We get asked about this quite a lot.
We hear from at least a few ladies every day saying,
“I used your system and it worked great. So much so, that we made out, but now I’m not sure what to do.”
Well, The Good News First
The good news is that your ex still finds you physically attractive.
And you got him to meet up with you in person!
That says a lot right there.
Most couples after a breakup, can’t even stand to be in the same room as each other, let alone make out.
But, here you are kissing him and stuff.
Go you! Kudos!
You’d be shocked how many women jump at the chance to play tonsil hockey with their exes.
Once you get through No Contact, Texting, and land that first face to face, it’s easy to get sucked back into the physical relationship. Giving into that temptation to jump straight to the kiss and makeup part is so alluring that going back to establish a good foundation for the relationship becomes a hurdle.
Assuming he kissed you back, it could be worse. I mean could have not. He could have run away screaming bloody murder.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizWhat You Really Want to Know
What you are really wondering is how to proceed now that you’ve lip-locked with your ex-sweetie. Now that you’ve experienced a reaction, you are hoping that that means you’re done.
Who wouldn’t wonder that?
I mean as humans we are impatient. We want what we want and we want it now.
The bad part is that no, the kiss means only one thing. It’s just a guess, but I bet he wanted to kiss you when you two were together. Finding someone attractive doesn’t ever go away completely.
So, you guessed it, both the good and bad news is that he wants to kiss you. The bad news for you is also that there’s no shortcut to getting your ex back.
When you are hungry you go out and get some fast food. This satiates your hunger.
When your exboyfriend needed to feel wanted or doesn’t want to feel alone he reaches out to feel connected.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizKeeping that in mind, you have to realize that a make-out sesh doesn’t a relationship make. It’s not a promise of one in the future.
When you were fourteen and you made out with someone, it generally led to you being emotionally invested.
I don’t presume to know your ex. But with most of the adults I know, making out with someone just means they’re attractive and up for a quick dose of Dopamine.
The trick to making this become something more is to make him desire more from you specifically. I mean, I’m guessing you don’t want him making out with you AND everyone else.
That’s why it’s important to go through ALL of the steps to succeed in presto chango-ing your exboyfriend into being your boyfriend again.
Let me put it this way. When I was little I loved to watch Buffy. Yeah I know, Chris isn’t the only Buffy fan. But I HATED waiting a whole week for the next episode to some out. Those cliff hangers fed into a desire to see things through to the end.
Or worse, when they would skip a week! It was torture.
Now, Netflix is my best friend and worst enemy.
Judging by the fact that marathoning no longer only applies to running really long distances for a T-Shirt and no good reason. (You know, like a bear, or a shoe sale) I’m going to guess that most of you have the same issue I do.
Too much of a good thing!
There are so many good shows out there and my wilpower isn’t enough not to sit down and watch all 6 seasons of lost in less than a week.
If you watched that show you know things got a little weird toward the end. Sometimes it was just down right hard to watch simply because it was hard to believe or follow what was going on.
But I couldn’t stop watching.
Do you want to know why?
They kept a little bit of mystery going on. Grant it, after they started with the magic nonsense, it just got a little hard to keep up. But the real reason I could stop is because I had invested time into getting to know the characters.
I cared whether they lived or died and what happened to them even though I know that they were 100% fictional.
Emotional investment is hard to force on someone, but investment in general isn’t.
Much like my need to finish things once I start them. You need to generate a need to keep up with you in your ex.
Did you ever watch that movie “Failure to Launch?”
If not, here’s the general premise.
Parent’s who have tired of their grown sons still living at home being couch potatoes hire a woman to make their sons fall in love with her. Basically, her goal is to motivate them to create a life for themselves.
In my opinion, the movie wasn’t one of my favorites, but it always interested me that she had this process of making the men do what she wanted.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizYes, it’s fiction, but she had a pretty good plan that she laid out for his parents like this.
“Young men develop self-esteem best during a romantic relationship, so I simulate one: We have a memorable meeting, we get to know each other over a few casual meals, he helps me through an emotional crisis, then I meet his friends – if he has any – uh, then I let him teach me something; but, the bottom line is, he bonds with me, he lets go of you, he moves out.”
What does any of this have to do with you making out with your ex?
Well… why did you make out with him?
Because you want him back right? You wanted to remind him of the connection he had with you before.
