How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Speak To You- Get Him Talking Again

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Gracindy

March 6, 2014 at 2:50 pm

Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday,he didn’t pick my calls or call back.he changed his phone password which i usually had access to.he doesn’t speak to me if he sees me,does it mean he does not love me again?what should i do?
Rika

March 6, 2014 at 7:28 am

I broke up with my bf and I’m into 8days of nc. I didn’t want the relationship we had which was like booty call. It suited both of us with busy lives with family but after 20months, it didn’t progress as I hoped so I told him and then txted him my feeling and haven’t heard from him since. Despite our relationship, we did have some good times so even though I don’t want him back in my life, I am pretty sad about the whole thing. So nc is the only way for me and it’s not the tactics as not planning to contact him until his birthday in a couple of months. It is still very healing to read this site though and the thought of him possibly missing me is helping my grieving process. I am hoping that one day I can think of this journey was necessary for the better time to come and the lesson learned to be a better person ☺️

admin

March 7, 2014 at 6:37 am

So interesting you said this. I just wrote something yesterday that I feel with resonate with you: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-know-if-your-ex-boyfriend-is-using-you/
Rika

March 8, 2014 at 10:35 am

Thanks Chris☺️ it’s been day 10 of nc and when I feel like I’m getting over my ex bf ( well, almost ) there are 2 things come up in my mind and I ask myself. How have I got in the situation where I felt being used? And why did it happened to me? As I’m making an honest living and raising three children, have a nice warm home for them and people think I’m a nice person. But no good moaning about it and I don’t want to feel like the victim nor blame myself so I have to deal with this feeling somehow, be positive and move on so one day in the near future, I can get my self esteem back and feel good about myself again.☺️

Jessalyn

March 6, 2014 at 3:14 am

My ex broke up with me about 5 months ago; he was acting weird and I was with him and his friend and his eyes we’re watering a little and he said it was his allergies (which he never has).The following day after my Birthday he sent his female cousin and she told me he said “it’s over” I confronted him and he lied about it and said they we’re only playing so I let it be. The next day I wanted to spend with him but he told me he didn’t want to walk anywhere because he was “tired” so I went away, but then, a couple of mins later he was walking with his friend? I confronted him again after school and he pretended he didn’t hear me, I kept questioning him asking him what was wrong and he kept saying “nothing”. I didn’t talk to him the next (giving him some space)but I called that evening and asked if he was “busy” he then said “no” and then I asked if we we’re still in a relationship and he said “no” I asked why and he said “I don’t know” I kept asking him why then he finally said yes then told me to call him back because he was BUSY (5 mins after he had said he wasn’t busy). I called later around 8 or 9 and his mother told me I couldn’t talk to him because it was late? (For the first time) The next day he was standing with his friends yet again and I quietly went up to him with my friend and told him I wanted to talk to him and he walked away from me. I haven’t spoken to him since. Lately he’s been sending mixed messages to my friend trying to get me to talk to his friend (our former best friend)I guess about him. (He is in a relationship with a girl in a different school)We’re both in the 11th grade. But, I want to talk to him, what should I do? Cause he won’t talk first and I’m afraid he might walk away from me again. Also he told my friend he left because I was weird but I think it was something more to it.
kath

March 5, 2014 at 6:35 pm

My ex and I have always had a feisty relationship (10+ years). He now doesn’t want to see, speak or txt me. Social media only but he just ignores me. Today I deleted all my accounts. If he treats me like that I shouldn’t want him but I do.

admin

March 7, 2014 at 6:08 am

Why do you want him back do you think?

