Mistakes Women Make When Trying To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back

542 thoughts on “Common Mistakes Women Make When Trying To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back”

Heather

April 6, 2014 at 1:58 am

Hello,
So my ex boyfriend and I broke up a year ago. He left on impulse in the midst of a stupid fight the day after bringing up our future children and took me out for a fancy dinner saving things for our memory box from restaurant etc. (aka clearly not planning on breaking up). We dated 4 years this last time and had our own place and another year on top of that when we were first in highschool. Lived together over 3 yrs etc. So he started using no contact about a month and a half after we broke up. Contact was very minimal after he moved out to begin with. I’ve periodically texted him during times I was overcome by nostalgia or something serious was going on but not even when his father passed away did he respond to my text. It’s been over 11months since he’s responded. He did initially call me from blocked numbers late at night and stay friends on Facebook, even after he started dating his co worker who’s (only 22 and he’s 27.) which happened a couple months after we broke up. So Anyway my question is now that I made the mistake after doing nc successfully 50days; of sending him a long text telling him I want to try to fix things. That I tried to date other guys etc and there’s no connection like ours. Cause he always used to say the same. Anyway of course he didn’t respond as expected. I said just think about it cause he’s still dating this young girl whine he lives with at her parents but I realize I shouldve just kept doing no contact. I can’t believe I gave in. I do wish he’d give us another chance. I love him very much. Any suggestions are much appreciated. We’re talking 12 yrs of history. Also may I say when his father passed 7 months ago I went to the wake. When he saw me his eyes softened he smiled and came to me and hugged me for like 2minutes. He’s asked friends about me even though he’s seeing her. But he won’t say a work to me. Im trying to give him space aside from this huge slip up a couple days ago telling him I wanna try to fix things. What do u think I should do to improve my chances?
Martina

April 5, 2014 at 11:22 am

Thanks for the great content…I feel like I am pretty sure what you are going to say but not 100%. Guy and I dated for almost 2 months and it was great and we were both happily moving slowly but seeing each other and texting regularly. He mentioned to me that he just likes how relaxed I am and he told his friend he didn’t want to mess it up. I think I panicked a little and on Tuesday morning sent a text about maybe just dating other people (I know this was dumb and not appropriate)…still dating but just maintain a slower pace and just not being exclusive until we were really sure. He immediately stopped texting completely. I haven’t heard from him since then; about four days. I texted him a couple of times each day and called him a couple of times each day. I haven’t ever really dealt with being ignored before and that’s been the tough part. It’s not so much that I want him back is that I care about him and just want to be able to clear the air and apologize and be able to communicate about it. I was considering letting him know I would come by tomorrow to try and talk it through but thinking that might not be a great idea based in your advice.? I can see that he is back on the online dating site where we met…is he just super angry at me? I have never experienced anything like this before. It’s been pretty upsetting.

admin

April 6, 2014 at 5:05 pm

He is definitely angry at you.

I think if you don’t want him back but just need some closure then by all means try to communicate with him.
Martina

April 7, 2014 at 1:42 am

We cleared the air a bit and he said he understood that I just wanted to date others and wasn’t mad and that he needed time and hopefully I still text him “from time to time.” I told him I am really disappointed and I think I made a mistake and really do want to date him. Not much I can do now but I am really hoping after some time he reaches out and we can date again. Guess I will see if time helps!

Lexy

March 26, 2014 at 6:38 am

It’s been 2 weeks into the NC… I checked his Facebook to see if he is ok. First his profile picture is changed to my favorite picture of him and I can’t see anything else… we are still friends there but it is weird to be blocked like that. Am I wasting my time hoping? We had been together for over a year and talk of marriage and started fighting towards the end. I think we both felt pressure and got scared. I do want to try again but I am worried that this isn’t going to work.
Nicole

March 14, 2014 at 12:31 am

You’re awesome Chris! I need this. My emotions get hot real fast and I myself am not attracted to a drama filled relationship so it’s a lot of work especially on my part. I hope to be able to purchase your books soon! :))
Jenny

March 12, 2014 at 4:32 am

My ex and I were together for 9 months and now have been broken up for nearly a year. We have been in contact with each other often since the break up and still hang out with a group of friends on occasion. We have also been sleeping together every other week or so. He used to still treat me as a girlfriend (take me out on proper dates) but now I’m beginning to feel more used…I’m noticing that he only contacts me when he wants me for sex. He says what he needs to and convinces me but then I won’t hear anything from him after…I know it’s bad to have sex with your ex (especially when you want him back) but it’s so hard because I love him and it feels amazing to be that close to him again.

