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Eva
September 30, 2013 at 12:13 pm
Hi, so my bf if 1 year recently broke up with me, he said he needed time to figure out what he wants and if he even wants a relationship. i know he still cares for me because he often contacts me telling me that he cares for me and that this break up is really hard on him and hes missing me but he thinks he has to do this to make sure he wants this. He had this problem once before but it didn’t get to this point and we got over it. He said that maybe when he figures this out, and he doesn’t know when that will be, we might get back together but specifically told me not to hold high hopes and wait for him cause that would be unfair. I’m not sure what to do, i really want to get back together but should i ignore him, he messages me daily and i see him at uni. I’m really unsure of what to do? i know that probably the no contact rule should be applied but its so hard for me to not talk to him we were always really close.
admin
October 1, 2013 at 3:34 am
Well, I have some bad news for you then. hahah youa re going to have to do the NC rule.
Eva
October 1, 2013 at 3:57 am
so i just started doing the no contact rule with minimal execeptions like if he sees me and says hi i’ll say hi but avoid any furthure conversation, not to be rude. He picked up on this immediatly and got very upset telling me that it’s unfair for me to just stop talkign to him and that i can still talk to him. Hes very insitant on being friends even when i told him i jsut can’t. Also hes been hanging out with this other girl who hes always been great friends with and i’ve always been intimidated by because he other comment on how fun she is, if we hang out in groups he seems to prefere her company over mine even. Should i be worried? Is he maybe seeing if he can get something better that me? he assured me when we broke up it was not about him liking someone else or anything like that but im not to sure :/
admin
October 1, 2013 at 11:58 pm
Nope you just keep on keeping on. Keep the focus more on you than on him during this time. Thats the best advice I can give you quite honestly.
Tiarra
September 30, 2013 at 5:59 am
I broke up with my boyfriend a couple months ago, well he broke up with me. During the relationship, I believe I nagged him a lot, and didn’t show him much affection at all. I really reflected on myself and want to try it again. When we broke up we agreed to be friends. We talked a lot before we started flirting (basically like we were still together). Now we barely talk unless I text him. At this point I’m lost, I believe he still feels the same for me but I don’t want to over step my boundaries with him. What do I do?
admin
October 1, 2013 at 3:32 am
Pretty much everything on this page hahaha.
Liza
September 29, 2013 at 11:46 pm
we had been dating for almost 2 years, im a senior in high school and he just started his freshmen year in college.. only 35 minutes away. In the past year my parents got divorced and it was really hard on me, he was the person i depended on the whole time and he helped me a lot. We have been nothing but happy for the past two years and then out of the blue when i asked to see him and he said he was busy, he called me a little later and broke it off. we didn’t talk for a week and when we talked again he told me i need to get happy and stop being sad about my parents divorce and he can’t handle my sadness anymore. Im getting help from a professional now with that, but i just want my fun boyfriend back. He kept saying he still loves and cares about me. I think he was overwhelmed. It just doesn’t feel over, and i want to prove to him I can be happy again, and be happy with him again. Help?
admin
October 1, 2013 at 3:33 am
Alright why did the two of you break up specifically? Was it the distance?
confused anna
September 29, 2013 at 8:24 pm
Hi,Idated my ex for 4 yrs and brokeup 6mnths ago,since then he has had sex wiv oda girls including me and his ex before me.his reason for breaking up was that he didn’t feel thesame way anymore and he needed time to think of his future.I am 24 and he is 21..since then,I pick up his call smtymstwice in a week..at a point he kept talking about missing me and at thesame time making me see reasons why he can’t get back,our age difference is also one of his factors,sayn he doesn’t want to keep me hanging until wheneva he is ready for marriage,,we were very close n evry one envied what we had.so d breakup hit me real hard.since he left,I vnt rly bin able to move on..should I go on a complete NC?please reply I am in despirate need..note-most times he calls for random reasons,we r both in thesame universities,tho he is graduating this year,so he calls to get informations on certain things
admin
October 1, 2013 at 3:35 am
Yes, first step is the complete NC.
samantha
September 26, 2013 at 7:56 pm
First, thank you so much for your time put into this page, I’m so close to winning the love of my life back. Its been 4 months since breakup and I have followed your plan carefully. We hung out two days ago and it was nothing but laughs and chemistry. But nothing happened and I haven’t heard from him, im wondering what my next plan of action could be? Thank you again for your help!
