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Via
March 26, 2014 at 8:52 pm
Hi Chris,
I recently broke up with my ex bf because I couldn’t trust him. He has lied many times, going out with other girls, sending his ex gf home and texting her afterwards saying she’ll always be the one, where he actually was during boys’ night out.
I love him a whole lot, but it was taking a toll on me. Constantly wondering where he was and if he was lying. He has had a history on cheating with his ex-s.
We had a quarrel and he told me he wanted to work things out, but went missing for hours after saying he needed time to cool off and I realized he was actually out at a party. So I broke it off with him. He took things a little too lightly.. Agreeing and hasn’t contacted me eversince.
I contacted him a few times and asked for a proper closure. Which he either hasn’t replied to or left things hanging the way they were. I asked if he was already seeing someone else and he said no. He seems to nonchalant about the whole incident and actually one week before we broke up he was acting weird and didn’t initiate meet ups though he had the week off work. A simple question out of concern such as why didn’t he sleep in got him mad and said I was suspecting him of something. He has never acted this way.
I talked to him earlier and he told me to move on and focus on other things in my life, said maybe someday we would be back together again but right now he just wants to live a day at a time.
Do you think he has cheated on me? Will the NC rule work here?
admin
March 27, 2014 at 11:14 pm
I think NC can be effective here yes.
Jane
March 23, 2014 at 6:42 pm
My ex treated me like a queen through our entire 2 years relationship, he’s a few years younger than me, I have 2 kids. Although he’s 24 years old his family literally forbid him to see me from the beginning, but we were in love, so we secretly continued our relationship, 2 months ago he went on a vacation, a few days later his brother called and said he saw our texts and told his parents (who are in another country) after that my BF and I only exchanged a few texts, he was broken down and very hurt and on top of that his mom was in the hospital after hearing that we’re still together(yeah, I know!). So I told him I’m not gonna contact him anymore cause I don’t want to make everything harder for him and that I want him to enjoy the rest of his vacation. I’ve never heard from him again. I missed him terribly, a couple of weeks ago I finally gave up and text him, he was very happy to hear from me but he said things cant be the same. Obviously I didn’t respond to that cause I didn’t want to accept it. We saw each other once and after that just short text convos, I was waiting for a day when we can finally sit down and talk, we both miss each other so much, one day, over the text he finally broke down and said he slept with 5-6 girls in the past 2 months, and how he’s like a dead person after the things that happened in his trip and he just gave up on life and changed to a horrible person. I was shocked, I took that as he cheated on me since we never officially broke up, we just lost contact for a couple of months. Long story short, he came over to my apartment, he was devastated for what he had done to me, to my surprise I forgave him (I left my husband after he cheated on me with 1 person, he was abusive though) and asked him to stay with me, but he refused, he gave me a whole bunch of excuses, and he kept saying how much he loves me misses me and respects me but he doesn’t want to hurt me ever again. So I finally accepted (not very well), the next day, I found out that he’s seeing someone else, so I text him and he said that’s true and he doesn’t know why he lied about it when he broke up with me. I stopped contacting him (after a day of crazy emails and texts, he stopped responding to me). I love him dearly, we were so happy in every single way, we were like soul-mates, and in 2 months everything changed, I want us to get back together again, he supported me, helped me, loved me, respected me, etc. Sure we argued sometimes but nothing serious or bad! To me the relationship was great (I’d say perfect if his family didn’t hate me) and I wanna fight for it with all my power. I don’t wanna end up in the “what if” hell. So,… here it is! His parents hate me (but I actually love them), he cheated (at least in my opinion), he’s with another girl (younger, no kids and going to the same university) and he broke up with me (and eventually ignored me),.. Is there any hope for me? If I do the NC for 45 days, don’t I give him time to get bounded with the new girl and forget about me? Woah, sorry for the long comment… Thanks so much for your time!
admin
March 24, 2014 at 5:41 pm
In other words, his parents prevented your relationship for being successful?
