How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

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Sara

August 19, 2013 at 7:30 pm

Hi

My ex broke up with me about a month and a half ago, he broke up with me because he said I had trust issues. Initially we were supposed to be friends and we were which was fine with me. I admit that we have had sex a few times since last the relationship ended and im not proud of that. Last weekend, I went to a party and danced with a few guys while he was there. He became so pissed off at me and hasn’t talked to me properly since. I tried to talk to him about it and he was just blunt with me about how he hated I was all over guys at the party. He has talked to me properly since. I told him I couldnt be friends with him anymore if he was continuing to treat me like that. And then I deleted him number from my phone. On top of all this, he met a girl at a mutual friends party yesterday and has been flirting with her non stop and has even started texting her now. If I start the NC rule now, I feel like I will lose him to this new girl. He told me that he loved me a few days before meeting this girl. What do I do to make sure he doesnt move on but without seeming desperate? He told her that he doesn’t love me anymore and he never wants to be with me

admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:42 am

Haha well you can’t control him so you need to accept that you can’t do anything. Running to him and begging for him back won’t work b/c it will likely push him farther into her arms.

Now, he is just “talking” with her at this stage and she could just be a simple rebound so I still think that NC is the way to go.
Sara

August 20, 2013 at 10:58 am

Thanks. I’ll continue with that.

I will most likely be seeing him at a mutual friends birthday party this weekend. Should I ignore him when I see him?
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:25 am

Don’t ignore him. Try not to let it be awkward but keep the conversation short and I want you to be the happiest person on the planet (just fake it until you become it.)
Sara

August 22, 2013 at 1:23 am

He actually texted me this morning, he said “Hey I dont like this. I want us to be friends and talk and stuff”.

What should I do? Should I ignore this message and continue with NC?

Thanks 🙂
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:58 am

I say ignore it and keep going with NC.
Sara

August 21, 2013 at 8:10 pm

My ex boyfriend just texted me after 3 days of NC that he doesn’t like “this” and he wants to be friends with me and talk to me.

Should I respond to this text?
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:48 am

Nope stay in NC. You have the power.

Diane

August 19, 2013 at 4:23 pm

9 months ago I met my bf in dating site , we stick together since first date , things seemed very perfect since we had alot commen , he was so caring n sweet to me everyone said he is so into me , I though So too even he have never say he loves me but I did tell him that .. But now fr arguement he told me that he has not feeling for me as love , he cares for me a lot n enjoy to hang out with me but some how love is not appeared in his heart ..he wanted break up for me move on to find other one better who can give me what I deserve , we broke up 2 weeks now .. I was dying n even begged him give us more time to see if love can grow up but he resist it .. Sine I met him , he has no job n I didn’t mind it , I love him cause I found him everything I wanted fr man n he told me in very first time we were together that he thinks I’m right one for him n he is so lucky to met me .. But now turn out with such painful result that he doesn’t love me even he though n expected it w be .. But I still want him back. I can’t accept the truth .. I hope there is any way to get him back n win his heart .. I did some mistake when we were together that checking his schedule alot n jealous alot cause I feel insecure when he didn’t say love me even still so nice to me .. Pls help me .. I can do nothing fr day the we broke up .. Hurt n cry all the time .. I love him deeply n just dream to have him in my life

amy

August 20, 2013 at 10:54 am

Tbh hes an *sswhole . You treats you like you were hes everything and say he don’t love you ? Bs -.- like hun i know its hard , but move on . He ain’t worth it i know right now your like but hes my everything or was . But then later on your gonna be like wtf xD LOL I cried for that moran . Uhh no~ just be thankful for the.memories just don’t over think.them c: keep ypur head up❤
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:14 am

NC is the best play in your case I believe.

