How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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odi

March 19, 2014 at 3:57 pm

Hi Chris.My boyfriend and i broke up 3weeks ago. I met him straight after my previous break up, it was a confusing time for me and he was different to any other guy ive dated. I ended up sleeping with my previous ex after a month of us meeting each other. Emotions were high, but the sad thing is I felt nothing and it made me realise he was my ex for a reason. He obviously found out about it through a friend. We have been in contact,but its hard. We both want it to work out and we both want to be together, but he feels i am not going the extra mile. Ive tried to give him space, and explained to him that i did not want to overwhelm him and then push him even further away! But he doesnt seemm to understand that. I have now also become abit of a text freak to try and get him back but i realise that that is not working. Will the NC rule work in this case seeing that he already feels im not doing enough??

admin

March 20, 2014 at 6:00 pm

I think NC might be a good reset button and since you cheated on him I think that it might be good to give him some space (but only for a little bit.)

Jessica

March 18, 2014 at 7:57 pm

Last summer me & my boyfriend got in a fight after I had sat down & asked him to stop talking/treating me a certain way. He gets mad right out of our bed grabs some clothes & picks up & leaves. Doesn’t come home except to get the rest of his stuff. I was so upset that it’s so easy for him to leave when I didn’t do anything wrong. After spending 4th of July all alone I say forget this & I went out. I ran Into an ex boyfriend and one thing led to another. About a week later my ex sees me because we started working at the same job on the same day. He begs me back but I keep sYing no because of what I had done. But I love him so I keep it a secret & take him back. Today, almost a year later he asks if I ever slept w anyone else. I say no but he goes back to July & asks if I hVe slept with anyone but him since then. So I had to come clean about it & he doesn’t want me anymore. 2 yeArs down the trash. Idk what to do I think if I wait 30 days he will move on. But at the same time he’s ignored all my texts & apologies. But he’s asked me to drop his stuff off today. What am I supposed to say/do?

admin

March 20, 2014 at 6:22 pm

First off, its not cool to cheat. You were in the wrong and you can understand why he is upset. Nevertheless, have you given him some space via NC?

shivani

March 18, 2014 at 4:27 pm

Hii .. nd I love my ex and I want him back.. this time is too much difficult to leave without him .. I had cheated on him because at the starting of my realtion I thought that he was not serious for me soo I take him lightly and start talking to other guys.. and one day he knew that I’m cheating him but he didn’t say anything to me because he love me and trust on me blindly.. he was crying on my sholder and said that why you cheated on me I love u very much .. but that time I was totally get silent that what big mistake I had done..; after making him realize that now I seriously love him .. then many friends start distracting him from my side and say totally rubish talks.. and he had soo much ego that break my heart too much.. only becoz of me he start drinking and smoking that I dnt like it.. now please help me to get him back in my life.. I can do anything for him soo that he can come back in my life ..

admin

March 20, 2014 at 6:24 pm

Are you in NC?

nutzz

March 18, 2014 at 12:01 pm

hey chris..dis is natasha..im a teen..my boyfrnd of 5 months broke up wid me cuz i was chatting about my sex wid my ex…dis i did wen i was angry wid my boyfrnd..later after nearly a month i met him and told him dat i was chatting wid my ex..i showed him d chat…he broke up wid me d same day..i hav said sorry lyk a million tyms..i knw it was a wrong thing to do bt i did it nyways..he patched up wid me after some tym..since my xams were on i was totally not in touch wid him..some days ago i called him..he was yelling on me n said to me dat i lied to him again..dis particular guy had texted him dat he i study together wich is totally false..im confused..he broke up wid me… i luv him..n i want him back desperately…i hav already shown him dat im desperate..dis was wrong of me..bt i knw dat he mite move on..please help me…
Em

March 15, 2014 at 3:09 pm

i hv dated my ex for 5 yrs and i really love him. i cheated on him some years back n he forgave me. i cheated on him recently and now he doesnt want me anymore. i hv apologised to him several tyms. i am also really hurting. i just cant belive i did dis to us. i’m really hopn he takes me back. i dunno if dis steps will work for me since i hv already apologized. he said he forgives me but he cant b with me. please help me. i want him back. its a long distance relationship.

admin

March 18, 2014 at 4:45 pm

What caused you to cheat?