Jane
March 25, 2014 at 3:06 am
I met his parents 5 months into our relationship. They were very kind and loving to me and even loved my kids and had a lot of fun playing with them, they respected me and treated me very nice. But one day his dad came to me and asked me to end the relationship, he said this is just wrong… I was devastated but I said ok out of respect… But my EX couldn’t stay away, the first time they caught him texting me was only a few days after his dad asked me to end it, and after that they don’t like me at all, I mean they didn’t do anything crazy, his dad just sent a text to me saying, You promised to stay away, and after that I haven’t had any kinds of contact with them… My EX actually got busted again every few months, but the last one was just too much for his family especially his mom, I guess cause they thought I was out for sure this time… They’re good people, but for some reason they just can’t accept me, probably because of the age difference and me being a mom and stuff like that, honestly I don’t know. They know how much he loves (loved) me and they know that we’re so happy together almost all the time and they still want us to not be in touch at all… I know he’s 5 years younger, but I swear I almost never felt that I’m older. To answer you question, yes, you can say that they prevented it, because there was no issues in our relationship, everything was great 99% of the times, love, respect, support, sex, attraction, etc. We were so comfortable around each other from the day one, like we know each other for 50 years! Great! Now I miss him! lol
Jane
March 23, 2014 at 7:14 pm
I forgot to mention, the reason I’m saying he cheated “in my opinion”, is that in his point of view, we broke up that day when I said I’m not going to contact him so he can enjoy his vacation (our convo was very calm and kind, no fighting)! And that night when text him after 2 months, (he almost immediately respond, NC works!! lol) one of the first things he said was, he lost all hope that I ever contact him again, and in my mind, I was like why he says that when I was the one who was waiting for any news from him day and night!? … One last thing, I asked him if he ever cheated on me before that event, and he said No.
Jane
March 23, 2014 at 6:53 pm
I’m 29 by the way. 🙂
Xia
March 22, 2014 at 12:11 am
My boyfriend recently cheated on me with a mutual friend of our’s (a person I’ve considered a friend but yet he doesn’t think said girl is my friend). He came back and asked for forgiveness which like a fool I gave him but instead of trying to make things work he broke it off as he didn’t want to hurt me again. To make matters worse he says he has feelings for the girl he cheated on with and has no feelings for me expect friendship. I love him so much and I dunno what to do. Do I even have a chance to get back with him?
Xia
March 22, 2014 at 7:36 pm
Right all I keep getting is he wants to remain friends and that people won’t be able to change his feelings. I also wanted to add that he does feel some remorse for things to certain extent. I’ve also been sensing some conflict in him as of lately.
Does this mean deep down and buried he still has something for me or it as he says just a deep friendship?
admin
March 22, 2014 at 6:24 pm
What is your reasoning for wanting him back?
Xia
March 22, 2014 at 7:42 pm
He’s an awesome and sweet guy that’s treated me quite well in the past that made me feel special and that I could do anything and made me feel complete. The cheating was an isolated incident as I know he’s not one to cheat on anyone given how upset he was about it. Long story short, things feel unfinished and I’ve felt like I lost my best friend…not only that but feeling this was a rash decision after an isolated incident.
admin
March 23, 2014 at 4:46 pm
Ok, so it was an isolated incident. Do you have any idea what was going through his head when he actually started cheating?
Xia
March 23, 2014 at 9:49 pm
At the time, from what I can gather from folks and from him, his feelings for me had died off and they had been for awhile and he hadn’t been happy for awhile. I think he saw something in this other girl and had feelings and thought if he were with, while with me, it would make him happy…or being with her and only her would make him happy.
Xia
March 24, 2014 at 8:43 pm
Still what can I do to get him back?
admin
March 25, 2014 at 4:33 pm
Have you read this site? It is full of ideas.
