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shililah
February 19, 2015 at 11:01 pm
i want my boyfriend back he is also the father of my child he cheated then i cheated his current gf came to the hospital while our son was trying to be admitted for a fever i went haywire attacked him and her my child was there but aslp being watched by his aunt my sister…. things seem to be heading to the pits i miss him so much and i wish i could take all this back
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:41 pm
Well, was your cheating a retaliation to his cheating?
Jen
February 18, 2015 at 3:51 pm
I know i cheated on him by kissing my best friend. But i love him and want him to stay. I didn’t contact him again after the initial call the morning after. 3days later he sent a text saying the kids are gone (they spend bi weekends with him and were with him for that weekend) and i can come pick my things. But he still added that i remember to take the gifts he had for my parents with me. I didn’t respond to the text or call him. Next day he sends d same text i didn’t respond still. The day after he sends the gifts to my parents home. i was on my way back home to our place that day when i got a call from my mom on my way that they received the gifts. He hadn’t changed the locks nor packed my stuff together when i got to our place. Everything was the way i left it. He comes back home late and i try to talk to him and apologize as this is the first time we’re seeing after the incident. He was receptive to me but remained adamant about the relationship being over because he no longer trusts me and doesn’t feel safe with me. Especially because my bestfriend in question is someone he has a professional relationship with and he felt so embarrassed by it. He kept looking for reassurance but still maintained his position about the end of things. He didn’t ask me to leave. And during our talk we still shared a couple of laughs. I know he’s very hurt by my actions and he insists the relationship is over but hasn’t done anything drastic to get rid of me. Its his house so he can. I slept on the couch and this morning we had a revisit of the issue before he left for work where he maintained that he can’t forgive me. He says he loves me more than anything but does not know how he can live like this because i haven’t made him the centre of my world. What can i do to regain his trust? Do i leave and give him time to heal? Do i stay and prove to him he really is the centre of my world? I don’t want to leave because that’s what he expects me to do as he always says that i haven’t demonstrated my loyalty to him and I’m quick to turn my back and emotions on the relationship at the slightest thing. Pls tell me what to do. I really love him and realize my mistakes and i want to regain his confidence in me
admin
February 18, 2015 at 10:01 pm
Well, your best friend… If he is in the picture then I don’t see your ex coming back…
Jenna Hartley
February 17, 2015 at 3:13 pm
So i was in a relationship with the guy who took my purity. He played me in the beginning by having sex with me then saying he didnt want a relationship but went and got into one with another girl. Every time he saw me he couldn’t keep his eyes off of me and was always complimenting me and trying to get me to text him. Long story short he ended up with me. We were perfectly happy together, we met each others family, went to church every sunday together, stayed together 24/7 then he joined the army. He was in basic writing me letters trying to marry me. I freaked out and my best guy friend (also in his own relationship) started paying attention to me and buying me things. I went to his house 1 time and he pushed to have sex. I said no countless times but gave into it. I have regretted it since. I couldn’t lie to my boyfriend anymore so I told him and because I would have wanted him to tell me and repent about it. Well hes been in basic since and he ignored my letters. He called me. But won’t speak about it because he sees me in person in just 2 days. He says he still loves me and forgives me but that he doesn’t care anymore and we will discuss this in person. What do I do? How do I win him back? He used to adore me. Weve been together for 2 years and I have done everything he ask of me. I completely cut off my friend I cheated with. He went from trying to marry me to not even discussing the situation but telling me to calm down its okay. What does this mean?
admin
February 18, 2015 at 9:20 pm
You cheated… he is obviously very hurt.
Have you attempted any form of NC at all yet?
He may need time to heal without you constantly badgering him…
Cheryl
February 17, 2015 at 9:33 am
So my ex told me he needed to be alone And he pushed me away for about a month and I felt abandend and all cause I’d been giving him his space but also while trying to help. So I slept with this other guy which I totally regretted afterwards but anyway I told my ex and he got really angry and all and then he ended it with me. And then one day out of the blue he was “like the sad part is I still like you ” and then I asked him to take be back and he said he was with someone else… And now I want him back note this happens over the space of a month please help
reemah
February 15, 2015 at 10:41 pm
Hi, I’m not actually cheating on my bf of 9yrs ,buh I’m starting to have feelings for my best male friend which has never apuned before. I made sure me nd my best friend kissed today(well… It’s jz lip contact. Wat do I do? Thanks in anticipation
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:47 pm
Well, technically since you kissed your “friend” you cheated on your boyfriend.
natalie
February 15, 2015 at 4:47 pm
i cheated on the love of my life, it was a two year relationship. long distance. he exposed me with personal videos, he got all my friends against me . but i cant go on without him, this website is great and i will do everything it says but is there any other way idk i need help i am going crazy. i did it because i didnt feel loved and appriciated and i told him so many times
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:44 pm
Hmm..
