At Ex Boyfriend Recovery we have been lucky enough to help many women find their way back into their ex boyfriends arms.
Over the years we estimate we have successfully played a role in well over a thousand success stories but the truth is that you don’t care about numbers like that, do you?
No, I could sit here and tell you that I have helped over 15 million women with breakups and it’s not going to have any type of impact.
(Though I have helped that many people through my writing 😉 .)
Why?
Well, because all that you care about is the pain you are feeling right now and how to make it stop.
You want your ex back and there is this little voice in the back of your head telling you,
“There is no way I could ever get him back…”
Heck, your friends and family may be playing into that fear as well by telling you the same thing.
So, I thought it might be really fun for me to pick the six best success stories that we have had the pleasure of taking part in over the course of our history and doing a deep dive into what these women did to get their exes back.
I figured we would follow a pretty simple formula going forward,
- I will introduce the name of the woman who got her ex back
- I will provide proof that they got their ex back (usually in the form of one on one interviews or screenshots of emails or Facebook updates.)
- Give you my brief opinion on how difficult of a situation I thought they were in.
- Talk about important lessons that you should derive from their success
Sound like a plan?
Ok, lets begin!
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizSuccess Story #1: Anna (The Long Distance Dilemma)
You may have noticed Anna’s success story plastered all throughout the website,
Anna is actually a member of our Private Support Group and was kind enough to grant me with an interview of how she got her ex back!
Oh, and if you are reading that success story and wondering who “Jennifer Christina” is, it’s my wife!
What Situation Anna Was In
Anna was in one of the more difficult situations,
Long Distance
It’s really funny because even though I know that long distance relationships are difficult to deal with I still get this sense that I have more knowledge than the average “expert” out there seeing as how I actually am married to a woman who I was in a long distance relationship with for half a year.
Nevertheless, I would classify Anna’s situation as difficult.
Anyways, when we told Anna that we were interested in writing an article like this and we wanted to get her take on her situation again here is what she had to say,
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizAnna Gives Us Her Thoughts:
In total, the EBR program works! However, there are elements that were especially critical to getting my ex back:
1) Sticking to the No Contact Rule or to the Limited No Contact Rule. I can’t emphasize this enough. It doesn’t matter if you miss him or your pets. It doesn’t matter if it’s his birthday, your birthday, your first date anniversary, that crazy plot twist in the show you both watched, or the appearance of the band that you both LOVED SO MUCH — ANYTHING. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. Do not contact him, his family, his friends, his kids, his cousins, his pets, his co-workers, anything.
2) Stay busy! This goes hand in hand with improving yourself. No Contact became a cakewalk because I was busy from morning until the moment that I went to sleep. Obviously, I kept busy at work (literally, I landed a new job and purposefully negotiated ADDITIONS to my job responsibilities). However, I also enrolled in a new dance class, found a new vocal coach, and started a painting class. On my free days and/or evenings, I scheduled my hours to a) work, b) visit a new place (e.g., art galleries, museums, restaurants, bars, solo road trips, bookstores, etc.), c) hang out with friends, d) game (i.e., I started a new PC game and went hard core on a virtual reality game), and e) set reading/writing/research/self care goals.
3) Freaking out, but putting boundaries on freaking out. I was some combination of sad, angry, worried, depressed, and crying every day. Whenever I felt negative, I’d give in to the feeling, but I’d put a timer on it and forcibly focus on something else. If I cried, I’d cry as much as I could. If I was mad, I’d be very mad. You get the idea! However, negative feelings have a tendency to sit around and multiply. So, after whatever length of time that I chose passed, I’d a) get up and either leave the room (or my house) or b) start doing some other activity or talk to someone in person.
As an example, I was at an event, and I felt incredibly sad that he wasn’t there. So, I stood there for 30 seconds feeling sad, then I joined a group of people and started talking to them. As another example, I was crying at home, so I did that for 20 minutes then got in my car and went to the museum.
4) Plan. Plan. Plan. Plan. One of the great things about EBR is that it forces you to think about your relationship in the long-term and figure out how to make it successful after you get back together. For example, there’s a suggested time table for texting, which implies you should construct or draft all your texts ahead of time. There’s an outline how to make a long-distance relationship work.
