How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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Qimmah

January 7, 2015 at 7:50 pm

I have been with my boyfriend for three years and today (01/07/15) he have caught me in my house with an ex of mine from my past in my bedroom on my bed, me and my ex didn’t have sex nor was we planning to have sex, however he was comfortable on my bed with his short off and the only reason he was there is because I have ask of him for some money and he had came over and to give it to me, and as unsaid to my boyfriend now ex I’ve told my ex from the past to put back on his shirt, by now at this time he have seen him laying on my bed with his shirt off and from there I know it was over and I was done. I would like to know if my ex can forgive and if something that we can workout and come back from an know it will hard work and not easy but I’m willing to do the work and show actions. Please help I fucked up and I feel like I listed the love of my life!!!!

admin

January 19, 2015 at 3:01 pm

…. ok, you obviously see how this looks.

Alisha

January 6, 2015 at 11:44 am

I cheated on my boyfriend because I pretty much gave up on him. I worked for 5 years trying to make the relationship work and for him to realize how good of a girl I am. I got tired of trying and him not putting any effort in and things happened. After all that, we still have communication as friends but only because he says that he cares for me and that’s why he is continuing to keep contact with me. There are times where we argue about the past or I am feeling upset about what I did and when I want to talk to him about it then it turns into a 3-hour long argument. I want him back badly but he’s telling me that there is only 1% chance of him wanting to be with me in the future and how it also depends on if he can forget the past. We have even laid out the option of him being with the opposite sex and it’s hard on me because he said that he’s not going to do it until I give the okay. I don’t want to be selfish and say no but I can’t get myself to say yes because all my life I will blame myself for this outcome and what if the person he sleeps with becomes something more? I mean he said that even if he sleeps with the opposite sex it doesn’t mean that we would get back together right away, it would depend on how he feels about wanting to be back with me or not. I am going mental everyday and I don’t know what to do. I know I am a strong person but in this situation I am breaking down little by little. Whatever I do for him is not adding into his consideration for me and it’s hurting that I would never do so much for another guy as much as I did for him.
Please help me!

admin

January 6, 2015 at 2:12 pm

Have you told him about it at all?
Alisha

January 6, 2015 at 5:50 pm

Told him about what? How I feel about everything…I have tried to talk to him about it and it’ll just become a 3 hour argument or he’ll somehow make it about him and his feelings.
admin

January 7, 2015 at 5:25 am

Ok, give me an example of how you approach these conversations that set him off?

