How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If HE Broke Up With You

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Elena

October 14, 2013 at 2:31 am

Hey,

So, I’ve been dating this guy for almost two years, and have lived with him for about a year. We’re in college and the first year we were together we stayed at each other’s dorms during the school year. Our first summer apart was tumultuous, to say the least, and ended with us breaking up a few days before the beginning of the next semester. I was crushed at first and begged and stuff..but finally, I agreed to the break up and found peace on the flight to my college’s town. He picked me up from the airport with a friend (because our original plan before the break up was that I get to campus early as he had group activities and we wanted to be together and I would stay in his room for free lol) since he didn’t want to pick me up by himself. In our interactions, I completely acted as friends and was smiley and happy. When we got back to the dorm, his roommate (the friend) left us and we just talked about little things together. As he was leaving for his group activities he asked for a hug…things led to another and we talked for so long that he missed his activities, and we ended up back together. Things were good for another school year. Our second summer, we stayed at our new apartment that we were living in together. Things were fine until the next semester hit: he got extremely busy with his group and classes (we’re both pre-med students) and he got super stressed out. I, unfortunately, did not support him and instead only got mad and depressed when he didn’t have time for me. And I wasn’t really on my stuff because he would constantly have to tell me to study and get my work done so much so that I once made the comment:” okay, dad”…we just broke up two days ago. The reasons he have were: he doesn’t feel like he loves me anymore, he just feels like my brother or dad. He doesn’t have enough time for me and feels it’s unfair for me. He told me he had been thinking about breaking up for awhile and even talked to a mutual friend the week before about this. (though mutual friend said my ex never said anything about not loving me) the first night after the break up I was sooooo bad and clingy and crying..we ended up sleeping together( literally sleeping and not sex) because I asked him too one more time. I then left the next morning. Oh, and we have a car that we’ve raised since she was a kitten. Anyway, I left in a hurry and left a bunch of my clothes and stuff at the apartment and ended up having to get a ride from him to get my stuff the next day(today). When I saw him, I had another talk with him and told him that I thought this break up was a good idea because I felt that we had secluded ourselves from too many people and were in our own little world and that we jumped the gun on moving in together and had taken each other for granted.. What I didn’t say was that I thought that this was something we could have fixed and that our relationship could be salvaged. For now I am staying at a friends apartment, but I don’t think I can stay there long and will probably have to love together again. I left all the gifts he gave me with him, as well as the cat. What I would like to know is if you think this relationship can be rekindled and restarted. I love him, and honestly I think he will loves me too…in my honest opinion I believe that the stress from school and his a Capella group combined with my clingyness pushed him to this, and I realized too late that I never appreciated him and gave him his own space. I don’t believe that he’s not attracted to me anymore, because the night before our break up, he pulled me close and kissed me multiple times. Do you think that I can get him back? Oh also, another reason he gave was that he wasn’t happy in our relationshop anymore and didn’t want it to go on.

admin

October 15, 2013 at 1:46 am

I think you can certainly but it all depends on how you approach the situation.
Elena

October 15, 2013 at 5:46 am

Hey thanks so much for the reply! Anyway, so, I am living with him again as plans with my friend fell through. How do you think I should go about this? He’s been staying out from the apartment a lot for studying and such, and he’s amicable with me and I’ve only interacted with him to get my stuff out and then back to the apartment. I tried making small talk with him but he spent most of the time texting on his phone and not really engaging with me. Anyway, I don’t really know how to do the no contact rule thing, or even limited contact. I can’t just do no contact, so do I just greet him but don’t actually ever talk to him about stuff?
admin

October 16, 2013 at 1:50 am

Yea you are going to have to do LC it looks like. Act like a respectful roomate would.
Elena

October 16, 2013 at 7:30 pm

Will he really ever remember the good things about our relationship?
admin

October 17, 2013 at 2:48 am

Yes, BUT you have to give him time to remember.
Elena

October 16, 2013 at 2:16 pm

Also, since this is our second break up, I think one of the things that worries me the most is that he will be super hesitant towards us getting back together ever. Even if I change, how will I be a le to show him that? And how can I earn his trust again to start a new relationship?
admin

October 17, 2013 at 2:37 am

Generally speaking couples who are off and on have a better chance of getting back together than anyone.
Elena

October 16, 2013 at 3:36 am

Hey thanks so much again! Yeah I can imagine you being tired especially with all the comments and emails you must have to gl through! I am going to start LC/already have…and here’s to hoping it works ^^ I’ve also been working on myself and have started talking to SO MANY old friends that I just lost contact with b/c of my relationship. I am also getting back into my faith as that also droppe off for me but used to be big. And I’m exercising again, lol. Basically, I am trying to become who I was before my relationship with my ex.
admin

October 17, 2013 at 1:48 am

Check out the newest post you might get something out of that too.
Elena

October 15, 2013 at 5:47 am

Also, do you think him saying he doesn’t love me anymore can be something changed? And do you think that the stress from our relationship and his commitments were the bigger aspect of the break up?
admin

October 16, 2013 at 1:50 am

Yes I do. I think his other commitments he couldn’t figure out how to balance it all out with the relationship and everything.

Sorry that made no sense I am totally tired beyond belief again today.
Elena

October 15, 2013 at 5:51 am

Sorry one more thing: when we broke up it was after a figh where I was really pissed that he was busy and said so what u want to break up and he said I don’t know and I said fine…later on is when he said he didn’t love me(in the same argument tho) and then the next day after I told him I was fine with the break up he said he was sorry that he was so cold and stuff…I don’t know if that means he still loves me or not though.

Anonymous

October 13, 2013 at 5:28 pm

Can your ebook help me, even If I’ve had sex with my ex boyfriend after we broke up?

admin

October 13, 2013 at 10:50 pm

Yes it can and I am not just saying that.
Anonymous

October 15, 2013 at 9:27 pm

That night we also had a argument before we slept together, it was a group night out we’d both had a lot to drink, he’d seen me talking to a group of guys on the way to one of the clubs, I was told there was a bit of flirting, I can’t remember this though. He was really cold with me the next day and kept bringing up this 1 guy, i’m worried to much happened in that one night. Have I blown it? Just curious because I’m into day 14 of no contact and haven’t heard from him.
admin

October 16, 2013 at 2:50 am

You are still pretty early into NC.

You haven’t blown it.

