How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back if HE Cheated On You- Advice & Help

1,053 thoughts on “He Cheated On You And You Want Him Back… What Do You Do?”

N.M

July 24, 2014 at 4:24 pm

Hes 28 now im 56!
N.M

July 24, 2014 at 4:23 pm

Dysfunctional! He was 19 fell in love with me, i was x47 ! We aee still togerher if u can call it that! He cheated after being with me 4 years, claiming i cheated on him, all it was , was telephone calls to his (male) friend , asking for advice on how to deal with my bf’s temper tantrums! I stopped contact cos this friend, also in age group of my bf, first hit on me for a ‘loan’ then claimed he had fallen in love with me, all over the phone! I stopped contact, diidnt tell my bf, but did 3 yrs later! Was it cheating? I dont know! To my bf it was, claims ir was reason he cheated on me! Im married, no kids, husband impotent, gone thru my share domestic violence!
I forgave my bf before he even asked for forgiveness, he hasnt had even a first job at 28, hv loaned him Lots of money he lost while share trading! I know, i know! Just came to know recently he cheated again, right after that first episode, but just dating, chatting, no sex! Help! Just help! He was supposed to ‘take me away’!

admin

July 25, 2014 at 3:09 pm

Your not still with the husband that abused you are you?
N.M

July 25, 2014 at 4:28 pm

Indian arranged marriage went abroad after marriage he fell seriously ill 1st yr of marriage resulting in complete infertility if i had left him wd be i did cause of that, turns out he never told His family no kids due Him! Being barren big thing in India
Started workng after 6 yrs of staying home,( work permit issues) built a parallel life worked 13 yrs till lost job! Things improved i regained some self confidence! Verbal abuse again since i dont work anymore! Am no good!
Meanwhile husband posted back to India as expat
Social pressure’people ask why you dont stay with me’!
Came bk to India 10 yrs ago , housewife snce then!still with him, no physical viloence since very long, but no physical contact either since 20 yrs
Was waiting husband to retire he wd shift back to foreign country, my bf wd ‘take me away’
While former has happened i have decided to stay on here, husband one month here one month there! Truce, silence, we dont talk
, i just cook take care of house, meet with this family , no desires, lost the will to live!

Abuse is relative! Where would i go in a foreign country? It was bearable, i lived double life, one at homeone at work
When i met my bfi fell in love
First person accepted me as i am, not chauvinistic like my husband
Now bf yes, no, dont know? Will be like this till i die
Thats how it is in our country
No pressing reason to divorce, no communicatuion, nothing!
admin

July 28, 2014 at 1:53 pm

Wait, your husband isn’t fertile?
N.M

July 28, 2014 at 4:47 pm

No! And impotent!
Anon

August 2, 2014 at 2:39 pm

Hi my replies awaiting moderation disappeared.
Shall i not write anymore?
admin

August 4, 2014 at 2:39 pm

No it just took me a while to get to it.
N.M

August 5, 2014 at 3:33 am

Hi
Well i had mailed him an image (after no viber) about letting someone go free and if they come back they are yours so he replied back ‘he’s never coming back( its always he messed up his life cos of me, he doesnt hv a career etc etc my fault, no matter hes the lazy one poaching money off me, even Today) ‘
So not for the first time but maybe the last he’s Never coming back as he wrote…..well just before this, after he deleted me from viber, i turned into a Mail gnat
Anyway next night got a text, a song, didnt reply
The next day he had an entrance exam, i saw a link might’ve been useful, sent ut by mail, gt response ‘where in the world are you’
I replied ‘at home where else, you said never coming back, getting out of my life so….’
Nothing after that its tue today after that Sat
Wasnt an ultimatum, but he cheated once, next time he just wants to go on noting happened what am I to do..?
Chris do u think i have Any chance with my guy
If you think things are hopeless pls tell me
Thks
N.M

August 13, 2014 at 3:01 pm

Ok i know u are tired! Just btw i Knew it was about money? He wants another 4 thousand $ to invest
Do u know what he owes me? 72 th $ and another 30th $ worth gold!
I have refused that i dont hv it but he’s getting all emotional ‘ u have never refused me etc’
I know you dont hv anything to say but i Had to text back to refuse
Thks chris
See if u feel like replying
I would be grateful for your insight!
NM

October 16, 2014 at 5:04 pm

Oh another thing, im Not going to text him He has to come crawling He cheated And he has to beg
Sorry if its totally against al advice youve given everybody but….
Would love some input though…
NM

October 16, 2014 at 4:57 pm

I had shifted to ‘get yr bf back2.0’ but u haven’t responded for ages
Im sort of no contact or LC n today i blocked him on ciber
Dont hv a phn where i cd block him
He cd if he wanted, text me, as it happens he just sent me My old pictures
Dont know why!
Any ideas where to go from here? You seem offended by my perceived ‘cheating’!….
NM

August 25, 2014 at 5:02 pm

Rage from me, rage that He cheated Even if i got confirmation now, He has to contact, apologise, explain…. But he turns it around n always makes it abiut My so called cheating.
Btw shifted to version 2.0 as i just discovered that
Dont jnow if u connect threads due same email id
I,m upset i,m missing him , i’m not contactting from my end but i dont know if i will respond if he contacts. I dont Want to i want him to come and Beg
I’m suffering God knows how much
Hv u got Any advice you can help me with please?!
NM

August 19, 2014 at 5:25 pm

I think you’ve lost your patience and rightly so…
I’ll look out for an article on rage, the kind of hot tears rolling on the floor in the toyshop rahe when your mum wont buy you the toy you want….the helplessness of it alll…thehopelessness of it all.
Dint know if you will see this..my messages are disappearing into the black hole of your nerves!
Sorry for being such a pest!
admin

August 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

I haven’t lost my patience just took off this weekend.
NM

August 19, 2014 at 4:58 pm

I have one question please.
I am fully convinced of NC and while u have always said it is difficult, have yo come across or considered the fact of rage? A simmering, bubbling, Rage, which threatens to destry everything?
Thus rage is 5 yrs old in my case when he cheated first time, n showed a ‘little’ remorse, and said his sorries, but i did not feel any Regret, or any effort that he has to atone for it or pacify me, i just looked up english equivalent of a word we have to —- someone who is annoyed, and what i got is coax, placate
Well he never coaxed or placated
And i was waiting
And this time i told him 2 months ago, he met me once, then my husband was here! He could if he wanted/ wants visited me… To coax, placate, ask for forgiveness
Byt he hasn’t and i’m boiling
Your possible side effect of NC
Stuff for a new article
Please do try and reply…..
admin

August 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

Rage from you or him?
N.M

August 18, 2014 at 8:10 pm

Yest due to the money there was texting back n forth and i kept waiting for him to say he loves me or is missing me…we even talked …today he wrote twice but I’m into NC now
He could make out i needed to hear something yest but today…….i didnt reply and that was it….
N.M

August 18, 2014 at 5:10 pm

He tells me, (and) , he cries on the phone, in front of me,
Not that he told me he cried….maybe its all a put on
N.M