Tammy

August 19, 2013 at 12:05 am

Hi ,my ex and i have been together for 8 months ,he is 11 years older than me . We started a realy nice relationship , it was full of love and harmony . My ex had a 2 year relationship before me , and i had 1 year relationship before him . He loved his ex but she crushed him ., and my past relationship before him crushed me , so we kind of find eachother. So at start we realy liked eachother then when we moved deeper i was in love and then jelaousy started , at bouth sides.
He started questioning me , and i him.. so we argued a little bit it wasnt serious.. he told me that he will never tell me what he feels .. we normaly had sex , it was perfec till i got drunk one day he had gone to the wc and i picked up his phone , i saw chatting with his ex and some girl .. then i told him we started fighting day by day .. cuz of that i told him not to fo that but he told me im not , and asked me do i trust him .. i told him yes…. then month later i again looked at phone and same thing.. he told me that he does that on purpose . to see if i trust him.. then i kept checkig and we argued than he told me that we need a break .. and space .. i cryed it was paintfull to him and me he told me then that he loves me .. and we kissed and cryed he kept sending me sad songs .. and we broke up … then we chated every day but not same as before .. and i jus 3 days frome our break up ..
i saw him kissing in the club same girl that he was chating.. i got him out of club he was drunk and i was.. i started hitting him .. and crying he told me .. that he likes her i asked him do u love her ? he told me no i love u .. i ask him way .. he tells me i dont know .. i want this..
then i got prenant .. i didnt want to tel him but somehow he knew ..we wanned to resolve problemm he didnt knew what to do .. abort or … he asked his friends .. ( we have same male bfs) they told me that hes desperete .. and i was too .. we have been seein eacother than without his promission i aborted.. then we heard eachother time to time .. he kept saying there u go ur going to be alone again this summer.. then … he saw me somewere in town he texted .. we had ex sex .. i got that thing i just gat angry 4 no reason little things made me mad … he didnt wanned to hear from me .. then we stoped everything … 15 days later he texed me .. he told me he had a new girl .. he asked me about my love life.. we were sad bouth .. but then we wanned to have sex he wanned to cheat his new gf .. but he was afraid that i would tell . and he will destroy what he has wit her .. but he doesnt want to be with me he told me that .. then we made a deal on sunday … but his new gf told him that they will be together 4 three days .. and he told me he cant see me before thuesday i got mad .. and he told me im sorry i wanned to do it .. then i didnt .. and frome then we havent heard from eachother .. few days ago i went out with his friends we had much fun they alwaus wanned me to be with him , they told me that i was realy close .. but theres no use now .. i cryed ever since the break up .. i only think about him cry evey night .. pray to get him back. His new girlfriend is the same he texed while we were together .. he deleted facebook .. and i think he forgot about me but .. time to time i know that he has been seeing my fb .. hes with her for 2 ,5 months i think … maby little less.. but there.. i used NS Rule .. 1 september it will be 30 days .. i rely love him … by the way he wanned to marry me .. when im over colledge .. he told me that we are going to see eachother more.. when we were braking up .. but last time he told me im going to come on coffie at least as friends. By the way im from serbia sorry if i missed some words or letters .. i dont speak english .. and please HELP.

admin

August 19, 2013 at 4:11 am

So your still doing NC?
Tammy

August 19, 2013 at 12:07 pm

Yes . Im following every step .. durning nc what to do .. and other stuf..
admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:51 am

Are you asking what to do during NC?

I would say in short evolve into something that he would actively seek out and want back.
Tammy

August 21, 2013 at 3:18 pm

yesterday i was at pool with my friends , after a long time i saw him his friends came to me and sad hi we huged … he wasnt i wasnt looking at him at all .. he wasnt with his gf ..
i played volleyball he was looking all the time .. we was near me . he looked but i was talking to my friends.. when we were leaving my friend needed to say goodbye to them .. she said … and hes friend asked where am i .. she said i was gone .. my ex smiled and looked down . She asked him whats up he said wife kids .. ( ps. he was joking) .. i looked my best .. but we didnt see eachother 4 2 months.. i dont know .. if hes ever going to come back ..
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:34 am

So where are you at right now? Are you still in NC or are you at the point where you can begin texting him?

Skyler

August 18, 2013 at 6:15 pm

I’m really hoping this works. My first boyfriend meant the world to me. He was my first kiss, the first boy I brought home to my parents, my first everything sans sex. He really was my everything. All of his friends liked me and his parents loved me, as my parents did him. We were so perfect together, everyone told us so. And yet he cheated on me after 13 months of a relationship for someone two years his junior. Everyone is mad at him for it. Someone even went as far to egg his car. His new girlfriend even texted me harassing me about having “my man,” and gave my number to her sister and best friend (law enforcement did get involved). I don’t understand how he could still want her after everything she caused him. But I can’t stop wanting him back. He meant everything to me. I just hope his friends and parents can open his eyes to how horrible she is and how great we were. Because we really were. I’m just hoping the advice from this article works.

admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:41 am

He will open his eyes eventually. No guy wants to be with a crazy girl like that.