Z

March 15, 2014 at 4:59 am

I cheated on my husband. Will this program help me?
I know what I did was wrong and I feel guilty every ay. My husband left me whe he found out, but came back a few months later. I think he found out some more stuff about the cheating, and now he has left again with no communication.
I feel horrible for hurting him. We have had our ups and downs in our marriage as he gets horribly depressed, and when this happened, it was during a couple months of his depression. I also had some family issues going on and I had to be the strong one for the family.this guy gave me positive attention and pushed hard in pursuing me.
I know what mistakes I made and what made me vulnerable. I know this is something that will never happen again. The cheating
Asked a few weeks, and I have since cut off all contact with him.
I am doing no contact, but I don’t think he will even talk to me after the 30days. All ouR friends and family hate me. But no one knows what goes on inside people’s marriages.
During the 30 days of no contact, my beloved dog died. I haven’t told my husband yet, as I don’t want the first contact between us to be depressing or negative.
Will this program work for me?i feel like I sacrificed a lot to be with him, and maybe I resented him, but I really want to save my marriage.
Amanda Lewoof

March 12, 2014 at 6:12 am

Hi Chris, I just broke up with my boyfriend cause I cheated on him. We’re in this Long Distance Relationship and I’m just not strong enough. Theres this guy who always there with me when I’m getting in a small or big arguments with my boyfriend and the cheating part just happen. I slept with the other guy for several times, maybe it wasnt makes sense but at the moment I miss my my boyfriend so much and it feels like he’s there only in a different form. Then I started to feel the remorse and hating myself. Tried to talk to my friends and they said I should leave the other guy but I should make it like hes the one that leave me, just so he have no hurt feeling. So I keep texting this guy, pretending the I’m feeling the same way but keep telling him to try to talk to other girls and stuff. I even ask him to stop contacting me and everything, but probably I was too nice so he doesnt got my message and start growing feelings for me. I couldnt play it anymore, I love my boyfriend so much, I just blocked the other guy from everwhere. My boyfriend smells something fishy of course, he caught a photo of me driving this guy to the airport and I lied about it. He’s hurting as hell, feeling down, even got physically sick cause I lied to him about going to the airport. He asked me the truth about this guy and I lied again telling him nothing going on with this guy, I just don’t wanna lose him. I’m afraid hes gonna leave me in instance and the thought of it scared me to death. And so finally we passed that, hes coming to town, we spent time together and I feel so much alive, realizing I love him so much, but at the same time I keep worrying about the past. Like should I come clean when he asked, or should I come clean to him out of the blue or should I just shut up until my dying day. I decided to shut up. We went on a holiday together, and then the past just catch up to me. Out of the blue the other guy message my boyfriend on facebook and tell him everything, I can see the frustation, the anger, the betrayed, the hurts on my boyfriend’s face. I still can’t tell him the truth, I keep denying it saying this guy is crazy and everything (which I really regret). I decided to go home separately and gave him his space. Then I finally arrived home, I texted him to let him know, and he said “who cares, you’re a lying bitch” and sent me photos of proof. Turns out the other guy send him 3 pictures to proof what he said is right. I can’t deny it anymore I started to say sorry but he keeps on rejecting me, saying he still love me but he can’t think he can forgive or forget. I was so devastated, he doesnt trust anything I said anymore. He even doubt I love him, he thought its all just an act, a fake love. And of course its not a fake love.. People keep asking me if I love him why I cheated on him, I could only say im too weak and feeling lonely very easy :'( Now I’m starting to do a no contact, but I’m planning to go across to meet him in 2 weeks cause thats the only date I can do.. Can I just do the no contact for 2 weeks? I really don’t know what to do now, I’m clueless, I’m feeling lost, I don’t wanna lose him, I want him back…
The R

March 12, 2014 at 12:44 am

I just don’t get how most of you on here claim to love your significant other, yet decided to cheat on them, and now want them back. If you love them so much, why did you cheat? Didn’t your love for them make you not wanna do it?

And good luck getting your men back after cheating cause, trust me, most guys, unless they’re ugly or insecure, will just move on regardless of what this blog says. I know that’s what I’d do if it happened to me. Cheating is just so insulting to the other person. Is one night really worth your entire relationship?

