I’m sure Mary was shocked when she woke up one day to find her boyfriend had blocked her on Facebook.
Out of the blue with no warning whatsoever…
I mean, who even does that?
One day Mary is walking around thinking everything is fine and the next day she wakes up to find that her boyfriend has disappeared from her on Facebook.
He wanted to breakup and this was his weird way of informing her.
So, Mary did what ever self respecting woman does in that situation, she begged for her ex back.
Unfortunately, he wasn’t having any of it.
So, how the heck did Mary get her ex back?
Well, find out by watching the video below as I interview her,
Elle
July 8, 2020 at 3:47 pm
Hiya My ex blocked me for 5 weeks, he didn’t like that I called him out on his behavior so he blocked me. I literally went silent, showed I was unbothered and kept strict to no contact. His now had me unblocked for over a week now and he hasn’t reached out?
Should I wait for him to contact me or should I reach out see what’s going on?
I must admit I am bit worried on reaching out at this time however incase he decides to block me again or something.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
July 25, 2020 at 2:52 pm
Hey Elle, I would give it a solid 30 days from the time you stopped talking before reaching out to him
zara
July 1, 2020 at 12:24 pm
I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago after him saying he needed time and space to work things out in his head, i felt like he was pushing a breakup on me so i ended it as he was making me feel like he didnt want to be with me and even said that and all i got back was ok i see sorry i wasnt right for you. we had a fight few days later as he was watching my insta stories and snapchat but wouldnt talk to me about stuff and saying i havent given him the time and space to work things out in his head and not expecting me to wait.. i pushed him further as i wanted to talk and figure things out as i love him but then hes blocked me on everything so no way to contact him.. i found out he was talking to his ex when with me and saying he missed what they had when together when they were 19 and struggling to feel the same with anyone else in relationships.. but the time he messaged her that hes telling me he loved me and even said he would be happy if i feel pregnant and always texting and spending time together. am i wasting my time hoping he will unblock me in the future and work things out when hes confused with his feelings.
Shell
June 15, 2020 at 6:07 pm
Hey
We was pretty close to getting back together. Then lock down happened and spun things in the air for the both of us.
Me & my ex had a falling out. I called him out on his hot & cold behavior he didn’t like that at all. He then would send me nice messages while drunk for a few days, I replied to them normally I wasn’t over the top. Then he completely blocked me out of nowhere. Does that mean he is confused about things? I am now reaching week 4 of no contact & not sure what to do?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 15, 2020 at 7:33 pm
Hi Michelle, it is possible he is confused, but he may also be embarrassed after sending you drunk messages. If you are still blocked at the end of your No Contact you are focused to stay in NC until he unblocks you, unless you have a different platform to reach out with
Nicole
October 10, 2019 at 8:52 pm
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. He told me that he wanted to take time to work on himself but I didn’t believe him. I thought he just wanted to get rid of me so he could have more free time with his friends. But then we got into his huge argument and I fear that I may have pushed him too far this time. He officially blocked me on the phone and through social media? I really do love him and I’m hearing from those around me that he still loves me too otherwise he wouldn’t have been so upset in that argument. I just want my best friend back. Is it wrong to still hope? Especially since there’s no way of contacting him?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
October 11, 2019 at 7:30 pm
Hi Nicole, you do have a chance but you are going to have to be patient and wait for him to be over that argument enough to wonder what is going on with you. So make sure you are doing ungettable girl things in the mean time
Jelly
April 20, 2019 at 4:42 am
Hi, Chris! 2 days ago, I was unblocked by my ex literally everywhere (it was the same day he talked to my closest friend about work stuff) and for some reason, he blocked me again today lol. I’m taking this as him being curious because I didn’t contact him at all in our supposed anniversary date but is this a positive sign or not?
eenmil
February 10, 2019 at 11:28 am
Hi Chris! I was the one who initiated the break up and then told him that I didn’t mean it but he said that be it. Then off the phone. We are LDR. I’ve begging and pleading to him for a month but he just ignored my messages. January 2 he messaged me and told me to move on and let him go and I said no. After that I decided the NC rule. During NC I made myself busy and posting in Facebook photos how happy I am. That I’m making a life without him. I didn’t contact him for a month. But when I reach 30 days of NC he blocked me on Facebook, Instagram and Viber. I’m so hurt. What should I do? Does it mean he is over me? He moved on already?