admin
September 27, 2013 at 6:03 am
Hmm… you might want to check out this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-definitive-guide-to-making-your-ex-boyfriend-love-you-again/
In the future I plan on writing a post specifically about what to do on the date and stuff like that but the post above touches on that and will give you some good ideas going forward
pooja
September 26, 2013 at 7:36 am
hi.. me nd my bf broke up last month because I was rude all the time wid him (because of some financial nd family issues, i was not giving him enough care and love). dat dsnt mean i dint love him. He left me sayin he was not happy wid me nd wants b free now. he said he is not at all intrstd in comin back to me bcoz he has no feelings anymore nd dnt want to giv me any hope..he jst wants to b friend. i kept beggin but now he is not ready for even friendship. ds dat mean i lost him forever ? is thr any chance of gettin him back ? wat do i need to do now ?
admin
September 27, 2013 at 5:33 am
Do you think you have been texting/calling him too much?
pooja
September 29, 2013 at 11:39 am
ya aftr break up i had texted a lot..but its been 1month i m not texting him..His status on watsapp shows he is vry happy and i think he is dating someone else…i dont knw even he is missing me or not..plzz help
admin
September 30, 2013 at 12:48 am
Well, a status on whatsapp isn’t enough to tell you he is dating someone else. Do you have any other evidence?
pooja
September 30, 2013 at 3:45 am
I saw one gal visiting him when his parents wr on holidays…..i dnt knw who was dat gal…i felt worst…:(
Bridgett
September 25, 2013 at 11:34 pm
Hey Chris
So I took your advice and ive been working on reigniting his feelings but I feel he sometimes acts like he cares and flirts but then there has been days where he hasnt bothered to go visit me at my cubicle or txted me. Yesterday he disnt visit me besides at lunch to tell me he saw a cop outside our building and instead of sitting down to eat with me he said ttyl and went to eat somewhere else and just left me there. I was really upset hed done that and is being a jerk. I honestly dont want to be annoying by visiting him every break when he doesnt visit me or texting him. I only have txted him once really. Im unsure of what to do.
admin
September 26, 2013 at 3:33 am
Have you read the texts in the ebook or this post?
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-definitive-guide-to-making-your-ex-boyfriend-love-you-again/
Dandy
September 24, 2013 at 10:09 pm
Hey Chris!
I’ve written to you before but not sure you remember me 😛 . Anyways I’m on the “remembering the good times” part of the texting, I’m almost done with that that, but I just receive neutral/positive short responses. I’m pretty sure I’m picking the right memories, but he never initiates any contact. It seems like he’s uninterested because he still acts distant. I always wait a a day,two, or three days between each time I initiate. Should I just move on to the jealousy part? because I can’t seem to get him to initiate anything. Or is it expected at this point for him to still be distant and not initiate?
Thanks!
admin
September 25, 2013 at 1:24 am
No I actually think you should take a step back. Maybe a week without communication before you try anything else. Ideally you want him to have more engaged responses. In light ofa ll that though you are doing great!
Dandy
September 27, 2013 at 8:13 am
Should I ask him for friendship and apologise? Before, he really wanted us to stay friends and used to be more eager in contacting me. After trying for about 2 weeks, I just broke down and told him that I couldn’t and that we shouldn’t be friends because of our feelings. That was 3 months ago. and we dated for 3 months. So maybe he’s wondering what I’m trying to do now. It’s not that I’m waiting for results, but a huge part of me feels that he’s over me and doesn’t care anymore, and I just feel kinda stuck.
Thanks Chris 🙂
admin
September 28, 2013 at 2:49 am
You can if you want obviously.
I guess just look at your situation as objectively as you can. I think you should give the process on this page a try though.
Dandy
September 27, 2013 at 11:59 am
Oh Chris, I think I’ve slipped 🙁 … ! I might have done a no-no. Thing is I’m very honest and sometimes a bit outspoken. I had a casual conversation with him this morning (before I saw the take a step back). It went okay, and I ended the conversation, except an hour after that I texted him telling him that I know that it seems that I’ve been texting him at random, but that I wanted to be honest and I ended up telling him that how I know we’ve only dated for 3 months and that although I wasn’t his first, but that he was my first love. and that I cut things off because I needed the time to deal with everything, and that right now it just feels like I’ve lost a really good friend.
