195 thoughts on “Getting An Army, Military Or Navy Ex Boyfriend Back”

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   Brenda

   September 19, 2015 at 2:51 pm

   Hello,
   I am kinda this situation but it is a little more complicated. Are you offering personal coaching?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:20 pm

   Currently I don’t BUT I will be in the future!

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   Seriously Confused...

   September 18, 2015 at 4:35 am

   I completed the NC for 30 days when I first contacted my ex. Immediately as I sent him the first text he ringed me, and while I tried to avoid it he was acting so desperate and begging me to pick up the phone I had no choice but to respond. We talked for two hours and he was almost choking up over the phone and I knew he was extremely happy to get in contact with me again. He had been nonstop being a phone gnat two days before NC was going to be over, and even sent over a mutual friend to “interrogate” me on why I had been ignoring him for so long. This behavior is extremely surprising because from the year I knew and dated him in our long distance relationship, he was always a very careful man who was quite placid and cold on his exterior. And I was always the one doing all the chasing and I was being the very needy one.

   Anyway, I am extremely confused because from the first five minutes he started dropping sexual undertones, and as we kept on talking he constantly sprinkled in some kind of sexual remark, saying he is so surprised how much I’ve changed since the last time we talked (when we broke up, a month ago) and he was saying how sexy I was and how much he missed having these kinds of conversations. He brought up the relationship, and I said I was grateful for him for giving me this relationship and that I will always cherish him as a friend, to which he starts to become extremely silent, and when I ask for his confirmation, he started to stutter and said he would “tell me later”. We ended the conversation later, and he kept littering my text box with emoticons and saying how he would text me the next day. The next day he indeed texted me, and while I was spreading my response times, he brought up sex pretty soon once again and eventually I had to stop responding to him because even though I did play along with him, I had no idea how to respond and his sexual talk is just making me extremely uncomfortable. This was something that I never anticipated nor read on the website, and I have zero idea what he is thinking right now.

   1)Because we’re far apart, there is no way he’s trying to get laid from me, so I’m extremely confused of his intentions. Do you have any idea?
   2)Did NC work too well or is he playing games with me because he has a hidden agenda?
   3)How should I handle this situation in which he is littering me with texts every time I try to end the convo or “pull the rug” from him when we text?
   4)Any further suggestions, comments, and tips on my situation?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:22 pm

   Question, is your ex in the army or was this just a long distance relationship?

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   Minnie

   September 16, 2015 at 3:46 pm

   Hi 🙂
   My ex has just backed home after finish 2 years at university. As I’ve told you before, he seems really enjoys these free days, hangs out with his friends, including girls. He hasn’t contact me at all. He also unfollowed me on facebook, he doesn’t want to receive any update from me. How can I show him my fabulous life now? He tries to find any ways to fill in his loneliness without contacting me. I thought that when he back home, he could feel that I was not here for him any more, he might miss me or want to contact me or something like that. But I haven’t received any thing. That’s why I am really really afraid that if no contact can make he miss me or the silence of myself just extend the distance between us? By the end of September I will finish my no contact for 45 days (I was so needy before so I chose 45 days). These days are really long, very long for me. He is happy now, without me. I’m really upset.

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   Minnie

   September 30, 2015 at 5:26 pm

   P/S: He was study in university to be an policeman so it’s the same as in the army in some ways. He rarely went back home in 2 years and we didn’t have any chances together.

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   Minnie

   September 30, 2015 at 5:24 pm

   Yes, he was in army for 2 years. That’s made us be in a long distance relationship. And we broke up when he was in there. But now, he is home. He did finish it. Please give me some advice about how to attract him again?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:19 pm

   I definitely get your statement about the days being long for you.

   Was your ex in the army at all though?

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   Lea

   September 15, 2015 at 11:05 pm

   My NC period expires next week but lots of things happened to me these days and I’m under so much stress so I don’t feel happy and positive and I miss him so badly these days, I miss his support. Should I prolong NC because there is no point in communication if he picks up my bad vibe?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:17 pm

   Sure, I think it’s ok to prolong it.

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   Candy

   September 15, 2015 at 1:35 am

   I can’t believe this was just posted …my ex who is deployed broke up with me last monday. I shipped him a package the next day since I told him I would have anyway. It contained love letters, a picture of us…all the little treats he asked for. I was falling apart, and decided to contact him today. He deleted me from Facebook and unfollowed me on instagram. This all started because a long time friend wanted to get sushi…I told him I wouldn’t go, and I didnt. He didn’t wanna listen to me…that was all a week ago. I reactivated my Facebook tonight, and cracked and messaged him. I told him I was heartbroken and that I missed him so much and I just wanted him to be okay and safe. He told me I had too many guy friends, and that I used people for money. He said he gave me money and I used him. I pressured him into a relationship, and that I made him out to be a monster to our friends. Which I didnt. He said a lot of hurtful things. I tried my hardest to convince him it wasn’t true, and cried for him to call me. He then blocked me….please, there has to be something I can do. I’m falling apart. How could he repeat how much he loved me that day, to telling me he didn’t trust me and wanting this to be over. Please, help me. I’m destroyed. I need to fix this…

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   Candy

   October 29, 2015 at 4:05 am

   Hi again Chris, we still haven’t spoken since a week after the breakup. It’s now been around 60 days. Tonight he texted me from a weird number since he is still overseas. He told me essentially that he wanted his stuff back and he was tired of waiting. Instead of me driving 15 minutes to his house and bringing it he wants me to ship it overseas. He told me to give it to our friend (who I am much closer with) to give to him. All i have is a jacket he doesn’t fit in, a hat he doesn’t fit in and an expired registration for his car. Does he really want to back or is he trying to contact me? Please help…