Jessica

August 17, 2013 at 11:47 am

Hello, so I’ve been in a relationship for a year and a half but for the past couple of months have been on and off and he has now decided to call it off and has finally told me he has lost interest as I didn’t contact him for a while because I was on holiday and he says that made him really upset. I am now back in the country and he met me the first day I got back and the second day, the second day we had a small argument to do with all our feelings etc and he told me something which was very shocking for me. He said, that he had started liking another girl and that they spoke for a long time during my holiday period and he bumped into her at a club but the girl completely ignored him and after that night he messaged her and she was upset because she got back with her ex or something, it makes me upset knowing he messaged the other girl that night after the club and not me as I specifically asked him to but he ignored that. It breaks my heart and makes me feel in a million pieces knowing that he was hurt over another girl. The situation with the other girl has really made him angry towards females and now he doesn’t want anything to do with them. However, during the past few months where we were on and off, the physical attraction and sexual attraction was still there including all our feelings too, only for the past couple of weeks I feel more distanced from him and he has been speaking in a cold tone to me but I accept that it’s probably because I was away on holiday and it made him feel lonely. He still shows his care, he is more of the person who shows his care in his actions rather than words, when he speaks to me he denies feeling anything for me, but in his actions there’s a hell of a load of care shown, he even took me out for a very nice dinner last night and complemented me and drove me back home because apparently I looked too nice to travel on my own , and all of that was not part of the plan, I hadn’t even planned to see him, it was like a total surprise and very generous of him, when he told me about the girl he started liking , I kept it cool and calm and just said okay as i dont want to act bitchy and push him away from me, I’m always very understanding towards him and I don’t want to lose him. But atm we are not together and I am very patient and so is he, and I would do anything to have him back, once you find the one you should never let go right? Oh and btw I knew him and we were talking for two years as friends and that’s where it took off from, I feel as if I’ve known him all my life. What is your advice

admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:02 am

I think focusing on You and only what YOU can control is the smartest way to go. Try out a NC period.
Jessica

August 18, 2013 at 5:54 pm

He is being nice again all of a sudden but I’m afraid that if I act too close it will push him away again, do you reckon I lay off a little
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:38 am

Do what feels right so yes, lay off a tiny bit.

Patt

August 17, 2013 at 10:56 am

Hi,

My ex boyfriend and i have been together for more than a year. He has always told me he has never loved anyone as much as me. However, around 7weeks ago, he met another girl while he was out and started talking to her. A few days later, we broke up. I begged him to get back together for a week but that just pushed him away more. I was so hurt but realize there was nothing I could do anymore, so I stopped begging him. Around three weeks later, he contacted me saying he made a mistake, only has love for me and wants to get back together. At that time another guy was talking to me. My ex asked me to please go back with him and stop talking to this new guy. He said he has learned from his mistakes and only wants me. As I could not trust him easily again but still love him alot, I told him I wanted him to prove himself to me.By not meeting me for a month and showing me he can stay faithful. He wasnt happy about it but promised me he would be able to do it. He asked me to stop talking to the other guy and I did.
During this period we would talk on the phone every few days but would text everyday. He would tell me he misses me and at times would keep checking whether I was not with the other guy.

However two days ago, I found out he has been hanging out with another girl. This is another new girl not the one I previously mentioned. He denied it at first when I called n confront him. However, he then confessed that he has met her for two weeks already and been hanging out together everyday. He told me he has fallen in love with her. He said he never believed in true love but this time he knows he has found it. He said he wouldnt do this if he wasnt sure. I was devastated. The thing is we both live in Vancouver but this new girl lives in Arizona and she will be leaving in around a week. I asked him how he could know its true love and not just lust n he said he is sure and would not regret it.

My question is, what should I do. I know people has told me he is not worth it but i deeply love him. I really want him back and keep wondering whether he and the new girl will work out.
Do u think he is really in love and its not just lust?
What are the chances of him coming back and what should I do?

admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:50 am

Have you read the rebound page? You can learn a lot about if your ex is in a rebound relationship there.

I think NC is a good start for you!
Patt

August 18, 2013 at 9:16 am

Read your rebound page and she fits what u described. But im not sure as he said she’s is his true love and he has never said that to me or any girl before.

Would NC push him further to the other girl?
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:14 am

If anything, you contacting him and begging or being desperate will push him more towards his new girl. I say stay NC.

Lucy

August 17, 2013 at 12:38 am

Please help! I met my boyfriend at work a few years ago and we had instant chemistry, sexual attraction and mental connection. We were joint to the hit for the years we dated. I’m now 28 and have been thinking about the future re marriage etc and know that in fact that we are very different people and may not be suitable for marriage. I broke it up because I didn’t want to waste time in a wrong relationship but my feelings towards him never changed. He acknowledges our differences and agreed to the breakup. He says he still loves me but later he got a new gf, a friend who he’s known for many years…I feel angry, confused and lost. Not sure if I should get him back? I still love him too…

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:47 am

Have you tried the NC rule?
Lucy

August 17, 2013 at 7:19 am

I work with him in the same team and its not possible to not talk
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:33 am

You can do minimal contact then.