Success Story #2: Sarah (The Long Distance Army Ex Boyfriend)
This is one of my favorites due to how much I personally learned from the woman who got her ex back.
But first things first, you require proof,
Sarah was one of my favorite interviews due to how blown away I was about how she approached her situation.
Speaking of her situation.
The Situation Sarah Was In
Sarah was in an extremely difficult situation due to the fact that her ex was in the army and he was long distance.
If you haven’t already read my article on what to do if your ex is in the army please do so.
It can really do a great job of outlining how difficult of a scenario this is.
Nevertheless, Sarah did an incredible job of navigating those choppy waters,
Sarah Gives Us Her Thoughts
Really the best thing you can do if you want to get a full account of how Sarah got her ex boyfriend back in this circumstance I recommend you watch the video I attached above.
But if you aren’t really a “video person” I roped Sarah into writing a guest post for the website where she talks about the methods she used to get her ex back.
I highly recommend you read this article.
Success Story #3: Kevyn (The General Breakup!)
Kevyn is one of my favorite success stories due to she is one of the original members that we had in our Private Support Group and she still pops in to provide support to the ladies there!
(Thanks Kevyn!)
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizOh, here is the proof that she got her ex back,
Kevyn was nice enough to give us the exact reasoning behind her breakup for this article,
Age: 24, 23 at time of breakup
Boyfriend age: 26, 25 at time of breakup
Relationship length: 2 months
Breakup reason: Didn’t want anything serious
No contact length: ~24+30 days
Recovery time: 6 months
I would classify her situation as a “general breakup” and generally speaking (see what I did there?) General breakups are among the situations with the best chance of success.
Neverthless, Kevyn had some really interesting things to say,
Conclusions and Advice:
So, what I learned from this entire EBR process is what Chris says all the time:
Be the best version of yourself you can be.
Confidence and self-improvement is key. Try to be as active as you can, in several areas. Not just to get your ex back, but for yourself. If you have mutual interests, use that to your advantage. Look for opportunities that interest you and that would catch his attention. And try to make yourself as omnipresent as possible.
Stick To The Program:
This goes without saying. Do no contact, it’s so important.
It makes them miss you…
It makes them wonder.
Use jealousy when you can but be very careful with it!
Follow the texting guidelines as closely as you can and NEVER be a GNAT! Use enough space between things to keep them yearning for more.
Don’t Get Mad Or Emotional:
Despite how I may come off on EBR, I am actually a pretty emotionally turbulent person and can get scary angry about things.
But I kept my emotions in check throughout the breakup.
I talked to a therapist.
I talked to my friends (not always recommended).
I channeled my anger into the bar at the gym. Just remember ANYTHING you say can change your progress.
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizThink of it like a Miranda Warning: Everything you say can and will be used against you.
Don’t show any bad emotions, no matter how tempting it is to want to scream at him for being a horrible potato. And trust me, that’s gonna happen a lot.
Don’t Give Up:
Even when times are dark, you must find a way to move forward, whether it’s in continuing your plan or finding a new one.
I thought for sure that I would NEVER get back a 2 month fling with a guy who didn’t want anything serious, especially one who wouldn’t reply to my texts!
But I did, because I played my cards right and showed him that I was a girl worth being in a relationship with. And you can do it too.
Just don’t give up!
Success Story #4: Sarah Michelle (The “We Are Never Getting Back Together” Ex)
Sarah Michelle or (Buffy as I like to call her since her name is similar to Sarah Michelle Gellar) is one of my favorite success stories because my wife and I spent quite a bit of time helping her out.
Anyways, here is proof that she got her ex back,
The Situation Buffy Was In
This is a situation that I would classify as a teensy bit more difficult than normal.
Why?
Well, even though Sarah’s situation is classified as general her ex added an extra twist to the breakup by saying,
“There is no way we are going to ever get back together…”
Which I find really fascinating considering that he did get back with her!
Buffy Gives Us Her Thoughts
So, if you want a full scoop on the lessons that Sarah obtained from the breakup then I highly recommend you watch the full interview that I did with Sarah.
However, if you are itching for something a bit more I would like to point you to this little gem we received on our private support group from Sarah,
Actually the point I really want to highlight for you is this,
“I know how rough it can be. I heard all the negative comments from mine when we were split. Stick with the no contact and improving yourself ladies. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.”
