The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Jasmine

March 4, 2018 at 5:53 pm

I just wanted to share this because I’ve been so happy 🙂

A little over am month ago my boyfriend broke up with me. He gave me the excuse of “it’s not you, it me.” I was devastated and cried all day everyday. I stayed in bed and even skipped a majority of my classes. I spent weeks upon weeks calling him, texting him, and begging for him to be with me. I also spent a countless amount of money and time on “get ex back sites” and books. I went into no contact. Throughout the time, I didn’t really do much besides try to focus more on school and force myself to stop crying and start eating again. Slowly but surely I stopped having those urges to contact my ex and started focusing on myself more. The crying stopped and I finally started to eat again and get out the house. Now fast forward a month later and I’m happy again. I’m meeting and talking to new people. My ex has called, texted, and facetimed me several times throughout the no contact. The no-contact rule actually helped me a lot. It helped me realize I don’t want my ex back anymore. Not even the slightest.
So the moral of the story before you spend another minute crying over a guy that dumped you or you spend another penny on trying to get him back, do the no contact rule for a few weeks and see if you still even want your ex back. The guy that I thought I wouldn’t be able to live without and cried about every night all of sudden became on no interest to me.

Everything gets better with time and the person who seemed to matter so much one minute, won’t matter in a month. And if they still do, then go for it!
Tash

March 2, 2018 at 9:13 am

Amor I guess everything is over because yesterday I was so emotional and was ranting to my cousin so one of my cousins text him saying if he could provide us with some answers and closure why he isn’t speaking to me. He hasn’t responded. I don’t know what to do as this was my last contact and I’ve deleted insta now as that doesn’t seem to be working. Is there any hope for me now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2018 at 3:56 pm

Ig isn’t going to work by itself
It’s support to other things you are doing and it’s a great help over time.. You have to let him initiate but set a limit on until when you would wait before you move on..

Tash

March 1, 2018 at 3:25 pm

How would I initiate again after a week? With a first contact text? I feel like I’m going to go crazy. I have anxiety now. I don’t know why I did that. I feel like as though me changing my display pics or posting on insta doesn’t seem to be working.
Tash

March 1, 2018 at 3:08 pm

But amor I text him saying: I accidentally called you this morning. Truly sorry and hope you’re well. What do I do? I’ve seen him online but I don’t know if he has switched read recipients off but is this it for me now because I guess I’ve still been ignored. Help pls.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2018 at 3:14 pm

That means you broke it.. Either you let him initiate or you initiate after a week.

Annie

March 1, 2018 at 1:53 pm

Hi Amor,

I’m back with a question. Yesterday I had a very long and honest conversation on the phone with my ex about everything. However, he told that his intentions with the new girl are pure and he don’t know how things are going to evolve with her, but he finds immoral to give her up right now and give us another chance. Also said that he wants us to keep in touch as friends and from time to time to talk, but after we ended the conversation he called me and said he realized is a bad idea, because if we will se each other and even talk as friends he feels he can’t get over the break up(ironic because an hour ago he told me he is fine with us acting friendly and don’t affect him)
In the end we decided that for a indefinite period of time we will totally cut off the contact. My question is, I know him and I know that is real he will feel guilty to give me chance while he already made a decision about that girl. If things between them won’t end he won’t let me closer to him. What do you think? After a month should I contact him even if he will still be with that girl?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2018 at 3:13 pm

Hi Annie,

That depends on your standards. We can’t answer that for you because it depends on whether you think you still want him if he’s still with her

Tash

March 1, 2018 at 7:03 am

Hi amor I need your help. I’m doing my last 45 days of no contact and today I was on WhatsApp and I accidentally called my ex after 37 days of nc! What do I do? Has my nc broken again? Oh I’m so disappointed. It was early morning. So he will think I actually called him but I cancelled it within the one ring.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2018 at 2:36 pm

No..you can continue the count. Just don’t do it again.

Rim

March 1, 2018 at 1:18 am

Hi

My bf broke up with me a month ago bcoz I was asking for a serious relationship and he said he can’t take that his woman has higher social status than him. I accepted his decision and he actually the one who cried that night.
We still loved each other dearly when we broke up.

So, after almost a month not seeing each other with almost no contact at all, we finnally met.
It was awkward… We can’t see each other in the eyes. We don’t know what to say…

Then, things went terribly ungly. We, somehow end up fighting over smallest matters that our friends don’t understand why we suddenly become hostile.

I decided to apologize first but he was still supermad and refused to talk.
However two days later it was him who initiate the conversation and he was super nice.

