Do You Have A Chance At Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

699 thoughts on “Do You Even Have A Chance At Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back? Let’s Find Out!”

Jillian

March 15, 2018 at 6:10 pm

Hi Amor, how do I start rebuilding rapport without talking to him? I was thinking about giving him a couple weeks of NC again but I just don’t understand where we’ve been left off now that we’ve had a progressive conversation about our relationship and break-up… I understand if he’s still not feeling strong enough to start things up again but then why is he trying to online date? He said it’s simply “something to do” but I’m stuck between feeling like he still hopes we can work and just needs time, or that I’m a back up plan and he is just using me til he finds something better. If it’s the former then should I wait for him to reach out to me again like he did the first time, or should I be the one to initiate contact because I’m hoping we can work? If it’s the latter, should I completely ignore him? And how do I know?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 16, 2018 at 2:48 pm

Yup you should ignore him for 30 days and only talk about the dog schedule and nothing else.. After nc, you can initiate contact.. Check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

Jillian

March 15, 2018 at 4:58 pm

hello

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2018 at 5:53 pm

Hi Jillian,

Restart nc, do at least 30 days and if he wants to see the dog, set a schedule on when he would pick him/her and just lend him/her and only talk to him about that..start a new daily routine in your life and continue that after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport with him..dont tell him about nc..

Jillian

March 15, 2018 at 4:34 pm

Hi, my boyfriend and I were together for 4 years- lived together for 1 and had a dog. We broke up because over the 1 year we fought A LOT. He said he was exhausted. Over the first 3 months of the break up we had periodic contact- texts, calls, and sometimes saw each other- which always ended poorly. We then had no contact for 25 days and he texted me (after we had matched on Bumble) asking if he could see the dog. We got together, had a positive chat about things, but now we are back to not speaking because he said he’s still not ok with how things were even though he’s feeling better. He said he’s not interested in girls in general let alone a relationship yet he is still active on Bumble (which I also am so I can’t really get mad at him for it)… what does that mean? What do I do? What are our chances??
Shannon

January 31, 2018 at 7:24 pm

Hi. So my boyfriend and I dated for about 10 months. It was very serious. I met his family and spent holidays with them. I have a lot of stuff at his house (drawer of clothes, toothbrush, ect.) We broke up 2 days ago. Essentially he said he wasn’t happy and felt like we’d grown distant and I just wasn’t the person he wanted to talk to all the time. Before the breakup, I’d noticed the distance, but there had been a lot of good moments. He frequently told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and how much he loved me. We were also planning a lot about the future. However during the breakup he essentially said it was all a lie, which I don’t believe. I will also add he lives about 3 hours from me, but all of his family is in the town I live in. It was also a common sentiment among both our families and friends that we’d be together forever. I’m in no contact right now, but what do you think the possibility is of us rekindling our relationship. I love him so much and I think space will be good, but I don’t want to lose him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 11:19 am

Hi Shannon,
have you taken our quiz?

Lisa

January 23, 2018 at 8:17 am

Hi,
My ex boyfriend and I were together for about 10 months. It wasn’t too long but we both felt strongly for each other & my family knows about our relationship. Towards the end we fought a lot as he wasn’t happy with how things are and he can be quite a ‘perfectionist’ and when things didn’t go his way it would upset him. He felt like I wasn’t putting as much effort as he did into the relationship. Then he just decided to end things. He said that this year he wants to focus on himself, his studies and all that. I told him that I could change my ways and be more supportive of him but he’s been cold and said that he just wants to be alone. There were moments where he blocked / unblocked me ok whatsapp and on the phone too (he has no social media accounts). Recently he blocked me for about 8 days and I just left him alone. He later on unblocked me and a day after I just said hey and asked how he was doing and all he replied was ‘I’m okay’. He seems to have completely shut me out but I truly love him and want to win his heart back. I’d do whatever I can. But, knowing him, once he’s upset he’ll just build a wall and shut everyone out and just want to be alone and deal with things on his own. Do I even stand a chance of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2018 at 12:42 pm

Hi Lisa,

When did you break up? Try the nc rule first, if it doesn’t work, move on..