Trina

October 12, 2013 at 3:27 pm

Hi. First i want to point out that my ex and I are 8 years apart. But that is what i fell for. He was so much more mature and yet he was spontaneous and fun. We could communicate everything and not judge. He is a fireman and a truck driver so I only saw him every three days, but i saw him two to three time a week for 5 month. He has a 2 year old son who is the most interesting kid I ever met. Because of his soon and his work my ex wanted to take things slow. At first I agreed, but I fell for his strength. I never was treated so well and so affectionately. He was romantic and compassionate and dedicated to his work and his son. It was only 5 months, but i loved him after the 3rd date. I was so proud of him a person. He took me places I never been just to make me smile as I tried new things. We never said i love you to each other so that will be something i regret. 3 months into our dating i asked him what we were and he said we were friend who were dating because we were taking things slow. It was a blow to me like after the months i still wasn’t good enough to move forward with. I didn’t want to move in or anything i just wanted clarification.was i wasting my time out were we headed towards a relationsh? He said he didn’t need to date other girls because he had me but if i wanted to i coulddate other guys. My ex from three years earlier messaged me saying he missed me and usually he only messages me when he wants to hook up. So i made a snide comment and told him I didn’t miss that, but I did miss him. I meant it like as good memories, but the snide comment and the missing part read like flirting. In the end my ex asked to hook up and i said “hell no stop cheating on your girlfriend.” My ex saw it and got mad saying i entertained the idea of being with another man and that I didn’t think about him because no where in the message did I mention having a boyfriend or dating someone. Trust is a big thing for him and since he works a lot he needs someoneHe said he would Can trust. He said in the bottom of his heart he does not believe that I wouldn’t do that again with my ex or a different guy. Since I’m young and i am an attractive girl who gets hit on allot plus I have a bubbly personality which is often considered flirty. We got back together the next day and everything was fine again. One month later 5 months in total i asked him again if we were headed anywhere. He said he still didn’t trust me and in alot of time that message still bugged him. Then the next say he said he doesn’t trust me he is never going to trust me and he I’d not going to date me and give me hope that there will be anything. For the first three days i was begging. I’ll admit it i was groveling. Week later he said he would think about it then something went missing from his house and he thinks i took it. Then he is saying he will never reconsider. Because i begged, to him i seemed emotionally unstable and was capable of stealing. For a week i protested my innocents and we dropped it. It’s been 5 weeks since we broke up. Since then my friend on ten years passed my aunt passed and losing him plus being on birth control that was too strong has only made him see me in a really bad light. we have hooked up a few times, and i feel like with the begging i did and the thing going missing and hooking up and my emotional state i ruined my chances of being with him. He told me just two nights ago when i asked that he will never get back with me, First was because of the message now is because of my emotion. He was willing to reconsider before the item went missing and he said that if i act normal we well take things as they come, now he saying never. I want to know is my situation hopeless? Will doing this guide help at all? I understand i am not in the right emotional state but when things calm down can this situation get better?

admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:40 pm

Haha read everything on this site and I mean EVERYTHING. I really think you would benefit from it.

I don’t think your situation is helpless.
trina

November 16, 2013 at 7:07 am

So i tried talking to my ex again. He told me to get over it. I initiated the no contact a week ago but i was wondering. No contract is not for the guy to miss you it’s to better yourself. But of course i want him to miss me. We never went so long without talking before. If he works so much he won’t even think about me. Won’t his feelings just go away? And if he keeps saying he is sticking to his decision and it’s been two months should i give up? I’m not trying to miss him and think about him i been occupying my time but everything reminds me of him. I forgot to mention that we have been hooking up since the break. Will that hurt my chances?
admin

November 16, 2013 at 10:04 pm

It might hurt them a little bit but I also think that you still stand a chance.
trina

November 20, 2013 at 4:32 am

It’s been a week and a half since i started the nc and my ex sent me a picture of a saying that read”I’m not short, I’m compact and ridiculously adorable”. I know he sent this because I’m short and he probably thought of me and thought its funny. He is so firm with the break up but is this a good sign? I didn’t message back I’m just surprised he messaged me at all
admin

November 20, 2013 at 5:45 pm

I think its not a bad one.
trina

November 28, 2013 at 8:15 pm

Today is thanksgiving and you said remember special occasions so i sent my ex a text “Happy Thanksgiving sweetheart! You have an amazing day! Be easy and have fun with your family!” And he replied ” ? Aint heard from you in a while” i have almost hit well 3 in nc and i fight say anything after that. idk what kind of response that is?
trina

November 28, 2013 at 8:17 pm

Week 3 and i didn’t said anything back
trina

November 19, 2013 at 9:21 pm

Since i started nc my ex hasn’t contacted me. Last night he sent me a picture of a saying”I’m not short I’m compact and ridiculously adorable” i know when he sends me pictures like that its because I’m short. Like i said before he is being form with not getting back together and he works alloy. I know this is small and i didn’t reply but is that a good thing? And i was wondering this whole site is very positive but what would the signs be that their not coming back?
admin

November 20, 2013 at 5:27 pm

I am actually thinking of writing a guide on when to give up.. just be patient with me.
Trina

October 12, 2013 at 3:33 pm

He is such and amazing guy that he won’t be single for long and it will kill me if he getts with another woman.
admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:39 pm

It won’t kill you lets not over exagerate here. It will hurt you but not kill you.

See, right now you have the wrong attitude. It should be:

I want him back but I don’t need him back. Right now you NEED him back and that is not a formula for success.

Paulina

October 8, 2013 at 6:11 pm

Hi Chris,
my bf of a year and a half broke up with me 3 weeks ago, deleted me off fb. I have implemented a NC rule already and have stuck to it. No texts, messages, nothing. His reason for the breakup was he couldn’t be in a relationship while he sorted his things out. We had a fight a couple days prior, I had enough of hearing about what he wouldn’t deal with in our relationship because of his ex wife. We talked that night, apologized, agreed everything was okay, woke up the next day, had breakfast, shared I love yous, then monday broke up with me several hours after saying goodnight and calling me by my pet name from him.

We are on 3 weeks of ZERO contact between us, how much longer do I wait and what is my next step?

Thank you!

admin

October 9, 2013 at 2:17 am

You have one more week to go and if you read the how to get your ex boyfriend back guide it will tell you the next step. Then of course, you can grab the E-Book if you need more detail.
paulina

October 10, 2013 at 8:29 pm

I caved. 🙁
I sent him a text today. Super short, one of those some e-cards of two.people jumping around, the caption said “when you meet another walking dead fan” then I said don’t.forget the walking dead starts Sunday! Sunday fun days will be complete!

He replied : I know! I’m so excited!!

I took your advice and ended the convo with
Enjoy your day, I hope everything’s good for us!

