How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Jenn

February 26, 2015 at 12:48 pm

Me and my ex were together for 3 years . We broke up in January and Ive recently found out since we broke up he has a new girlfriend. I have now completed NC and Tried contacting him but didnt get a response. Should i try again in a week or give up ?

admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:17 pm

How long has he been with the new girl?

Stringed Along in the Pacific

February 25, 2015 at 12:53 pm

, , , , , , , .My boyfriend … I mean ex boyfriend of 2 1/2 years (on and off for 7 years but serious the past 2 1/2 years) broke up with me via phone call on New Years Eve. I was really heartbroken because I have been trying to work things out all December but we always ended up fighting. I did the NC rule for a month and he began to talk to me first. He always told me he loved me and missed me. He confessed he’s been talking to a lot of girls just as friends and I was fine about it. I even said “That’s great she is really nice etc.”. A week later he said he wanted to get be FWB. I said no and another week later he confessed his love for me and I promised he seriously wanted to get back together. He made me so weak and I fell for it and slept with him. Afterwards he acted as if we were friends and in the same day hung out with one of his girl friends he just met. So I was pretty heartbroken and cut it off. Now I see them everywhere and we all three have a class together. It is hard to concentrate. I am the bigger person. I did not beg or cry for him back. He asked if we could be friends and i agreed. But he always said he loved me and always kissed me because i allowed it. We were each others first real love. I have found faith and self love so I have been okay but I do have my moments in the middle of the night. I guess I didn’t have closure to where I stood so I texted him can you let me go? And he said no. I said why I can’t do this. I’m not scared of being in a relationship with you.why are you? Then he blew up on me saying that I was the reason we broke up and I didn’t make him happy no matter what. That I was full of myself. And he compared me to who I was last year when I had no confidence and was always jealous of him talking to other girls. 2 years ago he cheated on me so I guess I was very self conscious. But i loved him and spoiled him so much. But i told him it wasn’t true and he shouldn’t have judged Me. He claimed to know me so well because “that’s the type of fucking person you are”. I felt so hurt and criticized. I couldn’t even be his friend. I don’t even think I want to get back with him. He texted me the other day and I said I’m not ready to talk. Please stop contacting me. what should I do? my head says move on but my heart says try but I really do not want to be treated this way. By the way he always hangs out wiTh girl Especially in front of me. It hurts but I think it helps because it makes me want to move out more. Because I don’t want my emotions to be controlled by him anymore.

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:46 pm

For now respect his wishes.

Stop contacting him.

YOu can attack him with texts later.

Kate

February 25, 2015 at 7:01 am

Love the articles! They are all very helpful. 🙂

My now ex cheated on me with his cousin’s gf a few months back. To help put myself into a clearer mindset, I initiated a 3-month no contact period, but before the NC period was up, he contacted me via. a long email. He mentioned our NC period coming to an end among other things. It was basically his way of putting his foot in the door with reaching out to me. She moved in with him a couple weeks after we initiated the NC period, and their relationship is rocky at best. We’ve skyped a couple times since our NC period ended, but I’m not really sure what to make of all of this, because he contacted me first before the period ended, and he has now been the one initiating all contact with me. He told her about our NC period in the beginning, too, which she said she was fine with as long as it didn’t become something more (what nerve!). While I insisted he tell her, he decided he wasn’t going to tell her that we started talking again because he knows that she will get angry. She’d get angry both ways, I think. Just don’t know what to make of the situation, especially since he’s initiating the contact with me each time.

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:38 pm

I am going to ask you a tough question.

Can you forgive him for cheating?

Answer as honestly as you can

mysterious

February 25, 2015 at 1:25 am

Hi, I have been apart from my partner for 4 years. We were each others first loves … It took him years to get over the relationship and has now had his first girlfriend since us for 2 years.

I sent this message to him (December 18 2014);

“Hey Benny,

Just wanted to let you know I have been thinking about you quite a bit lately. Hope everything is fantastic in your world and you are doing well.

