The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Hailey

August 8, 2013 at 4:04 am

My boyfriend of a year left me for another girl He says I was very controlling and I will be honest I was but I have changed I can’t lose this boy he’s my whole life anything absolutely anything I can do to get him back I will don’t tell me to move on CUZ I don’t want to I wanna try to save us we have so many memories together, I don’t wanna lose them. We’re in high school. He went back to his old town and met a girl and left me this was out the blue he keeps telling me no no no but I have got to get him to say yes CUZ I LIVE HIM SO MUCH. And I am not going to control him this time I learned my lesson some please HELP!!!!!!! when i had my friend talk to him he said i was a psyco and no man would ever want to date me someone help hes the love of my life AND I GOT TOO GET HIM BACK I LOVE HIM PLZ HELP!!! I have not done the no contact rule yet. But if I did I don’t think he would car school starts in 2 weeks so i don’t think he would try to contact me after the NC.

admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:03 am

Well, you aren’t just supposed to wait for him to contact you during NC. You are supposed to initiate the conversation after NC no matter what.

Tabi

August 8, 2013 at 2:19 am

Me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago. It was out of the blue, but looking back at some actions I could see where things got stressful for him. We had mutual friends which ummm “dumped” me about 2 months before that, citing I had “changed”. (Well the one girl who happens to be the boss) so either way i was dropped from that group of friends. Which caused me to place extra presures on him. As well as him getting pulled by her. She is very MEME centric, and she didnt like me stealing his time from her. Unfortunatly her pulling and me pulling was too much. And he felt it was best to break up. He belived many things being fed to him from her. It shouldn’t have gone as far as it did. Our breakup wad very tearful. On bothsides I really feel, felt it wasn’t 100% what he wanted. But he decided in the end to do it. He used almost everyline. We dont want the same things which was a lie we did! Unless he just didnt tell me they changed. He loved me but, couldnt stay. I was his first everything(hes24), and he felt he needed time. Hes like i want a family and i was like me too, then hes like im too young i wanna have fun. Which i said was understandable. The next week at work (yeah we work together) he had a bad weekend with said friends and told me how much he missed me and loved me, and thanked me for giving him space. All i could do was shrug cause all i wanted to do was take him home. I found some clothes of his and he told me to just toss them! He seemed angry with me ad well. Yeah i know no real big deal, but now he makes a point to avoid me. Hes not said one word in a week. Which i guess is good and bad. Im trying to make the month of nc. Well lc. I really wanna make the best chance to have him come back. But i fear i might have to wait for him to break from outside influences. Is there hope?

admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:36 am

There is hope of course! That doesn’t guarantee success though. Hope though, yes!
Tabi

August 8, 2013 at 3:49 am

I guess there is always hope. Just waiting is hard to do without indication of what is to come.
admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:00 am

I understand completely! However, you should look to do more with yourself. You will go crazy if you are just waiting around.
Tabi

August 16, 2013 at 1:15 am

Arg I know i know nc lol. My silly boy found out I left for another city (just a vaca), so he texted asking a few normal questions. Whatchya doing, having fun blahblah. I know i shouldn’t have engaged but it was almost a real talk and that was great. Then he asks if im gonna get laid. Like wtf i was just like uh no. I didn’t know what to say 1) none of his business and 2) just how little does he really think of me. Just to go around randomly humping what comes my way. I wasn’t mad perce which he asked, and i said no but i was surprised. He said it was just suppose to be funny. I just said how would you feel if i ask you that. He gave no answer to it. It accually hurt.
Tabi

August 14, 2013 at 4:40 am

Too bad that doesn’t get me what I want 😛 But short knocking him out and locking him up I can not get more frim him. I am hoping it will change in the future. I keep believing my happy will come too
Tabi

August 13, 2013 at 3:41 am

Lol, i might at the very least it gives me some way to get stuff out. I got shocked again he accually texted me asking why I wasnt at work (took my holidays wee). Im glad in away that he does seem to care but I wish I knew how to get it to be more. I know at the moment he is filling his time quite extensively with the friends who helpped cause some of our issues. So I know at the moment he is not open to more but, I also know that dynamic is heading for a breakdown as well. Times a killer oi. Im also prepared umm prepairing for just friends. Although some days thats hard for me. I kinda wish he would find a girl lol. 1. Cause I know she well not like the dynamic they have. It will make her make him pick, which hopefully will help point out everyones not crazy. And 2. I wont interfer with that cause reality is even if I can’t be part of his happy he diserves it.
admin