Ellen

December 11, 2017 at 1:48 am

I dated a guy for a little over a month and things were really intense. We both said things like I love you, I’ve never felt like this about anyone, maybe it’s mewny to be. Then suddenly he ended it saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he didn’t know what he wanted. He was only a few months out of a very long relationship when we met. I asked if I had done anything to make him feel this way and he said no not at all. But of course I’m not sure if that’s the case. He may not even know himself. I did some low level begging in the end and he was the one who cut off contact, but as soon as I realised that I said goodbye and cut off contact as well. He has kept me on Facebook and put up a sad love song which is very out of the ordinary for him. Before I even found your site I was keeping my Facebook cheerful with jokes and good experiences with friends. I can’t find any situations like mine on the website. What do you think my chances are? At first I thought I was a rebound but then when he said he loved me I wasn’t sure anymore. They seemed intense for a rebound.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 4:10 am

Hi Ellen,

maybe it went too fast for him and he realized he’s not yet ready for another relationship.. How long have you been in nc?

Ellen

December 10, 2017 at 5:10 am

I dated a guy for a little over a month and things were really intense. We both said things like I love you, I’ve never felt like this about anyone, maybe it’s mewny to be. Then suddenly he ended it saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he didn’t know what he wanted. He was only a few months out of a very long relationship when we met. I asked if I had done anything to make him feel this way and he said no not at all. But of course I’m not sure if that’s the case. He may not even know himself. I did some low level begging in the end and he was the one who cut off contact, but as soon as I realised that I said goodbye and cut off contact as well. He has kept me on Facebook and put up a sad love song which is very out of the ordinary for him. Before I even found your site I was keeping my Facebook cheerful with jokes and good experiences with friends. I can’t find any situations like mine on the website. What do you think my chances are?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 4:10 am

Hi Ellen,

maybe it went too fast for him and he realized he’s not yet ready for another relationship.. How long have you been in nc?

Eli

November 7, 2017 at 7:31 pm

Hey,
I’ll try to keep this short. My gf and I broke up because she said she lost feelings for me. We attend the same college, and share a math lecture together. I just got through a month of NC and sent a text message to no reply. I do have the option of sitting next to her though, should I wait until she replies to the message? Should I wait another week until I try again?

Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 8, 2017 at 7:02 pm

HI Eli,

how much did you improve yourself?

Leanne

November 3, 2017 at 8:14 pm

I was with my ex for 5 years. We own a house together (which he has moved out of), were engaged and have a dog together. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t find me attractive. He also said he has feelings for someone else who he met at work and they are now dating. We blocked eachother on facebook and still have things financially we need to sort out. Is this girl a rebound and do I have a chance of getting him back? Please help I don’t know where to begin!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 4, 2017 at 1:12 am

Hi Leanne,

are you going to do the no contact rule?

Max

October 26, 2017 at 4:00 pm

Hey
My ex and I dated for a year and a half, but this is our third break up. The first didn’t last very long, and he was the one who suggested getting back. The second time we got back it was my idea, and we’d been broken up for three months.
How good do you think my chance is?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 29, 2017 at 11:19 am