Fred

August 16, 2013 at 8:12 pm

Hi had a few glasses of wine and a moment of weakness
Emailed ex telling I love him and it doesn’t matter who he’d with I will always love him and there will only ever be one me!
I had reply saying … How are you? I didn’t reply now I feel such a fool
I don’t think he wants me and feel very down too
Please help !

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:43 am

NC immediately!

Rose

August 16, 2013 at 12:33 pm

Ok now. A guy once had a crush on me; but then i was in love with someone else although there was no relation between us. So that guy took my number and started to talk to me. He was older than me by 2 years. We had alot of chats. He said nothing about his crush on me but he was giving alot of signs. To be honest he was there for me in a very important situation. I was scared of the idea of being with him. I didn’t like him and was afraid from him being older than me by 2 years. So, i told him that i entered in a relation with a guy. He was like shocked. He started asking me who is that person and he wanted to check him on facebook and he told me i know that now there is a person in your life bt plz tell me anything u need. we stopped texting for 2 months. Then i saw him. I don’t know why and how but i started to develope feeling for him. 1st he started to stare at me with his angry glance. I started talking to him and making things smooth but as a reflex he was sooo rude with me. But things changed with months passing Then the sweet talk started and everything was perfect to me. He said too many compliments. I was the only one he talked to in the late nights. His glances. We were flirting. And one day we were talking face to face and joking… So i told him about his favorite Football team and then he said u know this team I said yes and then he said i love you and he opened his hands so that i can hold them nd i did. And that’s it he neither did ask me to be his girlfriend nor to get in a relationshipwith him. We talked and talked still with the flirting thing. And then after 2 months I found out that he is in a relationshipwith an other girl. I was shocked. I stopped talking to him and one day something happened and i had to talk to him the chat ended and then he opened one after midnight and asked me how is love with me and he misses me. Then I asked him the same ques. He told me he is in a relation. But now i don’t know what to do i really do want him and i miss him. Shall i try to get him back? And is it going to work; will he come back?

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:19 am

Unfortunately, I can’t make that decision for you. It is up to you on whether or not you want to try to get him back. If you do decide you want him back I can offer some recommendations. However, you need to figure out what you want first.
Rose

August 19, 2013 at 8:11 pm

Thank u for reading my long long long story. Hope you didn’t get bored while reading. Well, yes I would love to get him back I was just asking f shall i try cause I don’t want it to sound like I’m begging for him. I want us to be together. We had no relationship between us before, but I want it now. Can u plz help me? What do you thnink I have to do?
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:46 am

I recommend the NC rule as a starting point to almost everyone.
Rose

August 21, 2013 at 8:05 pm

And how could possibly reacttract him????
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:48 am

You can reattract him by hitting his emotional hot buttons via text messages.
Rose

August 20, 2013 at 12:17 pm

We are not talking and i think i did apply it before. Besides he is in a relation he won’t realize that. Now what shall I do?
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:29 am

Ok, well you can reestablish communication on your terms and slowly but surely reattract him.

Hol

August 15, 2013 at 4:28 pm

So I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for about 9 months now and we made it official about 3 months ago when we met each others families.
We never argue, never! Since being official especially. He did get cold feet once or twice whilst seeing each other and wouldn’t bother with me. He is 28 I am 20. We mutually agree on everything, yes we have similar and different interests blah blah.
Anyway things have been brilliant. We moved in together officially about 2 months ago.
Up until the last week or so. He was becoming distant and going out all the time without me. So he came in at 5am Sunday morning after I asked him to join because I’m having family troubles and just wanted some company. He text me saying I think it’s best you move home for a while. Then Sunday he said I need space and you need to leave. We didn’t argue. It was all calm and I was upset obviously. He said he needs space because I’m always around. He was the one who asked me to live with him, he was the one suggesting I sell my car and we share his. He was suggesting holidays. He said I never needed to contribute to his flat as it is his, he’s happy to pay for everything. Although I did pay him and I bought most of the food shopping.
So I packed my things up. He asked me to text him later that night. But he asked for space? When we were seeing each other he wouldn’t put kisses and end of texts when he was being cold and distant. Also when he broke up with his ex he did it cleanly and promptly. If he doesn’t like something he sorts it. However, as I said goodbye i asked What does this mean? He said we will see each other and see what happens I just need some space alone for a bit. Which I respect, I told him that. I said I really like him and care alot for him and I understand. So I left and text him three hours later casually. He hasn’t changed Facebook it still says we are in a relationship.

