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Trevor
January 5, 2014 at 4:17 am
You know it kinda sounds like you’ve never been cheated on, and therefore believe you have all the cards at your disposal since you were always the cheater.
It comes down to one simple thing, if you love someone you communicate with them, you trust them and you deal with shit together. If you don’t you cheat. As soon as you spread your legs/shove your cock into/for someone else other than partner, you have chosen to betray your lover. The cheating is a selfish act, nothing to do with them. And when you are caught you aren’t sorry you were cheating but that you were caught. Simple answer is dont cheat if you love your partner.
admin
January 5, 2014 at 8:14 pm
I tend to agree with you. If you love someone you won’t cheat on them.
However, people make mistakes and I think everyone should have a second chance to redeem themselves.
Brandon
January 3, 2014 at 6:43 am
Alright. I know this is a post for females that cheat or whatever
admin
January 3, 2014 at 8:04 pm
Yes and?
Alisha
January 3, 2014 at 5:06 am
My ex suddenly wants to continue studying with me. We have exams. This means he will be coming over every night and he will be around my parents who by the way are a little upset with him because he broke things off with me. Why would put himself in that position? From what I know of dating him for over 2 years I know he’s one to avoid awkward situations. We broke up just 2 months ago. Is he testing the water or am I over thinking this? More importantly what how do I act around him?
admin
January 3, 2014 at 8:01 pm
Act as classy as you possibly can.
Mariah
January 3, 2014 at 4:43 am
I had cheated on my boyfriend of 4 months.
I was drunk and was playing a game of truth or dare with some friends at a party.(Which he wasn’t at) when I was dared to kiss another guy.. and at first I did not want to but then of course. Peer pressure got the best of me. So I did it. I did tell my boyfriend about the incident a little while after it happened.
Me cheating didn’t cause us to break directly.. A few weeks after this had happened we had a fight about something dumb (I can’t remember what.) And he walked away. It was over..
It’s been almost a year and I still want him.. just him.. But I don’t know if he’ll ever give me another chance….
What should I do??
admin
January 3, 2014 at 8:00 pm
Truth or dare? Really? Hahahaha was it a long kiss or just like a peck?
When was the last time you talked to him?
Mariah
January 4, 2014 at 4:51 am
Yeah haha I know stupid… It was like a peck and I actually talked to him yesterday..
admin
January 4, 2014 at 6:39 pm
Well that isn’t as bad. I mean, I get why he was upset but it’s not as bad as say.. sleeping with someone.
Mariah
January 5, 2014 at 2:26 am
I talked to him and he said he didnt know about taking me back… :/ I hope he does… I really still like him.. and I was so happy with him
Mariah
January 3, 2014 at 4:50 am
I should at that during the fight i had said “If you dont wanna be together anymore walk away.. If you do still wanna be with me stay and we’ll work it out” So it was sort of a mutual break up…
Mariah
January 3, 2014 at 4:51 am
I should add*
Kayla
January 3, 2014 at 12:16 am
I am in desperate need of some advice, you see I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and during the first year of our relationship I cheated on him twice. When he found out about the first guy he had to hear it from other people before he got the truth out of me, he was hurt but took me back shortly after. Then here recently he found out about me cheating on him a second time after giving me chance after chance to tell him myself I just wouldn’t cave until it was way to late. We are working things out but it’s a huge set back in our relationship. I have ruined whatever trust that was left between us and I have hurt an amazing guy who didn’t deserve any of this. He would have never hurt me like I have hurt him and although I took your advice in the above Collum I was wondering what your advice was specifically on my situation….
admin
January 3, 2014 at 7:51 pm
What caused you to cheat on him?
mia
January 1, 2014 at 5:23 pm
I had a boyfriend for almost 3 years. He left one summer to go spend time with his dad and sister. In the time of him being gone, I started to feel lonely, and unwanted. So I starts to talk to other guys and I kissed one of them but never did I have sex with any of them. When he finally got back home after three months, one of my close friends went back and told him that I was cheating on him in return of her saying that he started talking to other females. He would feel on them, and kiss them but he never would have sex with them. Some weeks after that he broke up with me. We didn’t talk for maybe nine months. We’ve started talking again and he’s like my bestfriend. We are both in relationships, but we still kiss and feel on each other. He loves me and I love him. I just want him back.
