The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Tash

January 17, 2018 at 12:06 pm

I’ve broke the no contact after 33 days. Do I have any hope or that’s it now. I got no response too.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2018 at 6:33 am

You’re overthinking it.. The nc rule is for you to focus in yourself, so that when you initiate and try to rebuild rapport, you’ll be thinking rationally instead of being emotional. We only recommend up to three tries after nc.. after that if it doesn’t go well, that means it would be better to move on.

Tash

January 16, 2018 at 1:50 pm

I’m on day 31 of no contact. You told me to do 45 day no contact. I was on holiday: I’m back now and I feel extra worse, the worst ever. I miss him so much but I feel he’s still bitter and the no contact work. Can you please help? Obv after 45 days I have to do the text message but how do I do it if I’ve already sent a no contact message last month after 26 days of no contact? What do I say? And what if he doesn’t reply. Please help. Why am I feeling emotional worse? And he hasn’t even contacted me
help

January 14, 2018 at 8:36 pm

Im a 35 female and was dating a 36 Year guy for three months. We met through a dating app. We had previously dated 2 years ago for a few months but things fizzled out. He lives an hour and a half away from me, We were in contact daily via texts and saw each other approx once every 7-10 days.

During a date I asked him if he felt ready to come off the dating app, be exclusive and see where things would go he said yes.

The next day he texted saying he was just out of a long term relationship with a girl he planned to marry.
He broke it off with her as she was not treating him right and he wasn’t ready for a full on relationship right away.

Many texts went back and forth he stated he was in a bad place he is drinking too much and angry at his ex. he said his heart wasn’t in it with me. He asked me to give him time, he said he wanted me to meet the real him and not the angry guy he is now. He wants to bring me on romantic weekends away and surprise dates when he gets his head straight. He stated he was only dating me and had no interest in dating sites. He asked me to give him time stating he really liked me. I asked him to delete any naughty texts etc we sent each other he said he was sad deleting them and would miss spending time with me. I did did not reply two hours later he texted again asking me to give him time and said please don’t hate me. I told him to sort his head out and id look forward to meeting the real him but told him not to take too long. He said he wouldn’t as he really liked me. All his messages were signed off with an x.

The next day i was quite confused and needed answers I texted and asked could we meet and talk face to face or via phone. He stated he was not ready to talk and needed time. I texted and said thanks I now know where I stand and wished him the best of luck in the future. He said thanks and he would be back to his normal self soon.

I am so confused and do not know where to go from here.
Am i just the rebound girl?
Does he really want me?
Is there anyway of getting him back?

I am going out in his home town in a few weeks (3 weeks after the last contact).
Should i contact him letting him know i am there??

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 15, 2018 at 2:35 pm

Hi,

It does look like you’re the rebound.. If you’re going to do nc rule, don’t tell him when you’re in his town

Marie

January 8, 2018 at 12:21 pm

Hi EBR Team,
I just saw him at the mall. i froze and my eyes became teary. i didnt know what to do. i saw him looked at me for a long time. i felt i wasnt casual or professional. and im currently on my 14th day of the NC rule and have no plans of breaking it.what should i do if we ever bump in a mall during and after the NC rule?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 8:29 pm

avoid being emotional.. just look away or if he approaches you, be civil but end the convo asap, don’t talk about feelings or relationships and say goodbye politely right away.. If he’s the one who started talking to you about feelings, listen and tell him you understand and thank him for being honest and then politely say goodbye.. just be indifferent and polite.

Ida

January 3, 2018 at 10:57 am

Hey Chris, I did the NC it worked out so well, he texted me over and over again and I finally agreed to meet. Our first date went so fast, he said he missed me so much but after two hours he started to say that he does not know what he wants, I told him we just take it easy and see were everything goes. He agreed we went on more dates, and it was an amazing time, and then we had sex bc I thought we are back together bc he even kissed me in front of our friends and acted like we were together again. I never brought up the hole talk about the relationship but after the last date I was ill and did not saw him for a few days he then called me to check if I was alright and suddenly started again that he does not know what he wants and how broken our relationship is now and that I always loved him more. But he said this in such an emotional and angry voice, I could not really believe him. I just said okey if you think so and hung up. We had no contact since than ( it has been one month), I have not seen him. I notice he stalkes my instagram storys eventhough he unfollwed me… what should I do? Oh and we have been together for 2 years and the realtionship was really great!