Brianna

January 6, 2015 at 4:15 am

Im going to sound like a horrible person, my ex boyfriend, and I started dating on valentines day, last year. I know, it sounds cliché’, but its true. We met over Face book, from a friend of my , from high school, who actually, ended up being in his unit, they worked together in the Army. We started talking , a week after Christmas and were hooked. We talked everyday, sometimes all day, and then finally lead into skyping. Finally in February, he was able to come down on leave, with our friend. We had an amazing time. he came back down again in March and we spent more time together, we were comepetely crazy about eachother. I have had my fair share of “bad guys” as wells as a cheating ex husband, and I couldn’t find one bad bone, in this guys body. he was attentive, loving, funny, smart, a little shy, but very sweet. my daughter loved him, even my parents. I felt like I had found “the one”.. I was absoutly in love with him. we had one or two arguments that I can remember and that was it. When I found out he was getting deployed over seas, that’s when I got scared, he got stressed, and we still talked, but it was like, all we ever talked about was the deployment, and what I would do if something happened to him. It became emotionally exhausting and I was terrified of having him leave. I started having dreams , of getting phone calls that he had been shot, or hit by an IED. al the while… I had a guy friend, who I talked to when I was stressed about it. He was with me one night, when my ex and I had a fight and I was drunk. My friend was going through a divorce and was rather attached to me. he said I deserved better and tried to comfort me but I told him to leave, because he didn’t understand the emotional strain of having someone you love diploy, and we were just stressed. flash forward , two months, I had moved into a new apartment and my ex and I were still together. things were still great, the fighting had stopped, but I felt like I needed him more, and I started feeling the distance, eventhough, he was talking about coming to visit me again , in a few months. I got scared because my ex husband was a Marine, and really SCREWED ME OVER. I still had my guy friend, and he and I had been spending more tome together, and I noticed, I started thinking about him more, and taking notice on how much fun we had, and how well our kids got along. I kept pushing the thoughts away because I knew I was with my boyfriend, and I knew I was emotionally stressed. This one fateful night, I had just talked with my now ex boyfriend and I was making dinner. After I had been off the phone for a while, I heard a knock, and I opened my door and it was my friend. He brought over movies and a ton of alcohol. I laughed , and he said, “thought you might want a house warming party”, we had fun, blared my music, danced in my living room, (not together) just in general dancing and When I looked at the clock, I had been drinking for a full four straight hours. I couldn’t stand, the walls were spinning and I felt like I was going to puke. I told my friend I needed to relax, (I wasn’t a drinker anyways) and he wanted to ride his bike back home. (OF COURSE I SAID NO, YOUR GOING TO SLEEP ON MY COUCH). I don’t remember much after that, except I was standing in my hallway, and he was talking to me and then he just kissed me. Then again, and again. I started kissing him back and then realized what I was doing and I automacially knew, I was cheating on my boyfriend. I made my friend leave, even though he was drunk, I was pissed. I called my ex the next morning, and I broke the news to him. I told him how sorry I was and asked if we could work through it. He ofcourse said no, and broke up with me. a few weeks passed and I was hurt and angry, so like and idiot, I started sleeping with my friend and was drunk almost ever weekend, not going to bed until 4 am . thst was my life for four months. eight months later, my ex and I are back intouch and trying to work things out. We have been talking again for three months and he comes home next month. He says he still cares for me and I know I still love him, dispite my poor decisions. Im praying to God, we will manange to work through this. I don’t know why I cheated.. I mean I guess it was because of fear and lonileness and also being drunk and allowing myself to be put in that situation. my friend anD I, HAVENT talked in months.. and hes back with his ex wife. I have no reason to , and although my ex is over seas, we still Skype everyday, and somedays hes more affectionate and others he gets scared away. its a constant thing we must work at and I have been patient im just scared when he gets home next month he will decide im not what he wants.

admin

January 6, 2015 at 2:10 pm

It seems your guy friend is the cause of all the trouble. Have you figured out how to proceed with that relationship? Whether to keep it or let it go.

Jada

January 1, 2015 at 5:44 pm

Hey ,I didn’t exactly cheat on my boyfriend ,he cheated on me and only told me after 2 months that he did and a weekend before he told me I asked him because few friends warned me about it but he lied to my face and I believed him because I trusted him but then few days later he told me that what he did was true and I told him that I needed more time to think about it and he kind of troubled my head because it was period of exams so I took the whole exam time to think about it and while thinking about It ,I got really close to his best friend and I started catching feelings for him and the last day of school I decide to tell him and he didn’t want to hurt his best friend so he told my boyfriend and my boyfriend took that as cheating and completely ignores the fact that he cheated on me and ignores me too ,so what do I do ?cause I kind of believe that he was really drunk when he was cheating on me and I don’t have feelings for his best friend anymore

Brianna

January 6, 2015 at 4:23 am

honey move on, hes clearly not taking responsibility for his actions, and is going to be immature, and put blame onto you, because he wants to look like the victim. Hes trying to guilt trip you into getting back with him. you deserve a faithful man, not a immature little boy who wants to play.

Jada

January 1, 2015 at 5:42 pm

Hey ,I didn’t exactly cheat on my boyfriend ,he cheated on me and only told me after 2 months that he did and a weekend before he told me I asked him because few friends warned me about it but he lied to my face and I believed him because I trusted him but then few days later he told me that what he did was true and I told him that I needed more time to think about it and he kind of troubled my head because it was period of exams so I took the whole exam time to think about it and while thinking about It ,I got really close to his best friend and I started catching feelings for him and the last day of school I decide to tell him and he didn’t want to hurt his best friend so he told my boyfriend and my boyfriend took that as cheating and completely ignores the fact that he cheated on me and ignores me too ,so what do I do ?cause I kind of believe that he was really drunk when he was cheating on me and I don’t have feelings for his best friend anymore
Sarah

December 30, 2014 at 3:22 am

Hello.
I was in a relationship with my ex(A) for about 8 months, and during our fifth month together, he has gotten really busy and I spent a lot of my time alone. I met A online. Then I started know this one guy, let’s call him B, I didn’t plan on falling for B, but I did, he fell for me, and we dated each other.