I’m just starting the NC rule and I’m on day 3, but I’m afraid he will forget about me and move on. I really love this guy and I think we are good together, but if he doesn’t try to contact me during the NC time, is that a sign he doesn’t care?

admin

March 13, 2014 at 2:49 pm

doubtful that he will forget about you trust me

Brittany

March 2, 2014 at 11:14 pm

Ok.. so I messed up. Things were going great with my ex: he was initiating contact, frequently hanging out with me, asking to come over, texting me; it was great. I made the mistake of sleeping with him, numerous times, without him clarifying his commitment. Because of this, i began getting confused because he claims he wants to work on things but is scared so he wants to take it slow. He was taking me out on my birthday, and it’s always an emotional day for me because of family problems. I pretty much cried the whole time because we got to talking about where we were at with things and that it was bothersome to me how distant he seems, though he started saying I love you again. He almost completely withdrew and called it quits. but with some talking we decided things started to get rushed in working on things and space is needed.
Does this mean I need to go back into no contact and see if he contacts me? I don’t think the full month no contact would be beneficial, but I don’t know what to do right now. Though I know he needs space due to my emotinalness and pressing him with questions. He also said that he wants to work on things, but for him he needs something with no strings attached and no pressure, so that he knows he truly wants me back. Input please!

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:24 pm

YUP you did make a mistake… you can sleep with him but only after he commits.
Brittany

March 3, 2014 at 7:30 pm

I know the way to fix the sleeping with him thing, is to not until he commits, but due to my emotionalness on my birthday, I haven’t heard much from him since. Do I go no contact again, and if so, for how long?
admin

March 4, 2014 at 3:17 am

Maybe for a little while. A week and a half or two weeks.
Brittany

March 12, 2014 at 2:31 am

Alright: so an update.
I ended up running into him at a mutual friends house, literally had no idea he was there! But he made himself known, and said hi, which I of course responded. When i got home, I texted him saying it was nice to have seen him although is was brief. I then find that he has deleted me off snap chat (just after leaving the house, and after viewing my story) and he never replied to my text.

I don’t know what to do at this point.
Brittany

March 4, 2014 at 6:16 am

And if he contacts me before that time is up?

Viva

February 23, 2014 at 10:52 pm

My ex asked me to have sex and I told him I didn’t want to bond and share that with someone who wasnt with. He decided to say if we dont have sex getting back together is a lost cause. And he hasnt replied for almost two hours. I believe i have become the ungettable girl or at least very close to it but more than anything i want him back and I want to do things differently after breaking up with him. Do you think I am going down the right path?

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:40 pm

Well, tell him the only way youll sleep with him is if you two are official. If not then he is just using you.

Momo14

February 22, 2014 at 8:47 pm

I really hope you have some time to respond to me because I really need some help….I am falling apart.