August 18, 2014 at 5:07 pm

I transferred 300 on 16th.
Why? I have it, he doesn’t , its not his fault his family is poor, his dad also borrowed money long time ago, i hear he would return when he retires next year n gets benefits
It IS his fault he didnt /doesn t want to take up a job cos he thinks he’s made for something better
Maybe he’s a turtle! I just give cos thank God I’VE never been in this situation that i never had money in my pocket to buy a coke, and i have taunted him so much, it is so humiliating for him when his family calls him good-for-nothing, he tells me he cries, maybe its just a drama
But i’m an honest person, and Very gullible, if u tell me its midnight even though the sun is shining, i’ll just beleve u cos i would think, why would u need to say otherwise…
Anyway the deed is done! Today my first day of honest NC
One text one viber msg i didnt react!
Take care, thanks
Keep replying, i’ll gnat you till eternity!
N.M

August 17, 2014 at 7:39 am

His dad gave him 1000 ( i asked him to send a picture) so i transferred 300 yest
He texted thanks so so much n he owes his life to me
So then i Had written he needs me only for the money he doesnt care if i die
He wrote back he does feel n he is writing a mail about our relationship from the beginning and he would send it soon n i texted back i dont care re the beginning its about this last discovery, that if i’m lying bleeding on the road would he call an ambulance or give my daily medicine
I got no reply this morning in half sleep i texted re the foto of the money his dad had supposely given him n he did send on viber
So again i’ve broken NC today cos i wrote back on viber that it doesnt seem that much money his dad gave him…
I just started on yr lies article…makes sense, like everything else!
Do u see me as a cougar, that i should know better he’s with me only for the money? Do u believe there is love which does not take earthly age in reckoning ? Do u believe this world destroys love? With preset ideas of age? Why can an older man marry a younger woman, but an elder woman is a cougar, a sugar mama?
Age never ever entered our relationship, even though i want to congratulate you on your latest Age article which again is a gem!!!
Any reply will be appreciated! Thanks!
N.M

August 15, 2014 at 5:18 pm

Please allow me to transfer him 500 on monday
I’ll wait for your reply!
I’m crying i’m suffering
Please say it would not be breaking NC
Please?
admin

August 18, 2014 at 12:17 pm

Why do you want to give him money?
N.M

August 15, 2014 at 5:12 pm

He knows if he accuses Me of cheating he will get a vehement reaction, and i really think there was no call, it was all the buildup for another loan, or if at all there was a call that some guy saying he should leave me, would be something his family suspects!
If he texts again for money, he went down from 4 th to 300, i will transfer ,without comment, he is trying to work, and says he has found an investor, that his dad giving some money,
I can understand his humiliation, i have taunted him lots re the money just last month i gave him 500 pocket money, i dont know where he blows it, he’s very fond of eating out! He really wants to do some business, i cant afford 4 th right now but i can give 300′
Please just see me through this make or break up
I trust u on this and need you! Please!!
N.M

August 15, 2014 at 5:04 pm

Im sorry, re the taurus bit,
I’m suffering v badly last time 9 days i held out but he pressed the trigger, shouted he was getting ( multiple) calls, next day was only 1, i think his family suspect he is addicted to me, could be them, although outwardly i’m just an aunty, anyway last text he wrote yest, many (arranged) marriage proposals for him, his family wondering why he wont get married, insinuating he maybe lacking!!, started by saying how much he loves me,ended by saying he cries, wonders i must be feeling the same….
I discovered a site ‘ladywithatruck.com’
Many characteristics of a narcissist,
I’m in a mess today was waiting to hear from him!
Going to stick to NC but its killing me…
Wish people wouldnt be so judgemental, that hurt!
God bless you !
N.m.

August 14, 2014 at 8:21 pm

Thanks for all yr remarks i know you dont approve and are finding it difficult to advise! Someone reacted very strongly to the fact of my cheating! Tried explaining its not always black and white, something may Appear to be cheating, but may infact really just be twoindividuals under one roof living their own lives! But everyone is entitled to their opinions and judjements, though let him cast the first stone, who hasn’t sinned!
Pls see if you can see me through this, if not i will try to accept!
N.M

August 14, 2014 at 12:00 pm

I do so want to understand following article but the syntax just throws me off
Can u help?
https://alangesohnerelojes.wordpress.com/2013/04/07/a-narcissist-are-not-able-to-say-im-sorry-or-even-take-answerability/
Also he is sun sign taurus
Taurus
The lazy bulls have this special quality about them that surely sets them a thousand miles apart from the rest and that is called avarice. Greed can drive them insane; they crave for all the luxury in the world but don`t want to work hard for it. Funny, isn`t it?
And moon sign aquarius
Aquarius
Aquarians have a deep desire for fame and they will do anything for it. Being detached is one thing and backstabbing is another but to an Aquarian they are all the same. They do so unintentionally though, if thats any consolation
admin

August 15, 2014 at 2:23 pm

I’m a taurus… hahaha
N.M

August 14, 2014 at 11:42 am

The money thing was always there right frm the 1 st i told you! In the beginning i gave just some spending money n bought gifts but …this frm jul24
“I forgave my bf before he even asked for forgiveness, he hasnt had even a first job at 28, hv loaned him Lots of money he lost while share trading! I know, i know! Just came to know recently he cheated again, right after that first episode, but just dating, chatting, no sex! Help! Just help! He was supposed to ‘take me away’!”
But then he demanded
I hv been paying for him 8 yrs
He does care , maybe just for the money, maybe ‘and’ for the money
I dont know if im coming or going my head is splitting and all ive been doing since days is just read posts from various women on your site i dont know Why!
I even wrote a Taryn who comments from time to time on yr site n she had given her mail id to someone somewhere
I’m weakening re money, he Does want to start work, says his Dad giving money too, the family knows me, the aunt, his dad has also borrowed from me…
But this morning i said no, he doesnt bother to even xplain or care for the hurt he has caused me n i should keep financing him…
350$ in the last month! I inherited an office flat from my late mom, all the rent has gone to him! All!
I told him im not giving this time, last night, thats when he came up with the blood in your veins dialogue….
This morning pls pls i even wrote ill give if i throw on the floor n he picks up a note at a time
Somewhere balance changed, i was crying, he was shouting i cheated ….
admin

August 14, 2014 at 11:10 am

Wait, he is just using you for money now?