BrokenAndEmpty

March 5, 2014 at 1:07 am

Me and My ex are both 18, seniors in High School. We dated a month and I fell fast and hard for him. We had a preg scare and he broke up with me. 2 days later, some random guy named alex tried to talk to me on kik saying that i shouldnt be upset that me and my bf broke up. I was surprised that this alex guy knew about us so I called my ex and asked him who this alex guy was and he said he doesnt know and he could careless and hung up on me. A month later, when I saw him when school started, I called him one night and told him I missed and loved him and he said he missed and loved me too. we started talking again but I ended up being the one to always txt him first and he started getting bored and i started to panic. We eventually stopped talking. two months later I txted him wishing him a happy bday and he said thx and eventually asked for birthday sex and i said “lol ill pass” cuz it made me feel disrespected. a month later in november, he asked me to hang out with him and I felt angry so I blew up on him saying that he shouldnt try to talk to me after disrespecting me over and over again and he didnt reply. The start of december, I asked him if he still wanted to hang out but his car was broke at the time (It still is, he rides with his sis) so he said he couldnt. Then during winter break, I found his twitter, I found out that he had a gf all along while he dated me and he is still dating her. So I stopped making eye contact with him in the hallways and looked away immediately whenever we made eye contact. I was angry and I wanted to confront him but I assumed he would laugh at me so i didnt. After a week of me doing that, he started doing the same to me. I freaked out and started making a lot of eye contact with him but he wouldnt look at me. Then one day, I ran into him flirting with a friend of my best friend and he had this “oh i got caught” type look when we made eye contact but i just walked away. I told myself it was over for good and theres nothing i can do about it. on valentines day, he pointed me out to his friends and in the middle of the hall yelled, “which one of you bit**es wanna be my valentine?” and I just kept on walking and ignored it. Now 2 days ago, some random guy kiked me and asked me to prom and i told him idk him so I’d like him to approach me at school the next day. The next day afterschool, the guy asked me if I knew my ex and why we broke up and whether i liked him or not. I answered the guy’s question with questions and in the end they guy told me that my ex told him to kik me and also said that my ex still likes me. I tried to confront my ex today and said “(His name), we need to talk” he laughed and said “About what?” and I said “someone is telling me stuff about us” and he just shrugged and walked away, I was walking away when I said that so we both kinda walked away. I tried to kik my ex to ask him about all that but I cannot find his kik, im assuming he blocked me? But i still had him added on oovoo so i sent him a msg and said “(His name), when can we talk? my service is off so i cant call and i barely see u at school” and he logged off oovoo and now idk what to do. Do i have a chance at getting back with him? Despite all that he has done, I still have strong feelings for him and want to get back with him. What should I do and how should I do it? Please advice me. Sorry this is so long, and Thanks!

admin

March 5, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Are people already asking people to prom?

Hahaha when I was in High School it was a mad dash in April for a prom date.

Well, what do you want? Do you actually want him back? Do you see a future in the relationship together?
BrokenAndEmpty

March 5, 2014 at 1:16 am

By the way, I have a feeling that the guy kiking me was my ex himself trying to figure if I still have feelings for him? Cuz he never approached me at school like i told him to. I asked the school secretary to pull up the guys schedule and she said there is no student with that name in our school. The guy has no kik picture and has a weird kik name. It seems as if the kik account is a made up fake kik account someone made for the purpose of talking to me about my ex. What should I do? I really want to get back with him and I want him to really truely love me foreal. Any advice will be appreicieated; What should I do? And How do I do it? Thanks!

hannah

March 3, 2014 at 6:40 am

my ex has a bit of autism so he finds it hard to love someone but he stopped loving me all together he wont talk to me he hung up on me yesterday thats the last time i spoke to him but i cant help but make myself suffer because i feel lke its all my fault that he stopped seeing a future with me 🙁

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:36 pm

I am so sorry… autisim… I am not sure thats an easy thing to combat if he can’t ever seem to find love.
hannah

