How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Speak To You- Get Him Talking Again

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Kailee

April 10, 2015 at 12:50 am

So my ex boyfriend broke up with me at the end of January and it is April. He is good friends with my brother and a few people I know, and after the break up, some stuff went down. We unfollowed/unfriended each other on social media websites and I even blocked him at one point because I couldn’t trust him and didnt want to give him access to my life. A lot of words were said that I know neither of us meant, so we met up and talked about it and apologized. That was late February. We haven’t talked ever since. I went on a trip over spring break and noticed that he favorite one of my tweets on twitter- but he hadn’t followed me back yet? So I’m guessing he was on my profile? Then about a week later he followed and I followed him back again. He’s never on facebook, so there was no point adding him back there. I’ve kept the NC rule in mind and have stuck to it. I’ve worked on myself physically, bought some new clothes, and went on a few dates with some of my great guy friends in this time period. But I want him back. Our relationship ended because we fought pretty often and he felt like he wasn’t giving me what I deserved, he thought he was a terrible boyfriend, and he didn’t think he was good enough, so he broke it off and thought it best for me because he was tired of hurting me, when he didn’t, he just worked really often and I didn’t get to spend much quality time with him that I wanted, so we fought about it. He hasn’t dated anyone since then. I’m not 100% sure, but we have most of the same friends, my brother is a friend of his, so I’m pretty well informed. I see him often- we live in the same neighborhood, attend the same college, have 2 classes together (in which, we both catch eyes and glance at each other pretty often). I want to text him, get him to want me somehow, get him to want to talk to me again, and show him the fun me, the me he fell in love with when we didn’t fight so much, show him that he is good enough for me and this could work. What should I say to him?
Yasmin

April 6, 2015 at 12:59 am

my ex and i were togeather for over a year and i honestly rhought we were gonna be togeather forever. it was that unconditional type of love, anyway he started pushing me away and i felt like he was hiding how he felt, then we broke up because of somthing that happened before we started dating (and i was quite ashamed of it so i wasent compleatly clear to him about it) we remained friends kind of and he found a new girl but i can tell hes not happy, he suddnly stoped talking to not only me but many of his friends. how can i get him to see how much i still care for him an such. i dont wanna seem needy or anything.
Catt

April 5, 2015 at 12:49 am

hey,
I wanted to know if this could work for me. My ex and I were together for almost two years and we broke up in February. We tried to be friends (his idea) but he started seeing someone else soon after the break up. I tried to talk to him a few times which he only responded twice. So after almost two months do you think NC rule can work? I’m only on the third day!
thanks 🙂
sarah

April 4, 2015 at 11:02 pm

what can i do if my ex boyfriend promised that he wont ever contact me and i promised him the same during our break up? please help. its confusing me. note: i never begged him during our break up nor have i contacted him, its been 11 days since our break up.
Nicole

April 3, 2015 at 6:37 pm

My bf told me he needed sometime and space and that now he wanted to be alone. After the breakup, I didn’t speak to him The first week and he went all crazy, but then I made this mistake to talk to him. Then, I was the one who went all crazy telling him and begging him to back. 6 days ago I decided to stop talking to him but he hasn’t reach out anymore. He posts photos and seems very happy, si I don’t know if he Just gor tired, or definetly doesnt want me anymore, or if he is Just faking it, but him not talking to me is killing me because I feel like he’s moved on and doesn’t think about me anymore.
simona

April 3, 2015 at 12:35 am

since we broke up we remain kind of friends after, but then he saw me hanging out with a guy friend of mine that he had never met.. Anyway he stopped talking to me and i did too, now its been almost 40 days since our last conversation, everytime i see him outside he acts as if he doesent know me and i do too.
The thing is i miss him and i am not comfortable with the whole situation, he has a bad caracter and gets angry quickly thats why im afraid to talk to him and gets rejected
How can i know if he still has feelings for me too? and What should i do to make him talk to me again?
Cassie