The morale of the story is that your ex boyfriend doesn’t always mean what he says initially after a breakup.
Success Story #5: Mary (The Ghosted Situation)
Are you familiar with the term “ghosting?”
It is when someone you are dating basically disappears from your life with no warning.
Mary is very familiar with it as it is what her ex boyfriend did to her.
Imagine this, you wake up one day thinking everything is right in the world only to find out that your ex boyfriend has blocked you on Facebook.
No explanation…
No closure…
Just blocked…
And yet, Mary found a way to persevere despite all of this,
The Situation Mary Was In
Mary was in a situation that I consider to be one of the most difficult.
She was blocked from her ex with no way to communicate with him.
Whether you like it or not, communication is essential to getting an ex back. You need some means of communication to even have a chance and if those are all taken away from you, you are practically dead in the water.
But Mary found a way to get her ex back.
How?
Mary Gives Us Her Thoughts
Like usual I am going to highly recommend you watch my interview with Mary in full.
That is all 😉 .
Tara
February 20, 2018 at 2:08 pm
My partner have broken up with me ,he has pavcked up all of my belongings and want to give them back to me, I am very sorry as I would like to work things out and get back with him. He is 72 yrs old and I am 67 yrs old. His wife is in a care home with dementia and he visits her every day. He does not want me anymore as he says he is very stressed. We’ve been together for 6 months, I accept him as he is and love being with him, how he wants to meet up and go for a walk with his dog and give me my things. How can I get him to want to see me again? Please help me. I live in Pimlico , London. He lives in Sidcup in Kent. Please can I get some help to try and get him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 23, 2018 at 6:01 pm
Hi Tara,
If you’re long distance, how do you plan on being permanently together?
Anna
November 30, 2017 at 5:54 am
I dont know if this website is still active, but I would really like to give this a shot. I am currently trying not to contact my very recent ex, its been just over ten days. But it is extremely difficult and I know I want him back, because of our shared history and deep connection.
I have known X for ten years now. As best friends (in a group) who did everything together. He started showing an interest in me around 3 years ago, and it was immediately reciprocal. I was recovering from another failed relationship at the time, and not only did he help me heal and stood by me even when I cried over it, he also was there for me through the loss of a job, loss of a loved pet, through my mothers surgery for cancer and much more. we also lost his best friend, my very close friend, to a motor accident in the same year, and were there for each other. We kept our relationship a secret, so as not to upset our group dynamics until we were officially engaged or something, but from day one, the agreement was that it was forever. I have never loved anyone like this and have never felt such a deep connection. I suspect that our deep rooted friendship has alot to do with this. I also know he felt the same way.
About a year and a half into our relationship, he left for another country (very far away) for a year to pursue an MBA. To put it mildly, it was a tumultous time. He did not really want to leave me, but felt it was something he had to do for the long run. In addition, he left a really secure and good job to go there. While he was there, we spoke everyday on messaging apps, and also skype called regularly, at least a few times a week. The huge time difference as well as the huge workload on him from the MBA was a factor that made him have not alot of time for me, and it was the only reason we fought. I do realise I was being clingy and not very understanding in this time period, but I was going through some personal situations myself, including leaving an office job to work from home which left me very isolated. I also had a surgery in the time, and multiple health scares that made me stay home most of the time just waiting for him. But we could never be angry with each other for more than an hour or two, or at the most, a day. The conclusion was always that we cannot see a future without each other in it.
Fast forward to July (2017), two months before he was supposed to come back home after finishing his degree. After a similarly silly argument,(he had gone out with classmates, and did not text me goodnight like he usually does, so I was scared and awake all night waiting for him to switch his internet on again, and when he did, I got really angry and told him he was being an asshole etc, and he got angry too). For a day or two we didnt talk. Then I contacted him saying I miss you. He was very cold and very angry. I called him, he didnt want to listen to anything I had to say, was extremely stressed and even crying and saying he doesn’t feel the same anymore. After alot of emotional turmoil, both crying, he finally burst out saying he is so stressed and depressed and a few days ago, went to the doctor and found out that a niggling pain in his prostate was actually a condition that could impact his fertility and would require surgery. I spent the rest of the night calming him down, reasoning with him about his illness, advising him on how to manage it with his degree. He kept thanking me for helping him and the next morning texted me saying I handled him really well and he was very grateful. I was really raw and emotional at this point and was phone bombarding him and texting him very emotionally, which he was avoiding. The same night we had another conversation which turned extremely emotional and he said I was driving him crazy. We then agreed to not talk for a few weeks. I broke that rule many times, trying to contact him and call him but he didnt reply. A few weeks later he did but while making it clear he still cared about me, he didnt want to get back in a relationship yet because he is still figuring his life out.
