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Elodie
September 11, 2013 at 12:38 pm
Hey,
I’ve commented on here a few times and read different posts that’s richt situation. I’ll refresh your memory a lil lol my boyfriend of two years basically said he didn’t love me anymore like three months ago. I went about the breakup pretty wrong. I did everything kinda possible we even met up as friends and I was about to give up but now I want to go about it properly. So far I’m about 5 days no contact which is the longest ever so I’m pretty proud of myself. I’m even considering getting your eBook 🙂
I’m hitting an emotional spot and really beginning to struggle, you advised me to do the NC for the whole month but I’m going away in two weeks to study and if we get back together it will be a ldr and I’ve read your post on that.
I don’t know whether to give up or not cause over the past months I’ve done everything wrong, and this no contact is getting hard. Have you ever had success stories of this sort before and could you give me any possible further advice? because I’m slowly starting to give up 🙁
admin
September 12, 2013 at 3:25 am
Yea, actually one of my best friends (she is a girl) just got her boyfriend back who was a long distance relationship.
So, it is definitely possible.
Elodie
September 11, 2013 at 6:39 pm
O wow, he told me he was sorry and wants to work things out I’m totally shocked!!! Honestly I never saw this coming and at this point we will try and start fresh. I definitely have to thank you although I didn’t hit the other stages in your guide you made me realise a lot. I’ll continue to update you and I wouldn’t even mind featuring in a success story I ever you need it!! I’m not getting my hopes too high before I ruin things but no contact definitely taught me something.
THANK YOU!!!
admin
September 12, 2013 at 3:36 am
Success story definitely!
I think I will just use your comment and congratulations!
You are one awesome girl that’s for sure!
Michelle
September 11, 2013 at 3:14 am
My ex broke up with me three months ago because he is leaving for college and I will still be in highschool for another year. I know that people typically change a lot in college but I still really like him and hope that we’ll get back together eventually. We haven’t really been talking to each other all summer, even though we said we were going to try to be friends, and I like to think it’s because he still has feelings for me. Nothing was really wrong with our relationship besides the fact that we were going to be so far apart while he was in college. I want to start talking to him again but he’ll be leaving soon and I feel like he’ll just blow me off because he’s in college. How should I start talking to him?
admin
September 12, 2013 at 3:07 am
Open up with a very general text.
“Hey, do you remember….”
Try a variation like that.
Giny Avila
September 10, 2013 at 3:55 am
Great website! It really did help me almost get my ex husband back. But i ran into new complications and dont know what is my next plan of action. I need your advice. I’ve been separated for 3 months. The reasons why we separated was because we got in a huge fight and i kicked him out. He moved to San Diego. Im in LA. I took all advice given. I went to counseling, did the no contact, improved myself etc. We finally met up. After the 4th date, he said he needed more time, but that he is almost sure he wanted to work things out. After one week, he was calling me, texting me, facebooking me etc like crazy. He said he wanted me to move with him to San Diego. I was excited and couldnt believe it. Then all of a sudden, he stopped texting and calling almost over night. He would respond to my texes nice like always, but he was only responding. My suspicion…another woman! I started no contact again after about a week of me doing all of the reaching out. What happened? What do i do now. We had just made progress:(
admin
September 11, 2013 at 1:48 am
Ohhhh sooo clooseee.
Gosh, that has to hurt.
Ok, I want you to be patient b/c I have a post coming out this week that can give you a few ideas on how to make him fall for you again.
Ms. TIna Marie
September 10, 2013 at 2:04 am
I don’t know whether he will miss me considering he didn’t chase me the last time we broke up. I ended up begging to come back and it was his mother that took me back and talked him into it. Last time while his mother was talking to me she advised him to not talk to me and that she would handle it. Are you sure he will come around due to our situation. Really starting to feel hopeless and kinda sad. Have been going places, seeing people, and have been working on myself and my confidence but have bursted into tears many times just at the thought of him. Will he ever come around when his mother is advising him what to do or is this more of a thing for people and relationships without the Mothers intervening?
admin
September 11, 2013 at 1:39 am
Hey hang in there I know it is hard but you are approaching this the right way.