Hi Max,

check this one:
How To Get An On Again/Off Again Boyfriend Back

Jacqui

October 17, 2017 at 10:24 am

Hi, my boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and we lived together for approx 1 year. I was his first ever relationship, he was 30 when I met him, and for the first year I didn’t want to commit as I had just come out of a relationship/marraige of 22 years. I was 36 when I met him, am going through a divorce and I have 2 kids. My ex was very close to my boys and we had what I thought was a fantastic relationship. We laughed everyday, we went camping together, did things just as a couple and he interacted with my boys one on one too. I really thought we were in this perfect bubble thats how well we got along. Then one morning he woke me up and asked me to come lay on his lap. He said his feelings had changed and he didn’t think he loved me anymore. He said he had thought it was stress but over the last few months he had tried to take me out on dates and he didn’t feel the same as he did in the beginning. He said he didn’t know why, that he would do anything to feel that way with me again, but I later found out that he thought I got angry at little things and that he gave me his everything. I didn’t think we fought. I believed we only had 2 or 3 disagreements in the 2 years and they weren’t even with raised voices. I did cry when I was sad or upset and I worry this may have pushed his anxiety buttons. My ex was an introvert, had really bad anxiety for a year when he was in his 20s where he couldn’t leave his room and he had what I think was a traumatic childhood. He became very independant at a very young age and when I met him he had never been in or felt love towards anyone really – just his cat and grandfather. I worry this may have affected his ability to maintain relationships, as he wasn’t close to any of his family and even called his parents by their first names. The day he left, when he broke up with me, he said he would try counselling to try and figure things out, told my kids that but only attended 1 session. Then a week after the initial break up, he broke up with me again by text at 3am in the morning. I took hours to respond, but told him I was grateful for our time together and that I wished him all the best. The next morning he called and said that he was scared he making a huge mistake and asked me ‘what would you say if I said I was coming home’. I didn’t know what to say, but I said ‘I only want you to come home if you really want to come home’. We saw each sporadically over the next two months, as friends; he knew I wanted him back and that I was sad over the breakup but he didn’t come back home. 3 weeks ago he text me saying ‘I miss you heaps sometimes’ and I made the mistake of texting ‘I miss you more’. I saw him 2 weeks ago at my son’s 18th and then decided to start the non contact period 1 week ago. Should I continue with the non contact period? How long should I do the non contact period? And what chance do you think I have of getting him back? Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 17, 2017 at 10:02 pm

Hi Jacqui,

Have you tried our quiz? Do at least 30 days, and check this one:
Introverted Ex Boyfriends Vs. Extroverted Ex Boyfriends (How To Approach Them)

Ana maria

October 13, 2017 at 3:53 pm

Hey chris this is my situation. My boyfriend of a year broke up with me because he said that things where getting to serius for him and he didnt wanted that. We where together for a year, I started to stoy at his place most of the night and he told me that he felt i was there all the time, also he had a bad relatin before where his exgilfriend got pregnant in the moment he wantes to end things, so he doesnt what to repeat that story or anything near that. I am cool with that, I have never even thought about kids or marrige or children, my focus just like his are my studies. So he broke up with me for that reasons, he ask me for time to think about our relationship, a month where we talk twice, the second he asked me to pic my thing up. I ask him if he had think anything about us and he said no since the we havent talk (its been 4 days) can you help me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 10:50 am

Hi Ana,

Check this one:
Stage 5 Clinger – Getting A Boyfriend Back If You Were Too Clingy

Elle

September 24, 2017 at 7:01 am

I was in a relationship with my now ex bf for 5 years. We had a fight a few years back that led us to not break up but give each other some space. We moved past it and we’re stronger than ever. Fast forward to a August of this year. We have been living together for 4 years and we’re looking for the next apartment. We find one and all is well until it’s not. He started to ignore me, not just ignore me a little bit but to the point were he didn’t even acknowledge me. I have to admit I’m not guilt free here either, I did become a little clingy in the last few months because I was going through a rough time after a death in my family and wanted him to be there for me. After two weeks of ignoring me and sleeping on the couch I had enough. I spoke to him and he literally sat there and had nothing to say. He left and texted me saying that he wanted to feel free and do whatever he wants. He even decided to remove a relationship status on fb. We are adults so I found this really childish. Our lease was up and I decided to leave since he told me I should’ve gotten the hint. he’s texting me apologizing for hurting me yet still won’t speak to me about anything when we do see each other and acts like we’re the best of friends. It’s confusing and hurtful, we had one slip up by having sex but I told him never again. I just need some advice if any for my situation. I’m completely heartbroken but am trying to stay positive.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 7:42 pm

HI Elle,
are you going to move out?