I just don’t get it.
jamie

March 11, 2014 at 7:07 am

My 7 year relationship ended a month ago today. I cheated on my boyfriend with the only other guy ive been involved with. I felt like my boyfriend couldnt see me. I felt disconnected and like he didnt really care and wasnt putting forth any effort. I lost my dad two years ago and it sent me to a place of disassociation. Its the 2nd time ive talked to the guy in a two and a half year period. When my boyfriend first found out he said he never wanted to see or talk to me again. Yet he has done both but is sticking to we cant be together. He seems to really be trying to move on. He caved and asked me to come over a week after we broke up and he showed me lots of love. Then he went on a ski trip with friends and wrote me saying I wish you were here it doesnt feel right without you. Then told me our song came on the radio adding to his sadness. Those texts had me thinking he might come around. I asked him to watch a movie with me when he got back. He said yes and ended up spending the night. He is consistently saying we cant be together. Ive already tried to explain but he said there is nothing I can do or say. He cant let himself be with me. I feel terrible for hurting him I would do love for this to work out but I dont see much hope. He seems to be getting more comfortable with the idea of being away from me. I started no contact about 4 days ago. My birthday is in 8 days. Do I not respond even if he were to wish me a happy birthday? Thanks any help is appreciated.
stephanie rose

March 10, 2014 at 5:27 am

Hey /: so ive kind of been seeing this guy for about 4 months. We met a mutual friends drinks, and we ended up talking and kissing the whole night, and we fell asleep together. I thought it wouldnt last but he continued to talk to me. We live about two hours away from each other, but he comes here on weekends, And weve met up a few times. He treats me so well, and id only just gotten over a difficult breakup of two years (ironically he cheated, twice) anyway, recently hes still been messaging me but less often, and idk just dosent seem as keen. Which hurts, because i actually really opened up to him, when im normally an icredibly guarded person. Last weekend he promised me he would be at a party, then he bailed hour before with no explanation. I went anyway, and got drunk and a guy ended up taking advantage of me (not rape, seeing as i must have consented it my drunken state /: ) yeah, this guy told everyone and now the guy i really like pretty much hates me. I feel so horrible . :'(
Sunflower

March 10, 2014 at 2:50 am

Hi Chris,

My ex-boyfriend and I dated for 11 months. Even though he wasn’t committed to holidays due he always found excuses to visit his family in another state during holidays, we practically saw each other regularly every Saturday. We had an amazing sex and had pretty much similar taste in food, and overall got along very well in other areas.

He is a doctor, handsome, and very charming. I did not like that on dates with me, he would constantly texted and received texts, except when I knew he was talking to the hospital. I did not place any pressure on him regardless we did not spend holidays together, (4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas, even he forgot to call me on my Birthday, and he went away to visit his family, etc.), he always found excuses that he had to go and see his family. I accepted and believed his reasons, however, it bothered me he did not spend New Year’s Eve with me.

I noticed he was kind of losing interest in the relationship lately, however, he would text me or call me every night, and we met on Saturdays for dinner and sleeping together.

On our last date, we were in a restaurant, and he received a text of a picture of a young woman. It really bothered me, and he noticed it. That night turned into a disaster. He had to go back to the hospital, and told me he was going to come back to my home by 2 a.m. By that time, I called him since I hadn’t heard of him. He said he wasn’t going to be able to come back to my house, and that he needed to go to his house to feed his pets and come back to the hospital due to an emergency, and was going to call me the following morning. I really lost it and told him not to call me the following morning cause I was fed-up with the fact every time he was off the hospital he would not spend time with me and go away instead, and practically saw me everytime he was on call in the hospital. I feel I lost it after bottling-up my feelings for such a long time, and I now, regretted tremendously. The following day he sent me a text breaking-up with me, and saying that we were not going to be intimate any longer and just be friends cause I did not trust him.

Needless to say, I have been devastated for the last month and a half ever since the break-up. I am big time heart-broken cause I really love him.

I have texted him numerous times, and his replies to me have been very cold. He has not had the initiative to text me or call me, and nothing that I have told him to explain to him how I feel and even asked him for forgiveness have worked.

Do I still have a chance?? Anything else I can do to recover him?? I really love him and miss him dearly.