3 of my best friends are guys. So, I get a lot of insight into why they do things. That’s part of why the “Failure to Launch” process kind of struck me as funny.
Most men don’t run around making out with people hoping to create a long lasting emotional bond. Those with low expectations just need the little self-esteem boost of knowing that you still want to make out with him. However, most men are just testing the waters to see if you’ll still sleep with them. Then, they don’t have to invest effort into a whole new relationship quite yet.
It’s sad I know. I hate to generalize men like that. because I know for a fact that every man doesn’t simply want to sleep with you. But the percentage is high enough that I feel like it’s a pretty safe bet that he wasn’t making out with you to reestablish some kind of deep bond.
It doesn’t mean you can’t create one, though.
“How do I do that?”
Well, I’m sure you know by now that men want what they can’t have.
Once you make it through the ExRecovery program and you are spending time together, ask him for help with something… anything. The goal here is to make him feel needed.
That was the general idea in Failure to Launch. Building self-esteem isn’t something we do easily on our own.
The problem here is accomplishing this without coming off as needy.
Ask him for his help. Let him help. Then thank him and go about life.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizI’m hesitant to tell you to do this because the last time I told someone to ask her ex for help to become a source of self-esteem she went a little overboard.
Here I was suggesting she call him instead of me because she was distraught over this desk she bought that came with instructions that were written completely in Japanese.
She called him and, like the knight in shining armor that he was, he came and saved the day. He even brought real tools and everything.
They spent the whole time talking and laughing. He hugged her before he left.
That’s when everything went wrong. She started calling him to help her with everything!
Pickle Jar lids? Call Jared*.
Cat escaped and ran off into the night? Call Jared*.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizCar won’t start? Call Jared*.
Can’t decide what movie to watch? Call Jared*.
As you can imagine, Jared* didn’t feel needed. He started to think that no one else cared. She became his “needy ex-girlfriend and he stopped answering when she called.
So, I can’t stress this enough. Ask for his help once, maybe twice, with things that it is possible that you actually couldn’t do on your own. He’ll see straight through a pickle jar situation.
Don’t try and skip to the end of the Ex Recovery Program either.
If you haven’t already, start with No Contact and at least get through a couple in person interactions before playing the Damsel in Distress card. Otherwise, it just looks like a maneuver, when you want it to seem completely innocent.
What Now?
Basically, all you have to now is stay on track with wherever you are in the process.
I know. I know. Being patient is a lot more difficult than it sounds.
I’ve dealt with it myself.
According to a study done by Roy Baumeister. Willpower is a limited resource.
The study was an odd one involving a plate of cookies and a plate of radishes. Sounds really scientific I know.
But Dr. Baumeister brought the subjects into the room where the plates were. Some were asked to sample the cookies. Some were asked ot sample the radishes.
Now, I don’t know if your mom loves to bake like mine. But, I used to walk home from school and I could tell halfway down the road if mom was baking. The two smells that stood out above any other were Chocolate Chip Cookies and homemade bread. By the time I stepped foot in the door, my mouth would already be watering and I would go straight for the cookie jar like most children would.
Now, if any of you have ever had to resist warm chocolate chip cookies, you can imagine how hard it would have been to take a radish instead, especially if the smell of warm cookies were filling the space.
The subjects were then asked to complete a difficult geometric puzzle in 30 minutes. What he found was pretty interesting.
The subjects who had to exert willpower by resisting the cookies were the first to give up on the puzzle.
That study was done in 1998. In 2010, though, a Stanford University researcher Veronika Job, PhD, and her colleagues found that simply believing that willpower was a limited resource was what made the subjects more susceptible to giving up.
There are still ongoing studies as to what effects willpower. But according to what Professor Job found, you can extend your willpower (to not try to rush the process of getting your ex back) simply by believing that you can.
As one of my college friends used to say regarding my positive outlook and cheery demeanor,
“That is so Disney of you, Ashley.”
It’s the truth, though. You will be tempted to give up and you won’t get your ex back if you try and jump to the end.
Trust that the Program works and see it through and the likeliness that you will be successful is 100% more likely than if you give up.
Why am I telling you all of this?
Well, most people who want to get their ex back would take making out with him as a sign that they’ve reached their final destination. But, getting a little momentary attention isn’t the main goal here. You want him to beg you to take him back and be completely invested. I little smooching and you’re ready to settle for a layover instead of your final destination.