March 3, 2014 at 6:58 pm

well he did love me but we kept arguin and he stopped seein a future and then he said the next dayvhe was tryin to love me but he gave up trying andhe wont talk to me i just miss him millions he was my only reason of being alive after my cousin died

sws

February 25, 2014 at 8:59 pm

Hello , my boyfriend just broke up with me on 23 feb , he hypothetically asked me if there was a drunk girl all over me wud you still believe me , silly tht I was I couldn’t sleep all night and I asked him the next day and was cold to him , later he put up a profile picture along the lines of a lil anti woman meme so I askef him why are you being such a jerk and he is like yeah cause I love being one and I let him be , he also said yes I am a jerk and you make your decision wisely ,I didn’t contact him for two days neither did he and on the third day he broke up with me saying I make a big deal of every thing and have a lot of petty issues with me and he doesn’t see this working out .I promptly deleted him off Facebook saying I can’t be friends with him if you are serious about the break up .and been no contact ever since . Today I noticed he has blocked me on facebook . What should I do please help me …I really love him and I know he loves me too but he is very hot headed .he is in a different state now for the past one month . But how could he just give up on me like that we dated for nine months and were even planning to make our parents meet

admin

February 27, 2014 at 7:14 pm

I don’t get the drunk girl comment? What was he trying ot find out?

Stacy

February 24, 2014 at 11:20 pm

Me and my boyfriend were dating for a year. We had a few fights which we do fight it’s when we have been drinking a lot. We got into a fight the other night and he ended the relationship and I am just crushed. I know he said if we fight like that one more time it will be done for good. He don’t even remember what started the fight. It’s very hurtful and we both have kids (not together) that will be hurt as well. I truly want him back into my life but waiting for the NC seem to be way too long. He hasn’t deleted me off his Facebook and still has us in a relationship, I don’t understand why he hasn’t deleted me, he deleted all our pics on his Instagram account but nothing on his Facebook. Is there an easier way to get him to talk to me beside the NC. I have stuff at his house and he has stuff at mine, is that a way to communicate? His birthday is coming up next weekend and it killing me that I won’t get to spend it with him and I have bought birthday gift prior to the break up and I can’t return it, I want to mail it to him. If I don’t contact him to show I want him back will he assume I don’t want him and never contact me? Please help I love him too much for this to end!

admin

February 25, 2014 at 6:43 pm

I don’t think you should give him the gift… Obviously it’s up to you but I am not a fan of it.
Stacy

February 25, 2014 at 7:34 pm

I can’t return the gift and I can’t use it. Here is another situation. We both were working out together and I am afraid I would run into him at the gym, we don’t have set schedule to when we go. Today I went to the gym and as I pulled in he was pulling out and we seen each other and that was it, that was sad. It was hard to workout on my own when we use to support each other, well he did more supporting and trained me. Are you able to give me any reason why he keeps our Facebook status in a relationship…it’s giving me hope, right?

Rita

February 24, 2014 at 4:03 pm

My bf and I were together for a yr. Starting in Dec. of 2013, moved in together in April and then in August started arguing. I found out he was talking to another girl via KIK and saw the messages. He was flirtatious and ignoring me or being cold to me wile talking to her and giving us a deadline where I fix my behavior or I was getting dumped. Sadly though out of hurt and spite I cheated on him w another guy. The truth all came out and we agreed to fix things but I chose to ignore and distance myself from the other guy to avoid conflict as opposed to just cutting things off and this hurt my ex so he ended things again. Yet again we got back together, he was w me though the holidays, cancer scare, moved me into a new place. But January 5th a different ex asked viz text if I threw everything out of our old place and I replied but didn’t mention to my bf I got the text cuz we were mid petty argument. He saw the text and become upset, having valid points though if roles were reversed Id be upset. But he ended things. Jan 10th he contacted me yet again and and why I didn’t mention the text and why I didn’t get their help to move etc. I asked what the point of the conversation was if he already ended things and he said closure. I asked if the point of this conversation was so he wouldn’t have guilt if he hooked or talked to or slept w someone else and he stated that he had no interest in anyone and he wants to focus on and further his career. We haven’t spoken since January 10th, today is Feb. 24th.
dyne