Thanks so very much.

admin

March 10, 2014 at 5:52 pm

What caused you to cheat on him though? What in the moment made you do it?

princess

March 9, 2014 at 7:43 pm

hey i need help on how to get my boyfriend back. I cheated on him with his friend and i confessed to him about it the next month which was febuary. One week later i noticed he had a new girlfriend i feel down because i dont want to beleive have lost the love of my life, i still want him back but everytime i tried calling he would tell me that he had forgiven me but he cant date me again. I still love HIM
amaarah

March 8, 2014 at 11:42 pm

Hi I met this guy at my friends house he was 33 and im 24 , believe it or not but I fell for him he had everything I ever wanted in a man, man of my dream . Polite , sky blue eyes , polite , body is just …, everything has happend very quick .. 1st night , it was complicated as he only just split up with his baby mama 3 weeks before met me …. he was hurt confused and horny .. it was all complicated from the start as he didnt know wasnt sure if he loved his baby mama .. he does love his boy more then anything . I was with him for a month he was still going bk there to see his boy .. and on xmass I let him go to her so that his son can have a family xmass .. he introdused me to his son on that month nd I stayed at his house and even new years ee spent together . The guy has alot of problems . 1st anxiety then he has mental break downs and he does drugs .. he has no confidence in his body and depressed brcause he has not got much money wise . I did not care about that as all I wanted since was a little girl was a man who I will love and who will love me back. So anyways he had a bad mental break down after new years night and hos ex wanted him and was playong mind games … so he me us decided that best thing is for him to go and try work things out for the sake of his son who is 2 only … the ex bf went to differeny city to clear his head and make decisions … and after we said we wont talk nomore we still talked every day he cried alot me too .. I told him that I love him nd he did too . Also said that he never felt that connection with anyone but me its like it was meant to be … so many things where I studied same street he lived on years ago … anyway he made a decision after 2 weeks bein away that he wants to be there qith her and that if he wont b happy he will find me .. he made me anchors nd it means we it brought us together … anyway since he got back friday it was he stayed there night nd txted me sat sayin how much he hated it nd all he could think about was me . I saw him a few times we did it obvs … any way he was there 7 weeks at his baby mamas nd on valentines day I recieved flowers nd he said that he loves me he called me same evenings sayin that he loves me nd that but I promised him that I will b good from now on md stay in nd wont do kothing stupid well I lied through my teeth nd lied for 7 weeks in the raw every week end I was out but was liein to him but he found out at the end … valentines day yes I went out with my so called mates andhis friend wait wait the friend I slept with on sat night … friday night all night I was with my so called mates … sat my ex calls me nd I dnt answer so he txted me sayin he knows ive lied nd was out … my feiends were twllin me tell him to do one because he dnt love u he is using u because he can ha e u any time I qas drunk so anyway he wanted to see me this nigjt nd I said no so he called me names and that … anyway a few hours later he came to that house and kicked the door in goin mad nd he found his so called mate there so he was shoutin cryin with anger in his eyes sayin all over that how could I lie to him nd do this after everything .. and he also said that he was goi g to leave his baby mom for me that day …. anyway its been a months since yes I have cheated on sat night after he left because I taken somethings which make u like that … the biggest mistake of my life … its been a months now he cried called wanted to c me I said no .. but mistakes are made again should of went to see him when he wanted … now he says he would rather die cold nd lonely that be with me , ivestayed in since stopped talking to so called mates who never wished no good and that guy no contact at all … what do I do its been a month I have not seen him and he says he will never forgive me or forget that he is hurting so much and that I manipulated him the whole time and that I was controlling and I dnt think I was but he says he dont want me nomore and his lips could never touch mine ever again he could never be intimate with me knowing that I said I loved him and then slept with his mate. How do I get him back he qas so sweet before and would never hurt a fly but now he seems to be heartless and not caring but now he just says whatever bit he says that he still has same love for me and its only groqing but some things will never get back to normal. What do I do … he is not mentally stable at all … but I love him with all my heart I really do he burned all the things I got for him and his son … how do I do I get him back , he even sayd that he knows that I try reverse psychology when it wasnt like that .. so how do I get him back I know he needs time but im just afraid that what he has left for me now will be gone forever .

admin

March 10, 2014 at 5:29 pm

If he was the man of your dreams why did you cheat?

