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Ronnie
August 10, 2014 at 9:48 am
Hi,
I was with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. He moved to another city and somehow ( in retrospect, I don’t know why) we never discussed how the relationship is going to work long distance. We were young too. And I was uncaring. I found another person to hang out with. I was emotionally distraught due to my personal goals,studies and just wanted emotional fulfillment. My Boyfriend( now ex) is the only one I have ever met who loved me for who I was. Anyhow I kept in touch with him. We used to call each other and it was great. I always thought I would end up with him and my other relationships are you know just a phase. We were always friends first. Around 2009 I found out he got married. He did not tell me. I thought okay, I congratulated him. We stayed friends. I found someone. I was in love too and so it was fine. We stayed in touch. I used to call him. Discuss things and he was always a gentleman. I was never good in making friends and my ex was the only constant in my life.
One day I called him and I think his wife picked up his phone. And I handled that situation poorly. I disconnected. I got a callback at work and I was very busy at that time and so I didn’t answer. Late in the evening I received a call from my ex and he did not respond to a word I said and tells me that he will never speak with me again. So I shouldn’t call him and he will not call me either. No other words! And disconnected.
I know his wife told him not to speak with me anymore. Perhaps as a wife I may ask that from my husband too ( may be) to not be in touch with his ex. I know he was always such a sweet guy that he would do everything for the woman he married. But it makes my heart ache.
Since that day ( end of 2009) till today (2014) we haven’t talked. I got married too in between to the guy I love, who is not always there for my 60 percent emotional needs ( like you have written in your other articles) but he is great.
But I constantly miss my friend. If anything happens in my life, I want to share it with him. I miss how he was always able to make me laugh, motivate me to be the best that I can be at work and my personal life. I somehow don’t get it from the man I am deeply in love with. And than I wonder what is love? I helped my ex through the toughest part of his life. We were together. We had so much less but we had so much more fun. Our tough times became so easy with each others shared interests and love and compassion for each other. And now its no longer there.
I have no contact with him at all. I sent him a mail once and never got a response.
I think he is involved in his family life that he has no time to sit and think about me. I miss him perhaps because I have free time. I have to start occupying myself and not think about any of it.
But I was wondering, do people really come into our lives and go from our lives like this? Will I ever be able to speak to him or hear his voice or give him a hug? Will he ever call me the name he used to call me? I don’t know and there is nothing I can do.
So that is all. I just wanted to somehow write this. As you see I have lost a friend and a part of myself. I just always took it for granted that we both will be there for each other for forever and never told him that and he moved on from me.
admin
August 11, 2014 at 11:38 am
How old are the two of you now?
sonu
July 14, 2014 at 2:14 am
Hi help me now please….
I was in a 2 month relation with my boyfriend,he confessed that he loves me when I was not even thinking about him, There is a 10 year age diffenece between him n me and I am older , he is single and i am divorced , he convinced me that he is in love with me , after the fact that I I couldnt help but fell in ove with him , off course we had our intimate time, on a day when I was in the hospital for my daughter , I expected him to followup on me and he was a bit careless about it and I got upset with him, its beena month now, that he has completely ignored me, does not answer my callsm does not respond to my missed calls, emails , nothing , I am going nuts and I spilled some most horrifying texts that he used me , blah blah blah , now he does not want me to call him or meet him, he does not express at all, he thinks that him, his thoughts, his life is of no importants to me, but thats absolutely not true… its been 1 complete month that he has ignored me, its my day 2 of NC rule…please let me what should I do… sometimes I feel why am I so restless for him if he does not even care for me any more? he was the one to confess first that he loves me but now it feels like he wants me out of his life , its very hard to live without him as in the 1 month we shared so much love and now I am incomplete without him, I truly love him but when I was upset I yelled my mind off with some pretty harsh words … he just ignored him like it does not bother him…what do i do, i havent slept well in one month, this thing hurts big time, pls suggest /?/
Lee
July 9, 2014 at 9:39 pm
I’ve been doing the no contact rule and now its going to be a month. I’ve been doing everything that you suggested and I believe I’m ready. I was looking at the examples you’ve provided for text I’m not sure which one you suggested on doing? because you have shown variety of messages. Ive been also doing the Micheal Fiore “text your ex back” as you also suggested but i recently got it to take my next step in connecting with him with the right text messg but in his module since it goes by the days one actually gets the program it doesn’t give me any text examples till i reach 30 months again. Which text do you suggest i do first? any other that Micheal Fiore has suggested to be the first one to do that you suggest since ive also read you yourself are a fan of his work.