No offense, but this guy seems like a tool…
N.M

August 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

If one doesnt want him back, Chris do u know of any painkiller, that will take away the hurt?
N.M

August 14, 2014 at 9:17 am

I turned call gnat
Conflicting replies, last night he was the blood in my veins, today i cheated, he didnt cheat, just made a mistake, text doesnt love me, next text loves me so much, i call, doesnt care a damn,i cheated, i said u swore you wouldnt accuse me again, he says the ceremony meant nothing, i call, all of a sudden, he would never hurt me, but he has nothing to say, he doesnt want to stay with me,hangs up, i call say pls dont behave like a chameleon, then he says i love you i married you but i cant stay with you, when i said dont stay but i need explanations he said he would explain!
Sorry i’m sure i’ve driven You mad also!
N.M

August 14, 2014 at 5:59 am

Again he sent text for money, i called reminding he owes me explanations n apologies for the newest confirmation of cheating i got nw, turned tables on me, the supposed cheating on my part whaen i had talked to his friend, shouting, he was an innocent young guy, i trapped him, he was infatuated, the private ceremony behind closed doors doesn’t mean anything, he will not apologise, explain! Yes he was in it for the money!
So!!
N.M

August 13, 2014 at 5:20 pm

First time ive refused him money now he texts i’ll never be rid of him, he’s the blood coursing in my veins! Well since id broken NC today anyway, i wrote back that he’s wounded me so much that all my open wounds are bleeding!
Gd night Chris and thanks, i,m ready to take my sleeping pill!
N.M

August 5, 2014 at 3:34 am

I also read the thread below mine n also remember hvng read in one of yr sections

*Narcissistic (Selfish and only thinks of himself.)
*Chronic Liars (Everyone lies but if someone does it over and over you may have to take a step back and decide if this is someone worth being with.)
*Someone who gets jealous very easily (If he is constantly accusing you of inappropriate behavior.)
*Constantly flirts with other girls (Every guy will flirt everynow and then but if it is common behavior for him then be careful.)
This describes him perfectly
(although he didn’t start any of this behavior until he accused me of, that i supposedly cheated on him, long another story which according to him why He cheated on me the first time around) ha ha
N.M

August 19, 2014 at 8:00 am

Ive asked u many times please tell me your honest feeling if i have any chance
His family looking for a bride to arrange marriage
I again ignored a text today
He just might take up a proposal
I hope NC doesnt backfire on me
Do reply
N.M

August 12, 2014 at 5:10 pm

We haven’t met since i came to know, when i got the call from the girl for this time, for the cheating in 2010-11
He had tokd her ,i’m his mother n my husband his father, and a whole lot of lies!
He came to visit one day, threatening there had better not be that girl waiting here, like the 1 st one when he had cheated i had called her here n confronted him! To this one i just sd im not his mother im his aunt!
I hv been writing mails, texts, viber what i need but no reaction
The 1st time he apologised i forgave under sone conditions like telling me where he is going n coming but he never stuck to iit, never wooed me, courted me, begged me to come back, sd he wd do it One day, i was still waiting meanwhile i got this call after 4 yrs , what was the need to bow down to me id forgiven him hadnt i?
There was another one he was going to marry cos she promised to pay off all his debts but in the end she refused! He claims there was no physical cheating, just a business arrangemnt!
I’m mad!
N.M

August 12, 2014 at 2:57 pm

God no i Do Not have or Want another bf of course i Told you, he laughed when i said u just want an excuse to hear my voice n need a topic where i’ll keep on talking!
And No , no remorse or any sign that he has to apologise, explain, or i might be hurt , i think he thinks it was 4 yrs ago wtf
It may sound strange but i was pushed to this guy thru destiny, and i married him, and i’m done for this life, first the husband now this guy!
Tried sending foll last nt bt blabbermouth me wdnt get sent!
———
Male pyschology, bad boy qualities, super committed But He cheated!
Had no confidence, was poor, got money and clothes from me and kaboom Casanova is born! Now he wants to get every girl in line of sight!
So pickup artist, And yes, controller what else, the immature one, but the cheating one too, only he Imagined this cheating, oh! Egomaniac

Well after the calls last night i Know i shouldnt have but i tried to call a few times, he didnt reply, could be genuinely his phone not working in which case how is he getting the calls or else he’s sleeping, he’s alate sleeper!
I just wanted to pointout to him that if i really had another bf why would i give his number to the new guy who could chase this guy away? More likely it would be some’girl’ who knows of me who wants to get rid of me! More likely this is just a trumped up situation just to get me talking again but inspite of that i feel the need to point it out to him!
Ok he called from sis’s phn, admitted he was missing me and just wanted to talk to me, i Know this n told him so! I said i’m not going to accept weekly ‘leaving you’ n if its just my voice i can tell him some cooking recipes!

I would try NC again but he knows im alone from Thu n he would then attribute my NC to cheating on my part
Once end 2011 i tried NC but i was in touch with his family all along n going out ,meeting with them n basically kept them informedof my whereabouts else he ad go on this cheating trip, do the deed yrself but accuse Me N he was quite abusive last night too! But right now when i ‘caught’ him he started laughing!
Didnt fully admit was a ruse to get me talking though, there was a very faint, i did get a call, to which i sd shouldn’t he then try to fund out who is playing games?
NC wont drive any sense into his head! He is DUMB!
N.M

August 11, 2014 at 6:44 pm

I dont believe it the timing is so off! Right when i do NC n someone is calling him? Is this way of checking by my reaction if i’m cheating him? I’m done with relationships for this lifw, nearing 57 for heaven’s sake! What a kid, drama queen!
admin

August 12, 2014 at 11:46 am

He could be making it up… You don’t have another boyfriend right?
N.M

August 11, 2014 at 6:37 pm

This is urgent i m trying to get thru on his mail id as my cache full
You just have to believe this!
I did nt react to his text ncall today?,
Just now its nearing 12 am , my husban sleeping in next bed, i start getting calls from him total 4 finally rushed to toilet to take 5 th as it went on, i keep my phone silent!
Well he’s screaming he’s getting calls from my ,’new’ bf to leave me alne! Talk of extremes just to get me talking, or like olden times have me snivel and beg , i haven’t done anything! U know like if someone says u dont love me to hear the other say ofcourse i do
Old habit sure shot formula attack me
Well i just said instead of questioning the guy u just believe him, is that all the trust u hv for me? But he wouldnt let go, n i said again instead of finding out who is playing mischief n beating Him up u talk of coming Here n creatng a scene? But he didnt back off i finally said i cannot stay in toilet so long whispering and he is welcome to think What he likes
Pi’m very agitTed and rambling now
Pls excuse me but Please tell me what to do! God! That was the end of my well meant NC! 9 days lost! Its not going to work
Btw i was reading yr articles, and all posts n i have to take a break i’m losing it in the maze of thats what my bf did to me too n yesi’mokder too etc etc
Male pyschology, bad boy qualities, super committed But He cheated!
Had no confidence, was poor, got money and clothes from me and kaboom Casanova is born! Now he wants to get every girl in line of sight!
So pickup artist, And yes, controller what else, the immature one, but the cheating one too, only he Imagined this cheating, oh! Egomaniac too
HELP just anything to help me calm down again n not feel like a piece of dog shit, for What?
admin

August 12, 2014 at 11:48 am

Whoa… Honestly I think you should turn off your phone for a while if you want to calm down.
N.M

August 11, 2014 at 3:06 pm

My first post aug5
‘Chris do u think i have Any chance with my guy
If you think things are hopeless pls tell me’
And Aug6
“but his refusal to regret, repent, atone or even Talk about his cheating, is a dead corpse that floats to the surface every few days! Just a sorry is Not enough, he Has to show he Wants me back! But he just doesnt get it, he wants to sweep it all under the rug and pretend its like in the beginning!”