Fast forward to a few months later, where we have been talking intermittently, he is back in the country. We have met alone many times, with friends many times. He has said how he wants it to go back to how it was before, that I am very special for him, that he doesn’t want to lose me. We have tried twice to give it another shot. But it just doesnt work because I feel he is holding back. He has also in between said things that have really hurt me. I have had a really miserable few months, but I quit the job that was making me unhappy and moved toa new workplace. Trying to keep busy. But I miss him terribly. I know he is having the most difficult time of his life, which is something he keeps telling me. He is unsure of the future, and most of the time, indifferent. He doesnt have a job yet which is adding to the stress, and cant find a job in this market that he wants, but he doesnt want to move abroad because his mother and he live alone while his father is away for six months every year on a ship. I have been really clingy and begging many times. The last time we tried to give it a shot, things went really well. we were talking all the time and stuff, but i could see he was holding back. So i confronted him about it. He never wants to communicate. He just ends the conversation there and then. So I am finally doing this No Contact thing. Its been 11 days. I
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 30, 2017 at 8:16 pm
Hi Anna,
Check this one:
How To Stay In No Contact
Grace
July 31, 2017 at 10:53 am
My ex and I broke up two years ago but kept hooking up on and off since then. We became a friends with benefits situation a couple of months ago and I felt used so i followed the no contact rule and refused to have sex with him. Everytime he would contact me I would brush him off. A few weeks ago he asked me out for the first time in two years and we went on a couple of dates but ever since i left for vacation he has barely been talking to me and I usually am the one trying to talk to him. We had sex the day before I left. How do I get him to really act like we are together and put in effort. He says we are exclusive but it’s a secret for now. Im just very confused and don’t want to mess things up because ive already come so far and I already threatened to end things since being on vacation.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 31, 2017 at 5:03 pm
Hi Grace,
Check this one:
My Ex Boyfriend And I Still Hook Up (How Can I Get Him To Commit)
Olivia
July 7, 2017 at 12:47 am
Hi, I got my ex back by following your advice (I told him I was having a great time being back together but that I could not be halfway in halfway out anymore and that he needed to be my bf or I needed to move on). Now, one of the things we discussed when we decided to date exclusively again was that he would be open about our relationship (we are LDR) to make me feel more secure and post a picture of us to put it out there that we are back together. Well, he has not done this yet. How do I ask him to post the picture to let everyone know we are back official? Is this a bad idea?
Olivia
July 13, 2017 at 3:43 am
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EBR Team Member: Amor
July 13, 2017 at 9:35 am
Nope.. Maybe he’s just not into social media or he doesn’t want to because of pride because he feels pressured from you to do it
Olivia
July 9, 2017 at 9:20 pm
I nagged a little. Maybe I messed up but I don’t understand why he is so against posting a picture of us. He says social media doesn’t mean anything and he wants to focus on our relationship not what everyone else thinks and called me immature for making social media such a big deal. I am trying to let it go but my feelings are hurt that he refuses. Is it bad that he’s so against posting a picture of us even to just appease me? I wouldn’t hesitate to do the same for him… I won’t bring it up again but my feelings are definitely hurt and I am a bit confused.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 9, 2017 at 4:45 pm
Dont nag him about it.. If you want, let more time pass..then be the one to post a photo of the two of you then just tag him
Alex
June 19, 2017 at 3:10 am
Hello,
I’ve been reading these articles for at least 6 months. I just had a question.. I was in 17 day no contact, with my Ex. We dated on and off for about ten months but we’ve been friends for 15 years; and still talked everyday after we officially ended things. Anyway it was a LDR and it was hard because I could not get days off from my job. He’s been dating someone for months, which I’ve known about ( he started seeing her after we broke up). But since I got a new job (and more free time-btw he was really happy and wanted to know more) he’s been making me jealous about stuff he does with her, on purpose. I finally told him everything ive kept bottled up the past year and he basically said he wants to stay friends. I learned of a family tragedy today and texted to see if he was ok ( I had met the parents so I felt bad not saying something). Anyway he said they were doing ok and I said ” good” and I have not texted him since. I am restarting no contact. is this ok?
