No Contact Rule Success Stories- What Is The Success Rate?

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Cash

May 24, 2019 at 9:26 am

Hi Chris,

My ex and I broke up two times. They are both really bad break ups. The first time it was his fault the second was completely mine. We been together for 4 years.
Shefali Shefali

May 20, 2019 at 11:41 am

Hi Chris,
Me and my ex broke up a month n half ago. Ok we used to fight a lot and m guilty of cheating over a kiss with other guy while i was drunk. I realized it I begged, apologized, pleaded, cried, joined my hands, accepted his coldness. In between his birthday came 3 days ago I did all my best efforts flowers, balloons customised cake, gifts and tried to make his party memorable. But at the end I get the reply today that it is over from my side I told you before as well. Chris I was sorry I did everything. He says he wants to be alone n single as he have different goals for life. N relationship no chance at the moment but he does mention that in future may be or may be not. I am stuck, depressed and losing everything. Please help me.

Chris Seiter

May 20, 2019 at 2:47 pm

I know this is hard on you, but you can lift yourself up with a solid ex recovery plan. Sometimes guys need time to work thru things and you can employ a sensible strategy thru No Contact and the other things I teach to help increase your chances.

Tong Tong

April 3, 2019 at 8:41 am

Hi Chris,

Me and my ex bf broke up 3 days ago. But our relationship is not long as others, we have been together only for 2 months… Do you think NC rule is working on my situation? Our break up is due to some misunderstanding and my childish behaviour of saying broke up to get his attention, but he misunderstand this as real break up (He is France, maybe his English understanding may not good) and he said he took one day to accepted that. I just realised he thought we already break up on next day, I am so frastruated and explain him thats not I really mean, ask if he would change his mind and get back with me, he said he needs some time to think about what’s his mind. But he said he likes to talk to me and be friends. I have texted him a long message first after first day of broke up saying thank you for these 2 months those happy memories and wish him the best in future, he also replied me the same thing. I couldn’t control my emotion and start texting a long message to ask him get back with me, I will change, we can work out this together better than ever, like begging him. But he still saying he don’t know now, he wants to be alone at the moment , he needs tome to think, but he likes to talk to me it’s very important to stay a connection with me(I don’t know why he thinks like that) Next day, he texted me a good morning and I didn’t reply until the night I couldn’t resist to kiss him and sent him alot of our messages and pictures together, saying i miss him, but he seems doesnt really care saying I should do some sports to get better, I should eat better and get some good sleep, we talked about our day, like friend. Today I want to start NC rule. I’m not sure how many days I need to take because he will back to France for good at the end of April… If I start for 30 days NC rule, does it mean we have no chance to get back together?

I really need your help Chris. Thanks a million

Tong

Chris Seiter

April 4, 2019 at 3:16 am

NC should help you cause Tong!

Tay

March 27, 2019 at 3:57 pm

Hi , my gf texted me a few days ago asking if we can go back been friend to see if we are suitable for each other and maybe in the future ,if possible go back as couple. She feel that our relationship is unstable as we are always quarrelling. I texted and call her several times the next day and she reply with text saying that she had a lot of assignment and had to work at the same time, she really had no mood to talk about relationship stuff. She won’t force me if I don’t want to stay friends or contacting her. She just want to be alone for now. I reply her with “ok” and send her long text telling her that I’m sorry for not been a good partner and are willing to work on myself while I will give her space for now. If she need anything, I will be there for her. She didn’t give any response after reading the text. From then I didn’t contact her and start the NC rules. Today is the third day of NC. I’ve deleted my Instagram to avoid viewing her story. Do you think is suitable to apply NC for my situation? My gf didn’t mention break up with me but she is asking for space. Does NC appropriate in this kind of situation?

Chris Seiter

March 27, 2019 at 9:23 pm

Hi Tay! So giving her space is not necessarily the same thing as a full fledged No Contact strategy. Just give her some breathing room and don’t prod or check up on her for up to a week or so. If she does reach out, be kind and positive and think in terms of little steps.

