How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Speak To You- Get Him Talking Again

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Maria

February 12, 2014 at 9:53 pm

Hi !! I was going out with my first love , we met when we were 18 , lots of things have happened but all together we have crossed our paths 4 times in 23 years . Just 4 weeks ago we started talking and went out every day till one night he wanted to sleep with me . I have to say we had never had sex prior to our encounters . I said no , and from then he acted strange with me . Then one night I went round his and we talked and one thing let to another and we had sex. I was obviously nervous . It wasn’t that great , I guess I was expecting something else. Well after that encounter he started to be distant , he stopped picking me up , he would hang around some friends and the weekend he dissaperared with no word . Not a text or call . I sent him ONE text in the whole 3 days we had no contact , and he called . But I had done something bad , I wrote him a letter , this letter was of course to hurt his EGO and his performance in bed . Yes , I know very stupid of me . He then sent me nasty messages and said he had nothing else to say to me . Then , 5 days later he sends a text saying Good Night . My immediate thought was he got confused and sent it to the wrong person . I did text him back saying that I think you got confused with some girl and this message wasn’t meant for me . He never replied to my text . What is he playing at . I’ve known this person for that long, how could he treat me that way, I felt so angry with myself for over a week and a half, he is just playing games with me. I need ADVICE , this is driving me mad . Thanks

admin

February 14, 2014 at 2:52 am

How old are the two of you now?

Megan

February 12, 2014 at 2:47 am

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half over a stupid fight and I immediately regretted it and begged for his forgiveness and for him to take me back but he refused and told me that breaking up with him made him realize how unhappy he was. For about the first month I would text him long messages apologizing with no response. It has been about four months since we broke up and about two and a half months since I last texted him. He has been hanging out with a lot of girls recently but they are all really big and pretty ugly but I can’t tell if he is into any of them. We also are forced to spend a lt of time together during the week. How do I make him want me back?

admin

February 12, 2014 at 7:38 pm

What was the fight over?

christine

February 11, 2014 at 8:08 pm

Hi i recently got in a fight with my boyfriend,it was really really bad.he left our apartment with almost all his things and he broke up with me.the nxt day he came back to see our son and he did for an hr or so.and then to us space,i left to my parents for the day.that night he wanted to speak to our son on the phone but i miss the call and he said hed call back the nxt day,anyways its been two days since he said that.and hasnt call or txted and i havent either.i understand we need space and not communicating as much is for the best right now,but how do i do that wen we have a son involved?and so many other responsiblities to discuss like the rent and bills.wen is a good time to talk about these things or bring them up without stirring up another fight.plz help i have no idea what im doing

admin

February 12, 2014 at 7:29 pm

I think you are going to have to do limited contact.
christine

February 12, 2014 at 9:51 pm

Will limited contact help as much as the no contact rule.right now he wants absolutly no contact with me or our child but presume its mstly directed towards me.i just want my family back,i dnt know if you understand but our child is involved.plz help

Bri

February 11, 2014 at 4:56 pm

Me and the person I have seeing for the 8 months got into a huge fight I will admit that it was my fault. After the fight he left the house and did come back for a day he didnt reply to my text or calls but when he got back he seemed like he was being a little flirtatious.After that we didnt really talk about it but last night he invited me to sleep in his bedroom again what could that mean?

admin

February 11, 2014 at 6:37 pm

That means he either wants to sleep with you or just be around you. Most likely he wants to sleep with you.

Mokka

February 10, 2014 at 9:36 am

Nearly 6 years after we broke up, for the first time ever, my ex asked my bestfriend via facebook how I was doing and if Im already married. My bestfriend told him I am currently single. It was a complete surprise as he never talked to me or my friend after the breakup. Though for the first two years (on and off) I would pathetically bombard him with text messages and drunk dials telling him how I regret losing what we had together. To all these dramatic attempts of winning him back, he never gave a reply nor would he say a word when I’d call him (using different numbers even! Talk about desperation back then!) Very embarrassing! We had to part ways since we each had to move to different cities because of my work and his medical school. Anyway, thats about it. Fast forward, 3 years into the breakup I just stopped contacting him and moved on. Its now been close to 6 years since our separation. His asking about me from my bestfriend really raised some questions in my head. And so, I messaged
him on facebook! Said a cool hi and congratulated him for now being a doctor as I’ve heard from mutual friends. And in the end part of the brief message, I said sorry for acting like a kid and for being immature before. Thats it! But he still has not replied! Its been 6 years! I’ve done all I could to reach out to him and even play cool this time but I just don’t get why he still refuses to talk to me. Please give insight. Thank you!

admin

February 10, 2014 at 6:56 pm

6 years since you last talked??????