Jay dee

August 16, 2017 at 2:20 pm

I’ve been talking to a woman for 2 months and been in a relationship for 2 weeks. She asked me to be in a relationship after my trip to Miami visiting family. She asked me to not go dark on her for hours and let her know whats going on through out my day. After 2 weeks of our relationship she starts to withdraw by not touching and having a attitude wednesday, thursday I tried calling her after 7:30pm and i got no response but occational text through out the day. Friday we had plans to go out and I didnt hear from her nor did she answer my call after 7:30pm again. Now my love language is affirmation and touch which shes unaware of. Saturday she texts me good morning around 11am and i told her i already packed up her stuff and she needs to come get them and she can keep all of my movies worth over a thousand bucks. We get into a argument and i said some horrible things to her and she responded with horrible things too and said she was out with a friend for dinner and a movie. Took her over a week to get her things. I asked her to meet up somewhere public to give her stuff and to talk so we can try working things out. She agreed but at last minute she sent a text saying she just want her stuff and dont want to talk. Once we got to the location we agreed on she was really upset and didnt want to talk. After she left i asked her why is she so mad and she responded with that i said some aweful things to her over text and i should of just talked to her the following day instead of packing her stuff up and saying aweful things to her. I responded with what happened and how i felt and she went silent. The following week I apologized to her after reading books on relationships and again no response so i started the NC rule. Do you think i still have a chance to get her back and what steps should i take after the NC

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 17, 2017 at 3:14 pm

Hi jaydee,

Yup.. Do 21 days be active in improving yourself and in posting

Bree

August 8, 2017 at 1:06 am

Okay so it was three weeks ago my boyfriend and I of 3 years broke up, he had been a little distant for just that day his replies were a little bit off so I asked him if he was okay etc…
He asked what I meant so I said don’t worry and he turned around with ‘I’m just scared’ so naturally I’ve gone into panic

Anyway I told him straight out I was there for him I don’t have the words to make him feel better but I’m there, anyway he went to footy training then still asked to come over so yep sure. He came over we watched the footy show and went to bed, I got a little bit upset cause he hadn’t actually said anything anyway I upset him massively and he cried so hard all night so much he couldn’t even get words out.
I couldn’t even cry I was so terrified I was deathly silent so he kept asking what I was thinking what was going through my mind. He was worried about the future and if I could see it working.. in hind sight I should have said yes of course and told him we will make it through this together… but I was so upset I hardly said a word just hugged him so tightly… anyway that’s basically all he said..he just kept crying and wrapped his arms and legs around me so tightly…I moved his arms off me once to see if we could talk and he freaked saying ‘what do you mean by that?’ So naturally by this stage you can imagine I’m confused as hell thinking he doesn’t know what to do but then when I push him away from me to talk he freaks out??? What???

So we eventually exhausted ourselves to sleep and woke up the next morning he had to go he was going to Gym with friends, I left the room and came back he was literally unable to stand crying that hard and he asked ‘is this it’ I asked if it was what he needed and he just didn’t know… we hugged and kissed and he didn’t want to leave at all the minute he almost left he came back to hug and kiss all over again…

So anyway that’s pretty much how it went, I messaged him that day not really about much but he replied and then I left it for a few days then messaged again upset him all over again and just let him know I’d always be there for him how much he meant to me and I’d always be willing to make anything work for him ect. Anyway so he was still confused and basically said he’s been feeling off and he just doesn’t know what to do and he’s confused and mentally in the wrong headspace maybe he needed to be on his own. He still had no idea what he wanted.

I messaged him twice just causally over the following two weeks and he responded positively didn’t try to keep it going but better than nothing. He then messaged me the other night telling me a girl he’d been hanging with was nothing just friends etc as a heap of people came to me telling me about her. anyway so he told me that…he obviously still cares what I think if he’s making sure I know she’s nothing???