One thing you are doing wrong though is focusing too much on him. This time isn’t about him it’s about you!
Lisa Marie
September 9, 2013 at 11:09 pm
hey! so my ex got back with his ex (the girl he was with before me) and whenever they’re not together he finds a way to contact me. we became friends recently and out of the blue he unfriended me on all of the social networks then i found out that he got back with his ex once again. im more then positive he will be contacting me soon do i start the 30 day no contact rule now?
admin
September 11, 2013 at 1:36 am
Yes, I would say so.
And I am betting the new gf had something to do with the unfriending.
Charmaine
September 9, 2013 at 8:05 am
Hey, so what if I start on the plan after the 30days no contact rule and my Ex asks to meet up while I was still starting to implement Step 3 (remembering the good times).. Do I go ahead and meet up or do I have to wait till all the steps have been completed?
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:52 pm
No you meet up hahaha the whole point is to get a date.
sarah
September 8, 2013 at 11:40 pm
Hi Steve,
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 days ago. He said it wasnt because he didnt love me but that i was too old for him and that he needed to be young and free. We are 9 years apt and i have a 4 yr old son. We lived together and dated for 4 years. Now I am too old for him…Thiss came out of the blue one morning he just left.
what do i do….
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:39 pm
Do you still live together?
I would start NC immediately.
Also, you might want to pick up Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO if you want an in-depth guide on the steps it takes to get him back.
Cristal
September 8, 2013 at 9:11 pm
So my boyfriend broke up with me because he felt stressed out at work and said he couldn’t handle a relationship… I haven’t contacted him since we broke up 2 days ago.. He said he just wanted to be friends but it’s so hard you know? We were together for 2 1/2 years and he broke up with me a couple days before my birthday.. I am doing the NC rule but after those 30 days if he doesn’t contact me what do I do? I am scared he might think that I didn’t care about the break up… I wonder if he will start missing me or what? Before the break up he had sent me a love letter and poured out his feelings of how much he loved me and now he just left me.. What advice do you have? If he txts me saying happy birthday should I reply or not?
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:23 pm
You should really pick up my E-Book Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. It explains every step in-depth in there.
But after NC YOU contact him.
Lauren
September 8, 2013 at 3:46 pm
Hi Chris,
BF broke up with me 3weeks ago. We were together 9 months and lived together. All my stuff is out of his house and I am back living with my parents. For about 2 of these weeks, I acted desperate, clingy, nuts. Called/texted nonstop, went to his house, gym, etc. just for the chance to “talk.” I now realize this was the wrong approach. 3 days ago, he called me, we spoke, I asked him if there was even a chance of getting back together, he replied,”we’ll see.” Since that phone call, I decided to implement NC and see what happens. It’s been 2 days and we haven’t spoken. What now? Do you think there’s a chance? He knows I’ve been improving myself since the breakup, working out, job-searching, etc. which was the basis of our breakup (he said I stopped being “motivated”). What now? Thank you for your advice. I want to try NC because I’ve never been successful, but I’m afraid he will think I’ve moved on and will do the same.
admin
September 8, 2013 at 5:04 pm
You are right to do NC.
You might want to check out EBR PRO you could get a lot from that.
You might want to get all your stuff though (you can break NC for that.)
Lauren
September 8, 2013 at 5:18 pm
I have all my stuff. He’s very hard-headed and disciplined. Do you believe there’s even a chance for us?
admin
September 9, 2013 at 6:45 pm
I think it is worth a try definitely.
I have a post coming out soon you may find very interesting.
