5 Critical Ways To Get Over and Move On After Your Ex Dumps You

786 thoughts on “How To Get Over Your Ex Boyfriend”

Thaakirah

February 1, 2015 at 6:32 pm

Hey Chris! My story is a bit – okay a lot -more complicated than that. See I’m not the only ex that wants him back and she’s doing a better job than I am. See he’s in matric and she finished school last year, they knew each other for four years and he crushed on her for that long and finally last year they dated. Then my first year in the school last year I met him and he left her two weeks before dating me but made it clear I wasn’t the rebound. He always seemed to have a soft spot for her. The day after we broke up (him with me because he wants to focus on school ???? ) He saw me in a shoppping centre and hugged me , but the very next day he had statuses for her with roses. Anyway he’s visiting her tomorrow and they’ll probably kiss or something and I’m so , so scared. This is just the basics though there’s so much more to tell via email (: I’m not sure if I want him back or what. He knew he was going to be in matric when he asked me out so basically all the futuristic plans made were lies right? I’m so confused Chris! Another theory everyone has is they pretended to break up so he could just date me for the summer, she’s sort of psychotic and I’m thinking he might be too or something. Please help !

admin

February 2, 2015 at 2:21 pm

I wonder if she is utilizing this site?

That would really suck…

Anyways, I really think your first priority right now is deciding whether you want your ex back or you want to just move on.

Figure that out first.

Chane

January 26, 2015 at 12:44 pm

Hi,

My boyfriend and I had a couple of rough months. It started in October when he first left me. There was no real reason, he just started a new job closer to me (we used to be 300km apart) and finally we thought everything will be the way we dreamt it would. We had our ups and downs during the long distance. I think it was just very hard on the both of us not seeing each other and adapting to work. But we were really happy and best friends. I need to add that he was very depressed in the place he worked before moving to the new work and I helped him through a lot of the ordeal. What I also later realised is that his parents had real trouble letting him go and growing up. For instance when he came to visit me instead of them they would be angry with him. That added a lot of pressure onto him and I never knew that. Anyway after about two weeks we got back together and everything was fine again. I told him that I want us to go and speak to his parents and just clear anything that needs to be clear as I want their blessing for our relationship. We had some fights about that as he did not always see what they were manipulating him into. Nevertheless we went on well. During December an incident happened and his mother forced him to to leave me. The incident was nothing at all and I did not understand why. The previous day we were talking about getting married and the next day he just left without any explanation. He went on holiday with them and I did not really hear anything from him. I wrote him a really long email trying to find out what happened. After a week (he stayed in contact but not that much) he called me and said he realised his mothers wrong doings and it took him the whole week but he actually realised what has been happening the last year and a half and he was really really sorry for everything. He literally begged me to come back. He also said that he will go and talk to his parents and sort everything out but he wants me to come with. Which I appreciated. We then decided on a date we will go and see them. Everything was perfect and we were so happy. Obviously the weight of going to his parents laid heavy on my shoulders and on his. On the day of my birthday (he was very sweet, he brought me coffee in bed and everything) and then I just had this emotional breakdown about the mess we are in. We really love each other but because his mom could not accept that it is not a nice situation to be in. He did tell me that he thinks his mom would do it to any girl. I am not terrible and I really think we both motivated each other to be better people in all respects of our lives. Anyway the week before he had his emotional breakdown and I supported him, although that day he did not really support me. Eventhough he tried I just found fault with everything that day. I know I should not have done that as he was under enourmous pressure as well. I tried to say I am sorry but he just decided to break up with me. For almost two weeks on end I tried to be sorry and make things better but he would not listen. He emailed me the most amazing email and said that he could not go on fighting like this but he misses me terribly and he does not know how to go on without me. Then something happened and I needed his support with that. Looking back I wish I just never said anything. I told him and he was very supportive but obviously tried to keep his distance as we were seperated and he did not want to make it any more difficult for any of us. Although I think it still has to do with the fact that he is scared of maybe losing his parents and not the fighting that much. Anyway so I decided I will give him time and I arranged for us to meet up and I had this whole plan in my head to tell him that maybe we just need some time apart, I will deal with the situation myself and I do love him very much. I wanted to do this keeping in mind that he will come to his senses. I do have hope because I know how he feels about me and I about him. He has really constantly told me even after the break up. And from friends I know he is struggling very much. However we went on the breakfast date and then one thing led to another and we started talking about all our good times together and what we still wanted to have done and we kissed. He had to go to work and told me he will call me afterwards. I suspected nothing, and then when I got home I saw he blocked me on Whatsapp. Later on he messaged me and said that it is the hardest thing he has ever done but he cannot keep in contact with me. He needs to get over me. I do not understand. I really love this man and I promise you he loves me too (I am not in the dillusional denail phase). I want to win him back with all my heart. I am not scared of living without him, I think I will manage this eventually. I am scared of not ever feeling the same about anyone else. We really had an amazing connection. I do not know what to do. Everyone thought of us as an amazing couple, however now they are telling me to just get over him cause he caused me so much pain. I do not know. I still feel this kindling inside of me that he may be the one.