Xia
March 25, 2014 at 8:51 pm
I’ll be looking over the site. Here’s hoping they work
Xia
March 26, 2014 at 2:28 am
I can tell my ex is rebounding though as quickly as he’s gone from me (after cheating) to the going to the girl he cheated on me with and even telling me outright he has feelings for that girl too…as though rubbing it in my face
Faye
March 21, 2014 at 9:15 am
Hey,
So I was with this guy for about 6 months and I went on a trip to Europe. He was acting weird and not contacting me much and when I got home he broke up with me saying he was “not ready to commit to a relationship”. I had only had contact with him about twice in two months and then I bumped into him at university. We had a talk and he got really upset saying he feels so bad but he started to look at another girl when I was away and was going to act on it; and that he misses me and regrets it so much. He tells me he didn’t kiss this girl but I am finding it hard to believe. Anyway I forgave him and we got back together and he hasn’t done anything bad since but I am just finding it hard to come to terms with whether or not I made the right decision getting back with him? I want to believe that he won’t do it again but i am so paranoid he will and won’t tell me. What should I do?
Becky
March 20, 2014 at 3:14 pm
I think I have read almost every article on this page. Okay so my ex boyfriend and I were together for 2 and a half years. I have known him since third grade (I’m 21) and we had a bit of a fling when we were 16 but I didn’t want to be with him then. He came back into my life when I was almost 19 and we were crazy for each other. His reason for breaking up with me about two weeks ago was because he doesn’t know what he wants and because we have such a perfect happy relationship he gets anxiety that he is going to go through life and regret not living for himself during his 20s. And if we are truly meant to be together in the end we will find a way back to each other.
Okay now it’s been 8 days in my no contact period and I went to his house to get my stuff without him being there and without him knowing. (I lived with him the first 2 years of our relationship and his sister was there with me packing my stuff). Well I’m stupid and didn’t want him to be sad when he saw my things gone so I bought him his favorite beer and cleaned up his room. As I was looking for my things in a drawer I found empty condom wrappers and saw the used condoms on top of the garbage. I wanted to die, it hasn’t even been two weeks and he’s already sleeping with someone else. I found out through a mutual friend that it is a girl from his school that he had been texting for a little over a month or so before we broke up. I trust him, so I got curious who he was texting (while we were still together)him and when I asked who it was he told me it was someone from school he’s working on a project with. I believed him. I moved out of his house about 3 months ago so I did not see who he was in contact with all the time, but our mutual friend just told me he was texting this girl all night long a lot.
Now looking back I feel like he broke up with me because I got too comfortable and we stopped sleeping together, and doing new exciting things. Not all together Stopped Having sex, just very infrequently, like 3 week breaks of no sex, then may even once or twice. I understand that it’s a big deal to men now, because my biggest regret is not sleeping with him more. I realized this regret before I found out about him sleeping with someone new already.
We were always happy together, always settle arguments in mature ways, and he’s my best friend, and he told me I was his best friend too.
Oh he also said that his anxiety subsided when we were hanging out together, but once I left it came back, and said he’d been feeling like that for about 6 months.
So, I guess, my questions are, could he have left me to be with this other girl, (our mutual friend has assured me that he really doesn’t want a relationship right now). Should I take this like he cheated on me? (Since he was texting this girl, broke up with me, and screwed her like right away) and do you think that it could just be his sequel desires getting the best of him, but him needing time to figure his life out is legit?
Sorry this is so long. I love this man, seeing that I could have pushed him away because of sex makes me wants to become the best version on myself so he can see that he let go of the perfect girl. I don’t mean to sound conceited but I get many compliments about my looks and personality. I know I’m not ugly and I’m in very good shape, Idk where my sex drive went. I want him to regret leaving me.
I just don’t know what to really do
kayla
March 14, 2014 at 12:18 am
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago after he kissed a girl. I wanted to get back with him after he said he was sorry but I asked him and he said I just can’t. So now we are cool. I have to act like I don’t care. The girl he cheated me on with is a mutual friend of ours.I don’t know what to do. I could use some advice. (P.S. I work with both my ex and his girlfriend)
Rose
March 13, 2014 at 8:34 pm
I dated my ex for about 2 years. During this period, we fought and broke up many times. But each time, i was always the one who say sorry and ask him back. I have a hot temper and tend to complain and nag. 2 weeks ago, we broke up again. I tried to NC but i failed. I contacted him, but this time he doesn’t want to get back. I told him that i know it was my fault and I’m willing to change to make it work this time. He told me that he has another girl now and they have been dating for 1-2 months already. He said he has no feeling for me and he likes this girl a lot and even wants to have a future with her. I am very sad. I feel that it’s my fault that he cheated. What should i do? I love him and want him back. I regret of what i did that cause this destruction. Will i still have a chance to get him back?