FYI I used NC on a guy ( unknowingly) I dated before him, but realized I didn’t want him back.. even after he sent me several gifts hahaha
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 22, 2017 at 2:27 pm
Yup, you should restart nc and totally not talk to him.. be active in posting your activities too
Sarah
June 7, 2017 at 2:53 pm
Hi
i have been in this long distance relationship for 4 years since i met him…we didn’t meet in these whole years only for twice or three times… we really love each other a lot …sharing everything together..we live in two seperated continents …he is very honest guy that don’t have any bad behaviors or dating other women or even talk bad things…he is the perfect guy and the man of my dreams…but the problem is we keep fighting a lot for nothing actually…he hate nagging and i’m that kind of girls who keep nagging… the problem also he don’t forget anything…everytime we fight, he keep reminding me of every single fight we had before and saying stop fighting i’m a quiet person i don’t like fights….so our behaviors starts to change by time…he don’t like when i keep nagging and become angry and i start the fight and he get more angry and we keep saying harm words for each other and then it ends with a block from him (most of the times)….so i was very sad why he changed like this why he is not the same person i knew….so i tried to change my behaviors in case they were the problem …and he get back after i change but once we fight again the things back to the same way…so i thought that he has problem with listening to me or understanding me…so i started to do the wrong thing which is…in every time we fight i go and make a fake facebook account and talking to him as i am (my sister) to convince him to get back to me ….everytime i did this it was worked…but i was feeling very guilty because i’m very honest with him with everything and also i didn’t feel that i have a high value …so last time we fought he was very angry and said u will never change at all and u destroy my life and i don’t wanna be with u anymore and pls don’t let any of ur sisters come and talk to me again… u didn’t make any privacy to our relationship….in that time i exploded …i told him i never tell a person about our personal life it was me all the time trying to get u back to not go away and leave…but i guess i messed it…after hearing me he was much more angry….and this become the main reason he left me…i tried to reach him many times….but he kept blocking me… but one night he unblock me only on viber and said i love u and i forgive u for everything u have done but i’m not going back to be the same person u knew before….i told him the time will prove to u that i’m a good one and u know that truly …he said ok but i will not talk to u untill i finish my exams….so two months passed after that without any contacting and i was depressed and miserbale a lot …so i talked to him about 10 days a go saying i can’t handle this anymore i can’t keep being like a footer in ur life while u don’t care if i’m alive or not…he said ok u can go and live ur life if u want …and rudly, he said actually i forgot u but i won’t forget any thing u did wrong to me…. and now i’m really sad…the thing that i did is not a big deal actually it was to save our relationship so that we don’t reach this point….i don’t know why he think about it in a negative way….
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 9, 2017 at 4:06 pm
HI Sarah,
check this one:
Stage 5 Clinger – Getting A Boyfriend Back If You Were Too Clingy
Elisha
May 31, 2017 at 11:27 am
Hey, me and my boyfriend have been broken up for over a week now, we were together for 4 months and our relationship wasn’t the best. We loved each other very much and we cared about each other but we argued a lot mainly about lies I tell him (they were only little lies) and due to this he started showing me less care and less emotion in our relationship. I knew he still loved me because of his action when we were together. Unfortunately due to this I felt unloved after a massive argument and I slept with his friends, I don’t know why I did it. I feel like I did it not for revenge but I needed the emotional feeling of being wanted. I managed to hide it from him for a week until my friend contacted him and told him what happened so I opened up. We ended and we agreed to stay friends, he said he would give me another chance if I change my bad ways and he still loves me. He admitted he loves me still and he misses me, but I became obsessive and I was telling him how much I loved him everyday! He has now told me he wants nothing to do with me as I’m a liar, I’m obsessive, and he calls me very horrible names. I have gone into my second day of the no contact but he messaged about getting his things back so I told him I will meet him for his things… unfortunately I couldn’t make it today to give him his stuff back and now he’s saying he will get his family down to my house (they really hate me and are pretty scary people) I tried ignoring him and he just kept putting bad things so I finally replied saying I will meet him for his things and from there he just tried to start another argument. I’m having trouble trying to go out and spend time with friends as I have a child (not with him) and I suffer from bipolar disorder… how do I get him back because if I ignore him he just keeps saying he will get his family to come round and it’s pathetic I’m not replying… he apparently wants nothing to do with me, he says we’ll never be a couple again… but I’m so confused because he said if I change I can have one more chance… what do I do? Please help me
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 31, 2017 at 4:59 pm
its ok to talk about his stuff, just make it only about that.
