How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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Sarah

February 10, 2014 at 2:49 am

I was with my boyfriend for 5 years, and 3 months ago he broke up with me (he said he wasn’t happy anymore). We started seeing each other shortly after that, hooking up and what not. Then on New Years, we were at the same party, and I drank too much and slapped him across the face and very emotionally yelled at him in front of a couple of his friends, saying “how could you do this to me?!” over and over. A couple days later, he ended things yet again. I figured after that it was over for good, until he started texting me a week later. We started things up again, and were spending a lot of time together, but he said he didn’t want to rush back into it. Over the last week, we have been acting like we are back together, but still he didn’t want to fully commit. Last night was my 25th birthday party, and he came out for it. Over the course of the night, I again drank too much (I plan on giving up alcohol after last nights incident) and got black out drunk. I got very emotional again, and when he drove me home, I started hysterically crying because he wouldn’t sleep over. He came inside, and stayed with me til I fell asleep. The next day I was texting him, but he didn’t respond for hours. I figured he was upset with me because of what happened when he dropped me off. I ended up calling him, and during the phone call, he informed me that I made out with one of my good friends. I don’t remember any of it. I think he is going to end things again, and I need to know what I can do for him not to give up on us.. Help 🙁

admin

February 10, 2014 at 6:33 pm

Black out drunk is usually never a good thing.

Let your actions speak louder than your words. SHOW him you can be trusted.
Sarah

February 12, 2014 at 12:40 am

Thanks!!!

Depressed

February 6, 2014 at 3:55 pm

So I’ve been talking to this guys for 6 months and he’s hooked up with another girl while we were talking but I gave him another chance because I really like him and thought we could be something. We talked about dating for a while and he was finally going to ask me out on a Saturday. The Friday night before I hooked up with some kid and I don’t even know why or how it just happened. I told him about it knowing it was the right thing to do. He has trust issues. We talked about it all night long and he said he would try to forgive me and trust me again. Honestly I’m in love with him and care about him more than anything in the world. I really messed up and the past 3 weeks have been ok then bad then ok then bad. He keeps bringing up how he doesn’t know if he can do this anymore but he wants to be with me and I don’t know what to do. He moved a couple months ago and it’s hard to prove in actions that he can trust me when he’s 45 minutes away. I CANT LOSE HIM. I would do ANYTHING to prove to him that he’s my everything. What do I do!!!???
Ashley

February 5, 2014 at 7:28 pm

Hi I just recently cheated on my bf he found out now he unsure how I can make it up to him he’s been cheated on evey girl he’s been with I feel so horrible I don’t want to lose him he’s thinking about ending things.i need help I want to prove to him it will never happen again that he can trust me but don’t know how

admin

February 6, 2014 at 5:34 pm

What made you cheat on him?
Tyreshia

February 11, 2014 at 1:38 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time we even dated in kindergarten and now we are in high school and it seems like nobody wants us to be together because they would do anything to ruined our relationship and we try to stay strong but I ended up kissing another guy because I felt like given up on my boyfriend I was tired of the drama that came with me and him being together…so when he found out he was torn apart but yet he had forgiven me but at the same time I feel like I don’t deserve to be forgiven because he did not deserve what I had done to him he’s been there for me all the time and he never given up on me so i feel so guilty how do I get rid of this feeling because I can’t no matter how hard I try
Tyreshia

February 11, 2014 at 1:38 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time we even dated in kindergarten and now we are in high school and it seems like nobody wants us to be together because they would do anything to ruined our relationship and we try to stay strong but I ended up kissing another guy because I felt like given up on my boyfriend I was tired of the drama that came with me and him being together…so when he found out he was torn apart but yet he had forgiven me but at the same time I feel like I don’t deserve to be forgiven because he did not deserve what I had done to him he’s been there for me all the time and he never given up on me so i feel so guilty how do I get rid of this feeling because I can’t no matter how hard I try