Nicole

February 23, 2019 at 6:28 pm

Hi Chris! Have you helped a same sex no contact situation? My gf broke up with me last year october after a 9 year rele. Then 2 months after she is in a rele with her co worker. I begged for her to come back because she said that she still loves me but also in love with the other.. I mean theyre only 2 months together. So I finally gave up begging and told her I wanted to have no contact and she agreed, even wishing me well on healing. I was hoping this could get her to miss me and have her back in my arms again. What do you think chris? Thanks in advance.
Jules

February 16, 2019 at 7:04 pm

Hey Chris,

so my guy broke up with me 4 days ago. We weren’t officially together and in the last few weeks (we had exams) he just wasn’t sure of our “thing” anymore. We still hung out and studied together but more as friends.. so on Wednesday our holidays started and I didn’t want to leave like that and asked him whether he wants a relationship or not and he was still not sure but ended it because he didn’t want me to wait and get my hopes up. I understand that and I respect his decision. We both cried a lot during the break up, bno shouting, no bad words, only tears. I didn’t beg him to reconsider because I know it doesn’t help. He said things like he wants to stay friends blah blah because he likes me so much as a person and he wants to keep doing the things we did together (cooking, sports,…) but I guess time will tell if he really meant it. I just thanked him for everything he did and to take care and not do anything stupid..
So here I am. I didn’t contact him or anything, it’s very hard. But I don’t want to ruin anything ..
We are going to see each other inevitably when university starts again in the middle of March – so it’s the perfect time for NC.
I miss him terribly but I do need to work on myself and figure things out as well. I’m just afraid how it’s going to be when we see each other again.. will he reach out to me before? Does he miss me? And what do I do when I see him again and everything just hits me again?

Chris Seiter

February 17, 2019 at 1:08 am

Hi Jules!

So you clearly have a solid plan in wanting to roll out NC and focusing on being the best “you”….not for him…but for you. To tap into my Program, you can pick up my epic long eBook, 485 page “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”. Those questions and more will be covered and will give you more confidence as to how best to move forward.

Katie

February 3, 2019 at 3:01 pm

Hi, Chris,
My story is a little odd. I’d been seeing a guy for 6 mos exclusively, though we hadn’t put a label on it. We were taking it slow. The last few weeks of it, things started moving forward and we’re going great. He told me he was almost ready, was calling me just to hear my voice, telling me he missed me, needs me in his life, super affectionate, talking about getting me a key to his apartment and keeping stuff there, said he wants to see me more often and one day if we were to eventually move in together. Everything was going great and promising. Then I got a FB message from his crazy ex gf asking if I was seeing him. She had been contacting him and he told her he was seeing me. I didn’t engage in conversation with her and told him she messaged me. Then the next day, he told me he needed a break and that he cares about me but is messed up. He had told me for weeks that he didn’t deserve me and he is not worthy of my love. He went right back into saying that and said he wants to be with me but doesn’t deserve me. Please help me! I started NC two weeks ago. I messaged him only a couple times after the break up because I had questions but didn’t beg. He still kept saying he doesn’t deserve me. When a I told him i wasn’t going to chase him, he said “just let me get my bearings.” Please help me understand.

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 3:57 am

Hey there Katie!

It sounds like your ex’s ex has gotten into his head, but my guess is she is his ex for a good reason and in time he will see the light. Meanwhile do all the things I teach in implementing the No Contact rule. Pick up my 485 page ebook so you are fully equipped with a sensible blueprint of how you manage this post breakup period.

