How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

1,990 thoughts on “You Want Your Ex Back After Cheating On Him…. Here’s What To Do”

Nicky

February 24, 2014 at 9:14 am

My ex of nearly two months still thinks I cheated on him. I keep on telling him I didn’t but he doesn’t believe me. The thing is I had this guy on my phone he was interested in me but I was interested in my ex eye dated 7 months and the first 3 months were so good and then I told my ex I have this guy who is trying to flirt with me, I said I told him- and I did- my ex later asked for my phone and I immediately went to the other guy’s messages, I showed my ex look how I told him- the thing is I was so annoyed with the guy that I went sarcastic- so my ex thought I was flirting but I thought he knew I was sarcastic. I admit I should have been straight forward with the guy and got rid of him, I just thought that was overreacting but now I wish I did…now my ex says I knew what I was doing … And said he only stayed the 4 months so he wouldn’t hurt my feelings….I know in my heart I didn’t cheat on my ex but he doesn’t see it like that…so how do I make him believe me, I love him and I really want us again..
izzy

February 23, 2014 at 4:43 pm

I live 3 doors away from my ex so the part about not seeing him for 30 days is hard. What do I do? I cant move out either as I have just signed a lease. I know I can not talk for 30 days but I will see him. Help!

izzy

February 28, 2014 at 4:38 am

Hello?
admin

February 28, 2014 at 10:54 pm

Yes?
izzy

March 1, 2014 at 8:13 am

Oh.. is my initial message not here anymore?

Liz

February 22, 2014 at 12:26 am

I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer and I lied to him about it because I was afraid of hurting and losing him. He just recently found out by telling me he heard from someone else the truth and I confessed, he then later said noone told him anything he just knew and wanted the truth. He was my absolute bestfriend and it killed me everyday I saw him that he didn’t know the truth but I got some advice from a few people and they told me to “take that shit to the grave” which now I regret listening to them 100 percent. We spent every weekend together with back to back sleepovers and he was honestly the love of my life. After finding out the truth (over Facebook) he continued to call me a hoe, slut, whore, bitch, etc… And told me he absolutely hated me and didn’t want to be with me and he was gunna fuck other girls right away. Like I said before, he’s the love of my life and I can’t lose him. Should I listen to your advice on this page or can you give me other ideas what to do to get him back?

El

March 2, 2014 at 10:54 pm

exactly the same thing has just happened to me, my boyfriend found out 3 days ago. I am an absolute mess and feel so horrible that I have hurt him so badly, I love him to bits. I wish I hadn’t have listened to those who said to deny it, mine was a very drunken mistake too. How do i get him back?
admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:44 pm

What caused you to cheat? Seriously this is really important.
Liz

February 23, 2014 at 5:09 pm

Honestly I was really drunk and stupid, we got in a fight before so I was angry at him but there was no reasoning behind it
Liz

March 2, 2014 at 10:41 pm

Please reply I’m in need of advice and help. I was going to go to his house in a couple weeks with a letter and a present. I’ll say I know presents don’t help but I wanna try my best to make it up to u, etc… Do u think this will help? It’s already been 2 weeks and ive only talked to him once, he still seems extremely mad and told me to move on, but i cant
admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:21 pm

Hahah I am not a fan of presents at all.

heartbroken

February 20, 2014 at 10:00 am

i hav cheated my ex bf n nw i want hm bck xo much bt i couldnt cntck hm as he block me in fb n i dnt knw how cn i cntck hm 2 get hm bck again plis help me
Taylor s.

February 19, 2014 at 9:22 pm

Does this go the same for lying? I didn’t really even lie he thinks I did and we broke up because of it… Help me Chris!

admin

February 20, 2014 at 7:38 pm

Have you read my guide on lying.