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 9:19 pm

Hi Ida,
that means you need to restart nc..
check this one:
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

Marie

January 2, 2018 at 11:27 pm

Hi EBR team,
Thats a really hard question to answer. we started as close friends in our pre med course and the we became a couple after pre med course before med school started. so i know him as a friend but there are some of him i dont know as a lover that much because were just 1 yr and 3 mos when we broke up. the important thing i knew about him being in a relationship is that he is easily gets tired or gets fed up if his circumstances are not reach. what he did to he, he also did to his 3 mos ex gf before me but i can say is hopefully after the NC he will regret being not with me. so what can you say about it? if they say my decision is final? is it really final? what if i gave him a one yr for him to get back together or for us to fix our relationship and he saying “ok” what does it mean?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 6:57 pm

1 year is too long..it’s like you’re letting him string you along. You have to remind yourself what your standards and priorities are because we get what we allow.

Marie

January 1, 2018 at 3:03 am

Hi EBR team, do you think even if his reason on why he broke up with me is that he had fallen out of love / he does like me being a person but he dislike my attitude. Will i ever get him back? I still got that feeling he still loves me. But i dont want put false hope on myself. What should i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 2, 2018 at 6:34 pm

Dont hope for what’s left but ask yourself, if he’s going to see and talk to you after nc, would he regret not being with you?

Rainy

December 30, 2017 at 4:00 am

Hi there, me and my bf was together for about 5 months both 20 yrs old live together, and before he decided to cut it off again, we had a fight and we broke up, 4 days after I went to find him and we got back together. After 5 days, he decided to cut it off cause he said he was soft hearted and he doesnt like me that much anymore, he doesnt feel like spending time on me and he is tired and doesnt want a relationship. So after few days, the night before he going home, I went to find him again and he stood still of his decision. His friend said he scared that he will be soft hearted again so he asked me to leave.The next day when he leave, we hugged each other and I can feel that there are still feelings between us, and he asked me to take care of myself. After that we do text on and off and sometimes continously, mostly its me finding topics, and 2 days ago I posted a conversation on snapchat, its me saying Happy Birthday to my previous ex, and he deleted our pics on insta and I called him and it goes to voicemail. So I texted him and asked him not to think too much and alot more of our relationship, and he replied me he didnt think so much and he thought its another friend of mine. and he said we are over, forget about it, I dont love anymore you are lying to yourself. and he said he knows that if we continue like this I will get hurt so he doesnt want me to think that he still have feelings for me anymore, after that he doesnt reply to my message anymore even I asked him something which he necessary to ans. I did asked his friend what is he thinking and he said he is tired and he thinks that I doesnt have an aim in my life, and if I want to go out with him should tell him earlier. Do you think that he still have feelings for me? Do you think he will come back? and what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 9:09 pm

Hi Rainy,

he probably still has feelings left for you.. are you going to do the no contact rule?

Rainy

December 29, 2017 at 3:40 pm

My ex bf broke up with me again. Before that, we had a fight and I apologized to him at that night and everything was okay. But the next day he decided to cut it off and I begged him and he still doesnt want it after 4 days of NC I went to find him and we got back together for 5 days and he decided to cut it off again. He said he was soft hearted when we got back together, he is tired of being in a relationship and he doesnt like me that much anymore and he couldnt treat me as well as before and we wouldnt last for long so he said its unfair to me and its better to cut it off before it get worse. After few days I went to find him again and he stood still of his decision and asked me to leave and he told his friend that he asked me to leave because he scared he will be soft heart again. The next day when he is leaving back to his home, we hugged each other and I can feel that there is still feelings there and he asked me to take care of myself. So he texted me about he bought the bus ticket and the schedule and we texted until he reached. After that we texted on and off basically its me finding topics to talk to him and he would reply me but seldom, whenever I said im sick he would care about me. and one night I realized he deleted our pics on insta and remove his profile picture which was us, I called him but it went to voicemail, so I texted him again about us, and he replied me the next morning sayin that we are done, just forget about it. and he said he knows that if we continue to be like this and I will get hurt so he didnt want to give me false hope anymore. and he said he doesnt love anymore dont lie to myself. and I texted him again asking about his flight cause he is coming back soon and we will meet cause he left his car with me. Do you think that he really doesnt love me anymore? Do you think it is possible that we will get back together? and what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 9:10 pm

Hi Rainy,

he probably still has feelings left for you.. are you going to do the no contact rule?