So I met him in college. We were friends…turned Into best friends…for 2.5 years before we decided to try a relationship. Basically both of us have some issues confiding “real” not so pleasent things from our lives to others and don’t like to verbalize things that fall into this category. Somehow we bacame so close as friends while simultaneously dealing with various life situations that you just learn and better yourself from, that we told each other almost everything. It’s crazy for me to think and acknowledge. Took me longer to open up. My first relationship. Never felt like giving anyone else that chance because I just never saw anything progressing with anyone else. I don’t even know how this one fell together. It just did. We kinda discussed trying a relationship but it was more like implied…maybe that sounds odd…basically the whole time it was like this really easy flow that just all fell together. We were together for a bit over 2 years. I used to be this normal gf, not really controlling, not really dictating, not smothering, not clingy, not really very emotional…I don’t know, just not really in his hair not really taking away any freedom, or independence away from either of us…not really a crazy jealous possessive gf. I don’t know what happened but over the last year, a lot of that went out the window and I changed into a gf that I never wanted to become. I took him for granted, ultimatums, holding breaking up over his head because I knew he was afraid of that because he’d say things like, I can’t loose you from my life, you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me…so like a freakin jerk I started holding that over his head, kinda started dictating what he cants and can do, making him feel like he doesn’t have that sense of freedom and independence, I made it so he started feeling like I was too dependent on his emotionally, I started getting jealous and possessive cause he has a flirtatious personality and a bit more flirty when he drinks, but I never took time to realize that if some suggestion was put on the table-he wouldn’t go with it. This guy is actually an amazing person in general. He’s really compassionate, willing to help anyone with just about anything, he genuinely cares, hurtful things genuinely hurt his feelings…which he ofcourse would never display Infront of anyone else, it was a bit rate Infront of me even though over time, that shield slowly came down. He’s a a really confident person, very social, plays rugby, in general loves a lot of sports, willing to help anyone with anything while being pretty humble, really cool personality…etc. As I started changing…subconsciously…he just compromised and compromised and tried being supportive and trying work through all my crap while I just kept telling him things he needed to do and change and adjust and constantly fighting with him…he’s not an argue nets and fighting kind of person, he’s an ok I’m sorry and then adjusting and compromising kind of person. We graduated in May, he lives like an hour away from me, not really a huge distance or anything. But started seeing each other less like 2-4 times a month on weekends due to work and such. But we were really trying to keep each other incorporated unless if it was a bro thing which over the last year would make me really agitated not being included in….so, I found these messages in nov…actually it wasn’t that big a deal, message thread between him and ex and she was being quite inappropriate while he was just politely trying to dodge…yadda yadda…I freaked out. I broke up with him. He begged and pleaded, we can work through this…those messages weren’t what you think, they’re not anything, didn’t mean anything…and here I was like you’re a cheater, you’re this your that…worthless, alcoholic, no back bone, no morals,…blah blah blah….some of the meanest things you can actually think of. When I get angry, I apparently just blurt out anything and everything that I know will hurt while combining it with ultimatums and demands because I victimize myself. That’s who I’ve become…probably had something to do with idiot girls at school trying to get with him and saying rude nasty things about me. I don’t know. So November was quite rocky, I suggested a break to mend things but instead fought with him constantly and made him feel like the scum of the earth. He kind of started telling me at this point that he’s getting tired, he feels like he needs some space, some time to grow and live…etc. I obviously didn’t know what that meant, didn’t try to step out of my selfish and into his…..December, my birthday comes around, he has flowers sent to me…Xmas, he comes by drops off an iPad. He’s not big on materialistic gifts. Only a few times a year, which makes them feel really genuine and important to me. Anyways, dec and beginning of jan was fine, he’s trying to meet all the things I had named, he’s trying to compromise with my crazy self and trying to work with me….I leave for an internship in Central America for a month and we are trying to keep in touch via text till crazy kicked in and one day I’m like, how do I know you’re not cheating on me…..he’s not even a cheater…and he’s like I don’t know how much longer I can do this, like I’m tired, I’m exhausted, I’m spent, I don’t have anymore in me, I need time to grow and live and feel a sense of freedom and independence again, I’m not who you need, I can’t be who you need me to be, I don’t really believe in myself anymore, we need to talk about this…etc. I freaked. This dumb idiot girl in my group there had this talk with me and decided her opinion was important and will help. Me like an idiot, listened and followed. So she sent him a farewell message from my phone. He freaked. For two days, nonstop trying to reach out, I’m sorry, I’m not breaking up with you, just telling you how I feel…etc. I shut him out for two days then wrote him this huge novel and told him off. The meanest shit you can think of and just broke him down. I literally broke my best friend who means the most to me, who I trust the most, who I confide in about everything, who I take into consideration in anything and everything I’m doing….I f’ed up…..really bad. That idiot girl told him I was finding refuge and confiding in some random guy who was the program director in that country where I was at the internship. He didn’t believe her. I’m really honest and faithful. And she just drilled and drilled in his mind and made him feel like maybe I was acting sketchy. I got a random text, are you staying with that guy….I’m thinking well ofcourse because I’m staying at this hostel and him and his staff are obviously staying in that house with us. I said yes. Blah blah blah, I come back to the US and find out why he asked me that, really tried analyzing myself and what he was trying to say, what he’s having an issue with, what I’m doing….I had a good hold on it, realized I’m being crazy, yadda yadda. Two weeks ago, we finally get together to have this talk and I’m going in there like, ok, I think I understand, I need to discuss these things, I need to compromise these things and I need to stop being like this. He didn’t come to discuss. He