Helena

February 19, 2014 at 5:46 pm

I sexted a younger very hot guy from Adult Friend Finder. I have a fetish watching men masturbate and my boyfriend wouldn’t do it anymore for me and he is 39 and works swing shift so he is tired a lot and I always want sex because he is so hot and smells so good. So my dumb ass impulsively gave this younger man from AFF my number and we text. It wasn’t even really sexting,more like talking about my current relationship and why I was even texting him in the first place. I sent him a pic of my,well,you know,haha,and when he tried to call I didn’t answer. The whole time I couldn’t stop thinking about my boyfriend and how he had been cheated on in every single relationship except ours. I thought,”What am I doing?! This is wrong”. I deleted my account on AFF and changed my number. But…. I forgot to erase my texts and a month later,my boyfriend,now ex for a month now,read the messages and seen the pic. I didn’t lie to him. I told him everything though at first he accused me of lying because I really didn’t know what he was talking about. I had to search for the messages as I scrolled down to the bottom. My point is,I didn’t cheat physically and I knew it was wrong so I stopped before it got out of hand. I feel proud of myself for bring faithful and resisting temptation. I could have met up for sex with this guy. But,I could not. Now,I’m stuck in the friend zone. We talk everyday. We still share everything. But,he won’t see me. We were together for four years. We love the same music,we had our “things” like going exploring together,fishing,camping,hiking,biking,etc. Things he never did with his ex’s. And the sex was amazing! I wish I could talk to ya over the phone or text because there are some important things I need to tell you so that you can get a more in depth look at the situation. This man is very emotional and sensitive. He is a moody Pisces. If I do the 30 day no contact,it will make him even more angry because he likes to be chased. He was mad before because I didn’t chase him.
latisha

February 19, 2014 at 9:11 am

Ok will my story before me and him got together i told him i like girls and i ask him can he take me being bisexual he said yea and i said. Ok then my ex gf had kiked me one day when he was at my house and she had send me a pic and i send one and return and he got mad and i told him that he have all rights to be but i had let him know before this happened so what should i do about this

admin

February 19, 2014 at 7:26 pm

Most guys aren’t actually ok with the bisexual thing. Maybe he had a problem.
latisha

February 20, 2014 at 6:00 am

Ok will i told him i dont want to be with. Her or talk. To her if its going to cost me loseing him. And he keep telling go ahead and talk to her he dont care he not going to be mad about it nomo so what should i do now

Meanason

February 17, 2014 at 3:07 pm

I cheated on my boyfriend! It was the worst mistake of my life. It started around the end of December. There was a guy at work that was treating me really nice. He was showing me attention and messaging me and I got those butterflies in my tummy. He told me how sexy I was and sent me photos over the phone, which I sent them back but not naked ones… but still showing my figure. I didn’t really think anything of it to be honest. It just gave me confidence… Which seeing’s as I had put on a lot of weight over the last 12 months was something that I was lacking.

Then I had to have a procedure which I was very nervous about. I get very worked up, probably over think things like this, and always think the worst. I left my doctors referral letter at home by mistake and told my bf to go pick it up for me. So he dropped it off and said he would be back soon.

I left my mobile phone in the car, so I had no way to contact him. After about 45 minutes to an hour I asked the desk if I could call him as by this stage I was worried. I called him to find out that he was at home and that he wasn’t coming back. Granted I cracked the shits and didn’t ask him to come back. But I was really upset by this stage. I felt like he had let me down again. So I went back and sat down, and I felt like I had no one. I have never felt this alone (up until now) in a long time.

In the end they nearly didn’t perform the producer as my heart was beating irregular and they were concerned. And all I could think about was why wasn’t he here? He knows how scared I was? I know it was a procedure that most people get but that didn’t make me feel any easier about it.

He came and picked me up and he had a fight on the way home which left me alone at home as I was really angry. I have been angry before but this time I was really really really mad. How could be leave me when I waited with him only a couple of weeks ago with his dad and mum at the eye hospital as his dad was really sick and I kept his mum company? How?

Then I got some phone calls from my friends, as I was meant to go to a party that night, but I wasn’t feeling very well. Then the guy from work called me and asked me how I was and if I felt ok and if there was anything that he could do for me. This is what I wanted from my boyfriend. This is the reactions that I wanted from him and only him.

