How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If You Have Children Together- The Complete Steps

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Tanya

February 12, 2014 at 9:13 pm

Hi Chris. I knw that you are a busy man but I think that I can us your help. I was with my ex for 6 1/2 years. No everything wasn’t perfect but we loved each other and we have a 3 year old daughter. He always says that I complain and nags too much. Well anyway a couple of months ago I found out he was cheating so I gave him all his things only for him to text me the next day saying he was sorry and wanted to work things out so I allowed him to come back. Well weeks later the same girl he was cheating with let him move in with her after a month of dating but everyday up until december he was lying to me telling me he was staying with his brother and that they had nothing going on. She the type of girl that loves attenetion so she post all of her business on facebook and thats how I found out about the two of them living together and still seeing each other. Once I found out that he was living with her I kept texting and calling him, which I now eewas a big mistake. On my birthday inboxed me on facebook saying he love me and all that but once he got off work and came over he went thru my phone and saw that I was texting this guy and he got mad and took his things with him but not everything. Last week was hi 4th time bringing this things back and forth to my house so I facebooked him because he hasnt had a phone since we broke up, I told him that I am not someone that he can he playing with if he dont know what he want to do. I also told him that we shouldnt communicate with each other if it doesnt have anything to do with our daughter and he replied ok. After 6 days of not talking to him he popped up at my house yeterday and was playing like we usually play when we was together. I really want him in our life but I also want him to know that I am not to be played with plus he has a girlfriend. I mean 6 1/2 years is a long time and to be honest I really mis him. So today I am going to start the MC all over again and I deactivated my facebook page so that he wont keep sending me mesages.

admin

February 14, 2014 at 2:47 am

Wow 6 years is a long time.

Ok, let me ask you what is YOUR overall gameplan. Like after reading all my stuff what is it that you are going to attempt to do. Lay it out for me.
Tanya

February 18, 2014 at 12:49 am

Thats my thing I really dont know what step to take. Now he’s texting and calling me telling me that I better not have no one around our daughter. He even scoop so low to pretend he was his girlfriend texting me trying to make me mad because he said that I was disrespecting him by talking to someone. I am really lot at this point
Tanya

February 18, 2014 at 12:51 am

I also try not talking to him but once I do that he just pops up at my house

melanie

February 12, 2014 at 7:01 pm

Ok so I’m trying to do Mc but he constantly wants to hang out and text about things other than our daughter even though he had a gf and also he’s constantly trying to have sex with me and yesterday he said “if I come home” and “if we have another child” what does this all mean and how do I respond to what he’s doing
jessica

February 10, 2014 at 11:55 pm

Me and my ex have 2 kids together our youngest is two months old, we split up a lil over two weeks ago, because he cheated.i took the kids and moved out.as stupis as it sounds I still love him.he hasnt come by to see them, but hes called to talk to my 2 yr old a few times.when I first his calls and txts were cold nd distant, but the last 2 times hes called and txt they were friendly, my 2 yr old has a bday coming up in a couple of weeks and he wants us nd all our kids to go do something together that will be the first time we see each other.what im getting at is I dont want to come off desperate, bit I fo want my family back.last night he txt me a picture of him nd his 2 other kids nd said they loved nd missed my daughter, to which I replied a few minutes later ill show her when I get home,nd that she loved nd missed them too . was that the right thing to do?

admin

February 11, 2014 at 12:52 am

I am sorry about the breakups.

I think that was fine.

Ash

February 7, 2014 at 12:49 am

Hi, okay so my childs father and I split up about 6 months ago. We argued all the time and there was no trust because he cheated while I was pregnant. I know everyone says I should let him go…but everyone makes mistakes. I want him in mine and our Childs life. I have tried to talk to him about us and all he says is “I want to be single for now” and “maybe we can work it out again one day” my question is should I give up on him and move on or what? He got sooooo jealous when he found out I started dating again and that made him act differently towards me like he wanted his family back but as soon as he found out me and the other guy stopped seeing each other he went back to the same @*% that he normally was. I’m just really confused. But I’m going to try the MC thing and see what happens.

admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:33 pm

I definitely think MC is a good idea.

deja

February 6, 2014 at 1:53 am

hi, ok my boyfriend broke up with me when I was pregnant because he said I was pushing him away cause of my hormones and I was nagging. Now he’s in a relationship with a much younger girl who basically NEVER argues with him and is still a “virgin” ive tried texting to tell him all id do to make a better relationship but now I see my tactics were wrong. Last time we discussed our relationship he told me he was in love with the girl but I don’t believe it because he got so jealous when he seen a text in my phone from a male friend saying “good morning beautiful” and after seeing the message he asked the girl to be his gf out of spite. He always says we need time an that if its meant to be then it’ll happen. can you give me your opinion on all of this cause I feel confident and im going to start my mc and ug process. can you give me some advice please!!

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:58 pm

Him saying that is a way a guy can string a girl along.
deja

February 7, 2014 at 12:28 am

Ok so what should I do? Cause I hate that he’s stringing me along he knows how much I love him and he claims he loves me still Idk cause I really want him back
admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:33 pm

He says he loves you and yet he won’t commit to you?
deja

February 7, 2014 at 6:55 pm

Yes he’s basically telling me to wait for him that he basically doesn’t want me to move on that he doesn’t want to lose me and that we need some time apart but he is constantly telling me he wants to come home but we should let time run its course…and I’m trying to do minimum contact but every time he’s around he wants to joke and play and be all touchy Feely and when I don’t show him the attention in text or in person he gets angry at me
admin

February 8, 2014 at 4:16 am

Man he seems like the child. Like he will throw a tantrum when he doesn’t get his way.
deja

February 8, 2014 at 5:54 am

And he does sometimes he never wanted for anything when we were together but now he’s basically sleeping on someone’s couch and living out of his car I provided a home for him but now he’s doing this I still love him and I want him can you please tell me what I should do
deja

February 9, 2014 at 2:25 am

And he does sometimes he never wanted for anything when we were together but now he’s basically sleeping on someone’s couch and living out of his car I provided a home for him but now he’s doing this I still love him and I want him can you please tell me what I should do

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sam

February 6, 2014 at 1:34 am

Hey chris i posted previously and could really use more advice! My fiance left me and our two babies two months ago, we talk daily but i try to keep it short, i followed your guide as best i could and within two weeks he was back! But it didnt last long saying hes inlove with the girl he got with right after we brokeup!:( . So its been two weeks sinse he moved back out and is seeing her again, she lies constantly and he makes excuses for her! What could be going on do u think? And what should my next step be?

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:53 pm

He sounds like a total jerk. How could he leave you with those two babies?

ARe you in NC?
sam

February 11, 2014 at 4:07 am

I try, i always get positive feedback during texts , and he sleeps over once a week for the boys , but always never endsup on the couch ( no sex) , he says if i ever have feelings for you again he’ll come home but right now he doesnt see that happening :/, and says he doesnt care what the other girl says or does cuz even though he loves her he doesnt want anything serious? What are my chances? What should my next move be?

Kylie

February 4, 2014 at 1:25 pm

Hi Chris,

Thanks in advance for reading my comment, I know you get overwhelmed each day with comments and emails but I would really love it if you could find the time to reply to this comment 🙂

I have taken your advice on here & I feel amazing!!! Today I felt I really captured the essence of being an ungettable girl. My friend convinced me to have a bub free day so I dressed up and went into town to enjoy a nice wine & lunch. I literally turned heads. I felt like a goddess. It was as if I had every man captivated by my presence. I just wish my ex was there to see it!!!

So here’s whats happened in my 30 day MC with my ex. My question is based on this do you think I am ready to send a “break the ice text” based on the following interactions with my ex;

1. Started MC with my ex. The last time we spoke he was very positive towards me but we did have some tension over the fact that I couldn’t see him when he was last in town which I know hurt him a lot as he missed out on seeing his daughter and I – we were both really sick.