February 24, 2014 at 6:59 am

Hi! My Bf and I broke up officially last last Saturday. Before that he was asking me to let go but I wouldn’t sice I didn’t want to lose him. When I read the articles of how to get him back I told him that I’m already letting him go and we broke up civilly and maturely. We were actually very happy before we broke up and even kissed hugged and even exchanged I love yous… after that day we still had very very minimal contact.
I findi it hard not to contact him..and we even have a plan to meet up this coming saturday for his part on our joint purchase last month so we really have to see each other. And it os his fathers birthday and I mogjt get invited.. he didnt tell his family that we broke up because he said he didnt want any issues from them.. so we’ll most likely meet up this weekend.
Next month will be my birthday and it is exactly 30 days from saturday since I will be sticking with the nocontact rule on Saturday..
Im just afraid that he might move on without me since he seems very happy without me sice I used to make his life like hell..he got tired of me but no matter how much I promised him that I will be a better person.. he still rejected me. Im just afraid that he might actually find comfort in his friends and actually be better wthout me..
I am truly very sorry and I am sure that I can change. He’s a good guy.
I’m scared! What do I do!
And since we broke up civilly and maturely and lightly.. would the effect of NC rule still be the same?
🙁

Jhaz

February 26, 2014 at 7:43 am

Just do the NO CONTACT RULE FOR 30DAYS! I did it and my ex is now contacting me. He even said he misses me so much and he loves me. But then he’s still not yet ready he still needs more time to heal. But atleast we have our communication now.
Dont get afraid that he might move on believe me that no call rule is very effective. Your bf will get scared why you’d stop texting and calling him.
Malin

March 9, 2014 at 11:25 am

Hi! Was it your boyfriend that contacted you? 🙂 How long took it before he did? :-))

Joshua Norman

February 24, 2014 at 1:31 am

Can you guys help me??
To start off we broke up in Oct. b/c I was trynna accept myself being bi(He was my 1st BF) so I begged him can he give me extra time. He was heartbroken but didn’t understand my thought process at all. Month pass, we was still cool but it turned to friends with benefits ALL of Nov. We did argue a lot but it was obvious he was also in denial of his feelings to me. He got mad at small things(we basically was a couple). Well a month later he got a BF. They dated Dec. & Jan. Obvious rebound relationship b/c his sister @ times msged me that he liked me, dreamed of me, etc.
What makes this worse I almost dated my Exes Ex so we got in HUGE argument about that. Should I try calling my Ex house phone next week & ask if we could start over? Both of us are 17 but attend dif. schools. He may still be furious but is it worth a shot? We haven’t talked in a month. We’ve both said mean things to each other, only out of anger though… so I dont know, HELP! we not on speaking terms currently either.
Sherri Wease

February 24, 2014 at 12:22 am

My boyfriend told me I was too jealous.. he had cut off all communication. There are various things that need to this, but I do o believe I overreacted. I think we have a future, but he won’t say a word

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:40 pm

Were you too jealous?

Liz

February 23, 2014 at 6:40 pm

Hi, my boyfriend and I dated for seven months (his only other two relationships have been 2-3 months long) and we broke up when he thought I physically cheated on him when I only emotionally cheated on him which I know was wrong of me. Last fall I was like his mom and took care of him. He didn’t have a job and he broke his ankle in a fight and crashed his car drunkenly into the side of my house. I stood by him but he never took me on dates and I felt like I was doing so much for him for nothing in return.

I talked to him once two weeks after the break up and we ended up hooking up. He had mentioned multiple times things like “if you want me back” and “if I took you back.” And he said he still cares and wishes the “girl he fell in love with was still there.”

After that meeting I didnt talk to him for a little over a week and then asked him if he wanted to study for a class we are both in together at the university we attend. He agreed to but was out of town and didn’t get back til 1am. Two days later he asked to hook up and would respond to my texts seconds after I would text him. He asked me a week later again and I said no again. Between the two times he would ask to borrows books for our class which I doubt he actually read and was just using it as an opportunity to check up on me.