August 14, 2013 at 1:36 am

Wow you are a really good person. Not many women I know would say that.
Tabi

August 12, 2013 at 5:04 am

Well I’m still unsure if I can persude my 2nd chance from my boy, but it seems that by me not texting him when he asked has prompted him to send me a good morning. A bit of a surprise cause it was on a day we dont work together which before nc he would only talk to me on days we were together. I guess a real test will be this week im on holidays so wont even get work contact. Btw sorry for filling your threads, but your information seems to be the most helpful for me. Or maybe yours is the most optimistic without promises. And thanks
admin

August 13, 2013 at 2:17 am

I aim to be optimistic, helpful and realistic. Oh, and fill them up all you want.
Tabi

August 10, 2013 at 2:20 am

Haha yeah thats the truth. I didn’t mean just being idol but still waiting. Today he accually approched me nothing amazing or anything, he kinda lingers and seems unsure, maybe i read too much into it. I also noticed he makes some ummm touches at first I thought accidental but, now IM sure it wasnt as he made a point to give me a look when it happened. I gave a bit of a look like wtf. He asked me to text him again. I have not made efforts since about the 2nd week to contact him. Although I would reply to direct contact on his part. I said i’d think about it. So yeah lots of mixed signals. A friend said hes probally getting ansi for some action lol but accually hes not as into that side as much as i wanted (he really was wanting to marry the person he did that with). And somehow i stole that from him. So i guess i keep holding on for the time, pushing will make him run for sure.

Lara

August 7, 2013 at 9:51 pm

hey ^^
he wrote me saying he is sorry.That he misses me.That he still loves me and always will.That i mke him happy with just one message no matter if somene else writes him except me.Soi tought he fnally realised and wants me back.I played hrd to get but then suddenly he said after awhile ”as friends”Dafuq and what now?He wrote me all the timethat he loves me and etc and as soon i talk t himhe said ”as friends”???

admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:29 am

Well, take a step back for a moment. Don’t let it get to you.
Lara

August 8, 2013 at 7:32 am

I need to start my NC for 30 days again?
admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:15 am

I am afraid so…

Moon

August 7, 2013 at 6:46 am

me and my boyfriend seperated one month ago and i used the NC rule immediatly, it is 30 days now since we have not talked last time. i deleted him as we from facebook.
the question is shall i text him as we have ocasion in our country that normally all people text and call each others. please let me know if it is good occasion to text him and if yes, what shall i say?
the problem that cause the seperation is that he doesnt feel the love as before and i was somethering him a lot before the breakup and he felt pressure.
i want him back. please help me with the right tactics.
do you have a personal email that i can email you.

admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:04 am

You can email me via the contact form on this site.

Also, I would say its a good idea to text him now.

Moon

August 7, 2013 at 6:33 am

i would like to talk to you please
catrina

August 6, 2013 at 7:58 pm

What if your ex boyfriend doesn’t contact you after the 30 day no contact rule? Is it okay for u too?

admin

August 7, 2013 at 3:11 am

Yea, no big deal. Eventually you will talk to him after NC no matter what.

Sara

August 6, 2013 at 5:22 am

I wrote to you a few weeks ago about how my ex broke up with me. Is been a month now and I haven’t done the NC yet. I’m planning to do it soon after we spend a week together at school. We have this thing to go to and he’s in it with me. So lately we’ve been talking and sometimes it seems like he wants me back and sometimes he doesn’t. There was this one time where he asked how I would feel if he were to start dating. And of course I said that I don’t know. But I should have told him I don’t mind. Just to get his head thinking haha. After that convo we didn’t talk about it much. We would just talk like how we normally do. Then there’s time I ask if he has anything planned for the next day and he tells my that he is going on a date and I would be oh that’s nice. And he will reply an hr later saying that he was kidding. This happened a couple of times, so I got tired of him doing that to me so I asked him why he keeps telling me he as a day but really does and he says that he’s “trying to make you jelly”. I didn’t understand why so I was like why do you have to get me to be jealous for? Then he ended up saying I’m not seriously trying to make you jealous. Do you know what this means? Does he still want me back? I also recently asked if he was dating someone and he told me that he wasn’t and that he swears on it. Ohh! There’s also times where he asks me to hangout with him and his cousins. The first few times I would say no but one time I said alright sure. When we go with hai cousins, they would all talk and I would feel left out. I was the only girl so they would be taking about girls and I’ll just be standing off to the side alone. I know I shouldn’t have went with them. But why would he ask me to go with him if he was just going to leave me hanging around and not even talking to me. This gets so confusing. I really want this guy back but he’s alway giving mixed signals and is pulling my strings everyday. I just want to know what he’s thinking. Do you think he wants me back?

admin

August 7, 2013 at 2:16 am

The problem sara is the fact the he is pulling YOUR strings and not the other way around.