March 29, 2015 at 12:44 pm

I never made it the full 30 days for no contact, so I know that is my first step. But, after going to a different country and spending 2.5 weeks with this guy, he decided we were no longer going to be monogamous, and that he didn’t know if he was ready for a relationship (however, he claimed we had been in one for the past 3 months). Confusing, I know! He hadn’t been in a relationship in a really long time, but he was the one who suggested we can make the long distance thing work. He wanted me to wait until summer (this was back in early February), and I tried to go along with it, but he didn’t give me anything to hold onto for hope. I then told him I couldn’t talk to him or be friends because I needed to move on. Now he won’t even talk to me, and I’m fairly certain he blocked my number after I asked him for closure so I didn’t bring any residual stuff into the relationship with the new guy I’m seeing. I want him back, but it feels like there is too much damage done. I’ve apologized for my part in the mess, but he has no interest in responding to me. I’m going to counseling and working on myself in the mean time, but I either want him in my life or to completely move on because this limbo situation is torture!

admin

March 29, 2015 at 1:59 pm

Which one do you want more of at this point?

To Get him back?
Cassie

March 29, 2015 at 9:04 pm

Yes, very much. I’ve tried being with other guys, and the feeling just isn’t the same.

#foreveralone

March 27, 2015 at 3:45 am

So my ex broke up with me last year and id really like to be friends with him the thing is everytime i try to get close to him he walks always
Ali

March 25, 2015 at 8:22 pm

I have been seeing someone for 3 months, but he only wanted to be friends+, but he was fair and told me about it right from the start. But anyway, I “had the feeling” that he likes me more than just a friend, but to protect myself, I said I don’t want to continue this “relationship” and then I went NC for 1 month.

He messaged me on day 28, after that I followed all your tips about how to text him etc. and it all went really great (thanks for that 🙂 ). But after a while he started to ask if I want to go back to friends+…I said no and repeated the reason that I already told him before NC. Since then he got quite cold and distant. I asked if what was wrong and he said nothing, but he still didn’t reach out to me for a week.

Should I let it go? I don’t know if he is giving me a silent treatment or if he was only interested in sex and now doesn’t care? I don’t want to ask him again. Can you help please?

admin

March 31, 2015 at 8:08 pm

Actions speak louder than words.

What are his actions saying?

Seems like he is very sexual and wants FWB. Has he always been this way though?
Ali

April 1, 2015 at 1:15 pm

He always said that he doesn’t want a relationship, but he texted me every day and was very nice and sweet. But when I ended things recently, he just said “I’m sorry”, nothing else…
I really liked him, but he was so different during the last weeks. So I don’t know if another NC makes sense or should I just let it go?
Ali

March 30, 2015 at 6:51 pm

I decided to break off contact with him. Should I do the NC again or do you think this is a dead end anyway?

April

March 24, 2015 at 8:54 pm

I’ve been reading this over and over again. And I need help my boyfriend and I broke up a week ago we’ve been together for two years and we haven’t talked since Saturday I choose to leave him cause he kept telling me he isn’t sure if he wants to be with me or he says he doesn’t and then later on adds but I don’t know how I’ll feel later on though and as of now I’m starting to feel like an option he said he could pick me up whereever I am and get back together with me if he wanted to. So I returned all his stuff to him. I’m really upset and I don’t know how or if he’ll ever come back he said he still loves me and still has all of the love letters I have to him I also returned the promise ring he gave me a year ago. We’ve been together for two years one of my big problems was that I act on impulse we were on and off cause of me I countless amount of times apologized to him and he said I have to deal with the repercussions of my actions. I really need help and advice and if there is any way I can get him back
Anon

March 24, 2015 at 6:20 am

What happens if you pass the 90 days. Is it just too weird at that point?

admin

March 25, 2015 at 8:32 pm

Its a little long but you can still reach out.