2. Had to contact him reluctantly about our finances and some decisions I needed his input on with bub. He didnt respond but it was more me needing to keep him up to date with things.

3. I thanked him for his support in helping us – he did something nice for bub and I. He didnt respond.

4. Our baby took her first steps the day before MC was up so I wanted to share. He replied anxiously asking for a video. I didn’t capture it but responded a few hours later to let him know she was too quick but I am sure he will see her take a few steps soon when he sees her next. He didnt respond to that text which was yesterday. So I snapchatted him a pic of her doing something sweet as I had not sent him any pics in the last 29 days of her and I felt he may be angry at me for not seeing him the last time he was in town. He took a screenshot.

So based on this. Do you think I am ready to make contact? If so when would you advise? I have my text all prepared and I know it will invoke his favourite memories of us. I was going to use the “It made me think of you for the first time in a while, and it actually made me smile text.” In reference to his fave thing we used to do together.

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:55 pm

I think you are.. 🙂
Kylie

February 4, 2014 at 8:43 pm

Ok so when should I send this text?

Hurt in NJ

February 2, 2014 at 2:28 pm

Hi Chris
What’s worse physical or emotional cheating!

I love this website, it’s very informative. Just a bit of history we were dating for almost four years. We’ve known each other since high school he always liked me I never liked him I was the UG girl for him back then. I went to hs prom and we kept in contact over the years we lost contact and then reunited thru Facebook. Anyway me my boyfriend have a 2 year old together we started having problems last year and with each argument our relationship got worse and worse. I noticed he was getting texts early in the morning and late at night as well as phone calls so I looked thru his phone and found he was constantly communicating with one of his colleagues and some of the texts were suggestive and very flirty just inappropriate I confronted him and he was livid that I looked thru hs things anyway an argument happened and I found myself crying and begging him for forgiveness he was cold and started the ignore game that he did so often when we fought, when I asked if we were still a couple he said figure iit out and that he was not going to give me the satisfaction of telling me so I cried and begged more finally while surfing the net I came upon this site so I tried the NC rule and he became the text and phone gnat. He won me back with a beautiful poem so after one week I went back (BIG MISTAKE). We met a week ago had dinner and discussed some of our issues He was the same person I left he didn’t believe that he did wrong with the texts and flirting and even acknowledged the girl liked him but he said he couldn’t control her feelings that she knew about me and I have to trust him he said he may have went to far on some of the texts but I needed to trust him . In the end we argued again and he said find someone that could make you happy then would not give me money to travel home even though he had it ( we have a long distance relationship) so I went immediately back to the MC rule I haven’t spoken to him just allowed him to face time our son. He called almost every day for a week then stopped
My question to you is
What’s worse physical or emotional cheating? Both hurt !

Any advice

admin

February 2, 2014 at 6:56 pm

Worse is physical in my opinion.

Though emotional cheating is pretty hurtful as well.
Hurt in NJ

February 3, 2014 at 4:30 am

Ok Chris this is where I failed the last time, he keeps calling me like he did before not related to our child, how do I tell him I’m not ready to talk……
I mean it’s been a week he said so many hurtful things I’m using this time to see if I want this relationship because my self esteem is so low I mean I begged him not to leave me and when I asked about our relationship he said “figure it out” and “I’m not going to give you the satisfaction” I forgave him after a week then we argued and he said find someone that can treat you better…. Now the texts and the calls please advise anything will be helpful

Marie

January 31, 2014 at 5:18 am

Hello chris.. I know your a busy man. A few minutes of your time will be greatly appreciated.. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. We have a two year old son together. I did no contact for 30 days and now I been doing minimal contact for two weeks now so he can talk to our son.In those two weeks he have called about 4 times to talk to him. He doesn’t seem like he misses me at all. I think hes dating his ex before me,he has a seven year old daughter with her. I tried to make it seem like im unavailable at times but I dont think what im doing is working.What else can I do?. I did improved myself during the 30 days of no contact. I updated my wardrobe, gained 10 pounds (all the stress made me lose weight so I was really skinny) and worked on being a happier person.I need your good advice.. help me out please and thank you! 🙂

admin

January 31, 2014 at 6:46 pm

Have you tried reaching out yet?
Marie

January 31, 2014 at 8:00 pm

Thanks for replying :-)…Thats the part I need help with I dont know what to say or do to reach out to him. I do talk to him when he calls our son but the conversation is always about our boy. Can you give me some advice on how to reach out to him? I dont want to say the wrong thing and ruin my chances for good.
admin

