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649 thoughts on “This Is How You Should Contact Your Ex Boyfriend”

  1. Freddie

    October 1, 2013 at 4:56 am

    Please help
    I did the no contact for 6 weeks
    I had the odd email from him and I ignored them
    Then last week I had loads of emails off him one saying was I really really happy? Then I had one saying he didn’t want to be a pest and he was going to delegate my details. I responded to this saying come and get me( I wish I hadn’t) he replied he couldn’t on a course. Another saying he was trying to make it work with his partner but constantly thought of me . He constantly thought of me and it was torture .
    The next day loads more came through asking to be my friend I replied no I wanted more and how would his girlfriend feel if he knew what he had sent ?
    The following day I told him I was catching up with his best friend ex wife . We constantly chat and he turned nasty on me saying .. Don’t cause me trouble or I won’t be happy
    The next email I received was I love her not you
    The next one said that he wished he hadn’t contacted me only for friendship and he was sorry
    I bombarded him with emails as yet again he’s hurt me. I love him he knows it
    So I turned up on his doorstep knocked on door .. He came to the door I couldn’t look at him and walked away
    I emailed him later saying it was lovely to get a glimpse of you I love you
    I’ve heard nothing else
    What should I do … ? I hadn’t seen him since beginning of May when he ended it with me I was devisated then .
    I think he was angry that I saw he’s friends wife but I’m honest and would only would of got back to him ( his friend and his new girlfriend and Steve my ex and his girlfriend are the perfect foursome apparently)
    I’m just gutted yet again
    What should I do ?

    1. admin

      October 2, 2013 at 12:05 am

      Have you tried texting?

  2. Lace

    September 26, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    My exboyfriend broke up with me coming up on six weeks this Saturday (sad I know how much time has passed). We dated for a year and a half and things were good – or so I thought. He said he had doubts about being in it for the long haul and thought if he stayed in it he’d be doing it half heartily. We were in contact for about a week after he dumped me – he told me I was the most important person in his life and he wanted me in his life. I told him his messages were confusing and I could never heal that way so he had to please not contact me again. He hasn’t. I miss him so much every day. I want him to miss me which obviously he isn’t. Do you have any advice at all? What can I do to win him back?

    1. admin

      September 27, 2013 at 5:48 am

      How long have you guys been in no contact exactly?

  3. Sally

    September 25, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    So I had a whirlwind romance with a man who was divorced for 2 years from his high school sweetheart (she cheated with a fm. He seemed to fall fast, but by the end of a year he was having cold feet. He eventually ended it by saying he wasn’t ready. We continued to see each other here and there as “friends” and had fun doing things together. One night he took me out to dinner and reference that my birthday was coming up… then to my surprise, he showed up to my house on my birthday with a nice card, and professed how much he missed me, how compatible we were, and he listed one by one all of the things he loved about me. He hugged me for long lengths of time. There was NO sex. He said we definitely needed to start seeing more of each other again. But… after all of that, he dropped off the planet. I called him once to get together, and he said he had to think about it. I said, “Don’t think too hard.” And I never called him again. I never heard from him. It’s been well over a year. He has dated no one. Anyhow, I saw him at the fair (thankfully I was looking my best), but he avoided me. He was with his kids… no girlfriend. I was at a concession table working with his SISTER… and he wouldn’t even come over. He ran by. I was devastated. Soooooo… cut to a week ago. His sister told me he was asking about me. Her and I are seeing more of each other lately, as we have wound up in a business together(MLM). So he asked her about her spending time with me, and she told him why we were… then he said that it was good that she was hanging with me, and said, “I heard she’s seeing someone.” Which I am not. She said he was definitely “fishing” for info. So, I would like to contact him, but don’t know how or why.

    1. admin

      September 26, 2013 at 3:03 am

      I think in your case you send him a simple little text message of something that reminded you of him.

    2. Sally

      September 26, 2013 at 1:43 pm

      The problem is… he doesn’t do texts. He doesn’t do the online thing… OR texting. He has a cell that is for work, and he doesn’t text on it. LOL

      Maybe I will just wait it out. Thanks.

    3. admin

      September 27, 2013 at 5:43 am

      So, he doesn’t text at all. Maybe you can try to call him up and ask him for coffee.