I would have done NC immediately.
Sara

August 7, 2013 at 2:32 am

So am I suppose to get him to feel mixed signals from me? I’m going to have class with him during the fall and I’m not sure how to so the NC.
admin

August 7, 2013 at 3:30 am

Well, you would still be able to do NC you just have to keep your interactions in person to a minimum.

Courtney

August 6, 2013 at 5:05 am

Thank you for all of our help. I am praying that he comes back to me after the NC period. I have been also telling mutarl friends of ours that may know about the break up that I’m doing great an very happy. I’m hoping it will get back to him and he will start missing me. When do you think he will take it off the Internet or tell his family/friends? I think it’s weird that he hasn’t done it yet. Last time we broke up he did it right away.

admin

August 7, 2013 at 2:13 am

Gosh, that is crazy that he still has that on there. I thought he would have taken it down by now. Well, if he doesnt then that is a good sign.

Samantha

August 6, 2013 at 1:58 am

So my situation is a difficult one (as they all are I guess!)
Me and my boyf split up about 2 months ago. I am from the uk but moved to australia to be with him (he’s an Aussie). So we broke up because things had changed, we wanted different things (at least I thought we did) and it just wasnt fun anymore. So I booked a ticket home but had about 3 weeks left in our apartment in oz living together after we had broken up. Those 3 weeks were amazing and we got on so well. I was like the pressure was off because we both knew I was leaving so we just enjoyed being around each other. The day I left he got so emotional and was crying (I’d never seen him cry before) and I was bombarded with ‘I miss you’ texts. I thought it was really sweet, but it messed with my head because I started to feel like I’d made a huge mistake. Anyway he went on holiday to California after I left, and from that moment on it was like I didn’t exist. So I landed back in England gutted, missing him, wanting him back, and he hardly even spoke to me.
He gave me his old ipad as a leaving present, and when I got home the weirdest thing happened. He changed his sim when he came back from Cali and suddenly any iMessages he was getting came up on the ipad!! (My laptop is broken so I haven’t been able to swap accounts over on the pad yet). I don’t want to see his iMessages but now it’s like it’s all I can look at. (I haven’t told him!) And there has been messages from a specific girl, and it’s pretty obvious he’s already seeing her, which made my heart break. I asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said no….but I know he is! And now he doesn’t respond to me at all. Is like he’s forgotten about the amazing 2 years we spent together just because some new bit of fluff has come along.

I’m heading back to australia in 7 weeks to live with friends, but now I don’t know what to do. I want him back, but what if he really falls for this other girl first? I have 28 days to go for the no contact thing and I’m just worried it will all be too late. Me leaving has made me realise that he is the man I’m supposed to spend the rest of my life with. But what if its too late?

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:53 am

Well, take things one step at a time. For now, just focus only on what you have control over.