Samantha
December 27, 2013 at 9:40 pm
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost a year because things were going a bit downhill. But we’ve broken up many times before and are the couple that goes back together. We’ve had issues in our relationship where he didn’t really appreciate me as far as taking me out during the day, he wanted me to lose weight for him, and he was embarassed to introduce me to anyone (friends/family). It was getting to a point where it was too much for me and I decided to try and end it. Though, in the midst of this relationship I cheated on him twice with two different guys. He only knew partially about the second one where I told him I went out with the coworker but I never came clean about making out like I did. (I didn’t have sex with any of these guys. Just make out.) And I promised/swore only because I knew I would have lost him otherwise. But we went the whole year without him knowing anything else and during this time where I decided to break up with him for good, I decided to come clean about cheating on him during the relationship. After a couple days I felt sick to my stomach and I honestly believe that he’s the one I’m supposed to be with. I’ll lose the weight for him, change my attitude, and do anything to get his trust back. Though, none of this seems to change his mind as I have told him I would do this before and it never really happened. The whole time I was taking the relationship for granted.
I wish I would have seen this post sooner because maybe I would have done the 30 days no contact. But since I didn’t I ended up contacting him recently (after 3 days of breaking up) to try and mend things. After I told him about cheating on him he went and made out with a girl I was paranoid about the entire relationship, although he wasn’t cheating since we were broken up, it still pretty much hurts just as bad. I’ve never been cheated on or ever cheated until this relationship and I can understand how he feels. Though, he doesn’t believe that I do. To make it fair and for him to forgive me he gave me an ultimatum that I have to find two girls to give him oral. I stupidly asked my two closest friends and of course they said no since they have boyfriends and it’s just straight up odd but I don’t know what else to do. I told him I would do anything just to have him back in my life because I want him back but his demand is too much. I never did anything sexual with the guys, only make out and he’s asking for this. I told him that and he said he doesn’t care it’s the only way..
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:25 pm
Well, you still made out with them and that hurts..
Jess
December 26, 2013 at 6:50 am
Hi,
In desperate need of help, I’ll try and keep this short.
I cheated on my boyfriend who I love with, just once, with a coworker. It shouldn’t have happened, and when I think back to it, I don’t know why it did. I guess I felt upset and vulnerable at the time as I had just gone through a miscarriage and it felt nice to have someone to talk to.
I wanted to tell my boyfriend about it but didn’t. To make it worse, I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant and not sure who the dad is, it could be either. I wanted to tell him but he was so excited about becoming a dad as we’d had two failed tries before, but the time never felt right to say anything.
The other guy told him 4 days ago, now he’s staying at his parents and I’m at mine.
I’ll do doing prenatal paternity tests next week but it takes so long to get results.
I wish I had never cheated, and I wish I told him straight up. He’s a good man and I can’t live without him but he hates me. What can I do?
Thank you
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:26 pm
Well you should probably figure out who the dad is before anything else.
Shelbyyy
December 26, 2013 at 5:54 am
I recently cheated on my now ex boyfriend of almost 4 years. Yeah, I know, stupid of me. He wasn’t showing me much attention, he talked to his friends more than me, and I was starting to feel really lonely at night. It didn’t help the fact he works at a strip club. So he is always around gorgeous girls. I’m really insecure and I’m pretty sure it drives him up the walls. And it also doesn’t help the fact I cheated with an ex, whose sister is also my best friend. The ex I cheated with told him when they were both drunk, but he has yet to tell his girlfriend who is also the mother of his child. I’m scared if I give my recent ex too much time, he’ll move on and won’t ever talk to me again. We were on a good track until I told him I couldn’t trust him right now as well. A year ago, he lied to me about a lot of thing, especially about a girl he used to work with. He took her out a few times and I had no clue about it until one of my best friends say it on his facebook. I am fighting for his trust. I’m scared all I’m doing is pushing him even farther away. Not to mention, all my clothes and furniture are with him. I have no where to put my stuff as to me sleeping on my mother’s couch.
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:25 pm
Can I ask why you cheated?