Fati

January 17, 2019 at 9:48 am

Hi, i need some help my bf and i were in relationship gor 1 year now, at first everything was good, until problems start to came up, 1st time he used the silent treatment on for no reason just because his mad we talked after 2 week and from this things got worst, he so busy with his work he start to lose intrest in me i was the was always asking him out, call him, text him…. When things go worst with him he go silent and told me nothing about it and for i go miserbal to not hear from him so i let him cool off then we talk after a period of time. Now its been 6 months that we are like that and lately i told him to break up and he said nothing about it first he was reading my text follow my statut and now nothing, i want to use the NC rule but i’m not sure if he will contact me or not am not even sure if were breaking up he alawys choose to silent than talking, i want to get things better and i really don’t know what to do with him anymore

Chris Seiter

January 17, 2019 at 6:54 pm

Hi Fati! Sometimes if what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked its time to try a different approach and No Contact may very well be the right medicine. Check out my Home Page for details on all the resources I offer to help you thru all this.

Isabel

January 14, 2019 at 10:26 am

Hi Chris,
I am currently doing NC and i am 14 days through.
When you go on one of those texting/call apps like Viber or Whatsapp, it shows when the person was last on the chat, Example: “Last seen at 11:30 pm”. I did check out of curiosity to see if he’s been going on the chat a lot more than he usually does, checking to see if I’ve texted- and he has, but he can also see when I was on the chat. I checked maybe five times in the last week. And he then knows that I’ve been checking and looking on the chat and thinking about him, etc. Therefore I am not completely ignoring him, right? Does this mean I’ve broken NC in a way?
WHAT DO I DO!?!?

Isabel

Chris Seiter

January 15, 2019 at 4:32 am

Hi Isabel..Probably best for your emotional well being not to be checking up on him. Stick with your NC and do the things I teach in my Program

Chelsea

January 10, 2019 at 11:36 pm

So Iv been having a difficult time with my break up. We were together for 5 years and engaged for a year and half. The break up was his idea. I was in denial and we stayed living together for the first 2-2 1/2 months of being broken up with back and forth emotions and confusing until yesterday I finally made the leap and moved out to a friends place for now. I haven’t gotten all my belongings yet but have enough to last for awhile. I was doing a lot of reading and realized I finally needed to take the leap and do the NC rule but I also needed to do a clean slate text, so I did. This is what I sent “Hey, I’m just texting you to apologize for the way I acted about our break up. It was selfish of me trying to fix things when all you wanted was to be alone. Thank you for being patient with me through all of this. Hope your day is going well.” And he responded unexpectedly. It went something like this, “No need to apologize. I understand where your coming from and I promise you I’m not mad at you and I don’t resent you. You have showed me a lot of love through out the years. You’ve also been put through a lot. I’m sorry for some of the decisions I made that hurt us. You were right. I should’ve let them go along time ago. I should’ve been more selfish. And I’m sorry for bringing you all the way out to Texas just to have this be the result.” Long story short his family has been living with us for the past 3 years which resulted in the arguments we gotten into and stress into our relationship. I’m clueless on if I should respond at all because in all honesty I wasn’t expecting him to reply. I really have a lot of hope for us and I’m hoping time apart is what we need. I just need some guidance on where to go from here.

Chris Seiter

January 11, 2019 at 12:36 am

I am sorry Chelsea this breakup has been hard on you. The heart of my Program is your personal recovery. And I have lots of tools and resources to help you with that. Check out my 245 page eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book”. Pick up my flagship product, “PRO” and learn about the healing power of the Holy Trinity of Your Personal Recovery. I will send you a free eBook about that if you come thru my Contact Form and request it.

Tina

January 3, 2019 at 1:40 am

Hi Chris,
My bf of 4 years broke up with a week ago. I did go N.C. straight away however i acted irrationally begged plead and asking for chances right after he broke up with me. Then before NYE I sent him a clean slate message saying apologise for my behaviour during the relationship and how I acted after broke up with me and thank him for everything and agreee with the break up. Then continue with the N.C. again, what do you think the chances of getting him back after sending him a clean slate message. I felt like in broke the N.C. I felt confident when i started it straight away after the break up but after sending the clean slate message I feel like I Im back to square one.
Abc

November 27, 2018 at 7:49 am

Hi….I need some help ….he loves me and want to marry me but I messed up by behaving rudely with him in front of his sister.his sister told his family about it and now they are against our marriage…he said he can’t go against his family so he broke up with me …. what should I do
JanetD

October 31, 2018 at 7:46 pm

I ended things two days ago because he has some serious psychological issues he needs to work on before he can be with anyone (anxiety, insecurity, maybe even some body dysmorphia). I’m hoping he’ll start seeing a therapist like he mentioned when we talked but I really miss him. I’m doing NC because I know if I stay with him he won’t get help. My question is this: do I end the NC or wait for him to? If so, how long do I give it?