He replied with a longer text, saying thank you, it is good, I hope you have a great day and beyond, it was really nice hearing.from you.

I didn’t respond, but how would you take all that? Your site is.awesome btw!
admin

October 11, 2013 at 5:49 pm

Honestly I think it went well haha!
Paulina

October 11, 2013 at 8:35 pm

Awesome. Now to continue waiting him out, becoming “ungettable”…dont need him but want him…this is a marathon, not a sprint.

love, love love your site!!
admin

October 13, 2013 at 8:09 pm

I have something coming up on the ungettable girl next week.

Frances

October 4, 2013 at 4:21 am

Hi Chris,
I really like your blog. I wanted to share this quick, we both are 27 career oriented, met and dated for over 4 months and we truly enjoyed everything together, from silly to intellectual stuff. Were kind to each other, truly happy and just clicked easy. We would even miss each other the moment we depart until we met again.

What happened that two months soon after we met he started his medical residency and his schedule got hectic, however we thought we will work through it, and I was very patient and understanding as I grew up in a doctors household so i get it. Just last week, out of the blue he called me telling me he was scheduled to work 24 hours shifts the next few days, that he miss me and it sucks he cant see me those days, then all of the sudden the conversation diverted to him saying he thinks its unfair to me that he isn’t being able to spend as much time together, he said that he thinks he cant maintain a relationship right now. He ended the conversation saying that he misses me already but thinks its the right thing to do!

I am a happy person and have a busy agenda myself, but our connection was beautiful and worthwhile. It truly feels that there is alot more I want to continue to experience and share with him. We didnt communicate since the break up, and I dont plan on contacting him anytime soon, I know his work wont change, so realistically speaking, what can I do? or not do?

I’d like to hear what you say, recommendations or advice.
Thanks.

admin

October 4, 2013 at 10:00 pm

You are a smart woman I can already tell!

NC is the most obvious thing. Using your NC time wisely is very smart too.

lady

October 3, 2013 at 3:56 am

I met my American bf two years ago in vietnamw hile having a short holiday. To cut the story short we exchanged email addresses and started chatting. He visited here in the phils last year and we met up in Bangkok Thailand again for the 3rd time this month and spent almost 3 weeks together. We get along very well. we had fun together.but once in a awhile my insecurities attack me.i have been jobless for a year now.and he works for a french in Wall Street in New York as a banker. He got an ex who he works with and every now and then I cant
stop to get jealous of his ex. The day of my flight back to phils he asked me to hand his phone to him and I saw a
chat that says wifey,and I snapped without even asking him.i started freaking out and even accused him of not
being serious about our relationship. It turned out that
what I read was a group chat and it was his coworker
calling one of their co-workers wifey and he showed me
the whole thread. Then he got so upset with me and said
he can’t deal with my jealousy anymore. He sent me to the
airport but wasn’t able to really talk.what is clear to me
was I disappointed him a lot. I tried my best apologizing but it’s been a week since we parted ways (he’s now back
to ny) and he is still giving me cold treatment thru chat. He’s been ignoring me for 2 days now. I terribly feel bad
about my being unreasonably jealous and I want to prove
to him that I want to change but it’s super hard since we
live 100000 miles apart;( I hope you could adv me what to do. I really need help.
UpdatE: he said he needed space for a few weeks to figure out where to go from here. I said I will respect it.after 3 days of no contact I sent him a message via chat and he was upset cause he feels I’m not honoring his request.I made a promise again to him that I will give him the space that he wants.I’m just worries he might not believe me anymore.you think he still loves me?

Sorry to bother you. I just need someone to share my thoughts and feelings with.

Thanks,
Lady

admin

October 4, 2013 at 12:16 am

Have you read the long distance relationship post yet?

my ex

October 2, 2013 at 5:12 am

I really want my ex back but my friends don’t think he treated me right.. but I thought it was all going until school started again then he broke up with me out of no where and his excuse was that his parents didn’t like me but I know they did they have told me many times that they liked me.. so the next day at school my friend went and asked him why he broke up with me and his friend said because I told him to break up with her… I really thought that was so stupid that he lied to me about that.. it has been almost a month since me and him have talked…. I miss him so much he is all that I ever think about… I don’t get why after 3 months of dating he would let his friends tell him to break up with me I just kinda fill like his summer girl.. So I have him jersey still should i give it back or keep it? And if I give it back how should I give it back?? Sometimes I still think that there is a chance for us to get back together… but other likes it fills like It wasn’t ever mention to be in the first place.. so I’m having a birthday party would it be weird if I invited him?? Should I invite him?? I need help please comment and help me thanks!!(:

admin

October 3, 2013 at 12:50 am

I don’t think you should invite him. Obviously the final decision is yours but if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t invite him and I would start the NC.