Take care x”

I then sent this one to him, on Feb 6th… I may have been intoxicated – no filter 🙁

“I don’t honestly see my life ending any other way than how we started and how we planned. I wasn’t ready for us, I had no idea – but now I have every idea… I need you in my life Benny… I feel like a horrible person knowing you are with someone – but when you know, you know… You know?”

Last night i sent this, “I am sorry….”

THIS MORNING, i get this from his new girlfriend…..

“Stop messaging Benny. It’s so inappropriate on so many levels. He wants nothing to do with you. He couldn’t care less if your sorry. You guys are old news move on.”

I haven’t responded, and i’m not really fussed by her message.. But i dont want to put a foot wrong here… Please help.

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:32 pm

Back off a bit… Right now you are the common enemy between him and his girlfriend.

Ummm… did he respond to any of your prior messages?

Broken

February 24, 2015 at 10:57 pm

We met last summer and we dated for 2 months. We were seeing each other almost every day. There was a close bound between us.He traveled then and we were apart for 3 months from September til Dececember until he came back.I felt that he had changed since the moment he traveled. When he came back, he was going through depression issues so I tried to help me but he was always running away from me. He told me that he needed some space to solve his problems so I accepted. I was only saying Hi to him once every week to check on him. I broke up with him one day after yelling at him on all the bad things he has done for ignoring me since the moment he traveled and came back. I talked to him once again and I apologized to get him back because I was still in love with him. When we decided to get back, he kept ignoring me for 4 weeks and then someone told me he was in a new relationship. So I ended all up and blcked him again. My logic is telling me that I have done the right thing because after all of my sacrifices and concerns to him, he left me for someone else. Can you tell me if I have done anything wrong in this situation please?

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:24 pm

Seems like he may have not thought the two of you were back together at all…

Feeling Betrayed

February 22, 2015 at 7:54 pm

Thank you 🙂
Well I dated a guy for a year and a half, and it was just like so amazing. Around Sept. of last year he lost a close family member to suicide. I did my best to be there for him but he started to distance himself from me. We started fighting a lot and in Dec 2014 he told me he had feelings for one of our friends(who was friends with me first) and he broke up with me.
After we broke up the friend he had feelings for and her bff basically stopped talking to me. I found out a few days ago he asked her out. When i confronted her about it she told me I needed to grow up and this is how life is. I just really extremely betrayed and hurt and I’m not sure how to deal with the pain.

A month ago my ex told me one day he still had feelings for me and started treating me like he used to. Then one day he stopped and said he was afraid to become one of those couples that breaks up and gets back together all the time.
After he told me they were now dating, I got a “goodbye forever, have a nice life please” text.

I just don’t know what to do /: Will I ever hear from him again?
I’m in day 2 of NC.

admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:23 pm

The odds are in your favor that you will hear from him again.

Jen-Jen

February 20, 2015 at 10:59 pm

Been 1 1/2 mos since back in contact. Good news is initially he told me have a nice life & not to contact him…which I didn’t…2 weeks later he called me out of the blue to see how I was. He’s 38 & not really a texter, so texting has been a bit dry. We talk once a week & he even let his 6 yr old son call me twice to talk to me. Talking feels normal, no arguments & no intimate talk. I’ve spaced out the days I text him from a few days to a week at a time. I see very slow progress, which is frustrating, but completely understandable. The new gf is the issue. I can tell his confused & feels guilty for talking to me. He agreed to meet up & then said he can’t. Is there a way to tip him in my favor since I can tell he’s having an internal battle? Anytime I see him pull away, I’ll wait a week before contacting him again. I hate being the once who initiates the text most of the time, but at the same time afraid that if I go into a long no contact again, that it will make his decision between me & new gf easier.

admin

February 22, 2015 at 4:16 pm

I wonder if the new girlfriend is also preventing him from meeting up.
Jen-Jen

February 22, 2015 at 9:55 pm

I agree she may be a factor. I think I’m expecting too much too soon & may be trying to force it. I’m gonna try 2 weeks of NC.

