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Marie
January 12, 2017 at 1:10 am
I need help!!! My(25f) cheated on my ex fiance(31m). We have been together for 5 years and about 1.5 years ago I cheated on him. We were having trouble in our relationship, fighting a lot and we were on the verge of breaking up. I was out with friends, got drunk and had a random hookup. I kept in light contact with the guy and about 3 months ago I contacted him about hooking up again. I had absolutely no intentions of meeting up with him. At the time our relationship was stuggling again but the troubles we had in our relationship are no excuse for cheating and I feel horrible and filled with regret. Instead of communicating my feeling with him just betrayed him twice. I love him so much and each day I go without him is miserable. I want to give him time to heal but I also want him back. Help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 13, 2017 at 12:07 pm
HI Marie,
Are you going to do the advice above?
Aisha
January 9, 2017 at 6:55 pm
Hii
Can u please help me!!
The thing is I am in relation with a guy from past 1.5 yrs and he loves me alot..nd we are in long distance relationship..i always wanted to do things according to him..nd i always try my best..but somewhere when i see that he is with his friends nd enjoying without me..this made me jealous..nd i talk to my male friends..nd i lied him too…now i realised that this thing is not right..i need to work on my relation..i need his love back..like the way he loved me before..he is with me..but everything has changed now..what should i do..to save my relation please reply asap??
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 9, 2017 at 7:35 pm
Hi Aisha,
follow the advice on this one:
How To Prevent A Breakup With Your Boyfriend When You Know It’s Coming
Lee Holder
January 8, 2017 at 4:18 pm
I met this guy a few months ago only went out on a date we proceeded to come to my house and watch a movie and it ended up having sex. after we had this amazing sex he got up and said that he didnt want a relationship. naturally I just forgot about him because I try to win him and he refused to come back. so I started dating new guy. I ended up having sex with this new guy but when I got any communication with the guy that hurt me he told me he wanted me back and that he wouldn’t accept being just friends. I started to fall in love with him and when I told him I had sex with this new guy. he called me a liar and told me he didn’t want me anymore. he told me he was done. he came over and we had goodbye sex. he told me I needed to move on and so did he because we were toxic for each other. I’m really in love with him what do I do to win him back
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 8, 2017 at 10:31 pm
Hi Lee,
dont sleep with a guy again if you’re not together.. are you going to do the advice?
Chaymae
January 7, 2017 at 10:48 pm
Hi, i have been with the man i love for 3 years now, i cheated on him and he forgave everytime, but not this time. he was clear that we are never ever getting back together, but i don’t wanna live without him, i love him so much, and i want him back, i’d do anything, please help me!
Jazz
January 20, 2017 at 4:03 am
This pretty much happened to me swell and I don’t know what to do either. I really love my boyfriend but I feel as though he isn’t coming back. If you want to talk, I’m here because I’m literally in the same boat
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 8, 2017 at 7:53 pm
Hi Chaymae,
how old are you both? How many times did you cheat? Why did you cheat?
Emma
January 5, 2017 at 11:51 pm
Hey ok I’m not really sure if I cheated or not but see we had been dating for some time now (not very long tho) and someone else (a guy I’ve known for like 7 years)suddenly just wants to sext me and I told him that and before he found out what sexting was (I was surprised cuz he is like 15 and I am 14) he said “ok go on ahead I love you” and I was like ‘what’ and so I kinda got mad at him cuz I thought he knew what that meant but he didn’t so I said “I have to go” and I should’ve just stopped at that but I just couldn’t let it go and so I asked him if he knew what that meant and he said “no why” and I said “no reason” and he said “its ok” and so I said so “you just basically just gave me permission to sleep with someone else” and he said “no” and I said “what” and so he said “whatever I don’t care I’m done don’t talk to me,” and,”what the fuck ever I’m done” I explained it to him today (this was just last night)but it wasn’t a real conversation I was told that I would break his heart but I didn’t really believe it but he was really sweet and clingy (but not like he just scared me away clingy…just a good. …clingy) and now I really really want him back but i just dunno what to do plz plz help me plz p-.s-. I was cheated onin May,2015 by someone I rlly rlly loved so I know how that feels but I didn’t realize I technically just attempted to kinda sorta cheat on him so I do see why he is mad so plz plz help me plz
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 7, 2017 at 6:14 am
Hi Emma,
if you didn’t sext with the other guy, then you didn’t cheat. Just let you ex cool down. I think he’s just embarassed and angry at the same time.