Clarie
May 30, 2017 at 7:47 am
Hello! What to do if ” the no contact rule” doesn’t work? And you fell hopeless? After short period of time,we broke up last year. I did the NC but nothing happened.After breakup we had been together few times,we never slept together just kissing and once make out. Each time he never call or text me. We just don’t communicate. And I feel like he doesn’t care. It’s very sad. Can you please tell me or suggest what should I do?
Clarie
June 1, 2017 at 9:48 am
Thanks for your respond!
I mean,after we first breakup I did NC but nothing really happened.He did not try reach out to me. But we had been together few times through the year after breakup.The problem is that he keep distancing himself from “us”. I feel so hopless. Can you please tell me or suggest what should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 1, 2017 at 6:27 pm
I need to ask, because I need to know if you did it right.. even if it’s not a guarantee, it’s not going to help you if you did it wrong.. the no contact rule is not supposed to make him contact you.. it’s for you to be less clingy and not chase him, improve, and be more rational before slowly rebuilding rapport again while continuing to improve yourself.. if you’re on and off that means you need to do at least 45 days
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2017 at 7:46 pm
well, it’s not a guarantee that it will work but what did you mean that it doesnt work? how many times have you done it?
Addison
May 29, 2017 at 5:50 pm
Hello! What to do if “the no contact” rule doesn’t work? And you feel hopeless? It’s been year since we had breakup.After that we had been together few times, but he never text me after that. We never slept together,just once start making out but that`s it.We do not communicate so I feel like he doesn’t care? What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2017 at 5:53 pm
well, it’s not a guarantee that it will work but what did you mean that it doesnt work? how many times have you done it?
Jacqui
May 28, 2017 at 9:36 pm
My ex and I have been broken up for 2 months and never had no contact because we continued hanging out as normal and doing couply things. Last night he was extremely drunk and asked to rekindle things and asked me to be his girlfriend again and I said we would speak about it in the morning. He promised me he wouldn’t change his mind. I asked him the next morning and he said “you’re my girlfriend again” and I was content. I probably shouldn’t have asked again but he said he meant exactly what he said and that he still loved me and cared for me, he just didn’t want a relationship right now because he was scared of how well we worked and how long we would date for. He tells me I’m his soulmate and I asked why he said all these things. And he told me he was just affectionate in that current moment. I’m not sure what to do from here, he keeps telling me to move on but I feel like I’ve well and truly made things worse. I was angry and blocked him and he called me and left me a message asking why I did so… any advice?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2017 at 3:34 pm
because you’re friendzoned.. be active in improving yourself during and after the no contact period… aim to be the ungettable girl.. check this one:
The Ungettable Girl
Sarah
May 28, 2017 at 1:24 am
I feel like I’ve pushed my ex away. We broke up about 6 weeks ago and I’ve never fully done o contact, instead I go a few days and then cave and pester him to get back together. He says that this is pushing him away and he doesn’t see us having a future because of all of our past arguments. When things were good, they were great! Have I screwed it up already? I really want him back and want him to see a future with me. What can I do? I’m lost and starting to feel overly needy. Please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 29, 2017 at 6:33 pm
do it properly, before it’s too late..
Aleksandra
May 26, 2017 at 7:28 am
Hi guys!
You are so great, I found your website very useful and helpful, you give a lot of hope!
I read all of your articles and I’m using your adviced but I have a problem in my current situation.