Teresa
December 25, 2013 at 9:52 pm
I’ve recently started seeing a lovely man, he has treated me really nicely and is the perfect gentlemen, we’ve had a lovely time and get on great and everyone says we look good together, the way he looks at me is amazing, but on Friday night I was waiting to hear from him to see if we would be seeing each that night, but I didn’t hear, I had had a few drinks and decided to go out anyway, I walked into the pub he was drinking In basically said that I was disappointed not to have heard, I left the pub and met my friend, he text me to say sorry he hadnt text but he was out with boys and had been since 4 o’clock (it’s Christmas time) I should have left it there but instead I bumped into him all night, got more drunk and just made a fool of myself, then at once point when I didn’t feel I was getting anywhere I danced with another man and it ended up with a full blown kiss, I felt so uncomfortable and hadn’t explained I was with someone else, I then moved away from him so I could try and sort it out with my man, he had seen it all and wasn’t impressed, I said I was so sorry and I hadn’t been happy with it etc…
We talked for a while and his friend said you’ve blown it with him, I was really upset and went home, I text several times , he text back and said ‘we need to talk’ he wanted to see me face to face, it took two days, he came round and said (this is quite important here) that he had not long been out of a terrible relationship, going through divorce, trying to see his children, no home of his own etc and said he needed to be in his own and just enjoy himself, be with friends and basically get himself sorted out..
I accepted it and let him go, I really like him so much , that night out I’ve noticed that I was only concerned with my feelings and not his at all, I realise this may ,have made me look ugly and I am dissapointed with myself for that, I am usualy a lovely kind person who allows all freedom etc, not jealous at all and easy going so I don’t know what got into me that night
What I am wondering is, does the kiss mean I was cheating? And was his reasons pretty true or was it that what I did so bad it caused him to finish it?
I am prepared to give him space and time etc before trying again, I know he liked me a lot, as his friends had said and he also talked of slight future things, like tiling my kitchen and helping with my car etc. so I wonder if he still has feelings that could be acted on one day?
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:13 pm
Well, if he defines it as cheating then yes….
Teresa
December 26, 2013 at 9:10 pm
I think he would class it as cheating yes.. It was the one thing I shouldn’t have done. He does need the time to sort himself out, I never cheated on anyone before and the first time I do it is to someone I really care about.. I will do the nc rule and hopefully pray for his forgiveness, and hope he sees that was I did was not because I did t want him, infact I wanted him very much, and realise how stupid I have been and it could very well have cost me any chance with him now
Teresa
December 25, 2013 at 9:59 pm
Also he did say to me that he wants to be friends and didnt want to lose me as a person, he said this during the break up
Neha
December 25, 2013 at 8:02 am
I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years until yesterday. 2 years back I had broken up with my bf as he had insulted me in front of my class (coming in the class and throwing away my books and whatever was on my table, he did that because he was mad at me for not coming in the college canteen to give him notes, I didn’t go as I was busy with my work) lame right? .I was really humiliated. Then I met this guy through facebook. We got along well. I met him. We went out on some dates. I was really lonely that time. I missed my bf. This other guy proposed me and I agreed. We got intimate within months. I knew I was doing a mistake I couldn’t stop myself. Later on he went to UK. I was left alone again. But now that I think about it I never really loved this guy.. I was just seeking comfort. Which my bf failed to give me. I never felt loved when I was with my bf. He was dominating. That’s where I started flirting. But eventually I got back with my bf after two months of separation. I told him what I done n he said he forgived me after lots of begging from my side. We were fine until yesterday. But suddenly he says you betrayed me so I’m breaking up with you. I was shocked as he brought it up all of a sudden after 2 years. . I tried reasoning with him. He just wouldn’t listen. I already am ashamed of my self for my past mistakes. I can’t change my past now. It’s already done. I just want him back. I changed back to my normal self long back. It’s been 2 years now I haven’t met any guy and I did not flirt at all. I really changed.. I don’t know what caused him to suddenly break up after 2 years after that incident.i want him back now.. I know I’m writing too much but I’m not good at explaining things.i don’t know what to say.
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:57 pm
Have you donea NC yet?
Neha
December 28, 2013 at 6:11 am
it has been only been 3 days for our breakup. but i have already started NC.
