How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Speak To You- Get Him Talking Again

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Frustrated

February 21, 2014 at 5:56 am

Advice, please!

My ex and were together for 2 months (ridiculous, I know.)
We moved really fast, I basically find of unofficially moved into his apartment with him and his roommate. Things were great with us, I met his parents, he met my parents, and everything was fine. He was the sweetest boyfriend and everything was perfect… So I thought. It seems like overnight he started acting distant. After a week of that, he finally broke up with me, saying he still cared about me but didn’t feel like he could be in a relationship right now. For the next two days we still hung out, held hands, kissed and acted like a couple. We then decided that we needed to act like we were broken up. For the last three weeks, it’s been hard. He says he wants to be friends but sometimes he won’t reply to my texts. When we broke up he told me it was only going to be temporary, but now I don’t know if he’s still interested. I didn’t do no contact, but now I don’t know what to do. It seems like some days he’s happy to talk to me, and other days he can’t be bothered. Just When I think he’s not interested, I find out that he still has my toothbrush in his bathroom, BUT I heard that he went on a date on valentines day. How do I know if you still interested, or if he’s moved on for good? What should I do contact wise; stop texting or what? I miss him but he acts like he’s perfectly fine. Or he is. Help!
rachel

February 21, 2014 at 12:03 am

me and my boyfriend were going out for 4 years and he started acting alot different a couple months before we broke up. he broke up with me because he sayed he stoped loving me and that he wanted to see other girls. i think he broke up with me because i gained a little wait and in my town all the girls are really beautiful. he started to call me fat and ugly a little before we broke up. ive been ignoring him for a month since the break up. he blocked me off facebook changed his password on fb and ig and he has not contacted me yet. its really tempting to call him. how long do i have to wait? i still love him more than anything!

Confused girl

February 22, 2014 at 6:54 am

Hey..i know it’s really hard not to contact him as I face the same problem too..but I feel its time for makeover! Change ur hairstyle..get extension n stuff like that n go for a diet too.. if he leaves u just bc u gained weight then he’s not worth ur time but u have to prove to him that u r better off without him..try to look as hot as u can so he will regret treating u badly. My advice is move on..u waited long enough for him..ur Mr. Right is out there somewhere searching for u so don’t be sad! 🙂

Quiana

February 20, 2014 at 5:13 pm

My bf and I took time off which was later lead by rumors from another woman which made him end our relationship. I was pregnant through it all till I miscarried over stress. He feels I disrespected him by not introducing him to Someone I was speaking with while he was working out at the gym. I have been 100 percent honest about everything. But he doesn’t trust me since I seen my ex face to face to tell him I have moved on while at the mall. I don’t know what else to do because I really have not done wrong yet he feels I have. Any advice that will help us reconcile.
Jasmine Coleman

February 20, 2014 at 12:27 pm

Me and me and my ex broke up 2 mounts ago we had a huge fight he broke up with me He been talking to other people so have I we broke up before are one year I ignored his try’s to being friends and left it no contact witch bothered him he said hello the other day I trebly miss him but want to be just friends help
Priya

February 20, 2014 at 12:17 pm

My ex bf is in my college, and he says that he has got a gf..
i am devastated,shattered..i miss him very badly..i used to teach him in xm tyms bt now i dont think he would ever talk to me again..as he said that he has no interest in me,i am wasting my time..:(
Katya

February 20, 2014 at 3:51 am

My ex and I have been together for 8 months and we had good times but he hates me now what do I do I just want him to talk to me my friends tell me move on but my heart is still broken like im missing a piece of me
Martha rojaaas