I was a little upset. It is true Chris, I wasn’t feeling desperate. I wasn’t being impatient for results, I just really felt that there isn’t much that I can ignite on his part, not out of a lack of confidence, but since it was only 3 months we were together and then I was in NC for about 2 months after that. It didn’t seem proportionate. I wanted to kinda break the ice and for him not to think that I was trying to come on to him, and kind of get him to open up a little and feel at ease. I wasn’t confessing love to him or anything, I hope he didn’t interpret it that way. I really did need that time, a lot of changes happened in the way I perceive things in general, I’m still working on a lot of personal changes about life and love and being at peace. I thought that if i was honest with him, he’d but more accepting, since he wanted to be friends before, but he’s read it and hasn’t responded and I think that’s put me a 100 steps back.
Did my text seem a little scary? I didn’t mean it that way :/
What would you advise me to do next?
admin
September 28, 2013 at 2:56 am
It may have seemed a little scary.
Next I want you to read this article.
And start NC back up.
Penny
September 24, 2013 at 2:42 pm
Hi,
My 30 days was up yesterday – I sent the first impression text and got no response. We were both really into music so I followed your advice and made it relvant to that…What do I do now?
Penny
admin
September 25, 2013 at 12:59 am
No response well shucks!
Ok, no problem I think you should wait a week before you try again with a new text.
Penny
September 26, 2013 at 11:53 pm
What kind of text do you think I shou;d try this time, since the first try didn’t work?
admin
September 27, 2013 at 6:12 am
Something with a little more oomph and detail to it.
Penny
September 24, 2013 at 3:13 pm
I guess I should provide some context…
We were dating for 2 months but talked every single day muliple times. He broke up with me during our first argument because I wanted to spend more time with him – we were only seeing each other 1-2 days a week, and I tried explaining that the texting/talking wasn’t the kind of contact I was looking for from a bf. (Also, he was not busy with work – he was keeping himself busy with friends and other social activities). So basically he told me I was pressuring him and he didn’t want to date me anymore.
A couple days after we broke up, I texted to see if he wanted to talk again and he said “no” he was confident in his decision. About a week later, I sent him an email reminding him of all the things we had in common and fun we had together – he didn’t respond. Since then – NC – and it has been 30 days. Then, as I said above, I just sent the First contact text and he didn’t reply again.
I am starting to think I really have no chance…
admin
September 25, 2013 at 1:04 am
Try a few more times before you throw in the towel.
Wendy
September 24, 2013 at 2:32 pm
How do you know if my ex boyfriend is in a rebound relationship? We been on and off every month this past year and our last encounter was june and he’s been seeing someone new since july, I’m scared to even try something new!!! I tried text your ex back by Michael Fiore back in March but he always contacted me and I gave in so I prob blew that recovery method… I had so many options to get him back with your method but I was blind to it because ill always gave in to him… But now that he’s with someone else did I blow my chance because he seams extremely happy with this person and they are very exclusive and act like they are already in love 🙁
admin
September 25, 2013 at 12:57 am
I don’t know if he is in a rebound relationship. Though nobody will until time can tell.
What you can do is look to see if the signs of a rebound relationsihp are there.
Mae
September 23, 2013 at 6:11 pm
Hi, my bf dumped me, because i was trying to caught his attention, and i made lies like i am being courted by a handsome guy, and he proved that i was lying, he trashed talk me and dump me, weve been intimately inlove for 7 mos and now its been a month no communication because i changed my number and we are long distant, his brother deleted me and he made an account that he uses now, he blocked me for 3 weeks but now i am not blocked anymore, and his friends said and took him a picture that he is really courting a new one, but before he got some issue that he is courting someone new, i posted a picture of a guy on my fb and changed my relationship status, and his brother and cousin reacted alot like i was a bitch and more, then finally he courted someone new, but then after i got been trashed talk, i changed my relationship status to single, its been a month and i really wanted to win him back, i tried to flirt other guys, but i love him very much, but i dont know what to do know, because his seeing someone else yet no contact for 1 month, though last week, i was so mad and sent a message to his best friend that they shouldnt disrespect me because i was been trash talked and i hate that. Though despite of all things, i really love him and i want him back..his seeing now someone new, i love him please help me what to do, where 7 hours drive away from each other
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:55 am
Check out the LDR guide.