How much was he ignoring you or making you feel unappreciated?
ann
February 15, 2015 at 9:56 am
I cheated on my boyfriend with a married man ,i told him the truth,and I did this because I love him so much, and we were having a heart to heart talk and now he is really mad @ me,he is very disappointed, he says he has forgiven me but to live with it in his head is his problem, I really love him and I don’t want him to go,he is the one who disvirgined me ,the thing with the other guy was a mistake,now he says he wants space, and all this are new to me,i feel we can come back but at the same time I also feel we can’t..pls what should I do bcos I kip wondering when this space will end…we have been dating for a year now and this is our greatest challenge
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:35 pm
Wait, you love your boyfriend or the married man?
Jen
February 15, 2015 at 8:22 am
My boyfriend of 8 yrs saw me a couple of days ago kissing a junior colleague of his. The guy in question us also my bestfriend and boss. He’s been my confidant and advises me on my relationship. There’s been issues regarding my friendship with him but I assured my boyfriend that it was nothing more than friendship. I know I have been too emotionally involved with my bestfriend. He gets me and connects with me on a level that no one else does. He has faith in me. I know he’s in love with me and I love him too as a friend. But I love my boyfriend, he’s an amazing man. He recently got separated, we were dating 6yrs before hus marriage ended and I moved in with him. That night, I went to talk to my bestfriend and spend some time with him because I had an argument with my boyfriend and he wasn’t speaking to me for 4 days because of it..He was out of town and I went to spend d days with my folks. He had seen me talking to a friend in my car when I went out with my girlfriends and he got mad. I don’t blame him because we’ve had trust issues but he’s stayed with me regardless. I have trust issues with him too. Anyway, things got a little emotional between me and my bestfriend and I kissed him and my boyfriend saw this. I didn’t run after him,I went back to my brothers house and just as I got there I got a text saying to move out of d house d next day and drop d keys. I tried calling him a few times that night and the next day, my mom called him and my sister too. He doesn’t want to speak with me. It was valentine’s 2days after and I sent him d gift I had for him and something for his kids too. I just stumbled on this site and didn’t know about the NC rule. I’m due to go back to work in a few days and my work bag is at our place…I don’t know if he has changed d locks. If he has, how do I do NC if I have to get my work stuff? If he hasn’t, do I enter while he’s away at work and get my work stuff without a word? Also, do I move my things out or do I leave them there while I’m away at work for 3weeks? This is such a confusing situation. I know he’s so hurt because the guy in question is his mentee. He must feel humiliated. What do I do? I’ve tried talking to him about my emotional needs but he’s always so defensive and refuses to acknowledge them. I’m an emotional being but he is more of a physical person. I found an ear in my bestfriend and I regret things had to get this way but I realize that the nature of relationship I had with my bestfriend was setting me up for this. Please advise
grace
February 13, 2015 at 12:28 pm
Hello, this i going to be a long text please read completely and help me!!