February 19, 2014 at 11:30 pm

The day my ex bf and I decided to stay as friends because we would argue a lot he was crying saying he was always gonna love me and be here for me, he’s really stubborn and immature .. We lasted a year and 3: months and the next day after the break up he kept mentioning that we were only friends , we stayed friends for a week and half until I found out he was telling people he had dumped me , got me
So mad I told him off and went on no contact for 21 days but on valentines day I deleted him off my Facebook because it hurted me to see him continue his life like nothing while I was posting all depress and stuff …. So today at day 21 of no contact I contacted him on Facebook and he answered all rude and I told him I still loved him and cared for him and if he wanted to stay friends that I accepted that , but he kept saying “you deleted me off Facebook, you don’t need me in your life you left that clear” …kept saying “you deleted me ” so we ended the conversation as I let him know I love him and care for him , he saw my message and didn’t reply … Also I made this page on this other chat and so did he because I figured he had looked at my page , and he’s now talking to other girls and that don’t bother me it makes me
Think he has found a new distraction …makes me just want to give up … I dont know Chris if I messed it all up what advice can you give me
Christine

February 19, 2014 at 1:20 am

I just wanted to let you know that I tried the “I have a confession to make….” text today. It worked like a charm! I didn’t go for a heartwarming follow up to the confession text because my ex has been so cold toward me since the breakup. So I went for something funny. Now my ex and I are back on speaking terms and already have plans to FaceTime this week!

Thanks so much for this site!

admin

February 19, 2014 at 7:20 pm

Wow thanks for sharing. Made my day!

Kaitlyn

February 18, 2014 at 11:15 pm

Me and my boyfriend broke up before Christmas. We were together for 6 months and he randomly broke it off. I haven’t contacted him since Christmas. I really want to talk to him but don’t know how to do it without seeming desperate. Please help me.

admin

February 19, 2014 at 7:19 pm

Have you read any of the texts on this site?

Lolliez

February 18, 2014 at 12:11 pm

My bf and I have had some terrible fights, were the sort of couple that always gets back together after a fight so It wasn’t a big deal, but after this one fight (he lied to me about stupid shit, guy talk related) to which I might have pushed it too far by going a little over dramatic, we broke up.
I told him I wanted to leave, strictly because he had lied to me, and he said okay.
Ofcourse I didn’t wanna leave, I expected him to stop me from leaving but he didn’t. I can’t blame him for this one because I told him I wanted to leave.
Regardless. After that I came back to resolve the last bit of our misunderstanding/fight. So we spoke about what went wrong.
I got his point of view and he got mine so that was resolved too, and I let things be the way they were.
I thought he would come back to me but he didn’t because I was the one who left (he had clearly made this clear several times when we were resolving the issue)
But he kept forgetting that I left because HE lied to me. He still thinks that lying because he was “covering” for his best friend.
Anyway,one night I was really enraged because I had maybe stalked him a little checking his Instagram profile on where I’ve seen random girls who were contacting him, and he was responding back. So I texted him that I wanted him to do me a favor and block me off of everywhere because I couldn’t do it. He said he’s not doing it, he said this was my call so I need to clean up my own shit. Anyway, he refused. After that we didn’t speak anymore. We officiall broke up.
But we still have each other on fb.
I still check his Instagram profile, because well yeah. I just do.
But what’s happened is; it’s been two weeks after out break up now. We DONT follow each other on Instagram. Just fb. And there’s no contact anymore. His Instagram profile is not on private so isn’t mine. I’ve been being happy, posting shit on Instagram trying to not think of him and what not, but now I just checked his profile and I saw he blocked me!!
I can’t seen to understand why he would do that??
He didn’t want to get back with me anymore.
I was like fine.
We don’t follow each other on Instagram. But I assume he checked out my profile several times and got maybe mad at the fact that I was (pretending) to be moving on.
But he blocked me whilst he said he would never do it.
I wasn’t even contacting him after the break up. Not even once. So why would he block me off of Instagram ?? We weren’t even following each other? If he wanted to cut me out properly I’d think he’d do that on Facebook since were friends on there right?? God I don’t even know what to do -.- help please?
Nicole

February 18, 2014 at 1:01 am

What about if you re-friend requested him, but he never accepted it nor denied it? Should I try the text anyway?

admin

February 18, 2014 at 7:13 pm

Yes I think you should.