Brytni

February 5, 2014 at 4:38 pm

I was considering leaving him and it was bc I felt neglected. I turned to an ex for comfort. I never physically cheated but I told my ex to come over and kiss me, I didn’t give an address. I still spoke to my ex off and on but never met up. there were pics exchanged and words but I never failed to mention I loved my bf. in an act of spite my ex contacted my bf and told him everything. my bf left me. how do I get him back. he truly is the one for me.
Andrea

February 5, 2014 at 12:19 pm

Well….when i started to date my ex, i met a friend of his… This friend of his started to talk wit me always. He’s always around whenever i feel lonely…most of the times..my ex bf was very caring but sometimes he is just ..he is just cold i mean he doesnt talk much… And so his friend had a gf but he broke up wit her since he said he loves me… I was so confuse…i made my mistake by letting him take down my walls when i couldnt take it anymore..i mean the silence between my ex bf and me..brought me to hav feelings for his friend.. Then i said to my ex bf we should cool off…n i started to see his friend without my ex knowing…cuz he is so persistent….and now my ex bf is so mad at me…because he thinks this is what i repay him for all his caring

liat

February 6, 2014 at 12:08 pm

exact same thing happened to me, exact! but me and his friend pecked and now my ex doesn’t trust me in the slightest and shit this is the same situation

Lost

February 3, 2014 at 1:17 pm

I cheated two months ago at a christmas party, I was blindingly drunk and it was completely unintentional. I kept it a secret because my now ex means absolutely everything to me. Unfortunately last night someone ratted me out and he won’t tell me who. He says he’s unsure of what to do about letting me make it up to him and is still talking to me. What do I do? He’s my world!

admin

February 3, 2014 at 6:24 pm

Why would you cheat on him though?
Lost

February 4, 2014 at 1:42 pm

There wasn’t a reason, I wasn’t even attracted to him, I’d been drinking wine which is a very bad choice for me and I pushed him off in seconds, but like I said there wasn’t a reason.

Samantha

February 2, 2014 at 7:17 pm

I cheated on my boyfriend at a party. He didn’t even want to go and hang out with this friend cause he knew something good wasn’t gonna come out of it. I wanna proove myself to him but don’t know how..

admin

February 3, 2014 at 5:54 pm

Why did you cheat on him?

belle

February 2, 2014 at 10:25 am

i got drunk and cheated on my dude of 2 years on a celebrity 20 years older than me that i will never see again. i owned up to it immediately. he’s been cheated on by every girl he’s ever been with. do i even have a chance?
Stacy

February 2, 2014 at 1:48 am

I have been with my BF for 5 years, he left to go to another state for a job and I was left here. We have had some issues and when he was gone things got worse. I cheated on him and hate myself for it. He is now back home and says he wants to see where things go, but while he was gone he had meet another girl, he said he does have feelings for her but isn’t going to act on them. But he keeps texting her and calls her whenever he isn’t with me. I am trying to prove my loyalty to him and be there but it’s hard with him talking to this girl. Also we still live together…I am not sure how to handle this and he said to give him space but thats hard to do with living with each other..I am just confused and need some help please!

admin

February 2, 2014 at 6:44 pm

NC is more complicated since you two live together.

At this point just be a respectful roommate.

pear

February 1, 2014 at 9:54 pm

My bf and I stay together,he went through my phone and saw chats with me and mine exs.. he believe I still date them and called it off.he said we can’t date anymore but we could still be room mates,is there any possibility he could forgive me and date me back if we stay together.
Jenye

February 1, 2014 at 6:07 am

I have cheated on my bf but he dosent live me at that tym but noww he iz going to break up… ;(.. Plzzz help me wat can I do to him that he would not take that action???

admin

February 1, 2014 at 6:41 pm

What caused you to cheat on him?

April

February 1, 2014 at 2:22 am

Hey I need some real advice. I been with my man for going on 5yrs and my ex bestfriend told him I cheated on him and when he asked me was it true I had no choice but to come clean with him and tell him I did cheat…. So now he not talking to me and I want/need my man back what should I do?

admin

February 1, 2014 at 6:40 pm

Are you in NC?