Anyway we exchanged one or two texts that night.

He then text me good morning the day after and was telling me how he had barely slept and was asking after my family and saying his gramps says hello to me and telling me about his Internet installation.

He went quiet then when he was in work. But he never spoke to me after he finished work.

He then text me again good morning today and was asking about my job search because I was made redundant and he was telling me about work (used to work with him) and his car which had been recalled. He then asked about the tv he found my parents two weeks ago. Then hour later he text me about a bargain satnav he had found in work and asked it I wanted it. So I said I’d come down later if that was okay. He said yeah. He didn’t text me back. He’s managing a shop so it’s busy yeah. I went to get the satnav and he was a bit off with me didn’t talk to me much and I asked him to lunch but he said he’s too busy today.

I caught him taking one of the girls he works with back to his flat this tuesday evening.I knocked the door to get some of my stuff.
He was upfront and said yes there’s someone upstairs but nothings happening I promise and hugged me and kissed my nose.
I tried to let him take me up to the flat to get other possessions but he said no stop pushing, He said text me when you get home and we will talk properly tomorrow. He text me a nice goodnight text however.

So a rumour started in his work place yesterday about him seeing this girl he works with and that they had slept together. He is a manager she isn’t.
He messaged me accusing me of starting it and broke up with me.
He backed off a little then and admitted that I’d only ever been nice and been there in his darkest hours etc. he’s making excuses now like he’s unhappy and he likes his space and we won’t work. He keeps saying sorry.

I pulled him up on him possibly lying to me about her and he said think what you want.

I sent him a open ended text saying You know how I feel about you (cos he does, I love him) and he never responded and its 24 hours on.

I want him to miss me, as he has only known her for about 8 days as she was on holiday prior to the 8 days and before that he was on longterm sick (she started during that time). What can I do, I think 30 days NC will push him away.

Hol

August 20, 2013 at 8:14 am

I don’t really know myself now
We were talking constantly last night, he was flirty and he invited me out to lunch yesterday. We had a chatty friendly time. I was told by people yesterday he’s not sure whether we are broken up and that he misses me.
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:13 am

Hahah well that is good right?
admin

August 16, 2013 at 3:25 am

I think at this point NC is the best bet for you.
Hol

August 16, 2013 at 7:38 am

Won’t that push him further to her and forget me?
Hol

August 18, 2013 at 8:24 am

He responded to a few and ended it like this
Lol. Good thinking. Well I’ll leave u to it. Congrats again. Hope ur bro is doing ok. Catch u soon

He was instantly replying and I was taking forever to respond. I didn’t reply to it as I want to stay in control. What do you suggest now?
Hol

August 19, 2013 at 8:37 am

He’s been texting me alot. He’s complimented my Facebook photo and started opening up to me about work and personal issues He also met me briefly yesterday to give me a tv bargain he found. We chatted I was smiley and happy. He was a little cautious with eye contact. He’s been texting me ever since he saw me too.
I’m just trying to be the happy bubbly girl he remembers. I’m not pushing and neither am I opening up to him about my issues. What should I be thinking about next?
admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:38 am

Refresh my mind (I am dealing with around 120 different people a day here) where are you at in the ex recovery process?
admin

August 19, 2013 at 4:13 am

Great job! Now, you wait a couple of days and text him again but this time go a little deeper in the conversation.
admin

August 17, 2013 at 2:57 am

It is a possiblity but I think it is a lot better than the alternative of begging and pleading for him back.
Hol

August 17, 2013 at 4:38 pm

Okay, so I did send him that message.
He text me back 5 hours later after I changed my facebook photo and his brother liked it.

He said Hope you are keeping well. Congrats on the new job.

which he wouldn’t have known if he hadnt been on my facebook.
admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:15 am

Exes often look at their exes facebook profiles!
Hol

August 17, 2013 at 9:07 am

I don’t want to beg or plead

Just want to say this –
My gramps text me that he’s off to the beaches in (his hometown) soon, made me think of your birthday when we saw that large crabs leg haha!
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:40 am

PERFECT! that is a good one. Hopefully he responds positively to it.

marilyn

August 15, 2013 at 3:20 pm

i broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago on the 2nd week of the break up he said he meet someone else and a few days ago i got a text saying this is his new girlfriend can yov please stop texting him i replyd i havnt txtd him in ages u can hate him best of luck wat should i do i stil loutve him

admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:29 am

Read this page and then go into NC.
marilyn

August 16, 2013 at 7:43 am

Do u thnk there is hope we where dateing for 2 years and where talkn about marrage
admin

August 17, 2013 at 2:57 am

There is always hope. That doesn’t mean you will have success but there is always hope.