Marie

December 28, 2017 at 7:32 am

Hi EBR team, what advice would you have for me for my current situation?
im starting my 30 day NC. and its been 4 days. i it hate when memories keep on rushing to my head.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 7:14 pm

check this one:
EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant

Marie

December 26, 2017 at 3:53 am

this is still marie, i forgot to add that i gave him an ultimatum 1 yr to try and think . and if he wishes to come back ill give him a year.
ps he doesnt had a long term relationship his relationship would last 1-9mos. and im the longest relationship he had

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 10:19 pm

Hi Marie,

Yes, you will initiate..Check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

Marie

December 26, 2017 at 3:48 am

Hi there, me and my 1yr and 3 mos boyfriend broke up recently like last Dec 19. We had issues but the main point was he had fallen out of love because he doesnt know how to open up our problem that needs to be solve. so for two mos he hid it from me until our relationship faded away. Before the break up we were fine and very happy until one night we had a fight, he just exploded and felt that way.
i started the no contact rule after the break up until on the 4th day (Christmas Eve) i just cant contain my self so i texted him, and we talked (he called) and i explained and made him realize if he just had opened up or just know how to communicate we could have fixed it. and the we could still fix the problem. but he told me that “that was his decision and he wouldnt change it”.
i can still feel that he still love me and that there something holding him back.
until i read your blog. i want him back because this break up was so fast or was in a rush that we could have talked it but he doesnt want to. we were really both happy and inlove. and we had this “doctor” dream together.
i dont know how to start this recovery thing. if after the 30 day rule will i be the one to text first or will i wait for him? help please
Eve

December 21, 2017 at 2:28 pm

Hi EBR Team,

I had a long distance relationship, which ended because my boyfriend wanted to be alone. He had many bad relationships with really short breaks between them. We have been together for almost a year, everything was great, he always told me that I make him happy, till the moment we broke up. When saying goodbye he asked me to write him, because he doesn’t want to loose me because he has feelings for me, even if he doesn’t feel right to tell me, that he loves me…

A few weeks ago I have contacted him, as I have made NC and I felt prepared. We had small talks and even flirted a bit. Our last conversation which went pretty well, we laughed and talked about some interesting subjects too….. We talked for like 3 hours and a bit. The conversation ended in a “cliff hanger”. I was really happy about it till I got a text from him saying that he is really happy that we talked and he would like to do that again as he had fun and he saw that I have changed and he doesn’t want to loose me as a friend. Ouch, I think I have might entered the friend zone… How I got out of that? We were in long distance relationship and in January he will leave to an academy which will last for 6 months.

Lucky me, due to my project, I will be sent to that academy for a week in 2 months to write an article about it. How could I get out of being a friend till I got to the academy? Is there any chance for that? We have even flirted in a very obvious way… I start to be confused now but I want to make this work since I have begun it, especially that from September there is a huge chance that we will be at the same university, meaning that if we start a new relationship, it wouldn’t be a long distance relationship anymore.

I really love him and I would like him back. Would you please give me an advice?

Many thanks,
Eve

U.I.: He’s grandparent were in the same situation as we did, being from different countries and having a long distance relationship. They have broken up twice till they have got back together…

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 25, 2017 at 8:37 pm

Hi eve,

It’s too early to say you’re friendzoned. Just keep building rapport and attraction until you go to his academy

Linet Odunga

December 19, 2017 at 10:12 am

Hello Amor
My boyfriend broke up with me a weak ago,I was really devastating. He liked me since primary and now that we were in university he decided to tell me. At first I was reluctant coz I was just from a relationship that I ended. He didn’t ask me to be his girlfriend but to get to know each other and let nature take its course. We grew closer and he became my boyfriend and we were also best friends. He introduced me to his parents and everything was just going well. We would have small fights but came up with solutions and that made our love really strong. We have dated for a year but during the end of November this year I felt it deep in my gut something was wrong. Then on 10 of December a day after his birthday he said he wanted us to break up and be friends. I went to his place and what he said at that time is that he does want a relationship though he still really loves me. His mind was so set and it was really heart breaking. Do you think I can win him back

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 9:06 pm

Hi Linet,

Have you tried our quiz? Why not do the no contact rule first?