admin
July 10, 2014 at 2:28 pm
I would suggest following this layout: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-version-2-0/
Tina
July 8, 2014 at 2:44 am
Few months ago boyfriend broke up with me and he asked us to be friends but i couldnt handle it and messed things up .while drunk once I asked him once to come over but he made a big deal about it and that he s dating a new girl. The next time i saw him in a pub i just hugged him and said hi normally as if nothing happened. I changed number and whatsapped as a broadcast the new one but no response the same night saw him in pub but didnt show him that i saw him to c if he says hi but he didnt. What should i do next? Advices would be really helpfull… I do want him to talk to me again.
admin
July 8, 2014 at 2:36 pm
Is he really dating someone else?
Tina
July 10, 2014 at 1:34 am
No he isnt its just talks. What should i do? What to text what to say? Or how shuld i really react?
ex playing hard to get
June 26, 2014 at 12:39 am
i’m dying! he is taking at least 2-6 hours to answer my texts, sometimes more than 24 hours! But the strange thing is when i’m not contacting he do look after me, and when i’m contacting him again he start playing! wtf?
admin
June 26, 2014 at 3:29 pm
Well, why don’t you take a day to respond to him then.
Laura
June 25, 2014 at 3:14 am
Hi, i need an advice. i saw my exboyfriend today for the first time after we broke up. he walked next to me, but i was so nervous that i act like was in using my phone. he was with a friend and i hear he said hey in a silnet tone, but didnt do anyting. is good if i text him? and if i text him what should a say?
admin
June 25, 2014 at 5:20 pm
have you completed NC?
Blaquebella
June 23, 2014 at 4:17 pm
I have been dating this man for almost 1 year I have already had to use the no contact rule on him back in march. He came running back when he thought he lost me. We had a falling out on June 2 and I have not heard from him since it is now 21 days and he has not called or txt me. I have not contacted him either because I guess I am putting him on the NC rule to get him to come to me.It is really hard this time because I am not so sure if I am in the wrong or he is because I was drunk when we had the falling out. I really miss him and I really do love him should I call him or should I wait till he contacts me or should I wait out the 30days pls help me………
admin
June 24, 2014 at 6:36 pm
What caused the falling out?