Summer
March 13, 2014 at 4:53 am
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year. We had plans together and it’s seemed like we’ll never separate. Then, he got sent somewhere for work. We both know what kind of lifestyle he would have there. He said he knows himself and that we’re stronger. So, I trusted him. A month later he told me he cheated and that he can’t get out of it because he’s caught in the situation. He will be casted out if he breaks her heart so he has no choice but to get with it if he doesn’t want his life to be miserable. But he said that he loves me. I told him i understand even though I’m hurting because I don’t want to lose him. I said it’s okay as long as he will come home to me. He said he will. But, he’s not coming back sooner. He needs to be there for 6 months or more. I’m scared and yet I’m willing to fight for this. All I can do is wait and pray that his promise of not falling for that girl would be true. Help?
Mia
March 12, 2014 at 10:29 am
Hello Chris.
I need some advice.
My ex broke up with me 7 months ago, then came back to me begging for another chance because he said he made the biggest mistake of his life. Things weren’t great being back together, we decided not to properly date but we weren’t going to see other people. We said we would work on our relationship and I gave it my best shot. We acted like a couple during this time.
3 weeks ago, he hooked up with someone else while I was out of town. He continued to speak to her and hang out with her after that. He then tried to end things with me 4 days after the cheating by saying it wasn’t going to work out with us because there were personal issues he had holding him back from committing to me. I didn’t know at that stage what he’d done.
I found out about the other girl via a friend of his, and we fought and broke things off. He didn’t want to be with me, he said something was always holding him back from committing to me and that he didn’t deserve me. I didn’t cut contact with him immediately, I sent him lots of angry messages. When we agreed to speak after I keyed his car (I don’t regret that) he said that looking at me and being around me made him want to try again and fix things between us so we could be together. He also said it was too soon for him to be with anyone else and that he’d cut contact with the girl he cheated on me with.
But I found out from the same friend that he’s been seeing this girl regularly and talking to her. I didn’t ask for information – but the friend told me anyway. The other girl knows the whole story between me and him, that we were together for a year and a half and that he was committed to me when he hooked up with her, yet she is still interested in him.
He has carried on living his life as if nothing’s happened. He said he was sorry, felt guilty, can’t live with himself, regrets hurting the thing he loves most in the world…But how does he say that and then go off and see her and be with her now? It’s been 26 days after an 18-month-long relationship and he’s already dating someone else. I have to see him every day because we study together. I’m scared I will never recover from this. Please help.
christina
March 8, 2014 at 7:55 pm
my boyfriend and I have been together a little over 5 year, and in that time he has cheated on me multiple times ( 1 he had a 4 month relationship with, the other 2 was one night stands) he say he’s over that phase in his life. Well in the last month he’s been talk with this woman, but he promise they never had sex together, it’s just for the conversation. I have a hard time believing that because of his past. The woman buys him gifts n he meet up with her for lunch n stuff. He say it’s always in a public place but again it’s hard to believe. So should I try and work things out with him and better the relationship or things just to far gone.
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:17 pm
To be honest I can tell he is a choronic cheater. I don’t think this guy is worth trying to get back.
christina
March 8, 2014 at 8:13 pm
Also I catch him at a hotel with her, he say nothing happen ge just didn’t want to go home n he told her n she payed for the room. He said he slept on the couch n she in the bed. N he say he told her I’m not looking or wanting this I just wanted to get away for the night. I’m I a fool to believe this?
Marie
March 7, 2014 at 6:51 am
Hi, me and my bf just broke up because I found out he cheated on me when we were apart. To make it clear we had a fight a few days ago non cheating related and I told him I was never going back with him. Ironically, I did go back with him and I found out he kissed some other girl while we were apart. We’ve been dating for a little more than a year and he has never cheated? what should I do? Please help!