kitana

September 28, 2013 at 4:25 am

Hey,
So my problem with my ex is many reasons that I just don’t understand. So it started our that we were perfectly fine, we were coming up on graduation. At school and when we were physically together we were perfect no arguing or anything. So he went about a month with not talking to me pretty much at all. The last 2 weeks of that month I started spamming him because I wanted to know what his deal with me was. So he answered, I remember it was on a sunday and I had spammed him at 10 in the morning which made him really mad, I do agree, I shouldn’t have done it thay early but I was getting extremely upset. So he answered calling me everything under the sun and dumped me. First he tried to say it was because of the spamming but I explained that I was doing that because he was flat out ignoring me. Like I was lucky if I got 2 calls a week. And the texts were almost non existent. But after the break up, I didn’t say anything to him for about 4days. Then his friends had decided it would be a good idea to start messaging me at 2 in the morning about how nieve and stupid I was to think he wasn’t smoking pot because I never wanted him doing drugs due to a bad past with my father and he knew it. So the next day I call him multiple times again because now not only was I upset about him leaving me, I was upset that he betray me with the drugs thing. So when I finally started questioning him he told me he had been doing it for over a year and he didn’t tell me Because he “wanted to keep me happy” and that he knew I would leave him if I found out, so I automatically took it as he chose the drugs with his friends over me and his relationship with me because if he wanted me happy then he wouldn’t have done it right? So after that I would try to have random convos with him and he would ignore me all day, there were times that I just called him and we started out pissy and everything but then we were able to have a perfectly fine convo like nothing had happen. So about two weeks go by and I randomly call him and no answer. So I figured fine w.e. Because I had still been trying to find out his reasoning for dumping me. Then he ended up calling back, but I missed it, then he called again which I thought was weird since he had been ignoring me for so long. Sk I answerand he starts saying how he was thinking of calking me and “rebreaking” the ice because he really still wants to be friends. Well, we were together for two and a half years I don’t know if I could handle being friends without trying to get back together all the time. So he had a little nice convo and I asked if we could talk about what happen and he said not now but we would. So after that about another week and I made him talk to me about it. So he started telling me that he was 50% happy and 50% miserable, which I sont understand because he always talked about how he was happy. He always had his friends at his ear trying to convince him to break up with me and he always told them no because I made him happy. So then he started telling me that I’m always going to be higer up then his friends because he’s told me things hes never told anyone else including family. And at one point before the break up he told me that I was one of 3 people that he hold very dear to his heart. Plus he told one of his friends he hangs out with how important I am to him and how he truly loves me and how I’m more important to him then his own family. Which is a big thing for him because that’s just not how he is.. but 2 weeks after he tells his friend how important I am to him, he dumps me, how does that make sense? But back to the convo. So then he tried to tell me that the relationship was going down hill. Well I didn’t agree and I explained why, we were graduated and we already knew what we were going to do and what collage and all that, my mom was finally starting to like him again, he told my little brother that he loved him like his own brother and how he considered my house a second home to him. He said all that 2 weeks before the break up. Why say it if tou were going to break up? Then it went into I was too controlling, so I disagreed with that too, because the only time I got to see him that wasn’t in school was on saturdays and if he wasn’t with me he was with his friends or at band practice. I never controlled him. The only thing I said no to was smoking pot. He always did what he wanted and went where he wanted. The he went into this whole thing about how he made a pact with himself before high school that after high school that he was going to blow his head off, but he didn’t and he said that now if he doesnt get to where he feels he needs to be by the time he’s 25 then he’s going to do it and he tokd me that he hadn’t told anyone else about that. He said that he left me because he feels that I’m going to hold him back or restrain him. He said its not just me he feels that way with, that its everyone and that he’s always felt that way with me and that’s the reason it took him so long to actually ask me out. What I don’t understand is if he always felt that way, why did he ask me out in the first place and why did he wait 2.5 years later after graduation, to dump me? I tokd him that made no sense at all because I always tried my best to help.him. he’s that kind of person that belives he should do eveything on his own and that talking doesnt solve anything thay action does. But I always helped, I helped him with school, I tried giving him advice on getting a job since I had one and he was trying to get one. I was always there for him. So I don’t understand why he would choose his pot smoking friends that all they want to do is get high and take up his time. Arent they going to be the real ones to slow him down? Why can’t he see and understand that? Why did I have to be the one thrown away? When I asked why he rather keep the ones that’s really going to slow him down he said because they aren’t going to have stupid arguments like this, so I said that’s because they weren’t the ones u dated for so long and told them u were hoping to live together with them by the end of the year just to leave them 2 weeks later. Thats why u aren’t having dumb arguments with them. And I haven’t even seen him since the break up. And he won’t talk to me at all now. He wants to be in just a friemd basis… but I don’t understand.. how is he so fine with it? He told me he was still keeping everything I’ve made him and written him and given him, how doesn’t that stuff make him feel bad..? I really need some advice.. please. Its been a few months and I’m still as depressed as if it jist happen.. I don’t know what else to do.

admin

September 29, 2013 at 11:28 pm

Ok, when was the last time you talked to him?

Have you read this site? And would you consider implementing a NC rule?

Amy

September 27, 2013 at 8:46 am

Hi Chris
My problem is particularly confusing and I could really use some advice. My boyfriend and I got together four months ago, and we’re both twenty and in our second year at university. We were friends in the whole of first year, and he went in to become one of my best friends , and we also lived together during this first year as well. At the end of my first year we got together, and then when we broke up for the long summer break we agreed to do distance for those three months. Things went really well, and we visited each other a lot as he even came on holiday wth me and my family. One of the times he came to stay, I accidentally said I loved him (I really do, but at the same time I know this was a mistake as it was quite soon in the relationship). Things were going great, and the whole rest of our summer was great. We’re now just about to start back at uni, and I came to stay with him for a few days. I knew things weren’t great, and yesterday he sat down and told me he thought we needed to end things because it wasn’t fair on me, he said he liked me loads and really wanted to be with me, but he didn’t love me and was worried that he might never have those feelings for me and didn’t want to hurt me. He’s my best friend and I really want him back, but I’m really not sure how to go about it, I don’t want to risk losing him as a friend as well. Please help!

admin

September 28, 2013 at 2:50 am

Usually the first step I recommend is the no contact rule. Is that somehting you are willing to do?
Amy

September 29, 2013 at 4:41 pm

Well I;ve tried it, the first night after we broke up me and some girlfriends went out and just had a great night. I tried to just not talk to him and move on. It’s been about a week now and he’s messaged me and said how he wants to talk to me when I get back into town on wednesday – thing is, I’m not sure what it is he wants, I’ve agreed to meet (breaking NC rule I know!) because I love him and I want to talk to him in case he’s going to say he’s sorry and wants to try again, but then i’m scared if i see him and he just wants to apologise or clarify things then i’m going to feel worse in the long run. i think the issue is nc is almost impossible in the city where we’re living, we have the same friendship group, everyone goes to the same clubs and we are studying in the same building most of the time. what would you recommend?
admin

October 1, 2013 at 3:13 am

Well, in that case you can do LC. But if you run into eachother just do the normal thing. Act confident and happy. Don’t make anything awkward.