Marie-leen

January 31, 2014 at 3:38 am

Okay well I did not cheat on my boyfriend, but he dumped me because he thinks om cheating with a guy I work with. He is very jealous and obsessive and do not alow me to talk to anthing with a penis. Anyway I kept my friendship a secret with the guy I work with (he is a good friend, and he is engaged anywAys) becAuse I knew my boyfriend will freak out and think the worst of me if he knew a male is texting me. He came across msgs last night that I did not delete and he freaked out and dumped me. I really did not cheat on him but he won’t believe a word I say. I don’t wnt to loose him he is my everything please help

admin

January 31, 2014 at 6:41 pm

To be honest.. He has some serious issues. Are you sure you want him back?
marsha

February 16, 2014 at 5:01 am

i have the same problem: i did not cheating but he believe that i am did that. should i do this article above too?

Nisa

January 28, 2014 at 12:57 pm

Hey i need some help here. so recently i admitted to my bf that i cheated on him. which was unintentional because there was this idiot who wont stop harassing me for sex and he wont take no for an answer. my bf told me that we should take a time off. right now we’re texting normally – as “friends”. in the meantime, i gotta do whatever it takes to prove him that i still love him. so what should i do? i was thinking of leaving him cupcakes at the door that says “im sorry” and write a proper love letter. ask him out to dinner the next week too. text him less often and remind him that i still love him but i dont wanna irritate him…..
Linda

January 26, 2014 at 11:40 pm

I’ve read through most of the material on your website and it is an eye opener. Most of what I’m reading seems to imply that this method works in relationships that initially lasted for >1 year. Do these tactics still work for relationships <1 year (let's say 2-3 months)?

admin

January 27, 2014 at 7:15 pm

They can but I think in that case the NC rule has to be shortened.

:(

January 25, 2014 at 2:00 am

so hum, what happened was that in our prom i got extremely drunk and kissed another guy that btw i have always hated. so my ex discovered the very next day the same time as i did (that was particularly awful). i went to his home and we decided to kind of stay apart until he figured out what he was going to do about it. but he couldnt! we continued talking normally, cause he said he never loved anyone like he loved me.. so hum. suddenly he started to stay rude with me (he has a friend that i dont like cause he is a dickhead! really, and as my ex is easily manipulated, so this ”friend” took advantage of the situation). long story short, we broke up yesterday, now he is going to college and im not, and this dickhead friend is going with him! im afraid to loose him forever.. like i really love him, we were best friends.. and.. gosh.. i love him. and im scared. all this happened in one month! what should i do ? will i loose him forever ? and forgive my english.. oh and thanks for the text.. it helped a lot..

admin

January 27, 2014 at 6:41 pm

Are you doing the NC rule?

Faith

January 23, 2014 at 10:02 pm

So last night my boyfriend broke up with me because I cheated on him. Long story short, We have been together for 3 months and I moved in with him because he wanted me to. I agreed to try it (I was leery since his place was small and we had only been dating for a short amount of time). About a week and a half ago we got into a bad argument where blew up at me for leaving a light on early in the morning when I left for work and he was trying to sleep (there was a lot of tension building up to this point- I knew the living situation in his place would be bad). Anyway I thought it would be best for me to move out and I packed all my things and left right away after work and went back to my sisters house, where I previously lived and am on the lease, and pay equal rent until the lease is up in May. During the 2 days he and I weren’t speaking an old guy friend of mine wanted to go to dinner, where we had drinks and he ended up coming over at the end of the night… And that’s when I cheated/betrayed the great guy I had been seeing the last 3 months. This other guy means nothing to me and I wish I had not made the mistake I did. So, here comes the worst part- My sister and I got into a very bad fight the other night and she knew I had cheated and set me up to admit sleeping with the other guy and recorded the conversation as blackmail. She sent the video to all our friends and last night my boyfriend saw it. Please help me. He wants nothing to do with me and this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.
Liz

January 23, 2014 at 5:43 am

Hi
I cheated on my boyfriend for 8 months and when he asked me about it I lied to him and told him I didn’t. I have since told him the truth and even told him who it was and now when he asks me a question and I answer he says it’s bullshit and it sounds like a lie when it’s not. Over the past 12 months I have lied and then come clean about it. I feel as if I’m covered in lies I don’t know what the truth is anymore.