Generally speaking the stronger your connection the more of a chance you have.
marilyn

August 16, 2013 at 9:58 am

And hes 27 and shes 18
admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:02 am

Thats a disturbing age difference.
marilyn

August 15, 2013 at 8:15 pm

ment i said u can have him not hate him speling mistake .

lNeedHelp

August 15, 2013 at 12:47 pm

Me and my ex dated a while ago and I broke up with him because he didn’t seem happy in the relationship and believe it or not we dated for two days and I ended it. Then I fell in love with him and now he has moved on…..many times and now I saw him for the first time in a year and he is so HOT and we talked and he acted like nothing happened like we never dated he was flirting with all the girls except me and I hated it. But at one point i came out of the bathroom and i said “time for water” and he mocked me and he smiled at me with that dazziling smile. And we flirted a little bit and i don’t know if he likes me or not. Is there any chance of me getting him back?

admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:19 am

There is always a chance!

You seem infatuated with him now hahahahaha.

What is your texting plan?

Fred

August 14, 2013 at 10:08 pm

Hi
Just found out he has a new girlfriend so he’s def moved on but has emailed me telling me he thinks the world of me and would hate it if I never contacted him and to please please keep in touch
I haven’t its been 9 days since he sent this
I just don’t understand
Please help

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:42 am

Well, no big deal the chances of the relationship lasting past a year aren’t high.

Jazmin

August 14, 2013 at 9:19 pm

Me and my boyfriend have a two year out child together but he starts to disappear he turns his phone off and today I seen a girl waiting for him he talks to other women on social networks. I know he is sleeping with other women he wont have sex with me or show any affection the other is better then me all around. we together but he perferrees to be with the other girl. I want to know how do I steal his heart back and make him chase me instead of these othet woman and I have to be around we have a child

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:40 am

I made a page specifically for this situation: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/

Brittany

August 14, 2013 at 7:49 pm

Okay so me an ex started going down hill about three weeks ago so I found out the he was talking to and 18 Pregant girl who is Pregant by his friend and I got mad an went and screwed his best friend (I’m really not a whore) well he is highly pissed so he got his number changed and blocked me from FB and Instagram but the night before last the started calling me from his blocked number all night ended up showing up at my house an yes we had sex that night well yeaterday he blow up my phone all day long I’m talking every twenty mins. So I acted like I didn’t care it tore him apart well of course I got pissed about the youngen seeing how he will be 31 in two weeks an I screen shot all the texts he was sending me an I forward them to her plus I took pics of him laying in my bed that night an forward them to her well he called me and asked me why I did it but he said he didn’t care but then she forward the mess he was sending her about plz come back an talk to me I really won’t to be with u and that killed me so I blocked him from my phone to so he can’t have any contact with me at all I know to play hard to get and act like u don’t care but it hurts so bad every song that plays every place I pass has a memory I’m just not wonting to loose six years help me please???? Oh yea and he was crying too me on the phone yesterday saying he was looking at all pics and it brought back memories but he took all our pics down from his walls and as soon as I send that girl all the prove I had of him with me I haven’t talked to him besides him asking me was I really in love with him and did I think it would work

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:38 am

… you slept with his best friend?

Oh, no..

NC is a must. Honestly though, I am not sure he can forgive you for that. If it was his best friend that is the ultimate betrayal.
Brittany

August 15, 2013 at 8:53 am

Yea but he cheated on me I was just getting back at him
admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:07 am

Hahahah yea but it still hurts. Even though (he probably deserved it.)