Now one of my friends told his friend i moved on and he hasn’t responded to my last text. He is very prideful. I think he is upset I haven’t begged for him. We have been broken up for a little over a month now. I don’t know if it is too late to try to get him back and I’m just confused and don’t know what to think…

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:38 pm

Oh my god… hahaha broken ankle in a fight.

Have you tried NC yet?
Liz

February 27, 2014 at 4:28 am

Yeah haha. I did try NC for two and a half weeks…then I texted him a question about the class we have together and he responded and we studied together. Apparently his roommate wasn’t supposed to know I was over so I had to sneak out when he left which I thought was odd. I don’t know what to do at this point.

Mary

February 23, 2014 at 11:36 am

I was seeing a guy from summer last year till dec 6th 2013 when we broke it off. It started off great and didn’t end so well because we no longer talk. His excuse was he wanted to stay focused with uni seeing as he is 2nd year and he cant give me what i want in the time being. When we broke it off, there was a uni event he was promoting, i wasn’t going to go but I did. I had on something nice & classy with the aim of making him jealous, I see his friends and i say hello but not to him, i just didn’t acknowledge he was there. After a couple drinks in my system, while dancing with another guy he knew i knew n tht weve spoken about , the guy kissed me. He saw n then walked away and i could see him at the bar by himself for a while. after a while, i saw him again at a club at uni and he was staring at me n seemed to always be around me while i was dancing and having a good time. I see him again at another uni event and its the same thing, but he doesn’t talk to me.

This month (feb 2014) i decided to get in touch with him and I sent him a text about how i feel,ending with ..’i dont want a relationship and im spending time building friendships and i miss you as my friend. He didn’t respond. Im confused and i want him back so bad, ive been cool about it, ive been dating but i cant get over him, i just want to try again, a fresh start even if it means being friends but he wont talk to me. He confuses me, one min were together and he is cooking me breakfast and kissin me, next min hes sayin its not working, next min he sees me at a club , gettin with someone else and he throws a strop, next min hes staring at me when im not looking but doesnt talk to me. what can i do

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:32 pm

Have you tried any NC or anything like that?

fiona

February 23, 2014 at 10:22 am

Hi, i really need ur help. I m in a relation from last 2yrs 5mnths. But only after 4 months his behaviour changed. He started telling me nAmes, shouted, controlled everything. He has d control. I cant even contact him as he has blocked me. He can talk to me only whn he wants. He has left me alone 4 times. Everytime i accepted him whn he came bck. He recently left me for more den a month. Den came bck only whn i tried n tried. Den he said he came only bcoz of me othrws he was out of dis relation. Den he promised he will never treat me like dis agn. But agn he has blocked my number, whnvr i call he turns his phn off. Never reply to any of my msg. Its been 4 days since i m calling n texting him but getting no response. He is talking to everyone else but not to me.
I dont knw y he is playing with my feelings. I m so hurt. I cant talk to anybody abt it. Ur suggestion is appreciated. Please.

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:29 pm

Tell me, if he started treating you this badly why do you want him back?
fiona

February 25, 2014 at 2:29 am

I think u r right. I shouldnt go bck. He made my life miserable and dont even appreciate wht i hv alwz did for him. He has become abusive (if m not wrong).
Needed to hear dat. Thanks chris. I shouldnt go back and i will not.
fiona

February 25, 2014 at 4:35 am

I forgot to tell u dat day b4 yestrdy he called me names and shouted dat he doesnt even consider dis.as a relation and i m d one after him. Den he dscnctd and swtcd off. Ystrday he came home and said dat i will talk to u only whn i want to, dont contact me. He den took my phn and BROKE IT 🙁 i somehow found battery sim and cover. Luckily it started wrking. But its flap still missing. I was shocked and hurt by dis.
Den he sent me a msg saying sorry he was angry dat time. I didn’t responded. He called but i ignored. Den he wrote a msg dat YOU MADE ME ANGRY AND ITS VERY EAAY TO CONTROL U.
I was confused bcoz he was giving mixed signals to me.
fiona

February 23, 2014 at 10:41 am

We hvnt broken up till now. But d way he is treating me, i m confused. Has he left me without even telling me anything?