I think i need your opinion, do u think i have anything but heartache in store for me? He knows my husband flying to the other country wed night
He didnt try to call again today, i’m sure he wants money again! OR he is finally agreeing to an arranged marriage, planned by his parents, or whatever…

There was another post re power balance!
Ok what i Think i need is the power in my hand, to or Not to forgive him, but he has to beg this time! And Then i want to see how sincere he is,
( not this weekly ‘ i ruined my life cos of you, you old hag’ I didnt tell him not to study, not take up a job! Its him who gave up engineering college cos he flunked, didnt makeit thru pilot entrance, couldnt pass english aptitude to go to UK for MBA, didnt graduate, got a degree by correspondance,now he wants to become a model )
And i want your honest opinion, its not worth it, right? He’s just a millstone round my neck isnt it?
Ok NC, breakup, then how do
I get my money and gold?
Just hold my hand through this please! Please! I have no one else!
My late lady doctor in the other country , who became a sort of friend after I shifted here, another fair weather friend, all said he’s only with me for money!
Another post i read, the girl stopped supporting her boyfriend, he left her….
He tried to call Just the one time….ha!
This is His mail id one he doesnt use
I wasnt getting thru on mine
Babbling beyond control i’m losing it….
admin

August 12, 2014 at 11:25 am

Do you think he is showing any type of remorse for the cheating.
N.M

August 11, 2014 at 11:51 am

Thanks fr replying one post aug10,yest, last line,pending moderation,
Quote
What i Need? Tell me to please stay in NC n tell me exactly What i should hold out for?
Unquote
Im doing NC , he did try to call earlier,i genuinely missed his call, he’s trying to get a reaction from me!
I dont know what I want , u asked someone where she sees herself in 5 yrs, where do I see myself, alone and cheated and looted!
He owes me tons of money, also in addition i’ve given him so much gold, my late mother’s antique jewellery that he has taken a loan against!
I hate him for not Acknowledging tht he Has to show regret and remorse not just stupid sorry sorry sorry
What i Want is he should Beg , and he would do that cos im his meal ticket, the chicken with the golden eggs,
I need your help to see this NC through, please can u be there for me ,Please? Today is day 9, i didnt revert to his viber msg or his text yest or call today….
Did u see the post re breaking NC due fear, or re who Kevin is? Those posts not showing here! I wish i was his age, or he mine…what Should i do?
This is what i would like, exactly
https://katie-lersch-articles.com/is-it-possible-to-start-over-with-a-clean-slate-after-your-spouse-cheats-or-has-an-affair/
N.M

August 10, 2014 at 8:58 am

Know u hv yr hands full read all yr articles going mad!
Didnt react viber last week, get a text from his sister’ s number that all his phones broken, he’s got somethmg urgent to talk, he’ll call tmrw to pls answer
My immediate reaction was to text back that for Methere’s only One urgent hing is that he explains, apologises for the cheating episode of 2010 which i gr confirmation of now, we haven’t met after the girl called me, but he’ sent me a text there was nothing, he’s just assuming its forgiven on my part!
What i Need? Tell me to please stay in NC n tell me exactly What i should hold out for? Pls! Anyone! HELP
N.M

August 6, 2014 at 4:34 pm

Something interesting
https://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/signs-karmic-relationship-183007461.html;_ylt=AgsYGhIwlx66biadrPx8qYq7YF1H;_ylu=X3oDMTE2ZGx1dWc1BG1pdAMEcG9zAzMEc2VjA01lZGlhQkNhcm91c2VsTWl4ZWRMUENB;_ylg=X3oDMTBhM285c21iBGxhbmcDZW4tSU4-;_ylv=3
N.M

August 6, 2014 at 4:27 pm

I hate to admit it! I was so sure he’d make it big, hearing his grand schemes, and he Will, someday, though whether it will be honestly or by leaching off yet another female, I dont know!
But it’ll be too late for him to ‘Take me away!’ I’ll be 60 or 65
I’m so tired of this on again, off again makeup/ breakup game!

I sometimes feel I Have to let him go he Has to be able to have a Normal married life, to be able to have children that I cant give him, to be able to move as a couple in a group of friends who are His age! Then i get all selfish n tell myself its He who came after me,
He who says he’ll Always love me no matter what, but that he doesnt like who I’ve become! ( If I however say I Also dont love the person he has become, he gets all hurt and says I always knew that blah blah, he is short, dark, and not a president/ managing director of a company, everything my husband is, he just retired, and he’s very fair which is a big thing here! )
You would say he is immature, and I tried telling him that I Still am the same, but his refusal to regret, repent, atone or even Talk about his cheating, is a dead corpse that floats to the surface every few days! Just a sorry is Not enough, he Has to show he Wants me back! But he just doesnt get it, he wants to sweep it all under the rug and pretend its like in the beginning!
HELP!
admin

August 11, 2014 at 10:55 am

He is definitely immature.

VERY immature.

What specifically would you like my help with?

(P.S. sorry for the late response.)
N.M

August 5, 2014 at 3:38 am

Also read section if yr bf he loves you
N one lady had listed her faults
Same like her i had many issues due to my husband no selfesteem no confidence etc was my boyfriend taught me to believe im beautiful
But his cheating knockedme down i built up His selfesteem n in turned into nervous clingy jealous wreck
Even today im crying to get him back when i Know he will ditch me Again

One of the texts i sent on viber when gnatting to which he replied’getting out of yr life,then deleted viber,
‘I’m sorry but u Hv to discuss it. It can’t be ignored like it never happened. It’s cruel on yr part to even think of doing that. And apology? Just a sorry? How can anyone with half an ounce of feeling Just apologize for something like that? AND not discuss it not answer each question not court and woo me again if you want me im yr life and get it out of the way. Marriages can survive cheating but it takes BOTH parties committed to doing it.

Nt that u just manipulate me, you hv no money, yr family doesnt care for u….’
N.M

July 31, 2014 at 8:05 am

There was a double thread running! And i was very upset! I make these valiant attempts to break away! Ive given him an ultimatum again that he has to make time to explain and answer my questions about what happened in 2010, confirmation of which i got now, i had discovered texts then which he shrugged away saying his friend had borrowed his phone! I Know i have to break away! Thks for taking the trouble to read and reply
admin

August 4, 2014 at 2:18 pm

Not a fan of ultimatums… They usually don’t work.
N.M

July 31, 2014 at 8:29 am

I Have to leave but its my last chance in life! I did Not go looking for an affair He chased me and now he wants to explore the world And not work just keep taking money from me, but going out with others
N.M

July 31, 2014 at 9:36 am

So he deleted me from viber once again claiming i sent a hi to someone else so ive mailed him to come bk only if he dsnt pretend nthing happened! Thks for being there Chris!
N.M

July 25, 2014 at 4:58 pm

Hv no friends lost all when shifted abroad no one to talk to!

Rina

July 18, 2014 at 6:31 pm

Hai Chris….
so… remember when I told you I cheated on my ex 4 times with this guy named Dan? well, I just found out from a mutual friend of ours that my ex was cheating on me during our whole relationship (even before I cheated on him). Daron, my ex, always insisted that he’s never cheated on me, and I want to believe him but after I saw this that you wrote:
*Narcissistic (Selfish and only thinks of himself.)
*Chronic Liars (Everyone lies but if someone does it over and over you may have to take a step back and decide if this is someone worth being with.)
*Someone who gets jealous very easily (If he is constantly accusing you of inappropriate behavior.)
*Constantly flirts with other girls (Every guy will flirt everynow and then but if it is common behavior for him then be careful.)
This describes him perfectly (although he didn’t start any of this behavior until I cheated on him)…. :/ I just don’t know who to believe. I’m starting to think maybe Daron isn’t a good match for me after all… but I am now extending the 30 days to 45 days… or maybe I really will go with the 90 days NC since it usually takes me 3- 6 months to get over someone (even if I was only with that person for 3 months :/)

admin

July 21, 2014 at 3:12 pm

I think he isn’t at all.