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   Candy

   October 3, 2015 at 9:20 pm

   An important factor i may be leaving out is that I am also enlisted. Newly enlisted. I was originally active duty, but he begged me to stay and do basically a reserve unit. He’ll say it was my choice, but he made me feel guilty about my original decesion. So now I am stationed with him once he comes home…and his ex girlfriend (that he left me for) is also there. And today I saw her for the first time. It honestly broke my heart. He said they haven’t spoken in months when I was speaking to him…I didn’t have the courage to ask her. I’m not sure if she knows it’s me or not…she knew of me and saw my pictures and knew my name, but I was in uniform. I don’t think she knew I was in the military as well….so now I’m really in a spot. When he comes home we’ll all be stationed together. ..

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   Candy

   October 2, 2015 at 5:10 pm

   Am I losing him completely? By being in NC I understand that he may miss me, but he put me in the circumstances of not being able to contact him. I’ve been trying to focus on myself and move on, but he’s finding ways of making sure I’m aware of his comments. I’m not sure if he’said doing it intentionally or not….

   I understand that since I’m blocked there’s nothing I can do but wait…but how can he be okay? We’ve never gone this long without talking since we made up after his breakup with his ex. How can he not contact me directly at all…how can he message our friends, while he knows I’m with them to say mean things. What’s the point of it…

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   Candy

   October 1, 2015 at 9:18 pm

   But I don’t understand why. He told me to move on…

   No, he was never this mean. He blocked me the second time because it was for his ex. After 2 months he contacted me saying he made a huge mistake.

   But we never fought. Every time we’d end things, we would just fade apart and he would come back. But he was never mean, he would just try and keep coming back to make sure I wouldn’t get over him I guess.

   It’s been just about a month since we’ve broken up.
   He always said how he didn’t wanna lead me on because we’d never be together…it’d never work since he was leaving.

   This is the first time we were actually exclusive. He knew I was in love with him for the longest time, and he finally wanted to make it official before he deployed…he said he didn’t wanna lose me ever again.

   Please help me. I’d do anything to have him back. I haven’t contacted him in over 2 weeks. I’m trying to do NC. Since he left me for his ex, I never tried contacting him after we’d break up, except for this time. He’s contacting people when he sees I’m with them and is being mean. I don’t understand why

   Sorry it was posted in 2 places.

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   Chris Seiter

   October 2, 2015 at 4:20 pm

   No worries Candy.

   Right now just stay in NC and definitely work to improve yourself.

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   Candy

   September 30, 2015 at 7:09 pm

   He will be back home in late January. I still haven’t contacted him since I am blocked from everything, and I blocked him back. He saw a video of me that my mutual friend posted two weeks later, saying “she looks soooo heartbroken”.

   Then he started posting very mean statuses about me on Facebook for the world to see. My friends saw it and I told them not to tell me what they said. He’s talking very very bad about me. He started doing it like 2 weeks after we broke up. I didn’t contact him at all! Then our mutual friend uploaded a picture of me and he contacted her saying how I was ugly or something. I mean come on…he told me it was pointless, and to move on. Which I’m trying to do. But now he’s trying to ruin me on social media….

   I don’t know what to do. I wanna move on….but I still love him so much. But he’s still trying to hurt me. He left me 5 times already! Is him being mean like this his way of trying to keep me around and aware of his presence, or his way of pushing me away?

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   Chris Seiter

   October 1, 2015 at 5:47 pm

   Well he definitely seems like he is keeping an eye on you.

   Can I ask you a question.

   Was he always this mean the previous 5 times?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:17 pm

   Hi Candy,

   I am really sorry to hear this.

   I actually think your best bet right now is to take the focus off of him for a while and put it on you.

   Do you have any idea when he will come back from his deployment?

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   Julia

   September 15, 2015 at 12:47 am

   Hello Chris
   Seems like after I ve been happy seeing that Ur strategies worked for me, and i got my ex , lately ive been complanining about him being so distant and ignoring my texts si often and now he just ignores me more.
   What do u suggest in that case since we didnt verbally broke up , his silence treatment is killing me
   Would u be Nice and answer also my comment on the previous guide u made, I give à detailed explanation on my situation
   Thank you, I really need ur help right now

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   Confused

   October 4, 2015 at 8:09 am

   Yes it was all via text we are in LDR

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   Confused

   October 3, 2015 at 8:40 pm

   He just stopped answering me suddently, while I know he reads all my texts, and that lasted for days
   After I postes ly last comment here, and after getting annoyed with his constant ignoring to my text I broke up with him via text, he said nothing but a simple hey to which I didn’t answer ,
   I ended up regretting my decision and talk to him after a week and apologised for the rude way i broke up with he said he cant answer me but still we talked from time to time in a positive way
   After somedays I asked him again about what he think and he said he wants a break, I am not sure what he means by that, I told him to explain to me that it mean , is it a break up or what? but he didnt want to give me a specific answer so I end up crying and making big deal and accusing him for playing with me
   After that I get no anwser from him, I just send him a text saying that I love him and he can take his time
   Now it s been few days and no answer from him
   I dont know if I should reach him or do NC , I m very confused

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   Chris Seiter

   October 6, 2015 at 4:09 am

   He is in the army right?

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   Chris Seiter

   September 30, 2015 at 4:16 pm

   Can you explain how the break up worked?

   Especially if the two of you didn’t verbally breakup.

   Was it all through text?