Mae
September 23, 2013 at 1:57 am
My boyfriend and I broke up almost 1 month ago. Just last week I had message him because I have updated my iPhone and the email I got was saying that the update came from his phone. He response saying that it might have been from the time he had connected my phone to his computer that made the name change to his phone. Then out of no where he had said “miss you”. We broke up officially because of constant arguing about little thing and just push off to the edge. About two weeks of break up we had talked, and have asked if he really means that we should be over. He response that “We both need to work on ourselves”. And maybe In the future we can be together. My question is how can I get my ex back? He seems like he has feelings for me still but doesn’t want to try though?
admin
September 24, 2013 at 2:12 am
Pretty much follow this gameplan, grab my book.
In short,
you want to start the NC rule (if you have been in contact with eachother constantly during the month.)
Janelle
September 27, 2013 at 10:09 pm
Hi, it’s been about a week sense my boyfriend has broken up with me. He basicly told me that he wasn’t happy because of…well me nagging. I’m only in highschool, but this is my first real relationship. I can tell that he still cares for me and i don’t want us to end because of simple arguments. Another factor in our break up would be his best friend. which is a girl who is gay, one of the reasons why we broke up is because of her. I feel like if sometime has past we could both be together again. But i don’t know what to do because i’m in the not so close friend zone. And it’s hard because he’s in my major friend group, how should i start the 30 day NC if i see him everyday with out coming off as a jerk?
admin
September 28, 2013 at 3:34 am
Well, in your case you are going to have to start a minimal contact rule.
Shusmita
September 22, 2013 at 8:21 pm
my ex came to my life cause he got bored with his gf who he was dating for 9 years. We dated for 6 months and now is back with girl who he cheated on . Do you think he fall back in love with her and doesn’t miss me at all? He is seeing her 4 times in a week since we brokeup. I went to NC and it has been 25 days since we last talk over ph. He hasn’t contacted for past three weeks or or neither I. The 30days will be over this week. I bought your book.After 30 days I will send him a txt based on your book suggession.What if he still wants to be fr? Should I just give up home and move on?
admin
September 22, 2013 at 11:08 pm
No, you just want to do a better job or reignigting the conection.
Nikki
September 22, 2013 at 7:09 pm
My boyfriend and I were together for a little over 2.5 years. The relationship wasn’t always easy because we both had some issues. He had broken up with me in the past, but always came back. This time he came home from seeing his brother out of state, I was house sitting and watching his dog for him and broke up with me the day he got back because I told him that it was hard to go weeks without seein each other. I had a gut feeling that he was talking to someone else. I begged and pleaded for him to take me back and then admitted he was talking to someone else and planned on dating her. It hurts me so bad that I can’t stop crying. He said this was hard for him too, but being with me had made him lose himself and he needed to get away. He said there is always hope, but I know he says that so he doesn’t hurt me more. I haven’t contacted him sense, but I can’t stop thinking about this other girl! He has never gone on one date with someone. It always turns into a relationship. Is there any hope for me to get him back, or does tr fact that he was seeing someone a week after leaving me mean there is no chance?
admin
September 22, 2013 at 11:28 pm
I think it definitely means you have a chance.
Amanda
September 22, 2013 at 3:04 am
My boyfriend and I have been talking for 2.5 months dating for 3 weeks. Suddenly a week ago the distance really starting happening and today when I asked him to talk about it he instantly called me up and broke it off, not giving anymore of a reason than “he didn’t feel it was working out and didnt see us being long term, and that he liked me as a person and wants to stay friends but it just wasn’t working.” I was rather shocked I knew he’d been acting weird but I felt we had a great connection, good chemisty, and that he really liked me. Should I even bother trying to get him back or is this just over with?
admin
September 22, 2013 at 10:57 pm
Well, ultimately it is up to you. I can’t tell you whether or not you should get him back or not. All I can do is help you if you decide you do and believe me when I say that I will help you.
kym
September 21, 2013 at 11:15 pm
Hi Chris – My ex and I have been apart for 3 months and we recently started communicating again. He then told me that he still thinks of me and would like to see me again. We met twice, once for lunch and most recently a baseball game. I was happy we were spending time together again, and he told me felt the same. But most recently we had a talk about how things ended (he admitted he pushed me away, has high expectations, and a wall of defense) and we both talked about what we both wanted in a relationship and how we want to be more emotionally connected. He thinks I’m not capable when it’s not true, we just hadn’t gotten there together (he ended things just when I was ready). I told him this and he realized how much he had hurt me. We both still care about each other very much. He even told me he thinks about whether he’s ruining a good thing, and if he’s making a mistake. He said he wants us to talk again, and hopes when we do we will be emotionally closer. We haven’t set a day to meet and talk again. On some level I’m glad we got to say how we felt. I guess until we do talk again I don’t know where things are now with us.
admin
September 22, 2013 at 10:43 pm
Hi Kym,
I think you would really benefit by trying a few of the txts on this page.