Chris Seiter

November 1, 2018 at 2:51 am

Hi Janet!

I am glad you are in NC. You need to focus on “you” I would suggest you pick up one of my eBooks so you can be up to speed on this whole post breakup process. Its just far too much to cover in this forum

Kay

October 26, 2018 at 10:57 am

I need some advice please…….
my partner of 3 and a half years (we were engaged) has throughout the year taken many ‘breaks’ away from me, usually no explanation & I beg for understanding which makes things worse. he can go days without any contact. He used studies as an excuse for some ‘peace’ we were due to marry in april but he called off the wedding due to family influences and finance issues. I accepted but was heartbroken and had to cancel everything alone. Since then he went on his breaks leaving me in limbo, things got better eventually and I felt we were ok but he changed and I felt taken for granted and still felt almost part time in his life…… the weekend he made promise to see me but bailed and lied about where he was and it hurt a lot so I sent upsetting messages about how he made me feel. He then told me he wanted a break to be alone no contact. I again asked for explanations and he said I caused drama….. so my question is what do I do here? do I now implement the no contact myself for more than the 2 weeks? what if he contacts me in the next 2 weeks? do I need to tell him I am implementing this? I am so stuck what to do but need something to happen to make him appreciate me more. Thank you

Chris Seiter

October 27, 2018 at 2:27 am

Hi Kay!

My honest advice is you would be well served by picking up either my 485 page eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” or “The No Contact Rule book” as it will answer all those questions and more. I so much wish I had the time here to cover everything, but the explanations are detailed. I also have resources on the site that can guide you.

Shannon

October 14, 2018 at 3:27 pm

Hi Chris! I’m on day 25 no contact..I have not heard from him…He has broken up with me once before months ago and I hardly had to do anything..he went one day without contact and then chased me..wrote me a sweet email..this time I haven’t heard a word from him getting a little worried…Think I should do just a little over 30 days? I did begg and pled and I got mean to? Not sure what I should do now…the day after I wrote an email saying sorry then went into no contact…He blocked me on social media which he’s never done with me…we dated for 9 months…is this hopeless?

Chris Seiter

October 14, 2018 at 9:09 pm

Great job Shannon with pushing forward on NC. Its not unusual to not to hear from the guy. Some of them are stubborn. Maybe 35 days. Never say never. Every breakup situation is different.

Eboni

September 6, 2018 at 7:24 pm

My friend basically told me that there is no hope in winning my ex back…should I just give up…?

Chris Seiter

September 7, 2018 at 3:39 am

Hi Eboni…my experience is friends are usually not the best source of advice on breakups. Better to be guided by an informed ex recovery plan. Go to my home page and check out some of the resources and tools there!

