87 thoughts on “How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back With Religious Differences”

1. 

   Joanna

   December 6, 2015 at 5:10 pm

   Hi Chris 🙂
   I have followed all of your advice, and recently suggested meeting up for a coffee with my ex. He seemed to be fine with the idea of meeting up at some point but he said he wasn’t ready yet because he still felt nervous talking to me and he had butterflies hearing from me. I never mentioned anything about the relationship or break up when we spoke, but he mentioned how he had buried himself in work to deal with it all.

   He ended the relationship (it was 3yrs) and we broke up 2 1/2 months ago. I last spoke to him 2 weeks ago which is when I suggested the coffee. He said he would contact me when he is ready to meet.
   What do I do now? I don’t want to message again as I feel the ball is in his court…but what if he never initiates anything?

   Thank you so much for all of your help on the site!

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   Chris Seiter

   December 7, 2015 at 3:54 pm

   Ok, just take a few steps back and build up more attraction so that it’s impossible for him to say no to a coffee date.

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   Joanna

   December 6, 2015 at 5:11 pm

   Oh, just to add, this isn’t related to the religious differences.

2. 

   Nina

   December 6, 2015 at 12:24 pm

   Hello Chris! Just want to tell you that I was happy when you started releasing videos! One of the things I like about you is your voice because the way you talk has been professional and comforting in podcasts so it’s nice to see you in action in a video where we can see you 🙂

   I have a few questions: What to do if an ex left you for a “simpler” or more insecure/less confident girl with life problems? I know your guide tells women to be waaaay awesome but doesn’t this push your ex away more if he likes it better with “weaker/more fragile” women? I have a hard time explaining this but how do we make an appeal to them like become attractive again without making them feel that we are “out of their league” or “we are too independent women that dont need them”? Please help me understand

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   Nina

   December 10, 2015 at 4:46 pm

   uhm… did you get my reply to your inquiry?

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   Chris Seiter

   December 7, 2015 at 6:01 pm

   Haha thanks Nina!

   Sounds like a rebound girl to me.

   Define weaker and fragile for me.

3. 

   ankk

   December 6, 2015 at 9:43 am

   Hi Chris, I will like to RECOMMEND you to write on those TYPES OF GUYS “who leave his girl(2 year relationship) for another girl-dating for 5 months and come back.. and stay with his initial girl (2years relationship) for about three months and again goes back to his same another girl.
   I’M WAITING FOR YOUR RESPONSE.

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   Chris Seiter

   December 7, 2015 at 6:02 pm

   Say that again for me. I got lost trying to dissect that.

4. 

   Beth

   December 3, 2015 at 8:36 pm

   This is not directly related, but maybe something that could be useful.

   Could you maybe write about the influence of other people?
   You see, the same way a guy´s Jewish father may put pressure on to his son to break up with his catholic girlfriend and end up succeeding, others can influence you, or your ex, right?

   I mean, for example, if I´ve been doing great during my NC period, but his mom loved me so much, and keeps nagging him into calling me and all, wouldn´t that backfire? I mean, wouldn´t he keep associating the nagging with me, even if I´m not the one doing it? What should we tell to relatives that have the best intentions, but maybe not the best strategies?

   Also, what do we do about the friends who maybe never liked you, and in his joy, is doing his best to make your ex hate you?

   Is there a way to handle that? I mean, I know I won´t be contacting his friend who hates me, but should I cut ties with his family? explain the situation to them? I got to know and love his family too, can I contact the family during no contact? Maybe wish them a happy birthday? or how do we handle that?

   Thankyou

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   Chris Seiter

   December 7, 2015 at 6:16 pm

   Thats true… I did write something about disapproving friends and family before. Did you read that by any chance?

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   Adélaïde

   December 2, 2015 at 8:21 am

   Ooops very sorry i made a mistake! Sorry Shiksa!!

6. 

   Sarah

   December 2, 2015 at 1:21 am

   Hi Chris, nothing to do with the current video, but I’m wondering if you’d consider doing something about getting an ex back when you’re way more successful professionally than him. Men seem to be so sensitive about this, especially when they’re going through a bad patch, and it’s an issue for me and so many of my friends. Even though we don’t care the guys do, and it causes all kinds of issues during relationships and results in breakups. I know you probably have a long list but I’m sure there would be a lot of interest in this. Thanks!