Shar

February 9, 2014 at 11:53 pm

My boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me January 20. I’m not sure why I got no real explanation besides needing a break but he actually just wanted to completely breakup. I started the no contact rule about five days after the breakup and stuck with it for two weeks but we work together and it’s extremely uncomfortable at work right now. I ended up texting him asking him how he was and we texted a few minutes. But that was it. He’s told friends he misses me but he doesn’t think it will be the same. Please help me!!
Taylor

February 9, 2014 at 4:46 pm

My boyfriend and I dated for a year and a half and he randomly broke up with me a little over two weeks ago. I didn’t see it coming, he said he thought about it for a whole week yet showed no signs. The night it happened, we were even making plans for the next day and events in the future but then a few hours later he ended it. The day before it happened he even told me he would love me forever. I asked him how he could make a promise like that and he said he just knew he would. Then 24 hours later it was done. I’m so lost and confused.

Since the breakup, I only texted him twice, nothing desperate, just asking him if we could talk and he said he needed more time to think about everything so I gave him that time. Last Saturday (8 days ago) we met up for the first time since he broke up with me. There was no begging, no tears, just talking. I explained what I thought was wrong in the relationship and what we could do to fix things (i.e. we moved too fast because I moved in with him only after 10 months, I was depressed the past few months due to school stress, etc.) I believe the circumstances affected the relationship which then put unnecessary stress and tension on it which made us unhappy. But before all that, we were great together. After talking and catching up, he agreed with all my points but still said he needed time to think about it. He said he believed me when I said this situation wouldn’t happen again but only to an extent only because this all happened in the first place. I asked if I even had a chance while I was walking out the door and he said yes.

We haven’t spoken one word to each other since. I’m wondering if this is a lost cause. I truly believe that the circumstances were the reason why the relationship went sour, not each other. I’ve improved my mentality since; accepted my school issues and they’re behind me, and I believe that if we just took a few steps back and didn’t move so quickly we could make it work. What should I do? What should I think? I don’t know what to do.

admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:36 am

Well, obviously nothing gets accomplished until you two communicate. Are you past the NC rule?
Taylor

February 10, 2014 at 11:35 pm

It has not been 30 days since we broke up so no we aren’t past the NC rule, which is why I haven’t talked to him since we talked on Saturday (2/1/14). I’m not sure what to do, if I should contact him even though it hasn’t been 30 days or if I should wait longer to contact him.

Martha rojaaas

February 9, 2014 at 8:53 am

I been posting here since my break up on jan 14 , we decided to end as friends cuz we would always argue…mostly because he would always put his friends first and would always make efforts for them but not for me,also he was immature and had a lot of pride in him ..but the next day after breaking up he acted like all his feelings were gone saying all we would ever be was just friends … After 2 weeks of the break up I heard from friends he was saying he had dumped me it pissed me off cuz the day we BOTH decided to stay as friends he was the one cryin saying he was always gonna love me and that he took me for granted and that I deserved better… Any way since that day I found out he was saying he had dumped me I told him to grow up that real man don’t go and make up stuff specially about a woman, so we been in no contact for 11 days , he hasn’t deleted me off Facebook and he always hits like” on some of my posts, BUT today I saw one of his friends and he told me that my ex now looks more happy and stress free that he is moving on with his life …. Do you think my ex is hiding his feelings? Or should I just definetly try to move on and stop having hope??

admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:28 am

It is possible that he is. Maybe he does feel a little stress free. Personally, for me relationships can be stressful but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t miss you.

Jen

February 7, 2014 at 9:31 pm

Me and my boyfriend of 2 and a half years brokeup yesterday out of nowhere. we moved back to our seperate parents houses the beginning of this week because we were going to save to move somewhere nicer together. Things have been off for a few months etc.
He basically said that he loves me but hes not in love with me and that he feels the spark has dwindled. We met up today and both talked about it, both ended up in tears and i can still feel the love between us even thougb its over. He said to me that his dad says hes making a mistake, and that he’s 50/50 about everything. He said that he might turn round in a week or so and realise he misses me, but he needs to breakup with me totally in order to realise that. What do I do? He seems confused and everyone thinks that he is too. Please help, i would do anything for him.

Brittany

February 10, 2014 at 11:24 pm

when its over; its over; hes an x off your list; find your soul mate; obviously things happen for a reason, take it as a new opportunity to move forward and discover new possibilities :), and people change as you grow; you either grow together or apart.
admin

February 8, 2014 at 4:22 am

No contact rule immediately. I am serious I think it can really work for you.

Maryann

February 6, 2014 at 8:25 pm

Thank you, the NC rule was very interesting.i have been doing it without knowing the effect.
tell me, does this NC also work in along distance relationship???does it have any effect??
am not sure if i want to get back with him since i am so much at peace at the moment iv not felt this way for a very very long time, i am in control and though i miss him, i still want my happiness.

admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:26 pm

Oh ya!