This is not the end though. When I try to stay friendly he has this roller coaster mood. One day he was nice, the next day he looked mad, then he was nice again, then mad again…

I seriously have no idea what to do or what inside his mind.
I love him, and I know he still loves me too… And I do wish to spend the rest of my life with him coz he’s such a great guy with lots of potential. And I want to be his support system (he had welcomed me once when he refused all other people even his family) in his life.

In this kind of situation what should I do?
Thank in advance

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2018 at 2:34 pm

Hi Rim,

Tell him being friends is not working right now and thank him for everything.. Dont mention about nc to him..restart it and do full days. Be active in improving yourself and in posting and then take it slow in rebuilding rapport after nc.

Annie

February 28, 2018 at 5:06 pm

Hi Chris,

Long story-short, we’ve been together for 1 year and a half and 2 months ago we broke up.
Since then, everytime I tried to speak with him he never avoided me. Almost two weeks ago we meet face to face for the first time after the break up( it was also the only time I told him to meet me). Even if he don’t mind speaking to me when I contact him, he told that is hard for him to tell me what he is feeling and to talk about what happened between us, that is hard for him to feel natural around me and preffer to keep the distance so he can move on. I also heard that he is almost dating a new girl. What do you think? Should I try the no contact rule?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2018 at 11:42 am

Hi Annie,

Yes, you should.

Jasmijn

February 27, 2018 at 9:24 am

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago by deciding to go on a break because he said he needed space and time to think. We were together for almost 7 months and everything was great until he sat me down and told me that. I tried giving him space (even though we live together in student housing). After a week we spoke again and he said he made a mistake and if we could just forget everything. He wanted sex and I said ok but only if he wasn’t going to change his mind again and he said he wouldn’t. The next day he told me he wasn’t sure anymore. A few days later the exact same thing happened.

I told him we should just break up for real and not date or anything in the meantime and he agreed wholeheartedly which broke my heart. He told me he is not having the same feelings for me he had in the beginning. Tune in to a few days ago when we had sex again a few times as in just sex (I knew what I was getting into). He spend the night in my room and in the morning we had sex again. Later that day (yesterday) he told me he wanted to wait with having sex again for a few days because it felt a lot like getting into another relationship again and he is saying that’s not what he wants (not with me or with anyone because he has adhd and depression and feels like he doesn’t have the space in his head/heart for it). I felt very rejected even though I acted like it didn’t matter to me.

Next monday I am moving out. Should I just implement NC now or start when I moved out. The way he is acting now it just feels like he won’t miss me at all if I go NC and he probably won’t text me since he isn’t a texter. But then again he is used to seeing me everyday since we live in the same house and me being gone is going to be a big difference for both of us. I want to take the time to work on myself and I need the NC period to do that. It just feels like he doesn’t care at all.

What is your take in all of this? I would love some more insight than just fragments of my imagination.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:14 pm

Hi Jasmijn,

Staying in contact is worse.. Do nc for yourself, not for him and don’t sleep with him again. check this one:
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

Stella

February 25, 2018 at 5:47 pm

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years! it got to a Time that he never pick my calls non reply my message and it’s hurt me when he do that. some time when he picks and I asked him a question he will tell me to answer them myself or tell me that if am not happy with the way he behaves I should back off.
he keeps treating me like that all the time and I Love him too much to leave him. I decided to do something to hurt him, I when n took his laptop to my house! I wanted him to call me but he never did. to make it short, he said me to take his laptop back which I did. when I give his laptop back but we had a big fight and he told me that it was over between us. he blocked me everywhere.
I been telling him that am sorry but he won’t talk to me and I want my relationship back. please what should I do to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:52 pm

HI Stella,

check this one:
Why Do Men Fall Out Of Love With You

Gaby

February 13, 2018 at 3:34 pm

Been off and on with a guy for seven years. In which he continuously left me for other women. I loved him and I love him still. I saw who he could potentially be. Even though he was controlling of who I was friends with and my social accounts. I became that way with him too. This past year we decided to give it one “last” try (always say that). Anyway he was the man I always knew he could be but I couldn’t help but get jealous and a little hurtful when he’d go out and leave me hanging. So he left me saying he couldn’t waste his time anymore. I’ve begged I’ve analyzed I’ve bombarded him and he’s trying to be nice for the most part. He now wants to have sex and be friends. I want more but feel I’ve ruined my chances by making myself look pathetic and desperate for a month straight. Where do I go from here?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 18, 2018 at 10:43 am

Hi Gaby,

Check this one:
EBR 056: My Ex Boyfriend Cheated On Me Multiple Times… What Do I Do?