February 1, 2014 at 6:29 pm

Make your text interesting… However, you don’t want it super emotionally charged. It’s a hard balance to maintain believe me.
Marie

February 1, 2014 at 10:17 pm

It sounds hard but I will try it…Thanks!
Marie

February 6, 2014 at 11:58 pm

So I texted him and he answered back but he changed the conversation and started talking about our son.I dont know what else to do.I cut the conversation short and told him I have to go and he didn’t answer.

kat

January 25, 2014 at 4:11 am

How long do you suggest I go into MC? We have a child, married, and I did every crazy ex girl thing you can possibly imagine when he left. Wish I got to your site waaaay sooner. 🙁

He blocked me on fb and instagram. Does this mean I have zero chance now?
jessica

January 24, 2014 at 5:14 am

I have an 11 month old,and my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years, we were 16/17 when we started goin out. We recently broken up cuz he was unhappy (he wanted a family and he had everything) and that he didn’t wanna hurt me if he ever cheated on me.

When my little one was born everything was fine. Till he would start goin out a lot and not spending time with us. I totally understand about him goin out to go work and have time for himself, but he would never help with the baby, spend quality time with us or me.

I’m not really sure if he’s trying to do this cuz we’ve been togetter for so long, and that he just wants to live the wild side for awhile, or mayb his just not that into me and wants to see what else is there.

My little one and I have moved out, and I let him see her every sunday with me there. During the week I don’t message him till he messages me on sunday. I really want our relationship to work out so we can be a family.

Not sure if I’m doin the right thing to give him his space and let him do his thing. I just need a guys point of view, and if I’m doin the right thing.

admin

January 24, 2014 at 6:24 pm

I think you are I really do.

Miss Anonymous

January 22, 2014 at 3:12 pm

Hi.. I have a two year old son with my ex boyfriend.He broke up with me in the beginning of november. I recently started to do minimal contact with him and I only let him talk to our son.He always asks to talk to me after he is done talking to our son.He gets on the phone with me and tells me he will call our son later that night.I make sure I end the conversation first and I dont answer anything that doesnt have to do with our two year old. A day ago he sent me a text message saying “Can you call me back plz need to ask you something.”I didnt answer but I wanted to know what he wanted to ask me so bad! He called 30 minutes after the text and I didn’t answer. He didn’t call our son all day yesterday. What do you think the text he sent me means? What can I say when he brings this up again? cuz I know he will.??

Miss Anonymous

January 23, 2014 at 5:34 am

He called our son today and ended up wanting to talk to me again. He apologized for leaving and said it was a mistake. I tried to make the conversation short and he asked me why im pushing him away.I dont understand, im so confused!This guy is driving me crazy!I been trying to be really nice to him even though im so angry he left his family.If he wants me back why haven’t he said it already?! What do I do next? Please help I want my family together again

abby

January 15, 2014 at 8:10 pm

am 24.had a rtshp for 2 yrs.got pg and later my ex dumped me..he lives in europe but i went bck to my country in africa..he has been supporting me..but have a new rtship immediatly i left him.all was my fault cos i kindof lied to him..so it broke his heart..but all he has been assisting in raising my bb who is 5 months old. i went wrong asking him forgives and begging him bck..i feel bad at the moment cos have shown him the wrong side of me. all he told me 2 wks ago..just go away and live yo life. yesterday i asked him ok..can yu plis send me my belongings..he replied well..then asked if we were ok..i said yes thnx. then he said he misses how i usually talk to him.. ..is there a chance for me admin? plis advice.

admin

January 16, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Sure! Have you read this guide?