What I didn’t know at the time was before he left me at home, he went and spoke to my sister. He had gone through my phone while I had my procedure and saw that I had been messaging the guy at work and sending him pictures of myself, My sister said it must had been a phase I was going through. And now looking at it, it really was. I never had feelings for the guy. Yes he was good looking and yes he has a body on him but he has no qualities that interest me whatsoever. The attraction was that he called me sexy and asked the right questions when I wanted them asked. And I know that sounds really weak ☹

Anyway a little over a week later I cheated on my bf 🙁 I regretted the actions, but I told a lie to my boyfriend about cheating on him. He went through my phone again and found that I had. He doesn’t believe me when I said I was going to tell him… To be honest I was having trouble believing I had done it. But the truth was I was going to tell him… I couldn’t live with that and not telling him.

So we said he loved me and couldn’t live without me and I said the same thing too. I can’t. So we were working things out, well so I thought. I was still messaging the guy, I know, most of it was to do with work but there was still messaged that were about personal things like what he was doing outside of work. My bf knew about it and asked me, as his only request to stop messaging him. And I made the stupid mistake of not. Through the month I made some more poor discussions… I wasn’t handling this situation very well, and was trying to push it back in my mind that nothing had happened…

I asked my bf on several occusions if he wanted to talk about, which couple of times we did and then he said he didn’t want to hear it anymore. We went away on a day trip and everything was great 🙂

Towards the end of January I rang him really early one morning and said that I was so so so sorry the way I acted, and that I made some terrible mistakes and that Im really sorry. I told him that my behaviour was not expectable. But it was to late…

5 days later he broke up with me, and the worst part is if I had done this all a month ago I wouldn’t be in the situation I’m in now. I have tried to each out to him, and i have said that he is the only one, and that I’m willing to wait for him… but he saids that he loves me more then anything in this world… and that right now he can’t be with me as I made him play his hand and that he feels so betrayed.

We had a couple of physical moments, and he says that all the right things to be and afterwards he tells me all he needs is time and that he wants to work it out, and then the next time I see him its all back to square one where he says I don’t think I can work through the etc… Im getting so confused and upset…

Its been 12 days since we broke up, I have messaged him, he’s called me, I’ve seen him… He came over an hour ago and said the he loves me but can’t be with me… he also had land together and house plans which he is planning on cancelling…

I feel like i haven’t given him space, but in the sametime if I give him space I feel like I’m losing him. Im not eating, sleeping or anything at the moment… I love him so much, and I regret everything I did, and I know I didn’t handle myself well… But I would honestly do anything to reconnect with him as I know the love is still there… ANYTHING

Help 🙁

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:50 pm

Well, give him that space…
Meanason

February 18, 2014 at 1:30 am

And if he contacts me do I respond or give him space…
Meanason

February 17, 2014 at 3:20 pm

I forgot to add that this is a 5 year relationship

Keysha

February 16, 2014 at 8:38 pm

Ok so. You know how you wrote “Most women will cheat because their emotional needs aren’t met.” Well in my situation…

My boyfriend is selfish. I mean really selfish. But when it comes to me and his daughter, it’s a little different. One day, I tried to talk to him about how I felt; how I thought he was selfish and everything. He took highly offense to it. After the word “selfish” came out of my mouth, he no longer wanted to continue the conversation. I kept trying to reach him by talking and he still didn’t want to talk about it. So that kinda made feelings spiral a little downward.

the next day I left the conversation alone that we shared the other day. I thought “There’s no need to keep trying to explain why I feel this way. So I give up on that conversation.” But ever since then he’s been kind of… avoiding me. I had no idea why. I just thought he was changing on me. He would leave the house without telling me where he’s going, he would hang out with friends every chance he got – and would hang out all morning (till 5 or 7 in the morning). I kind of let it slide. But then he would start arguments with me like, “Why are you not talking to me?” Kind of thing or “Now you’re ignoring me?” I didn’t know what or where he was trying to get at with his very particular questions. I just blew it off like “Sure. If you say so.” I felt as if he was being very distant with me that whole week so I didn’t want to talk to him – out of anger.