Crystal

July 27, 2018 at 10:01 am

So me (f23) and my Ex (m24) Started going out a year and a half ago. Things were great except for the fact that we both knew that I was going to be moving about 3 hours away. He didn’t want to continue to a long distance relationship but he cried and told me he didn’t think he would start caring for me this much. We were both super sad but he helped me pack and said that we would put a pin in it. Come to find out he didn’t want to and I did some really stupid things. I traveled down for one day to see him without telling him. I told him that I cared too much for him and was thinking of moving back down since I didn’t want to go to the school I was planning on going to anymore (deferred for a year, lost passion, WAY too expensive). I was scared he was going to be angry but he wasn’t (until later) he said that I should stay up there and that he thinks that with me, a year would be doable. I would then move back down and yeah. Unfortunately we have had ups and downs doing long distance. I would visit more often then he would and he told me he didn’t have the urge to do so. I’ve hurt him too, telling him I didn’t have that same giddy feeling for him after about a year or so, but I was just over anxious and such. Anyways, we were okay, we’ve taken breaks here and there to kind of plan what we want to do when I get back. There was a time we were becoming distant or felt disconnected. We kind of avoided it at first but then we talked about it, thought about it for a day and then talked again. We agreed that the long distance was to blame and to see what happens when I get back down there (made me super happy). fast forward about half a month now and we are still a bit distant. I was kind of okay with that because I was moving back down really soon and I could just talk to him in person, but then one night he told me that this was like he was on a treadmill that he wanted to get off of. It was stressful and we were both exhausted and tired. This conversation led to him saying that he doesn’t think I am the one for him. He says he loves me and cares greatly for me, and not at a friend, but he just doesn’t know. I mentioned a breakup and we both kind of agreed that we needed to grow but now I am moving back (we broke up on Monday and I am moving back Thursday). I really wish to speak with him or to clarify that I still want to be with him but I also wanna give him space. We’ve taken breaks so many times though so I don’t know what to do now that we actually broke up. I need some advice. I really care about him and miss him dearly. I felt so hurt when he was crying while we were having this conversation.

Chris Seiter

July 27, 2018 at 9:34 pm

Hi Crystal!

Maybe for now, just take some time and space for yourself as much as for him. You have you own healing curve and there are things you can do to help with making him see your value in his life, but sometimes you have to be apart for it to be appreciated. I get into all this in my ebooks which you should consider. “The No Contact Rulebook” would be a good resource for you. Also keep reading my posts and podcasts as you will find help in getting you thru this.

Star

April 25, 2018 at 1:26 am

I’m on the same boat as Jellybean. I was with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years before he broke it off. Unfortunately, I begged and pleaded and made a total fool out of myself for 3 days, and I ended up getting blocked from everything except imessage. However, today I am in the 2nd week of NC and I have strictly stuck to NC. I’ve even made sure to keep up happy vibes on social media, so that he wouldn’t know that the breakup is affecting me anymore. I noticed that he unblocked me from social media, but he hasn’t contacted me. I also heard from mutual friends that he is starting to feel a little lonely. Given my situation (with the begging and pleading for 3 days), should I wait 30 days or 60 days before reaching out?

Chris Seiter

April 25, 2018 at 2:52 am

Hi Star! Don’t be too hard on yourself…everybody makes plenty of mistakes during breakups. The fact you guys have been together for around 5 years is really a positive if most of that time was positive. Getting blocked and feeling lots of emotions is par for the course. People seem to do that more now. Its kind of a passive aggressive way of pushing back. Probably some left over anger/resentment from your boyfriend. Great job with your NC period. You should pick up my ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro so you know all the ins and outs of how to handle all aspects of the post break up stage. Just go to my website Menu/products link and you can learn more. In my book, you will learn that 60 days No Contacts periods are too long. 21 days is the sweet spot for most people. It really depends. I wrote a book called, The No Contact Rule Book that actually goes into a great amount of detail around all of the variables to consider and when you can make exceptions. Keep me in the loop Star! I like your chances from the things you have told me!
Star

May 7, 2018 at 2:56 pm

Hi Chris,
This is an update on my situation. A week ago I bumped into my ex at school (he dropped the classes we took together in order to take them online so we wouldn’t have to see each other, but he happened to be on campus on the last day of our classes). The past month I have been dieting and exercising so I lost a total of 25 lbs. When he saw me he seemed surprised. I kept it cool and friendly. A few days after that he contacted me in the middle of the night saying that “He doesn’t sleep anymore, and he has “some things to say”. He sent me a long text to apologize. In his message he said that, “This isn’t so we get back together because as a couple we were toxic”. Which isn’t entirely true, we were just fighting a lot over dumb things 2-3 months before he ended things. I don’t know though because he keeps sending mixed signals. Does he really mean this or could it be possible that he’s testing out my mood? Or could it even be that he’s confused? Maybe I’m reading into it too much. Anyway I reached out a few days later after finishing 30 days of NC (again keeping it calm and lighthearted) and we have plans to meet up tomorrow for drinks and to catch up. He wanted to meet up earlier than tomorrow, but I played it like I was too busy to meet up sooner. The fact that he agreed to meet up is a surprise to me because he’s the type of person that won’t agree to something if he doesn’t want to do it. We’ll see how things go tomorrow.
Chris Seiter