Savvy
December 29, 2016 at 4:29 pm
Hi,
I need help, I been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months. Here recently about 2 to 3 weeks ago my boyfriend had left me but we still hung out and was still doing things a couple do but we were broken up, I went a slept with another man.. he’s so devastated and hurt, and I kept lying to him about answer he wanted to know.. and I finally was honest about everything, but he still stays with me!! He never left.. like what is going on? Or how do I gain his trust and everything else??…
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 30, 2016 at 11:43 am
Hi Savvy,
do you want to try the advice above?
Kathy Gill
December 27, 2016 at 4:37 am
Hi! I dated this guy for three and half years, it was a long distance relationship. Everything was amazing. He loved me, and I loved him. We used to fight a lot, but at the same time we used to get back together. I was talking to one of my friends one night and my bf asked me for my snapchat password, without realizing anything I just gave it to him. He checked all my convos, and I had a convo with this guy I sent him nudes.. and we had a dirty talk, but I didn’t knew him he wwas from this site omegle. He asked him certain questions while we were sexting, I lied to him for some things.. Like i have kissed 40 guys.. and had sex even tho I was virgin, and when my boyfriend read that he believed that. In the sexting I mentioned a guy named scott how I had sex with him, but in reality it was he only name that came to my mind and the reason his name came to my mind cause he ate me out forcefully, and after that we never talked and there was no contact. But my bf thinks I had sex and cheated on him all that time. I did everything trie talking calling. texting like billion times, and asking him to forgive him, and I even stopped talking for 3 months.. but nothing changed. I really love him, I need him back. Please help me!
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 29, 2016 at 10:40 am
Hi kathy,
even if you didnt talk for 3 months, did you do the advice above? did you erase that guy from your contacts? did you improve yourself?
log
December 18, 2016 at 10:31 am
I am 19 and my ‘ex’boyfriend is 20. We r from the same school . We got together on the 1st September. He was the best I could say, he made me happy and I made him happy. It was all good. Until one day one of the guy that I considered my friend asked me for my nudes. I had to send because he had challenged me that he will rape my sister and I dirty chatted abit too . This guy raped me when I was 18 and we were from the same school too. At first I didn’t realise I was raped. It hit me when my boyfriend said I cheated on him and he wanted to break up. The friend guy have molested me too. I had sex with him twice and the first time was kinda forced and second time I let it happen. After that he molested me quite many times. He threaten me saying he will rape my sister. It all happened like quite a long time ago. Being a mega stupid I am, didn’t realise things until I have to lose my boyfriend. My ‘ex’boyfriend wanted to apply the no contact rule thingy and I agreed too. But we could only last for 3 days and after that my ex texted me saying he can’t stay away from me and he wants to be friends with me. I agreed for that too. We still go out to eat and spend time together without his friends knowing cuz they are mad at me for cheating on their friend. My ‘ex’bf still wants to have sex with me and me too. But he says there is no way for us to get back together in future because it will never be the same and he says he don’t want another girl in future and he don’t want me to have sex with anyone else. I am trying to tell my heart that I will never get him back but then somewhere in a corner there is a small hope sticking on saying I will get him back. Can I get him back?
What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 21, 2016 at 12:08 pm
Hi Log,
was the guy that took advantage of yoy, your schoolmate too? Report him first.. set aside your ex and put yourself first. Tell it yo your parents.
Sandy
December 17, 2016 at 5:40 pm
So me and my ex were together for 2 years and a half and recently he moved out because he said he couldn’t stop thinking about what I did to him. He also got fed up with other stuff in my house since we lived with my family and inside my tiny room. He said he needs space and a break from our relationship. In the beginning of our relationship I cheated on him with my back then ex because he was being suicidal and emotional and I felt bad and let my emotions control me. I do feel horrible about it and did cut communication with him after what I did. My ex found out and wanted to leave but something always stopped him. I stopped talking to all my friends for 2 years and was so focused on my ex but I guess it wasn’t enough. After the break up we still kept seeing each other and slept together 2 times. My friend told me to stop seeing him so I did. It’s about to be a week now of no contact. He still has a lot of his stuff in my room and I’m sure if he contacts me it’s going to be for his stuff…my friend wants me to meet her boyfriends friend just so I can start dating and get my mind off my ex but I don’t know if I can do this….I love my ex so much. Last time I saw my ex he looked so dirty and stressed. We had a great time that day and I’m hoping this break up really makes us stronger and brings us closer. I’m just so sad and I’m even losing weight from not eating… 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 21, 2016 at 12:39 am
HI Sandy,
Nobody can really help you but you. We can only give advices, but you’re the only one who can make yourself better. I don’t think you should date yet. Heal and improve yourself independently first.
Elle
December 17, 2016 at 11:39 am
I unintentionally cheated on my boyfriend. It was a complete misunderstanding between two friends.