Chris Seiter
February 10, 2019 at 10:32 pm
Hi there eenmil!
He seems to be acting fussy or resentful about you initiating things. Maybe its his way of punishing you which if so, is rather childish. But we all can be immature at times. Breakups bring out the worse in many of us. He may be carrying this resentment too long, but in time he will likely let much of it go. My Program calls for a sequential texting strategy when trying to make contact after NC. So try again after 4-5 days.
Bri
February 1, 2019 at 2:20 am
Hi my boyfriend broke up with me around april of last year. I was heartbroken but I did my best to leave him alone. He started contacting me again over the summer and we pretty much were acting like a couple all the way until about September october when we went back to school. I admit I tried to make myself visible to him when i was walking to class. I even did like 3 pop ups at his place to where I knocked on his door for about an hour. He told me he didnt want to talk to me or see me. So i left him alone and started working on myself. Then he started contacting me again and has been contacting me randomly and a few times in person he said that he still loves me and misses me since just a few days ago. I did a pop at his place again. He was furious because he hates anyone popping up he blocked me on everything after that. He pretty much said we were done and he doesnt want anything to do with me and he wants a strong woman and that I let my emotions control me. That he wanted the space in the break up so it could feel like we first met and it was supposed to be therapeutic. I asked him what could I do to get him to forgive me for all of the damage I’ve caused. He told me that it would take something big for him to reconsider me. That my actions needed to prove it and he doesn’t believe my words. He said it would have to make him just say wow she changed I can see it. I don’t know how to fix the damage done or to get him to unblock me I want the relationship we’ve been together for 6 years. I dont know where to start.
Tulip Morey
November 21, 2018 at 5:08 pm
Hey, so I was in relationship with a guy for 4 years, he left me stating ,, there is no love now ,, we are 30 years old, it is not the first time , he did this ,, but he always came ,, this time , when he left , I went very strong ,, I am roaming and showing how happy I am. He msged me stating he wants to return my things, which I gave him back ,, because as he mentioned he never loved me ,, I said I just wnatsd one thing, and he unblocked me on what’s. App after 2 months, I want him back ? But what is going on ?? After I unblocked him, he doesn’t talk to me ,, after that one msg ,, he has stopped !
Please advice
Lara
June 3, 2017 at 7:28 am
Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. He said it’s not right time for us to be in a relationship and relationships are not his things. But I know he fell out of love with me probably because of my clingy behaviour. The breakup wasn’t out of the blue since we were having problems. He didn’t wanted to commit. So when he broke up with me I didn’t beg him to stay or anything. I just told him to take care of himself and not to contact me again. (I didn’t even meant that).
So yeah I was hurtand wanted him back badly but I didn’t contact yet. Just 1 week ago he texted me at 3am saying he’s sorry for everything that ever happened between us. And that he knows that I hate him now. I calmly told him that I don’t hate you. And then he replied with ‘you’re hurt because me’. The conversation didn’t go that well cause after a while he stopped responding and said just ‘okay’. That’s it. Maybe I screwed up and couldn’t text probably. I just don’t know I don’t think he’ll come back. Will he text me again? Btw, we were in a ldr relationship.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 4:15 pm
probably.. are you going to do the no contact rule?
Lara
June 3, 2017 at 7:27 am
Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. He said it’s not right time for us to be in a relationship and relationships are not his things. But I know he fell out of love with me probably because of my clingy behaviour. The breakup wasn’t out of the blue since we were having problems. He didn’t wanted to commit. So when he broke up with me I didn’t beg him to stay or anything. I just told him to take care of himself and not to contact me again. (I didn’t even meant that).