Don’t settle!
Layla
February 3, 2022 at 7:11 am
My ex and I broke up 2 months ago, we live in the same building; did not contact him for 35 days, then called him and asked if he’d like to go for a walk. We had a great time, but then nothing happened for 1 month. Then 2 days ago we came across each other in the building and ended up hanging out, we kissed, and then he kept on kissing me and hugging me and telling me that he loves me for 4 hours non-stop! And didn’t want to leave my apartment, he slept over, we just hung out and he said that he is not ready to get back and thinks being friends is a better idea for now. we had a very romantic night talking, and breakfast together the next morning and I suggested to hang out next week together outside, and he agreed. When he left he kissed me again and hugged me, but hasn’t contacted me sinnce, but we’re supposed to go out next week – I’m confused by his actions, he’s never been a texter, even when we were together. Any advice on how to understand his actions?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 21, 2022 at 9:16 pm
Hey Layla, it sounds as if he was looking for some intimate time with you rather than getting a relationship back on track. I would suggest that you do not give him any boyfriend privileges before you get back into a relationship.
Xavier
August 29, 2021 at 6:12 am
I forgot to mention in the previous comment that we still love each other. I love him, and I know he loves me. We broke up after I had some mental health issues that came to a head. I’ve been in therapy and on medication since for it, which he knows, but didn’t believe it would make a difference. I used the time we were together to showcase my changes, and to express that I was doing well, and had new goals that I’d set for myself health wise and career wise.
Emily
January 20, 2021 at 6:09 am
My ex broke up with me day before yesterday saying that he couldn’t date for more than three months but he dated me for four months cause he didn’t actually want to break up with me. While we were walking he pulled me in for a hug (after we broke up) and then we kissed it lasted for maybe a minute or two. After a while I hugged him and we kissed again (just a peck) Just yesterday we were talking about us and he told that he won’t mind kissing me again infact he’ll be happy to do it, and suggested fwb…. What does this mean?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
January 25, 2021 at 8:37 pm
Hi Emily, it means that he wants to still get to be with you physically but does not want a relationship.
Sandra
June 20, 2020 at 2:53 pm
The last couple of months my ex has been trying to reach out to me and we finally met a few nights ago for dinner at his place (since it’s lockdown and it was raining outside).
It was awkward at first and felt quite formal since we hadn’t spoken to eachother properly for two years. We did end up kissing and making out, which lasted a couple of hours and was very passionate and we felt more comfortable around eachother.
He didn’t text me back the day after so I sent him a text that it was nice to see him again and he replied that he felt the same. He hasn’t texted back anything since or shown any signs he wants to meet again.
What should I do and what is he thinking?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
July 7, 2020 at 6:10 pm
Hi Sandra, so essentially you’ve had a long date where you have given him a little too much, right now he is satisfied he does not have to chase you, so I would suggest that oyu do a mini NC for 5-8 days and see if he reaches out to you first, if not then you need to attempt one of the texts that Chris suggests in his article to get the conversation started again
cassy
March 14, 2018 at 12:38 pm
We broke up last january, then we started to have a limited contact through text and for the last 2 months we had sex twice and this month, i went to his place to return some of his stuff and we ended up making out. He kissed me first and i said no but eventually i gave in. We cuddled and talk a bit. He told me it would be hard for us to get back together coz he doesn’t want to hurt me. I dont know what to do. Should i continue seeing him? Kr texting him? Or should i just let him go and move on.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 15, 2018 at 3:34 pm
Hi Cassy,
Check this one:
My Ex Boyfriend And I Still Hook Up (How Can I Get Him To Commit)
Sarah
February 21, 2018 at 4:36 am
My ex suggested FWB. We made out the other night (he intiated) and I stayed over, we cuddled, etc. He says he doesn’t want a relationship. How do I get him to commit? I know he wants more than just kissing, what do I say when he suggests more? And should I continue kissing/flirting/cuddling to “tease” him? I don’t want to be easy and give him what he wants. I’m also worried if I flat out say “only friends and no benefits” he won’t want anything to do with me. I know he will want what he can’t have. What should I do or say?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 25, 2018 at 4:21 pm
Hi Sarah,
When and why did you break up?
