantic. I still really love him but I do not feel a spark from him and I do respect that he is busy but feel he should and could prioritize us more. I feel lonely and anxious most of the time but when we do spend time together we always have a good time. I honestly feel like I am a very little priority to him at the moment and last week I explained how I feel, he said he would try harder but his actions do not match. I have been feeling this way for the majority of the time we have been seeing each other again so I am seriously considering ending it but there is something inside me that feels we are meant to be together. I feel this way about the person he was but I am worried he will never go back to that, so I have basically come to the decision to break up with him for good. I am worried that I am acting too soon but i am really struggling to continue this way emotionally. Can you shed some light? Thank you.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 9, 2017 at 11:57 am
If you already talked to him and he didn’t make the effort to change, then you made the right decision.
Laura
June 5, 2017 at 10:19 pm
Hi I would love some advice.
I am in a difficult situation. So basically I was in a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend, he got jealous over a male friend I had back in July and he was convinced I cheated. I didn’t cheat but I did realise I did make my boyfriend feel uncomfortable when I shouldn’t have. I apologised but back then he didn’t believe me so he broke up with me and I moved out. Before this he had no insecurities. He then came back to me in December and said he misses me and wanted to try again, very briefly we dated and again in January he told me he couldn’t commit so we ended it. In April he came back again and we spoke allot about the insecurities and he said he now believes me and wanted to try again. We have been dating again since April and taking it slow but he has become very busy with work and is unbelievably distant. Going from being unbelievably happy and being together almost all the time, we now see each other once a week max, sometimes less and although he texts me every day, he doesn’t initiate dates, never compliments me, is physically distant and doesn’t do anything to make it romantic. I still really love him but I do not feel a spark from him and I do respect that he is busy but feel he should and could prioritize us more. I feel lonely and anxious most of the time but when we do spend time together we always have a good time. I honestly feel like I am a very little priority to him at the moment and last week I explained how I feel, he said he would try harder but his actions do not match. I have been feeling this way for the majority of the time we have been seeing each other again so I am seriously considering ending it but there is something inside me that feels we are meant to be together. I feel this way about the person he was but I am worried he will never go back to that, so I have basically come to the decision to break up with him for good. I am worried that I am acting too soon but i am really struggling to continue this way emotionally. Can you shed some light?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 9, 2017 at 11:57 am
If you already talked to him and he didn’t make the effort to change, then you made the right decision.
Jill
June 3, 2017 at 5:11 am
This was so inspirational. I’ve actually done this without even knowing haha.
P.A
June 2, 2017 at 9:21 pm
Hi Chris,
Me and my ex boyfriend started talking about 2 months ago now. Our relationship has developed, as we message more and we did start hanging out in person. Recently, my ex boyfriend has been saying how he is scared to get back with me in case I leave him again as he doesn’t want to go through those emotions, he also says he’s tied in with his new girlfriend, but when I asked him what would happen if his new girlfriend found out we were talking he said he would rather fall out with her than with me. So I asked why that was and he said because I was his first girlfriend it’s harder to let go fully. We’ve kissed, not a quick peck but a good 30 seconds to a minute type kissing, he’s also said he wants back with me but as mentioned before he’s scared and tied down, but then he isn’t really acting on it. He said he wanted to remain friends only for a day or so later for him to tell me he was still deciding on what he wanted to do, but since he’s said that our conversations have gotten more deep and he seems to be bringing the topic about me and him up more than I have. I was wondering if this was his way of slowly getting use to me again? Or perhaps he’s trying to figure everything out slowly? I’ve read your other posts about taking time and being patient but could you give me any head way as to what my situation is like now these things have started progressing? Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 3:37 pm
I’ll forward this to Chris but I cant promise he can answer because he’s really busy as of the moment.