After 3 months, my relationship with A has become doomed. I asked him to let me go but he won’t. So I ignored him, I just left like that without officially cutting things off with him. I was a coward. I didn’t tell him that I have someone else because I am so afraid of hurting him..

A found out and I cleared things up with him. A messaged B, A told B about everything. When I told him not to and he said okay.
I love B a lot. He made me feel things that I didn’t know I could feel.

B loves me a lot, I know, he was so hurt and he broke up with me, he deactivated his fb acc.. and all the other ways for me to connect with him.

We talked again after a few days.. he told me that he’s hurt, so hurt, and when we talk about getting back, he said that he’ll think about it and he’s afraid if our relationship won’t be the same like before and everything. Please give me advices on how to convince him or ways to get him back..
I want him back, please help me.
Thank you so much for your help.

admin

January 5, 2015 at 2:41 pm

How did A get B’s number?
Sarah

January 10, 2015 at 5:47 pm

He messaged him on facebook. I didn’t even know how he found B’s acc out.

Shelby

December 1, 2014 at 2:38 pm

I cheated on my ex almost a year ago. We we’re only together for 9 months but he was the realest thing I’ve ever had and we were living together. We were truly in love, I just got selfish and went on a date with this guy one night pretty much cuz I thought he was cute. I got drunk and slept with him. I told him that night what I did and I he cried for a long time. He never once yelled at me for it he just started ignoring me and took me out of his life. We still lived together for 3 months after the break up. It was difficult, he acted like I was no importance in his life anymore and it killed me. I had to move out, but when I did I noticed him tearing up. 4 months after I moved out he texted me a long message saying he moved out of our place and that he’s happy to spend the rest of his life without me. I’m not sure why he texted me that but it killed me cuz I’m still in love with him. It’s been 10 months since we broke up and I still feel like we belong together. He’s very much into fitness. He pretty much lives at the gym now ever since we broke up. Now I’m getting I to it too because getting him back is the only thing that will make me feel complete.

admin

December 1, 2014 at 3:50 pm

I can’t believe you did that…

Why would you even go out on a date with another guy.

Ok, I definitely think NC is a must here.

Ellie

November 18, 2014 at 4:17 am

This has been so helpful, my mind feels so clear now thank you!
I’ve been with my boyfriends for 4 years. We started going out at 15, so we’ve both only ever kissed or been intimate with each other. We both moved to different unis in September and decided to try an open relationship, because we always said we would break up for uni but then decided we lived each other too much. I kissed other guys in freshers week and hated it, so we decided to just go for it and try being in a long distance relationship. It’s been really hard on us both, especially me as he started lying to me about things, and I felt emotionally neglected. I’ve been having doubts but I know I love him. Then one night I slept with a random guy, I had no emotion or enjoyment. I told my boyfriend the next day and he ended it. But implied there was still a chance for us. I think I did it because I was scared of the commitment to him, staying together throughout uni was our way of promising to be together forever. And I guess the thought if only ever being with him was overwhelming. I stupidly now know I want to be with him, but how can I fix this when were far away?? Or is this a good thing?? I’m just so paranoid he will now sleep with someone else!
Victoria

November 11, 2014 at 4:27 am

I’ve been with my bf for 10 years. A couple of years ago I kissed a guy. Well 2 around the same time. I just told him because we just had a threesom and I let him do the girl even though I didn’t want to. Everything was all good untill 2 days later when I started drinking thinking about it. Now he doesn’t know how I could possibly make things right. I know we love eachother very much but the pain I caused him is burning inside and I don’t want to lose him forever. What should I do?

V.

February 8, 2015 at 7:24 am

Why havnt I gotten a response? Everyine else has answers and I have no advice/help. Please respond
admin

February 9, 2015 at 4:22 pm

Haha Victoria I am sorry for the late response.

I took the weekend off (which I really do need for rejuvination purposes.)

I will be happy to answer your questions.

Where are we at with your situation?