Check this one:
My Ex Boyfriend Wants To Sleep With Me… Should I?
Marie
February 21, 2018 at 4:10 am
So I saw my ex at a bar for the first time since our break up 3 months ago. We have had hardly any contact since then. We had a fun time at the bar, were flirting the whole night and then we went outside alone. We were making out and he stops mid-make out saying “I don’t want to lead you on.” So many mixed signals from this. What do you think he means? Like clearly he was enjoying himself too because he could have left the bar and gone home at any time but he stayed.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 25, 2018 at 4:12 pm
Hi Marie
I think it meant what he said.. It was a spur of a moment kind of thing because of the rush of emotions…he kissed you becausw of that but it doesn’t mean he wants to get back together..
sammy
January 1, 2018 at 4:21 pm
Hi this is my situation.
My ex chat me and wants to hang out. We broke up 2 years ago and this is our 2nd meet up (LDR we never got a chance to see each other during our relationship). Now we talked and got the answers to my question why we ended so fast. After that, he asked me to make out in nearby lodge. At first, I hesitate but in the end I see myself walking with him in the lodge. We make out, he kissed me, he explored everything on me, and I’m doing the same. We take a break and talked again. He confessed that he is a gay. I’m not shocked and I feel more comfortable now to him. And after that, we proceed to another round. So here’s my question and i need advice from you… Is there a 2nd chance to our relationship? He said he was gay but wants to be kissed and touched romantically by a woman. Is he really a gay? Well.. we already had closure and we are now friends. I don’t have regrets of what happened to us that night.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 4, 2018 at 6:50 pm
Hi Sammy,
so he means he wants to be friends with benefits with you?
sammy
January 1, 2018 at 3:55 pm
Hi this is my situation.
My ex chat me and wants to hang out. We broke up 2 years ago and this is our 2nd meet up (LDR we never got a chance to see each other during our relationship). Now we talked and got the answers to my question why we ended so fast. After that, he asked me to make out in nearby lodge. At first, I hesitate but in the end I see myself walking with him in the lodge. We make out, he kissed me, he explored everything on me, and I’m doing the same. We take a break and talked again. He confessed that he is a gay. I’m not shocked and I feel more comfortable now to him. And after that, we proceed to another round. So here’s my question and i need advice from you… Is there a 2nd chance to our relationship? He said he was gay but wants to be kissed and touched romantically by a woman. Is he really a gay? Well.. we already had closure and we are now friends. I don’t have regrets of what happened to us that night.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 4, 2018 at 6:52 pm
Hi Sammy,
so he means he wants to be friends with benefits with you?
Jessica
November 12, 2017 at 10:24 pm
To add for some clarification he said he is hurt because he feels I always make him out to be the bad guy. I didn’t trust him. He’s never cheated on me and when I heard a bogus story I never gave him the benefit of the doubt.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 13, 2017 at 2:05 am
Hi Jessica,
If you’re in the no contact rule, then you shouldn’t initiate nor reply… You have to be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.. You already did what you can do, to keep pushing it is chasing..
Jessica
November 12, 2017 at 10:06 pm
My fiancé and I have been together 12 years. Of course we have had ups and downs but always ended up together.
We got in a bad fight the beginning of October. He was out with some guy friends when we were supposed to have plans and I heard a rumor he was flirting with a girl. I flipped out and told him to leave (in much harsher words). He has been staying at a second home of ours during this time and had blocked me for about 3 weeks. During that time I found out the truth about the situation and he did nothing wrong. I tried to contact him to reconcile and apologize but no response.
I finally stopped by the house twice to see him. The first I was nervous if he would even talk to me but he let me in. We didn’t end up talking about anything pertaining to the fight just small talk. When I would try and bring it up he would say he didn’t want to get into it right now. So I didn’t force it. I initiated leaving first and he asked me for a hug to which we ended up making out. He told me it was good to see me and he had our mutual friends check on my Facebook while we were apart. (He doesn’t have social media).
Two days later I stopped by the house again. We ended up talking for a few hours and discussing our fight to which felt like a reconcile. We said sorry and I love you’s and ended up having sex and he unblocked me. We talked on the phone and texted for the next few days and ended up making dinner plans.