  4. allie

    September 23, 2013 at 7:53 am

    I have been on and off with my ex for more than 3 years. We’ve known each other for about 5 or 6. We have been off and on because of the distance we where faced with. I applied the DC rule for a year and one day he texted me out of the blue and called me 3 hours later and asked me if he could come see me (from TX to CA) I hesitated but allowed him to. He visited me about 4 times through his visit to CA because it was not him driving he couldn’t come see me more often. He brought up our relationship and apologized for every slip he ever made. He told me he was happy to be with me and able to see me. He left back to TX and continued texting and calling claiming he missed me and wished he was back close to me. Later all communication was lost and I found out he had moved in with a woman who had a child already and now she is pregnant with his child. I was told by his friend that he didn’t love her that my ex had told him himself. My ex confided in me about her pregnancy before they confirmed it. He seemed very nervous and distant about it he seemed a bit discontent. It broke my heart to hear he might have gotten her pregnant and I assured him if he did he would make a great father. The girl saw he was talking to me and cussed me out via text message calling me many nasty names when all I did was support him. Do you think I should even try to get him back if things don’t work out with this woman?

    1. admin

      September 24, 2013 at 2:30 am

      Do you think your life is better with him in it or not? I think that question is relaly important for you.

  5. Mary

    September 22, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    I been seeing this guys for three years but he has a girlfriend for 11 years know. We been having disagreements on and off for a while, whenever I got into a fight I was always the first to make contact with him because I really like him a lot. Like two weeks ago he told me that he wasn’t feeling the same with me, that he felt that we lost connection or the abstraction he has for me.. I have not contacted him for two weeks already and hasn’t texted me either. He’s never going to contact me right?

    1. admin

      September 22, 2013 at 11:13 pm

      I have a question. When you say you have been seeing this guy for three years does that also mean he was dating someone else during this time?

  6. Deb

    September 21, 2013 at 1:51 am

    HI Chris
    Within the 30days period my ex called me ( who is again dating the woman who he cheated on cause he got bored with her)and said he misses talking to me but he wants to be frs. I stupidly said yeah lets be friends and hangout .After that call it has been three weeks he never called or txt me. What should I do:(? Why he hasn’t contacted me even when I agreed to be frs with him?

    1. admin

      September 21, 2013 at 11:12 pm

      Honestly, it sounds to me like he was just using you…

  7. Sandra

    September 18, 2013 at 10:56 pm

    My ex and me broke up 10 months ago but until 4 months he told me he still has feelings for me and cares. we met and i tried to kiss him. i know bad move. we had a long distance relationship but i cant forget him. I’ve improved myself and after 3 months of no contact i texted him and he was nice but still a lil distant.
    No i made the mistake and tried to facetime him he didnt even comment on it. what should i do know ive texted him twice on whatsapp and we had a nice convo the first time, the second time it was cool until i tried to facetime him. what should i do now?

    1. admin

      September 19, 2013 at 2:32 am

      You should enter into NC.

    2. Sandra

      October 16, 2013 at 7:00 pm

      he texted me and asked if i am doing good yesterday.. i saw it but didnt reply immediatley so after 20 minutes he textes me hey i am going to bed take .. i texted him after seeing that i am good and you..blabla we had a small convo but just very superficial..what should i do now?

    3. admin

      October 17, 2013 at 2:46 am

      Wait a few days and initiate contact again. I cover this in my E-Book.

  8. Sara

    September 17, 2013 at 10:23 pm

    Hi Chris 🙂

    I finished NC a few days ago and have exchanged a few texts with my ex boyfriend. We were together for a year and a half and he broke up with me two and a half months ago. He takes about 6 hours to reply to every text so I assumed he wasn’t too interested in me. But in his last text, he asked if I wanted to meet up with him to catch up. I’ve only texted him 3 times. Does this mean he’s interested in me again? Also should I just say yes and let him organise when we meet up?

    Thanks 🙂 I love your articles! They help out so much hahaha

    1. admin

      September 18, 2013 at 3:22 am

      It will take a little more than just three texts to make him interested again. Don’t rush the process. Slow, steady and smart wins this race.

      And I just released a new article.

    2. Sarah

      September 18, 2013 at 5:53 am

      I read the article on becoming an ungettable girl. I’m not sure if I’m ungettable but I definitely work on hard keeping fit and looking good. I’ve gotten constant compliments from alot of people since the break up which I take as a good sign.

      I’m just wondering how I should act during the first meet up. Do I throw him into the friend zone straight away? Do I bring up the fact that guys have been asking me out or do I just ask what he’s been upto.