A

February 17, 2014 at 1:00 pm

Ok, so me and my ex broke up 6 months ago and I did the no contact rule in the beginning and it worked however since then lots of stuff has happened inbetween such as me writing him a morning txt pretty much telling him off , which was 3 weeks before xmas. he ended up wishing me a merry xmas, and I didn’t respond trying to make my point very clear . I had a fam matter xmas night and drank way to much and ended up calling him … he gave me advice ( from what I remember ) and hung up . the next day I apologized for drunk dialing , and sarcasicly serious told him ” cool we can go back to hating eachother again” his response , “ok then” that was dec.26 and it is now feb 17 .. so ex master , what should I do ?
N. Villagran

February 16, 2014 at 7:38 am

your advice seems very logical, but every relationship is different. i think i kinda screwed up. mine wasa trust issue… he started getting very jealous bc i would hg my friends (in a fiendly way) and my so-called best friend would tell him “things” i did… so like… that made matters tedious. when we tookthe “big step”, i wasn’t ready and stuff.. you know.. i was beyond scared and i ended up telling my friends what happened because i was so scared.he got angry at me and we never talked since, even though i begged f0rgiveness… my stoy is not generic at all… i mean, to start things off we broke up due tomy parent’s disapproval of him. i truly hope you can help me at least restore a friendship. details can be given via email. thanks so much!

admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:28 pm

Have you read my guide on trust.
N. Villagran

February 17, 2014 at 4:20 am

no, Chris… I haven’t yet. where is it located?
N. Villagran

February 17, 2014 at 4:50 am

i just read it… and i fall in the lying (forgot the #)… and now i see how he feel, sorta. the thing is… i’m… (don’t wanna sound narcisist) very pretty and my friendliness drove him crazy because he felt like he was gonna lose me, besides the fact that in maybe 2 years i might move back to the States (i’m currently in Ecuadoe) and my parents hate him. even though this is a quick fix, he says that “we can’t be friends because i can’t trust you, but i still respect you” and blablabla.. i tried NC for 15 days and that made things better.. he admitted im “addictive to talk to” and insists that i should talk to him in person. so.. what now? he doesn’t wanna be friends.. i feel that he’s interested in me still ( he observes me and sorta smiles shyly and blabla.) we don’t talk! not even a “hi”.. it’s confusing! 🙁
admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:29 pm

Glad you found it.
N. Villagran

February 17, 2014 at 4:58 am

and the thing is.. my EX BFF ( he and i got in a fight and i found out later that she crushed big time on my ex and totally envies me… she’s not pretty and he doesn’t feel anything for her). she is always with him.. they do hw together andthey talk about animes and videogames… and Tarantino (jaja.., that’s so “fun” :P) and they’re always together alone. it’s obvious she fels like a champ, but it’s also evident that he is using her intelect, disposition and neediness to help his mediocrity. he admitted that to me. she’s really annoying to everyone, but they tolerate her because she helps people with hw. she’s in the way… i hate that. and (god, this makes me sick!) he says that SHE is trustworthy. my @$$! she would say that my ex is sexy while we were all ok… (ifound out recently) and she criicizes her friends really mean. so… -.- it’s no walk in the park. Please enlightened one, help this soul! 😛

nina

February 15, 2014 at 8:26 am

You are answering selectivly so kind and nice of you wow

admin

February 15, 2014 at 6:06 pm

I am! And its no problem at all.
nina

February 18, 2014 at 2:32 pm

Why you’re doing so i dont get it

Martha rojaaas

February 15, 2014 at 4:25 am

Update on my whole situation , we broke up exactly a month ago, he was the one crying saying he was always gonna love me yet the next day he acted like all his feelings were gone…(you might remember now lol) any way after the break up we stayed as friends for like a week or so until I found out he started saying he had dumped me when truth is we both agreed on staying as friends so I got so mad and hurt that I told him off and Told him real man don’t go and talk about woman … Then I saw one of his friends and he told
Me my ex seems more relaxed and stress free and that he’s moving on with his life well today (valentines day) I deleted him off my Fb because it hurts me to just see how he’s moving on like I didn’t mean anything to him during that year and 3 months …this days have been so painful it’s been 16 days of no contact and I don’t see him even making an effort I’m losing hope ..do you think I should just give up ? Is it to soon to try and talk to him ? I want to let him know I te yes the way I did cuz I was upset of what he was telling people that he had dumped me and it wasn’t like that …. I don’t know how to handle this or what to do!!