It definitely works in LDR.

miss E

February 6, 2014 at 7:58 pm

Hello so I did 30day no contact used some of the skills you taught we started talking again things were going okay he expressed that he missed me he loved me and cared for me. The problem was he just left me without breaking up with me, and I was seeing stuff online with him another woman, and yet he still says that it was nothing and he doesn’t know that girl when it is clear something went on. We’ve been talking pretty consistently after the no contact but today he got mad at me of the pets game on tagged and I had a guy on there and I called this morning he text me to not call be happy with my boyfriend neon and take care. I text him asking him if had received something in the mail which was why I called in the first place and he said don’t call or text anymore… So I responded and said a lot of what I had to say and decided to go on a 30 day no contact… but his birthday is coming up and is it okay if I send him a gift? or should I wait till 30 days is over and what can I do to get him to tell me the truth or am I just fighting a lost cause
beth

February 6, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Me and my ex normally break up and get back together every 4 months or so, recently we moved in together for about a week and then broke up, it was horrible. But were were together the longest we’d ever been together this time, about 7/8 months. Because it only took us a week-two weeks to get back together before when i wasn’t using no contact, do you still recommend 30 days this time? I have made it through 2 weeks absolutely no contact. He is also a very stubborn, proud person.

admin

February 7, 2014 at 6:17 pm

What usually causes the breakup between you two?

Shay

February 6, 2014 at 3:27 am

My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. We broke up because I found some things that lead me to believe he was cheating on me. He said he wasn’t and had a whole explanation. I told him I believed him and we agreed to try and make it work. I went to see him at school and everything was great. He adored me and we were everything to each other. Then he suddenly says we need to date other people. I didn’t have any warning. We tried being friends but we fought everyday about petty things. Finally I said some horrible things and told him I never believed him about the cheating and he said to never contact him. I left him alone for a week with NC then I did another thing to try and prove he cheated on me. He found out and said to never contact him again. That was a week ago. In that week I’ve sent him several apologies and begged him to be friends again. Now he’s blocked me from his Facebook because I sent him to many messages I think even though he read them all. I don’t have his number because when he changed numbers he asked me if I wanted it and I said no because I was mad at him. He offered me his number after he said not to contact him again the first time. So now I can’t get ahold of him except through emails but I still want him back. What should I do? Is there any chance he’ll reach out to me?

Shay

February 6, 2014 at 3:31 am

Also he lives in a different state from me so we don’t really see each other after being together everyday for 3 years.

Cecille

February 4, 2014 at 8:34 pm

Hi.Me and my ex broke up after being together for 3.5 years.We broke up last thanksgiving. Then i found out that he jumped in this new relationship with his ex from when he was in college. I was devastated. I tried to call him and emailed him just to get some explaination- he never replied. I didn’t contact him for two weeks until New Year came.. I greeted him. After that, I sent him one email everyday to let him know what i’m doing… And then I stopped. I was thinking, if he is in a rebound relationship… I should just let it be. So, the last email I sent to him was I am leaving him alone for now..I applied the “no contact rule on him.” This was 8 days ago… Today, I got this email..

“Please do not contact me again… You have to move on… I am happy over here…. Get on with your life with your family and kids… they need you most…. Sorry”

What was weird was- when I was emailing him- I know he reads my email… but he never told me not to contact him again. Now this.. I really want him back. What should I do? Did I ruined my chances with him already?

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:35 pm

You need to lay off. You are being a text gnat or I guess an email gnat.

That is why he told you to not contact him again.
Cecille

February 7, 2014 at 9:31 pm

Hi. I just found out that the reason why he sent me that email is because he’s new girl read all my emails to him and got mad. He told a mutual friend of ours that he didn’t really want to do this. He even asked how I’m doing. Do you think I have a good chance?
Cecille

February 7, 2014 at 9:32 pm

Also… I am still on no contact with him. I didn’t replied back to his email.

Karim

February 4, 2014 at 10:44 am

Hi I haven’t been with my ex for 2 years now and I really want to get her back.
We lived together for 2 years and did everything together. I was a little jealous and I think thats reason for her leaving me.

6 months after our break up, we began seeing each other again. And a year ago she stopped answering me.
Our relationship has been very complicated and confusing. Now I don’t know what to.
The 23rd january I wrote her a text message wishing her a happy birthday but she didn’t answer me.

What should I do ?

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:51 pm

Lay back for a bit.. I think you are pressing too hard.