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:56 pm
Tell me why you would want him back if he cheated on you? Was it a one time thing type of deal?
Marie
March 7, 2014 at 7:28 pm
Yes it was. Our relationship was beautiful he was more than a bf he was my best friend.
jess
March 7, 2014 at 6:27 am
hi chris,
im totally confused at what to do so I need your help if you are willing. I was dating this guy for almost 2 years, the problem is im in love with him but every couple of months he walks out on me. then 1-2 weeks later calls to apologize and wants me back. I just found out that everytime he left he hooked up with a girl then would come home. im very sadden by this information. I think in the back of my mind I knew it. I always take him back because I love him. just recently he broke up with me again and started dating someone new then 2 weeks later while he’s still with this girl hes writing me on facebook, texting me. making all these feelings come back again. so I take him back again, he breaks up with this girl and we date for 2 weeks had fun etc. now hes shutting me out again ? changed his phone number blocked me from facebook and dating this girl again. what should I do if he cotacts me again.. I cant keep thinking he is going to change and I cant keep getting my hopes up..what should I do.. only problem I think I maybe pregnant..
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:55 pm
Find out if you are pregnant first…
vasu
March 5, 2014 at 6:03 pm
Hiiii….look I’m really confused…..My ex and I had been together for almost 1 year…he was very caring and loving…I knew that he had a relationship with a girl before we met…bcoz he’s 24 and I’m 19…so it’s kinda impossible for some guy to stay single for the 25 years of his existence….
So coming back to the point….last year in August…his ex-gf called me nd asked me about us…and I was like “wat is she talking about?? “…as soon as I got off the phone with her…I called my boyfrnd…and it turned dat he was still in touch with her…I got really upset and told him to never call him again….I was really firm about not calling him again…but he called me three days later…I talked to him for a while and again told him to stop calling me….but he kept calling me each n every day…soon I gave in to his efforts to win me back….because I loved him very much….
Everything was great between us…during the last few months, we got physically I volved with each other…and it was very special..because it was my first time…
Almost every day we used to talk about moving in together…he wanted to marry me as soon as I passed out of medical school…things were so amazing…
But last week, he called me at night and he was completely drunk and kept saying that he loved me and asked me to marry him right away….I knew he was upset about something…so I just told him to go to sleep….
The next day when he woke up, he called me…I asked him if he was not feeling well and he said yes…so I told him to get some rest….after two hours, his ex-gf called me…and asked me wat was going on between me and him….I was so confused that I couldn’t speak….then she told me that they were getting married and she just wanted to clear the air….it was a conference call and he was on the line too…he told me to end the call and I did…because I seriously had no idea wat to say…an hour later…she called me again…without telling him….she was very nice to me….and talked to me like a big sister….she asked me very politely if there is something between me nd him…and somehow I just couldn’t say yes….she was so good to me that I felt it would be unfair to hurt like that….so I denied having a relationship with him because I knew it would hurt her….and I promised her that I would never call him again….and so I did not try to contact him and neither did he….which really hurt me…bcoz he could have at least explained himself to me….all this happened on March 1.
Yesterday…she called me again and asked me if I had called him again after that day…and I said no….
We talked for a long time…and she seemed like a very nice person to me….and I decided that I would not tell her the truth, no matter what….but at midnight, he started calling me…at first I didn’t answer….but then I decided to talk to him…he is so weird…he was acting like nothing had happened…I was so shocked and angry…then I told him to stop calling me…and he laughed and then said ok…
Today I talked to his ex-gf again…and she just kept telling me about a lot of times when she suspected him of being with someone else…and she asked me if it was me…I lied even though it was true…
In the evening he called me again…but I didn’t have my phone with me at that time…he must have thought that I would call him back..as I usually did…but I didn’t….
Now my problem is…I can’t get over him…bcoz I love him a lot….but I don’t want to hurt that poor girl’s feelings….I know the truth would hurt her bcoz she’s planning to marry him….
But he’s not giving up on me either… I’m so confused right now…
What should I do??