Katie
December 22, 2013 at 11:57 pm
I’ve cheated on my boyfriend twice. Well technically once because we weren’t together when it first happened. But it was with my ex before him. My ex told my boyfriend months after the fact and we talked it all out made up and i worked from there just to regain his trust. Well June of this year i hooked up with my ex again out of spite for my boyfriend because i was just really mad and thought he wasnt worth it and isn’t going anywhere in life. He broke up with me completely understandable. I got what i deserved the second time but i went completely crazy without him in my life. He is my best friend. He was my best friend way before he became my boyfriend. And he knew i went crazy, like i kind of went to a psych ward. Trust me im a pretty average person too. I have never acted that way in my life. But he and his family helped me through my difficulties and they knew about our issues. They accepted it, and bless their souls for doing so. They are truly wonderful people. But we got back together over summer and spent all our time together things did seem better. And then we decided to stay together when summer ended and i had to leave for school. We had a long distance relationship. Well anyways wednesday night i texted my ex that same ex i cheated on my boyfriend with, and i havent talked to him in so long i just wanted to check in kind of. And well my boyfriend read all my texts on my computer and says on everyting he loves will never talk to me again and broke up with me. I tried to talk to him about it but he just was screaming at me telling me i have a black soul and i never deserved him and that i am going to hell. I just want to one day have a friendly relationship with him and have him forgive me in some way. I am going to wait 30 days to contact him like you said, but he has me blocked on everything. Literally everything. I dint know what to do. Any advice?
admin
December 23, 2013 at 8:02 pm
May I ask why you want your boyfriend back? Like what is your reasoning?
You might also want to check out the trust guide.
Ladybug
December 22, 2013 at 7:45 pm
As well when he calls me he just sits there and holds the phone and listens to us breathing.. He really don’t have much to say when he calls he don’t have much to say he will then get off the phone call me back hours later and the same thing he tells me what he us about to do as far as going over his mom house or going to go hangout or how his day went.. He tells me everything as if we are still in a relationship! I’m just so confused..
Ladybug
December 22, 2013 at 7:13 pm
But my thing I’m confused… You still want to talk and keep good communication and hang out to regain trust.. How does that work so whe I don’t pick up my phone you call over and over and over again then accuse me if doing wrong… You tell me of course you miss me and wish I was laying there with you in bed.. But we know what’s that’s about we have bee broken up for a little over a month.. And overall have been talking with each other Between this time… You tell me as we’ll you don’t want to talk to other people and you want to he with me but you don’t trust me.. I don’t get it…
Ladybug
December 22, 2013 at 7:09 pm
My boyfriend found out I cheated but talking with other people on the internet.. I didn’t sleep with this guy that I was chatting with but the conversation we had wasn’t the normal if you know what I mean… My boyfriend cheated on me the 1st time and this is our 2nd go around with it.. We’ll it was till he went thru my phone and found the msgs so joe we are broken up again.. When I used the method on not calling ect.. He popped up over my house asking why I wasn’t answering my phone.. He blew up my phone like crazy… He still tells me he lives me and wants to be with me but he don’t trust me.. But calls txt me everyday .. I do still talk with him cuz he tells me he needs to trust me with not being with me.. Which don’t make sense to me of course.. I want us to work!!
Haley
December 21, 2013 at 9:46 pm
Me and my ex dated for four years. I hooked up with his best friend really drunk and he found out. Twice at the end of the summer his best friend kissed me drunk but we never hooked up. I told him about this after he found out we hooked up. We had a bad break up and he said a lot of nasty stuff but we talked a little and decided to try and be friends. I really want to fix things with him but he lives at home and I’m off at college an hour away. He told me he couldn’t hate or stop loving me no matter how hard he tried but he can’t forgive me. It’s been a month and the two weeks he just sent angry texts and the second he blocked my number and all my social media but he unblocked my number and has started to talk to me a little but still doesn’t want to forgive me or try and work on things
Elle
December 21, 2013 at 7:49 am
Okay so I commented a while ago on how me and my ex broke up about a month ago and like the second week of us not being together his friend kissed me and obviously I told me ex. He still clearly hates me but like I never cheated and we went over that I didn’t want it to happen but like he decided to go onto a dating site because he was mad at me is what he said and this was two weeks ago he found some girl right away and they’ve been dating and he’s full on like been telling me it’s nothing but I just found out today they are now bf and gf. Like how do I even try and compete with that like I can’t get him back how and I don’t want to be that person who interferes with a relationship. I haven’t spoken to him in a week because I’m trying my best to avoid going crazy but I feel like I got stabbed In the heart it was almost a year we were together
Elle
December 22, 2013 at 6:57 am
I didn’t cheat we were broken up. And his friend came onto me I pushed him off and even told my ex right away
admin
December 22, 2013 at 7:42 pm
Sorry I got confused because this is the guide on if YOU were the one to cheat.
admin
December 22, 2013 at 2:15 am
Can I ask what caused you to cheat on him in the first place?