Kayla
September 8, 2013 at 2:17 pm
Hi Chris, this is a wonderful website with great advice. I am afraid I have already contacted my boyfriend too much for the NC rule to work. I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago and we have not followed the No Contact rule. If I had known about it I would have tried, but I am just stumbling upon this information now. During the first week I ignored several of his texts and calls but finally caved in at the end of the week. The 2nd weekend was even worse. We drunkenly kissed at a local club and I preceded to call him numerous times later that night. We had a small text convo a few days ago as well. Is it too late to use your system? Can I begin the 30 day NC rule even after 3 weeks of breaking it?
admin
September 8, 2013 at 4:59 pm
Absolutely you can
E
September 8, 2013 at 6:26 am
I’m kind of at the point where I start wondering if it’s still possible to get my ex back. We broke up 3 months ago and our relationship lasted a year. He gave me the typical ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ reason, though I know what probably got him running away from me. I was insecure, I cried a lot amd I was constantly afraid of losing him. It got to the point where he had enough of it. After the break-up we decided to stay friends and so we kept in contact throughout summerbreak. He often gave me the feeling that he sort of wanted to get back to me, and then the other moment I would be waiting for his messages that wouldn’t come. Since the last 3 months have past, I’ve been working hard on my confidence and I’m actually quite happy right now, except for the fact that I still miss him and love him so much. I know I’m a good girlfriend, I just needed some more confidence amd a cleaned up self-esteem. Last week he came to me for no reason during lunchbreak at school and we had a simple and fun conversation. I was so confused after our conversation, ’cause I just didn’t understand his intentions. That same day he came to me while I was at work at our local supermarket and we had asmall conversation there. And that was it, no message or anything after that day. I’m probably just too impatient, but it’s because everytime I see a little progress it just stops almost right after. Often times I would test him, like by sending him a picture of me wearing a new dress in which I looked super cute, and I would get the exact reaction that I wanted like; “woooow, you look really pretty!” I’d feel satisfied and my hopes got up, and then I wouldn’t hear from him anymore. So two days ago I’ve decided to try the no contact thing for this whole month until his birthday on october 1st. And eventhough my chances on getting him back sound very possible, I kind of feel like he’s already moved on and just wants us to be casual friends. What’s your opinion? And do you have any ideas for his birthdaytext?
admin
September 8, 2013 at 4:46 pm
Well, I am here to help you get him back.
It does look like feelings are still there. Have you tried a no contact rule yet. Maybe you can try it after his birthday. The thing is, I wouldn’t try to get someone back on their birthday. I mean, would you want to talk about a sad relationship on your birthday.
E
September 8, 2013 at 6:58 pm
Well I was kind of thinking about sending him a text on his birthday, just a simple, friendly one because I feel like it would be rude to not even wish him a happy birthday. And after that I’ll carry on with the no contact thing. I hope this makes sense to you haha. Anyways, I haven’t tried the no contact rule yet, because I was just too weak I suppose. And on top of that I was scared he would forget about me as soon as we stopped talking for a few days. But right now I do have a good feeling about the no contact rule, since I’ve basically been reading every single article on this website. I’m just gonna have to be patient, right?
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:16 pm
I usually don’t recommend the birthday text but the deal is I don’t know your exes as well as you do. So, if you feel it is right to wish him a happy birthday with a short and simple text then go for it. I always say trust your gut.