My boyfriend was so horrible to me when we had an argument, he told me he was done, so I thought he had broken up with me, I was going to wait and see if he had calmed down in the morning, but I still thought he hated me, and didn’t want me anymore. A friend asked me if I wanted to come over as he knew I was struggling with my depression as I thought my boyfriend and I were over. My friend and I were chatting and joking around and he was trying to cheer me up, yes there was a bit of flirting but that’s just what I’m like. We were joking around about having sex with people from work (they are mostly all old men) and each other as We knew it would never happen, well I didn’t think it would happen, but he asked me and I said yes without thinking, i thought that he was Weill joking around and not being serious at all! I honestly don’t know why I agreed, i was in such a bad place, was really emotional and didn’t really know what was going on, and thought it was all a joke. I had no idea that he had purposefully moved my shorts as I still thought he was joking even though I said yes, I thought I was an accident when he moved. he went to penetrate me whilst I was lying down on my side, and as soon as he put the tip in I told him to stop because I have a boyfriend and could never do that to him. I don’t know why I let myself get into that position, and I have no idea why I said yes, all I know is that I was so upset and worried that I had lost my boyfriend that I wasn’t thinking, and I thought it was a joke. And I didn’t know how to tell my boyfriend so I didn’t tell him for a month and now that I have because I thought he would understand, all he sees it as is that I knowingly cheated on him and that I lied to him. He broke up with me and doesn’t want to even try and forgive me. I’m such an idiot! I’ve lost the love of my life because of one stupid mistake!
i know i was in the wrong And I should never have gone round there and thought that hanging out with a guy is possible! ive tried to sort things with him, but hes so angry that he isnt interested, i dont know how to show him that he can trust me and how sorry i am, he needs to know that im not going doing it again, and I will never let myself be in that position ever again! I’m not even going to have male friends anymore unless they are gay! and i will happily tell him and show him where i am all the time, and i will happily show him who ive been talkng to. ive deleted and blocked the person who it happened with, so that they cant have any contact with me again, and ive requested that i dont work with him anymore. i just dont know how to show him he can trust me, and with going back to uni it is going to be so hard, but to me its worth it. if only he will let me try.
My (ex) boyfriend only sees it as I cheated on him as I let ‘another man sleep with me’ and he seems me as I liar because I didn’t tell him for a moth because just didn’t know how! And when I did tell him, I wasn’t completely honest and I didn’t tell him the whole story. I made myself seem more like a victim that I actually was. And I know I shouldn’t have done that but I panicked! I have told him the whole story now and I know it’s going to be really hard for him to forgive me.
I love him more than anything and just want to have him back. The whole thing is a complete misunderstanding.
Will he ever forgive me? And in time learn to trust me again? And will he ever give me a second chance?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 20, 2016 at 10:39 pm
Hi Elle,
He’s not going to for now because he’s still angry. Give him time. Aside from the advice above, I think you should check these other ones too:
EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)
Jazmin
November 26, 2016 at 7:54 pm
November 26, 2016
I am 20 years old my ex is 18. When we got together I was 19 and he 17. When we meet we where both broken and on drugs. We healed each other and jumped into our relationship. About 3 months I cheated. I was not physically pleased and was scared of letting anyone close because i didnt want to be hurt. we worked threw it though (or so i thought) but he never trusted me again. Our relationship lasted over a year. On the 22nd he picked me up from work and was very distressed. On the way home he told me he was leaving. He couldn’t take thinking about me cheating anymore. I lost it. I didn’t understand because he told me he was over it that it didn’t bother him anymore. He said he still loves me but he has to work this out. He said he may come back but he doesn’t know. im living with this hope but at times i feel its in vain. i just need advise because im slowly losing my mind in pain and sorrow and im scared that ive lost him forever. we see each other everyday because he takes me to and from work but im not sure this is helpfull but at the same time i have no other way there. he stil keeps a key to our appartment and he says he wants to remain friends but i dont know how to reach out or if i even should. Help please.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 28, 2016 at 11:54 am
HI Jazmin,
There would be no restart if you kept seeing each other.. What about commuting? Staying near work? Uber? It’s not a guarantee that no contact rule will work, but you’ve been seeing each other for a while after the cheating incident and it didn’t help right? So, doing the same thing everyday, not changing the situation and not changing yourself, will not help you..
Jennifer
November 17, 2016 at 10:35 pm
Hi,
My now ex & I have been together for over 2 years. We had a rough patch about 4 months ago that lasted for around 2 months. During this time, he would say things to me like, “we are both single. This is done.” Etc. and we would take short hiatuses from not speaking. But we would always come back into each other’s lives.