Mandy
December 20, 2013 at 8:35 pm
Sorry this is long but there is a lot to it. We had been together for 2 1/2 years. We have been broken up now officially for 3 weeks. But over the past few months we have been off and on with breaks. We started to grow apart this summer because he had more classes in the summer semester. I missed him and tried to keep busy. I tried to make some more friends because him and I were always together and I think that made us more of one person than two separate people that were dating. I was a trainer for some people and was friendly with the guys I was training. We texted and I told them about my boyfriend. They laid off a little but not much. I should have just stopped answering. Anyways, come fall semester, I get back and was so excited to see my boyfriend. He went the first day and hung out with this guy that he is not even great friends with. I thought we were supposed to hang out so immediately I was hurt. Then the series of breaks began. I continued to text with one of the guys I trained and continued the training. My boyfriend was even busier with school and his new friends. He began drinking more. I told him I was not okay with that and he should cut back some (he had some issues in the past with it related to him and I). I hung out with the guy I trained and thought other people would be there but they weren’t. I left as soon as I could and just didn’t mention that it was the two of us to my boyfriend. The only thing I did was stretch him. (that may sound weird but he is an athlete and that is what I do everyday with everyone). The next time I hung out with him I talked about my boyfriend and it was just the guy and I again. I had a feeling it would be but I wasn’t sure. I didn’t want to worry my boyfriend but I know I should have told him.
I got some bad news about a job so my boyfriend wanted to go out and hang out with some of my coworkers and people I train. I said I wanted to just stay in and cuddle. He kept pushing it I think because he thought it might make me feel better and he was very stressed. He ended up getting really drunk and smoking (both of which are old issues for us years ago). We got in a huge fight. The next day we went to breakfast but I was very hurt. We decided to go on a break. The next weekend he went away to visit family. He wanted me to go but I was stuck at work and I was too late to go with him. I tried to keep busy by doing my homework and watching movies. My best friend was out of town and basically I only hang out with her and my “boyfriend”. I ended up hanging out with the one guy I train and my “boyfriend” said it was okay to dance and hang out but nothing else. I did not break that but it did get very touchy so I told my boyfriend in person the next day when he got back. I told him about everything as far as the texting and being alone the times we hung out.
He took some more time to figure things out and ended up drinking a lot and getting a little out of control. We moved past it and started to hang out but not officially date. Things were still a little weird and we both were experiencing some hurt. I was ready to move forward but I wanted to make sure there were no feelings with the guy. I asked my “boyfriend” if it was okay to go and if it would jeopardize our future then I would turn around and come home to him and put it behind us. I just wanted to be fair. He told me to go. I went and it was clear that I didn’t feel anything for this guy. He asked if I wanted to dance and we did and it led to sex. I didn’t kiss him or anything like that. It was purely sex and it was like 2 minutes max and I felt so gross. I went home and sat in the shower forever and scrubbed every inch of me.
I told my boyfriend that I made a mistake and that I realized immediately that I was an idiot and he was the one for me. We had just hit some hard parts in our relationship and handled it the wrong way. It took some time but he moved past it some with some drinking and then we made up by making love and cuddling and sleeping over and watching movies and spending time together. We went home for break and it was weird timing with it all so we fought some. When I got back he ended things. He said he forgives me for everything and that he is not mad. He still loves me and maybe sometime in the future we could have something but he just wants a clean break.
I bumped into him the week after and he was very nice and I was very upbeat and didn’t mention the breakup. We talked and got on the bus together. I said it was nice to see him and asked if he had to get to class. He said not yet and asked if I wanted to get a coffee. We did and it was so nice. We talked about a lot of things going on in our lives. We were parting to go to class and he asked me for a hug and there was a moment when we pulled away where we almost kissed. He looked me in the eyes and said I looked really good.
We went home for winter break two days later. I haven’t talked to him since (no contact of over 2 weeks). It was my birthday the other day and he didn’t say anything. I understand why and I know he could talk to me if he and I were over each other. I am hopeful that it will work out. I have thought things through and written down my feelings the past few weeks. I wrote up the feelings and watched how I have changed in this short period of time. A major event like this is something that can change a person for good and quick. I have already improved myself and worked on a lot of things. I know I still have room to improve and I am keeping track and writing down a lot of things. I put myself in his shoes and have thought about it all. I get he is hurt and thinks he can never trust me again but I believe it is possible.