Laura

August 14, 2013 at 5:42 pm

My ex and I were together for 3 years, well over 3 years actually. It was on and off but we always loved each other. It never really ended. In june of 2012 we started a good relationship, we talked to each other every day for over a year and then we got back together for good during that time. When we were younger he said “no matter how much we fight or drift apart, we always find our way back to each other.” It was semi-long distance but we both cared deeply for each other, we were inseparable. He told me I was everything to him and he couldn’t live without me, and he said he’d always be there for me no matter what and he gave me his heart completely, he wanted a future together and so did I and when ever we were together there was a feeling of just real pure love, even after our break up that connection is still there. I was his other half, and his best friend. He knew me better than I know myself, and I knew him better than he knew himself. Our relationship was very strong, we were always happy when we were together, we had a lot of good memories. Recently over a fight during texting, I made the mistake of saying “sure” when he asked “are you breaking up with me?” I was upset and I didn’t mean it, but it was too late. He let me go. And of course I made the mistake of blowing up his phone, showing up at his door, begging and crying on my hands and knees for him and he said it was over. The fighting continued, and I found out he had someone else already. A week after we broke up, he admitted he slept with another girl already. He started talking to her and she posts pictures of him and her on Instagram and I’m left heartbroken. I stopped talking to him for a week after I realized all this and then texted him. Immidiately he asked me to hangout, and at first all was good and we were having fun but then it got ugly. I cracked and started crying and he tried to hold me but I wouldn’t let him touch me. I asked why he wanted to see me and he said “because I miss you.” And I asked why he slept with another girl a week after breaking up and he said “because I was hurt, I wasn’t thinking.” And he kept saying he wouldn’t find any better than me, he kept telling me I’m prettier than his new girl and he looked extremely sad. He admitted he just slept with her as a rebound basically and after he said all that, I ended up leaving. When I left he asked me for a hug and at first I refused and got angry at him and he still tried to hug me. And it wasn’t any normal simple hug, it was like gripping onto me and never wanting to let go hug. Then we kissed and he didn’t want to stop because I pulled away first. We said goodbye and I left. Later I texted him and he said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to be with her because he missed when we could hang out and just have fun and laugh together but then he later told me he didn’t want to hurt me anymore, he kept saying I deserve better and started to ignore me. I then told his new girl about what happened and she’s still with him. I began to blow up his phone again and now I’ve stopped and I’m going for your “No Contact Rule.” He said he missed me after a week of not talking, so do you think a month will do anything better? Do you think there is any hope for getting back together??

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:33 am

I DID THE SAME EXACT THING! NO JOKE.

About seven years ago I was in my first relationship ever hahaha. Anyways, texting argument and I said “I am through with this” she took that as I wanted to break up and we were broken up. Hahaha I am glad I am not alone in this.

Anyways, you do have a good shot I think. The NC rule can be really helpful. However, you do realize you have to do stuff after NC for this to work right?
Laura

August 16, 2013 at 1:09 am

What do you suggest I do after the NC?? I mean he started sleeping with this girl immediately after our break up.
admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:48 am

This page details it pretty darn well.
Laura

August 15, 2013 at 4:12 am

Well what do you suggest I do?
It’s so difficult to see him just go after he promised me he wouldn’t ever leave. It’s worse to know he’s already sleeping with this girl.
admin

August 16, 2013 at 1:52 am

Sleeping with someone else means he is probably looking for something to take his mind off the heartache of the breakup.
Laura

August 16, 2013 at 2:37 am

He admitted that to me too. But what should I do after I stopped talking to him for 30 days?
admin

August 17, 2013 at 2:36 am

Well, you focus on yourself during the NC period. It is strictly to focus on YOU! Become a better version of yourself essentially.

Emmy

August 14, 2013 at 5:02 pm

i was 17 at the time. When i was born i had a lot of health problems and had anxiety and when my sister started dating out step mothers boyfriend didn’t like it because it got distracting from doing chores. So i always did her chores so she can always run…which wasn’t something i should of done in the first place. My first boyfriend we were 14 and have been best friends but broke up because he has a disease and thought he was gonna die. Anyway when i met him at age 17 my cousin is friends with him and he liked my cousin for a long time. After the weekend at school my cousin texted me his number and we began talking everyday. Hes a sweetheart and has manners..but when he ask me to be with him his friend didnt want us too. His friends a guy…and he told me he never wanted us to be together in the first place. But at the same time i was soo scared to date…i dont really know why idk if it was because i knew our mothers bf wouldnt like it or if i was just too much of a chicken and let my anxiety ruin everything. When it was our senior year in December his friend texts me and its been a long time since. He told me that he tried breaking up his friends gf and him and i didnt know he already found someone new…but i didnt tell him about dale or my anxiety then. I asked him and its the first we spoke since awhile and he apologized so much but i didnt know what to say. But now hes engaged to her. But my friend natalie texted him last week…and she told me he said that he still thinks about what it would of been like if i stayed by his side if it had not been for fear of dale. And that his favorite part was when we took walks together and hopes i find someone who makes me happy and still cares but he cant tell me this because it wouldnt be right….but i do not know what else he thinks about and i dont think he still has feelings but if you have any opinion on this you can tell me

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:30 am

If your ex is engaged to someone else it may be time to move on.