Caitlin
June 20, 2014 at 12:54 am
Hi, my long distance boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. We’ve been together for a year and met working together at a sleep away camp for 3 months last summer. We bonded much closer and quicker to ham normal couples because of this, and it’s just something that is really hard to explain to anyone who never went to camp, but the relationships you make there are special and tighter than any relationship you could make at home, school, or work. The problem? He’s from Ireland and I’m from nj. After last September when camp ended he came with me to my school down in virginia and stayed a week before heading back to ny for his flight home. During this week, he took my virginity, I took his, and he expressed that he wanted to be with me despite the distance and that if I wanted it as well, he wanted to make me his girlfriend and fly back to see me at Christmas. I said yes, not ever thinking I would end up in a real relationship after the summer, but he treated me so well and really wanted to make thigs work and I did too. He came at Christmas and everything was wonderful. It was the first time we said I love you, and he expressed his committment to me and how he still wanted to stay together. Breaking up was never a conversation. He would talk to me about out future and how he wanted to spend it with me and that he was currently trying to find his way back to AmericA for the summer with another job that would give him a visa. A few months later, around feb/march, I booked my ticket to go see him in Ireland and mee his family. Around the end of March, communication starts to die off a little in terms of we weren’t Skyping every single week, or texting as often, but still throughout the day. I thought it may have just been attributed to end of semester stress finals and working two jobs. As I talked to him tho, I could see that he was getting frustrated and depressed that he wasn’t finding anywhere to work in America for the summer. Eventually during a skype call, he said that coming to America for the summer wasn’t going to be able to happen. He wasn’t given any offers for accommodations, good paying jobs, and his flight alone was going to be too expensive. His rent for next year is a lot for the first half, and he doesn’t know how he is going to afford it. He is finishing his last year of uni in England at a different campus. I understood and couldn’t put pressure on him to go into more debt to come here bc that wouldn’t have been fair, and i thought that going there in May would help with things. Eventually I get there, and everything is grand. We love each other and he treated me like his princess again just like old times. When it was time to leave at the airport, we were both crying because this was the first time we didn’t have a date set for when we would see each other again. But I thought it would be something we could work on, as I was willing to go there for Christmas this year and maybe study abroad or work there next summer if he couldn’t come back to camp. Two days after in home he wasn’t texting me or making any effort to communicate. We didn’t skyped or almost a month after and he stopped texting me good morning and goodnight. The little things that I loved. I knew thigs were going to be harder than before but I wasn’t thinking that he was going to cope with it or avoid the conversation of out relationship by barely talking to me at all. That hurt like hell and probably upset me more than anything since I was JUST there and everything was great and he gave me no reason to think we were gonna breakup. I finally forced him to skype me yesterday after many attempts that fell thru. Long convo short, I told him I wanted to hear what he was feelin and thinking since I already expressed angrily over texts for days what I was feeling. He essentially elaborated on previous short texts he sent me that week that he still lives me and what’s to be with me . But that things just weren’t working out with the time difference and he couldn’t take not knowing when we could be together again for a longtime period of time and he felt like a lousy boyfriend that he can’t be there for me and I deserve better and he can’t afford to be coming here this year because of his school. I was not expecting him to actually suggest ending things. Maybe a Break, or me telling him that I was gonna one there this time would make things better, but he started to tear up and said that it’s too long and how much longer can we really keep doing this. The words I want to break up or I don’t want this anymore never came out of his mouth, it was when I asked so is that really it? That he said I guess. My heart is completely breaking in half and especially since he was the one who took me from another guy while still at camp, wanted the long distance relationship, and a said he wanted to spend his future with me, it Absolutely devastated me. I would do anything for him and that includes moving to Europe to be with him. He is one year ahead of me in uni and I figured that it wouldn’t be that much longer that we would have to be apart if I graduate in two years and I am able to spend my summers and holidays in between that over there, or if he is able to find work when he graduated over here. We made it work so far and I just don’t see why we can’t still try if we both are still in love with each other. I know he will be busy with his dissertation but I was working in DC this year and working two jobs to afford to go see him and I was putting so much effort to make things work.
I have talked to two girls I trust and know him about this but I really would rather have a guys opinion. I know my situation is strange and not that common but anything is appreciated. I’m giving every once of effort right now to not text him. We still love each other and if we were able to see each other there wouldn’t be any conflict at all. The distance and not knowing what is Gonna happen is the absolute only factor hurting our dynamics.