Joy

August 5, 2013 at 9:46 pm

Oops! I think I just deleted my entire comment, if this sounds familiar, I apologize. I just finished reading your article and I have to say, it has not only greatly informed me but also helping me see clearly. I’ve been balling all night so this is the first time I can literally see the light of day. Pun intended. Everyone’s comments are so reassuring that I’m not alone and other people feel the pain. My boyfriend broke up with me just last night and although he addressed it like a typical guy, I still have many unanswered questions. Not to sound cliche, but everything was working so well up until 3 days ago – that’s how long things were “going down hill” when I asked him “how long have you been feeling this way?” I know our relationship wasn’t fool proof (because none are) but I look back and can’t see any MAJOR flaws. I realize we only dated for 4 months but we were friends longer. We met at college, and for the longest time our dearest friends kept telling us we were undeniably compatible. And I don’t believe they would have lied to us in order to watch us fail. They were close friends we could rely on, and did nothing but cheer us on and give honest opinions. My situation isn’t special, but he is still very special to me. I’m not stupid, and am very picky when it comes to guys, so when we were growing closer, I felt that he was satisfying my emotional needs. We physically were compatible as well and he was my first kiss. I understand we’re young, but we’re not teenagers and I never felt we were just wasting time. He seemed to be seeking a real deal relationship since we both have been hurt immensely by past interests. More or less, not to quote Demi Levato, but I thought we were “giving each other’s hearts a break.” And there was so much productive conversation, philosophical and intellectual discussions – I listened to his whole theory of personalities that no one else cared to listen to – we had so many fun AND romantic dates. We shared many common interests, and not just stupid activities. We talked for hours and cut conversations short sometimes. I was also there when his grandpa died when no one else was…We tried to honor each other’s separate lives and responsibilities. We made due with what we have even though his job and mine do not pay well and I’m without a car. I tried my absolute hardest from past failures to not act like “your typical woman.” You know, the things that guys can’t stand – always demanding more and acting dissatisfied, failing to at least look put together (in fact, I would say I dressed nicer the more we dated) failing to complement him, not allowing him his needed time when he has prior obligations, using him for resources (money, gifts, and food) throwing fits when I don’t see him for too long, clinging to him everyday, saying ill things about him to my friends when I need to vent, acting jealous. I never did any of those things. I know that I blamed myself when we couldn’t meet up, or something didn’t work. And he didn’t like that, he said he hated that I blamed myself all the time and he often said it was his fault. But I am very critical of myself and I’m working on it. I know when he made his decision he didn’t talk to anyone or tell me how he was feeling and just suddenly wanted nothing to do with me. My birthday was last week, and everything was wonderful, he gave me a personally made gift and told me the kindest things, up until (it seems not even three days ago) he told me he was blessed to have spent the summer with someone he’s beginning to fall for. And then the day after we argued about a few things. Ridiculous things. The next day (which was yesterday) he broke up with me. I don’t understand! Even when we were still friends and hadn’t even developed feelings, our conversations led us to see we had similar goals in life. And even worse, he said he still feels something. But I have no idea what to do. He promised to meet me tomorrow so we can talk face to face and properly brake up since he said we’d meet but did it over the phone? I know he isn’t cheating on me, and if you want a little background, he was the kind of guy that girls pushed aside and disregarded. He was the guy that this jerk said “You’ll never find love. You’re unlovable.” And he was the guy that reassured me that there’s someone for every person. I know he has past hurts and pains from being abused but he still tried his hardest to make it work. I want to implement your Game Plan Strategy because it seems like it can work, and I still want to be with him. I need some true guidance as to whether I should take action towards repair or not. Not to say my friends aren’t credible sources, but they’re the kind of people who grow angry and calloused towards their ex’s after a break up. Also, I’m stubborn. THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART! GOD BLESS </3

Katherine

August 10, 2013 at 3:41 am

I dated with my ex about a year and half. We were happy and thought about getting married. We had a fight and I met the guy I dated before and talked to him about my problems with my ex. My ex thought I cheat on him but after I explained, he tried to not think about that and we were back normal. After that, he started talking to girls at work and went out with them sometime. He was still with me but he talked and flirted with them. I saw that and we had fights about that a lot. It has been 6 months till now. A month ago we talked about getting married or not, he said he doesn’t want our relationship anymore. I begged him and we stayed together but I don’t feel right like before. We decided to move on and I stopped talking to him. After 4 days, he texted me and said he was wrong. He can’t leave me and can’t live without me and blah blah… Then we talked again and we were back together. I got really mad whenever I see he texted to some girls. I made him stop talking to them and he said he doesn’t want the relationship with me again. We talked a lot about our relationship and he said he thought he would settled down with me but now he’s not ready for that. We broke up again and I didn’t talk to him in 5 days already. The first day we didn’t talk, he texted me that he thinks about me and it makes him sad. The third day, he asked me did I change my cover photo for the Facebook when I just changed that. I still didn’t text him back till now. I really love him and he was the one i loved the most. I want us to be back together. Do you think he will change his mind and be back to me?
admin

August 11, 2013 at 2:59 am

I think the better question is: what are you doing to change his mind? What specific actions do you plan on taking?
Katherine

August 11, 2013 at 4:18 am

I don’t know. What should I do now? Really need your helps!!
admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:13 am

Hi Katherine, for the life of me I can’t locate the context of our conversation. Could you give me a refresh?
admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:45 am

I know all about making an ex girlfriends friends angry. I made one of my exes friends so angry after I broke up with her that they went to the story and poured mustard all over my car.

Totally lame…

Funny part was though that it rained that day and my car got completely washed off. The only reason I found out about it was because they called me up to “rub it in.” I was like “wait you poured mustard on my car? It rained and washed it all off.”

Hahahaha.. Good times!