Caitlin

February 12, 2018 at 6:20 am

my partner of 4 years and I have split up 3 months ago due to my mistakes not chating or anything like that, he already started hanging out doing dinner and whatever else with this girl even takes her out in public with no care, between these 3 months it has been pretty horrible for both of us , we do have a child so we cant avoid the seeing each other at least once a week, I am absouletly shattered that he could move on so fast. Is that fast ? is that counted as a rebound or could it be more serious, he seems happy and not fazed by what I am doing or who I am with, Im not even sure if he has missed me at all, I love him dearly and this is killing me I have chased and chased for the last 12 weeks until recently when I decided to stop because I look stupid and he has not changed his mind obvisousily , will I ever get him back, is he just hiding his real feelings ? he is up and down with me always but doesn’t really show much emotion at all when he is around, when I am in the gym and he is there I do notice him glance over me a few times but acts like his is not. I do not get along with his mother and I feel she would be adding to fire , as they live in same house. its so hard we have split up before and he did the same thing starting seeing this chick etc after 2 months and then im not sure I think I started hanging with guys and he come back and said he realized he loved me that was 3 years ago, I just feel like it could be different this time, but I am hoping not because if he loved me the way I love him and feel then the love and feelings wont go away regardless of the hurt or another person being involved , would he still miss me would he still think about me even though he is acting like he doesn’t care at all? does he still check up on me ? he doesn’t respond when I ask about the girl at all but Ive stopped sending messages now, he only messages back when it is regarding our son or if he has a issue with something , he has me blocked on social media but would he be unblocking me to check on me ? we still slept together up until 6 weeks ago and then I knocked him back once and since then I feel like that is when he has moved on not long after . Have I lost him ? or is there still a chance

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2018 at 6:46 pm

Hi Caitlin,

Check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

Tash

February 1, 2018 at 11:21 pm

So he changed his display pic on WhatsApp to a place we went to together last year. It’s the same scenery picture we took together. Does it mean anything? Or should I not read into it too much?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 11:55 am

If it’s just one pic, don’t read into too much..

Eve

January 31, 2018 at 12:13 pm

Hi Amor!

He apologized by himself already. I am sent by an organization to the academy for a week to write an article about it. We didn’t talk for two weeks now and I don’t know if I should let him know, that he will see me in April at the academy, in August at an international event and from September at the university as I was accepted to his uni. It would be a bit shocking for him to tell him all these, when he assumed that he will never see me again after the breakup. What should I do?

Thank you for your quick answer!
Eve 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2018 at 6:13 pm

Don’t tell him now.. It would be better if you’re already there so that it doesn’t look like you’re expecting him to be excited or to meet with you.

Tash

January 30, 2018 at 12:38 pm

How long show I do no contact for now? Obv I haven’t spoken to him since last week however his parents came over to see my family due a death in the family, I was happened to be there. Does that mean no contact is broke again? I actually don’t have any hope left anymore. This guy is just too heartless

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2018 at 5:15 pm

It doesn’t break it but I think you should do at least 45 days or move on..

Eve

January 28, 2018 at 11:32 am

Hi EBR team!

My first post was on 21 December, when I was rebuilding connection with my ex and needed some advice. We talked, even videochated as we were in a long distance relationship and since then we were fine, having small talks, snapping and starting to have longer conversations. There were moments when he acted cold or when I needed to sustain the conversation, which made me really frustrated.

However, in January he left to an academy. On his first week there, we had small talks, like we exchanged 2-3 sentences about the academy. I assumed that he is replying so slow and short because he has some stuff to do or something, so I waited a couple of days, till weekend, believing, maybe he will have more time for me. He didn’t… He is barely answering me even if I am writing to him each 2nd or 3rd day.

The interesting thing is, that on Snapchat everything was fine, so I started to rebuild connection and attraction there. I tried several times the methodes described in the article. Recently he sent me a snap of a dish made by him, so as an answer I wrote him: “It looks really nice. I almost have forgotten how much you love to cook.” After a few minutes he told me: “You are doing that again.” I knew that perhaps he is reffering to my remark, as I told him before things like “oh, I remember how tasty that dish was on our first date, once again, what was the secret ingredient?” and such things. However, I asked him to clarify what he is reffering to. After an hour he snapped me the following: “I don’t remember what I wrote.”

I know that getting him back is a long and sometimes painful process. I made some serious changes in my life and a part of those changes were acknowledged by him, he even confirmed me, that I look more refreshed and happier. In one of our conversation he even apologized because of the breakup. But now I feel like, he being at the academy, he started a new life which he won’t share with me at all.

I will go to the academy in April, however, I haven’t told him about it. My plan would be to start a new NC period till April and in the meantime to work again on myself, maybe to post some nice, happy pics when travelling (just as I did before), just being an even better verison of the better me. I know that he is not expecting to see me ever again as he lives in Denmark and I on the other side of Europe, so when arriving at the academy it will be a huge shocking surprise for him. I think this would not just surprise him but also trigger some old memories and perhaps, he will notice each little change on me.