Nikki

February 19, 2015 at 4:39 am

I was wondering if you were the one that dumped your boyfriend of 5 months and 1 year later he starts dating another girl and it’s official, is there anyway to get him back or is it too late ( knowing that after i dumped him we never talked at all )

admin

February 20, 2015 at 11:13 pm

I have seen crazier situations succeed.. so yes it is possible.

Kaesha

February 10, 2015 at 4:58 pm

Can you do an article on how to get ex to forgive you and want you back even if they are in a rebound relationship i wanna apoligize to my ex because i knw i made mistakes also and i wanna clear the air im doin no contact right now but i dont know to say to get him to listen hes quite stubborn

Kaya

April 24, 2015 at 7:32 pm

This would be helpful for me as well: how to get your ex to forgive you when they are already rebounding
admin

February 11, 2015 at 1:32 pm

Sure, how to make your ex boyfriend forgive you…

That’s what you want correct?

Steffi

February 8, 2015 at 12:15 pm

After a breakup, my ex is currently dating a girl but they are not officially together after a month.

But what does he mean when he says ‘if I regret, i will chase you all over again?’ & he mentioned it multiple times.

admin

February 9, 2015 at 4:29 pm

It means he will get you back if he regrets leaving you.

That’s my guess.
Steffi

February 10, 2015 at 1:40 am

Why would a guy say that after breaking up? Does it means that he is in a rebound?

aparna

February 7, 2015 at 10:17 pm

I had 5 n a half yrs relationship bt after two yrs my boyfriend go to another colg n hv a new gf n after one yr I also came to same colg n I get to all the things that he has another gf bt I didn’t broke up with him since three yrs my bf was dating two girls me n another girl n I was knowing abt that bt now I want hiM to leave that girl bt he is nt ready to leave her two weeks ago we had an accident n then he broke up with me n go to that girl.bt i want him back in my life wat shud I do

admin

February 9, 2015 at 3:45 pm

What accident?

Cyinthia

February 2, 2015 at 2:34 am

Hey Chris, I have a problem.

My ex broke up with me about two weeks ago. Now, he has been talking to someone else when we hit the “rocky” stage of our relationship.We had issues before and it wasnt because of some chick. He told me he fell for her because she was the complete opposite of me. Here’s the thing, he has NEVER met the girl. Everything went too fast between them. I have been with him for 3 years. He’s been talking to her for only 2 months, via the phone. They met through facebook. Later on, I told him I’ve accepted the break up and wish him good luck. He called me back, telling me that he wished things were easier, he still cared, she was the easy way out. and confessed that he is still in love with me.

His confession confused me. I was so ready to move on but he just had to say all that. He told me he has also fallen for her (because I’m not like her) But he is still very much in love with me. What do I do? I wanna know how and the ways to make him fall back to me and only me. Yes, we still talk, he still calls.

admin

February 2, 2015 at 2:39 pm

Sounds very reboundish to me…
Cyinthia

February 3, 2015 at 8:11 am

how long does the feelings for the rebound will last usually when it all happened too fast? and should I be worried?