During one of the times we were not talking, I went on a date with a male friend and. Fast forward to today, my Ex went through my phone last night and found the pictures of this guy and me on a date. We never had sex or did anything Sexual, but my ex doesn’t believe me and is deeply hurt and feels betrayed.
He said he no longer loves me. He explained once he gets played, he’s heartless and he just cares for me. I don’t know if I believe him, because at one point he was very in love with me and vise versa.
Do you think he still loves me and he’s just saying he doesn’t? I am going to apply nc for 21 days. Do you think I can get him back? I really love this man deeply and it’s not worth me losing him over one date.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 20, 2016 at 11:47 am
Hi Jennifer,
I think he’s just emotional.. As long as you cut ties all ties and you know you’re telling the truth then stick to it.. I think both of you need a break too.. So during nc, improve yourself, make a new routine that you will continue after nc
mahnoormahnoorijaz828
November 14, 2016 at 10:03 pm
hey
I am 21years old and my boyfriend is 23years old. we are in a relationship from 2 years. we both never ever cheated on eachother. no matter how many clashes we had to face but we never cheated eachother.
But for 3 days I started to talk to another guy on facebook (i dont know him in real). I dont know why I did that because i truly love my boyfriend. Now on the 3rd day, my guy found out about this. and now he is not trusting me at all. he is thinking that i am lying about every single thing (actually i am not lying). He is so badly hurt because he never ever expected this from me.
How can I rebuild this broken trust? because we want to continue our relationship.
ps: this is a long distance relationship. we meet only sometimes
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 6:52 pm
Hi,
What do you think about the advice above? Aside from that you should check this one too:
This Is How To Make Him Trust You Again
Baylee
November 7, 2016 at 8:06 am
November 7, 2016
Please help me. I know my story will seem like it might not matter since I am so young and I have time to find love later in life and I should focus on school, but there isn’t anything else I want more than to fix things please help me.
I’m 16 and was with a 19 year old guy who had just moved about an hour away. Distance is hard in a relationship, it already felt like he was pushing away from me for some reason. But to the story. I had sneaked out of the house to hang out with some people. Not necessarily friends, but I hadn’t planned anything. We got drunk and one of the guys started making out with me. It wasn’t sexual, just kissing and touching. I won’t say that I didn’t want it, I just didn’t want it from that person. I got into some trouble later that morning with parents since they found out about it. My ex had texted me around that time and I just started apologizing to him for drinking and being involved with police. I didn’t admit to making out with another guy at first. I did later though. He was extremely mad and hurt, which is understandable. He ended things and since then I have texted him to check up on him once. Asking how he was since he was sick. Apparently he had deleted my number because he asked, “Sorry but who is this??” I replied with my name. And he said, “Just fine thanks” I didn’t reply. It’s been about two weeks since my crazy morning of alcohol, texts, phone calls, and tears.
Please, there’s nobody else that I care about this immensely. I need opinions and advice.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 7, 2016 at 8:47 pm
Hi Baylee
do you want to try the advice above?
Kamini
November 4, 2016 at 5:39 pm
We was friends for 8 years. We coupled for one year. And I cheated my ex, I attached with another guy. But I can’t get long him. After one month I still can’t forget my ex. It been one year I don’t contact him. Now recently we’re on contact for few months. He was okay with me at earlier stage.. Just this two months he started to avoid me. He said he already attach with a girl. But I don’t think so. Can u pls help me out from this?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 6, 2016 at 1:41 pm
Hi Kamini,
how were you talking to him these past few months? were you chasing him? how much did you improve since the last time he saw you?
SBMarie
October 26, 2016 at 2:13 am
I have been seeing and dating this man for 10 months we had a breif 2 weeks where we broke up and durin those 2 weeks I slept with another man. And when my bf and me got to get her again he asked if I was with anyone else and I lied. He has recently found out and called everything off what do I do.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 27, 2016 at 7:13 pm
Hi SbMarie,
Well, you have to give him space and time. Are you going to try the advice above?
Hannah
October 25, 2016 at 12:34 pm
Hie there!
I cheated on my boyfriend of about a year and several month with a guy I met at boarding school. My boyfriend was in college and I was in highschool and I got lonely so I ended up enjoying the other guys company. I never kissed him or had sex. We only hugged once and I consider that I cheated because I ended up catching feelings for him.
My boyfriend found out and we decided to stay together after a few problems and struggles. Four years later he asked for the details of me and the other guy and I felt I was ready to tell him,and he lashed out after me telling him everything in detail.
Now he’s said he can never trust me. What should I do??