May 7, 2018 at 3:22 pm

Good job Star. Remember, at this stage, its little steps. Avoid talking about the relationship with him. Ask things about his life and compliment him in little ways. Be non-committal about whether you are seeing anyone if that topic comes up. Just have fun and if this progresses, great. If not, then remember, you have so many other wonderful possibilities ahead of you. Oh….one more thing. You should consider joining my Private Facebook Support Group Community. (1500 members). Mostly women in it right now who all have gone through breakup situations, helping and advising each other. I do “live” Facebook webcasts weekly on all sorts of topics. You can find information about it at my website Menu/products section. Let me know how this little rendezvous with your ex turns out!

chocoholic

April 21, 2018 at 12:23 am

But the point was I actually need help to be with him.. I need some guidance… And m lucky that I found you sir..I never thought that you will reply to my comment.. I want to be with him though this relationship was getting worse..he was the way too much busy.. friends bla bla, and at the end of the day he knew that i’ll first get angry then I’ll be fine. . I was tired of his this routein and excuses… I know he loves me alot.. but we both were kinda tired..I want him to come back and start a healthy relationship and I know it’s only possible if I give him some space.. I want to teach him a lesson.. idk if m being very aggressive but it’s kinda valid.. we fought badly last time and I don’t want to bend knees in front of him anymore…but the point is it’s a long distance relationship. I met him last time before a couple of months..I miss him alot. . I am trying to be strong.. but I actually need to tell you something is there anyway you can guide me? Anyway? But thanks for your answer I will definitely try my best to take care of myself first… And I know I can be firm till I get any significant result. But sometimes I feel like I am breathless.. we’ve been together since 4 years..and it’s our first relationship (from both sides)..he’s the one whom you can call that stubborn one. .I know he’s waiting for my call or any text… I want him to realize first… I checked your YouTube videos.. I love reading your blogs they’re re very clear… link me any which can help me.. thank you 🙂

Chris Seiter

April 21, 2018 at 1:24 am

The best place to get some help on my website would be from my posts, videos, and of course if you click on my website Menu and choose “Products” you will find an array of ebooks and other services that can be of help to you. Having a plan that is based on strategy is important, so take a look at whats out there on my site and you likely will find something you feel would be a good fit
chocoholic

April 21, 2018 at 5:07 am

One simple question sir.. it’s been 3 days I am not talking to him.. once he tried to call me after that I didn’t get any of the Tex or call from him.. how long should I wait?? Or Any tip??
Chris Seiter

April 22, 2018 at 12:08 am

If you are in NC, you should wait out the entirety of the period. Just like I talk about in the No Contact Rule Book (my ebook), if he leaves you multiple positive messages (communications), then you might want to break it off and proceed as I describe in my ebooks.

chocoholic

April 20, 2018 at 6:59 pm

It’s been 2 days since I blocked him. We had a sever fight and then we mutually ended up this relationship.. I applied nc rule since 2 days yesterday at 2 am I got a notification that this user is trying to call you.. though he’s still in my phone’s blacklist.. we both started fighting like hell on some specific matters..I want to start a fresh relationship with him I know he loves me.. I just want to take this relationship to a new level.. how long should I apply this nc rule..?? I miss him badly .. but I’ve set a goal and I want to get it…

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2018 at 8:59 pm

Hi again…refer to my previous comments. Ex recovery is not just about getting your ex back, bit it is very importantly about your own healing and finding emotional balance. I know you can do this.

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