Anyway so i asked if we could meet up some time and talk about it all. If not it’s fine but if he ever wanted to talk I’d be up for it, told him I’d been speaking to a councillor guy who was really helpful and sent a couple of the articles he’d given me to David… I put bye on the end of my message but put that I hope to hear from him some time… he replied saying I will come out stronger than ever and thanks for the thoughts etc. then said goodbye on the end of it….

So that’s where I’m at but here’s where it gets tricky.
We never had any fights or anything like that leading up to it so it’s not like there’s any bad memories…it seems like he basically had an anxiety attack and ended things… he got scared which I know now is completely normal… but just a week before it all happened he wanted to sell his car and we could go to Sydney and look at a couple of four wheel drives cause he wanted to learn to tow the float for the horse..all his idea not mine.. I’ve also got a card he wrote me just a week before too says I’ll always be with you, you make my life better every day etc…so the only logical reason seems that he freaked out.. because there is nothing leading to this and he can’t explain why or anything like that… I really want to try because he’s all I’ve wanted honestly… but I don’t know how…or what to do? I’m 10 days into NC (first ever attempt at it) and it’s a month post breakup now. His friends are tagging him in sad things on Facebook etc. I think this would be in th general category but any thoughts would be helpful as it seems he just ran madea really quick decision..

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 9, 2017 at 3:04 pm

Hi Bree,

That’s good that you’re in nc now.. be active in improving yourself and in posting.. Just let him be for now.. Focus in yourself.

Denis

July 12, 2017 at 3:10 am

is ghosting considered a general breakup? Or no. They gave the silent treatenent for a whole 24hrs therefore i texted we were done. Havent heard from them since. Its been 22days.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 14, 2017 at 1:15 pm

If you texted you’re done that means you’re the one who broke up with him

Key

June 19, 2017 at 1:07 am

I need your helo please.
my ex bf broke up with me 2 months ago after a 4 year LDR. We only saw once for a week. He is older than me. After the break up I’ve asked him to give me a chance but he ‘s been consistent saying his feelings are not the same. He told me he wanted us to remain friendships. A week after the break up he met a new woman over the internet and she asked him to erase me from facebook and now when i write him emails he says he feels deceptive that i can write ocasionales and that he has to be careful about it. He told me he could talk in secrecy. However I dont feel it’s right, i feel disrispected but If i dont write i won’t have communication with him… I dont know what to do…. Please, what can I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 22, 2017 at 2:22 pm

Hi key,

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

Annie B

May 25, 2017 at 9:29 am

My boyfriend says he just wants to be friends. He says I’m not ambitious enough and that I make excuses and that I overreact to things. This was Monday he said “let’s just be friends” and I haven’t talked to him since. What can I do? I so dearly want him back and I feel like he’s been pulling away for months so this isn’t a snap decision he made.

Annie B

May 28, 2017 at 2:16 am

Yes I haven’t contacted him since Monday, we are supposed to go on a camping trip next weekend that we had planned months ago. i have a feeling he will cancel but i wasn’t going to contact him until a day or two before.
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 27, 2017 at 2:21 pm

are you going to do the no contact rule?