Martha rojaaas

February 3, 2014 at 11:41 pm

It’s been 6 days of NC with my ex after I found out he was saying he had dumped me when the day we broke up (jan 14) he was crying saying he will always love me and be here for me , and then I found out he was saying that, that he had dumped me I got pissed and td him off and td him how real man don’t go and make up stuff …we dated a year and 3 months h was my first bf I’m 25 he’s 23 , we broke up cuz I felt he would t out too much effort as I did, and he always put his friends first , a friend told me I expected too much and that I wasn’t supposed to ask for him to change when all we had was a bf/ gf relationship … Do U think he will ever want me back after all the pressure of me wanting for him to change ? Like I said we been on NC 6 days now …

admin

February 4, 2014 at 5:35 pm

Well, you are still so early in NC. Just try to make it to the 30 day mark. Just focus on that.

Amanda

February 1, 2014 at 1:11 pm

Hi
Me and my ex have been broken up for a little over two months. The first month I pushed him away by texting him like crazy. I then did an entire 30 days of no contact, the last week of it he went by my brothers shop and asked how I’ve been. I messaged him after NC was done to see how he was doing. We had a friendly conversation and when it hit a dead end I stopped replying, after 10 min he started asking me more questions. I messaged him two days later to see if he wanted to meet up but he was busy. I messaged him few days after reminding him of something from our past, he responded right away. I send a message back and then that was it he stopped replying. I feel like things were going so well now all of a sudden he doesn’t want me again ?
Maddie

January 31, 2014 at 6:59 am

Hi! So me and my first love first kiss first everything broke up about a month ago. I broke up with him because we had a fight and i got really upset. But like an hour later I regretted it and said sorry and I said I wanted him back. And he was mean to me about it and said he never wanted to get back together ever. And I know I shouldn’t have done this, but I begged. I begged a lot and I bothered him a lot and he told me to stop leaving him alone a few times and I did for about a week and I texted him again. I realize now what a mistake this was and I regret it and it’s been a month since we broke up and he has been very mean in letting me know he doesn’t want to go back out again. We just stopped talking and it’s been a few days and I just read this article because I miss him so much! (His reasoning for not wanting to date changed from day to day) I will try my best to do the NC rule but even then I don’t know if I have a chance? I realize how annoying I was and I apologized for being that way. But now I feel as if I don’t have a chance at all. I feel so stupid for trying to beg him to come back. And now he wants nothing to do with me just cause I was so annoying probably. I’m so heartbroken. And don’t get me wrong, he loved me too! We spent a year together. he bought me really nice expensive earrings for Christmas and he told me all the time how much he loved me. I’m so confused now as to if I should even try to get him back. Do you think if I do the NC rule right, he will want me back or try to talk to me?

admin

January 31, 2014 at 6:47 pm

I think it can be a really good idea!

Martha rojaaas

January 30, 2014 at 5:32 am

Me again!! So this is my 3rd post and this one is to say yesterday I found out he’s been telling everyone he dumped me when he was the one crying when we both decided to be friends cu we would argue a lot…and I told him that realan don’t go and make up stuff about a relationship or a woman it pissed me off and I td him to grow the F up and grow some b*lls! …I decided to start the N/C thing he still has me on Fb so I’m thinking he still cares for me… Mean while I feel better now that I know he made stuff up saying he dumped me I feel le if he’s not worth me
Suffering for him 🙂

Martha rojaaas

January 30, 2014 at 5:33 am

Real man**

Kaitlin

January 29, 2014 at 1:15 pm

Me and my boyfriend dated for a year and 3 months and he got mad at me because he said I was “playing games” because I wasn’t sure what I wanted at the time. We were on and off the whole month of November then after that he just stopped caring and I found out he was talking to this other girl. I got mad but it wasn’t for long. I started texting him again and during the month of December and he told me they were still just talking and kept saying he wasn’t going to leave her because she’s never hurt him. On December 27th, he told me him and the other girl were officially dating so I stopped talking to him. Then on janurary 3rd I found out I was pregnant. I told him that night and he was in denial about it not being possible when it very much was. I would still go over there and we’d do stuff as if we were still together but he always kept her as his first priority. He told me if she found out anything, he’d never talk to me again and I promised I wouldn’t say anything. Then recently she found out that I was pregnant and it happened while they were together and he would still talk to me but he wouldn’t hangout with me or anything because he said he needed his space. He rarely text me back and when he did he was being really slow and short. Just yesterday I sent him a long message telling him that I thought he’d always be here for me and he’s not and my friends were right, he’s nothing but a pathetic ass hole and that he’s not a real man and just stuff like that because he wouldn’t respond to my good morning message. He called me and told me that he was never talking to me again and that he wanted nothing to d

Kaitlin

January 29, 2014 at 1:17 pm

Do with me and I sent him a long message telling him I’ll always love him and I’m sorry but he never text me back and idk what to do.

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