I guess I want to understand your reason for cheating on him.

ishani m

March 7, 2014 at 8:24 pm

hey.. ive been fighting wid my ex since two years.. n he left me last yr.. it al started wen he left his job to set up a stupid business in a small village of a city.. n it was 2 yrs since we were out of college. i left really uncared for , since id left a big job in ny to stay wid him.. my feelings just snapped.. i left unappreciated uncared for.. n thought my boyfrend was a big vagabound.. wen i met this cute guy n flirted a lil.. told my boyfren abt it.. cut contact wid d cute guy… dn a year aftr my boyfren said he wasnt sure he wud marry me if he didn make enuf money.. id waited 3-4 yrs fr him to get married till dn.. i was angry furious n bitter.. plus he was stil a vagabound.. dn i met dis another guy n talked to him fr a mnth.. finally ma boyfren found out n said he is out.. in btw al d fights wid ma boafren..i connected evn more wid dis adr guy..bt it didn last of course.. iv been trying to get him bak since a yr.. he still talks to me .. bt wont take me back…

ishani m

March 12, 2014 at 9:35 am

is there any way to make him forgive me and to get him back in my life?

sasha

March 7, 2014 at 6:42 pm

What if the day after he finds out he is still texting you? Mostly the texts say how sad he is, that he is in pain, etc. I’m trying NC but he keeps texting and I’m not sure what to do or say. I just reply with I’m sorry to each text.
Lina

March 6, 2014 at 5:39 pm

Iam so upset and hurt at my actions. I have been together with my x for 4 yrs we share 2 dogs together and a home. we always would argue mostly about money and bills. as well with my past. I made mistakes in my past before I was with him. I told him about cause I figured I can trust him. The beginning of our relationship was great. until 2 of his frds would bad mouth me and put things in his head. I didn’t understand why they would do this to me as I haven’t done nothing to them. I meet him thro a guy who liked me. But i never did nothing with this guy and he would always throw this in my face. Things started to get bad. where he would call me names every other day and throw things in my face, he didn’t work I did and still cooking and cleaning for him. even tho he didn’t work he would still help me with the rent. but things were tight like money. when we would fight he would put me down really bad I would beg and cry to have him stop but he kept going on and on. he would call me bad names and then to the point he would ignore me. If I wanted to talk he wouldn’t talk with me and ignore me. I felt so useless and worth nothing. We even stopped sleeping in the same bed. I would never forget the day he told me he doesn’t want me Iam nothing and nobody to him and called me down and even said I been cheating on you and go find someone who cares cause I don’t your worthless. I didn’t know what to do or think I felt so betrayed and useless like all the yrs were nothing, So I ended up almost sleeping with someone else. Cause I was angry and sad. I didn’t even want to thats why I didn’t the guy I was with made me feel like I was worth someone and showed me emotion. We didn’t end up sleeping together and it was just the one time, that day we took pics of each other. I came home and didn’t say anything at the time since we were not speaking. He found my phone and saw the pics of me and the guy and freaked out. This was months later. After that day I stopped talking to the guy cause I knew it was a mistake and cut him off,before he even found the pics of me. Now he’s saying Iam a cheater and how he wants nothing to do with me, I didn’t understand cause he told me all these things about being with someone else and iam nothing. I made my mistake and I’m trying to work things out cause I do really love him. I even asked why he said all those things and he is saying he said it out of anger he didn’t mean it. When this happened I thought he meant it and then i did what I did. We were still living together after all this and now that he found it he won’t leave it be, I really don’t understand how he is willing to just give up so easily and walk out on me and the dogs. All i wanted him was to stop being so angry at me and throwing things in my face from my past. I would never do that to him and he did things in his past but I wouldn’t throw it in his face. Iam so hart broken I really don’t know what to do.

Lina

March 8, 2014 at 8:16 pm

I was happy until the end of everything. But mostly not.
admin

March 7, 2014 at 6:46 am

Can I ask you something.

How often were you happy with him? Seriously, how often?