Anyways, sounds like your ex broke up with you out of the blue. What a bummer. I am sorry that happened to you.
Joy

August 7, 2013 at 7:27 am

Wow, that’s crazy…haha!
Thanks for the reply. And yeah, it did seem like he broke up with me out of the blue. But he met up with me like he promised and we talked most things out. He’s not a douchebag and he’s a honest abe so I thought I could get a lot out of it. I have to say I’m more confused than ever since he told me “I DO love you, mostly as a friend, but I still have some feelings for you. Our relationship was perfect, everything I wanted, but it was too fast and I don’t feel it as deeply as I thought. I’m not ready to find the one.” So I guess, there’s that. But he still wants to be my friend, and I know he’s still close friends with one girl he had a crush on (she has a bf now.) Should I pursue this and do the No Contact rule and all that follows to get him back, or is it hopeless so I’ll screw it and dump mustard on his car…?
admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:05 am

Don’t dump mustard on his car.

I think it is worth a try Joy I honestly do!
Joy

August 9, 2013 at 12:11 am

I apologize for pestering you, but you give good advice and I’m lost on what to do for a few reasons. I noticed some people asked if they could email you. Would you mind me emailing you?
admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:43 am

Absolutely not go right ahead!

Sylvia

August 5, 2013 at 9:10 pm

I was dating with a man for 3 weeks and he was so happy& interested but we didn’t talk in anything special actually he was talking with my parents to know me for marriage he is 37 ,im 25 . after a month he changed and call me and say what is ur opinion n our situation? I told him that I’m so happy and I asked him he said I’m thinking and he don’t know why he can’t feel better and he can’t said more and he asked me what u wanna do next it seems like he is confused to take a decision of marriage . He didn’t give me a specific answer about our relation at the and I asked him is ur feeling gonna change and we can complete or no!! He answered yea may be change & may not . Actually we had few contact last month ,then two weeks no contact I saw him by chance in church we were so far after he left he text me : hiii I wanted to say hi today but u were on phone hope u doing great! I called him and told him that I miss him so much it’s almost a month ago we didn’t meet he back to church and we had nice talking , he told me that he know that he is so bad toward me but he really don’t know!!! I hugged him after we done with nice talking . then I didn’t send him any thing for a week ,I saw him 2 days ago in church and he was looking to me clearly but we didn’t talk in church . After we left I send him : u don’t wanna say hi today !! He replied me and we have nice short chat . I really don’t know what goin on his mind I really want him & I don’t know the reason that made him stopped although he was so interested ! I asked his uncle last night about what going in Jerry’s mind ! He told me that Jerry answered him not clearly like ( I don’t know , I don’t think so …)so if he don’t want why he text me although we were so far and why he look to me in church? Is it his no answer about marriage ?

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:39 am

What do you think about trying the stuff on this page?
Sylvia

August 6, 2013 at 4:41 am

Yea sure ,but I wanna ask if that situation is related to life style because we both Egyptian but he grow up in state and I’m in Egypt I think this is the only reasons because last time we were together he told me that I can go to see his home I said no I can’t go inside alone actually it’s our traditions he ask me I don’t know the traditions I told him ask ur dad . I know I shocked him because he is more American than Egyptian for sure he wanna try a lot of sexual things because of his age and at the same time he want Egyptian girl like him just to be virgin. So how can I fix this situation ?is he close the door ?
admin

August 7, 2013 at 2:08 am

Yes, the Egyptian lifestyle could be a factor.

What is your plans for getting him back? Like lay it out for me so I can tell you if it’s good or bad.
Sylvia

August 7, 2013 at 4:02 am

actually his birthday after two weeks I think if I take a precious gift and make surprise for him at work he will feel good and kiss him because there is a lot of eye contact and few texts . But until that happen I really don’t know what should I do? I wanna ask u what man need in his age for marriage? He is 37
admin

August 8, 2013 at 1:48 am

I am just going to add my two cents but do you think it might be too much to get him a gift?

Lisa

August 5, 2013 at 8:02 pm

I have been seeing a guy on and off for two years. He broke off his relationship for me. He was in that relationship for 11 years and they were engaged to be married. We get along great. Both of our families love each other. Here is the issue, his ex! They continue to have contact with each other. For a time I wasn’t even aware. He continues to say he doesn’t want to be with her and there is no benefit to being with her but he won’t cut off ties. We are not dating now but I do want him back. Is it worth it? Will this tactic work for me?

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:35 am

It can improve your chances for sure.

Brook

August 5, 2013 at 3:08 pm

I was dating my boyfriend for about 5 months everything was going great. Then he dumped me saying how we are two different people but really I don’t see that or trust that he is being truthful. The night before we talked on the phone and before hanging up he said night love you didn’t seen any different than any other time he said it. My question is do I have a chance to get him back because I still love him and feel that this relationship still has something. Also we never had a fight during the whole relationship.