admin

January 27, 2015 at 2:06 pm

What have you done so far? Any NC or anything lik ethat?

Allyson

January 24, 2015 at 3:19 pm

Hi Chris!
My situation is a bit complicated. My ex and I work together in the same department so we have to have communication between us. A bit of background with us is that he was my first boyfriend and I lost my virginity to him. He is also the first man I ever fell in love with. When we broke up it was kind of mutual. I started to become unhappy in the relationship because of some issues that came up and he told me that “we moved too fast”. In retrospect we did move really fast but he initiated most of that. Also, he told me that we should be on a break and that I can talk and date other people if I wanted. Shortly after we broke up (VERY shortly), he started talking to another girl that works at the store we work at. He also started posting pictures of him and her together on Facebook (which he never did with me). He had deleted me on Facebook but some people told me about the pictures. I still have romantic feelings for him and he still jokes around with me at work but I’m afraid of being hurt again. I thought I could be his friend but his personality is what made me fall for him. I wish I could have no contact but we see each other 5/7 of the week. I honestly don’t know what to do…
-Allyson

admin

January 26, 2015 at 3:22 pm

You can still do a form of limited contact though.

Valentina Sanabria

January 24, 2015 at 3:19 pm

How do I face my fear when my fear is not being good enough. My ex boyfriend told me yesterday that for the last 3 months of our relationship he had been forcing himself to be with me. That he stopped loving me 3 months ago. I can’t help but feel like I wasn’t enough and that’s why he left. I need to get over him for good.

admin

January 26, 2015 at 3:20 pm

I think the fact that you have the strength to even comment here shows that you are good enough and that you probably care more than any other girlfriend he has ever had.

Bo

January 22, 2015 at 6:32 pm

Hi Chris,

I don’t usually do this, but I guess I figure it’s worth a shot. I’ve never been very good with discussing or admitting to my feelings. I know that I love my ex, but I also know that love isn’t always enough and sometimes it’s best to let them go so they can find happiness.
Our break up wasn’t bad and I never begged for him back but I texted him twice a while ago trying to see if a friendship could be salvaged. After all the Yankees games we watched and all the video games we played together I didn’t want to lose someone who had become my best friend. He responded well the first time but the second time he called me and told me that he would get very sad when he’d talk to me and that would make his parents angry. I told him that I never meant to cause him pain, wished him well and haven’t contacted him since. He told me that he would contact me when he was ready but I’m not going to hold my breath.
I guess I just don’t understand, especially since he broke up with me. We are both engineering students at a prestigious school and this last semester was very stressful, but I don’t understand what I could’ve done to make him feel this way.
I would like to see us together again but I accept that it might not happen. I’ve taken this time to improve upon myself and to reconnect with some of my other friends, but it’s hard especially when some of my male friends have begun asking me out now that I’m single. I’m not ready for a relationship and I’ve tried to gently refuse, but it’s just caused me to think about my ex again. I’ve stored the things he’s bought me in my attic and I don’t go on any social media sites to avoid seeing anything related to him, but I feel empty.
I’m trying so hard to let go but it’s proving to be more difficult than I expected. It’s getting close to three months. I don’t know if getting back together is a good idea since I believe that things always end for a reason but I miss him and still love him. Is it best to let go?