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:08 am
Do you think the age difference is adding complexity into the situation?
vasu
March 8, 2014 at 7:48 am
Well I guess it might be…because he was always vocal about it and used to point this out a lot…the age factor never really bothered me…
He has called almost everyday since the day we broke up…but I have made no efforts to contact him whatsoever…..i’m sticking to the NC as much as I can…
Do u think it’s going to work??
admin
March 8, 2014 at 7:18 pm
I think it will yes. It kind of already is.
vasu
March 8, 2014 at 7:43 pm
Thanxxx for ur help….
I hope it works… 🙂
But there is still one thing dat is bothering me…Is it right to want him back when I know hconscience to someone else ???
My mind’s telling me to just let it go and move on….but my heart’s kinda stuck on him…I have no idea wat to do…
N.M
August 11, 2014 at 10:49 am
How come you keep saying Ex when he is in touch with her all the time, he is planning to marry her? You are the outsider, he’s two timing and cheating you both!
admin
August 12, 2014 at 10:51 am
I wish there was a like button!
N.M
August 11, 2014 at 10:53 am
How would she plan to marry him unless he was willing? I would have told her the truth, that he is sleeping with you, that she should know what she’s getting into,re marriage, qthat the guy is a cheat!
Jade
February 24, 2014 at 7:59 am
Hello Chris
I need your help think I blew it..so my boyfriend cheated on me on a friday night and went silent for the whole weekend, the monday after the incident he confessed to me that he had a one night stand and he felt guilty and ashamed of what he did that’s why he was quiet. So I texted him later telling him how hurt I am, then the next day I texted him telling I’ve been praying and crying and need him to let me know what’s going to happen,I told him I have forgiven him because forgiveness is a gift to myself but he would have to earn my trust if we are to work through this,I gave him Bible verses for everyday and told him if he did it again I would leave him with no compromise, that after this process he should book us a weekend getaway to spend time to help fix this and that it was all up to him if he wants to give us a shot at true love if not its okay I would be fine then I didn’t speak to him and he didn’t respond, then til I spoke to him thursday night asking if he was okay and he said he was ok and that he didn’t deal with the whole situation,he still is guilt stricken and so on, I told him I’d give him his space, so now its been four days with no contact can the no contact period still work?
admin
February 24, 2014 at 6:50 pm
Let me ask you why you want him back if he cheated on you?
Jade
February 26, 2014 at 4:35 am
I love him and before he did cheat on me he was perfect, he is my best friend then boyfriend. He contacted me via text the day before yesterday saying “he hopes I had a lovely day” and for some reason I truly understand him, because he is the type to be calm “pretends to be” in times of trouble so I feel sorry for him but not saying I’ll make it easier for him to get back together because I don’t want to be desperate and I love myself more.
Jade
February 24, 2014 at 8:14 am
I forgot to mention that me and him have never been intimate sexually, met him in April 2013 and we were official in August of last year. Please do assist -Jade
C
February 23, 2014 at 1:54 am
my ex is out of town with a girl…we just broke up and i can’t believe this is happening. :((( what should i do now? do I still have a chance?
admin
February 24, 2014 at 6:21 pm
Out of town with a girl? Did he cheat on you?
C
February 25, 2014 at 6:48 am
no but we broke up a month ago…how can he move on that fast? 🙁 is still a way to reverse this? because i want him back :(( please answer thanks
CC
February 21, 2014 at 12:16 pm
hi chris! im planning to get your ebook…I did break the NC rule because he contacted me and I also drunk texted him…But now I am doing my best not to contact him and give him space. Do you think I still got a chance if I follow your book? and can you give me a good move with this NC period…We broke up for a month now…Do you think i still have a chance? I want him back :((( please help
admin
February 21, 2014 at 6:28 pm
I think you should give this a chance.
It’s just… How many times did he cheat on you?