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:33 pm
Did you read the LDR post?
mimu
June 19, 2014 at 10:19 pm
My bf broke up with me last like a month ago, he did not tell that we broke up till now, but he told this news to my best friends and one of our mutual friends, I have to admit this and respect his decision, right? and just a few days later, I was told that he had a new gf now, I am somewhat confused, I dunno he left me for that girl or he just got that girl after the break-up, I remembered two days before we broke up, I asked him if he has got another gf already? he said no, why I asked him this question, because I got to find there was something strange about him. and he did also tell our mutual friend that he got the new gf after he broke up with me. but anyways, I still have a strong feeling of him and I do want to get him back, he left me because I am too sensitive and jealous (he told this to our friend), and I do want to correct my mistakes, and what should I do? he has no sign to contact me so far since 40 days ago, should I contact him? what should I say? feel so awkward,,, but if I don’t contact him, he may forget me, wont he? we had dated for eight months, what should I do? please help…
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:32 pm
How long did you date total? I doubt he will forget you…
Stephanie
June 19, 2014 at 3:23 am
First off, I hope I get a response. Please! My ex boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. He asked me out on my birthday which is coming up in 2 months. I made the mistakes in our relationship and now that he is gone I know he is “the one”. 1 year after we were together I started txting an “old friend with benefits” kind of person. He found out and never trusted me since that point. I almost lost him that night but we worked things out. Then again a following year we broke up. I went on a dating website and went on a few dates with another guy. He knew about it because I openly told him. The reason I did it was because for some strange reason i thought it would make him jealous enought to want to marry me. We talked about marriage but he always wanted to wait. So we ended up getting back togther but things were not that great. Then this past year another agrument occured between us. We had just got back together when once again I made a mistake. I joined a dating website behind his back. Because this time he gave me a promise ring and claimed he would marry me in a year. But I was doubtful. Everytime I bought it up he would say well why the rush. So I thought he was just feeding me lies. So I foolishly joined a dating website while in a realtionship with him. He found out and that was the last straw. He’s furious and doesn’t want anything to do with me. I begged for him to take me back. But he said he gave me way too many chances already. Bad thing is he went on a dating website to get back at me and ended up finding a girl he is really compatible with. He said he wasn’t looking for anyone just did it to get back at me. He expressed to me all the similaries and I can’t help but think what if he chooses her over me. He told me that he told this new girl that he’s not ready for a realtionship but he continues to txt her daily. He said she was a good friend. 🙁 After that he told me to just loose hope because he would never take me back for all the mistakes I’ve made. 2 weeks went by and I sent him a text telling him I’ve made postitive changes in my life. That it’s hard to just forget a 4 yr relationship. He didn’t respond. I was trying desperatly to do the 30 NO CONTACT. But I failed. Is there anything I can do???? Will the 30 day no Contact still work? Or have I completely ruined things. Please help.
I again went on a dating website and dated another guy for a few dates. He knew about it. He found out I kissed him.
admin
June 20, 2014 at 7:45 pm
Well, you are going ot have to finish out the 30 days. How far did you make it?
Stephanie
June 21, 2014 at 4:57 am
Only 12 days 🙁 The last time we spoke he told me he loved me, but just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them. I know he is still really hurt. He is a very stubborn person. At the same time I’m afraid he’s becoming attached to this other girl. He’s texted her everyday for a month already. I knew bc I had his tmobile passwrd from when he gave it to me once. He forgot I had it. Then at the beginning of the month he changed it. But he did tell me he still continues to txt her. She’s a good friend. From a dating website? Really? What does this mean? He said she just got over a breakup too. I’m afraid they are both bonding and becoming closer bc they are going through the same things. And will later date. He said I was prettier than her. But she had all the qualities he’s always looked for in a significant other. Help. I need advice. Do you think the 30 day no contact will still work?
Stephanie
June 21, 2014 at 5:01 am
Oh, I wanted to add although I may sound young and overwhelmed writing on here. I am 26 yrs old. He had just bought his house. I thought things would improve in our relationship, then a break-up happened. I need your advice!
Stephanie
June 22, 2014 at 2:24 am
Would you say to just finish out the 30 days? Starting from the last time I txted him? Please respond. I would really appreciate it. Thanks
admin
June 22, 2014 at 3:44 pm
Yup absolutely finish it out.