    3. admin

      September 19, 2013 at 1:45 am

      I wouldn’t throw him in the friend zone right away. That would be the last resort. I would treat it very carefully though. You want to flirt and see how he reacts to it.

    4. Sara

      September 23, 2013 at 10:00 pm

      I’m sorry if I keep pestering you with questions but it’s been 6 days and he still hasn’t replied to me. I have a feeling he’s talked to someone and they’ve advised him to stop talking to me.

      Do I keep waiting for him?

    5. admin

      September 24, 2013 at 2:58 am

      Nah, go back into NC for a while.

    6. Sara

      September 21, 2013 at 9:21 pm

      Hi Chris,

      I replied my ex a message that I would like to catch up him for coffee and he asked me if I had a midsemester break from uni next week. I said no and asked him if he had one then.

      He never replied to my text. This text was sent to him on Wednesday night. I have no idea why he stopped messaging him. Should I send him a message soon to initiate the catch up or should I wait for him to message me again?

    7. admin

      September 21, 2013 at 11:37 pm

      I would wait till he texts again.

  9. anne

    September 16, 2013 at 10:32 am

    What if he doesn’t text nor call me? Its been 18 days since we broke up. Im not texting nor callin him as well. Does it mean he is no longer interested with me? He’s the one who broke up with me. Never heard bout him till now.

    1. admin

      September 17, 2013 at 1:06 am

      No it usually means he is really stubborn.

    2. anne

      September 17, 2013 at 1:13 am

      What should i do?

    3. admin

      September 18, 2013 at 2:45 am

      Ill be honest with you Anne, this works a lot better if you ask me a specific question. General stuff like that literally takes me too long to write and the amount of stuff b/c I will not be productive and probably spend an hour just writing stuff for you hahaha.

      Have you picked up my E-Book. It is all in there.

    4. anne

      September 18, 2013 at 8:24 am

      Alryt. Uhm,. Should i continue doing the NC? Though he’s not even txting me or calling me? Im just trying to determine if there’s still a chance for us. What if the whole 30 days he will not text/call me.

    5. admin

      September 19, 2013 at 1:48 am

      It is not big deal if he doesn’t because you will text him after the 30 days.

      Have you grabbed my E-Book yet? I explain it all in there.

  10. Elsie

    September 16, 2013 at 2:26 am

    My ex-boyfriend of three years ended our relationship about 7 months ago because he wasn’t a “commitment person” and wanted to be single again; however, he wanted to remain friends, which I agreed a few days later since that’s how we started in the first place for a year. Two months after the break up, I decided to text him to go out for lunch. Unfortunately, the lunch date as renewed friends was a complete disaster, on his part. He appeared to be semi drunk, drinking his fifth bottle of Corona and started to brag about his possible salary increase, his new found friends and ditching his loyal friends of over 10 years because they didn’t match with his new crew and planning to head to every bar in town to find a new piece of tail. The conversation got even more complicated when he started to reminisce about our relationship, the things he liked about me and the one and only flaw he could point out about me. The conversation took a turn for the worst when I told him that my mother was in the hospital and that I was stressed about everything that was going on. His answer to my dilemma was “you need to get laid”. I laughed it off as I don’t like conflict but I was upset about it inside. We haven’t talked or seen each other for 5 months now but I want to give this a second chance. I felt as though I might have ruined this opportunity because I started a friendship too soon but I was wondering if I should give this friendship a second chance and if so, how do I approach it the right way? Or am i too late? He truly is my best friend and I don’t want to completely end our friendship over one lunch date.

    1. admin

      September 16, 2013 at 5:34 am

      Well, you can send a text message now. Check out some of the texting articles on this site or if you want the step by step breakdown pick up the E-Book.

  11. Lindsay

    September 14, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago after a seven month relationship. I am still in love with him and been wanting him back. He had broken up with me because of lost feelings, he gets bad anxiety and starts to question his life. I didn’t do anything wrong and in fact he has told me sense we’ve broken up that I was the best girl he had ever had and taught him the most. I know he still cares about me but he says he has no feelings. I do find though that on certain occasions he will purposely put himself in situations where I will be forced to look at him sense we go to the same high school together. He will also get mad when I hang out with other guys. And I did get into a rebound relationship that didn’t last with one of his fellow teammates…they now don’t like each other very much. He is now currently talking to a girl from a different school. I have a feeling I can get him back because she used to talk to this guy and had been for 5 months and never kissed him once. My ex is not a guy to stay with someone who does not give him a little action, and he has broken up with girls because of it. Also I have heard from people that she does not seem to be interested but hes trying hard to be with her. I just want to know what to do. I’m going to start the NC and see where it takes me, but I just want an opinion on the situation. Does it seem like i have a chance even just a sliver of a chance on getting him back? Hes the only person I want at this point.