So yeah I was hurtand wanted him back badly but I didn’t contact yet. Just 1 week ago he texted me at 3am saying he’s sorry for everything that ever happened between us. And that he knows that I hate him now. I calmly told him that I don’t hate you. And then he replied with ‘you’re hurt because me’. The conversation didn’t go that well cause after a while he stopped responding and said just ‘okay’. That’s it. Maybe I screwed up and couldn’t text probably. I just don’t know I don’t think he’ll come back. Will he text me again? Btw we were in a ldr relationship.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 4:15 pm
probably.. are you going to do the no contact rule?
P.A
April 27, 2017 at 3:29 pm
Hello,
I’ve been broken up with my ex boyfriend for little over a year now, we’ve been on and off talking and sometimes even go for months without talking. A few months back he completely stopped all contact but then a few months later he contacted me out of the blue regarding a money matter. After that I didn’t expect anymore contact but he reached out again and we’ve started talking here and there throughout the week (he has to block me when he’s with his girlfriend, when he’s at work he can talk to me freely). He said he likes knowing what I’ve been up to and checking on me, and that he misses our old times of hanging out and so forth. He also said “I hate to admit but I do miss you”. After a month or so of talking I tried the meeting up step which he declined due to having a girlfriend. However, this week I reached out to him again, after he told me (he said he’s barely told anyone) about some of his issues, offering him the fact I am here to talk to or even if he wants to hang out. He said “that’d be good :)” and we organised a day to meet however he didn’t show up. I then jokingly said he owed me a day and suddenly a few hours later he showed up to my house asking if I wanted him to come over. We chatted like old times for about 30 minutes and he went on his way. I asked him if he’d like to meet again and he said he can’t make it a regular thing due to his girlfriend. He also keeps mentioning that nothing will happen between me and him unless something happens with his girlfriend. Is this maybe a sign? I really would like some input on my current situation and where you think I currently stand. Thank you! 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 28, 2017 at 6:18 pm
If I was in your situation I would move on.. Because he’s either making you a back up, trying to be friends with benefits, date both of you or too coward to go for you.. Just one of those reasons is enough to walk away..the longer you talk to him and see him and ask if he’s going to meet you, the more you look like you’re too available and expecting
Katarina
April 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm
Hello. I was always available to him, we ended in bad terms and after two years of nc my ex added me on facebook. Its been a week and still no contact. I really miss him, how do i get him to chase me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 29, 2017 at 10:28 pm
if he sees you or your posts, would he be interested?
Luna
April 26, 2017 at 2:16 pm
It’s been four months since my ex told me that we needed a break (we did, I’ve became too clingy and negative and our last weeks together were 70% arguments). At first we keep in touch as he wished, later he became cold… And after a while (NC) we talked and he told me that he left last year behind and he is in another time of his life (not with another girl) and said that we could be friends and maybe met some day (we live in different cities but near) but in anither “pace”. and let me knew that he keeped my photos (we used to ask me for selfies and pictures of me)and asked if I was ok with that. After that, he text me two or three times in two weeks sending me things that reminded him to me and movies and tv series we used to watch together. He even suggested that one day we could watch some episodes together” (by distance, just texting) as we used to do. Last week I texted him with some similar stuff (a book that I was using in my job that days, about something he loves). He answer me with a bunch of emojis and one word and when I replayed he didn’t text more. The subject wasn’t very engaging so I shouldn’t expect more. When we were together we texted each other al day long and great part of the night about anything but obviously that’s not the situation anymore. This Friday is the premiere of a movie he’s really waiting for (me too but not as much as him) and I want to text him and letting him know that I’m gonna watch it too and that we can talk about the film later but I don’t know if it’s a good idea.