(I am not a fan of cheaters one bit.)
Rina

July 21, 2014 at 11:54 pm

yeah… probably not a fan of me either then? ^_^’ I’m not really a fan of myself either at the moment because I feel severe guilt for what I did >.< I'm trying to work through it though so I can move on from Daron 🙂
admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:36 pm

No offense but you are right.

Cheating makes me uncomfortable personally but I will tell you one thing.

I am glad you are feeling guilt for what you did. That means you know it was wrong and your ex keeping a secret means he didn’t care enough about you to give you the truth (until after the fact.)
Rina

July 22, 2014 at 3:25 pm

Thank you for always being honest with me and never sugar coating things. 🙂 I really appreciate it Chris.
admin

July 24, 2014 at 1:59 pm

You are more than welcome.

vincy

June 20, 2014 at 6:26 pm

me and my bf broke up for some time and the reason for breaking up is he is in love with another, seems much stronger than the love we had, we have been together six years and I really want him back..he cheated on me and is in love with another, do I still have chance?

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:37 pm

He cheated on you… Tell me, whats your reasoning for wanting him back?
vincy

June 23, 2014 at 7:34 am

the reasons I want him back is that we are actually very suitable for each other..we have a lot of common interests and being with him is very comfortable, very happy, we can talk nonstop even we had had a six years relationship..I want him back because I love being with him.. I didn’t even mad at him even he cheated on me…
vincy

June 23, 2014 at 8:20 am

I have seen a lot of getting back your ex website but it seems none has included my situation

Belle

June 9, 2014 at 7:56 am

I find your page very interesting. Me and my 6 years bf broke up 2 days ago. He is 27 and so am I, we are planning to have a baby this year. We have a very beautiful relationship with some downs but we struggle and work things out. For the past 2 years, we had a very sweet relationship, everything is in place. Until last week, I found out that hes bee lying behind my back. My work is 8am-6pm and hes working 4pm-1am. Obviously, theres no time for us to see each other everyday. We can only see each other and spend quality time together every Saturday. Everytime he ends his job, he always txt me goodnight and always letting me know hes home already. Until I found out that hes not going home straight and eve not going home to their house for a couple of days. I was so mad, my friend even saw her with another girl eating outside around 2 am. I was so mad at him, I did not talk to him for a couple of days. He says sorry and beg for forgiveness. I even get to a point where I stalk him in his work place to see he has a girl, and as soon as I saw “them” walking towards his car, I confronted him. I asked him why. He said he just fell out of love since the time that I started working and no time to see each other, he even told me to just break it off with me because he dont want to hurt me anymore. He said that i deserve someone better. BTW, the girl is just his office mate and wanted to ride in his car WITH A GROUP. And I know my bf’s taste, the girl that I saw is impossible for my bf to like. He cried when I left him that night.

2 nights after, I went out together with my friends (night out). Unfortunately, we saw each other there. He thought I have a company guy so what he did is dance with another girl. I saw it. I was so drunk and so mad. I slapped her. And I even invited him outside to talk, but I beat him up (slap, kick, pull his shirt). And unfortunately his eyes hit the gutter and theres a blood already. We brought him to the hospital (together with my siblings), and the doctors need to stitch his eyelid. My ex’s mom is a doctor so we called her right away to check on him. My ex’s told his mom that he fell of a cab and hit the gutter. His mom cried as soon as he sees his son.

A day after that, my ex went to our house to show me all the things that Ive done. He told me he hated me so much and he regret the 6 year we had together. He said bad things like “fuck you, cursed me that I hope I suffer, he even told me that its my fault his mom cried. I take full responsibility of my action. I told him that Im very sorry and even begged for forgiveness. I told him that Im not going to do that without any reason. Im just so mad of what he did, but I know what I did tduring that time was too much. I was drunk and so mad thats why I did not control my emotion.

Now he said that he will tell his whole family what really happened and will take legal action towards me. I know that he cant just badmouth me to his family. Last time I even kneel down and begged fr forgiveness, he said that sorry right now is nothing to him,. He said that everytime he feels the pain and he face the mirror hes hatred towards me grow and the love diminish. He told me to go to his family and confront them on what really happened and take full responsibility of my action if Im really sorry which Im willing to do, supposed to be Ill go there tomorrow to confront them but he did not let me.

Do you think we still have chance of being together again? He said he still loves me but every time he feels the pain, the hatred grew. What can i do to bring him back? My conscience is killing me because of what I did. Help me!! What can I do to get him back.

Thanks

admin

June 9, 2014 at 3:26 pm

Wait, are you actually pregnant or were you just trying to have a baby?
Belle

June 10, 2014 at 12:13 am

Hi Kevin,

Just to update you, Saturday morning (6:30am) as I checked my phone, I received 12 missed calls from my ex boyfriend, he was calling me around 5:30 in the morning, but I put my phone on silent thats why I did not hear him calling. Anyways, I tried calling him twice as well because Im thinking it might be emergency thats why hes calling me, he did not answer. After 4 hours, he called, asking if Im calling him, I told him he is the one calling and Im just calling back. he said to just dont mind it and he is just drunk. I said ok. When I checked my other phone,he sent a wrong message, ” I was looking for you, as usual you left me if you have somebody”, obviously he is with another girl last night. So I replied, I told him to resend the number to the right person and probably its impt for her to know that you are looking for her yesterday. He said that its just a friend, who was introduced my his male friend. He said that he’s been seeing the girl for a couple of days already when the incident happened. She left him yesterday because all through out that night, hes drunk and been talking about me. Anyways, for this moment, I dont give a d*mn anymore.

He keeps on texting me how fu*king coward I am for not confronting his family. I actually texted her sister already and plans to meet up yesterday afternoon. Because of his non stop texting telling me how coward I am, I texted her mom asking if I could meet her since I want to say something very important, and she told me to just text the details whatever it is because she is very busy. So I told her everything and apologized wholeheartedly. She said that she doesnt have anything against me and he knows that hes son is also drunk, in short, shes not mad at me or anything, she told me that we time will heal for both of us. I also texted her sister that I cant meet her up anymore and just told her the whole story, just like their mom, she also said she understand what I did,.

When my ex find out that i already told his family, he was shock and maybe not expecting that I can really do it. We talked a little bit, and he told me that Im still in his heart, and if he can call anytime he wants. I feel like everything shuttered. I cant face his family anymore, I cant talk to them anymore because they know what kind of person I am.

Kevin, do you think it is still okay to be with him after his family finds out? Just in case we still try to fix everything will it affect us and our family big time? Or it is better to just give up and leave?