Then the next day. On Valentines Day. We went to the mall to go shopping for our daughter. Once again he was being very distant with me then. I didn’t say anything about it because I wasn’t sure what his problem was but I could feel the vibe. It was definitely comming on strong. But the tension kind of eased up at the end of the shopping trip. He was a little more friendly with words and everything. But when we got home and started to drink and listen to music, he kept hinting that he knew something I didn’t want him to know about. But at the time I still wasn’t quite sure what his problem was. I thought HE was hiding something. So I grabbed his phone and tried to take a look through it. Without even knowing what I was about to do with his phone, he snatched his phone out of my hands. I got pissed off about that and started accusing HIM of hiding something in his phone. That’s when he started throwing hints like it’s me hiding things from him. I started to think about it and asked him, “What am I hiding?” and he looked at me and said, “You know what you’re hiding.” It really didn’t dawn on me, so I asked him again. He just left out of the room and let me think on it. So I thought, “What could I possibly be hiding from him?” Then it all hit me like “Oh he’s talking about the text messages that I sent to those men. He must have read all of them and every part of them.” So I kind of started to panic a little because I sent some very private messages to them – well not any nudity or anything, but photos? Yes. Planning dates to see them? Yes. But I wasn’t gonna actually see these guys. I just texted these guys out of anger. My man wasn’t being affectionate or just being there. Period. And on top of all of my feelings, he started being very distant with me. I started to panic a again. But then my panic went way down. I started thinking like, “Well he deserves it. He hasn’t been treating me like a girlfriend any ways.” But then I started to think like, “That’s why he’s been so distant. That’s why he hasn’t been wanting sex lately. And I thought it was him all along.” We didn’t say anything about it for the rest of that night. We just continued to drink and have a nice Valentines Day with family.

Then the next day. We were kind of cool. He didn’t say anything to me when I got home from work. He didn’t give me a hug or a kiss – but he never does that any way. I just sat in the kitchen and talked with my family members who came to visit. Then later on that night around ten. While We were laying in bed, he didn’t even want to put his arm around me. He wasn’t being very blunt with his feelings or anything but usually when we lie down next to each other he puts his arm on my waist. But I didn’t take it too personal. I thought he just didn’t want to be bothered or something. He eventually got up to use the bathroom and I heard him get a call. I could hear the whole conversation. It was one of his buds asking him if he was ready to “turn up.” I became so angry because I wanted to lay down and go to sleep next to him. So any ways, his friend was outside waiting for him to come out. He got ready and left. I was so pissed. I started texting other guys and everything. But I wasn’t gonna have them come over or anything because I have a little girl and I’m definitely not trying to have her around strangers. So I’m sleeping in bed all alone. I grab my daughter and lay her next to me in bed and start cuddling with her. I wake up every hour looking for my boyfriend. It’s three o’clock in the morning and he still didn’t come home. Then four o’clock passes…Then five o’clock passes…He comes home around 5:46. But this time I’m extremely pissed. And tired. So as I’m waiting for him to come to bed. I dozed off. The next thing you know, he’s laying down behind me all snuggled up. When I wake up and realize he’s in bed I forget about being angry and hold his hand. He gets very mad and says, “So now you’re touching me?” I frowned and said, “I guess so.” He took that to offense and asked me, “So what’s that supposed to mean?” I pause a little and take a deep breath. Then I say, “I guess it means I’m happy you’re home.” Then he just asked me out of nowhere, “Are you seeing someone else?”
I shook my head and said, “No. I’m not seeing anyone else.” He lets go of my hand and asks again, “Are you sure?”
I shake my head and say, “Yes, I’m sure.”
“I seen the text.”
“I’m not seeing anyone else, ____(name).”
And it just went on from there. I then explained to him the reason why I text the other guys and he started to feel guilty. Then kept saying how he may not be able to trust me and how I betrayed him. I felt so sorry because this is my first time ever actually going to another man for love. That doesn’t mean that my boyfriend has been a very good man to me in the past. Because I’ve been feeling this way for a LONG time. I just wanted to see if he’d change and plus I’ve just never took the time to actually start talking to another man who made me feel like myself again. So I explained to him how I felt about our relationship and once again he felt so guilty.