admin

January 23, 2015 at 4:14 pm

Well, do you think you could see yourself with him long term? If so, it may be worth fighting for. If not, it’s not worth fighting for.

Rawan

January 22, 2015 at 11:06 am

Hey Chris,
I just read your article about how to get over an ex. Well, my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. This was a long distance relationship though. We met in germany and we fell in love . Its been 2 years( 2nd anniversary is 15 days from today!!). We planned to make it work and we were working our ass out to get it right. He was the sweetest ever , he was caring and loving. You know like fairy tales! I became so focused on him that i forgot every single person around me. I relied on him in almost EVERYTHING. When i felt bad i used to just grab my phone nd txt him , then i find him totally getting me out of the black mood.
Here is the big deal, i started to feel he has changed. He became cold nd i felt love was gone. I told him and he was like im stressed right now and dont expect much from me. His way changed and he started dealing with me in a really bad way, yet i was holding on to him.
Then he was like we cant continue anymore and was really harsh with me. He was like maybe (maybe!!) I can give it a thought in future that we may be together again. That i dont wanna give u hope nd disappoint you!
And me opposing every single advice of not txting him again, i did and cried .. was like we can make it work.. nd he said it .. i dont want it anymore!
The feeling of that he may knew another girl, thats why he left me. Or lets say the feeling of being shocked HOW HE CHANGED LIKE THAT just get me down. I feel hurt, yet i feel i miss him. I feel stupid and i blame myself for being so more than anything else. I feel confused and lost. It just hurts that i loved him and it was for nothing..
I dont know what to do.. i cant even delete pics .. i really feel lost

admin

January 22, 2015 at 5:09 pm

So, you want to get over him or you want him back?
Rawan

January 22, 2015 at 9:27 pm

I wish i can get him back but what i saw from him makes me feel he didnt even love me. So i think ill need to push myself into getting over him.

Karen

January 13, 2015 at 6:46 pm

Hi, I need help dealing with this break up. Me and my then boyfriend were together for about six months. I know it’s not long but during those six months we lived together since he lived 4hrs away from me he decided to move in with me. He ended up having to move back to where he lived for his job. We did start arguing a bit and I could tell his job was stressing him out. We went about two days without talking which is unnormal for us but then I get on Instagram and facebook to see that he had deleted his accounts and made new ones without adding me so I got very curious to why he did that knowing that on his old accounts there were a lot of pictures of us. I tried to contact him to see what was going on but he has yet to tell me anything and it’s been a week. I pretty much begged him to talk to me because now I’m left with no answers and it’s been killing me everyday but he’s still ignoring me . I guess my question here is why would he not let me know what is going on ? Like he never even told me he wanted to break up or anything he just stopped talking to me and I believe that’s what’s making it harder for me to try and get over him because I don’t know what happened or what I did or anything. What do you think happend or what do you think I should do? Thanks !
Lizette

January 8, 2015 at 10:27 am

Hi admin! Me and my ex boyfriend separated after 2 years of relationship. I was pregnant when we got separated. I had a son who is now 1 year and five months. It’s already almost 2 years that we were separated now, but suddenly he visited our child where we are living right now because he knows the place. I’m already over him and felt nothing when I saw him. His family asked us to pay them a visit because they wanted to see our baby. Out of courtesy, I granted their request. His mother and his cousins said that he doesn’t have a girlfriend. But a few days after someone close to me said that my ex boyfriend has a girlfriend now, and it was not the same girl that he saw last year. I’m really confused why he and his family is keeping it from me? And why does it still hurts me?? What should I do admin?

admin

January 19, 2015 at 3:07 pm

You can call me Chris.