    1. admin

      September 15, 2013 at 1:56 am

      I think there is a chance. Of course, everyone has a chance it is just all about how you play your cards and deal with the opportunities presented at your feet.

  12. Elle

    September 8, 2013 at 5:37 pm

    I completed my 31 days of NC (woohoo!!) and sent my initial text which my ex responded very positively to. He initiated a text the next day and we had a light 3-4 text convo. Then that night he tried to FaceTime me when he got home from going out like he would normally do when we were together. I ignored the call and he apologized by text the next am. I laughed it off via text but now I don’t know what to do next. When is the next time to initiate contact? Do I ignore him if he tries to initiate contact?

    1. admin

      September 9, 2013 at 7:08 pm

      Hey, you are doing great. Like seriously!

      Have you picked up the E-Book because it does a fantastic job explaining your question?

  13. Kamm

    August 28, 2013 at 10:48 pm

    Me and my ex of 2 years broke up 2 or 3 weeks ago he said we were on a “break” to mutual friends but never said that to me, of course I was a emotional reck and went off on him via texting he barely responded but when he did he would say “you need to change” as if I’m the only person in this relationship with issues, mind you he doesn’t show emotions and he is very hard headed an stubborn he’d rather spend time working on his car or with the boys than do something with me? And I mean this has been a constant issue and nothing has changed on his part, but I feel I have done alot of improvement on my part, But all in all, in willing to take more risk an sacrifice anything for him, i just wish he would be the one begging for me back when he left me to begin with, i truly do love him dearly we have been through so much, I haven’t spoken to him in 13 days but I do have a relationship with his family? We don’t talk about him but even with the no contact with him, is it bad that I have contact with his family sometimes? I really am desperate to get him back and we have done this before and I really thought I lost him then, pleas help

    1. admin

      August 29, 2013 at 4:17 am

      I guess you can still contact his family haha.

    2. Kamm

      August 29, 2013 at 4:54 am

      Haha? Thanks.

    3. admin

      August 29, 2013 at 5:35 pm

      Sorry I am dumb sometimes. It was just funny to me b/c it is going to drive him crazy if you talk to his family and not to him.

    4. Kamm

      August 29, 2013 at 9:14 pm

      Well, I figured that or it would irritate him and push him further away, the whole point of this is that I want my ex back, what would be my best bet with my particular senario

    5. admin

      August 31, 2013 at 1:56 am

      I would say not talk to his family for the 30 days.

  14. Rosanna

    August 27, 2013 at 12:21 am

    Me n my bf broke up a month ago he was confused n didn’t want a relationship he felt like I was way to controlling and jealous . N that i need to get myself together. We been I contact he wants stay friend but I think that bad idea I really do miss n want him back I’m going to start no contact rule. He ex is after him like crazy n I feel like she might win him over what should I do?

    1. admin

      August 27, 2013 at 4:24 am

      Have you started NC?

  15. Vi

    August 20, 2013 at 3:23 am

    It has been about 2 years since my ex and I broke up, so I don’t know if it is too late to at least be able to talk to each other and be friends. It feels like there is still tension between us(this may be just on my end, but he seems to be uncomfortable sometimes alone with me, too). I noticed that the longer that we are around each other in a day, the better we get along and the more we talk and actually get along, but, once we leave, its like all of the progress just goes down to zero; like it never happened. (ex. We were at a lock-in about a year ago and we ended up having a great time together. A week later, we didn’t speak a single word to each other.) He has also offered to hang out more than once over the years, but something seemed to come up for either him or me, so we never got to on any of the occasions. I can’t tell if he is just so shy(like myself) that it takes a lot for him to ask something like that or if its just a whim. It is so hard to read what this guy wants. I am not sure if the NC rule will actually work for this or after so long, but I think I am still going to try it, unless you think there is a better solution.