Stephanie

March 4, 2014 at 11:49 pm

Please help me. I’m in a very complicated situation.
I was sexually with this guy, we will name “Cory”. Cory and I had strong emotions for each other, had admitted to loving each other and wanting to spend a life time together and we acted as though we were together, but without saying it was official. Cory broke things off with me, with help from his best friend, who we will call “Dave”. Just after Cory ended things, with out explanation, I found out i was pregnant. I didnt know how to tell him. He wouldnt respond to messages or answer calls. All while this was going on, Dave would be trying to comfort me and help me to move on. I ended up having a miscarriage very early into the pregnancy. I called Cory and was able to get a hold of him, i told him i needed to talk face to face and it was important. I went to his house. Cory had called Dave, and he was there. I told them about the miscarriage. Cory needed to know. But after that we continues with no contact. I went on to date this guy, we will call “John”. All the while Dave and i grew into friends. we would joke and talk about anything. he helped me move on from Cory by showing me how much of an ass Cory really was. I ended up breaking it off with John, and Dave and i became sexually active. Cory quickly found out and got back into contact with me. He said he still loved me. We got together a few times and ended up having sex. Just after that Dave and i decided to become official and take from just fucking to bf/gf. Dave did not care that i had fucked Cory before we were dating. However, Cory and i continued to see each other. Cory knew Dave and I were together. Cory and i had sex a few more times with in the first month Dave and i were dating. Then the guilt was too much for me and i stopped it. Cory and i continued to see each other, but t=nothing more than a kiss here or there happened. (might i add in this time Cory also proposed to me, and i rejected) Dave and I celebrated our 5 month anniversary of being bf/gf on valentines day, and our 6 months is in 10 days(if we are still together.) around the 2 month mark Dave had said he thought he was falling in love with me. It wasnt until 3 months in that i knew i loved him to. and each day since then we have fallen more and more in love with each other. on and off ive felt really guilty about cheating and not telling him. Dave had a dream last night hat i cheated. Dave knows ive seen Cory here and there the last few months. So he asked me straight out if i had cheated on him with Cory. Cory and i had promised to take it to the grave. but i couldnt. I love Dave with all of my heart. i have never loved someone as much as i love him. we have even talked about marriage, and we are both people who dont like to plan far into the future. So i was honest about what happened between Cory and me. if the offer were to come up to cheat on Dave even 3 months ago, i would have said no in a heart beat. but at the time i cheated i wasnt sure we would even last as more than fuck buddies and friends. now Dave is pissed at me (with all right to be) and told me straight out that i may be single by tomorrow. i am going to go see him tonight in person by his request. im not sure how to handle it. or what to say. i trust him with all my heart and i know he felt the same. and im positive all trust in me has been lost. I want to savage this relationship. but im not sure how. I love him so much and dont want to be with anyone else. i know cheating is a deal breaker for him and thats why i hadnt been saying anything. but today when he asked if i cheated and said “please be honest sweetheart” the guilt got the better of me and i told him. ive said im sorry. and i know he is pissed at me. part of me wishes i lied. just so i could continue the relationship how it was going. it was perfect. but i couldnt lie to him. he deserves to know. he deserves the truth. i just dotn know what to say or do to fix this. i plan on cutting off communication with Cory tonight before i go to see Dave. Please help.

admin

March 5, 2014 at 5:24 pm

When are you seeing dave?

Dani

March 3, 2014 at 12:37 am

Chris,

I am desperately in need of your help. I am in serious distress. Less than a week ago, I was officially diagnosed with cancer. I was out of town and had not yet been able to sit and discuss the situation with my partner. While I was gone, he charged my iPad and found evidence of an emotional indiscretion. There were messages, Skype calls, etc. We had spoken on and off for a long time. The messages my now ex saw were not the best he could have seen. We lived together and I am currently at my parents’ house. I still have to get the rest of my things, and we share a cat. We were together two years and were building a life together. I went over to get some things I needed a couple of days after the break up. We fought and got along on and off. Emotions were high and there were ups and downs. At one point we napped together and he spooned me. He’s nuzzled me and his face…he was so happy. Then he realized what he did, freaked and started to cry. I am beyond devastated and I don’t know what to do. I am getting so many mixed signals and emotions are high. I hadn’t found our website until AFTER I came home from getting my things the next day. He thinks I did more than what I did, but he says what he knows for sure I did is more than enough. I don’t know how long I have, but I will spend the rest of my life fighting for change and loving him. Thank you for everything that you have posted and for helping all of these women. I am really hoping you can help me…help us. Thank you for your time.