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   Chris Seiter

   December 3, 2015 at 12:53 am

   Awesome idea…

   I think I could write a post about this.

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   Adélaïde

   December 1, 2015 at 11:09 pm

   Hi Chris!
   Its the french reader!
   In fact I am the ex with religious differences.
   My ex isnt religious but when he saw how convinced I am he kind of stated that it wouldnt Work.
   My ex isnt optimist at all and tends To stops thing if there’s a problem without trying to think throught. As for marriage, due to his parents divorce he doesnt see it as a step bu just a fformality. “When we will have spend 10/20 years together and have children”.. when he will be sure that its working.
   So I dont think he would be the kind To take time and think about it.
   How can I convince him To do this?
   Im quite sure that we would be happy together but he doesnt want To try because of that…
   My NC is stopping at the week’s end! I didnt not fail!

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   Chris Seiter

   December 2, 2015 at 12:45 am

   When it comes to religion I don’t think you have the power to change his mind only yours. Can you deal with him not having the same religion as you? I think you should cut your losses with him. I’ve seen enough to know that this guy will not be very likely to get married to you. You will waste your time if that is what you really want.

   If you still want him back, after no contact send him a text to see if he is interested but don’t bring up anything about religion. Keep it light and interesting.

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   Shiksa

   November 30, 2015 at 9:57 pm

   My ex-boyfriend is Jewish, and it was one of the reasons he broke up with me (ONE of the reasons). His dad didn’t think he and I would work out because I wasn’t Jewish, and I believe his dad talked him towards the breakup. I have never been very religious, and I told him I’d be happy to raise our family Jewish, but I was unsure about converting myself. My parents think less of someone who has ANY religion, and I was afraid of converting in the past, because I am a very prideful person. Since the breakup, I have decided to convert. Not to get him back, but for me. It’s a very long process, and I’m worried that it will be too late by the time he finds out. I had to restart no contact yesterday, and he’s going to be out of town for two months starting in two weeks. I’ve started learning Hebrew, and I already have a pretty good knowledge of Judaism. I’m planning on completing no contact, and casually letting it slip that I was converting once we start talking again. Does that plan sound like it might work?

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   Shiksa

   December 4, 2015 at 12:26 am

   And I am well aware of the difficulty of converting. I have always been drawn to the Jewish community, and participated in it often throughout my life, but I have never truly believed in God until after the breakup (it made me rethink my life in a lot of ways). I am willing to go through the process in its entirety, with or without him by my side. That being said, I want him back more than almost anything, and I think that by beginning my conversion, he’ll see that I am truly willing to work on our issues in our )hopefully) new relationship.

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   Shiksa

   December 4, 2015 at 12:22 am

   He broke up with me for a few reasons (fighting over his too much time working, me not having much self confidence, etc.), but one of the biggest was religion, I think. He’s being very cold and when I was talking to him, I felt like he wanted nothing more than to ignore me (which he ended up doing). I made the mistake of being too emotional after the breakup, but I pulled myself together after a couple days. You said I should let him know of my plans soon, so do you think I should not do no contact?

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   Adélaïde

   December 2, 2015 at 8:19 am

   Oh Im Christian and he’s kind of an atheist. He simply hates religions because he thinks that they’re bad and influence people and not honest. And truth is I understand his point of view a lot… we share a lot of things in common but he doesnt want To hear about it.
   He broke up cause he didnt see our relationship evolve. He was scared that being with him would cause me pain. That because he doesnt share my faith I would be sad with him.
   I also kind of put pressure on him as I was very agressive when talking about beliefs.But I have now a tottaly different vision and am much more calm when talkin about these things. I just want to… make him see that my religion is not something to be afraid of.
   He told me he didnt love me enough to make changes in his life. But it was only 3 months so…

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   Chris Seiter

   December 3, 2015 at 12:56 am

   Ya I think a lot of it comes down to how you discuss these things. If you were a little too in your face with it then it can scare a man off but if you are clam and kind of pick your moments he can respond very positively.

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   Chris Seiter

   December 2, 2015 at 12:30 am

   I know that you can be accepted if you convert but it is a big choice to make. You would have to do A LOT to become Jewish. You would have to see if his parents are orthodox or if you have a chance. Does he know you are willing and working towards becoming Jewish? Did you have that discussion before? I think you might want to be a little more forward with this one and tell him you are converting sooner. But let me know know some of the details first. If the only reason you broke up was because of religion.