Kris
September 8, 2013 at 5:18 am
Hi, I have a question with the no contact rule. My boyfriend broke up with me for the 2nd time due to me not treating him well. Basically I blamed it on pms but I just treated him with disrespect and didn’t understand how important it was to guys. If he wasn’t meeting one of my needs I responded with insecurities and lack of respect which he would respond without love and it would cycle into a huge fight. He broke up with me and said he never wants me back. But here’s the kicker, he owns his own business and I work for him and he still wants me to work for him. I apologized and starting reading this love and respect book because I finally figured out what I was doing… And how terrible I was treating him. He was so angry with me. Said I can’t just change in a week and its too late, etc, etc. but after a few days he’s seen how committed I am to better my behavior and has been a little “softer” as I would like to put it. Even letting me drop off this picture frame set to his mom and dad that had a pic of him and I in it together. I asked what I should say if I see one of our mutual friends and they ask about us or him, and he said “be Brady bunch, tell them I’m fine, getting ready for hunting and that you’re just taking time to work on yourself. Or we’re on a break. Or wait just be Brady bunch” now as female, I’m reading between the lines with it, like, won’t they find out eventually that we broke up if see never getting back together ? I didn’t say this too him but am curious! He’s also made comments like ” you need to just be yourself and prove to the guys (at work) thst you’ve changed and to my parents, then they’ll want you in their life.” Now I’m thinking if we’re not getting back together then why do I need to prove anything to them? If I would be in his parents lives that means I would be in his life, right? He is a very black/white thinker and 100% that we were done for good! But I’m confused! And he still wants me to work for him. I don’t know how to handle the no contact thing for that… Or even what my next steps should be. 3weeks before we broke up, he told me I was the one which he said he was wrong when we were breaking up… So I don’t know, please help!
admin
September 8, 2013 at 4:44 pm
The fact that he told you that you are the “one” and him breaking up with you three weeks later just tells me that his “black and white” 100% we are done is just a persona and his mind can be changed.
You might want to check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO if you want an exact way to handle getting him back and getting him chasing you again.
Also, I still think you do the NC rule.
Kris
September 8, 2013 at 6:59 pm
Until I get that book, is there any advice you could please give me? I’m kinda figuring out what I “think” I should do is basically the opposite of what I “should” do. I’m also fighting patience, I want everything to be fixed right now. It’s so hard to go off what he says when I feel like its so conflicting. But the last things I need to do is bring drama or do something drastic because he’s made it very clear that’s he’s associated me with “drama” 🙁
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:14 pm
I have a pretty important article to making your ex fall in love again coming out this week. Hopefully tomorrow.
So, you might want to just wait for that to come out b/c it will talk about a lot.
K
September 7, 2013 at 6:48 pm
Ok. So. My ex and I broke up at the end of July. We were together for a few weeks. Less than a week later he got a new girlfriend. As much as hurt I decided not to talk to him. I’m actually proud of myself for figuring out the no contact rule on my own lol. So it had been a little over a month and the most I’ve contacted him was when he liked that stupid “Truth is” thing I posted and I said to him “Truth is we don’t talk anymore..” Keeping it like I had moved on. Well that was August 26th. 26 days after we broke up. Well anyways two nights ago my friend (one of those protective ones) decided to message him and told him to talk to me. He told her that he actually did really like me and he was hoping we would get back together when school started but then he got a girlfriend. And he also told her that he wanted to talk to me but he was worried that there would still be feelings between us and he didn’t want me to get hurt because I was really nice. So last night I texted him for the first time in over a month apologizing for her messages. He replied within a half hour that it was fine and asked me what I had been up to. I told him and asked him too and he told me. So we texted a little while. It was kinda awkward. But that’s normal right? Well anyways. He’s still with the new girlfriend. They’ve been together for about a month but within that time they had broken up and gotten back together. So. Do you think he still has feelings for me? Or is he just being friendly? Details please! Sorry for such a long message.
admin
September 8, 2013 at 12:32 am
I think he probably still does have feelings for you. That doesn’t mean you will get him back necessarily but it is something to work off of.
What is your plan going forward?
K
September 8, 2013 at 1:57 am
I’m not sure. I definitely still have feelings for him. But I don’t want to break him and his girlfriend up, they seem happy together. I’m probably going to ease my way into talking to him again. It’s very awkward in public. We both would like to be friends but we both know there would be more than a “just friends” feeling there.
admin
September 8, 2013 at 4:31 pm
Yea I would say that is the best way to approach it. The easing into talking again.