Destiny

September 27, 2013 at 3:11 am

I’m in need of some serious help. 🙁 So me and my ex boyfriend were together a good 3 years and he broke up with me…for another girl! I feel like one of the worst things you could do to a girl it hit me hard. We broke up in March and I still can’t help but cry almost every night just because of him. 🙁 Before you ask I am a teenager I am 17 and he’s 19. We met when I was 8 I kind of felt like it was fate. When I was 8 my cousins were on a local little league football team and I would go to there games. The one day I was there my moms bestfriends son was on the team and he came over to me picking on me and pushing me around of course I didn’t do anything because he was like 2 times my size and what do you know this guy on the football team came over and pushed The guy and they started fighting the guy looked at me and asked if I was okay and left the game because he got kicked out. 6 years later I meet this guy at a local skating rink and we started to talk a lot after that we were friends for almost a year before we started going out and the one day I went to his house and was looking at all the pictures his parents had on the wall and guess who I saw….the 10 year old boy that defended me that day. I looked at him and said “is that you” and he said “yeah”. And I just stared at him with like tears in my eyes and then he Said. “You were that little girl weren’t you”. I sure was. I just love telling that story it means the world to me. But anyways back to the sad story. Well me and him had a really shaky relationship, he couldn’t trust me and that effected our relationship badly, and I got tired of being accused of doing stuff I didn’t do so I started getting nasty with him. We would fight all the time but then when we were together everything felt…perfect. I felt like everything bad happened through Facebook and text measages. The day he broke up to me I can honestly say I didn’t see it coming cause I mean I trusted him more than anyone. He would always promise me he would never leave me and I actually believed him. :/ I took it hard. I didn’t attend school for 3 months straight because all I could do was sleep I couldn’t face the world. But I mean its been 6 months why am I still so upset? Well because he was my first real boyfriend I fell in love with him we were perfect we lost our virginity to each other. But what keeps me still there is this. I feel like he messes with my emotions because he knows ill always love him. He blocked me on Facebook and changed this number. So what we do is have a texting app and talk on there. But not everyday every once in a while. Like he’ll randomly text me saying you know I still love you and I miss you and I’d be dumb not to think about you, stuff like that. And then when I’m finally starting to get over it he ends up popping back up and all the feelings rush back all at once. So I know he still cares I think he just really thinks or thought I was unfaithful to him. I don’t know. 🙁 but I’ve asked him to at least be friends and he said I can’t because I know how I get around you. I get butterflies an my heart feels like its gonna pump out of my Chest. And when he texts me he just stops randomly and I don’t hear from him for at least 3 weeks to a month. He said he was gonna give me his number but he never text me it. Or anything I think it’s because him and his new girlfriend live together or something. Ya know its just me and him have a crazy bond and we both know it. I went blind when I was 14 and he was there for all my surgeries and when I was recovering he was there to watch over me. I think that’s why I can’t let him go the last 2-3 years of my life been all about him. Oh and I forgot to mention he has my name tattooed on his chest over his heart. I know he’s retarded, dumb young love, Lol but I don’t think he would just get anyone’s name tattooed on him. But then again it’s one of his sisters names too. So maybe he just did it to gas me up. I don’t know he didn’t say much after we broke up. And still doesn’t every time we talk he brings up bad stuff and that gets me so upset. He’s holding onto anger that isn’t needed. But last time he text me he said I think I’m happy I said what do you mean think and he said ill tell you later so I don’t know what that was about. But he still hasn’t called or texted since then. So that’s been driving me nuts. But I just really need him we have a history he was my best friend when I had no one he was always by my side. Through it all an I promised him I would always be there for him but how can I be there if he won’t let me. And I’ve tried dating other people to get over him. and the one guy I actually really did like, but i broke up with him yesterday because I don’t wanna cause anyone else the pain I’m going through because I know I’m still in love with my ex an I will be for a very long time. But I mean other then the arguments about him accusing me of doing stuff we were a very loving and happy couple. We were that couple every voile wanted to be like. I don’t even know why we broke up it was dumb. Ughhh but I’m sorry I wrote so much I just wanted to include enough information. But I hope I get a reply on what I should do thank you so much for your time. -Destiny

admin

September 28, 2013 at 2:35 am

Man, I am bummed out to hear this happened to you Destiny.

You know it is very possible for him to rebound while he is still in a relationship with you. Does this new girl have any rebound signs?

Also, if you are 17 and he is 19 you are in high school and he is in college correct? The age difference may bug him a bit.
Destiny

September 28, 2013 at 5:58 am

What do you mean by rebound? And I have no connection with his girlfriend. But as far as school he’s still in high school he failed 2 grades actually. When he was younger he was a problem child to say the least.
admin

September 29, 2013 at 11:41 pm

Read this article to know what a rebound is: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-know-if-your-ex-boyfriend-is-in-a-rebound-relationship-how-long-will-it-last/

Mary

September 23, 2013 at 5:50 am

Hello!
My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago. He is 25 & I 26. I felt like something had been off for a couple of weeks, but I got a DUI and decided to move back home for a few reasons. He is not an angel either and didn’t seem to hold it against me. He recently moved home as well. We were only officially together for about two & a half months, but dated for about six months total (this time). He came over last Monday, not even to break up with me. I was bugging him about our situation & how he’d been acting. I told him that I felt like he like having a girlfriend, but didn’t care who it was. I was expecting him to say no, but he said I was kinda right. He said he felt like that for a couple weeks & was hoping that feeling would go away. This was end of conversation for me, but he still wanted to go out because he didn’t want to leave me alone. I texted him the next day because he has some of my things I’d like back, but got no response. Then, he texted me on Saturday. I responded late on sunday & we had a very brief conversation (I tried to wait at least an hour before responding to each text). Our relationship started out complicated. I was engaged to a good friend of his. My fiancee pasted away 3 years ago and my most recent ex was the first guy I dated since losing my fiancee. We dated 2 years ago formonths a few m & I broke things off. I dated a few a-holes & missed the nice guy. So I called him & we started having a great time when we reunited. 4 days before he broke with me he called and told me he bought tickets for a New Years concert we’d be spending together!? I really want him back and I’m so confused! Any advise? My situation is complicated! :/
Thank you!
Mary

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:27 am

When was the last time you spoke to him?
Mary

September 24, 2013 at 8:25 am

We broke up on the 16th & he texted me on the 21st. I didn’t reply til the next day. So, about 1&1/2 – 2 days ago. I’m not sitting at home feeling bad for myself (like I want to lol). I’ve been going out with friends and even talking to a new guy. Its not really what I want though.
Thanks for the fast response!
~Mary
admin

September 25, 2013 at 12:48 am

No, I think you are doing perfect. Staying busy is really important at this stage.

Though I would say finish out the NC rule if you haven’t already.
Mary

September 25, 2013 at 3:54 am

Thank you! NC is now in place. We have quite a few friends Iin common. Should I give one of them the things of his that I have or wait?
Thank you!
admin

September 26, 2013 at 2:37 am

Sweet!

Let me clarify for you. You actually can break NC to get your things back.