    1. admin

      August 20, 2013 at 5:05 am

      Check out this page. I wrote it kind of for your type of situation: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-guide-to-getting-him-back-after-a-year-or-more-apart/

  16. lala

    August 19, 2013 at 1:07 am

    me and my ex broke up 1 yr ago ,i tried once to text him and he didn’t reply , i blocked him from fb , and i made myself hard to reach ,after yr in Eva he said happy Eva , i replied politely , and then he replied wishing me happy . then we don’t talk ,, i don’t tell him happy birthday on his bd ,, i wish we can talk again ,i want him back but i’m so afraid to text him back or to make any move ,, i just give him his space ,, i don’t know what should i do!? could u reply me on my mail 🙂

    1. admin

      August 19, 2013 at 4:03 am

      Have you ever tried anything like a NC rule?

    2. lala

      August 19, 2013 at 5:18 am

      i think that all this period we don’t talk or have any contact “is that a no contact rule?!”
      + he came text me back is that meaning a thing!!
      and i replied him with respective emotion wAY THEN WE don,t talk again !!!

    3. admin

      August 20, 2013 at 3:34 am

      Yup that is the no contact rule.

      Read this post on understanding why he is ignoring you.

  17. jay

    August 11, 2013 at 11:58 am

    hi chris,
    my ex of 1&1/2 years broke up with me 11 months ago after a fight which almost got physical when i suspected him cheating,i told him i would leave me but he begged me not to. the day after the fight he told me it was best we stop seeing each other. i of-course went on and begged him for us to try and work things out and that i had forgiven him for what he had done. (yes i found out begging was the worst move). a month later(2nd month) while he was away on holiday (out of the country) my brother gave him some money to get me a few things to bring back to me, i trusted him to do me the favor because we were in good terms and while he was on holiday we would talk everyday etc and he had told me the date of when he would get back. the day came that he would arrive (the 3rd month) but i never heard from him the whole week after he arrived and his contact number was not in service at that time yet, so i reached out to 2 of his friends to let him know that i was trying to reach him and to know if he came back with my parcel. one friend said he told him that he will get back to me but he didn’t, i sent a few inboxes on facebook but he would ignore then one morning i woke up to a news feed on facebook of a status he had put warning his friends not to tolerate stalkers. i found that very disgusting so ever since that day i have never contacted him since september 2013. i never got the parcel my brother had sent him to bring to me. 2 months after he got back and us not talking, we randomly spotted each other in a mall with the girl i suspected he was cheating on me with, he couldn’t even look me in the eye and i could tell that he was struggling to breathe hahahhahaha….i just continued doing what i was doing and spared him from his mini heart attack. why are photos of me and him still tagged in his facebook album if am now an enemy? i don’t know what to do. its been almost a year of NC

    1. admin

      August 12, 2013 at 2:28 am

      Hi There,

      If he was physically harmful to you then I am going to tell you to run the other way as fast as you can.

      As for your other questions. He may just like the way he looks in the pictures of you two together. Have you tried reaching out to him at all?

  18. Lala

    July 28, 2013 at 1:47 am

    Can you please give me your advice? I do not know exactly what I should do. My man still hasn’t cantacted me yet. I think he think I don’t want to speak to him because I ignored his text. What do you thunk I should do?

    1. admin

      July 28, 2013 at 4:38 am

      Finish out your NC period. You will talk to him eventually who cares who contacts who that is the attitude you have to have.

    2. Lala

      July 28, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      Thank you for your respond. My man is a type of guy who takes very personal and hard on himself when I don’t pick up his call or answer he’s text message. The last time we spoke he told me he love me very much so doesn’t want to break up with me except he thinks we shouldn’t move on together. And then when I asked to explain to me why changed his mind he ask me If we can talk about that later beacuse he’s about to get something to eat so he will call me later. But he didn’t call the next day he text me good afternoon I was upset so I ignored his text now it’s been five days since he texted me. Do u think he broke up with me and doesn’t want anything with me? Or is it ego thing that he is waiting me to contact him??? What should I do ? I don’t want to close the communication line. So I was thinking i should say something. Sending text or maybe call him. What do you think I should do!

    3. admin

      July 29, 2013 at 3:43 am

      I am a strong believer in the NC rule!

      So, I think you know what advice I will give you.

      If your man takes things personal then I think the NC will work really well for you.