had already made up his mind before coming. It took a good while to get to the talk…you could see hurt and agony in his face. Told me he can’t do this anymore. He can’t be my bf anymore. He needs time to grow, live, feel sense of freedom, independence, he wants to only be committed to himself and hang out with the guys and feel like it’s ok to go to movies with anyone, guys or girls and be able to hang out, party, ski…etc without having to keep someone in the loop and informed and such. That he put his whole 100% self in this relationship and he doesn’t feel like it was enough and now he doesn’t feel like he can do it anymore, he doesn’t believe in himself anymore, he does feel that sense of forever anymore, that he really loves me and cares about me and really needs me to be his friend, that he’s only an hour away and will come help me with anything I need, but he needs to recooperate and if he feels 6 months or however long after he does him-if he feels like he wants to go on a date, he should be able to. I tried discussing, I tried compromising…I tried everything during this conversation but he was like, I have to do this for my own preservation. I couldn’t take it. I can’t handle this thought of hanging out with anyone, or eventually dating someone if he feels like it, or the thought of like him kissing someone…I’m like loosing my damn mind. So I silently freak out and walk out of the stupid restaurant. He come after me, let me take you home, please I can’t leave you here…he cancelled going to this rugby banquet thing and walked around with me aimlessly (walking is like my air out method when I’m upset or sad or frustrated)…so for four hours he walks around with me, drives me around for a few hours, tries calming me down and explaining maybe we can revisit this in the future after regaining outselves but he just can’t give me that anymore right now, that he’s not planning on picking up anymore or hooking up or doing anything with anyone for a long while, but he feels like he needs to set us free, when he realized I just can’t go home that night, he got me a hotel room and stayed with me and tried talking with me more…I was crying starting from the beginning of the walk. Like I couldn’t stop. Next day he hung out with me, took me to a movie, breakfast, lunch, mall, bought me some books and such for my I pad….then took me home when he felt I was a bit more composed. I hurt this guy. I made it so he feels “numb” and feels a “void”. I said the lost hurtful things. I created his last straw while in Central America….I’ve been straight up crazy on him for the past year. I made him tear……I’ve never seen him tear……I broke him. I ruined a sense of friendship. I made him feel like he can’t confide here…..and he spent all weekend helping me feel better. I’m a jack ass. I’ve become so awful. So it’s been two weeks. That weekend I told him that I had already ordered some valentines stuff to be delivered at his place a long time ago and I don’t want him to think I did that after this like a weird desperado. He called valentines day and said he really appreciates that I did that for him and he feels bad because I didn’t do anything for me. I was like, it’s ok, you do stuff for me all the time, you stayed and did all kinds of stuff over the weekend. He had this talk with me about working on my own independence, my own happiness and such. That I don’t NEED him that I’m strong and I can do this…I did the beg and plead thing for two days after that weekend. Then I started trying to be productive about it, research and such to make myself back into a person I appreciate….Anyways, I’ve taken time to really analyze myself and everything I’ve been doing to make us fall apart, I have a better understanding and grasp on my issues. I’m trying to work on stuff. Audio recordings I’ve made based on psych articles I’ve been reading to help my anger management mouth filtering issues. Trying to step into other peoples shoes and trying to understand where others are coming from. General positive kind interactions with others. Trying to gain a sense of independence. Trying to listen to my recordings and trying to better myself and practice everyday. Not gonna be able to better myself if I can’t acknowledge what’s wrong and what I need to fix within my own self….can’t try to reestablish friendship and make it so he considers being with me again and giving us a try again if I don’t try to work on myself first. But I’m paranoid. I really paranoid and freaking out within myself constantly. I think these crazy things I want to text….I don’t. I text them to myself if I really need to text it out. I constantly think, omg, what if he finds someone and replaces me at this moment, or omg what if he picked someone up tonight, or….idk. I’m trying to work on my control issues and such. It’s hard. It’s been really hard to give him space and not dictate and not pry in his business or not start an argument when I get into an angry mood about this situation, not really speaking…so on. There are super small talk casual texts once or twice a day between us, hope you have a good day…etc. I understand that I can’t start up some elaborate crazy discussion where I freak out and such. I’m not trying to like show up at his place or buy him back or anything. I’m really trying to work on my crazy. It’s taking me a lot. But I eventually want this person back!! I don’t want to attend his wedding someday to someone else….seriously I don’t think I’d be able to maintain my crazy if that happened in the future and some bimbo stole my best friend/bf. I understand that in your above 12 suggestions to get your ex back, you say NC for atleast a month for all of them…but if I go from these extremely short periodic texts to flow into working on friendship….won’t he at this point think, I’ve excluded myself, I accept and agree to move apart with other people?…since a lot of this was caused initially due to my idiotic communication elimination issue? Like I took a relationship that works due to communication and deprived him of that and broke things even more….? And if I do the NC for 30 days, and he texts, how was ur day or something short and random….won’t not responding at all at all worsen things for our friendship? Like I need to reestablish my friendship before anything….right? I’m really confused how to handle this and how to react and what to do at this point. I know this will take time. I know it won’t be fixed in a few months. I get that. I can give it time and I can work on myself and try and fix our friendship….but in man time, do I have enough time to try and repair anything? And do you think he said the, I’m not going to get with anyone or anything for a long while and just do me….to make me feel better and calm? But in reality he’s gonna find other girls to confide in and hang out with or be with or…whatever? Can you please help me, I’m freaking out. He said he would come hang out and do this pottery thing with me tomorrow….does any of this sound positive so far?? I need a guys perspective without the extra emotional crap females bring into issues like these. So you think you can respond to me via email??