Lesley

September 19, 2013 at 3:47 pm

Hi I have sort of a difficult situation on my hands
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 9 months, were from the same towns and I’m 22, he is 25. He doesn’t have his set job, his “big boy job” yet and has been down about that. He saved up money and moved 2 hours away for me since I’m going to college. I finish in 3 months and we had started planning our future together. I mean he moved up here for me, and made it known/obvious to everyone. He also doesn’t like the place he is living in. iLife his family, they’ve all said how good I was for him, and my parents love him too!
I have gotten very angry at him for stupid reasons and been extremely emotional because I’m freaking out about graduation. We broke up on Saturday and he was at the house by himself all day while I hung out with friends. I got extremely intoxicated and threw something through the window to get inside to talk to him since he wouldn’t answer the door. Again I barely even remember it.
He is so patient, smart, kind, great morals, and a great provider already with what little he has. All the qualities I want and I’ve really screwed up. I’m afraid it’s too much but I know he cares about me…I haven’t talked to him in 4 days since it happened but I’ve seen him a couple times through friends. He just says he doesn’t want to talk.
I don’t want him to move off for a job and were just at complicated spots in our life. I want usti work out so badly and I couldn’t stand to lose him.
What do I do from here?
How do I minimalize the mistake and show him I’ve changed my aggressive bratty behavior when I don’t get what I want?
Thanks,
Leslie

admin

September 20, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Well pretty much get the E-Book to have all your questions in there asked.

It sounds to me like the two of you were really serious about eachother and I think that his non “big boy” job got him down.
Lesley

September 22, 2013 at 5:01 pm

Thank you for the response and these pages. I wound up talking to him that night and were back together, working on things. I didn’t txt him that day and hung out with everyone that night. He saw how happy I was trying to be and how I could laugh and still have fun with everyone. But this page did give me a lot of new insight thanks guys!
admin

September 22, 2013 at 11:18 pm

No problem and relaly happy you got your ex boyfriend back.

Morgan

September 17, 2013 at 5:49 pm

Hey Chris,
Now I know that you must be completely tired of all these girls (including myself!) leaving you these stories of how all our ex-boyfriends ended it with us and how we want them back…I’m sorry to say but my case is probably not any different from theirs. I don’t know where to start…

I am in high school, a junior (11th grade, making me 16 years old..almost 17) and this guy and I dated for almost a month…from June 12 – July 9… his name is Chris (kinda ironic). On July 1st I went back to my hometown in Nevada to visit my family. On July 10th he went back to Colorado to his hometown. The first time he broke up with me I didn’t beg him to stay with me or I wasn’t desperate sounding at all. Of course I was sad and I expressed that but I didn’t beg…not at all. I didn’t beg him to stay with me because I knew he was moving back to Colorado…because he and I both knew we wouldn’t see each other ever again. Maybe over a week later after the breakup on July 9th (since July 9th I hadn’t spoken to him at all) he sent me a text saying that he got a new phone. I responded the next day and texted him back..but when I responded I was cool and I just asked him about his new phone..he kept texting me and I believe it was either that day or the next day he told he that he still loved me. He was now in Colorado (supposedly having moved as he though that was what he really wanted and had decided to do) and I was in Nevada visiting my family. So from like July 21st – July 31st I went on a vacation.. I took a cruise with my family to Bermuda and due to being out in the ocean I had no phone service and so I couldn’t text him. Well the cruise returned to its port after the trip on July 31st and I then had phone service…I turned on my phone and I received no messages from him during the duration of my trip.. I sent him a few texts and then he didn’t respond…so I sent him more texts… he never responded…but a few days later I received a call and a voicemail…the number had a Colorado area code.. I thought this was weird because I thought that if it were Chris calling me then wouldn’t he just have called me from his cellphone? Because the caller I.D. came up as just a number…so this number wasn’t in my phone anywhere. Well it was him who called me from I guess his mom’s cellphone or from his Colorado home number and he left a voicemail, he said for me to call him back and that it was important. So i call him back like a half hour later and he tells me thats he is coming back home to Indiana.. So we get to texting again and like almost everyday he calls me and texts me and tells me that e misses me and screws up and all and that he wants me back.
On August 13th we start re-dating for the second time. All is good for a week. We see each other at school every day during lunch and I would sit at his table with him and his friends..
A week later he and I get into a fight… we fought through text messages… I was really getting tired of how a friend of his whom is 10 years old is getting his attention more than I was. When I would ask him if he could call me he would say, “Oh wait, I can’t right now because Anna is going to call me” or “No sorry I cant, Anna is video-chatting me right now”. It was always that 10 year old Anna talking to him. So he texted me and told me that he was sad and I asked why. He told me it was because Anna said she was going to call him but hadn’t yet called him. I texted him back and told him that it kind of hurts my feelings that a 10 year old had his attention more than I seemed to have had. I said that with him being 17, almost 18, that it was just a little weird for him to be talking to a 10 year old… He misinterpreted this into me saying that he and Anna were having a sexual relationship. He blew up and said that I screwed up BIG time because ABSOLUTELY NO ONE i guess, no matter who you are, talks about Anna like that. He told me that she was nothing MORE than a sisterly-friend to him. I sent him texts PLEADING him to give me a chance to explain why I said it and damn I’m ashamed to say that I BLEW UP HIS PHONE for like a half hour to an hour with CONSISTENT CALLS AND CONSISTENT TEXTS. Now…these texts and calls were all being ignored by him… every single text I sent was completely capitalized and long. Damn were they long texts. They were long and begging, lemme tell ya’. For the next day or two I continued texting him with an occasional text or two from him.. The next night or two he called and he and I both apologized for the fight. He asked me to stay away from him for a few days and I can’t remember if I really did leave him alone or what…I know I was kinda confused because he told me to leave him alone but he said that I could still text him and call him… So I really didn’t know what he meant by ‘stay away from me for a few days’. I knew as the days and then soon a week or two went by that he and I were going to most likely end it between us.. we were both kinda stand-offish from each other, even during lunch. As our 2nd relationship round was nearing its end I was still sitting at his table during lunch but I didn’t sit by him each time because I wanted to give him his space…you know…what he asked for.. We broke up on August 29th during 4th period, before lunch on Thursday and yes I panicked when he broke it off with me. I told him we could work it out and he said he was done and to stop texting him. Well you know what? Right before lunch I pulled myself together very well and I didn’t text him quite as often.. I help my head up and I smiled and laughed. I sat at a different table with a few of my friends that day and to this day I’m still sitting at the same table. During lunch on the day he broke it off with me on August 29th, while we were sitting at our different tables I texted him and he was responding, I asked him if I could talk to him and he kept turning down my request to speak with him face-to-face. Every day he looked hurt and sad and he would look at me deliberately ad just look so sad!
Days went on and we still were talking to each other, he honestly was going back and forth for quite a while as to whether or not we should date again. Every time he would text me with something like “Give me a reason why I should date u” it would truly get my hopes up that we were going to date again. Well on Friday or Saturday night I told him that I was completely done and that I was ready to move on. That got a response out of him. It got such a response that his counselor back in his hometown Colorado started texting me telling me to talk to him and that she was trying to just calm Chris down. How did she get my number? Chris must have given it to her because I had absolutely no clue how else she could have gotten it. Well that same night he called me and pleaded me to go to church with him On sunday the next day and he told me just how sorry he was for hurting me throughout the past months. He told me that he loved me and that he missed me so much. So I go to church with him and well I spend the day with him at his house with his family. His family, I must say, love me. On Sunday night I asked him why he just seemed to have been a little down when I was at his house with him on Sunday and he told me that he was happy. It was fun being at his house and it was just like old times in June of this year of how I would always be at his house just spending the whole day there and doing whatever we wanted (things that were safe and mature).. just being ourselves and not giving a damn about who laughed at us. Well that was just this passing Sunday and then yesterday he didn’t really talk to me… and so I thought that was weird because what about Sunday? That just happened the other day and so yesterday I asked him if we just act like that day never happened and just keep going our separate ways? I asked him if that was what he wanted..I told him that that wasn’t what I wanted and he never responded. So since he never really texted me back on that yesterday, I told him last night that I was sorry for everything that went wrong between us for the past 3 1/2 months. I told him that I get it that he’s completely done. I told him that I’m going to move on now just like he said and that I’ll learn to get over myself. I apologized for hurting him but I said that he also hurt me too. I said that I tried everything to fix it between us and that it didn’t seem to make a difference. I told him goodbye. But then like a half hour later I sent him a second text to add onto that last night and I told him just so he knew I won’t be contacting him anymore. I told him that I thought we could have been at least friends.
I went on my facebook last night and I saw that he deleted me from his friends list….I don’t know when he did this but in that second text I sent him last night I asked him when he deleted me from his facebook. I told him that I really did have fun with him on Sunday and I told him that I am sorry.
He hasn’t responded still and I sent this to him last night. I still haven’t texted him since last night and I don’t know what to do. Do I just continue to stay completely away from him? Will he ever text me back? I really really in all complete honesty want him back! Please help me with this, what can I do!?