I’m 22 and iam in relationship with my boyfriend since 5 years in between due to some reasons we dint spoke for 7months at that time i have a guy friend as we were friends since long but he was very game minded which i realised recently he was like friend only from the beginning but again he said he had crush on me the first mistake of mine is though i know he has feelings towards me i spoke with him and we used to hangout but really i dint had any feelings towards him i still then treated him as a friend he also knows that i love my boyfriend he is very intelligent that he trapped me and i don’t know how being a stupid and immature i somehow attracted towards him and hanged out together but that was very short period say 1month and later i realised what the hell am i doing this is not right and i warned him completely that i don’t love him and get lost and don’t contact me! That happened long ago about a year back and immediately i missed my boyfriend so much that i texted him and again we started talking but my biggest mistake was i dint tell him that all this happened all i did was i realised and by myself made a decision that i love my boyfriend this i not right he loves me so much too and now, 3 days ago the guy friend of mine texted my boyfriend and told him that i was almost in a relationship with him and i cheated both of them i was a gamer and my boyfriend need to know that this is what he said.. And he sent few images of mine and him to my boyfriend which were casual only its not like how me and my bf click. My friend He was back of my boyfriend and made a conference call to me and started askin me why did i cheat him i dint knew that my boyfriend was on call i said him i don’t love u i love my boyfriend im very sincere towards him now please don’t irritate me this is what i said he asked me same question i dint had answr later my boyfriend said me don’t call me again i was shocked where did he come from after he disconnected the call my frnd said me “you are screwed bitch getlost ur bf was on conference” i broke down then and there.. That retard friend of mine he is very criminal minded he ruined my life now my boyfriend broke down completely and he said “i trusted u so much i dint expect this from u.. U cheated me please don’t contact me ever agin this is over leave me alone” who knows except me that i loved him so much that is why i stopped talking to him and was genuine to my boyfriend!! i know i did a mistake i know. My mistake was i din tell him i had a fear that where ill loose him.. I only know that I’ve realized and stopped talking and meeting him and sincerely continued my relationship with my boyfriend!! Im unable to tell my bf now he’s not ready to listen my words.. But i love him so much I broke down completely too. I hurt him i broke his trust and i feel like i lost him now i think he’s not gonna take me back again!! I was stupid why the hell did i hang out with that bastard he’s really back of my happiness i don’t know what to do i feel like dying without him!! I tried calling him i said him sorry it all happened unexpectedly but he wasn’t ready to listen to any of my words! I can’t be without him.. Please help me i want him in my life! I can’t imagine my life without him.. What to do
You might be thinking what type of immature or stupid kind of girl am I. idk why i feel am very bad and characterless the way my guy friend abused me is really bad and i can’t digest those words.. A silent conference call seriously?? That is really heart breaking..! I only know what am i going through and my boyfriend he is heart broken too i can’t see him like that and he was crying in the call itself i feel so ashamed that i made him cry… I don’t know what to do im mentally broke down completely i became a patient.. all i can say is i really love him and im very sincere about him and i can do anything for him!! Please help me.. I’ve seen ur website it was helpful for many girls ill be happy if u could help me too!!
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:48 pm
The guy friend that caused the issues…
Did you ever kiss him or anything like that?
grace
February 17, 2015 at 2:56 pm
hmm yea! just romance not sex but when i understood that i cant feel for someone else as i feel for my bf i then realised myself and i regret but later after many months this creates a problem what do i do??
cait
February 13, 2015 at 10:00 am
during the NC period, if he texts me, should i ignore him completely? what if he asks why i didnt reply? wont i look like an asshole? im the one who cheated. what if my ex give me signals that he wants me back before 30 days NC?
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:41 pm
Yup ignore completely.
lee
February 13, 2015 at 9:52 am
hey before i do NC on my bf, should i let him assume that i will wait for him and i still want him or let him know im with some other guy (the guy i cheat with). i told him that the guy i cheat with wants to be with me so bad and that i can leave my ex anytime but i didnt wanna do that cos i still want to be with my ex. is that good?
lee
February 13, 2015 at 9:59 am
and during the NC, if he texts me, should i ignore him completely? what if he asks why i didnt reply? wont i look like an asshole? im the one who cheated. what if my ex give me signals that he wants me back before 30 days NC?
Rosa
February 11, 2015 at 5:35 am
Hi there!
I broke up with my boyfriend few hours ago… of course I understand is way too soon to get him back. However, I need to build a ”get him back” plan ASAP. I read your instructions, and Im sure I can do it, but the thing is that we both live together.. And he told me he was moving out.. We both now that is going to take some time because he is not in the best economic situation, so we gotta keep being roomates. What strategy do I apply here? I appreciate your help.
admin
February 11, 2015 at 2:14 pm
Have you read the rest of this website outside of this particular article?
StephanieR
February 11, 2015 at 4:03 am
Hello.
Need advice, so i messed up, i was ferling ignored, and i exchanged inappropriate emails with a guy friend. My bf, babys dad found them( went thru my Email) we broke up.
He has a new GF now, he seems very happy with his new relationship, i cried, begged, threatened (obviously before i knew about NC) he says its possible that we could get back together some day, we have a kid together and see eachother for the exchanges. We dont talk, i. Feel miserable. I wanted to get his attention, not disrupt our family. He has no interest in me t seems. He is a way better bf to this new girl, than he was to me.
admin
February 11, 2015 at 2:09 pm
How inappropriate were the emails?