How are things with you and your ex now? Are you on speaking terms?
How often do the two of you speak?

Tiana

December 30, 2014 at 4:01 am

Thanks for the article it has helped me a lot. My boyfriend and I broke up just yesterday. I’m not in the habit of crying for a guy or jumping at the possibility of being wanted back. Its easy for me to change my number and delete his photos and photos of us (I have already done it) my sister said its too soon but isn’t what moving on is all about?

admin

January 5, 2015 at 2:42 pm

True!

Are you focused on moving on?

bernice

December 12, 2014 at 2:12 am

I have a problem I’m staying with my ex boyfriend until I can find an apartment. I want to be able to get over him but I don’t have the distance I need what should I do?

admin

December 15, 2014 at 5:33 am

I wrote an article about this…

Andy

November 25, 2014 at 8:32 pm

So me & my husband split up 3 weeks ago. We have two children together, we’ve been together for 4 almost 5 years. & i broke up with him because he abused me emotionally and physically. I contacted him 3 days after we broke up because i missed him so much. I said for him to come back and we can work it out for our kids which i thought was foolish of me and he said i don’t think we can work anything out, i wish the best for you i regret ever putting my hands on you. i miss my kids please send me pictures. So i said you’re right we’re wrong for each other i just need to think of everything you’ve done too me and just forget about you. and he replied saying i wish you well. and that just hurt me the most because it seems like he’s not hurting at all over me. and that im the only one crying and stuff. i recently agreed that we can be on good terms for our kids i also lied and told him that im dating another man and that he’s good with the my kids. which is a lie but i only said that too try and hurt him and all he said was im glad you’re moving on im happy for you. And again that hurt me and i can’t stop crying. But i read your article and it made me feel a little better. but i want to follow through with this. i have been working out and eating right and i dont drink or smoke im now in the process of getting my GED but i feel so broken and i feel like i just wasted years of my life to try and make us work but it never happened i just want to be over him and look at him and say thank you for doing what you did to me i never would of understood what a real man is. of course we have to be civil for our kids what do i do now? do i still not contact him for a whole year ?

admin

November 26, 2014 at 3:03 pm

Ok, I definitely think you are right for trying to get over him.

I would just contact him about the kids and thats it. Nothing else.

Someone who abuses you physically deserves to be in jail. Those are my thoughts…

anon

November 13, 2014 at 11:11 am

Thank you for this guide chris. I needed it. And i’m definitely going to move on from my ex completely. Only day 13 of nc but i’m pushing on to get over my ex, esp since he is going to get married with his new gf. I’m feeling positive though 🙂 that this too shall pass.
kirsty lloyd

November 12, 2014 at 2:53 am

Even though I’m grieving an ex of 15 years I believe every word of this at first I spiralled but have used some of these tactics recently and am feeling a great deal better already. Although I never read it here something just changed within me that I honestly can’t explain. For 2 years I was drinking and taking drugs and within weeks of me using these tactics powered only by my own will i feel completely changed and it’s all thanks to me !! everything is a chEven though I’m grieving an ex of 15 years I believe every word of this at first I spiralled but have used some of these tactics recently and am feeling a great deal better already. Although I never read it here something just changed within me that I honestly can’t explain. For 2 years I was drinking and taking drugs and within weeks of me using these tactics powered only by my own will i feel completely changed and it’s all thanks to me !! everything is a choice I think I just cheated them forks in the road 🙂 oice I think I just cheated them forks in the road 🙂
Cobra