  19. Lala

    July 27, 2013 at 3:07 am

    Hello I don’t know what to call this but me and my man haven’t talked to each other for few days which is something we have not done before. We been together for year. He is great man treat me good all the time. He was in love with me since the first day we met. He was always treated me same with respect and much love. He introduced me with almost his family and they love me. After been dating for three months he asked me to move in with him bc he has big house and nice job I am just college student who struggles a lot. So I told him it might be not a good idea to move in with him now but of he give a time to think about I might feel different plus my apt lease is going to be up on aug1st 2013. He agreed with me but he kept on telling me he hasn’t changed his mind on that if I am ready so two months ago I decied to move in with him and I told him about he said he feels preety good about it. But on june 15 we had fight Over something little and I was little too cold on him…bc I felt disrespected. He said sorry to make feel that way I told him I don’t know if we should still move in together he got hurt and started crying I was very sad to see him like that while he was crying he told me he loves me and he will do anything to make it work bc he doesn’t want to lose me! I told him to give me a time again bc I know it’s a bg step. After two weeks I told him that I am ready if we both work on the things we need to work on will be okay if we live together he said he think so too. So I started packing my stuffs I told the building manger that I am moving out I told my family n friends too. I was very excited about it! Then on July 20 he said we need to talk about things bc he is scared but he didn’t say what. We talked how we can make our life fun and happy etc and he said he feels much better, so he told mebi should continued to pack. And something happened that weekend I made a plan for us I told him ahead of time he was happy but on sat he told me he is going to his friend party so he can’t make it but he can come later that night so we can go to the movies. Or come on Sunday morning I was very upset that he canceled the plan on me and that he didn’t invite me to go with him. He said it’s very far away if he come get me go to the party bc it’s 2 hours away from my place. I told him i don’t want him to come that night or Sunday morning he asked again of i want to hook up with him later that night or not I said no! The next day on Sunday i turned my off! I deactivated my facebook bc I didn’t him to contact me. But he did try to contact me my phone was off he left me vmail and text message. I didn’t respond right away I just called him the next day on Monday. He sounded very sad and upset at the same time he told he tried to reach me out by my phone was off and he couldn’t find me on facebook. I told him I truen my phone off bc I was upset said I am sorry I make him worried. He said he has lot of thinking to do blha blha he said he is not sure about everything so ibshould give him time n he will give me an answer tomorrow. I told him to take his time. So the next day he called and told me he love me very much and he doesn’t want to break up with me but he doesn’t think I should move in with him. I. Was very very hurt bc i only have a week left to move out from my place and don’t have anywhere to go. I was very upset I told him he shouldn’t have waited till the last min to tell me this now I don’t have a choice he said i can stay with him for a month and try to find a place. I asked him to explain to me why he changed his mind now. I deserve an explanation he said he will call me right back bc he is going to get something to eat. I said okay if I know why you changed your minc I will feel much better. That night i didn’t hear from him so I texted him saying I am waiting him to call me and explain to me why. He didn’t response. The next day he texted me” good afternoon” i was very upset bc he didn’t say anything about why he couldn’t call me… So I just ignored his text… After he said good afternoon he didnt try to contact me. I wanted to call or text him but I felt like he should be the one try to get in touch with me after putting me on this position I felt like he should be calling to see if I am okay and need anything. Now I don’t know what to think. If he is move on or playing games with me.

    1. admin

      July 28, 2013 at 4:11 am

      Hi,

      I think you would benefit from a NC rule. That is a good way to get him to call you again!

  20. Carol

    July 22, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    Hi I’ve been with the same guy for 35yrs and we had a few rows in the last year and he then told me he didnt love me anymore after I found out he’d been texting and phone a woman who lives a few hundred miles away. Although he says he doesn’t love me anymore he doesn’t act any differently, he still comes round every weekend (we’ve been apart for six months now), we still go out to eat and to the cinema, and on bike rides, we still babysit our grandson together, we hug and kiss (a peck) when he leaves, though he wanders up and down my living room for five minutes before he decides to leave!! My friends and family say he’s going through a midlife crisis. Do you think I should give the no contact rule a go even though he says he doesn’t love me anymore?

    1. admin

      July 23, 2013 at 2:57 am

      If he is having a midlife crisis I think that its an awfully mean one towards you don’t you?

      Here are my thoughts on your situation. What do you have to lose by doing NC? He already left you and claimed he doesn’t love you anymore. So, maybe by freezing him out for a while you can make him realize how special you really are.

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