What are we dealing with here?
StephanieR
February 12, 2015 at 3:23 am
Nude pics. Yikes! With a guy i worked with. I just politley asked him not to text me anymore, i really wanted this to work with him and I. But its not. I just want to let go of the hope. Move on. Feel better. But im still really sad, about all of this.
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:04 pm
Ya… that is pretty inappropriate…
I would be crushed if I was in his position but NC is probably the way to go.
You will always have an in with him since you two share a child together.
Michele
February 9, 2015 at 5:06 am
I’ve been doing the NC rule for about 3 days now. However, I was at the library and I happened to be sitting next to people he knew so he said hi to me then sat down 2 seats down from me and was talking to them about their plans after they got out and also studying. I wasn’t making glances at him, I think he might’ve made a couple but I’m not entirely sure. He texted me “nice to see you”. I responded because I was right next to him and I didn’t want to come across as pissed at him. He sent a couple messages back to me so it was maybe 5 or 6 total. I ignored the last one, but this sounds a lot like he’s really just trying to be a friend and nothing more:/ when we stopped talking he said he wanted to be friends and that he wasn’t mad just really hurt. does this sound like a friendzone to you too and do yu think there is still any kind of chance?
irene
February 8, 2015 at 1:26 pm
hi chris so i broke up with my boyfriend 5 days ago. today was supposed to be our 23rd month together. we’ve been through long distance relationship for 6 months. he visits me every 2 months. i made out with another guy while he was gone and i told his friend about it (this friend was also my bestfriend thats why). he came back only to spend time with me cos he cant come for our anniversary so he thought he could at least come for vals day although he still has work there. when he just came back here, his friend directly told him everything and we broke up. he was so sweet before he found out but hes so mean to me now.
2 days ago i met him for the first time and i cried. i cried everyday and i called him 24/7 i told him that i love him so much and i want him back and i didnt have contact with the guy i cheated on anymore but he told me that we should just be friends. he ignored me the whole time and he spend most of his precious time here doing useless stuff that he hates just so he dont have to come to my house. that day i had sex with him again. he told me he love me but after he dropped me home, i texted him and he said that he was only using me for sex.
tomorrow im going to meet him. he’s gonna stay here for another week and probably gonna be back next month. he told me today he was gonna come to my house but he cancelled, he said he was lazy and went go out with his friends, he was also flirting with some girl. what should i do now? is it to late for the 30 days no contact rule? cos i spammed him for this last 5 days begging him to come back to me. PLEASE HELP ME ITS URGENT
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:33 pm
Have you done NC on him?
irene
February 10, 2015 at 12:19 pm
not at all but i slept over at the hotel with him yesterday and we had a lot of fun. it felt like we were back together again. he even told me he got the old feelings back. he kissed me a lot of times but i told him dont use me and he stopped he said he just missed me. but in the end i was the one who made him wanna have sex. this morning when i was having breakfast with him he left me alone because he remembered that i cheated.
in the end he told me to do some stuff to the guy i cheated on (get his nudes so he can spread it and make fun of him) to earn his trust but he still asks for some time. its for sure he’ll come back to me he said but he doesnt know when. but he said he wants to keep on living with me like yesterday in 6 months(he used to plan on moving here for me in june)
what should i do now? should i NC him? or just do as he says? he told me that we should chat and call everyday but we shouldnt meet until he forgets everything
admin
February 10, 2015 at 4:20 pm
Nc.
irene
February 11, 2015 at 4:04 am
i didnt nc him but i kindaa ignored him. he replied me faster and longer but then ignored me back. what if he wants to get back with me in a few days? should i still nc him for 30 days?