October 28, 2014 at 11:47 pm

Honestly, I feel pretty lame winding up here since my ex and I have been technically single since February when he had to move to a different state to help some family members move and he was originally only supposed to stay until about the end of summer. He said he didn’t want to do long distance and needed to focus on himself (such a common and pathetic excuse if you ask me), but I respected his choice. What bothered me most about this whole situation is that he told me he wasn’t going to be dating anyone else either, yet later I found out he slept with a married woman (and then she got pregnant not knowing if it really was my exe’s or her husband’s), but it’s like he completely ignored the fact she slept with the both of them and seems to think that it could only be his kid. She ended up miscarrying (thank God because it was a mess and a half!), but he got a memorial tattoo above is heart. How can he be sure the kid was even his?!? Anyway, what pissed me off most was the fact that he had such a problem that I was still legally married even though we were separated and I had no plans of ever going back to my ex-husband, but then he turns around and sleeps with a STILL married and WITH her husband girl! What the hell?!? He likes to portray himself as this man of God, yet can’t seem to follow his own beliefs. Such a hypocrite! I have gotten rid of most of his stuff, but there are a few things still around. I had left my husband for this guy and now I just feel Hella screwed. We were together for 2.5 years, talked about marriage and kids. I’m just having the hardest time getting over the feeling of betrayal even though we were not together when this happened. I feel the betrayal was more in the hypocrisy of his beliefs. He wants to be friends, but for me that’s just impossible when you still have feelings for them. The only contact I have with him is about when a family member or friend of his calls looking for him. So I just text him that someone called looking for him and he is always thankful, but he irritates the crap out of me when he thinks this is all ok. He is supposed to be coming home during the holidays and I’m sure he will want to see his dog, whom I am taking care of for him. The problem is, I don’t think I could handle seeing him. I don’t think he truly understands how long this is going to take me to get over. He doesn’t understand why I feel that we should either be together or to move on without being friends. He asks why it has to be so black and white with me. I told him a million times that I can’t get over him if the door is open as being friends. I feel like he led me on for a long time saying he wasn’t sure what the future held and that it was up to God. I held on to the hope of a possible future, but now feel that’s been crushed because of his lies and betrayal. I want to get over him, but still felt he was the one (I know how stupid and irrational it sounds). Not sure really how to handle it FOR GOOD. I’m still really good friends with the friends he left behind here as well. In fact, we’re doing our annual Halloween party that he and I went to the last two years (We met right around Halloween time). I love his friends who are also now my friends. I think he is still somewhat upset that I have kinda taken over his friends now because they’ve really become like my family of friends. I’m just afraid that someday he will be running back and that I’ll be stupid, lonely, and vulnerable enough to let him back in. I want him to know how badly he really screwed up because I just don’t trust anything he says anymore. I do love him and want the best for him, but in my opinion he’s getting in the way of himself having good things come to his life because he never follows his own beliefs. I wish I could help him see the error of his ways, but I don’t think I’m the right person to help him. Even his friends are sad and want us to get back together. They dreamed of all our kids growing up together. I’m the first girlfriend they’ve ever approved of and now it seems that they are mad at him for being so stupid. I feel bad that his best friend is upset with the way he has acted because he looked up to my ex so much. It was like watching your hero fail. I love his best friend and his wife so much, they are my second family. In some ways I feel so in the middle of it all wishing I could fix it, but you can’t make someone come back that doesn’t want to no matter how badly they screwed up. We all know that he is really better off if he would come home and admit his failures and to have the support of family and friends because where is now he has no family there anymore. Don’t know much about his “friends” there. He’s the type to make new friends eaily. Very charming and outgoing personality, but honestly they will never know the real person underneath because he will say one thing and then do another…very frustrating. Some days I want him back, but I really don’t think that’s healthy or productive for me. It’s hard to share mutual friends and never hear or speak about the ex sometimes. I have tried casually dating just to try and see if it would help my state of mind, but it didn’t because I wasn’t over my ex. I also was not attracted to the guy I had dated, but that had to do more with his judgement about trying to get over my ex. Guy expected me to forget and move on overnight, which pushed me away from seeing new guy anymore. He’s tried contacting me, but I never answer anymore, especially after being offended by his accusation of me being bi-polar because I still had feelings for my ex. New guy would have been better off listening to my feelings and trying to be sweet and understanding, but no he didn’t want to hear anything. Honestly, I’m the type that WANTS to know about someone’s exe’s to see if I’m like them or not. I find I can learn a lot from their exe’s and it never bothered me that my ex occasionally still talked to his exes on FB. I even became friends with one of his exes. When we were together he was a great person, but since we separated, I have wondered to myself, “Who are you? I feel like I don’t even know this person now, and What drugs are you on because you’re acting so different from the person I knew!” My questions now are the following:

1. Should I TRY to be friends with my ex, knowing that he is going through hard times of his own (but that was also his own fault for being stupid)?
2. How do I handle the mutual friends situation (not like he’s here to maintain his friendships anyway) and should I choose not to see him if he asks? Because I know my feelings are still there and I don’t want to break down, cry, or beg for anything in front of him.

I have been doing my best to move on by focusing on going back to school, but the hardest part is dealing with my physical chronic pain from Fibromyalgia and back surgery. I can only do so much with what I have and my chronic pain is my biggest hurdle because no one has seemed to really understand my limitations. I am too scared to get into another relationship and have it fail because they were ignorant to the fact at how limited I can be at times. It hurts to feel that way, but sometimes I feel it’s better being alone and not worrying what a partner is thinking or going to think when I’m having a bad pain week(s). Definitely feeling a little lost here. Any advice?

admin

October 29, 2014 at 2:51 pm

1. Up to you but be careful of the frienzone.
2. How good of friends are you with the mutual friends?

MaraS

September 25, 2014 at 4:39 pm

Hey Chris,
My ex broke up with me 3 1/2 or so months ago after we graduated college. We had been on-off a lot but he was my first love and honestly I did believe he was the one.
However, I think based on your advice and my feelings, it doesn’t make sense for me to try to get him back when we were already so on-off in the first place, or if I do it needs to be the long timeline so we can both grow up a little bit.
I got asked out today by a guy I’ve been talking with a bit and I’m not sure if I should say yes or not. Realistically there’s no way I’m over my ex yet and 3 1/2 months is short time, but should I go anyway just to experience it/take a step towards moving on?

Basically what is your advice on dating after a break up: wait a significant amount of time or casually participate in it after a shorter amount of time?

Thanks for all your help!
S

July 29, 2014 at 5:53 am

Hi Chris,

First of all I would like to start out by saying that I am not proud of what I did. My boyfriend and I dated for a total of 12 months, we met on an online game we used to both frequently play & really hit it off, steadily we become friends and moved on to other forms of communication. As a friend he was always there to pick me up and to make me smile. You see at the time, i had just broken up with someone who I really cared about and my daughter was undergoing life threatening treatment for cancer & while he knew about one aspect of my life (aka the separation from my ex partner) I kept hidden my daughters disease. Months passed and we started dating. We were both from the same country but from different states, so it become a long distance relationship.

What made it worse was that I pretended to be someone I was not, I lied about who I was, my job, friends that I had and even who my family were. It wasn’t intentional yet once I told one lie, another one was told & I couldn’t get out of it. Deep down i just wanted to be someone other than a mother with a sick child & a person with a string of failed relationships behind them. Looking back I got so used to playing this character that it became a nice escape from what I was going through. He made me feel special, like I could do anything, for once in my life I felt strong, loved & not to mention cherished, things that I have never felt before. and there was a niggling part of me that knew that if I had of been honest about who I really and what was happening in my life that he wouldn’t have stuck around. Anyway eventually it got to the stage where I couldn’t live with myself anymore and i loved him enough to risk it all and tell him who I really was.

That must have been one of the worst days of my life, yet after endless days of tears & talking things through we decided to start again, firstly as friends and then as partners. It was never an easy relationship especially with what I had done to him but I tried every day to make amends for it, to change, to open up & be honest, even if it made me feel uneasy.