Stephanie
June 19, 2014 at 3:27 am
The last line at the bottom is redundant. I didn’t go out again on a date with someone. Typo on my part
Kitty
June 18, 2014 at 9:57 am
Hi ok so I was in a relationship for only a few months, we waited to have sex too which brought us closer together. My ex boyfriend showed signs of jealousy and liked to have everything his way. He would often get angry about silly things. He threw me out of his house a few times and he used to block me on Facebook and on his phone all the time. During this I would always be the one trying to make it up to him. Calling him off private number to try and speak to him, going to his house. After a few days we would be back together again but it was like clockwork we would split again and I’d go chasing. I just wish I had left him alone during these times but it was really hard. He has recently broke up with me again saying he loves me and is madly in love with me but doesn’t want to be with me and wants me to leave him alone. When I agreed and walked away he was texting me saying that I must not care and i could never of loved him if I can just walk away so easy. So again being stupid I went running back. He wouldn’t open the door to me when I went to his house. I posted letters through his door and constantly called him and he would only answer now and again before saying something really nasty then putting the phone down. He would eventually open his door to me shout any me and tell me to go away. He pushed me out of his on house the last time so I thought enough is enough and I just left him too it. Then being stupid I posted a note saying I love you on it through his door. I left it at that. I then found out he had changed his number signed up to a dating site arranging dates and was telling everyone that he had to change his number because he has a stalker who found out where he lived and worked etc. He said it was someone he dated for a little while. This obviously hurt because we didn’t just date we were together. We were in a relationship on Facebook and had pictures together on there which he has taken off, he has deleted every picture of us off there. Then the other day he came round my house (I didn’t answer the door) and posted a DVD through my door. I have made no contact since I found out he had changed his number but I’m so hurt, I can’t eat or sleep properly. I know I shouldn’t of wrote the letters, constantly call him and go round to his but I just wanted to make up. He was telling me he loved me so I was fighting for our relationship now he’s just telling everyone I’m crazy :/ is what he’s done and saying his way of moving on or does he still care but doesn’t want to show it? Do you think he deleted all the pictures of us off his Facebook just to get a reaction from me because I havnt made anymore contact? Please help 🙁
admin
June 18, 2014 at 2:07 pm
DEFINITELY!!!
Kitty
June 18, 2014 at 4:40 pm
Defiantly wants a reaction from me? He keeps checking my profile too so I’ve been told. But he has deleted all of our pictures and changed his number. He has also been arranging dates with other girls. What do I do? Does he still care but he is being stubborn and wants me to chase him like I used to or is he moving on. I’m confused
Nat
June 18, 2014 at 4:20 am
My ex initiated the brake up, and I was perfectly okay with it because he wasn’t particularly nice for months beforehand and it was really unpleasant. I didn’t speak to him at all for a few days (mostly because there wasn’t anything to say, not because I wanted to ignore him) and he came at me out of nowhere with all these accusations about how I destroyed the relationship, how I made him depressed, how it was all my fault. Of course not very much of it was because I had no idea any of this was going on at the time; it was definitely a “him” sort of dealio. Anyway, we have lots of mutual friends and it is becoming increasingly more awkward because if our friends go out and invite both of us he will not show up of he knows I’ll be there. It’s just weird because we used to be so chill and such good friends. If I could just get him to be comfortable being in the same room with me without looking like a beaten puppy and pretending I don’t exist, it would be a far easier situation for everyone. But he made it very clear to me the last time we saw each other (six months ago) that he “doesn’t want to talk to me ever again,” and he’s not one to eat his pride and initiate conversation after saying something like that. I just don’t want him to be left out anymore, and I don’t want my friends to be put in a situation where they have to choose which one of us they want to hang out with. Is there a way to figure if he’s ready to talk yet, or is this something that should be waited out? Thanks!
admin
June 18, 2014 at 1:52 pm
Well, thats kind of why I recommend NC and then you contacting him afterwards.