Thank you so much for your time and help.

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:13 pm

Ok, before anything have you read my latest guide on my updated philosophy? I think it could answer a lot of your questions.

Casey

February 11, 2014 at 8:59 pm

My ex boyfriend and I broke up a year ago, but continued to see each other and be friends with benefits for the next year…I made the mistake of being dependent on him and showing that I still really liked him. He essentially was able to date other girls but also have me on the side whenever he wanted which was a big mistake on my part. A week ago he decided to dump me for good but he was sad about it and said he didn’t want to see me go, that I was a good person and better than him, all that.
I’ve been in NC for 7 days now. What do you suggest for getting an ex back who I was friends with benefits with for a while after the first break up?
Gisvel

February 7, 2014 at 9:33 pm

Soo me and my boyfriend broke up, but hes the first guy i ever been in love with.. I found myself not giving up cause it was my mistake and i know i can make it up to him.. He says he love me still, live doesnt go away in just one day he said.. If went through hell and back this pass week i end up in the hospital for deression and stress i got really skinny after that.. But he actually keeps hitting me up blvery nice we talk and talk he been really worried about me but he says he needs sometime he dont need a relationship right now.. But then he keep hitting me up on facebook to know how am doing.. I apways tell him im ok and we just talk through out the day.. Idk what to do to get him back.. I need him in my life and he knoes he loves me and all but i want him back and i want him to take my apology.. WHAT CAN I DO ??

admin

February 8, 2014 at 4:23 am

Have you been able to go through the entire 30 days of NC?

Emy.

February 5, 2014 at 9:02 am

Hi Chris.

I am on my second week of NC. Although it is very challenging, it is worth the while coz it has revealed much about my ex. Hurts to know I may have been on the journey alone. Ready to be honest and loyal, even at that! Guess it’s time to grab some fun and Valantine grooves. Happy Val in Adv. Chris. Veilen Dank!

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:57 pm

Happy Valentines day to you too!!!

Maria

January 29, 2014 at 11:38 pm

Hey,

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I want him back.
He has already started to get over me and doesnt want to jeopardise his progress, so is insistent that we wont get back together.
We are texting about once a day as ‘friends’ but he seems even reluctant to do that.
Will NC work for me or do you think it is a lost cause?

Thanks

admin

January 30, 2014 at 5:59 pm

I think it can work sure.

Emy.

January 27, 2014 at 11:36 am

Your article is so helpful. Kudos! Please advise me on this? I and my ex met in School and had begun as friends. Later that same period he traveled to Germany. We kept the friendship on for two years. We talked about our relationships and advise eachother on what to do. Till last year, he was broke up same time I also did. Six months later, he finally asked me out. I took it up coz I liked him already. 2 months later, I realized that we brought in each others weaknesses. That caused our first breakup. I became apparent that we had to work on ourselves. I broke the NC rule without knowing by talking with him. Even apologized and told him I was ready to work it out and help him too since we knew eachother’s challenges. He seemed reluctant for reasons best known for him. Guess when he saw my determination, he brought his game on. A month after our make up, my sister-in-law who knew how deep we were already were though we denied-sortoff, he blatantly denied the relationship and called me illusional-freak. His reasons now where that he feels he was emotionally handicapped which he believed he told me plianly he didn’t want a relationship with me. Now am hurt and angry. Two years as honest friend to this dude I can swear he is nicer than he sounds. His outburst and choices keeps me worried over his welfare yet I don’t want to break any NC rules. He keeps (annoyingly) chatting and pinning me up but I don’t know how to handle it from here. Help please.