We are still together and he has told me that I need to prove everything to him before he will trust me.

Help

admin

January 24, 2014 at 4:58 am

Well, can you blame him for being a little nervous about trust. I know if a girl cheated on me I would be the same.

Just take it day by day and do everything you can to make him feel comfortable.

shona

January 21, 2014 at 6:19 pm

Me too want my ex bf back i realize dat i can’t live widout him …….. but he neva xpresd his luv wich made me Lonely n unsatisfied

admin

January 22, 2014 at 5:35 pm

But you cheated on him?

nina g

January 21, 2014 at 2:34 pm

Okay so I’ve written to you a few times about my situation and I just wanted to update you..
Long story short, my boyfriend broke up with me about 6 months ago because he didn’t trust me anymore. I hurt him a lot throughout the relationship, one of those times being that I cheated on him. After we broke up, he started seeing a girl who I was close friends with etc and they dated for about 3 months but things didn’t work out and now they are just friends.
He did not contact me for 5 months and on one occasion when we bumped into each other while he was seeing this new girl, he was cold and made it very clear that he hated me and wanted nothing to do with me again. He was very spiteful and now that I look back at it, I think he was just trying to make himself feel wanted again while at the same time benefiting from the fact that I was now the one upset.

The update on the situation is that I ended up bumping into him New years eve and we somehow ended up standing together alone while the countdown went off.. We had a very civil conversation where we caught up on things, joked around and he told me that although he wasn’t ready to have me in his life yet, he doesn’t hate me and we were at least civil now. I told him that he can message me whenever he is ready, and it would mean a lot to me to have him in my life again (even as friends)

I heard from mutual friends that he had been talking about it to people and saying that he was glad we were civil and the conversation was nice.
A few weeks later, he went into my gay best friends work (he cut my best friend off when we broke up because he didn’t want to be reminded of me) and then afterwards texted my friend saying it was good seeing him and wanted to catch up.
He invited my friend out to a club that me and my friends are at every weekend, and my friend said that he would come, but he would obviously be with me, and my ex said that was fine.
So we ended up seeing each other that weekend and spoke, which again was very pleasant and civil. I was polite and spoke to him a little, but at the same time didn’t make myself seem overly keen. My friends all said how calm and polite I seemed, so I think it went well.

Now I will be seeing him again in two weeks at a mutual friends party.

I basically just wanted to know what you think about his change in attitude towards the whole thing.. what do you think he means when he said he isn’t ready to have me in his life again yet, and what do you think about his change in attitude towards me?
It’s been about 7 months since the breakup, and I have changed a lot for the better (which he said he has noticed) and although it doesn’t hurt much anymore, I still do miss him a lot and want him back in my life.
Also, how should I act around him at this party? I am using all the willpower I have not to text him and wait for him to come to me. Am I doing the right thing?

Thanks for reading this novel of a comment!

admin

January 21, 2014 at 6:17 pm

Be as classy as possible.

Mature and classy trumps immature and wild any day of the week.
nina g

January 21, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Also, I should add that throughout the breakup I never tried to contact him as I felt I owed it to him to let him do whatever he needed to be happy, even if it was hurting me.

He blocked me and my friends on facebook so that he didn’t have to see anything to do with me, and hadn’t been to our local club once since the break up, up until the recent time that I just explained.
I was wondering if it was possible, that his way of dealing with our break up was to completely cut me off and block everything out, but seeing me on New years and us being civil may have made feelings resurface? Or does that just sound like wishful thinking..

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