Then out of the blue after only a few weeks of getting back from a months holiday together, where I introduced him to my family. He tells me that he feels “nothing” for me and wants to break up, that he never loved me & for the past seven months he has been lying to me, that he wanted to do to me what I did to him & only stayed with me this long out of spite. Yet before all this, we spoke about bridging the distance between us so that we could be together, endless conversations about me moving in with him this December & further down the line marriage & kids (It even got to the point where I started making arrangements like telling my daughters school that we would be relocating and he let all of this happen).

This all only happened a couple of days ago and I can’t stop grieving for what I have lost and for what could possibly have been. I feel so empty inside and deeply hurt. I just don’t understand, I am so confused and I don’t know what to do or where to go from here. Maybe I deserved what he did to me but I never lied about my feelings for him and as silly as seems, i miss him & want him back 🙁 Please help me, just tell me where I should go from here 🙁 He was the love of my life.

admin

July 29, 2014 at 8:05 pm

Did you ever meet him in person?

Confused

July 23, 2014 at 8:06 pm

So I have a dilemma myself. I was with my boyfriend of 4 years. I met him when I was 18. (we were high school sweet hearts) and we never did the “break-up and get back together” thing. We stayed constant for 4 years. At the beginning of our relationship we had problems but they were fixable. After 5 months we said ‘I love you’. We were in love. We had many ups and downs but we managed to work through our problems. We became best friends. But this last year something changed. After I turned 21, I felt he didn’t trust me. And our relationship became even rockier. I transferred colleges but still remained in-state and played college lacrosse. My life was very busy but we made it work. Over the years, i felt i compromised. I made sure he was always happy. But i was happy. for the last 8 months however i was unhappy. I loved him but not as a boyfriend. My head and heart were always fighting. I broke up with him 2 months ago. And He is always in the back of my head. I realized i been going down a unhealthy path. I was drinking a lot, meaningless sex and stopped working out. What i am asking you is i don’t know if i did the right thing? I miss him a lot but i had many reasons why to break up but no they seem foggy and unclear. Is this normal?

admin

July 24, 2014 at 2:53 pm

What caused him not to trust you?

Jayme Smith

June 29, 2014 at 10:26 pm

This helped me a lot. I realized I was already doing most of this like getting rid of pictures and gifts and everything that reminded me of him. And also having no contact. We broke up the other day, the day after I just felt so aweful and felt sorry for myself but today im doing much better and im going to stay single awhile. I realized I used to do the rebound thing a lot and it never worked well for me in the end. So thank you for helping me 🙂

admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Hey no problem. If you need anything else just let me know.

Akruti

June 28, 2014 at 6:03 am

Hi Chris,
I’ve read all the post in your site and I really liked this one the best. I’ve posted another comment on a different page and I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s better to leave things as they are and focus on myself and MY healing process. Thanks!

admin

June 29, 2014 at 5:00 pm

You are more than welcome!

Jess

June 19, 2014 at 2:24 pm

I was dating my boyfriend for almost a year, last week he broke down and told me that he love me but he wanted to end our relationship. This caught me by surprise. He told me that he wanted to commit to me but he was not ready because he is going back to school. I told him that I didn’t expected him to commit right now and I knew he was going back to school and I was willing to work on our relationship. Then i asked him to give me the real reasons why he was breaking up with me. He told me because of my religion (I’m catholic) but I have never force him to my religion, his other excuse was our families will never be able to communicate which is ridiculous(I’m Hispanic and he is half Hispanic and french) because my father speaks English and my mother a little bit and his last excuse was language barrier between us! As you can see from this comment I can speak and write English might not perfectly because I have an accent. He never show me signs that these excuses bothered him until last week. I’m not sure if I should try to go back with him or not. I also don’t understand if he felt this way, why he didn’t end our relationship 7 months ago. What should I do or do you think he loves or should I move on with my life.
Jess

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:14 pm

So, what was his real reasonoing for breaking up with you?

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