Emy.

January 27, 2014 at 11:45 am

*my sister-in-law asked him when he is coming in to town and if I am aware so I can pick him up. His response was where the whole fairy jingles begun. Just like Mia’s case below on 24th posted here. Thank you once again.

Tiffany

January 25, 2014 at 6:25 am

So me and my now ex boyfriend just broke up last week, and you can say I am that desperate female waiting for answers. I will give you a little background story on what exactly went down.

I met my ex upon starting my new job, and he knew from the get-go that I was a difficult person. I had bad relationships that made me fear being open and everything else. Well anyways, after dating this guy for about 6 to 7 months I was personally in love with this guy. I was cleaning for him, cooking, and supporting him in everything he was doing. Even driving an hr away just to see him play at gigs. I mean he did stuff for me, but I went above and beyond (and mind me I never did this for any guy). He told me I was his first love and I treasure that fact. Well during the new year of 2013 I had a wise idea to surprise him with a xmas gift that sent goose bumps down my arm; I traveled to see him in Dominican Republic (he was just visiting his family) on top of that I made him something. Well this is where our love goes down hill. Upon coming back, he got insecure and got a random address that I was never at and don’t even know, and started accusing me of lying. He then broke up with me. We did talk and he “forgave me” however, we are not talking what so ever. I keep hearing that he loves me and wants to be with me from friends, but since he is really religious he states God does not want us together at the moment.

You can say I am lost and in limbo. I do love this kids but I honestly do not know what to do, because I am willing to fight for this relationship that I worked so hard to prove myself. Thoughts?
Mia

January 24, 2014 at 4:40 am

Hi,
I feel so desperate and helpless right now.
I started dating this guy only 2 months ago, but it has been so amazing that I am just shocked that the switch was flipped so suddenly. Ever since our first date, we had been texting each other all day everyday and spend almost every night together. We also spent Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve / Day together. Everything seemed to be going so well until the weekend after New Year’s Day, when a conversation about a hypothetical trip together turned into a “what are we” conversation, which I really wasn’t pressing to have but it still took place anyway without yielding any conclusion. I was crying a bit during the conversation because I was feeling so uncomfortable with the conversation. Since that day, he just grew more and more distant. After another date, he just stopped texting me. It took me 3 messages (over the course of 4 days) to realize that he just wasn’t going to text me back. I waited 2 days to call him and let him know that I wasn’t in a rush to be “in a relationship”. On the phone he sounded so cold and anxious. He told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that it made his chest tighten to think about being in a relationship. It felt like the floor had dropped beneath me. He said he needed space and would call me in a couple of days. It has been 8 days (and counting), and I haven’t heard a word. It feels like he won’t ever talk to me again. I haven’t texted or called him at all (not a self-imposed NC period). What do I do? I want him back in my life. I want to wake up next to him again!

🙁

admin

January 24, 2014 at 6:23 pm

Well, you still have some time left during NC. Keep the focus on YOU for now.

Jasmine

January 24, 2014 at 2:52 am

Hi Chris,
What should I do? I have been dating my ex boyfriend for 8 months. He broke up with me of course. But the last time I saw him was when he dropped me off at church. He told me he loves me and to text him when I get home. So I got home and I texted him. He told me goodnight. I told him I know we been through a lot but I said. I know we have faith and move forward together. He said he needed some space from me. I told him ok. I gave him at least a week. Couple of days past. I texted him and called him. He never replied. So I figured he blocked me. I started texting him off a free app and then he texted me back saying to not text him no more and to leave him alone. To get out of his life. I was really crushed. I didn’t know what to do. I just started calling him and texting him off of different numbers. I didn’t want to wright a essay text. So I called him. He actually answered. I figured he would not answer. But he did. He actually listened to me. I started telling him wat was wrong. He said the reason y he’s doing this is bcuz he don’t love me anymore. That’s what he said. But I didn’t believe him. Bcuz we’ve been together for 8 months. We went through a lot together. I know he still loves me. I went crazy. So he said to stop calling him and crap. It’s done. I told him if he really wanted me to stay away from his life then tell me and I told him to tell me that he hates me soo much. He didn’t. He changed his number. I know where he lives and work at. But I didn’t want to get to crazy….. I love him so much Chris. I know he loves me too.. What should I do?
dada