Martha rojaaas

February 15, 2014 at 4:27 am

**i meant let him know I acted the way I did….

banessa casilla

February 14, 2014 at 6:35 pm

I have a problem wen u have time plzz respond how can I do to get my bf back I tir everything but nothing happen

admin

February 14, 2014 at 6:53 pm

What is it?

Nina

February 13, 2014 at 3:00 pm

*PLUS i deleted him of facebook(he had all his ex’s on facebook as friends, so i didnt want to be like them ,plus i couldn’t handle checking his page all the time). Two days later he deactivated his facebook account.
Nina

February 13, 2014 at 2:56 pm

Hello! My boyfriend broke up with me 15 days ago. We kept fighting over and over every single day the last 3 months and the things had gotten out of hand. I was complaining for many things,he was complaining for his reasons.And we just kept fighting, talking-solving the problem, saying we are going to change and then back to the start again. The last 2 months i could feel him distant or not that interesting on saving our relationship and i was getting very frustrated with this attitude, seeing him getting tired of all the fights and the pressure he had to finish college was making me feeling down, and then he was feeling bad too. So one day after a misunderstood(for once more) he decided to end it up for good. Im in a NC situation all this time, since the 5th day of our break up, when i wrote him my “goodbye” letter in which i was thanking him, explaining my point of view for our relationship and agreeing that we should break up indeed! and left it under his doormat.Since then i am in NC. His comments for this (and for our situation in general) to a common friend were: “The letter didnt say anything at all”, “im moving forward”, “i have plans for my life”. Thats all (at least that’s what our common friend said to me-she insists that they didnt talk about the subject anymore that day).
Anyway, i would like to text him for his birthday on March 20 to wish him and to show him that i have no bad feelings for him, and i appreciate him as a person and i would like to be “friends”, meaning not cutting off every contact like we hate each other cause i don’t hate him, i really love him as a person and i would like to say “hi” once in a while to know how he is..
I doubt he’ll answer my text, he is too selfish and he becomes very cruel when he gets hurt.
What should i do?
jem

February 13, 2014 at 8:22 am

we were in a relationship for 1 year and a half,we had an on and off before but not talk about it when we were together.then again,recently,i told him I have a dream that he had affair with another,then I asked him not to talk to me anymore if he did like that and if he doesn’t like this relation anymore just tell me,he didn’t reply, but immediately he blocked me in whatsapp the moment we were chatting.now,it is two times blocking.what will I do?did I say something wrong or he just don’t like me anymore?i don’t know if I need to ask if we are still ok.
Pearl

February 12, 2014 at 11:17 pm

Hi. My ex n I have a son 2gether. He’s almost 3. Wen I was 6 months preg I had 2 move away. I havnt seen my ex since my son was 3 months old when I visited my ex. He’s been seeing other girls da past 3 years. But also communicating with me still in that tym. Not often tho. Only wen I got a court order against him 2 pay support, did he contact me. He was playing with my feelings, telling me he loves me n our son very much. He never once came 2 visit us. I askd him if we saw each other in person when I mke a trip down 2 him if we cud sit down n work things out. He sed yes, but very reluctantly. N a few days later I saw a picture of another girl on his watsapp. I askd him wu that was n he replied its his gf. Not knowing that it was actually his gf chatting 2 me at the tym. My ex n I had a huge fight because he shudve told me he was seeing some1 instead of saying yes wen I askd if he wanted us 2 work things out. Theyv bn dating a few months now. N he hasn’t cntacted in a few months 2 ask how his son is doing atleast. He blocked me on watsapp after da fight we had. N a week ago I noticed he unblocked me. After he sed he hates me, I wonda y he wud unblock me. He hasn’t made any contact tho since he unblocked me. N neither have I tried 2 contact him. Wat can I do 2 bring back wat was once there.