I really miss him and want him back but I don’t know how to make him “addicted” to talk with me as he used to be, how to make him want to tell me things and, to sum up, being the person I was to him, when I was the firstperson he told anything, when he was looking forward to our next date, when he preferred texing me than sleep a little more… That kind of things. I don’t know what to do…
Luna
May 2, 2017 at 7:50 am
Thank you Amor. Yes, I guess that it’s the only thing I can do but it is very difficult to focus when I’m missing him… BUt I`ll try
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 2, 2017 at 7:11 pm
ok, that’s good.. you’re welcome!
Luna
May 1, 2017 at 9:47 am
I reply again because he texted me back yesterday, he was busy with family. He didn’t talk more, he is going to see a movie today and we have decided that we would talk about it after that, so is his move, if he texts me, it’s ok. If not…well, I can’t do it again, I really need him to reach me first, just like the past weeks.
So it seems that he is being less cold than before, small steps, very small for me because I don’t know if I’m going to make it. When we started he “chased” me, he always wanted to talk…everything was natural and easy. I understand that the situation is different now and that the past few weeks habe been an improvement but I still feel the fear… I am s scared…when we started to talk again he told me that he has moved on (not with another girl, just his life stage) and as I accepted it, he started to talk more, and texting first when he saw something that reminds him to me. My best friend says that she doesn’t believe his “I’ve moved on, I left the past year behind” but… I don’t know, I just want to be the “chased” one again, to make him feel the magic and the illusion of our first months, but I don’t know what to do. I am trying to show him the best side of me again, the Luna of the best part of our relationship: independent, positive… Not the negative, needy, insecure and clingy one. But I don’t know if he is seeing this and I am very afraid that he has really moved on and left me behind. He is very stubborn and capable of “convince” himself that he will be better without me. How can I change his mindset?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 1, 2017 at 11:28 am
I agree with letting him initiate for now.. the best you can do is to really be independent. That means being more busy in your activities than with him
Luna
April 30, 2017 at 7:02 pm
My NC was three weeks and a half. I change my image and keep on with my life as before (I have a great social life and since we lived in different cities, I didn’t stopped it too much when we were together).
We talked a little three days ago and he seemed to be closer to me, we ageed in talk this weekend about a movie we were going to see (not together) and I texted him hours ago but he is ignoring me.
I don’t know, I feel super insecure and scared that I’m not gonna make it, I don’t know what to do to get him back
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 29, 2017 at 10:21 pm
how long was your nc and how much did you improve?
P.A
April 23, 2017 at 1:05 am
Hello,
I’ve been broken up with my ex boyfriend for little over a year now, we’ve been on and off talking and sometimes even go for months without talking. A few months back he completely stopped all contact but then a few months later he contacted me out of the blue regarding a money matter. After that I didn’t expect anymore contact but he reached out again and we’ve started talking here and there throughout the week (he has to block me when he’s with his girlfriend, when he’s at work he can talk to me freely). He said he likes knowing what I’ve been up to and checking on me, and that he misses our old times of hanging out and so forth. He also said “I hate to admit but I do miss you”. After a month or so of talking I tried the meeting up step which he declined due to having a girlfriend. However, this week I reached out to him again, after he told me (he said he’s barely told anyone) about some of his issues, offering him the fact I am here to talk to or even if he wants to hang out. He said “that’d be good :)” and we organised a day to meet however he didn’t show up. I then jokingly said he owed me a day and suddenly a few hours later he showed up to my house asking if I wanted him to come over. We chatted like old times for about 30 minutes and he went on his way. I asked him if he’d like to meet again and he said he can’t make it a regular thing due to his girlfriend. He also keeps mentioning that nothing will happen between me and him unless something happens with his girlfriend. I know this is general speaking but I feel like he’s trying to hint something. I really would like some input on my current situation and where you think I currently stand. Thank you! 🙂
P.A
May 12, 2017 at 12:02 pm
Well he asked was I okay because I was being off when we texting and then he suggested to leave me alone if I wanted but then suddenly the same time he said he would leave me alone he would come and see me so I could talk about it and I said after the last time he saw me would he be fine with it and he said yeah
P.A
May 11, 2017 at 7:24 pm
Does that apply if he traveled 2 hours to come and make sure I was okay when I said I was upset and having a really bad day?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 11, 2017 at 8:29 pm
that’s a good sign if he really did come but not enough if he’s still with another girl.. but if he just suggested to come, that’s different
P.A
May 3, 2017 at 7:36 am
He continuously keeps asking me if I still have feelings for him as well. Does this mean anything? He also says he enjoys talking to me and I think he still checks all of my social media
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 3, 2017 at 7:47 pm
because he’s trying to guage if he can still string you along
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 28, 2017 at 6:19 pm
If I was in your situation I would move on.. Because he’s either making you a back up, trying to be friends with benefits, date both of you or too coward to go for you.. Just one of those reasons is enough to walk away..the longer you talk to him and see him and ask if he’s going to meet you, the more you look like you’re too available and expecting
Anne
April 21, 2017 at 8:20 pm
Hi!