Natalia

January 30, 2015 at 5:28 pm

Hi Chris, I really need your help. Me and my ex had been dating for moreless a year. We broke up in September. The reason was simple: I was his 1st love so he probably wanted to experience more before he settle down. He said he didn’t feel like at the beginning of our relationship. I was so sad, the relationship we had was srsly amazing, we had just small fights, we had the same taste in music, food, we had common friends, we knew each other’s parents, the love we shared was passionate and strong. But then suddently this happened and we broke up. After some time I met a guy and we started dating.I really wanted to move on since my ex hurt me a lot. unfortunately, the more I was with him, the more I realized I still liked my ex. When my ex found out I was not single, he went totally mad. He unfriend me on FB and texted my friends if it was really true and stuff. That was in November. In December, we met on the New Year’s Eve. He didn’t even talk to me, he was freezing outside the house until I left.. However, at 5am he texted me, drunk. When I replied the other day, he was kinda cold. 2 days later he texted my again, on his bday. He said that for his bday he wished us to keep in touch normally. He said that he wanted to stay friends, that he didn’t want to make things worse. 3 weeks later we met on the ball. He invited me for a drink and we talked for more than hour. By this time I was not with that guy I dated anymore and on this ball I decided to tell my ex at least a bit of the truth. He cleared some things up and we explained each other some things. It was really nice.. Then he finally add me on FB and texted me. Unfortunately, I found out he his kinda seeing someone. That girl is from his class, they’ve known each other for over 3 years! He always told me things about her that were not much nice, like no insults but still. He always considered her as a friend, he even told me many times she is not attractive. They are not official, they didn’t even tell anyone, like if it was a secret. Our common friend find out by accident and she doesn’t understand this either. She said he was definitely not it love with her because she is sure he still likes me.. That girl is completely different than he is- and Im not saying it as an ex girlfriend that still likes his ex- but as someone who knows him perfectly. I hope she is just a rebound because I just know he doesn’t love her, they are in the same class everyday, they are not official and they are just so so different..I wonder what shall I do to finally make him realize we should give it another try..It’s shame how it ended- which he said aswell, as well as that I’m simply special to him…What should I do? Is there still a chance?

admin

January 31, 2015 at 3:31 pm

Well, what have your conversations been like when you two have communicated with each other?

Jessi

January 29, 2015 at 11:56 pm

Hello Chris,

I see my ex all the time at the gym and we are in good terms. Lately, I see that he is a little more friendlier to me and at times I think he tries to impress me by acting cool among his friends and being loud (although normally he isn’t) around me. Back in November I overheard him say ‘my girlfriend and I’ and by the end of December he wrote as his whatsapp status “If there is something too good to be true, than it isn’t” Then after that he took out his picture with him and his girlfriend. Around that time he was kind of getting closer to me at the gym and checking me out. Now we are flirting but in a cute and friendly way. I would like to flirt a little more but I don’t know if he has a girlfriend or not. My question is, could the reason for him being more friendly was to boost his ego? Plus, if they are still together and things are rough being them, should I keep on flirting? I just don’t want to feed his ego, I want to flirt because I still have strong feelings for him. As for him, he still fidgets around me and smiles and blushes when I joke around so I have no idea!

admin

January 30, 2015 at 4:38 pm

Don’t overdo it but yes… put the gas on a bit.
Jessi

January 31, 2015 at 3:49 pm

thank you for your advice! I will do just that. I won’t overdo it…I know these things have to be done carefully and with patience.
admin

February 2, 2015 at 1:42 pm

Right on all accounts!

Ash

January 21, 2015 at 1:55 pm

Hi Chris

My ex boyfriend and I broke up 5 month ago we have a child together. I found out 2 months ago he has a girlfriend and started seeing her 2 weeks after we broke up. Since then We haven’t gad a really good relationship we go from being fine to being nasty. Despite him having a girlfriend he has been texting me telling me he loves me and misses me and I’m ashamed to admit I’ve slept with him a few times. He says we can’t be together because too much has happened. I’m really confused?! Why is he telling me he misses me and loves me (but isn’t in love with me) even though he has a girlfriend? I’m really sick of his minds games I try to keep minimal contact but no contact s difficult obviously because of our child. I just really want him to leave me alone I’ve told him this but he just keeps pestering me. If he’s moved on then why won’t he leave me alone? He keeps talking about the past and what went wrong I tell him he can’t keep living in the past but every time I see him that’s all he goes on about!! Any help would be greatly appreciated

admin

January 21, 2015 at 3:28 pm

How long have the two of you dated for?