K
September 8, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Ok thanks
rosie
September 7, 2013 at 9:47 am
hi Chris,
i cheated on my ex boyfriend over a married man and i want to be with my ex boyfriend back.
my 30 days nc was over and my first text message was failed. so now i return back to 2 week nc.
but after one week nc, i text him. at first I dont expect he will response anything but he text me back saying he was really affected by this feeling (cheated, trust issue, our big mistakes, broke up etc.)and he dont want to be mad at me so he want to be alone.
i know he still cared for me and love me otherwise (for me) he wont feel affected so much..
what should i do? what is your opinion?
working out on my first text message until received positive response? ask his forgiven?
admin
September 7, 2013 at 11:55 pm
It is just going to take time.
Give him that space it is clear he isn’t in the right mindframe to talk to you yet.
rosie
September 8, 2013 at 12:20 am
yea, i think so.
ok so now back to nc? for how long?
admin
September 8, 2013 at 4:24 pm
What do you think is appropriate?
rosie
September 9, 2013 at 6:01 am
i dont know. do u have opinion? or get back to 30 days? or just enough for 2 weeks nc?
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:51 pm
I say 2 weeks.
Rachel
September 6, 2013 at 12:57 am
GuestGuest1 day ago linkI made some mistakes that ended the relationship with the love of my life. He told me he doesn’t want me anymore and to move on and that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I’m completely heart broken and theres nothing I can say to him that helps anything. I have recognized my mistakes and I would always admit it to him and apologize for it and say that I would try very hard to fix things and change myself for the better, but looking back I guess I didn’t try hard enough. we have been together for a year now and been through a lottt. We have broken up many times of little things, he always initiated the break up. But we got through them and always apologize and talked about what we needed to do better. I would say that we have come a long way in our relationship but he only sees the bad things. He told me that I haven’t changed at all since I met him, which I don’t think is true and I am very good about seeing my faults but I believe I have grown a lot as a person in a year! Some mistakes i have made before was i sometimes would get grumpy and mad at him for little things and not treat him the best, which i regret fully because i do love him with all my heart and im trying everyday to work on not getting so mad over little things. What broke us up this time, and i am sure for good this time, is I lied to him, but unintentionally. I never cheated on him or anything but he always had trust issues with me. So, about a week ago I told him I was going to deactivate my facebook cause I didn’t want it to cause any problems. I did turn it off for one day, but I turned it back on again because I got bored and wanted to look at my news feed. I wasn’t thinking about the consequences of this and it was very stupid of me. So, he ended up turning his facebook back on, and saw that my account was still on, he thought i was completely lieing to him and this was the last chance for him. He broke up with me and told me he doesnt believe a word i say now, that he doesnt care about me at all anymore and that we are over for good. I am 18 years old and he is 21, but the age was never an issue we are about the same maturity and this was both our first serious relationship, our first love. I feel terrible about myself and that I ruined this when he really does mean everything to me it’s been four days now since we broke up and there’s no signs of improvement. I’ve already apologized excessively and begged him for one last chance, that I will show him that I’m going to change. I guess the only thing I can do now is leave him alone for a while and just hope that he will miss me and give me one last chance how can I show him that I am truly sorry and that I learned my lesson? He told me to move on.. that he’s going to hook up with girls, etc. I’m pretty sure he is saying these things to hurt me, because I hurt him. I would like to know is if there is any hope left that I could have home back someday? It seems he will never trust me, and he could really care less about me right now. I’m so hurt and worried.
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:37 am
Have you trie dthe NC rule or any of the steps outlined on this page?
Rachel
September 6, 2013 at 1:01 pm
I’ve been trying to contact him least frequently, it’s just hard when we used to talk every single day. I suppose I should do the no contact for a month but I’m just so worried that he’s going to forget about me and want nothing to do with me.
admin
September 7, 2013 at 1:50 am
He won’t forget about you I promise you that.
Rachel
September 7, 2013 at 2:30 am
I think for guys it’s easier for them to move on and forget. Maybe it just seems that way though
admin
September 7, 2013 at 11:40 pm
I think generally it is. However, there are some guys that can’t just move on that easily.