Thank you.
admin

June 10, 2014 at 3:47 pm

Who the heck is Kevin?
Belle

June 10, 2014 at 12:11 am

Just planning to have a baby, not yet pregnant.
admin

June 10, 2014 at 3:47 pm

Gotcha, so it was a pretty intense relationship.

Do you have any idea for why he cheated on you?
Belle

June 13, 2014 at 6:29 am

Hi. I dont have any idea why he cheated on me. He started being different when he started working as a korean tutor, 98% of his co-teacher are female. Im thinking that maybe, its one his co-worker. I dont have enough proof but I can feel it. I asked him many times, but he said he dont have any. He meets a lot of girls, talk to them but thats it.

I want to work things out, but Im sure his mother hates me soooooo much, as well as his whole family. What should I do?

Seema

June 8, 2014 at 3:30 am

Okay I am going to try posting my comment again:

Hey Chris! How are you? Before I discuss my weird situation with you and get your thoughts on it, I want to know if there’s a possibility you will be writing a guide on what and how a woman, who was a rebound for her ex, can do to get her ex back or influence by making her ex regret letting her go?

Here’s my situation:
My ex and I were in a LDR and we broke up 3 months ago. Few days before the break up, he was all affectionate like usual but there came an out of the blue break up. I knew there was something amiss few days before the break up (like cheating) but he denied it. He cut all contact with me suddenly (on Skype, FB, etc.)and I never got closure. I did no contact after the break up and didn’t even contact him when my mutual friend asked why he was with his ex (she’s in a different country too btw) after few weeks into my break up. Until few weeks ago I was in no contact, but I texted him about a memory of us (the one he mentioned often during our relationship). Never got a response and I miss him because he was planning to marry me this summer. What I don’t understand is why he cut off all contact with me right away but never cut off contact with his ex who he is with now when he was the one who broke up with her and was speaking to me during the time he was with her–which I had no clue about until one day he mentioned something that I picked up on!! I miss him and just want to know why he was so cold after the break up with me. Thoughts?

Keep writing great guides!

admin

June 8, 2014 at 8:19 pm

What tipped you off on that he was cheating?
Seema

June 8, 2014 at 10:44 pm

4 days before the break up, there were references made about things he wanted to do (that he had done with the ex in the past) and reminiscing about moments he shared with her which he had forgotten he told me about in the first few weeks of the relationship. He also made some slips while talking to me and made a guilty face when I asked him point blank if there’s someone else–(my gut feeling). I never had gotten this nagging feeling until those last days. I still haven’t received a response to my text.
admin

June 9, 2014 at 3:08 pm

Soo, he has avoided the question altogether.
Seema

June 9, 2014 at 4:09 pm

He said “No” when asked at that time but the mutual friend (the one who didn’t know we had broken up who provided me the closure indirectly asking me as to what he was doing with his previous ex in another country when we were supposed to be getting marry in end of July)…So my gut feeling was right that he left me to be with her and possibly they were in touch with each other while he was with me.
Why be so cold and cut me off when I didn’t even go “text gnating or call gnating” on him?

I just wanted your point of view about this. I know you are not a cheater…and thank God for that! There’s hope!
Seema

June 9, 2014 at 4:15 pm

I so want or need a guide where the rebound woman can get some tips to be the “ungettable woman” in the future (the other side of the coin)!

Sorry! I meant to say : “…while asking me as to what he was doing with his previous ex in another country when we were supposed to be getting married at the end of July”
admin

June 10, 2014 at 3:35 pm

What do you mean where the rebound woman can become the UG?
Seema

June 10, 2014 at 6:45 pm

Hi Chris. I meant to say, how can someone save a “rebound relationship”. In this scenario, the girl is the rebound.
admin

June 11, 2014 at 4:35 pm

Thats a good question…

I might have to think about that for a moment.
Seema

June 13, 2014 at 2:58 am

Hey Chris:

Did you come up with a solution or some ideas about how to make a rebound relationship last?
Seema

June 8, 2014 at 11:16 pm

Oh! I forgot to mention that he knows I can’t stand cheaters and people who are passive aggressive. I am the straight shooter type.

Maria

May 21, 2014 at 7:36 pm

Hi. Me and my ex have know each other since we were 18 and we recently broke up. Everything was good until I got pregnant and I had to make a decison. We offically got together in September of last year and we moved out december of last year. I found out I was pregnant on valentines day of this year. After I had the abortion he said that he feel outta love with me. We had to move in with a friend cause we couldn’t afford to get a new place yet. During that month he started hanging out more, coming home late and not having sex with me that often. So he said that we needed or should take a break, but we weren’t broken up at that point. Then a couple days later I told him that I have a boyfriend but I single and then he suggested that we should break up. The whole point of taking a break was to get ourselves where we need to be indivdually but he still said he wants to work on us. But come to find out when I went to go and get my things and I left a girl from the apartment downstairs was calling him baby and was all hugged up on him. He’s my first love and even though he cheated I want him back. What should I do?

admin

May 22, 2014 at 3:55 pm

How old are you now?

Vickie

May 15, 2014 at 7:24 am

I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago as he cheated on me with this Christian girl. They are now officially together.

I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We have been living together in the dorm since the first day of our relationship. And even we broke up, we are still living together till now. We still sleep together and sometimes had sex (but yea, he is with that girl). I know I still love him much while some part of me just didn’t want that girl to have his loyalty.

We have experience several emotional breakdowns together when we had those overnight talks on our relationship after we broke up. We were like two twisted souls entwined in our lives. He has acknowledged that I am indispensable in his life and he needed me as a friend at least. He was willing to make me happy and could not imagine me to sleep with another guy. He has even promised me not to sleep with his new girlfriend overnight or have sex with her. He said he will be here until I don’t need him anymore. I don’t know why he is still willing to make promises to me…

Recently, I have been trying to date some guys to spend my time and make his jealous, but I didn’t go on any date in the end. However,he was quite worried and he actually checked out the bar the I was supposed to go with my date coz he was afraid I’ll be drugged and raped. And he could not get a good sleep as he had dreams seeing me raped by men when I went drinking with friends. He admitted some part of him can’t let me go because I am so important in his life.

We are going travel in July-Aug, which was booked long time ago and he said he wanted to travel with me even we have broken up. I just didn’t want to miss this chance to get back, or at least travel, with him. (We don’t have money to change to air tickets anyways, we are students)

Should I still ignore him for 45 days before we go travel? I regret reading your blog so late or else I can have the NC period right after we break up.

admin

May 15, 2014 at 2:22 pm

Thats not very christian of him…

Tell me, what is your reasoning for wanting him back?

Hazel

April 20, 2014 at 9:02 am

Hi, Chris.