Throughout that time he was very hot and cold. One hour he was back to talking about us and our future plans together and saying I love you the next he would be cold and tell me he was still hurt and mad. He said I was expecting things to just be back to normal like we were together when we’re not but in the same argument was mad I had made plans to go visit family over Thanksgiving (during what would have been our anniversary. ). It was a rollercoaster of emotions.
He ended up bailing on our dinner plans on Sunday. The 3 days following our cancelled plans I texted him trying to reconcile. I told him how much I loved him and how we could work it out together. Each reply I would get from him would be how angry he was at me and how hurt he was. Eventually I said one last I love you and gave him some space. I have told him how much I want to be with him and love him and apologized multiple times.
It has been 5 days now and today I read about the No Contact Rule. I sent a text to get back to neutral territory and said “Sorry I was emotional and lashed out at you, wish you luck.” He replied “thank you, you too.. have a safe trip.”
Any advice? Should I not contact him?
Eva
October 8, 2017 at 8:34 pm
My ex Bf asked me to get together the other night where he ended up telling me he wasn’t over me. We agreed that we both wanted to slowly try things again, and he said we would have to do things a little differently this time. It was him who brought up us trying things out again, there was no way I was going to put myself in a position to be rejected. We ended up cuddling and kissing that night and it felt like we had never broken up. He asked me to hang out again the next night, but I already had other plans. Today I ask him to get together and he says he will see. I feel like I’m getting mixed signals and I am afraid to get hurt again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 9, 2017 at 12:28 am
Hi Eva,
Check this one:
Keeping Him Once You Get Him Back
W
October 7, 2017 at 5:31 pm
Hi , it’s been 3 days and he have yet to initiate. I initiated a text and told him that if he would wanna talk things out again tmr. At first he told me that he don’t think so because he has something going on. Later then i ask him if he could swap his appointment because i would really like to spend the day with him. He then told me he might need to go out at 3. I asked him again until what time and he answered me maybe he have to go out latest by 5. And i asked him if he could change his appointment to the other day again and he asked me if how long im gonna take if im going over. I told him i would like to spend a whole day with him but if he really have to go out then nvm it’s ok. He ended up telling me he have to go out at night and other than that he’s ok with it. He has been changing his time from 3 to 5 and to night. Does it really mean anything? If a guy doesn’t want anything to do with you he wouldn’t have actually agreed on meeting up to talk abt it right?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 8, 2017 at 9:00 pm
Hi W,
When your ex is being distant, don’t ask for a date.. That means there’s not enough rapport… But since you already talked, it’s clear that he has or is moving on and he can see you’re chasing him.. So, it’s either you do one last nc of 45 days, slowly rebuild rapport after it while you continue having your own life or just move on..
If you’re doing nc, approach it like he had moved on. That way you’re not going to ask or demand for time or to take you back.. You’re going to try to make him attracted to you, like you would do to a stranger that you’re interested with…
W
October 6, 2017 at 6:06 am
Hi Amor, but since it’s a good sign , why he hasnt been texting me after the day we met ? Hmm … you said i can initiate a text after 3 days if he dont iniatiate right, can i ask him out for a date too?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 8, 2017 at 9:00 pm
Hi W,
When your ex is being distant, don’t ask for a date.. That means there’s not enough rapport… But since you already talked, it’s clear that he has or is moving on and he can see you’re chasing him.. So, it’s either you do one last nc of 45 days, slowly rebuild rapport after it while you continue having your own life or just move on..
If you’re doing nc, approach it like he had moved on. That way you’re not going to ask or demand for time or to take you back.. You’re going to try to make him attracted to you, like you would do to a stranger that you’re interested with…
W
October 5, 2017 at 3:38 am
Hi, will do what you said. Thanks . do you think it’s a good sign where he is still thinking abt our relationship?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 5, 2017 at 8:36 am
Yup, it’s a good sign..
W
October 4, 2017 at 4:09 am
Hi. My ex asked me over to his place ytd to talk abt our relationship stuff. He asked me how have i changed these few months and i told him getting better in person. He asked me how better in person but i was too shy and nervous so i just said better in person means better in person. He initiate to hug me and kiss me. We then end up making out but i pushed him away at last and told him that im not someone who is cheap and someone who will simply make out without being in a committed relationship. When i left home, he did not give me a goodbye hug or kiss or anything he just said bye to me. I texted him after that like ‘ did you call me over ytd just because you want to have some physical touch or you wanted to talk abt us ‘ . He replied ‘ supposed to talk ‘. What does he mean, what should i do ? Should i asked him out the other day and talk again ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 4, 2017 at 12:29 pm
Nope, let him initiate a conversation or a text.. If after 3 days he doesn’t, you can initiate..