A few years ago he treated me very badly because of his drinking and smoking. He got cleaned up and when he came back the first week he lied to me and did it behind my back. I know that is not cheating but it is about trust. I never thought I would get over it but I did. I forgave him and eventually I moved past it all within about 6 months. I know everyone is different but this is the only real mess up I have had in my relationship with him. I know that doesn’t mean I deserve a second chance.
I think it all began not only because he was distancing himself but also because it was my last semester. Being away from him next semester and however long after was hard to deal with. A lot of our relationship has been long distance and it hurts so much. I realized in a way I self-sabotaged our relationship. It’s not really what I want though. I needed to grow up and realize that we both have separate jobs and responsibilities meaning that we can’t always be together. It just seemed impossible to my heart to go from always being together to nothing. I know now that I have lost him that that is just stupid. I lost someone I really love, no matter what I did, I do love them so much.
I love him, I know we can get past this if we work on it together. I have no contact and completely cut off the guys in my life as far as the ones I used to train. I am done with college now. I have focused on my family and friends and my new job. I think now is the best time for a new start. My question is what do I do as far as no contact? I know he is not the guy that ever really makes the first move or decision whether it is making a decision of what to eat on a date with me or what movie to watch or to talk to me first after an argument. I don’t want to lose him, I don’t want to contact him too soon but I don’t want to wait too long and miss a chance we have at being happy. Help! Advice?
admin
December 21, 2013 at 3:56 am
Well, lets start with what you have done so far.
Have you attempted a 30 day NC yet?
Mandy
December 27, 2013 at 12:06 am
I have had no contact for 20 days but ran into him once and had coffee with him…so technically since then it has been 15 days
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Well, then you have 15 days.
Mandy
December 28, 2013 at 1:34 pm
What should I do when the next 13 days are up? Contact him? Text? What do I say?
Mandy
January 9, 2014 at 11:58 pm
My 30 days are up…help?
Mandy
December 21, 2013 at 12:59 pm
Well I had a question about that. I have only had no contact for 15 days. I didn’t know if the time I bumped into him and he asked me to get coffee started me at square one though? In that case it has only been 10 days.
Vanessa
December 20, 2013 at 5:31 am
I cheated I on my boyfriend of 2 yrs but honestly I was tired of him accusing me of cheating when I wasn’t we have 2 months broken up I do love him and he says the only way he will take me back is if I show him the guy I cheated with I think I stupid I keep telling him I won’t do it again but he insist on seeing the guy or me calling the guy in front of him what do I do should I just leave things the way they are?
admin
December 21, 2013 at 3:36 am
May I ask why you cheated on him?
Vanessa
January 18, 2014 at 3:29 am
Sorry I took so long to reply honestly I was tired of him not trusting me I didn’t have time for my self he always thought I was doing something wrong or talking to someone when I was being 100% to him all the time it was like he was a selfish guy and it wasn’t right I just got tired and did what I did I can’t take it back but I love him and am starting to think that maybe is just that I got use to him.. He tells me that the only way he would take me back is if I show him the guy which I find very stupid
admin
January 20, 2014 at 12:25 am
….. ya I think it would be a mistake to do that.
Nina
December 20, 2013 at 4:14 am
Hi, I have been dating a guy for 3 months. I really love him and had such a great time with him and I’m sure he had too…untill I felt like he backed up a little bit and when I asked him why you have been changed, he told me about his problems from his past.because he was divorced 2,3 years ago and still not financially stable and I knew this was his weakness.Any ways after that I got invited for a drink by one of my guy friends, that my bf didnt know him…My ex was bz that evening so I went out with my guy friend for 1.5, 2 hours… but didnt tell him that i went out because didnt want to make him jealous and tell him i m going out with a guy… as mu bad luck, my ex’s friend had seen me out with my guy friend… my bf questioned me if i was out that night,,, because i did not know i was seen, i told him i was home… why r u asking? he said his friend thought he has seen me but not sure. I felt so bad that night… because felt like i lied to him…after couple days, i decided to tell him the truth… I talked to him about some of the problems in our relationship which were about him, and at the end i told him that i had lied to him about that night…even though he is sure that i was only out and got back home soon, he suddenly got turned of and indirectly kicked me out of his home…he texted me the day after and said you were not honest to me and we should stop it,,,and yes we broke up…1 day later he sent me a romantic signe…”goodbye my lover” which showed me he still liles me so much but he thinks i m not the right one for him. I have not sent him any thing back yet.. but I really want to get him back:(
admin
December 21, 2013 at 3:31 am
Have you started NC yet?