My ex-boyfriend and i were dating for 7 years. Our relationship was great and full of happiness along years. We rarely argue. We loved each other and planed to get marry next year.
However, 2 months before our break up, he joined a band and our relationship was getting worse. He was enthusiastically to join every meeting or practice of the band. After that, he started to comment on me that i acting cold to him with less response and always being late when we have a date. When i heard of these comments, i was fear as he never comment bad on me before. I started to change those bad habits, but the result was not significant yet.
Later on, as mentioned, he broke up with me. Saying that he felt i was cold to him when we were texting or having a date (i had self-reflection after the break up that i should have did better on this, though it is my personality). Also, he mentioned that he no longer feel as happy as being with me before. So, he decided to break up.
I could not bear with it and I tried to get him back by all the wrong ways (just realized it after visiting your webpage :'( ) for month and a half: texting a lot, calling few times, sending him a LONG letter… he replied me he wants to be alone with the “It’s Not You, It’s Me” excuse then ignored all my later messages.
There was no ways for me to understand his sudden change, so i did something really bad that i checked his email. I found out that he is now in a relationship with a girl from the band, and they started to date just 10 days after our break up.
I did not know whether it is a rebound relationship (hopefully it is!), they are happily together for almost 2 months already. They had not make their relationship public yet I guess.
My last message sent to him was on April, 4. Should I break the no contact after 30 days since that day or should wait until he is the one who find me first? What if he has no response to my no contact after 60 days or something, should i keep on no contact? There is also something I have to return him, is it a good reason to initiate our contact again?
I really want him back, i DO believe we can work on our relationship better and have a great future if we have good communication.

btw, this webpage did bring me hope and confidence in getting him back 😉 THANK YOU!

admin

April 20, 2014 at 9:13 pm

I think 60 days might be pretty long.

Britt

April 20, 2014 at 5:41 am

How about this for an article? How to get over your cheating ex when you know he’s happy with your ex best friend.

admin

April 20, 2014 at 8:59 pm

Well, I think in that case its best to cut ties with both of them.

Cyndi

April 18, 2014 at 4:01 am

Hi I had a boyfriend before. But I worked overseas before for two years were more than one year before I leave. Then when im back where still ok but after 8 months I worked overseas again. Then I came back in my country after 6 months the first time we meet were ok. The second time we meet were still ok and when the third time we meet were still ok but in the evening he called me and he told me he dont want me anymore. He said that he cannot return the love i give. I said its ok. I know hes busy i understand. But he insist that he want to end our relationship but i said no i dont want but still he wants. Then the next day i tried to call him and text him and beg him to come back. I told him that im going to their house so that we can talk about us. About what happened. But he told me that i dont have to do that because its useless. He said he love someone new and he dont love me anymore. But even though he told me that i still dont believe. Because i really want him back. What can i do? Im so stress.

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:40 pm

Did he cheat on you though? You posted in the cheating section.

EMC

April 12, 2014 at 11:47 am

Hi, Chris
Should I forgive my LDR boyfriend for cheating on me?
He doesnt know I saw the pics of him and her yet ( his coworker oversea ) after I took 16 hours flight to be with him.
The last day we were together, he felt so guilty, crying, and kept saying ” I am sorry..I can be better”… but didnt confess and I didnt confront him even I knew.
It’s been a month since I got back. I am still firguring out what to do… Thinking of emailing him that I knew and I should leave him. But I still love him and want to be with him…

admin

April 12, 2014 at 4:37 pm

Thats up to you.

Do you think this was a one time thing?
EMC

April 13, 2014 at 11:11 am

No. He’s gonna see her at some point in the future for work for sure. Just would that be a rebound? Read the article of The Complete Guide To Understand Your Boyfriend, my situation just ticked the boxes of reason2 (that’s pretty much my story) and reason 3 in the cheater part.
If I break up with him, and implement No Contact rule, can I get him bak? He’s saying he wants to come visit me…

Emily

April 11, 2014 at 4:30 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago to my utter surprise, I knew we had problems, but I didn’t realize this bad. He was unhappy with our communication and my weight and our sex life becuase of the weight; because I kept saying I would change it, but I actually gained weight instead. He says that made him loose trust in my promises especially with the communication because he felt he tried harder to fix our problems then I did. I know he’s right on some levels, but there was a lot else going on too. I lost my job 4 mths into our lease, my friend moved into help with her 3 young kids into our 2 bdroom apt! That was so difficult and looking back, really stupid. It took me months to find another good job, which in the meantime both of them were begging me to just find any old job, which was hard bc I was the one who made all the money before and supported them. To say the least it has been stressful. I don’t know if it’s all over because we just “don’t work” as he says, or because maybe we just ran our of patience and time and grew apart with life and with each other. When we started dating, we were best friends and in college together, but I graduated 2 years ago and he’s still going and kept changing majors… I always felt we were off track because of that. Then add an awkward roommate situation we took on to pay bills… he says it just sped up what would have happen, but I feel different. Hes very logical and looks at things with little emotion when making hard decisions, and now he’s “shut his emotions off” because so busy with school and work and moving out (still in process of that, so living together still).. and i’m going crazy with them all the time!!! And we both would like to at least be friends because we were before.. but also for me because I think this feels wrong to quit after 4 years.
I have done a lot of talking to him to the point that he says he can’t handle the emotional stuff anymore, that he if I even bring up the past, he goes quiet. I can’t help it, he was my rock, my confidant, idk what to do!
I know I’ve talked too much to him and any space I give him now, he will gladly take. Lately he has been trying to be there for me, which has been sweet, but only as friends and because he says it harder for me because i wasn’t prepared as him.. he had been debating for weeks when to talk to me! It feels like he just turned it off while i still wait for my kisses. I just want to know he still cares, which he says he still loves me and cares, but he has to move on. I just want to know he thinks abt all the things we are losing and will miss and i want him to realize they are still worth fighting for.
I did find out he cheated 6 mnths ago, but not until a week ago (broken up almost month now).. and he never told me bc he regretted it so much, he was just unhappy with our sex life (again i’m overweight and mind.. he is not, he loves working out) and didn’t want to hurt me after he thought abt what he had done. He never did it again. I don’t know if i can forgive him yet, but at this point its not like i can punish him.. and all i see is that i wish i knew then bc i just didn’t realize how bad it all was from his perspective. I thought we had time to work on us still since life had gotten so crazy. I would like at least the chance to work it out, but its so complicated.. i just know I still love him…
He won’t ask my forgiveness for cheating bc he says he doesn’t deserve it. And I just still love him.. i cant shake that.
Also how do you do it when we still have some bills and accounts together and will take months to end? Is it too late? Have I done too much damage to make this program work like the NC rule? I think we have something real and there is a lot going on, but I want to try! I really do. I want the chance to get him back.. He says he has a small hope things could go that way, but right now he doesn’t see it, but I do. I really do. Is it Too LATE???
Ella

April 10, 2014 at 5:04 pm

Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of two years had been cheating on me for 7 months with an ex of his, 3 months ago I found messages on his Facebook to his ex and he claimed that it was a mate who was just messing around and made up some story that it wasn’t him. I believed him because we both come from backgrounds where our families have been broken up due to infidelity, and he would always go on about how much he hates cheating and lying because thats what his mum had done to his dad. After a while though, his story about his mate messing around didn’t make any sense and I confronted him many times over these 3 months, and he denied it was him every time, and I believed because I thought he was the most honest guy I knew. Then a couple of days ago he confessed that he had been talking to her for months and that they’d met up and slept together whilst we were together. This has come as the biggest shock to me as he was so anti cheating and lying and here is telling me he has be cheating on me for months and then lied to me for months after I caught him out. However, he cannot give me a reason for why he did it, and says that he wasn’t thinking and he was stupid and regrets it, and now he is telling me how sorry he is and how he can’t live without me and he’s never going to stop trying to get me back and that he would never cheat again. But how do I know he won’t, I never in a million years thought he would cheat on me in the first place. Do I take him back or do I leave him? I really don’t know what to do, I see our whole relationship as a complete lie now.

admin

April 11, 2014 at 4:08 am

Look someone who cheats on you will deny it until you literally have evidence in hand proving the cheating… Remember that always.