Lou
June 16, 2014 at 10:26 pm
Do I Have to make contact after 30 days? Is this more wise? Or can I leave it 4/5 months before initiating simple contact? Because he said he didn’t want to talk to me for a WHILE.
admin
June 17, 2014 at 8:36 pm
I would if I were you.
Lou
June 18, 2014 at 8:14 am
My guy is pretty patient and can ignore me for months if he feels it necessary. He said we should both go away with our own space to ‘work on ourselves’ and be happy then when he’s ready or I’m ready we can speak again generally. He said and i quote ”im not going to talk to you for a VERY long time.” Isn’t 1 month NC a bit too short for a guy like this? Who takes his time to think about things
admin
June 18, 2014 at 2:06 pm
1 month is a long time trust me on this.
so disapointed
June 12, 2014 at 5:29 pm
Ok here is my deal, I had an sexual encounter with my ex cousin years ago, but I didn’t know they were cousins, he stop talking about a week ago after moving where he is for the summer, he finally tested that I could have told him I have him looking like this, I attempted to explain, he tells me to call him asap, I text back can we meet somewhere he says no he didn’t want to c me just call him I did, so his cousin gave him sexual details of our encounter, and could not believe what the point of that was it was years ago, bottom line is I miss him dearly and he will not call or text me back…..please help!!!!!!
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:37 pm
You cheated on your ex with his cousin??
Sarah
June 11, 2014 at 4:31 pm
I actually sent you an email describing my situation but I understand it’s probably harder to get to than through commenting, so I just have one small question:
What do you do if you applied the NC successfully (I managed 4 months), then message him with straightforward requests to have a chat, and he still won’t reply back?
By the way I would’ve decided to just give up on him weren’t it for the fact that I know he misses me.
Someone advised me to just walk up to him and kiss him in broad daylight but I think that’s too extreme and might not be received as well. Help?
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:06 pm
Well, what did you message him specifically?
nandini
June 5, 2014 at 5:52 pm
I had a break up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago due to the fact that his parents does not agree to our relationship because he is a muslim and I am a hindu. We are together since 5 years and after our break up he did not contact me at all. How do I get him back when we are no longer seeing each other in person anymore?
admin
June 6, 2014 at 5:15 pm
I think the only way would be if he was willing to go against his parents wishes.
nandini
June 6, 2014 at 6:01 pm
He said he is not willing to go against his parents. How do I get him back?
admin
June 7, 2014 at 4:39 pm
Realistically it might be tough if he doesn’t ever change that view.
Redhearts16
May 27, 2014 at 2:33 pm
Hello Chris,
Where To start well in 2012 I met this guy Kelz… he was a great friend always supportive of me when I was being treated wrong by my current boyfriend Quan, Kelz always told me I deserved better, he never tried to get with me until I finally had the courage to break up with Quan. After that Kelz would always ask me to be with him but I couldn’t I didn’t want him to be a rebound and I knew I liked him but I didn’t know if I truly liked him or if I just liked him because the attention he was giving me. So we were still friends always hung out I would give him oral sex alot but we’d hang out around Town go to the beach walk the pier and he wanted to be with me I was currently living in New York. Well August of 2012 I moVed to Georgia with my mother just needed a new scenery so we left he talked to me told me he loved me and all that but when I got to Georgia things started to change he wouldn’t talk to me as much then started ignoring my text and calls so when I finally stopped talking to him he hit me up a month later and asked me for a picture so I sent him I normal pIcture and he said To me no matter what you will always be my girl at that time I was dating someone in Georgia but I knew kelz had a special place in my heart and all my feelings for him cameback but then he slowly started getting distant again so I asked what his problem was and he told me he neVer wanted me to leave ny he wanted me to stay but I’m like you never expressed that to me and he feels I should have just known which I didn’t so june 2013 I went back To ny for my cousins graduation and I stayed until february 