Sara

August 14, 2013 at 3:38 pm

Ok here goes. I was with my boyfriend for 6-7 months. we had the most amazing day, until I decided to go out to party. He’s religious so he can’t go with me. Before I went he told me he wasn’t talking to me and I was puzzled as to why. at the time I didn’t think to stay and find out, I know stupid. For about a week after that we kept talking but he told me he didn’t know how he felt for me anymore or that he didn’t have any feelings toward me anymore. We spoke everyday and he said that it didn’t feel like we had broken up. He was due to go away for camp for 2 weeks and the day before he left, he said he would keep up the relationship status as a symbol of love to say we’re together even though we’re not. He went away and when he returned he changed the status. When we spoke it was clearly uncomfortable. He said he had the best 2 weeks of his life and the people were amazing etc. He hasn’t really spoken to me since even though it’s been 2 days about. What are my chances? what should I do? Cause I really think I had something good and I think I took advantage of it , I didn’t realise how stupid it was to go out like that when he didn’t want me to… Please answer asap

admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:28 am

Something very similar happened to me. My girlfriend went to a camp, some religious young life thing that I wasn’t allowed to go to. Anyways, for two weeks they went to Colorado and confiscated everyone’s cell phones. When she came back she was different. I tried everything to make her respond the way she used to but apparently the camp “changed her life.” Psh… I wanted to slap the people who created it.

(I am still a little sore about it.)

Anyways, the two of us broke up a few weeks after the camp and I had a good shot of getting her back but I did everything wrong. I didn’t do NC, or text her the smart way. I led with my feelings and fell flat on my face and the breakup turned really ugly.

This was about 6 years ago so a lot of time has passed but that stupid camp STILL makes me angry to this day hahhaha.
Sara

August 15, 2013 at 1:22 pm

well I’m glad you can kind of relate but I need help finding out what to do, our contact is through facebook and by phone even though he wouldn’t call. should I try none contact? what smart things could I possible tell him. what happened is that I was so disappointed to hear that basically he met people who were much “better” than me. I was so angry I kind of gave him the cold shoulder responses even though he was trying to make a conversation… the conversation seemed to me as like a pity conversation. He asked like what I’ve been doing, how my animal was, if I was fine… I told him that I’ve been enjoying my own company, hobbies, changing for myself, changing my mindset etc. he ended up giving me a scape goat brb the day after I spoke to him and unfortunately I hinted at the fact that I was bored and didn’t have anything to do. so he was giving me suggestions and stuff but I got frustrated that i wasn’t getting the reaction I wanted and decided to just say bye abruptly :S I dunno where to even go next I need the help because I’m afraid I’ve done everything wrong and that I’ve pushed him farther away than he already is 🙁
admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:23 am

P.S. sorry for short reply I am in a rush today.
Sara

August 17, 2013 at 10:08 am

I made a mistake. He changed his status saying he was missing someone, and I spoke to him.. asking him what happened at the camp and he just said he became a better person in character. Has he moved on from me
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:46 am

No, just go back into NC and try not to overreact on trivial things like that.
admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:23 am

NC definitely. That is the smartest play for you.
Sara

August 14, 2013 at 3:39 pm

I may be missing a few details, he wasn’t able to contact me at all at the camp.

cherry

August 14, 2013 at 8:01 am

Hi I must comment you on a job weldone.you bring hope to a hopeless situation God bless you real good.I broke up with my man after 7mnth of dating exclusively I mean he introduce me to his family members and his highly placed friends,also uploaded our pix we took togeda on Facebook and evn taged me on it.April 13 I went to visit him and discoveredhe had anoda girl dat came visiting cos of dis he didn’t allow me to come inside his houz.I cried and beg him then I left.I didn’t contact him for 3mnth.he started contacting and even suggested we meet,so we met in his houz and he said he missed me a lot he wanted us to go intimate but I refused,since then he hadly call. when I call him he will pick and say h will call me back which he never does.am sick and tired so am no longer contacting him again.buh I feel he want me in his life….wat do u think?

admin

August 15, 2013 at 2:54 am

Ok, can I just ask you a question first?

What signs has he given you that he still has feelings for you?

Shantell

August 13, 2013 at 3:01 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been brokin up for about a month now. I tried the no contact rule it didn. ‘t quite work out. Now he is sayin he loves me and we are going to get back together. But yet we still have not it just seems like he is telling me what i want to hear basically. I need your help do you think we will get back together soon?

admin

August 14, 2013 at 2:24 am

Hmm… go a week of NC and see what happens. Or just cut off communication until he texts you a number of times in a row. In order to get the guy you have to be willing to walk away from the guy.
Shantell

August 14, 2013 at 2:55 am

Will the NC for a week make him lose interest? Like will it be too late for patching up our relationship?
admin

August 15, 2013 at 2:10 am

It is very very rare that an ex will lose complete interest after one week of no contact.

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