Maria

November 3, 2014 at 11:03 pm

I had a online boyfriend during that time for 3 months to be exact I felt lonely and i started talking to my ex (real life ex boyfriend) so on my bday I slept with my ex and after I met my online boyfriend in april and was with him for a couple of months in real life. but yesterday i told him the truth and I know i have hurt him so much.. he told me I don’t exist anymore for him that he won’t forgive me until he dies. other people has told me that it doesnt count as cheating as because me and him didn’t have any physical contact until (april) . then why do I feel so bad inside hurting someone who i really do love and it took me a while to know that for sure until a couple of months ago. what do I do? do I move on? how do I forgive myself ? someone please give me advice because I don’t know what to do …

admin

November 20, 2014 at 2:58 pm

First off, you were in the wrong and I am glad you recognize that. I think you need to sort out your feelings with your ex first.

If you did make a commitment to this online guy then what you did does count as cheating.
Maria

November 6, 2014 at 12:34 am

i dont get him …one day he tells me he doesnt want anything to with me,yesterday he told me he still loves me and misses me but today he said if i go he wont miss me 🙁 do i deserve all this? or does he really hate me?

Dorothy

October 29, 2014 at 8:24 pm

Two years ago there was a point when 2 guys were wooing me. I was single and they both knew that the other was trying to woo me. I was particularly close to one of them, Sean. We were very close and often spoke about being in a relationship and life after that. We were almost in a relationship and spoke about getting intimate too. But then I went out on a date with this other guy, Vince and I liked him a lot and then Vince pushed me to a point where he made me choose between both of them. I wanted to be with Sean but Vince kind of pressured me into picking him. And I admit I was a little horrible because I picked Vince because he looked better than Sean.
So I got into a relationship with Vince and Sean told me what I did was cheating and there was a lot of bad mouthing. It hurt real bad. Me n Vince dated for one and a half year and we fell in love and I was actually happy with him. Until I found out he was texting other girls and sending them shirtless pictures of him, calling them over to his place when no one was there. He also told me like a hundred times that he doesn’t want me because I kept on asking him to study and strive for a better life.
The last time Sean spoke to me was he apologised for saying all the bad things I said to him and that id hurt him a lot. I texted him once saying I hope he was doing fine but he didnt reply. I dont want necessarily want to get into a relationship with Sean but I want him back in my life. I am scared even to text him. What should I do?

admin

October 30, 2014 at 6:26 pm

Well, you never dated sean so I don’t think the NC rule is a good idea in this case. I think communication is a really good thing in this case.

Paola M

October 29, 2014 at 3:31 am

I Didn’t actually cheated. He broke up with me, a few weeks later (no hope of getting back together) I slept with an old friend of ours, three times. I started talking to my ex again and realized i loved him and wanted him back, aparrently he did to. Started dating again, had sex again, everything was perfect until the day I came clean about my fling (not cheating) and he told me
He couldnt be with me anymore.

admin

October 29, 2014 at 3:52 pm

I understand his perspective and yours…

Did he say anything else other than what he initially said, I could be with you anymore?

Ashley

October 7, 2014 at 12:58 am

Hey, 🙁 🙁 I cheated on my now ex :'( I sent a picture of me in my bra to my ex girlfriend and now he wont take me back, I love him with every inch of my heart and would do anything for him I need helpwhat do I do :'( :'(

admin

October 7, 2014 at 1:26 pm

You sent the picture to your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend?

Why did you send it?

sofie21

September 29, 2014 at 11:11 pm

Well i didn’t see thes page but it’s 2 let 4 mi think i chated on him and we r fighting for the holl month now hi asked for a time out and i gived him the ok now i have one prob that the one i cheated him with he is still showing up about it. so every time i get my bf back that guy miss it up 4 me and my bf ‘s freinds know about it so thes is bothering him ….. iam lost and i don’t know what to do pllllllllz help me out !!!!!
Grace

September 18, 2014 at 2:55 am

I broke up with my boyfriend because i cheated on him with another guy. Now ive relised that my old boyfriend was and is a lot better than my new one. My old bf wants to be friends. We text as friends but sometimes the texts are a little flirty. Now hes asking me who should he date. I need help, i want him back.
Kelsey

September 18, 2014 at 2:51 am

This is gold! I lied and emotionally cheated on my bf, who i FUCKING love and care and I am hurting. It’s only been a day, but I need to know, is there any chance? It seemed so weird, ppl say he will come around. Him and I are both under a lot of stress. I cheated because I was lonely, and I have daddy issues.

admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:45 pm

Why did you feel the need to emotionally cheat on your boyfriend.
Kelsey

September 18, 2014 at 8:23 pm

I have daddy issues. I guess he works late hours so I cannot always be with him or talk with him
Kelsey

September 18, 2014 at 8:24 pm

And his birthday is tomorrow, so I quickly send him a text happy birthday? or keep the 30 day rule in tact?