Well my ex broke up with me almost a year ago. Since that time a lot has happened. We werent talking for 3 months after break-up. Then I started to text with him. He told me then we wouldn’t be together and offered fwb. I was dump and I agreed. It lasted few months. Then I found your website. I decided to end fwb. But before I had a chance he did it( he told me he was seeing with someone-it wasn’t a relationship but he wanted to be fair to that girl) I think it was kind of rebound, because he was seeing with her less than a month. Anyway I did a NC rule one more time, as you advised me. Around 30 day he started to text me, he wanted to meet with me. I agreed. It was really nice( no sex offer involved) he started to text me( every time he found a silly excuse to contact me)Then I started to text him with your advices. RIght now I’m in the middle of texting with him. He is very postive. Wee see each other very often. Sometimes he flirts with me. BUT I’ve noticed that he doesn’t text me first anymore, He doesnt offer meetings first anymore. Since last month I have been initiating a contact and I’m offering meetings. I think I could be in the friendzone. Please help me, what can I do to get him back?
Aleksandra
July 3, 2017 at 6:39 am
Well I was sticking to the plan. All was good ’till last week. I was writing with purpose, as always, I was leaving him wanting more. But he started to be very neutral, he was responding after few hours. I have to admit that it made so mad, that I maybe became a gnat. I was forcing him to respond…. finally I asked him if something was wrong. He told me that he had a tough period at his studies because he had a lot of exams and he is annoyed that I constantly wanted something weird or stupid from him when he didn’t have time and mood for that. He was very rude and mean and generally after his statements he said he didnt want to talk about it right now and he ended conversation. I thought that maybe it was too much from me but I dont deserve to be treaten without respect so I wrote him that I didnt do anything wrong and he could tell me that he had no time to talk and I my behaviour didnt deserve to this rudeness and he should think about it and then I said “bye”. Of course he didnt respond to this message.
I know I made mistake by being a small gnat, but I think that I did well by showing him that he should respect me, do you think so either? Should I wait until he texts me first?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 5, 2017 at 1:47 pm
check this one:
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 5, 2017 at 1:40 pm
yup..set a limit until when you would wait before moving on
Aleksandra
June 3, 2017 at 10:17 am
So maye should I do a mini NC? Or maybe just stick to the plan?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 3:41 pm
just stick to the plan..
Aleksandra
June 2, 2017 at 9:28 pm
So maybe should I do a mini Nc or just stick to the plan and continue texting?
Aleksandra
June 2, 2017 at 8:35 am
You are right, probably I am not enough mysterious too him. We talk a lot about his intrests. However yesterday something terrible happened. He asked me to go with him to the party. We had a lot of fun. When we left club we argued very bad. We argued about our relationships. He claimed that he can have me whenever he wants. He was so angry, that he even said than he sees me as his friend, which he also wants to sleep with beacause I am attractive to him but he doesn”t want to be with me. He also said that he is shocked that I am still so madly in love with him. I stayed at his house for a night. And in the morning he wasn”t angry anymore, I even ask him to go with me to the wedding in next month and he said that if he is able to go, he will go with me. I am so confused about this situation.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 2, 2017 at 7:36 pm
he just those because he was angry… but that doesnt mean you’ll go back being comfortable..
Aleksandra
May 29, 2017 at 8:56 pm
I was very active. I changed wardrobe, I was excercising a lot, I made new friends. I’ve done a lot of new things during this second Nc. Moreover I posted a lot of pictures on Facebook, so my profile is very interesting. Currently when I talk with him, he knows everything about my new, better life( During dates I tell him about all of these amazing things which I’m doing right now)
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2017 at 6:18 pm
that’s good, you just need to work on ending the conversations yourself at high point and also being mysterious. That’s good that you talk about yourself, and he knows your improvements.. but do you talk about his interests? do you leave room for him to wonder or you tell everything to him? and let’s wait for Chris’ response..
Aleksandra
May 27, 2017 at 5:43 am
Yes, I wanted to know as much as I could so I did it( or maybe I am crazy haha)
Anyway I’m trying to end converstations first but he is smart and when I do this, he gives me questions and when I respond( after some time of course) he doesnt text me back. What about dates? Well I always end them prematurely
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 29, 2017 at 3:24 pm
that means, you didn’t the conversations at high point.. if you, had a 2nd nc, how active were you in your life? are you still active now? I’ll forward this to Chris
Chris Seiter
May 27, 2017 at 12:15 am
Did you really read ALL the articles?
So, my question to you would be are you ending conversations first (prematurely even?) Are you the one who cuts the dates short because you “suddenly have to go?”