Michele
February 7, 2015 at 12:26 pm
Hello. So basically this part isn’t important to me at all but I’m a cheerleader and my boyfriend is the starting QB on our football team. The second part doesn’t really matter but I just threw it in there. I was dating him for 3 months and our relationship was absolutely amazing, our cheer team and basketball team went away for 3 days and our hotel was crazy it was really like a movie about colleges where everyone was drinking and we were the only girls in the hotel and everyone would come to our rooms and hook up or more. It was 5am the last night and I had managed to avoid drinking and hooking up with anyone. then the star basketball player comes in my room whom I have no attraction to. He starts saying are you going to bless me as in with a bj I said noo and he starrs kissing me. we kiss probably for a minute but it was 3 kisses so prob like less and I start saying my boyfriend’s name and pushing him off me. Nobody knew about it so I didn’t tell anyone I get back from the trip and my boyfriend knowing all the girls cheated asked if I did I lied and said no thinking I could keep it a secret. A month later the secret has eaten me up alive I was on facetime with my boyfriend he jokingly said why did you cheat and I got serious and confessed what I did he hung up saying he needed time to think about it. He called back the next day to break up with me, he even cried. I kept telling him I would regajn his trust and to be honest I probably have been overwhelming him trying to get him back, he said we can be best friends but every night it turns into me trying to convince him I would never cheat again. I literally have ended up in the hospital due to the stress my body has been under. people are starting to find out and it’s making it harder on trying to get him back. he says he doesnt date cheaters and I just don’t know what to do because that was the worst mistake and I could never be capable of it again. please help me get my love back.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:05 pm
Well, you shouldn’t have cheated…
That is never good.
Nevertheless, we are here to try to improve your situation. Please tell me you haven’t begged for him back?
Michele
February 17, 2015 at 1:04 pm
I did at first for almost two weeks then I gave him space and let him have time to want to come back and after just 3 days of me not begging he said he was highly considering getting back then he hangs out with one of his shitty friends and calls telling me to fuck off and stuff and 2 days later he calls saying how he still cares about me and is undecided again
Michele
February 7, 2015 at 12:27 pm
woah sorry for all the run on sentences and lack of comma usage, I didn’t read over my entry.
Mel
February 7, 2015 at 8:24 am
I’m in an odd situation. I cheated on my boyfriend with his friend and he knew and stayed with me. I was planning on breaking it off, but I suppose he amazed me with the fact that he stayed with me and i was really scared of hurting him. I couldn’t bring myself to do it. The boy i cheated with started avoiding me at school and just stopped talking to me altogether. After three more months of being in an incompatible relationship with this boy, I finally had the courage to break up with him. I still love the boy i cheated with but he hasn’t spoken to me since. Even if i could get him back as a friend it would be so much better than what’s happening now.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:59 pm
Well, when was the last time you talked to this guy?
Mel
February 28, 2015 at 12:42 am
the end of september
Michele
February 6, 2015 at 4:53 pm
Me and this guy, let’s call him John, have been talking and seeing each other for about 5 months. It never became official but everyone, including ourselves, knew we wanted to take it there. He’s never been in a relationship before but I knew for myself personally I was really nervous to get in a relationship again because my last one was terrible. I was cheated on, talked down to, and it was constant fighting. I was being insecure even though I knew deep down John really cared about me and would never do that to me. He hinted at the fact that he wouldn’t go out and try to hook up with girls anymore and he told me a 2-3 weeks ago twice that he was in love with me, and I know he meant that. However, because of how scared and insecure I was, I was not ready to be 100% unless I knew for sure he would first. Over the winter he left the country for about a month and didn’t talk to me through phone obviously, but not facebook either. Of course, I got insecure and I screwed up twice. I had to meet up with my ex to get money I lent him, and we ended up having sex. I’m not in love with him and definitely don’t want a relationship with him, I just went back to what I was comfortable with and I regretted it as soon as it happened, not even for his sake but for my own. This happened again about 2 weeks later. John found text messages my ex sent me. He didn’t talk to me at all for 3 days when I bumped into him and he told me he was going to wait another week to send me this long letter he wrote and so he could also get over me. I waited for him until late at night to talk to him again, to apologize, to try and make him understand how much he meant to me. He wasn’t angry but I know I screwed up big time, even if we weren’t officially together and monogamous. He told me he wants to eventually be friends and that he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore. He says once he makes a decision he’s pretty set in his ways, but from my own experience with my ex I was deeply hurt, but I didn’t want the relationship any less because I was still in love. He called my twice that night to make sure I made it back to my car and then to talk about it some more when I got home. I told him I don’t want to lose him and he felt the same. Do you think he’s just trying to convince himself he’s over me, or does him talking to me and wanting to be friends mean it will be easier for him than I thought?
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:47 pm
He probably is trying to convince himself of that… He isn’t over you though.