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 26, 2016 at 6:44 pm
Hi Hannah,
did you cut all contact with the other guy? Do you want to try the advice above?
Nancy
October 24, 2016 at 3:15 pm
Ive been with my bf for 5 yrs. At the beginning of our relationship, which i had no idea where it was going, i was also texting another guy and also my ex husband. Texting my ex husband was never tonget back with him. I was just scared and wanted to keep peace. Nothing ever happened with him. But my bf never believed me because I was hiding the txt. The other guy i was texting was just texting. Never met or kissed or anything. It was purely txt and talk. He forgave me. So i taught. Now 5 yrs in…i did it again. I had an inappropriate affair with our neighbor. Not for sex…but none the less its cheating.
He hasnt technically broke up with me yet. We are still living together in our house. Im not sure what to do? He says he doesnt know what to do. First he said we would work on it but now he isnt sure. Im at a stand still …indont want to lose him. But i completely lost his trust.
Nancy
October 26, 2016 at 10:05 pm
I was lonely. Felt alone and not appreciated. No affection from him unless he felt like providing it. He said its because he didnt trust me fully. But for 4 yrs all i did was love him and put him first. never gave him a reason to doubt me till now. I had a really weak moment and now im paying for it
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 28, 2016 at 7:32 pm
but have you told him that? And, are you going to start trying the advice Chris gave above?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 26, 2016 at 9:42 am
Hi Nancy,
why did you cheat with him this time? Have you told him the reason why? Are you going to do the advice above?
Lorato
October 23, 2016 at 3:27 pm
hey i wont say i cheated but it seems like that ok. me and my boyfriend been dating for almost year few days ago i met a guy on the street and gave him my number because i was running late, later that day we talked and flirted a little bit with this guy and we exchanged pictures and i didnt know that he knows my boyfriend what he did was send my boyfriend my pictures and saying here is my new girlfriend and show my boyfriend those texts. me and this other we are not dating whatsoever. i dont know what to do. i have been trying to speak to him through texts and nothing. i really love my boyfriend
harshita
October 26, 2016 at 9:48 am
I cheated my boyfriend he trust me very badly i had one boy in my life who live next to my house my boyfriend knows him i love my bf very much i introduced him to my parents we both were ready to marry but suddenly he caught me while i talk to the person who love next my house i talk to him bcoz that boy admit sucide for me that was my problm my bf family also knows about the whole case.they are not ready to accept me but i want my bf very badly bcoz he is my life i regret i apologized very much i also said sorry to his family but i dnt knw what to do now i know he still have some fellings for me i spend very very sweet moments wid him and i want him back very badly..PLZ HELP ME I NEED HELP
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 28, 2016 at 11:57 am
Hi Harshita,
do you want to try the advice above?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 25, 2016 at 12:04 pm
Hi Lorato,
yeah, basically for him you cheated.. are you going to follow the advice above?
Sarah
October 17, 2016 at 7:40 pm
hi i cheated on my boyfriend with this boy that i was on and off seeing before my boyfriend asked me out. The boy i cheated with had a girlfriend when i was involved with him but i never did anything physical with him because i felt sorry for his girlfriend as ive been cheated on before and i know how it feels. I really like my boyfriend a lot but i only realised that after i cheated. my boyfriend doesnt know that i have cheated and i dont know if i should tell him or not but there is a possibility that he could find out from someone else. the person i cheated on my boyfriend with is two years younger than me and i didnt want to do anything with him as i wanted to be faithful to my boyfriend but i was more or less forced to cheat by the boys friends. this would be okay but the next day i cheated again with the same boy but this time i wasnt forced. i have no feelings for this boy and i really regret what i did and if i could take it back i would. ive been thinking and thinking why did i do it but i really dont know if im honest. i tried to break up with my boyfriend today but i couldnt bring myself to do it because i really do love him and he really is a nice guy. if he ever does find out i dont think he will ever forgive me and i think he will hate me. i cant stay away from him either because we see each other everyday at school and i just really dont know what to do and i would be really grateful for some help.
harshita
October 26, 2016 at 9:54 am
Plz help me
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 28, 2016 at 11:57 am
Hi Harshita,
do you want to try the advice above?
Sarah
October 19, 2016 at 7:25 pm
Yes, i kissed the other boy but i dont know if i should tell my boyfriend i cheated or not
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 21, 2016 at 3:50 pm
if you tell him, prepare to face the consequences..
If you dont tell him, hope that he doesnt find out in another way..and of he does, it’s still the same, you still have to face the consequences..
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 7:28 pm
Hi Sarah
so how did you cheat? you kissed the other boy? do you want to try what’s advised above?