admin

September 18, 2013 at 3:21 am

Right now the smartest thing you can do is implement a NC period. Read the “how to get your ex boyfriend back” guide on this site as well.
Morgan

September 18, 2013 at 12:40 pm

Would going NC help a lot? I mean honestly, have I already ruined my chances with him?
admin

September 19, 2013 at 1:56 am

You hurt them but not ruined them completely and NC will definteily help!
Morgan

September 19, 2013 at 11:47 am

Okay thank you!! NC for a few days? weeks?
admin

September 20, 2013 at 6:54 pm

Yea 4 weeks
Morgan

September 18, 2013 at 3:48 pm

Because I go to high school with him…and so would him seeing me everyday make NC even more effective or less effective?
admin

September 19, 2013 at 2:01 am

Well in that case you can try a limited contact rule. It would still be effective but not as effective as full blown NC.

Elle

September 16, 2013 at 3:35 pm

Help. My boyfriend wanted to marry me, but I said I didn’t want to talk about it just then. Then he moved away (child issues). He told me he doesn’t do long distance relationships, but to not be sad because true love can’t be stopped. He was unhappy I didn’t move with him. We communicated long distance until one day he accused me of cheating. Someone gave him info of me with a friend at a place. He asked if I still went to that place and he immediately blocked me from his Facebook. The next moments, we text a long conversation about us. He was tired of the long-distance thing and not being able to touch and hold someone. I begged and pleaded to him that there was no other guy, that I didn’t lie or cheat. He was furious with me and called me a liar, cheater, said that he trusted me, chose me, and I would never have his kids. I was at that place one day with a friend who bought me coffee and a donut, but that’s all. My boyfriend finally text me one day with his pet name for me (just like your program said). I was so happy, I text him back (not good according to you). A month of my stalking him went by and I did the worst of texting him something mean, nasty. He didn’t respond. Now he says it’s too late for us. I only found your site just recently (a little late) Have I messed up too bad? 1000 suitors will never match the love I have for him. What do I do now?

admin

September 17, 2013 at 1:27 am

Well, have you read my LDR guide?

Ashley

September 13, 2013 at 5:41 pm

Hi Chris! First off thanks for taking the time to read this. I had gone back and forth about commenting and asking for your opinion but you seem to know your stuff so I figured its worth a shot. First off I do NOT want my ex bf back lol. We had a very bitter break up ( i was the annoying, desperate, psycho ex gf and he was the asshole, cold, dickhead ex bf) about 9 months ago. We haven’t spoken since the breakup and he’s blocked me from facebook. I’m just asking for advice on why he keeps popping up in my life? Heres a little backstory on out relationship… we dated for 2 years on and off. During our one off part in the relationship I discovered I was pregnant but had a miscarriage at 4 months. We went and got tattoos together to memorize our baby. He got the babys name and date he died on his chest and I got a white rose which symbolizes innocence. After that things became more serious and we moved in together and everything was great! However around christmas he went to visit his family in another state ( who are amish btw) and when he came back he kicked me out)

We always shared mutual friends although after the break up only one really stayed friends with him. For the first few months he would show up at bars I was at with that 1 friend and just give me nasty looks the whole time but then he stopped going out to the bars I went to. About 3 months after the breakup it was that 1 friends birthday. He invited my now boyfriend but asked him not to bring me because my ex was NOT very happy about him and I being together( he took me anyways lol). My bf and ex were acquaintances although my ex always really hated him and would talk badly about him but ever since him and I started dating my ex would try to be buddy buddy with him but every now and then something about me would come out. For example he told my new bf that I was psycho, told him ( and several others) about the abuse I suffered as
a child, told him he never loved me, how many girls he had hooked up with since our breakup, etc. At the birthday party my ex told my bf he was happy for us and was happy I was happy ( which contradicted everythong his best friend told us). About a few weeks after that he had a new girlfriend. He stopped appearing out all together ( except for once when he took his new gf to the bar I like and they both decided to give me nasty looks and hide at the other end of the bar). A few weeks later he had texted my best friend a picture of the gift certificate to a nail salon he had bought me for christmas and said ” lol look i found the present i got you and ash” ( i told him i planned to take her) but she never responded. He knows her and I are extremely close and that we share EVERYTHING so I know he knew that was gonna come back to me. Not to mention it was 3 days before the 1 year anniversary of my miscarriage ( the date tattooed on his chest). About a week or two after that my ex’s best friend texted my bf about coming to our house to install new windows but asked if he could bring my ex. My bf obviously said no.