Pink
July 24, 2017 at 12:16 pm
Hi Ms. Amor
I got a problem after NC (30 days), my ex and I attended a friday activity then he ask me to stay a while in my house but sad to say we ended to have s*x, I dont know why this happen, it’s just we miss each other, he told me that his still inlove with me but he cant commit because he dont want to hurt me, his not yet ready. Now, Im so ashame of what Ive done, I dont want to be his friend with benefits, because when I message him the following morning, telling him that Im upset and disappointed, self pity, ashame of what weve done, I also inform him that it would be the last and he responded to me that we will restraint ourselves next time.. He told me that I’m so beautiful and sexy and still He love me, but I doubt it, because I found out his still flirting with other girl in his social media account and even sending message and calling the girl.. I dont know what to do now, please advise. should I start again the NC? or should I avoid him? but I want him back, how can I make him commit?. thanks and God bless.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 25, 2017 at 4:05 pm
Hi Pink,
follow this one:
My Ex Boyfriend And I Still Hook Up (How Can I Get Him To Commit)
Sandra
June 18, 2017 at 1:22 pm
Relationship for 8 years, looking for a baby, however issues from both of us on not communicating issues made our relationship stale, I felt unhappy for past 8 months, he did for past 2 years. I got attention from someone else, told my bf but I broke up within 2 weeks. Dated the other guy straight after for 3 months. Worst mistake I’ve ever made. Dated other people, no one compared to 8 yr boyfriend, want him back. It’s been 7 months of break up, no contact in between, texted him recently to chat about us during coffee, he agreed. Met and talked for 4 hours, discussed how each other felt in relationship, connection and feelings were still there, laughing and hugging, holding hands, kissing, like nothing happened. He told me how much I hurt him and the pain I created in him, I listened and understood he has every right to feel that way. He doesn’t know if he can trust me again. He also has been seeing someone on and off, a family friend, they kissed and hang out but nothing else. No contact with this girl for past 2 weeks. He asked me for time, as he has strong feelings for me and also feelings for her. Although there were things of her he wasn’t sure about, she wanted to move to their home country, is very much into religion and he is not, and he feels he is more mature than her.
We agreed to meet again in two weeks, we agreed on no contact from now until 2 weeks. What shall I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 21, 2017 at 3:03 pm
Hi Sandra,
I think you have a good chance. Have you started improving yourself?
Erin
May 23, 2017 at 11:28 am
Hey! I need advice desperately.
My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. I did the no contact rule and we texted a few times after, but I really was not interested in pursuing getting him back anymore. Then I saw him out at a bar two nights ago, he came right up to me and we talked the whole night. He gave me a ride home and started intensely making out with me. He asked me to come home with him, I said no because I just was not expecting any of it and really thrown off. Now I want to see him again, we both ended up crying that night to each other we talked for another hour after the make out at drop off. I just can not stop thinking about him and I feel all the emotions back when he was in front of me. I need advice on how to see him again and how to go about this!! Thank you in advance’
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 25, 2017 at 4:09 pm
start it like you’ve just ended the nc.. slowly build rapport with texts first, and then calls and then meet ups
Tracey
May 6, 2017 at 7:13 pm
My ex and I broke up in January, with him freaking out and saying he couldn’t commit. We didn;t talk for over a month and then slowly became friends again. Recently, we kissed on a drunken night out and agreed to casually start seeing each other again. this has involved us sleeping together for the first time as well. But things have become quite intimate over the weeks. Whereas I tended to have to make plans for us when we dated the first time around, he now instigates regularly, even if that means us sitting on the sofa watching tv. he’s gone from someone who hates sharing space in bed to cuddly and kissy. recently I was ill and he took care of me, and when I was recovered we planned to go out and just ended up tenderly cuddling. Considering his fear of commitment, are these good signs? And how do I broach the topic of us being a couple. He kisses me in public so that’s not a problem.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 7, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Hi Tracey,
yes, that’s a good sign.. check this one:
How To Ask Your Ex Boyfriend To Be In A Relationship With You