neeka

January 12, 2014 at 3:13 am

My ex left me an our 14month old almost 3 months ago for some waitress 3weeks after the breakup we started to talk an do stuff he would tell me he still loves me an misses our family well all of a sudden the homewercker turns crazy an turns him agsinst his whole family I have had reports to child protective services and I know its her but he thinks I’m doing it to myself I told him he can see our son but I dont want her around him its been 3 weeks since he has seen his son didnt even get him an xmas gift he doesn’t help out with anything an I found out a few days before xmas they are engaged after only 2months I’m so hurt I want our family back I don’t get how he just turned into a dead beat I need help and advice so please help

admin

January 12, 2014 at 6:13 pm

Well, are you going to do LC or NC?
neeka

January 12, 2014 at 6:23 pm

I am not contacting him at all do u think there is hope for us as a family he angry right now I just dnt like the fact the girl has turned him away from his family and son
neeka

January 12, 2014 at 6:31 pm

Also I do not feel like I should have to contact him to see his son regaurdless he needs to step up an be a man for his son do you think I should do the 30 days or more also I am starting to loose weight an actually get dressed and go to dinner an make friends it had helped a lot but I do miss the ass we have been through so much I was there for him the whole time he was in prison even consieved our son while he was in there everyone one says he just needs to spread his wings because he was caged for so long an to be patient but i don’t get how he is already engaged after only 2 konths of being with that homewrecker
neeka

January 12, 2014 at 5:57 am

I have not tried to contact him nor have I tried to file for child support I just have been hoping that he misses his son enough to at least stop by and see him I was also wondering I moved to another state to be with him and was thinking about going back home thats3000 mi away from him I don’t see the point in stayin here if he’s not even gunna be a fatherto his only son

me

January 4, 2014 at 12:18 am

Been split up with my ex bf for 4 months now. we have a 5yr old child together. We were together almost 8 yrs. He left out of the blue. About 2 months before he left he asked me to marry him. He is now with his 4th gf since me and has moved in with her after dating her a week. She is an ex gf of his before we met. They only dated 3 months. Since he has been with his current gf they been together 2 months now he has been an asshole to me and wants nothing to do with our daughter but yet he taking me to court for her. I dont get it. We dont talk at all nor does he talk or see our daughter. His choice not mine. Do you think the still is hope? Yes I have read all of your articles amd have been in no contact for over a month. Only talked when we had mediation for our daughter. What do you suggest I do? Think there is still a chance? He treats his gf and her kid better than he has ever treated me and hisnown daughter. Does things for her he has never done for us. He has changed his whole life since he got with her. Adivice please.

admin

January 4, 2014 at 6:48 pm

Man.. I am really sorry to hear this. Your heart must be breaking. I can’t imagine the pain you must feel.

You have my respect.

I am thinking that self improvement at this point is your best offense. I have found that men sometimes go on these dating sprees after a breakup but usually end up coming back when they realize they never had it as good as they had it with you.
me

January 5, 2014 at 2:45 am

I have done self improvement. Ive lost 40lbs, changed my hair and such. Ive given up drinking, and doing alot of other personal improvements with myself. I feel really good. Just taking everything a day at a time and focusing on me and my daughter and see what happens. I try not thinking about him but its hard not to when my daughter always brings him up. Thanks for your advice.
me

January 22, 2014 at 12:45 am

How do you suggest me getting in contact with my ex since its going on 2 months of no contact. I dont have his new number, email, he has me blocked on FB and he has his gfs moms house for an address. How am I supose to get in contact with him? He has contacted me today through his mother, but wont contact me directly. His mom said he was going to call me today at 2 and he never did. Im lost and confused right now. He is throwing his gf in everyones face saying she is the greatesr thing thats ever happened to him Bragging about her to everyone. This is so hard for me to deal with. He still has nothing do do with our daughter as well. What should I do now? I feel there is no chance of us being together again and being a family 🙁