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:20 am

You do have a chance Brook! Beautiful name by the way hahaha.

Yea, you have a chance but that doesn’t mean you will succeed. Just giving you a heads up on that.

UnknownKitty

August 5, 2013 at 11:19 am

Hi, I recently wrote a comment before, and you said he tried to make me jealous and looked at me because he thinks Im beautiful. We were together 1 year and 2 months and we’re both 20.

Anyway, me and my ex boyfriend had a very bad break up. I broke up with him because of arguments and him not treating me right. He texted me with some excuse like ‘did you message my sister on facebook?’ I didn’t so it turned to an argument. He texted me another time saying ‘U up?’ and it turned into an argument again. I ended up texting loads of crap as I was being emotional and he ended up agreeing he didn’t love me. I told him to never text me again. I called him so mean its unbelievable. I ignored him constantly for like 2 months. When he spoke to me in person, I blanked him.

Anyway he went abroad to zante and most likely slept around, I couldn’t take that so I kissed some random bloke on a night out. His friends were following me and they told him. Before that he was staring at me and smiling. He turned to look at me very fast. He also pasted this song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6XmNoauuOo
Please listen to the song its a love song about wanting someone back. He was tagged in some photos in zante and he looked miserable in them and one in the night club looking sad.

Anyway, the next time we saw each other, we smiled at each other constantly and wouldn’t stop staring at each other. We were both on the dance floor dancing near each other. He looked really happy. His friends started pointing at me. His friend also told me to come over and made the hand action to come over and called my name.

But the my sister told him I still liked him, she said shes gorgeous and beautiful and my ex boyfriend said “I know she is” and my sister said do you still like her? and he said “yeh I do” but then he said something about have no feelings for me because I got with someone a week ago.

But he went abroad to zante and slept around? So I ended up texting him this, which isn’t the best text to send after a 2 month no contact really,

‘I no u probs dnt av my number, its lucy, my sis should av gone over to u, i didn’t ask her to but i only got with some1 cos I cudn’t get over u having sex wiv other girls in zante, its a lot more painful than tht. You was also trying to go for your ex girlfriend which hurt like hell. It meant nothing and I dnt even like the weirdo, i just forced myself to try get over you because I actually loved you. My feelings were real and I get yours weren’t.x
You having sex abroad is so much worse than wt I did. I cudn’t bring myself to sleep with any1 else, u cud, u cudn’t of cared for me to do tht 🙁 we wasn’t together and I didn’t no how to block the images of u sleeping around x

I know it was a very silly text message to write, I was drunk and it was on the same night we had been smiling at each other. I only sent him that text because his mates were saying he would only sort it out with me when I admit im completely in the wrong. He said to my sis he was pissed off that I got with another guy a week ago.

He replied back to my text with ‘What r your texts about haha’ but I didn’t reply because I didn’t want to create another argument or take us back to square one.

What should I do now? I promiced myself not to text him when Im drunk. Iv been no contact and its made him miss me. He also got jealous when I was talking to a boy as a friend and when boys approached me. 3 hot blonde lasses came to speak to him and he turned his back to them. Also, he wasn’t really going for his ex girlfriend, he just liked some of their photos on facebook but he only went out with her for a month, and I was really drunk.

Also, I updated my facebook profile,
https://www.facebook.com/twinzoe

🙂 I keep uploading hot photos as well as cute ones ha, we don’t have each other on facebook though 🙁 but we don’t have each other blocked either 😀

Does he still miss me? Do we have a chance of sorting it? Advice please, he said he still likes me. Will he come round? What should I do?

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:17 am

Well, my initial thoughts are that if you are still in NC keep doing it until you finish it hahaha. Sweet photos BTW!
UnknownKitty

August 6, 2013 at 7:09 am

We have gone no contact for another 2 weeks. Im hoping I see him on saturday night 🙂 Do you think we still have a good chance at getting back together though? He agreed I was beautiful, said he still likes me, his mates were stalking me, he posted a love song, his mates pointed at me and tried to call me over, Il just try going over next time they call me over or I will try talking to him ha 🙂
admin

August 7, 2013 at 2:41 am

Sounds like a good chance to me. I wouldn’t get overly excited though. Just keep an calm demeanor.
UnknownKitty

August 5, 2013 at 11:43 am

The ex girlfriend im talking about by the way, he went out with her for 1 month like 4 years ago. With me, he won’t move on. Hes not trying to. Hes most probz slept around but he doesn’t kiss girls on night outs or try meet anyone. We just stare at each other. 🙂
UnknownKitty