So maybe me talking to other guys brought us a little closer but a little further apart at the same time. I just know after that argument we had over me texting other guys lead him to cuddling with me and kissing me. I was kind of glad that we had that conversation. But as for the betrayal, I know that I have a long time to make that up.

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:32 pm

Thats interesting the way it worked out for you isn’t it.
Keysha

February 16, 2014 at 8:47 pm

After I told him how I felt about him and our relationship, he actually took my feelings to heed and promised to change. But we’ll see.

deborah

February 16, 2014 at 7:32 pm

hello, mine is a bit different in the sense that I was a player before because I was scared to go into something serious. but later, I met this guy and we got talking and I realized I wanted to be with him but there was someone in my life but the relationship wasn’t a serious one and I knew it wasn’t going far. now I have come to love the new guy but the problem is, he when through my phone without my concern and found out that I was till hanging out with the old guy after we met for 4 days. now I think his loosing interest although I know he loves me so much but am scared his going to break up with me anytime soon. I have promised to change my phone number to avoid problems but as at now I do not know what to do to keep him.
PLZ HELP ME

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:34 pm

You were a player hahaha. Not many women would admit that.

Arpi

February 16, 2014 at 5:40 pm

my ex-boyfriend loved me very much..but i cheated him with another guy…now am not happy with this guy..he keeps on fighting everytime..i realised now dat i love my ex and i know he still love me..i want him back in my life again but the thing is He is with another girl now…he made a new girlfriend right after i broke up with him..we dont talk now and have not any kind of contact..but whenever i am around he stil notice me..but seems like hes happy with his new galfriend but my friend says d way he looks u like he still love u..wat shud i do??please help me

admin

February 17, 2014 at 7:33 pm

Do you think your boyfriend would ever forgive you?

els

February 16, 2014 at 10:00 am

Hi, mine is a bit different because i didn’t actually cheat.i was still into my ex and i felt i was keeping it a secret and it was making me feel weak so i decided to tell my ex so i can be free and move on with my ex boyfriend and this ex has showed the messages to my boyfriend and he angry that i didn’t love him so he broke up with me and now i want him back madly that i don’t know what to do so please help me

admin

February 16, 2014 at 6:30 pm

Ya but that can actually be considered emotional cheating to a guy…. I mean, no guys wants to hear he is the second choice.
els

February 16, 2014 at 10:02 am

Sorry i can move on with my boyfriend not ex

Hopeful

February 14, 2014 at 4:49 am

So.. I started dating my boyfriend right after I got out of engagement.. (For cheating and bad treatment) my boyfriend was everything I ever wanted. To a T. But at the time I still had lingering feelings for my x fiancé. My x fiancé was doing everything to get me back, and because of court (joint custody reasons) we unfortunately had to be in the same room. He convinced me to allow him to talk to me, I agreed. And unfortunately I cheated on my boyfriend, to fix my broken “family”. Well, I realized that I had left my x fiancé for certain reasons, that were proven to me over and over that wouldn’t change. So as soon as I told my x fiancé I didn’t want to patch up the broken bridge, he told my boyfriend what happend between us. My boyfriend of course hated me, but still spoke to me a couple days after the fact, I have seen him since, and we talk everyday, and I have apologized until I turned blue in the face, so your 30 day, no apology rule, are too late in my case. It’s been around 3 months now.. And it seems like his getting very distant, emotionally. I know what it feels like to be cheated on, my x fiancé did it to me, so I understand his really hurt. ( and I know I committed the most horrible mistake ever… And I can’t believe I did it knowing exactly what it feels like on the other end) Oh little detail u left out, we live in different states, so it’s a long distance relationship. I do not know what to do to gain his trust back, specially living so far away. He was closer to me right after it happened then he is now. I want him back, I do love him, and he is exactly what I want. He has made it clear that if his worth it I’ll do what it takes to show him I want to be with him, and gain his trust back. But has also made it clear that it will be very difficult since loyalty is number one thing in a relationship for him… Somewhere deep down I’m still…. hopeful…. Any help will be greatly appreciated

admin

February 14, 2014 at 6:44 pm

Ya this is tough.