SoConfused

January 2, 2014 at 8:45 pm

I have been with my guy since 2006. I have 1 child that he has raised (she was 4 in 2006) and we have 2 others. We are not “officially” broken up yet but I can see it coming. He is so unusual. He doesn’t “cheat”. If he feels that he is no longer “feeling me” he tells me. He will be with other girls and say “I am doing what I want to do. I’m a grown a$$ man.” But this is only if we’re at the point were we are not in a relationship. He calls me a nag and fake because I put on a happy face in front of anyone who is not in our home if we are not quite “happy”. He is upset because I found out while we were “on the outs” he was trying to date a girl from his job. Once we decided to work on things he cut all contact (they work different dhifts). I have not had to questions him cheating but his financial situation is not good and casues most of our issues because I won’t just submit to him being low on funds and giving him money. ($$Biggest issue) He is infuriated with me right now (even though I feel I should be upset) about me cursing him out(which I have done maybe twice in 7 years though he has several times) and about the fact that he lost something that he thinks I took from him (LOL really).I’m unsure if trying to repair our relationship(which by reading your page is not nearly as bad as some) because I’m so tired of the same issues never being resolved and his unwillingness to talk about problems. Like I said, we are not broken up yet, so I am trying to figure out how I diffuse his anger or how I leave him for good with our 3 children. So confused about it all.

admin

January 3, 2014 at 7:45 pm

If you aren’t broken up why don’t you just talk to him about the shift you are feeling. Get it on the table and talk it out.

Sabrina

December 30, 2013 at 1:37 pm

Me and my ex were together 8 yrs. We have a 2 yr old son together. We had a few issues over the years, but nothing serious. The last few months before we broke up back in October, things were different between us. He was cold and didn’t want to even talk to me. He just sat in a chair and would constantly text other women. I brought up the conversation of breaking up because i was tired of his distance and being ignored. Literally the day we broke up he put on his facebook he was dating a girl he claimed was just a friend. We barely talked at all the first month unless it was about our son. We had been talking about reconciliation but he keeps stringing me along saying he’s breaking things off with her and yet, nothing. I am so lost on what to do.
sarah

December 29, 2013 at 5:23 am

So this article had me thinking alot…except my situation isnt just that he is my ex. We were together for a year when i got pregnant. At first, he was really excited about it and we were planning on getting an apartment together after my lease at the dorm is up. He never showed any signs of leaving or anything. His parents have always hated me and when they found out i was pregnant they started pushing him to leave me. Im a little over three months pregnant now and two weeks ago he left me and got with another girl three days later. He basically told me he wants nothing to do with me anymore and will just see the child when its born because he thinks we will “parent better separately”. This is so unlike him though. I dont know how to get him back when he spends every day with his new girlfriend and doesnt even seem too concerned about the pregnancy anymore. It was so out of the blue for him to leave. We had a few small fights the week before we broke up…but hes always been one to want to “work things out”. I dont know how to approach him now because he seems like such a completely different person than who he was just two short weeks ago. If hes running away from this…do i still have a chance at the family i always planned him being a part of?

admin

December 29, 2013 at 7:06 pm

Sure seems like he is having a freakout though…
sarah

December 30, 2013 at 5:22 am

I dont see why he thinks getting a new girlfriend is the way to deal with being scared. He couldve just told me he was scared and we wouldve taken it step by step to make sure hes easing into it (except hes always the type to run from feelings and problems. He learned from his parents if he just ignores the problem it will eventually go away). Except this baby isnt just going to go away. And his new girlfriend gets mad if he wants to go to doctors appointments with me so he ends up not going even if he tells me he wants to. Im afraid he wont man up and just accept that hes having a baby. I think he might just try to keep running further and further. And i definitly do not like that he lets his new girlfriend keep him from being involved in the pregnancy. I know its not all her fault…but she definitly complicates my situation. Do the steps still work the same for me?

sarah

December 25, 2013 at 3:58 pm

My ex and I have been together for 4 years and have a two year old. He left 4 weeks ago. Only time we talk is about our daughter. We have apartment together and our lease isn’t up yet so I took over bc everything in the aprtment is mine. Anyways he won’t get the rest of his stuff out like his tv clothes. And he won’t give the key back. He just jumped into another relationship after 3 weeks. Family and friends ask question about me like u miss her? You still love her? Are you completely over her? And he doesn’t reply. He keeps giving me money towards the rent and still takes care of his daughter. I’m so confused. He said he will always loves me and he misses everything. I don’t know what to do. I can’t get myself to meet anyone else. I miss him and still love him.

admin

December 26, 2013 at 6:08 pm

Have you started NC?