Jim
September 21, 2013 at 10:37 pm
Hi, my girlfriend of three years just broke up with me. She said that she wasn’t sure about getting engaged anymore because we are so young, she’s not sure she wants to commit for life when we’ve mostly been in a long distance relationship, and she’d like to experience what other people are like.
Are all these rules equally applicable to women?
admin
September 22, 2013 at 10:42 pm
They should be but there will be a few differences.
Anonima
September 20, 2013 at 8:15 pm
I just want to thank you. I actually succeeded in getting my ex back.
I’m in no doubt that I owe it big time to you. Your page helped me to get up and do all the right things, and the only little thing I had to do was to ignore him for 2 times 15-20 days, then extend a hand and offer to be his friend while at the same time metioning that I was going somewhere with a guy (without telling my ex that that guy was only a friend). He texted me for two days and ended up coming up to me in person and telling me that he couldn’t sleep at night because he thought of how beautiful I still was after our months apart and how it tore him apart to think of me with another guy. And that he had realised that he still loved me.
It’s been three weeks now, and our relationship is much better, maturer and healthier than the last time. I’m also much happier myself and I keep up the good habits (working out, seeing friends) even though my boyfriend is back and – according to a friend – clearly looks like he’s absolutely mad about me. He’s much more loving towards me too.
So thank you. Here’s another success story to let you know that your advice is priceless. The best advice for me was to obtain a mindset called “I won’t get him back, and that’s ok. I can live without him. I love him like hell and I will for a while, but I don’t need him.” It worked.
Thank you so very very much for this. I can’t say that enough.
admin
September 21, 2013 at 10:43 pm
This is incredible!
I am so PROUD of you!
Another success story.
cristina
September 20, 2013 at 11:52 am
Hi there, am on day 10 of NC after a difficult 6 last months were my man, whom is with another woman at present, has two kids; he kept pulling me in, then pushing me away insisting he loves me but has to stick with her for the kids.
Anyway… I keep checking on whatsapp to see if I can make sense of his appearances there, because he kept only my number on it and on a work phone, so not to be caught by her.
Since we are not talking I’ve seen similar patterns to those he used to have when we were seeing each other: appearance before lunch to organise for it, then to say thanks, than again appearance near work finish time to organise drinks/dinner.
Normally on Tue and Wed he’s got more freedom because he come to the city and she lives 300 miles away with the kids.
I continue to see him appearing and initially – what an idiot 🙁 – I thought he was checking on me as I do on him.
Now am not sure any more and worse: he didn’t have a picture on his account, for the all year we spent together that stupid whatsapp had the anonymous icon on. Today, out of the blue, he put on both his account on skype and whatsapp an image of himself!
I believe he met somebody else and put those images to show off, since he never had them when we were together, and also I don’t think a guy would go that many time online only to check on his ex, especially given that on Whatsapp is not like on facebook, and there are no updates of status 🙁
Do you think he’s checking on me, or this picture frenzy might say he’s showing off to another woman? I don’t find sense in this happenings and am so saddened!
In 10 days of silence looks like he has no worry in the world whilst am desperate! I miss him.
admin
September 20, 2013 at 9:13 pm
I think he is checking on you. 80% of all exes do on social networks.
Bridgett
September 20, 2013 at 12:14 am
Hi Chris…so heres my story.. I went out with my ex boyfriend for 7 months before he broke up with me . He said we were to opposite. We would always get into arguements which i initiated because he would go behind my nack and talks to his cousins girlfriend about me and his personal things and it bothered me. We are co workers so after the break up we saw eachothet everyday but i did the NC for 4 months with the exception of the very few times he would approach me to say hello or just start a conversation. I was willing to work things with him and stay with him but when he broke up with me i felt anget he had given up on us. So i am now tryen to get him back! Two days ago i approached him and said id like to stay friends which he had told me he wanted to be. He told me i look great since i have a new hair style&color. He has walked over to talk to me and we have had convetsations like we never broke up. I dont know what else to thinl that perhapshe still has strong feelings for me? Am i doing the right thing by talking to him .
admin
September 20, 2013 at 9:06 pm
Hahah glad he said that to you! That is AWESOME.
I think you are doing the right thing by talking to him BUT you need to work to reignite his feelings if you want him back.