August 5, 2013 at 11:28 am

Would just like to add my names zoe not lucy, 🙂 any advice would be appreciated 🙂

Maria

August 5, 2013 at 10:59 am

Hi Chris, my boyfriend broke up me last week because he was disappointed about the way I treated him that night. He said that he prefer to be being alone than having as girlfriend, the girl he had seen during that night. He added that I judged him and his way of his life and he haven’t aimed to be perfect but at least he try to improve himself. Things that I said are, he is greedy. That night also, inside the bank I’m waiting for my turn while he is sitting beside me then one lady came and asked her to sit beside me and I told to my boyfriend that his parent didn’t teach him to become a gentleman and she said she didn’t notice the lady. The next day, I went to his place to talk about the problem but he want me to go home and to come to his place because he don’t want to see me but I refused not to leave his place so he entered me inside his house. I spent my 2 days in his place. The first day, he didnt talk to me, pushing me to go home and my friend to me then the next day, he realized what he did so he became nice and talked to me in calm way. I did the household chores and serving his food during the 2 days I stayed. I asked him if what does it men that he is nice to me again and he said that he is still disapponted and his decision is still the same. As of this time, we still have our communication and meeting to each other to do some workout like running. He is also busy to finish his report to his company and he need to finish before the company will decide to continue his contract. We are now in Middle East and he prefer to work here that to go back to his country to work so he is eager to get the contract. Next few days he will be leaving going to his parents place in France and he mentioned me about his itinerary. Just last night, I asked him again if there’s still a chance for our relationship but he said he prefer to be alone at this time and still in his mind what I’ve said about him. We are now in 1 year and I don’t want to loose this relationship. He is so nice person and we spent our time most of the time and we went also to my country for vacation and planning some future if he will settle his new job. Please advise what should I do.

admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:15 am

The steps on this page can help you. Is there any in particular you are having trouble understanding?

Brittany

August 5, 2013 at 4:46 am

So my ex and I have been separated for awhile and have been off and on for like a year. We agree to start things over and then he suddenly changes his mind and then we don’t talk for about 3 months. After the no contact he decides to text me saying he wants to hang out with me. In between the 3 months he always comes back to me and says he had sex with someone. We have both agreed that we are the most comfortable with each other. Recently when we had a little break I had sex with someone but felt terrible about it and told him. He freaked out and said he will never trust me again but about a month ago on my birthday he took me out to eat and I spent the night with him, and he told me he wanted to try things again. After about two weeks he flipped out and called me bad names and started talking behind my back. I know he loves me and I love him but I don’t know what to do anymore because he doesn’t give me the chance to get over him.

admin

August 6, 2013 at 2:50 am

Sounds like a little insecurity in him huh?

Have you tried the stuff on this page?

Chris

August 5, 2013 at 3:39 am

So, I posted a while back about my ex who broke up with me a few months ago. He’s been seeing someone for three weeks, and while there are trouble signs, it sounds like this person is someone my ex is really into. Thank god this person is moving to Taiwan for the academic year, although I know that a long distance relationship is being considered.

My ex has “friend-zoned” me. Ironically, all of our problems regarding communication and trust seem to have gone away now that I’m his confidante. My birthday was a couple days ago and he sent me all these hearts and stuff and seemed miffed when I wasn’t available to eat with him on my birthday. Anyway, I don’t know if the 30 day rule is for him, because he’s kinda outta sight, outta mind. But I don’t want to be friend zoned either.

I know you’re going to say 30-day rule, but I’m not 100% sure.

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:48 am

Ok, would you like to be an experiment for me?

I am testing out a new theory. It’s kind of like NC but not exactly. I am calling it limited contact.

Basically, you are allowed 2 texts per week.

You can respond to an ex or start up a conversation. But that is it! You have to be careful how you use them.

Daniela Acharon

August 4, 2013 at 8:56 pm

Hi I’m in a bit of jam.

I met this African American male who is 28 years old & I’m 22. A Filipina. We met awhile back in November 2012 & had been good friends. It wasn’t until on April Fools when he told me that he liked & so did I. Everything was going smooth. We we’re so busy but we would text or call each other. We haven’t gone on a date, but we had an mutual understanding for each other. Somewhere along the line we started to argue & at times we would call it quits. It’s like back and forth. He tells me that I’m immature like a high school kid & I have way too many insecurities. Because we we’re constantly on & off I felt whatever I do or say he finds something wrong. I felt unappreciated so I hooked up with my guy friend, who happens to be his friend as well.