I’m just confused on why he keeps popping up. He’ll be gone and out of my life for a few weeks or months and then pop! Theres some hint or trace of him back in my life again. Any ideas?

admin

September 13, 2013 at 6:36 pm

Sounds to me like someone with unresolved feelings.

Briana

September 10, 2013 at 3:27 pm

I was with my exboyfriend for 5 years (we dated from 17-23) he broke up with me because he needed “space” (which I get) a week later I got wind he was dating our mutual friend. I put in the NC order and I waited 34 days I sent him an email, saying how well I was doing and I hope everything is well with him. He responded right away saying how good it is to hear from me ect ect. In this mix I have been seeing another boy whom I posted a picture on instagram of us last night. Today my ex texted me, I played it cool, after about 15 texts I said “great catching up have a good day at work, ill ttyl” and he never responded. What is the next step? Do I wait for him to contact me? my birthday is in about 4 weeks. If I don’t hear from him by then do I ask him to go out for birthday drinks.?

admin

September 11, 2013 at 2:20 am

Wait a couple of days and if he doesn’t respond send out a text and start up another conversation.

Exdreamer

September 9, 2013 at 1:56 am

Hi Chris!
My story is he broke up with me after 8 months. “It’s not you it’s me! You are not growing on me. I like you and I want you in my life, but I’m not falling for you”. Bla, blah, blah…. You know the classic speech…. This was two weeks after he introduced me to his kids and friends and his family as his gf. Two weeks later…. Poof… So my question is it possible to get him back in this situation??? He is 16 years older then me going through a messy divorce. He was married for 23 years to his soon to be ex wife. Needless to say he might be confused. So should I try or it’s a lost cause???? Thank you in advance

admin

September 9, 2013 at 7:46 pm

My gut tells me that the divorce has something to do with this.

I say if you really want him back to give it a shot!
exdreamer

September 9, 2013 at 8:53 pm

Yes, as much as I want to belive him that he broke up with me because of what he said, I also think there is another reason. I’ve been NC for 12 days now and not a word from him. Also his soon to be ex tried her best to sabotage the relationship.Also he is losing a lot of money due to this divorce. But as a guy whould you really go through all the drama for 8 months chasing me and then dump me saying “You are not growing on me”??? It just doesn’t sound right to me. What do you think?
admin

September 11, 2013 at 1:30 am

You are spot on. There is something else happening brainstorm to see if you can figure it out.
Exdreamer

September 12, 2013 at 1:17 am

I really appreciate you taking the time to answer. That means a lot. I’m just not sure why a man should lie if there was another reason. No clue
admin

September 12, 2013 at 4:05 am

Usually they lie to spare feelings.

Kara

September 4, 2013 at 11:01 pm

Hi Chris!
I’m in a little dilemma for a 16 year old!
I was dating my ex boyfriend for 11 months. For the first four months of our relationship everything was happy and dandy, which normally is because it is called the “honeymoon stage” of the relationship. But four months in, sex kicked in big time. Big enough to the point where every time I saw him, that was being done. Since that started, fights would pop in every here and now. But, every fight was resolved and we were able to pull through it. He told me that he had started to lose feelings for me and decided that two days before he dumped to have sex to see if it would “regain feelings.” He broke up with me four days after the 11 month date (two and a half weeks ago), and he is pretty much trying to friend zone me.
Stupid mistake of mine, I was so desperate to try and get back with him that I still stayed in contact with him and fought to get him to take me back and give me another shot. I sort of understood that maybe he wanted some time to fix his family’s financial issues and college preparations, but I wanted to be there and help him get through all of his troubles like he was there for mine. But now I am stuck, he has completely denied everything I have tried like making compromises; we will restart on a completely emotional base rather than sex, I would focus on fixing my eating habits (I have an eating disorder), I would stop going out and drinking with friends, etc. I have realized, though, that due to how much I relied on him to be my “knight in shining armor” and help me get through rough patches, I am having a difficult time picking myself out of the dumps and working on things for myself. It’s very much that I need him in my life but not as a friend.

P.S. Sorry if that is too much information about personal issues, haha. I just though that it may be necessary to understand an idea of it.

P.S.S This may seem a little over dramatic because I am nearly 17 years of age, but I, once again, had an experience at 14 that allowed me to realize when I truly do love or don’t love somebody.

admin

September 5, 2013 at 12:46 am

Hey it’s all good.

Have you started a NC period?

Also, lets get you out of the dumps!
Kara

September 5, 2013 at 1:01 am

I just stopped contact with him early today, so I guess starting now I am in a no contact time period!
admin

September 6, 2013 at 1:38 am

Welcome to NC hell our special of the day is “emotional worry.”

No jk jk.

It will be tough but I will be here every step of the way.

Vinnie

September 4, 2013 at 12:12 am

Hi

NC has been for 5 days after trying to be friends with my ex who dumped me. My feelings are too strong and I can’t just be friends with him. It has been 3 months since the split. My ex is going on holiday in a couple of days with his friends roughly the same time as me. My ex won’t know y I’m no NC. He’s messaged me trying to make convo but as I would ive not replied.
If there is a chance whilst on holiday me and my ex would be able to reconnect I want to take it. This would mean breaking NC tho… Also he has now started talking to his ex who split up with him last year. She was the love of his life and I know from friends now wants him back.

I don’t know what to do chris. I’m so confused I don’t want to lose him :*(

admin

September 4, 2013 at 2:54 am

Hey you are on the right track with NC. IF you do end up getting a chance to reconnect while on holiday I do say you should take it.
Vinnie

September 4, 2013 at 12:13 am

We are going on holiday to the same place btw

Ashley

September 3, 2013 at 8:24 am

I did a major uh-oh. Went out with the girls friday night, lied about going home when I really went to go talk with an old friend. I can understand why he’s upset but it wasnt really anything. Ive been feeling lost and confused the past couple of weeks and needed some advice from a guys perspective that wouldnt judge me or the situation. I know I had no right to lie and I regret it so much but after drinking a little I didn’t think the good idea was to tell my boyfriend I wanted to talk with my friend about stuff at the time of night it was. I havent slept or ate anything the last couple of days. How could I be so stupid not to see how much I meant to him. My insecurities and past heartbreak ruin my life and made me hurt the one person that ever cared about me. Although he told me its over for good and when he’s gone, he’s gone for good, His friends say he still loves me and was crying over it. Ive never had a guy cry over me. I just want to make this right again and have the love of my life back. What do I do!!!!!

admin

September 3, 2013 at 6:29 pm

Honestly, here is what I would do if I was you.

I would call and talk to him about it. If that doesn’t work out go into a NC rule and implement the stuff I talk about on this site.

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