I would like to ask you some clear questions, that are bugging me:
1. What makes men to apologize for breaking up?
2. Is it a good idea to do another NC till April or it would be better to somehow continue working on building raport, even if he acts like an ice-prince?
3. Should I let him know, that I am going to the academy or can I keep it a secret?
4. Is there a chance to get him back if I would stop messaging and sending snaps?
5. We were in long-distance relationship. When breaking up I don’t think he thought that he will see me again…. Meeting him face-to-face would make it possible that his feelings would change?

I am looking forward to your reply and thank you very much in advance!
Eve 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2018 at 12:53 am

Hi Eve,

Apologies, depend on the person if he wants to.. We can’t really say you can make another person apologize to you. Why are you going to the academy?

M

January 27, 2018 at 2:25 pm

Hi Chris.

I don’t know if my situation is worth turning to. If it can be saved or if I should even begin to understand how to get my ex back.

He moved on 5 times and came back after every girl. He never could commit to me 100% and then finally he gave up on me and ran to the next girl really fast even put a ring on her finger, he told me it wasn’t what I thought it was. They were on a break now and he and I got to talking again and I went over and we had sex. I know this was a mistake, it ruined any and all chances I could’ve had. He messaged me saying he regrets it because he can’t love me the way I love him and he knows he has destroyed me, he knows I’ll find someone much better than him. He is moving after this girl to try and save their relationship after telling me if things didn’t work out between them he knows who he wants he later on told me he didn’t know because a lot is happening and their relationship may be saved. He sent me that message of he regrets sleeping with me and this was after I asked if he’s moving to fix things with her.

I’ve been going through this relationship on and off for 2 years now. We had goals, we were in love and planning a future together then he just leaves. He seems serious about this girl and I know he could never put a ring on my finger… I honestly don’t know what to do I told him to enjoy his life. He no longer loves me, do I leave this? Do I let go?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2018 at 11:40 pm

Hi M,

check this one:
Making An Ex Commit When He Doesn’t Want To

Tash

January 25, 2018 at 12:40 pm

Please help. On Tuesday i texted him a long text just apologising for everything. My cousin called him twice and he never called her back. He’s ignoring me so bad but I can see him online on WhatsApp. Why is he doing this? And what shall I do now? When will he see me in a positive light? Will he ever. Please help. I have tried the nc twice already, but not fully. Broke the first one after 26 days and broke the second one after 33 days. I guess I have no hope now.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2018 at 9:32 pm

stop apologizing and chasing and don’t involve others too, that just makes him more annoyed. If you’re going to do a last nc, stick to it.

Heidi Johnson

January 22, 2018 at 4:50 pm

HELP!
My boyfriend broke up with after 5 1/2 months of dating. We met on a dating site and we hit it off immediately. We had amazing dates and talks. We had a powerful connection immediately. I met his dad he met my dad. He lives 45 minutes away from me but we still saw each other every 10 days or so, sometimes more frequent. He wanted to be exclusive after date 3. We talked about taking trips in the future and other plans. We did have the where is this going talk and it seemed we were on the same page. His job was taking a lot out of him and he was definitely stressed. I pulled back a little to not give him any pressure. His Good morning texts and Goodnight texts were becoming less. Then he didn’t text or call for 3 days. He seemed very distant the last couple of weeks. I ended up texting him about why he wont talk to me and whats going on. He then called the next morning and broke up with me. He said he is still grieving his divorce ( from a year ago) and feels fear. He started counseling and he said they talk about me. He loves and fears me. He needed time to figure things out but he ended it, no maybe’s or well see.
So we had no contact for for about a month. We still remained friends on Facebook, but I went “On a break” so his posts didn’t show up.
Well Its been 3 months. I did reach out with a text to wish him Happy Holidays. He responded with the same. He then has been liking my Facebook posts and even commented. I feel he wants to be in contact with me.
I’m feeling he may be better now and I really want to reach out to him.
Is it appropriate to text him to grab coffee or something sometime?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2018 at 2:15 am

Hi Heidi,

Build rapport first.. If you’re texting, next stage is calls before meet ups

Tash

January 18, 2018 at 11:03 am

What would you suggest for me now? I bombarded him with texts and calls yesterday and then this morning I text him apologising for what he said, and I also said I wouldn’t contact him again. It’s been two and a half months since he contacted me. I’m so depressed. How do I go about this now? I think he might have found someone new.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 20, 2018 at 1:23 am

You have a small chance because you’ve already done two nc right? And you still ended up being emotional and now apologizing to him.. Either move on or really stick to genuinely changing your life for the better for yourself, not for him before trying to rebuild rapport..

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