Ann

May 17, 2017 at 4:29 pm

So, today I met my ex for the second time now – lunch just as last week (that time we met after not having seen each other for three months). I casually texted him today, asking if he’d want to grab lunch together and he answered neutrally – one word, but agreed to it. It was quite alright, but not at all flirty, although we smiled and laughed a bit together (last week I flirted with him, touched him and smiled and laughed but he did not really flirt back, so this time I wanted to be less obvious about it). After lunch we sat together outside and a friend of his came up and just would not leave, so they talked and talked and talked about a subject I could simply not say anything about. After about 25 minutes of sitting there stupidly I stood up and said goodbye. I wanted to hug my ex goodbye but seeing he would not budge an inch I left without doing so. I got angry, because it looked to me like a set up to get rid of me… so after leaving I texted him asking why he would have lunch with me if he really doesn’t want to. He answered “I do…” and then I said that it did not seem so to me and he could at least have hugged me. He answered, I could have done also and that this drama was not necessary…. so, I know that this is a great step backwards, after having built up (hopefully) positive feelings through texting, but I also feel kind of better having told him since I think it’s not okay to behave in this way (“know your worth”, right?). Right now, I’m a) not sure if he’ll actually decide wanting me back / I still have a chance and b) if I should go on pursuing this goal… For a month we had no contact and then he texted me and we slowly started to get in touch, again. Although our intiating ratio would be about 40/60 (latter being me), it’s me who is really interested I think, he mostly just replies to my texts (but always pretty quick), and he initiated contact a couple of times when he wanted to tell me something about himself, for instance his result of an exam we both took. After what happened today I think, I’ll wait if he will initiate contact, again… I’m so not sure about everything, please help. Is it hopeless?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 19, 2017 at 8:00 pm

Hi Ann,

actually, that was an emotional reaction from you.. his not your boyfriend and you assumed.. the ungettable way is to walk away politely and in high note, and then not blame him because you don’t know if what you think is true and then let him initiate.. talk about your feelings in person because you can control the tone and not sound like you’re being emotional. How often were you texting after the first meet? do you always end the conversation at high note? Right now, take a week before initiating again and always be the one to end the conversation at high note.

Ayano

May 15, 2017 at 5:17 pm

I had a talk in person with my ex after 2 months of NC, but unfortunately the talk was for us to get a closure of the breakup. That was his idea, since we didn’t end the rls well. It was weird… seeing him and feeling the emotion as if we were still in love. I don’t know about him, but my part still feel the spark between us. It has been deeply buried with his sadness and regret. Despite of saying he was out of love for me, his body language and eye contact said we’re still intimated. But I have less hope after the talk due to 2 reasons:

1. He was very keen on the thought of him being an asshole that he has mistreated me, and I deserve someone better. He said he made a rush decision of being with me out of loneliness. I asked him would he like to try again if a chance were given, he said: “Yes I would, but people will think I’m shameless.”
2. Another reason we had the talk was that I discovered he started this sort of ‘intimacy’ with his female friend in college short after we broke up. I feel like he’s being disrespectful to me, to our relationship. He’s an honest man tho. He insisted that he really likes her. He has been liking her since freshman year (during that time he was still in a LDR). But he didn’t cheat, he only considered her as a friend. That was same to his rls with me. But the point is… how can a ‘like’ got serious that quickly? Just ended a rls then quickly jump into a new chase. I broke this to him that he probably doesn’t even now what love is. He was upset, but didn’t say anything, because he knew I wouldn’t believe him. Eventually said he doesn’t want a rls right now. But it still hurts knowing he gives his heart to someone else so fast.

Ever since first contact, I’m always the one initiate the conversation, he has been distant and talk less. But I noticed that he still reminds me to sleep early every day (all our conversation happen at night), when I ask what’s his problem with my sleeping habit, he said he doesn’t want me to be hospitalized like him; He was annoyed when seeing the cut on my arm, sometimes asked about my family. Just minor and subtle signs, but does that mean he still care?

In our talk, he even said: “Do you know that you look beautiful in this angle?” I was surprised, but I decided to test by saying “Now I know, you still like me.” he was silent for a moment and added “As friends. Because you’re a nice girl. Too nice for me.”
Are ‘friends’ supposed to care for each other like that? He still loves me, isn’t he?

What should I do? My case is like no others. It’s so hard to get to him when he has closed his heart, and someone not a rebound got in the way. We’re still on talking term, but how can I get him back if he has accepted the end result?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 16, 2017 at 5:32 pm

he’s in a grass is greener case.. the bad thing is it’s obvious that you want him back because of your actions..there’s no chase.. so, you’re like friendzoned right now.. it’s either you move on or restart a 30 day nc, be really active in improving yourself, go out and do new things and make new friends and then take it slow in building rapport after nc, while you continue the activities you started during nc.. be an ungettable girl.

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