Rhi

September 17, 2014 at 9:59 pm

I feel so terrible.. i kissed another boy behind my boyfriends back. The worst part is someone else told him. We’ve only been dating for two weeks but that makes it even worse cause now i have to earn back his trust in me. He’s close to breaking up with me. 🙁 i screwed up and i told him i was sorry and it honestly didn’t mean anything and everything else in the book i could think of. I don’t know what else to tell him to make him stay. I really like him, HELP!

admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:34 pm

Why did you kiss some other guy???

laila

September 16, 2014 at 7:31 pm

Its been a year to us. This whole year has been about compromises cause honestly he isn’t easy to be with. Not at all. But I’ve got myheart stuck on hi. He is very possessive about me. He doesn’t like me
Talking to any other guy. But I recently talked to seven year old friend of mine but I didn’t inform him out of fear. I didn’t cheat on him but he regards it as cheating. I tried explaining stuff. Tried every possible aspect. What should I do?

admin

September 17, 2014 at 4:20 pm

What specifically does he regard as cheating?
laila

September 18, 2014 at 8:43 am

That I talked to a male friend of mine. When he had told me not to talk to any guy
admin

September 18, 2014 at 4:17 pm

You just talked to him… Nothing flirty or anything at all?
laila

September 18, 2014 at 5:55 pm

Nothing Flirty or anything.

Emily

September 16, 2014 at 3:22 am

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and about four months ago I left him and during that time I slept with someone else. He asked me when came back if I had slept with anyone and I told him no out of fear that he wouldn’t take me back. It has been nagging my mind ever since. I told him today and needles to say he freaked out . I am willing to do any and everything for him to not leave. My problem is We live together so how is the 30 day no talk thing supposed to work for us.

admin

September 16, 2014 at 3:30 pm

I am literally working on an article that covers this situation but bascially you have to do limited contact.

Kiki

September 6, 2014 at 5:21 pm

I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 7months. Our relationship to me is complicated because of the long distance. I chatted with one guy online and i was just playing around because I was bored that night. I didn’t want anything serious with this online just someone to talk to because my boyfriend is always busy with work. This online guy asked me if I’m with anybody and I told him my status is complicated because of personal reason. He did not like the answer so I cut him off. This online guy got mad and went on his way to find whoever Im with. He found my boyfriend and he send him our whole online conversations. My boyfriend got mad and he said he don’t trust me anymore. I told him that guy was a setup and trying to ruin our relationship. My boyfriend don’t want to be in a relationship with me but want to be friends. He told me that what I did is consider cheating because I didn’t told the guy that I am in a relationship instead I said complicated. He also said that by the look of our chatting conversations I was eager to get to know the online guy and meet him. I explain him I was just playing and go with the flow as we chat. I have no intension of actually meeting him or be with him. I was chatting him because I was bored. He already make up his mind and just end things with me but still want me to be friends. I like my boyfriend and I don’t want to be friends with him. I ask for another chance but he said it will never work because he don’t trust me anymore. How can I get his trust back because from what I know I didn’t cheat on him. It was just an hour chat with this online guy and it cause my relationship.

admin

September 15, 2014 at 2:57 pm

Well, Kiki your boyfriend has a right to be angry with you b/c you didn’t conduct yourself like a woman with a boyfriend. I realize you didn’t mean anything about it but you are really going to have to work on rebuilding your exes trust back.
Kiki

September 6, 2014 at 5:30 pm

my online conversations with that guy was not flirty is was like introducing ourself and ask each other about life and work. i like to meet new people especially when they say they will be travel my way so i gave this guy my phone number so that i could meet him when he comes my way, i have no intensions of hooking up with him just a friendly gesture. My boyfriend considered the whole thing cheating because i gave out my number and want to meet this guy either on video chat or in person. i regret everything and i learned my lesson.

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