Michele
February 9, 2015 at 5:36 pm
I was actually the one at the library before. So last night I dropped his friend off home then him. Before he got out the car he asked to talk to me so I parked. He said he felt it was stupid to not talk to me because he didn’t like that. He said he was over what I did (not entirely sure what that means) but he wanted to be straight with me and that he didn’t see himself being in a relationship with me for a long time. But then he said he wanted to hang out tomorrow. I said of course but then he asked to just sit in my car for a little and talk. We did that and started holding hands and leaning on each other, then he asked me to sleep over. I said maybe that’s not such a good idea and he said no I want you to. So I slept over and it felt like nothing ever happened. Even in the morning, he was cuddling me and when we left we hugged goodbye and he still gave me a kiss on the cheek. I know this is completely breaking the rule, but do yu think that will do me harm at this point?
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:26 pm
I think you need to wait a bit to see the effect it had.
See if he reaches out.
Wait for him to contact first.
Michele
February 10, 2015 at 9:30 pm
well I texted him first the next day just to say it was nice to talk to you. so we talked for a while and he asked me to stay over again. at this point i know he still wants to be with me but he is still saying he doesn’t. you think i should do NC for a full month at this point?
Ashley
February 6, 2015 at 2:48 pm
I had been seeing this guy for about 4-5 months. We never actually got to the point of being official but everyone knew we wanted to be. He’s never been in a relationship before but I know for me I was so nervous of being in a relationship again after my last boyfriend because of how bad it was (I did get cheated on) and how bad it ended. So even though I really liked him and wanted to be with him I wasn’t willing to be 100% committed until we were in that relationship. It sounds dumb but I was really insecure about it and I didn’t want to get my heart broken. Over winter break he left the country for about a month and didn’t talk to me over facebook or anything, so of course I got insecure again. I needed to meet up with my ex to get some money I lent him, but we ended up having sex. I’m not in love with him anymore, but because I was scared I went back to what I was used to. A couple weeks later the same thing happened. The new guy found text messages from my ex and told me he just couldn’t be with me. He wasn’t angry when he told me but he was obviously really hurt. He’s told me twice a couple weeks ago that he was in love with me and I know he meant it. He told me once he makes up his mind he’s pretty set in his ways and that he doesn’t feel the same about me after finding that out. He told me right after he’d like to eventually be friends. He also called me twice that night, the first to see if I made it to my car and the second to talk about things a little more. I told him I didn’t want to lose him and he felt the same. I know he’s really hurt, and has a right to feel that way, but at least from my personal experience you don’t just get over someone youre in love with like that. So even though we weren’t officially dating and monogamous and it had only been 5 months, do you think him telling me he still wants me to be around means I might have a chance again or that he can easily get over me?
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:40 pm
So, you cheated on your current boyfriend with your ex (even though you werent official?)
Just making sure I have this right.
Emma
February 5, 2015 at 8:37 pm
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 27 months. I am madly in love with him and really could see a future with him. About 6 months ago I started talking to another guy and seeing this guy and eventually doing things with this guy. I felt guilt for it but obviously not enough if I kept this going and hid it from my boyfriend. Well 6 nights ago the other guy texted my boyfriend telling him how I deserve so much better than him. My boyfriend wanted to know who this was. I lied at first saying I didn’t know who it was, feeling betrayed the other guy would give us away. Eventually I told my boyfriend who it was. I told him we texted and hung out 5 times. My boyfriend wanted a break from me. After persuading him to get back with me for 2 days, he did. The other guy then texted my boyfriend and told him we did more. I was forced to tell my boyfriend everything. Weight is lifted off my shoulders but now he sees me as a liar and cheater and is completely done with this relationship. He doesn’t understand because he is not the type of guy to ever do this to me. I feel horrible and that it was not worth it all. All I want is for him back and I swear I will never do this again. I think I did it in the first place because he became distant and ignored me and took me forgranted over winter break at college. There should be no excuses though. I read in your article what to do to try and get him back. Avoiding him for a month is not an option because we have all of our classes together at college and I give him rides because he doesn’t have a car. We are also assigned in the same group in classes. We have shared everything throughout college. Even friends. What is your advice on what to do in our situation?
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:10 pm
Question, why did you start with this other guy? Was your (now) ex not giving you something in the relationship?
Emma
February 7, 2015 at 3:50 am
I’m not entirely sure why I started with this other guy. Possibly because he wasn’t giving me the attention I wanted over winter break and this other guy was. It made me feel special and it was exciting.