Rachel
September 7, 2013 at 2:29 am
Thanks for replying!
Katie
September 5, 2013 at 11:28 pm
My baby’s father and I broke up a little over a month ago, he started dating a girl a week after we broke. They are still together but he has cheated on her with me. In your opinion will these steps have any/no affect on us?
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:37 am
Check out this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/.
Also, I highly recommend Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO
Katie
September 5, 2013 at 11:33 pm
I failed to mention that I’m just started the steps today.
kay
September 5, 2013 at 8:41 pm
My boyfriend broke up with me just the other day because we both became very distant in the relationship and he wants a change of life. We been dating for over a year and I really want him back..i realize now that the problems i had with myself made me not be a good girlfriend to him. He stays he still wants me in his life and wants us to be friends. How can i win him back?
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:31 am
I would say do everything on this page.
Though if you really want the best chance of getting him back pick up my PRO system.
Lola
September 5, 2013 at 5:34 am
So this isn’t exactly about an ex-boyfriend but you are really good at advice so I thought I would ask anyway. There is this guy who has liked me for a year straight. He was super jealous when I got a boyfriend and I liked him too but I never knew he had feelings for me so I moved on and got that boyfriend. But ever since me and him broke up, this guy has been happy again that I’m single and liked me. But he didn’t think I felt the same way so he never mentioned anything. (yes, a lack of communication) But he even had a girlfriend for a few months and he always thought of me first, texted me first, and liked me more than here so he had to break it off with her. But now he finally just found out I liked him. He finally had the guts to come out and admit all his feelings for me and I did as well. The problem is, is that he just started a new relationship a week ago. But he says he likes me more than this other person and regrets it but is going to feel like a jerk just breaking it off with this person. The other problem is, that this other person is a guy. He’s experimenting to see if he is bi-sexual. He doesn’t know if he is but he doesn’t want to break if off partly because this relationship leaves him very curious and he’ll always be left wondering. But he said when this relationship doesn’t work out he would want to date me. Should I just wait here, wait for him to be single again? Or move on? I’ve liked this guy for a year straight too. But he said, we’ve put off our feelings this long for each other. What’s a little longer? It’s driving me nuts seeing him with this guy though. It really bothers me. I don’t want to be someone’s second choice, their plan B. Do I tell him what’s bothering me, do the jealousy tactic and flirt with other guys, pull away? I’m confused!
admin
September 6, 2013 at 1:47 am
I would say do a combo of moving on while waiting for him to be single again.
Kara
September 5, 2013 at 5:27 am
So I don’t want my ex-boyfriend back anymore because I know he wasn’t good for me. It’s been 3 months since we broke up. But all of the sudden he’s been texting me every night asking if I want to talk or if I’m still awake. He said he wants our friendship to stay alive and he doesn’t understand why we aren’t friends after 3 months of him totally ignoring me, deleting me off facebook, refusing to even look at me in public as if I didn’t exist. And then when I do see him now he still ignores me and I asked how he expects to maintain a friendship like that and he says it’s just too hard on him to come up to me and know I’m not his anymore. Does he still like me, or is he just being dramatic? I’m tired of him texting me everyday like we’re friends but ignoring me in person.
admin
September 6, 2013 at 1:45 am
Yea, I think that is the lowest thing a guy can do, ignore you in person. If you want him back I can help you but if you don’t then I say move on definitely.
Lola
September 9, 2013 at 4:46 am
Thanks. I definitely don’t want him back. But he keeps texting me he wants me back.
admin
September 9, 2013 at 7:50 pm
Hahaha and you read the how to move on article correct?
Melissa
September 4, 2013 at 3:19 pm
And sometimes i See that he is online and replaying to commented on YT but he Doesnt Write me back ;( What Should i do?
admin
September 5, 2013 at 12:27 am
For now don’t contact him, you are digging yourself in a deeper hole by doing that.
I would also like to point out that the NC rule is your friend here.