Marci

February 22, 2014 at 7:25 pm

My ex and were together for 2 months (ridiculous, I know.)
We moved really fast, I basically find of unofficially moved into his apartment with him and his roommate. Things were great with us, I met his parents, he met my parents, and everything was fine. He was the sweetest boyfriend and everything was perfect… So I thought. It seems like overnight he started acting distant. After a week of that, he finally broke up with me, saying he still cared about me but didn’t feel like he could be in a relationship right now. For the next two days we still hung out, held hands, kissed and acted like a couple. We then decided that we needed to act like we were broken up. For the last three weeks, it’s been hard. He says he wants to be friends but sometimes he won’t reply to my texts. When we broke up he told me it was only going to be temporary, but now I don’t know if he’s still interested. I didn’t do no contact, but now I don’t know what to do. It seems like some days he’s happy to talk to me, and other days he can’t be bothered. Just When I think he’s not interested, I find out that he still has my toothbrush in his bathroom, BUT I heard that he went on a date on valentines day. How do I know if you still interested, or if he’s moved on for good? What should I do contact wise; stop texting or what? I miss him but he acts like he’s perfectly fine. Or he is. Help!

Btw, he’s 20 and I’m 22. I feel like he is such a coward. I keep telling him I want have a conversation (I want to give him a piece of my mind and for him to know I don’t want to be on “friendly” terms anymore) but he’s too scared to meet with me and just ignores my texts when I ask him too. Should I text him what I need to say?

admin

February 24, 2014 at 6:12 pm

Let me help you with that.

He is a coward!! Plain and simple.

He won’t confront you at all and that is the cowards way out.

Maria

February 22, 2014 at 8:34 am

I have a hard time moving on. It’s only been 2 weeks since he broke up with me. I am totally the kind of girl that floods him with texts but get no replies. Your blog is very helpful. I tried to stop myself from sending him messages first after a week from beak up, but today he sends me a “hi” message. I so wanted not to reply but i don’t want to sound rude so i did say hi back. Now he asked how was i and what did u do the whole week, does that mean he is also hasnt moved on? Or just being curious about me? Does he still care for me? And at the end of the conversation he said “see u” what does it mean?
Madeleine

February 22, 2014 at 5:30 am

This is a question for anyone and advice would be greatly appreciated.
I did not do NC with my ex because I had never heard of this website and I was pretty ignorant about how to get him back. I wasn’t that needy and emotional, but I did try to get him to explain more clearly why he broke up with me (which he never did) and told him that I missed him. We see each other once a week at a book club but I still try to keep my distance. He acts friendly to me, but he doesn’t try to contact me. Do you think I still have a chance of getting him back???

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:46 pm

I think you do actually and I am not just saying that.

Confused girl

February 22, 2014 at 12:09 am

Hi. My bf broke up with me last 2 months ago. A week later we started talking and he said he still likes me n stuff..However, I noticed that im the only one messaging him most of the time and his response r always short n simple as if he is not interested to talk but then he tells me few times romantic stuff that keeps me confused. On my birthday he didn’t wish me bc he said he forgot but then he didn’t even try to make up for his mistake and I was so angry n sad but I didn’t want to make it into a big issue so I kept quiet. Same thing happened on valentines as well, he did not wish me till I wished him.
I desperately need help bc I really don’t know whether I should move on or remain with him.
Frustrated

February 21, 2014 at 5:58 am

Follow-up to the last comment, his main excuse for the breakup was that it moved too fast and that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and the “title” and that he thought he was when he asked me. I’m 22, he’s 20.

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