Tash

December 15, 2017 at 11:17 pm

Hi amor thanks for the reply. Basically my birthday is next week. He may text me or he may not. What do I do if he does text and what do I do if he doesn’t text me? Because you said I should do 45 days no contact.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 19, 2017 at 6:47 pm

you can’t reply to him if he texts you.. if he doesn’t, it doesn’t matter because you should be focused in your own activities..

Tash

December 14, 2017 at 8:59 am

Amor please give me your advice about what I should do now. I feel so helpless. I’m going away next week on holiday with my Parents for two weeks and will be returning early January. He knew about this. Because I broke the no contact after 24 days, what do you recommend I should do now? Because you said it’s less effective if I keep on doing it. What shall I do about my profile pic on WhatsApp? What shall I put it to now. Please help. I have a fear that he will forget me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 15, 2017 at 4:06 pm

that means you have to do one last nc of at least 45 days.. and then slowly rebuild rapport after it while continuing improving yourself and being active in posting.. if it doesn’t work, that means you have to move on.

Tash

December 13, 2017 at 8:10 am

Hi amor it’s tash again. So I broke no contact after 24days with a first contact message and I got no response. I don’t know what to do now, anyway one of his friends messaged me via Instagram yesterday, they hardly speak but I feel as though I shouldn’t talk to his mate that much? Please give me advice. There’s not much info on no replies from ex. Do I have to start no contact again? Plus I’m going away on holiday next week too. He knows that too

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 13, 2017 at 3:52 pm

The more you restart nc, the less it can help you overtime..especially if you keep breaking because you’re rushing things out of desperation..check this one:
EBR 041: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Doesn’t Respond To You

Tash

December 11, 2017 at 11:22 pm

Hi amor. I’m on 23rd day of no contact. I feel like my ex is doing no contact on me, I just feel very negative about it. He still doesn’t view my snaps. Why is he going out of his way to do this?! What else do I do now. My 30 day no contact will be over next week but I feel like it just won’t work on him.
Kates

December 10, 2017 at 6:29 am

My boyfriend and I broke up after a 3 year relationship. He was away for 6 months of it working oversees and traveling. I think trying to find himself a little bit. I visit him there for a month and we did some backpacking and had an amazing time together. When he finally got home I was going through a hard time where I was struggling with a bit of depression (bit of a family history). I never talked to him about it because I was in complete denial about what was really going on. I needed a reason to be miserable so I always made it seem as though he was the reason I was miserable, I even had myself partially convinced. I started forcing things and always giving him a hard time when he couldn’t be around. He genuinely was trying to point thinks out and do things that would normally make me happy but I couldn’t see it cause I would just find another reason to be miserable. I made it seem as though he could never keep me happy so I think he just couldn’t do it anymore, don’t blame him. As much as this break up hurt I have learned a lot in the last 6 weeks, reflected, and understood what went wrong as well as figured out what really made me happy. I successfully completed no contact and when I have contacted him I’ve gotten neutral to positive responses since then. Although he ignored my last text. He has been very active on social media lately and he was never like that before. I’ve mentioned I’d like to catch up sometime and he seemed good about it once things slow done on the farm. I know his friends are really trying to get him to move on. Should I explain what was really going on the last while of our relationship because it was something he really should have known about it but I was to in denial to accept what was going on. Is it okay to text about meeting up after exams? I would really like to work things out (it’s why I’m on this site haha) but really stuck with what things to say and what not to say because I truly think he ended things because he felt he wasn’t giving me what I needed, and would eventually leave him. Which was not true and I can see that now. Overal should I tell him what was really going on and discuss the depression part now that I’ve worked on myself and am in a way better state?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 4:22 am

Hi Kates,

Honestly, that would just sound like you’re making an excuse.. If you really changed, your actions should show it.. and don’t rush things when you’re still trying to rebuild rapport.

Tash

November 30, 2017 at 11:28 pm

Amor after finding out that his sister blocked me on WhatsApp, I got my sister and cousin to also block my ex. I think he kind of clicked on as soon as because he blocked my cousin. But obviously I can see as he hasn’t blocked me. Was it my mistake to have told them to block my ex? I have this feeling that he may be angry with me. Does that mean my no contact may not work. HELP pls.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 3, 2017 at 3:19 pm

Nope.. Because now it looks like you are stalking his and his sisters’ social media accounts, and now you’re trying to get back at him by doing the same because you were hurt… Have them unblock him but don’t say aything to him…. Extend to 45 days and go back to being more active in your life…

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