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:26 pm

Well, go into NC for a while.
Dani

March 3, 2014 at 12:52 am

I forgot to mention that I spent the night that night and was there most of the next day. We slept in separate beds and rooms that night, but that next day he asked me if I wanted to lie in bed and nap a while since we were both exhausted. I cuddled him in my sleep and it went from there.

Kymberly

March 2, 2014 at 11:28 pm

so me and my boyfriend dated for three and a half years. we’ve been broken up for 2 weeks today. I cheated on him sometime in maybe the second year we had been dating. it lasted all of maybe a minute. I was very drunk and my boyfriend was in college while i was still in high school so we were doing a long distance thing. I told him that night the second after it happened. we worked through it and he forgave me. more recently though we had been fighting alot about how i dont feel wanted or special to him anymore. that i wasnt his number one his best friend (even though he was a guy) was and i had alot of jealousy problems with his best friend that caused us problems. I always felt like i came up short to him. turns out i was right. and he basically left the life he had with me for the life he could have with his best friend. anyways back to the cheating. i truly believe he forgave me for cheating on him and he even said that when we were breaking up. but since then Ive messaged a guy and he found the text messages. I had changed the guys name because i knew he wouldnt want me talking to him and because he has a tendency to text people back on my phone if he has been drinking even if we are not doing anything wrong 9(we had been drinking the night this happened). now im not for sure this is the reason we broke up. hes really vague about why. i never did anything with another guy again but he found flirting in my phone. now we were also living together and i think he needed space. we were spending too much time together. the day he broke up with me we had actually just found out that i wasnt pregnant and maybe things were just getting too serious for him and he wanted to be a college kid again. (hes 21 im 20) since we have broken up i know that all hes done is get drunk with his friends who have probably been encouraging him to stay broken up because they finally have their single friend to hangout with without a girlfriend calling or splitting their time. when we broke up he called it a break but i dont think its like that anymore. I really just want him back and i would do anything for it.

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:25 pm

May I ask what caused you to cheat on him? What was going on in your mind that caused you to cheat?
Kymberly

March 3, 2014 at 9:29 pm

i liked the attention the other guy gave me. I liked feeling special

Jaymi

March 1, 2014 at 7:35 am

My boyfriend (7 years)and I have been broken up for 18 days. Feels like an eternity to me. He moved out after finding text messages between me and the only other guy I ever dated briefly. Its not the first time I have talked to him behind his back. The other time was 2 years ago and he didn’t leave that time. Here’s some history: Almost our whole relationship I have supported him he went straight from his moms to me. I didn’t mind at first BC we were 19 when he first moved in. Now we are 23. I lost my father 2 years ago and it really affected me. I just didn’t feel like he was there for me. I had all the responsibilities on my shoulders for so long. He wouldn’t even clean up after himself. I needed some emotional support and to feel loved that’s why I contacted the guy and it just happened I didn’t even realize what I was doing its almost as if I was disassociated. So now my ex boyfriend says we can never be together. Like he says it religiously and with a seriousness in his voice, but when he went on a ski trip with his friend he texted me saying he wished I was there that it didn’t feel right without me. Then tells me our song came on the radio just adding to the sadness. So I felt like those texts were a sign he was coming around so I asked him if he wanted to watch a movie with me in what used to be our room when he got back. He had to pick up our dog anyway BC I was watching him while he went. He said yes and he spent the night and it wasn’t for sexual reasons. The next couple days he is still saying we shouldn’t see each other and that we can’t be together. Today I just started to not call or text to see if I get any results. Its very difficult to not do that. Its funny that’s what I started to do before I read your advice and I’ve already been working on getting super hot. Every time I call or text him I feel even worse and pathetic. I’m trying not to beat myself up too bad BC I’m sure I would of never strayed if he were giving me what I needed emotionally and financially. This could be a case where I realize I’m better off without him haha after reading all of that its like wow what a bum. Honestly I do love him though. There is so much more depth to this story. Any advice? Does it sound like he’s giving me mixed signals?

admin

March 2, 2014 at 7:15 pm

Well, keep doing NC at this point.

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