CC
February 22, 2014 at 12:16 am
once….but now i guess his ego is telling not to talk to me…i tried reaching him out but it doesn’t work…what would work? please reply thanks
lori
February 17, 2014 at 5:45 am
me and exbf broke up at the beginning of this year,he wanted to break up at Dec last year,according to his words he still gave me some hope or maybe just tried to comfort me …but i do found some sign about the other girl,but he never admit it..until the last phone call,we were disturbed by another phone call,the phone call took half hr..so later i asked him if he had date or something,then he said no..untill now i found the prove he cheated on me…im just very upset,and just texted him but dont know what to do
Lauren
February 11, 2014 at 8:09 pm
A girl came on to my boyfriend and she knew that he was taken. She took her top off and tried to do things with him, but he pushed her off. I took it as he cheated, but did he really? We’ve been together for almost 3 years and NEVER has anything like this ever happened nor has it even came close. He’s never cheated or shown signs of doing so. Am I taking what she did out on him or did he cheat? He confessed after it happened and is trying to win me back, but the thought of it still has me feeling hurt and I am conflicted with what to do. Please help.
Thank you
admin
February 12, 2014 at 7:30 pm
Do you think you will ever get past it?
Lauren
February 12, 2014 at 8:19 pm
I do. I definitely have my good days and my bad days, but there are more good than bad. I just want closure on the situation. I just wish that he would do or say something that assured me that I’m the one he wants to be with and that this experience has only opened his eyes to that. He’s been telling me for a week how he wants to “fight for me”, but I have seen extremely little. I don’t know if I am asking for too much or what.
Xy
February 8, 2014 at 6:17 am
Me and my bf were tgt for about 2 yrs . Im 16 and hes 18 .And on last year nov , our talking time reduced due to my fault that is addicted in playing comp. After awhile , i did ask him did he like a girl that i suspected . He keep say no and no and no . We argue alot about this .he told me he doesnt like the girl and told me he only loves me . But on dec i went for a camp for 10days .when i came back i asked him honestly do he like the girl and he said a little and called me to forgive him . I cant accept the fact that time and ignored him for 5 days . During that five days , he did send me a present to my house and asked me to forgivr him . I thinked alot and on the 26th dec i called him and he said he tot im going to ignore him forever and he said that he had left , called me n to not wait for him anymore . He told me to while crying . And after that im very sad . I know i did alot of mistakes . He did so too cause he knew i dont like he chat with the girl and keep annoy him by asking him the question over and over again . But i love him very much . And i was always waiting for him to find me . But he nvr did …. now i heard he started with that girl . And on ytd i called him to ask him if he really dont like me , he say yes and said sorry called me not to cry . I told him i hate him and dont find me anymore . Im really hurt i really love him but he doesnt anymore … can u tell me what to do ?
admin
February 8, 2014 at 6:12 pm
Have you attempted NC on him yet?
Also, do you think the future of college is hurting your relationship?
Freddie
February 2, 2014 at 7:20 am
Hi
I had someone chase me for three years but I was in a relationship at the time that went wrong and now over it so I decided to see this lovely man. We started seeing each other it was wonderful we talked moving in together everything. New year came and he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and needed to get his head around that I wanted to be with him. I do want him fell for him . I told him I wanted to be with him and we slowly started seeing again spent a lovely night in a hotel I explained that it takes a long time for me to fall for someone and he replied he fell in love with me the day he met me.
I went out to the local pub with my friend and said he didn’t want to bump into me that night … But he did . I asked why and he said I turn him on and the more he sees me the more he wants me. He was all over me which was lovely . I left took my friend home and went back to pick him up to find him with someone else,,I asked him what was going on and she replied he was her boyfriend , he ran off and I told her that we had spent previous night together. She said they had discussed marriage and her boyfriend was moving out so that they could be together. I telephoned him the next day and he said that he had started seeing her before me she lived with someone and that he thought he would never get me and she was back up. He needed to sort himself out .
I telephoned again later that day .. I think he was so shocked that I was really calm. He was angry with himself the world . She wouldn’t speak to him . He loved me that I took so long to be with him he started to have feelings for this other woman and was going to the pub and needed a few days to get his head around things
I love him and want him what should I do …?
Please help fred
admin
February 2, 2014 at 6:54 pm
How many times did he cheat on you again?