Ashlynn

December 23, 2013 at 9:47 pm

So me and my baby’s dad had a very abusive relationship for about a year, he attacked me a few times, I got the cops involved and he would degrade me all the time,cheat on me and treat me like ****. After we broke up i found out i was pregnant and he and his gf contacted me telling me to abort and i was a whore, a slut and a cunt mind you he got a new gf 2 days after we broke up. He’s had like 6 gfs while i was pregnant and alone.He would have his friends called me talking ****. Then he contacted me telling me to keep the baby and he loved me and would sleep with me and cheat on his gfs with me, on mothers day while i was pregnant he kicked me out the house, on fathers day he had some girl call me when i went out of my way to pick up a fathers day card for him and was pregnant at the time. He made me feel worthless and ignored me when i needed him the most. He ruined my property and called me such horrible names, he went to strip clubs when i was due in 3 weeks and he sweet talked me into getting back with him to be a family for our baby and i did. He didn’t bring flowers to the hospital when i gave birth, he didn’t pick me and the baby up from the hospital when it was time to leave, he just came to put his name on the BC and have his last name. I eventually had him come get me from my parents house and i stayed with him for a bit and i thought we were okay, when our baby was 2 weeks old he with to a party leaving me and baby home alone, the host of the party with this girl he was messing around with while i was pregnant, than i found like 4 more girls he was talking to and i kicked him out the house one day. Then his father had this talk with us when our baby was 2 months and he admitted to talking to girls even then… so for a month he was good, we got into one fight where he spilled milk on my face from the baby’s bottle, and i got mad at him for not spoiling me or supporting me and my parents were paying for everything then we basically ended up breaking up..i basically told him to either pay my bills or pay for child care so i could work and he basically refused both so i broke up with him but it was a stupid fight that snowballed out of the control for no reason, then i missed him, called him crying and begging him to come back which i know wasn’t a good idea, i probably sent a thousand text messages and i was so mad but i recently just stopped everything, there is no court order so he isn’t seeing the baby and i don’t respond when he asks about the baby either. A part of me feels like we’re too different and have been through so much “negative past relationship”, always fighting,to get back together and he’s been so horrible to me that i can’t forget the past but i want so bad for my baby to have a dad, a family and want him back but he’s ignoring me, not talking, refuses to come around to see the baby if i’m there, won’t respond to my text messages. I started the NC/MC 5 days ago and I’ve only gotten one text asking about the baby nothing else. Not sure if its worth trying for at this point.

admin

December 24, 2013 at 6:58 pm

May I ask why you want him back… He seems a bit unstable to me…
Ashlynn

December 24, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Honestly it’s for my child. I really don’t believe in blended families or broken homes and don’t believe children should be bouncing around from home to home. My culture is very different and maybe that’s why our divoce rates are so low because we keep families together and try to help change people. Children of broken homes go on to create more broken homes
admin

December 26, 2013 at 5:38 pm

I understand…

I guess the thing is that in order to get him back you have to make stuff about him sometimes.
Ashlynn

December 28, 2013 at 8:49 pm

He is treating me like a friend and keeps telling me he wants me to be happy. I tried NC and he ended up asking about the baby and I answered … Should I do MC or NC, he doesn’t seem to wanna be with me at all
admin

December 29, 2013 at 6:38 pm

Well, it is ok to tell him about the baby if absolutely necessary.
Ashlynn

December 30, 2013 at 4:56 am

I cracked like an egg and told him that I missed him, he replied with I miss my kid :-0 I feel like a fool wow
Ashlynn

December 24, 2013 at 1:22 am

Its been a month since we’ve broken up

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