Later he found out from him what had happened & told me that he wants to leave me in the past. He doesn’t want me or to be his friend. He said I caused a lot of drama. I wanted to explain, but he never gave me the chance to hear me out. He said we have nothing to fix. Goodbye.

Will the method you provided will that work? Or do I need to adjust it according to my situation.

—-Danie

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:38 am

I think it can raise your chances.

Melissa

August 4, 2013 at 6:44 pm

Okay, so we were together for 4 years. I initiated the break up and he agreed he had doubts about us too, so it became a mutual situation. He moved out and I stayed in the apartment. Dhortly after I rebounded and had sex with someone else and told him about it because I felt guilty. This jump started his getting over me, while I postponed moving on from him. We haven’t actually had a no contact period, we have seen each other a couple times and he’s made it clear he wants to just work on himself and be friends. I’ve done all of the things you aren’t suppose to do, like cry in front of him asking for him back and even became a text terrorist for some time. He’s so betrayed by what I did I don’t know if it’s too late to start over with the process and do the no contact starting now. We have been broken up three months so far. I’ve cut the other guy out of my life to work on getting my ex back, but I think he enjoys his freedom and would find it hard to trust me again, thinking I may just leave him for someone else or something. I’ve learned love is more important than lust and sometimes honestly is too harsh. I really do think he is the love of my life. I’m trying to give him what he wants but the thought of him not giving me a second chance tears me up.

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:34 am

Do you think this page will work for you? I think NC will go well for you.

Summer

August 4, 2013 at 2:32 pm

My situation is a little weird. We were only together for 3 months and mostly long-distance. It seemed like he was way more into me in the beginning than I was and we had a lot of drama in the beginning of our relationship regarding my stalker-psycho-ex-boyfriend. We broke up over an argument over my ex but he said it was because he couldn’t see a future with me and that the whole long-distance thing wasn’t him (I was his first LD-girlfriend but he claimed that I was the best girlfriend he’d ever had). He said something along the lines of how we needed to break up for now but we’d still be friends and keep in touch and maybe get back together one day. He initiated contact everyday (via text, he wouldn’t call me or hang out with me at all) for the first few weeks, then we had an argument where he called me a drama queen, and then we didn’t text each other for a week. I texted him after that about something random and he replied right away and we texted a while. Then the next day, I texted him asking him ‘what’s up’ and he never replied and then I proceeded to send a bunch of texts about how I couldn’t believe that he was ignoring me and I couldn’t understand why he was acting so nonchalant towards me (which he also ignored). He also unfriended me on AIM when I tried to message him on there. I am unsure of what to do since we had a talk a few days after the breakup and he told me that unless I was in his life, the chances of us ever getting back together were very slim. Also, I feel like I’ve let go of a lot of pride the last 2 weeks when I constantly texted him a bunch just trying to get him to understand and asking him to just tell me what he wanted instead of ignoring me. I would have no problem leaving him alone if he’d just tell me what he wants, I don’t understand how he can just go from talking to me everyday to not even acknowledging my messages. I feel like it’s pathetic to keep trying with someone who obviously doesn’t seem to care about me anymore. He told me during our breakup that part of the reason he wanted to break up now was so he wouldn’t completely lose me and how he really cared about me and wanted to stay friends. So I am just having a hard time understanding how he can just turn that off so quickly. The last time he texted me back was over 2 weeks ago and the last time I texted him was a week ago. Isn’t it pointless now to even message him when I’ve tried to reach out so many times?

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:27 am

Your problem is that you tried way too many times to reach out to him. You have hurt your chances. However, the NC rule can be really helpful to you!
Summer

August 5, 2013 at 5:29 am

But do I let him contact me now? Because I feel like I’ve contacted him too many times and if he cared about me at all, he would’ve replied to me. And if he misses me, shouldn’t he the one reaching out to be now since the ball is kind of in his court?
It just bothers me since I felt like he knew me really well and when we were together, he didn’t strike me as someone who would just completely cut me out of his life without saying anything to me. It was his idea to be friends and when I said something along the lines of how we didn’t know long enough for him to really care about being friends with me, he told me that he really did and wanted me in his life. So I can’t really figure out what happened for him to completely go from talking to me one day to ignoring my existence the next.
admin

August 6, 2013 at 2:59 am

Well, if you get the feeling that you contacted him too much then stay strong in the no contact period, let some time go by for him to forget about how crazy you were with the contacting and then you can contact him (or he contacts you) whatever comes first.

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