January 23, 2014 at 1:24 am

It’s been three months my boyfriend cannot stop angry me.we broke up n I have done 30days of NC Rule, he finally contact me during it by comment on my photo. I suppose not to reply him, but I finally text him in line n know that he just trying to be friend with me. I replied him I cannot do it, so what I suppose to do n now we argue really big again.

admin

January 24, 2014 at 4:51 am

What is your communication like with him?
Benedicta Morris

August 22, 2014 at 4:09 am

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dada

January 25, 2014 at 12:56 am

normally we like to use line n facebook..last time we argue by calling in line … from that he told me I not respect his decision. now I already stop contact with him again. is it still good to let him go ?
dada

January 23, 2014 at 1:51 am

One more question. . is it good to delete all our contact way like Facebook line what app etc… cos I dt want to annoy him again. . is it good to do that or it will make him more hate me?

Alycia

January 21, 2014 at 11:14 pm

My boyfriend and I only dated for five months. Towards the end it was one month of me being the complete opposite of who I was and then another month of doing almost everything on this page to get him back. I am currently in the 3rd week of the no contact period. I have made goals: started school, working out, revamped my wardrobe, teeth whitened, some tanning, and a whole personality evaluation to see what I truly needed to work on to be a better person. Its being going great so far and my friends and family said that they see a huge improvement. for me it’s slow but I can see the positive affects more everyday. I hope you can answer these questions that I am currently struggling with.

1. He is the type of person that prefers personal contact. He is a banker ( was mine before we dated) at my bank. Should I make a subtle move by dropping a check off and showing my presence with a short and sweet conversation then saying good bye like it was nothing? or should I still go ahead with the texting?

2. If I have done the majority on this page (looking back I completely see how unattractive I must have looked to him and I’m completely humiliated) should I wait longer than 30 days to contact him?

3. He doesn’t have a Facebook, but I am good friends with his best friends girlfriend. How can I use this to my advantage? I am also friends with his sister on Facebook. Does that help as well?

I’m looking forward to hearing your advice. Everything has truly helped me! Thank you 🙂

admin

January 22, 2014 at 5:52 pm

I think 30 days will be enough.

So, he doesn’t like texting at all?
Alycia

January 22, 2014 at 10:39 pm

When we first dated he texted me non-stop, which is normal when you first start out. Soon after we became boyfriend/girlfriend he told me he doesn’t really like to text and he would just do it because it was what I wanted. He is from the country,so he doesn’t really have use for it other than work and if he really needs to talk to someone.

Kirshka

January 17, 2014 at 9:45 pm

Hey, I left some things at my ex bf’s house. I’m going to ask if I can go pick them up after the 30days nc. If he says it’s ok to go and pick them up, and he invites me in when I get there…..do I just say “oh no it’s cool”, play it friendly and just grab my things and leave, or should I go in for a coffee and just act cool? Which is best?! I guess both ways I shouldn’t act like I’m there to get him back….

admin

January 20, 2014 at 12:17 am

Act cool. Be classy and keep it shortish.

Rose

January 7, 2014 at 12:58 pm

I think I made all the mistakes during the first month…. We dated of and off for 4 years. The day after he broke up I called him a texthim a lot, onñy dissapearred for a couple days, then wrotte him a letter declarng my love and various emails….. I creied a lot and asked him to come back…. Then after one and a half month we slept together…. he acted like an idiot after he knew I wanted to get back and then just went ahead and said it was a mistake…

A week after we slept tgether I bumped into him and he was holding hands and kissing a new girl… She is 31, 5 fears older than him and 6 years older than me… When he broke up he mentioned he wasnt ready for the committed relationship I wanted…. I was being pushy…

I probably made 10 out of the 12 mistakes you wrote, After I saw him with this girl, which was 15 days ago, I havenot contacted him either has he…. and hoonestly he seems to be “happy”…. He started dating a girl less than 2 moth later after our break up and he seems happy….

I acted needy and desperate and I feel I absolutely ruined every possibility…. What do you think?

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