2014 when my grandmother passed away in that time I seen him bought him food to his house thought he was single but he had a girlfriend smh I only found out because when I said do you miss me after I dropped the food off to him he said I don’t think my girlfriend woUld appreciate me answering that so I was hurt and I stopped hitting him up like that well when they bRoke up a few weeks later we would chill and everything so to fast forward time I came back to GA february 2014 we started dating May 13th and things went good the first week and Then he started acting distant I thought and I spazzed out on him I won’t lie and I told him talk to me communicate to me and he is somewhat understanding and he says what do you want To communicate about and I said just everything so at least he tries but it went ok so this past saturday thethe 24th I believe he said goodmorning I was sleep woke up like 20 minutes laTer and I was upset all I said was morning after that he didn’t respond honestly I don’t think I gaVe him a cHance to I can be annoying and I just kept Text and annoying him no response all day saturday besides that goodmorning no response all sunday and I went off on him all sunday and all yesterday no Response and yesterday I kept calling and text him and laTer lastnight he blocked my number I know cause it rings half a ring and goes to voIcemail but when I actually private it rings normally. I apologized via Enail I admitted its my fault I know he has a 5 years old son and he woRks alot of doubles and overnights and he explained that he has a life can’t always talk which I knew but sometimes I get out of chaRacter when He can’t talk because I miss him alot now I fear I have lost him for good can you please help me to the best of your knowledge I greatly appreciate your help in advance. By tHe way he is 24 I am 22
admin
May 28, 2014 at 2:35 pm
Well has a breakup officially occurred yet?
Ana
May 27, 2014 at 1:07 am
My case is a bit different. We were very close friends. Actually a little bit more than that. We used to say to each other that we were “going with the flow”. We met in a different country from our own and we spended 6 months living together in the same share house. I ended up falling in love with him but for a whole different reasons (distance, family matters, scars from a past relationship and God knows what else) my love was unrequired and he told me even if he deeply cared about me, even if he didn’t wanted to loose me, he couldn’t give me anything more than a friendship.
After some weeks of struggling, seeing that I couldn’t be content with being just a long distant friend, I decided to cut of all connections, and after a very strong message where I wrote how hurt I was, I told him I wouldn’t have contact with him again, and I asked him to contact me just in case he would decide to bring our relationship to the next level.
35 days are passed since then and even if I feel a bit better toward the whole thing, I realized that still can’t give up on him and I truly miss his company and our conversations.
I want to contact him again, but I really don’t know how to start the conversation as I was the one who backed out giving him that “ultimatum”. Any suggestions?
admin
May 27, 2014 at 2:38 pm
So, you weren’t ever offically dating?
Ana
May 27, 2014 at 3:31 pm
No. Not officially
Lena
May 26, 2014 at 11:47 am
My bf and I broke up over a week ago and he refuses to talk to me. I initiated the breakup but because I wouldn’t listen to him and kept talking over him when we were on the phone, he flipped the breakup on me and text me his goodbyes. I tried for almost a week to apologize but he wouldn’t answer my calls, texts, or fb messages. The closest that I got was calling him from my work phone and he answered. I acknowledged his being upset but asked if we could talk and he said he couldn’t at the moment. I asked if he was OK with talking to me and he said not really but ended the convo by saying he’ll talk to me later. He never called but I didn’t exactly expect him to.
I’ve only sent 1 message since but I’m wondering if no contact would even work with him? We’re long distance and I’m worried we may never get back together.
admin
May 27, 2014 at 2:33 pm
First off, why don’t you check out my long distance page?
Lena
May 29, 2014 at 1:06 am
Done 🙂
Moving my comments & questions over there!
Deepika
May 20, 2014 at 1:07 am
He is my love…its being 2months for NC RULE and i switched off all my numbers and connections with him…nw i am in thoughts to contact him after 3months on his bday…is it ok?