Joyce

January 13, 2015 at 4:26 am

Hi please am in need and please try to reply me. My ex boyfriend broke up with me and I begged him, cried used my sisters and friends to get him back but still I didn’t get him back. So he said we should just be friends I agreed and we started chatting and talking again on blackberry messenger like we used to. All of a sudden he tells me that he has a girl that he likes and wants me to let him know how to get her. Then I was angry and I said it’s so painful that I can be easily replaced. I told him what to do and we chatted. Later that night before I slept I told him that I wish him luck and that he should go ahead and have fun that am happy he has feelings back again then he replied and said I have issues I was still laughing and I said look who has issues now before I could complete my statement or write it down he deleted me from blackberry messenger. I felt like dying I called he didn’t pick up I sent him 4 text messenge begging him to pick up he then pick up and I asked him why he deleted me that I was only joking with him he said he doesn’t want me on his bbm list again and that he knows I was joking but he doesn’t want me on the list. Please what should I do I still love him have tried what I could please help me.

admin

January 19, 2015 at 3:39 pm

You shouldnt have involved your friends and sisters.

Melanie

December 27, 2014 at 5:46 am

Hi Chris,
Gonna keep this short and sweet but I have been dumped by my ex boyfriend 7 months ago and here is the story:

My ex and I have been dating for 3 years, unofficially 3 and a half years. I want to say that most of the relationship was really nice and pleasant. We barely fought, and were a great couple. His parents loved me and my parents loved him. We were in a LDR and we would see each other about once a month and be with each other all winter and summer break for colleges. We had planned to move in together/in the same city once I graduated university.

He dumped me last spring, in March. It was abrupt and over Skype while I was abroad in China. He cried profusely throughout the breakup, and said he would miss me but this was for the best since he said our spark faded/fell out of love with me over time due to the distance. He said he thought about his decision for a long time. Because I suffer from depression, and was not able to get to a psychologist at the time, we agreed to stay in contact. We texted daily until I got home and we had sex for the month of June before he had to go to medical school. I started to seriously use your site in the fall. I did no contact for the month of October, and followed your steps throughout November once NC was complete. I got him to call me first, text me first, and our chemistry was ON FIRE. I also mentioned to him I was seeing a great therapist who was helping me really overcome my depression. I thought I had him in the bag, and got over-eager. To his disappointment, I could not make it home for Thanksgiving break but talked on the phone. This was when I broke your rules. I 1) engaged in phone sex 2) let the call drag on for about an hour and 3) brought up some circumstances surrounding the break up. This completely ruined my chances. At the time though, I remained hopeful and thought I had redeemed myself with a pleasant 15 minute phone call a week later.

A few weeks later I come back for winter break, and he says he cannot meet with me because he has a new girlfriend. He also said we could not speak anymore like we had been in November, and he only talked to me because the new girlfriend was off talking to other guys. I feel SO fucked up. I now know from studying this site that he likes this new girl better because she LET HIM chase her while I was a bit obvious I still have feelings for him. I have no idea how serious this new girlfriend is, but it looks like they have NOTHING in common despite going to the same school, for example, she is a hardcore Christian while he is a hardcore agnostic. I stalked her facebook and what she likes and they look like completely utter opposites. (And to be perfectly honest, a lot of my friends say she is quite ugly compared to me–she is quite big boned and plump). I am so furious because everything was going according to plan until that fateful phone call that RUINED EVERYTHING. I really wish that girl just rejected him for one of her options. I am so angry…if I had just gone home for Thanksgiving break and showed him IN PERSON how I have changed for the better, I probably would have swayed him from this new girl since I am graduating in 5 months and free to live in the same city. But he is refusing to meet with me, nor speak with me frequently anymore. I got quite sad and blocked him on Facebook to sort out my feelings. It has been one week since I blocked him, and not sure what to do at this point. Idk what to do and need your help…

