How Can I Break Down My Ex Boyfriends Emotional Wall?

74 thoughts on “How Do I Break Down My Ex Boyfriend’s Emotional Wall?”

Maya

March 31, 2017 at 4:36 am

Hi Amor, my ex dumped me a few months ago because i was needy and insecure, and then after no contact i messed up by trying to guilt trip him through texts, he blocked me on whatsapp, unfriended my snapchat, but he still follows my instagram, but he hides his instagram stories from me (i use my friend’s instagram account to look at her stories) not only that but he also hides his instagram stories from my sister who happens to follow him, what does his behavior mean i don’t get it ? why didn’t he just block my instagram altogether?

Martha

March 30, 2017 at 2:32 pm

How do you know if the wall is specifically built for you or if it’s just a wall for anyone who wants to get close to them?

Martha

March 30, 2017 at 9:48 pm

He has friends and is communicative at work as far as I know.
He will go out with friends occasionally. He is very good at small talk, but he will not have a deep conversation about how he feels with anyone but himself.
He started to get close to me again and i felt he was stsrtunf to trust me with talkung about his depression… his Mum and i are the only people that knkws and he talks to us about it.
Right near the end he even cried on my shoulder. He Is a very private person. He lost his Dad as a child. I think that caused issues he is unwilling to accept.
He also had an ex that He really loved and it all got a bit messy with her cheating on him.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2017 at 6:42 pm

can be.. but he’s not really an extreme version..most of us are actually like that, especially guys..
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 30, 2017 at 7:39 pm

How is he with everyone else besides you?

Jenny

March 29, 2017 at 10:10 am

My boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. It was completely out of the blue and he said after his train wreck of a breakup about a year previously he just wanted to be single, despite the fact that he and I had been dating for a month and everything was great. The day he broke up with me we were out with a friend and she even commented on how happy we looked. I did no contact for over a month, during which time he kept apologising and desperately wanted to be close friends again. Weve since hung out a few times, and while he keeps reiterating how nice it is to see me again, he always offhand brings up the fact that we’ve dated. Is this a sign that he still cares? We’ve had a few moments but I’ve made it clear I will be keeping my distance from him. I’m thinking of moving in the next 6 months and the other day he was jokingly saying I should stay because of him. However, in the past I used to casually date a friend of his and he did take some time to get past that fact. Can I get him back? It’s nice that we’re friendly again but I do miss him

Jenny

April 6, 2017 at 8:32 pm

Sorry, moving across country. He had me over for dinner a few nights ago and nothing happened, but since then he’s dropped a few jokes about sleeping together (he broke up with me before we slept together) and even today mentioned it without it being a joke. How do I prevent this from becoming a friends with benefits situation?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 9, 2017 at 3:21 pm

dont move just for him.. just dont sleep with him…either be cheeky or serious when saying no.. like,
hmm..
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 29, 2017 at 3:11 pm

Hi Jenny,

move in where? If you keep building rapport and attraction, there’s a chance you can get him back.