My ex broke up with me in the end of November mainly because I was too insecure. We used to live together. After this I went to my mother’s house and we spent two weeks of no contact. Then I had to come back home, but I would always sleep in my sister’s house. By this time we started talking again as friends. Many times in a flirtatious way. He left home in the beginning of February and then I came back home for good (I live in the apartment now). After a few days I asked him for us to be together again and he said no, cause he waited two months for me to say something and I didn’t. But I didn’t know! He said things were different now. After that he called me drunk a few times to say how much he misses me and that he’s confused about his feelings. He even asked me back once but then changed his mind when he was sober. That was in the end of February. After that we made out a couple times, when he would call me drunk in the middle of the night telling me all that stuff. Last time he called this way (and I allowed him to come home to sleep over) was in the begging of April. But every time I let him know how I feel about us he says he doesn’t want it anymore. He still calls me eventually or sends messages just to know how I am. Even finds excuses to talk to me sometimes. Gave me chocolate for Easter (a tradition in Brazil). Do I still have a chance to get him back? What should I do? It’s been almost five months! Please please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 27, 2017 at 10:25 am
But you’re not living together now right? Restart the no contact rule.. Do the 30 days properly.. And slowly build rapport after
TNT
April 21, 2017 at 11:39 am
Hi Chris! (Don’t know if you got my reply I send a couple a days ago, so I will reply to you again!)
After the NC of 30 days and after that I send him a text saying: “Hey! Just saw the movie [X] and I know how much you liked those movies, it made me think of you!”
He replyed: “Oh yeah! How was it? Did you like it? :)”
So I said: “I would! It was really good! But I gotta go now, my friends are waiting for me!”
He said: “Yeah, talk to you soon!”
We text like, once a week maybe. But still I always need to start conversation. So it kinda looks like I’m chasing?
The first contact after the NC was two months ago. So because I always have to start first.. It’s going kinda slow? I don’t need to hurry, I rather do it right than fast!
But why doesn’t he ever contact me first? He does however alsways reply to my texts!
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 25, 2017 at 6:02 pm
That’s ok if you’re the one initiating as long as you’re the one ending the conversation at high point..you’re just starting to build rapport, it’s normal that he wouldn’t initiate..