Melane

April 28, 2015 at 8:09 pm

The day he blocked me though, I did call him a lot because I needed him urgently. I know that was pathetic of me and regret doing that. I am not that needy anymore since I have not contacted him by phone in almost 2 months. Should I wait longer until I reach out?
Melanie

April 24, 2015 at 6:47 pm

(I also unblocked him on Facebook and refriended him in February)
Melanie

April 24, 2015 at 6:45 pm

Between January and March I called him 3 or 4 times. It averaged out to about every two weeks. And we texted every other week. The phone calls in January were fine. It was not until March 1st where he turned cold and said to not call him again –but he suspiciously said “You can message me on Facebook.” I have not called or texted him since March 1st. I have not messaged him since March 21st. Since then I have worked on myself, made new friends, and went on dates. I continued with therapy. The problem now is lack of rapport and no way of knowing how his new relationship is going… right now I am moving on without moving on hoping to reestablish a connection with him. How do I gain value in his eyes to show him I am the ungettable girl and get back in contact with him to spark things up again?
Melanie

April 22, 2015 at 10:14 pm

Hey Chris,
They are still together, and my ex has blocked me from being able to call him. I do not have any rapport anymore. I have been in NC since mid-March. What do you think? Should I move on?
Chris Seiter

April 23, 2015 at 12:46 pm

How many times did you call him?
admin

December 29, 2014 at 2:43 pm

Whoa… he had phone sex with you while he had a girlfriend??
Melanie

December 29, 2014 at 3:03 pm

No, the phone sex happened before the new girl and him started dating. He said she was seeing someone else at the time.

lovelioness

December 17, 2014 at 4:45 pm

Hey Chris. I need your advice. After he broke up with me last year, we came back together after 5 months. Although he just wanted to stay friends it developed into much more again and we ended up texting every single day, seeing each other on skype and making plans to see eachother again. (It was an LDR) After 4 month I became needy and was smothering again and at the end of the day I found out hes texting someone else every single day. I confronted him with this and he denied everything. Soon he told me he wants s break because he had to thinking about certain things hes going through right now. I left him alone for 2 months. Then one day I just texted him that I want to get out of his life and that I assume he already found someone he will be rather glad to talk to. He turned the speer around to me and blamed me to be mean to him and such for no reason! That there isnt anyone. Since then we are texting every day and if I do not respose for a day he gets mad and seems like he doesnt want me to leave. Though, hes still texting the other one and seeing her on skype till morning hours. What do I do????? I know that once he sees me on skype, he will be back in love with me again. It always happened like this! How to handle this hard situation? Should I just break up the contact now for 30 days, but on the other hand how? If we are on good terms now? Or should I just being nice and friendly to him? Or more distanced? Or just flirty as possible or should I make him jelous??? I think you should write a section for a situation like this! How to handle a situation while ex is nice and talking to you every day but you know he has someone but cannot really decide!

lovelioness

December 17, 2014 at 4:50 pm

P.S. we have been in a ldr for 3 and a haf years, seing each other life too, making serious plans for the future incl. Marriage!
Btw I found out about the other one by spying around, watching and monitoring when he was online.

Pill

December 4, 2014 at 3:34 pm

I was wondering if you would be willing to help me with a fairly complex situation (which includes the fact that my ex still lives with me :/). Is there a way to email you or something similar? I truly need some guidance before I blow this even more than I already have.

admin

December 8, 2014 at 12:22 pm

Try my email, [email protected]

olivia

November 12, 2014 at 9:11 am

Hi Chris, my ex has texted me twice after we ended things 4 months ago. In the recent text, he told me that he needed someone to talk to, that things haven’t been going smoothly after he let me walk away and I was the only one who really understood him and later posted that I was the one who got away after I ended the conversation.
He has a girlfriend now, I don’t know how serious it is but it seems like it is pretty serious from what I see.
How should I react in order to get him back? Should a continue to lend a listening ear or tell him that his girlfriend is the one that he should be looking to share his problems to?
Thank you.

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