Obviously you shouldn’t have cheated.

Have you read my long distance guide?
Hopeful

February 14, 2014 at 11:23 pm

No. Do you have a link?
admin

February 15, 2014 at 1:50 am

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-complete-guide-to-getting-an-ex-boyfriend-back-in-a-long-distance-relationship/

Deborah

February 12, 2014 at 3:50 pm

I cheated on my boyfriend and we’ve tried to sort something’s out but said I have to gain his trust back if we were to try again one minute then saying he can’t do it another, but I’m still trying to prove to him that I want to be with him, but cause I’ve been stressed out for other reasons he thinks its to do with the cheating, but I’ve lost contact with that person and shown him that, but he went to one of my girl friends and wanted to chat to her about things and I know this girl will tell him to leave me as she can be nasty and only thinks about herself, she knows how much I like him and what it would do to me if we didn’t get back together, so how can I prove to him that he’s the only person I want to be with and what the girl is saying isn’t true ? Please help me out

admin

February 12, 2014 at 7:56 pm

Well you did cheat on him so that is a lot of headwind you have to deal with.

Why did you cheat on him by the way (and this is important trust me.)

loveBB

February 12, 2014 at 1:34 am

So This is my baby father . He dont like me seeing nobody or talking to nobody ( in a getting togather type of way ) he talks too females but does not sex them he say because he loves me . Long story short he found text in my phone . It looked like i was cheating but i was not but he thinks i was . So what can i do to get him back . We still act like we are togather and all but he acts like he dont wana say he miss me . He loves me . Tell me thinh like we use too what should i do . ( Sounds Complicated & Confusing)
Chasity

February 11, 2014 at 7:55 am

My ex won’t reply to any messages that I send him.. What else can I do?

admin

February 11, 2014 at 6:22 pm

What are you rmessages like?
Chasity

February 11, 2014 at 6:56 pm

Just explaining myself and what happened… It’s been almost 4 weeks and I know he isn’t talking to anyone else.. He’s just still mad about it. But I can’t fix the situation if he won’t even give me a chance to explain.

nesha

February 11, 2014 at 3:20 am

My ex thinks I cheated on him but I didn’t he’s in a whole new realtionship cahnged his number and everything its pretty much over for me isn’t it?

admin

February 11, 2014 at 6:10 pm

Do you have any other way of getting in touch with him?
nesha

February 12, 2014 at 12:08 am

I email him and nothing, what can I say to show him I didn’t cheat?

rl

February 10, 2014 at 11:59 pm

i cheated on my bf and we broke up but we havent stopped talking, he still texts me daily…
he says hes over me and that he doesnt miss me…but it doesnt make sense why he would still talk to me.. is he using me for comfort till he finds someone els? its been almost 3 months since we broke up.

admin

February 11, 2014 at 12:52 am

What caused you to cheat on him?
rl

February 11, 2014 at 6:10 am

it was a long distance relationship, the time difference and everything made it all very difficult. i couldnt handle the fact that he might cheat on me *because he cheated on his ex to be with me* so i guess i beat him to it…with a guy that supposedly loved me a lot…

suzanne

February 10, 2014 at 7:01 am

and yeah, I cheated on him because he used to give me less time..I had not much importance..he was neglecting me..

admin

February 10, 2014 at 6:52 pm

Ok, let me ask you what makes you think if you get him back that he won’t just neglect you again.

suzanne

February 10, 2014 at 6:58 am

he came to know about what i did to him two days before. and i’ve already sent him 3 lon messages. he has blocked me on facebook, skype even on gmail.. he insulted me bitterly before doing all this. if I wait for too many days(30 days) to talk to him,he would say i pissed off him and now coming to him uselessly..
i can be really sure about this because when I don’t talk to him for 2 days he reacts bitterly just because i’ve been far from him..he says he is not a game etc..
so..I just can’t wait for 30 days..he will surely move on..
what should I do??
how do I gain his trust again?? :/

admin

February 10, 2014 at 6:51 pm

I actually wrote a guide on how to do that

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-make-an-ex-boyfriend-trust-you-again/

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