JL
April 20, 2017 at 11:17 am
Hi Chris I’m currently in the NC period and struggling. I told my BF that I wasn’t happy very emotionally 30 days ago. I was crying hysterically & told him I love him and want to be with him but I was feeling as if he was taking me for granted after the 15 months we were together. He was shocked, holding his head in his hands & didn’t offer much to the conversation except for agreeing that things were feeling different for him also. I should mention that we are both in our 40s, divorced & each have a child from those marriages. Anyways, I left very emotionally after he held me tight for a bit. Neither of us said it was over nor did either of us fight for it. I just want to get back to where we were. Back to where we prioritized each other. I left him a message about a week after this incident on the advice of a friend & before I had found you! I told him I was sorry for how emotional I was and that I would like to meet him to talk with him. I told him I loved him very much. I left that message approximately 21 days ago and I had not heard anything from him. I’m still friends with him on Facebook and I’m doing posting and I’m taking care of myself. I’ve lost over 10 pounds. But the truth is I really miss him and I really love him. He has not blocked me on anything and he also has some of my personal belongings. Do I stay in the NC for another week because I made the telephone call? Or do I go by the break-up date? And do I have a shot or is too much damage done? Thanks for all you do to help us!
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 26, 2017 at 3:42 pm
start with texts first to slowly rebuild rapporr before meeting up
Sally
April 19, 2017 at 12:15 pm
My situation doesn’t apply to one single rule. Please advice on NC.
Had a fantastic relationship for 5 months. During dating, knew he was going to be leaving for a year overseas backpacking and I can’t follow because I’m still in med school. Our dates were so perfect it was like our relationship was perfectly choreographed by the universe. Seriously… I was gobsmacked with how easily we get along and we always had fun. He feels the same.
The time came when he left. He said we should NC for 2 months and then become friends so we can be less invested. Plus he’s been burnt before from his last gf. It will be so easy for him to be distracted overseas and I know he won’t be celibate all that time so we wistfully agreed to NC. To be perfectly honest he can get any girl he wants, he’s an 11. Obviously during this time I’m active on social media with improvements. I’m even learning a new instrument, skydiving and horseriding, pretty fun! (Not at same time ;D )
Is this too long a time for NC? Should I wait only 30 days? BUT will it seem like I am chasing if I don’t wait two months? Does it even matter because it’s not like I’ll see him for at least a year anyway? Should I wait for his message first after 2 months? We left at the height of honeymoon and I’m hopeful and determined for a future chance.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 25, 2017 at 10:12 pm
frankly, if he’s really serious about you, he wouldn’t ask that from you. If you trust him fully, you wouldn’t be thinking that he will not be faithful…he already friendzoned you.. if you really want a relationship from him.. if I was in your position, I will not play by his rules.. he has to work his way of why I should trust him.. if you want to ne friends, continue talking. Other than that, move on
TNT
April 18, 2017 at 9:50 pm
Hi Chris!
My NC ended 1 month ago. I send him a text that said: “I was just at the movies watch [X] and I just thought about how you loved these movies! It made me think of you! Have you seen it yet?”
He replied: “Haven’t seen it yet, but it looks really promising! Do you reccomand it :)?”
I said: “I did, it was pretty good! But I have to talk to you later, my friends are waiting on me!”
He replied: “Yeah, speak to you soon!”
We texted like 3 more times aftee that.. So once a week. He never starts a conversation, however he does always reply to me. But it looks like I’m still chasing him, because I always text first..
What to do? I just think he is really busy enjoying his life, that he barely thinks about me or something?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 25, 2017 at 6:02 pm
That’s ok if you’re the one initiating as long as you’re the one ending the conversation at high point..you’re just starting to build rapport, it’s normal that he wouldn’t initiate..
TNT
April 18, 2017 at 10:32 am
Hi!
My boyfriend dumped me 3 months ago. I did the 30 days NC and inproved myself greatly. My ex never contacted me in the NC period, infact, my ex is also improving himself greatly; Going to the gym, hanging with friends more, driving lessons.. How come he is improving so much? Is he trying to forget me?
Also, something I’ve been wondering alot and I really want an awnser to: How usual is it for a ex boyfriend to miss you after a few months? (Like, enjoying his life now, but after a few months starting to miss me?)
Chris Seiter
April 18, 2017 at 9:11 pm
Let’s talk specifically about the text you should send to your ex after no contact.
Have you considered sending him one?