Jo

April 10, 2014 at 7:22 am

Do you have any advice or suggest a age/product of yours I could see to help with my situation?

I was in long relationship and my man felt feelings for another girl while we were long distance for a few months. He broke up with me and is now with her. I do want him back. We talked marriage :(.

admin

April 11, 2014 at 3:49 am

did he cheat on you or did he break up with you before going to the new girl?
Jo

April 11, 2014 at 7:30 am

He broke up with me before going to the new girl (he’s 33) and she’s 21.
admin

April 12, 2014 at 3:46 pm

Tends to be a rebound.

Cristina Villanueva

April 9, 2014 at 5:58 am

I’ve been 5 yrs relationship with my bf we stay together many times he cheated in me I love him so much I don’t what I will do u can help me for this

admin

April 10, 2014 at 2:03 am

What makes you think he won’t cheat on you if you get him back?

Ash

April 9, 2014 at 12:51 am

Hi, Chris! I was reading the reviews and saw that you replied and I am in need of your advice. Here’s my story. About 4 days ago, I went to go hangout with my boyfriend (now my ex) and I went on his phone to show him something. While I was on there, I clicked on his messages and the first thing to pop up was another girls name.. Right there I knew my night was ruined. He started freaking out when he saw that I saw the messages. In the messages he was calling this girl beautiful.. This and that, while we were dating! I was so upset and yes, I did break up with him. It wasn’t right at what he did. But anyways, that night he kept calling to see if I made it home and I wouldn’t reply. Then eventually it all stopped. I notified him that I was home and that he had pushed me away. But honestly I just want him to fight for me back.. But now I’m in a bad situation. I’m waiting on him to talk to me and I’m thinking he will eventually because we had broken up before and he texted me wanting me back within 2 weeks. But this time, I guess according to his brother, that him and this girl went to church together and he is still talking to her.. I’m really wanting him back and I’m wondering if he will want me back now that he has someone new. I haven’t contacted him since the breakup. And I don’t plan on it until/ if he contacts me. I want him back because I do love him dearly and our relationship wasn’t perfect but we had a special bond. We told eachother things we never would tell anyone else. Our families loved each of us. I’m just afraid this new girl will have an impact on him and I won’t be able to get him back.. I think if he wants me then he should contact me even though I broke up with him because he did basically cheat. I just want to have him back and for him and that girl not to go too far.. I want him to realize that he isn’t ready for a new relationship.. How long and do we have any chances of him contacting me?

admin

April 10, 2014 at 1:46 am

Are you sure you want him back? I mean, he did cheat on you?

Clara

April 8, 2014 at 11:21 am

Hello, thank you for your useful information.
My boyfriend of 4+ years was acting strangely lately, we are young and each others first (I’m 21, he’s 22).
He wouldn’t let me touch his phone and I noticed there was a girl to whom he was getting close. I’m not going to call her names, but she has cheated several times with her two last boyfriends and is reknown in my little town for making out with everybody at parties.
Obviously, I knew she was trouble and that my bf would fall in her trap because being a sweet boy (very immature) a few nice words and some flirting he would want her…
Later on I found out she was saying him ily, and confronted him for it. He said he was bored of me and that he wanted a break. I agreed we weren’t good for each other and it was over.
Two weeks later he begged me to get back with him and confessed to making out with her while we weren’t together. I was angry at him for being so stupid and treating me like I was an idiot!
I told him that he grossed me out and I pitied him for being so weak and having so low self esteem.
A few days have passed and he has not tried to contact me. I thought he was a good guy with some issues but I couldn’t imagine he would go so low. His family loves me and wanted us to marry so I suppose they pressured him to get back with me.
What I cannot accept now is the fact that we were over everything else best friends and unexpectedly, a girl (to whom he is not in love, only boosted his ego) could separate us!
I can’t help him. I feel useless and lost. And our love and friendship has turned to pity… I’m trying the NC.
Everyone else: good luck!
Xina

March 28, 2014 at 9:33 am

Hi I stumbled here in your site because i was looking for ideas on how get back my ex. We’ve been together for more than a year and i just found out recently actually caught him on facebook chatting with a girl and there were very sweet. I asked him if the girl is his girlfriend and he said yes, I asked how ? He told me that he didn’t know either according to him he didn’t court the girl (but he spent the christmas and new year in the girls house, and i din’t know about it). We talked things out, we kind of argued in the text and he told me that he is thankful that he didn’t chose me and he wanted to quit and we don’t need to talk. I replied “so this is just so easy for you? I wanted to talk and clarify things” and he replied “that’s what i wanted too but but you’re so stubborn”. And after that I wasn’t expecting anything from him. But before I got out if work he called me telling that he is outside the hospital waiting for me (i work as a medtech). And so we talked in his house in the living room. He told me everything that the reason why he cheated was because i don’t have time with him, that everytime he need and wants to be with me I’m working and I can’t attend to him. I asked him if they already had sex and he swears that they haven’t do it, yet. He has no plans for now. He told me that he is not in love with her, that he’s still torn between me and the girl (i think the girl doesn’t know about me). He told me that he still love me. Do you think the NCR will be effective ?

admin

March 28, 2014 at 4:58 pm

I think it can be incredibly effective.
Xina

March 28, 2014 at 11:40 pm

What if i just gave them time to become super close and after the NCR i’ll be left alone and he will eventually forget about me after 45 days ? And should I tell him i won’t contact or bother him anymore before starting NCR?

Nel

March 26, 2014 at 10:44 pm

My ex and I dated for three years. She is a couple of years younger than I am and I also have a child. The reason for us breaking up in November 2011 is she was having a thing with a mutual friend and it just turned out very ugly from all sides. After a couple of weeks she came to me and told me how much she missed me and what we had, but it wouldn’t be easy for us to get back together. In April 2012 I met someone and we started hanging out, by mid may we had started dating and we still together today. My ex was in and out of relationships, all of them being within the same circle of friends, she eventually in October 2012 got into a relationship and is still in it till now. Four days ago, my ex called to say the entire weekend all she did was think about me and even told me she is thinking of coming back. My ex and I have a very strong chermistry and love for each other is incredible, but after almost three years of being apart, having to see each other with new partners, would it even be possible? Would it even work and would we even be able to trust each other and love each other enough to start over? Would it be worth breaking the hearts of the people we are with, to try and hope it works out for us? I need advice and some guidance. We have had to keep our friendship civil as she is apart of my sons life and we have pets together and her older sisters are my best friends and they are married into my sons fathers family.

admin

March 27, 2014 at 11:28 pm

Wait, you have been broken up for 3 years?
Nel

March 28, 2014 at 8:59 pm

November this year will be 3 years that we have been broken for.

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