Dawn M

March 23, 2015 at 8:19 pm

My ex broke up with me a few days after Christmas on the phone. I have done it all.. over texted, cried the no contact rule…now the second chance letter. I did talk to me within the first few weeks of the break up but nothing now. Tried to cute text to ask a question, or give a memory but nothing. I dont know what to do….I know this is the man I’m destin to be with, but it was family that got in our way…not use what more to do, we are also long distance since he moved back to our home town…5 hours away…. How do I get him back? he was my first love at 9 and my last at 49 🙁 Please Help
Brooke

March 21, 2015 at 6:56 pm

So I’m a senior and so is he. This is our last year in high school. Last year he had a different gf, but they broke up in October. We started dating a few months after and now prom is coming up.. We went dress shopping and talked about going together although he never officially asked me. I broke up with him on Monday and I completely regret it. Wednesday I sent him a text. He was of course hurt and wasn’t replying extremely fast, but he was also at work. I told him the truth as to why I broke up with him so he’s not completely clueless anymore. I told him I regret my decision and everything as been put into perspective and I’m really motivated to be a happier person. He was too hurt by the blindsided break up. He said he needs time to think about it. I told him okay and to take all the time he needs. I started to read into this and I realize I made a mistake if I want him back. He has to have no power. I took it away from him last night. I made him choose then (in person) we talked for about an hour and then he had to be somewhere. He really had troubles making up his mind, but in the end he said he’s just not ready to begin again (understandable). We have 3rd block together (he sits behind me) and lunch together. I don’t know what to do about the NC. And prom is April 16th. I already have someone else who wants to go with me, but I cannot go my only prom with someone I don’t care about. What do I do? There is not enough time for 30 days of no communication.

admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:25 pm

Is this more about Prom or getting him back?

Also, you rprom seems so early…
Brooke

March 21, 2015 at 7:00 pm

I’m also friends with the boy who sits right next to my ex. He also knows that I already have someone asking me. I’m going to tell the other boy that I need a week or two to think about it, considering it just happened Monday
Brooke

March 21, 2015 at 7:03 pm

Just kidding. Prom is May 16
admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:25 pm

Ok, now that makes more sense.

jovi

March 21, 2015 at 1:49 pm

Hey,
So me and my ex broke up in December. I was very calm about it. I just asked him to think over it and left it at that. So I ignored him for a few days and he texts me every five days saying he changed his profile pic on fb, asking me about the party i went to and even asking me if I called him when he knows I didn’t. I replied to all those texts a day after they were sent. I finally decided to go NC but after a few weeks the full effect of the break up hit me and I msgd him and basically acted desperate. I asked his friends if I was a rebound coz the reason for the break up was he “lost feelings”. He got angry and now he’s calmed down a little bit. I went NC again but when I see him on campus I say hi and he says hi back though he avoids eye contact. So NC ends in two days and I’m wondering what to text him.
Lita

March 21, 2015 at 12:03 am

Well in my situation. I have talked to my ex everyday and asked him to hangout and he wants to untill that time comes. something always comes up. Today we were going to watch a movie and when i got off work i messaged him and said “come over” he replied “im still at work” so I said “what time do you get off”?He said” Idk like 6 but I cant do anything to night I have to help my uncle” So I just said K. He saw it and never replied and Im not sure how to get him to be as crazy about me as I am him. I want to send him another message asking to hangout again
but I do not want to look Desperate. Can you help?

admin

March 22, 2015 at 4:44 pm

Make it a hangout among friends so it doesn’t seem so threatening.

Danielle

March 18, 2015 at 5:10 pm

Ahhhh! So I Found myself in a mess. And I’ve been reading over and over and over on this site. So I’m on day 19 of no contact. And I’m going crazy. I miss him like crazy. I’ve actively been volunteering in my community and hitting the gym everyday. I’ve advoided bars or any activity that involves getting drunk. Just to stay busy. I want to believe that he was my person. It’s the only person I’ve ever considered marrying and spending my life with. But I put that into jeopardy when I decided to hang out well ran into a ex of mine and had a drink. He took this hard when he found out considering I think he’s always been jealous of the ex. I don’t want to be him. And did everything I could to reassure him of this. I even went as far as moving back home, putting myself into therapy, and breaking up with friends that were honestly just no good for me. I can tell my heart is diffrent and honestly this whole space thing has been great for me as well. It’s given me the time I needed to think. I’m not more certain than ever that I want him back. But I don’t know what to do. No matter how many times I read this. I still have some of his personal belongings including his house key as well as I have some of his. And there has never been talk of an exchange at all. I wrote him a letter after 6 days of no contact but I honestly didn’t know we were not talking haha. The last thing he said to me was I can’t do this right now. This whole thing is bazaar to me. And I just want a little insight about what you think. Thank you:)

admin

March 18, 2015 at 9:27 pm

Haha well I am glad that I hooked you on this site but lets see if we can get your ex boyfriend hooked on you.

Not a big fan of the letter writing to be honest.

Also not a big fan of only lasting 6 days in NC.
Danielle

March 18, 2015 at 9:45 pm

Haha I know. Believe me when I say I’ve never acted this way or ever been the type of girl to turn to a website. I’ve got it bad. The NC has surprisingly gotten easier considering I had more to think about than I thought. Basically I think you’re a genuis. And I’m a pretty smart, confident woman myself. I’m also confident that I belive this guy could be the one. I’ve taken your advice to heart. But honestly this sucks. Where do I go from here.
P.s I’ve told alllll of my clients about this site in hopes it will help them! Hahah I’m a hairstylist and often people ask me for advice and I’m like go to this website for all of your future needs! Haha!

jus

March 4, 2015 at 9:07 am

Hi I was wondering if the program works even after we’ve been apart for a long time with my ex. Also I can’t contact him cuz he has blocked me on every social app

admin

March 5, 2015 at 8:39 pm

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/

L

March 3, 2015 at 11:09 pm

Hey, well basically me and my ex broke up he did eventually start talking to be again told me he missed me and in most cases flirted with me with in 3 weeks he has a new girlfriend (obviously rebound) he blocked me from Facebook but a mutual friend told me about him getting her flowers for valentines day. He recently got back in touch with me and said that he hasn’t deleted me from blackberry messenger he just deleted the app an that now he has it back. It’s been nearly two months since our break up and I still have very strong feelings for him and the next thing is how can I get him back after this?

admin

March 5, 2015 at 8:02 pm

Well, I would first like to direct you to this page before anything else,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-has-a-girlfriend-version-2-0/

Cec

March 2, 2015 at 1:08 am

Hey,
My 30 days NC is finishing on the 3rd of March and I was thinking of waiting few days more and send him my first text to open the line of communication:
“Ciao , long time no talk! I hope you are doing great 🙂 I just wanted to ask you if you remember the name of that very good pizza place we went together in Milan?”

He lives in Milan and not me so I think that maybe he will ask himself why I want the name of that place and think I’m in his city? Do you think it will spike interest? I want to add that he broke up with but the break up was not bad at all and NC occurred directly.

Is it a good first text? Let me know if it’s ok. I’m super nervous..
If you don’t think it’s good, what can I send instead? I don’t feel comfortable with the confession text and I have nothin to confess 😉 thanks!

admin

March 2, 2015 at 9:35 pm

Too forward…

Maybe something reminded you of that time in Milan together?

Try that.
Cec

March 2, 2015 at 10:28 pm

Thanks for your reply!
I’m not sure what to write. If I say something in the lines of : “this” reminded me of our time in “x city” and put a smile on my face.. Is that too forward aswell? I mean we havnt talk for a month and our last convo was the breakup.. So it’s weird. It doesn’t spike interest and doesn’t need response.. What do you think? I’m really not good at texting and I’m afraid of that 1st text..

“Ciao A, long time no talk! I hope you are doing well. I was showing to a friend some pictures and one of them was a pic of our trip in Thailand, it reminded me of you and put a smile on my face 🙂

Is that ok? Please let me know I don’t want to screw any chance I have to at least open comm…

Romina

March 1, 2015 at 7:34 pm

Ok so I never heard about the No Contact Rule until I read this page, but I haven’t talk text call or even looked at him for two months now which it has been hard because we have a class together everyday in school, yet at the beginning of the break-up I was really happy and I enjoyed my life , I met so many people and I had a blast , but now I been dreaming about him and I’m even starting to miss him a lot! Now I would totally go with the “I have a confession to make …” Text but I’m too proud for that and he is too!! We both have a lot of pride , and although he might miss me too I know he would just “tough it up” because that is what he does !! I really don’t know what to do !! Pleased help!!

admin

March 2, 2015 at 9:23 pm

Educate yourself on all the aspects of NC because you also have to know when not to use it too.
admin

March 2, 2015 at 9:23 pm

Educate yourself on all the aspects of NC because you also have to know when not to use it too.

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