How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Angelica

January 27, 2014 at 2:54 am

After 4 months since the breakup my ex got a new girlfriend. We were still talking and intimate before the new girl came into the picture. After it was official he was with the new girl I haven’t talked to him. I haven’t had a full month of not contacting him. I really don’t want to talk to him until I am ready. I have been really good on not contacting him so far and feel strong enough to keep it that way until I am ready and NC is over. However, tomorrow night I may have to see him, because we are on the same board of an organization and having a board meeting. I really don’t want to see him, and not ready. I am finally in a place where I don’t feel upset, and just want to focus on getting myself together. I am scared that when I seem him I won’t be strong enough to be the ungettable girl I want to be. How should I talk to him if needed. I know I shouldn’t totally avoid him, and I won’t be able to. Should I extend NC after this?

admin

January 27, 2014 at 7:16 pm

Do you mean how you should communicate via text messages?
Angelica

January 27, 2014 at 11:07 pm

In person and later on in text. NC isn’t over and I haven’t communicated with him since I started over two weeks ago.

luis

January 26, 2014 at 9:06 pm

I broke up with my ex boyfriend 5months ago, 6days after the break up he texted me that he is going back to his ex girlfriend, but he said he is not angry with me so we should be BEST FRIENDS. We lived like friends ,very cloz friends for like 1month, then we had a fight and ignored each other for two weeks.After two weeks I told him I hav no prblm with him, I apologized and told him am moving on soon but surprisingly he became cloz again and told me I don’t need his girlfriends permission to talk to him. Few days later we started sleeping together, that was 4months after breakup, then I realized Ts bullshit because am there like a backup giving him pleasure when his girlfrnd z not around, so I decided to cut communication from him, when he realized that he became very angry, he blocked me in whatssup even though he knows am not texting him or replying his text, he doesn’t talk to me when we meet accidentally even though I greet him with smile, Ts horrible But am kinda enjoyng it becz Ts so not like him to do that.One thing I left is that, 3years ago he left his current girlfrnd for me , they didn’t hav any problem, when we broke up I lied to him about something he was so dissapointed and also I use to refuse having sex with him and he said am giving him a sign there is no future forvus,, sorry admin, Ts complicated and ridiculus but t realy hurts me we are not together, I can hardly concentrate on my studies, Ts Two weeks since I started ignoring him, don’t know what next, I realy want him back for the rest of my life.
anonymous

January 26, 2014 at 9:52 am

Oh chris. I think i’ve really blew up my chances with my ex. I dont know what to do anymore. We broke up last yr april, its only been 3mths after i contact him after nc. Things were great! The initial wks after i contact him after nc. I did memory texts and all. Responses were positive. Then i did the mistake of wanting too much too soon. And he is so cold towards me now. To make things worse, he’s dating other ladies 🙁 currently today. I have sent him 3 texts (not long msgs) and called him 5times. 2times in the morning. 2 times in the afternoon and once at night. He ignored me 🙁 what do i do now? Go to nc again? For how long? Or is there really no more hope?

Are there ladies who screw up after the first nc like me? I feel so demoralized. Sigh.

admin

January 27, 2014 at 7:06 pm

Oh no…

Well, just go back into NC. Take a deep breath it is going to be ok.
anonymous

January 28, 2014 at 4:02 am

How long should i do nc for? Its only been 2days so far. He hasn reach out to me. Well. Apart from tagging me in a facebook comment to “like” some photo of his friend’s wife in some competition. One with the most likes wins. I was the only lady he tagged in the comment, he didn tag all of his friends. I dont suppose that means anything. Hahaha.

Anyway i think he may not be ready for commitment with any lady. But if say, he has alrdy “strike me off his list of potential wife” (what a way to phrase it) can i still win him back? How do i reach out to him again after nc?
anonymous

January 29, 2014 at 2:55 am

Another qns, if i were to “move on without actually moving on” and do NC again for 30days (second time) will it be okay to reach out to him after nc? 3days nc so far. And before nc he basically ignored my calls and msgs. I’m not sure how long should i do nc for this time. 30days again? Should i reach out to him or wait for him to reach out to me? He may not even reach out to me 🙁

To move on without moving on means to wait for him to reach out to me first? I mean i am suppose to be “moving on” so that means i cant initiate contact?
admin

January 29, 2014 at 6:54 pm

Actually I am tackling your question in my next guide (seriously!)
anonymous

January 30, 2014 at 9:44 am

Haha really? Honestly reading through your guides are keeping me sane during nc! Only day 4 of doing nc. And its a horrible feeling to Keep having to do nc. While he goes ard dating other ladies 🙁 i dont know how to show him that i’m the bigger and better deal when he is ignoring me (which causes me to have to do nc time and time again) The fact that the only way to try to win him back is through text msgs. Its tricky isnt it? Cause if u cant win him over through text msgs, hw is he going to want to call you or want to meet you in person. One wrong move and you’re bck having to do nc again.

And it has come to the point where he keep telling me to let go. If he wants me back, he’d look for me. So i keep doing nc. Only to initiate contact with him first after one mth or so of nc. My girlfriends and guy friends keep telling me that i shouldn be doing the chase; let him come to me. Thats why i’m curious with what is going through my exboyfriend’s mind. He obviously knows by now, i want him back. He only gets excited for awhile when i contact him after nc. Then he gets cold on me again and i have to do nc again. Good lord! For how long do i have to keep playing this game?

Is there hope? Can you convince a man to be with you when maybe he has already set his mind that you’re not good enough for him. Why else would he be going ard dating other ladies right?

To move on without actually moving on is so tough. 🙁 sorry for ranting on. Hahaha. You must be tired of me. I seemed to be everywhere on your guides!
admin

January 30, 2014 at 6:16 pm

I think it’s possible but very very challenging. Thats the most honest answer I can give.

Feel free to rant all you want.
anonymous

January 30, 2014 at 2:54 pm

My ex boyfriend’s facebook is clean. No traces of photos with any ladies. Back when we were together, there were photos of me, and check-ins. He’s fond of posting food photos and tagging me. After we broke up, he took down all photos except the food ones which i’m still tagged in. Anyway he kept his facebook super clean since then which i presume he could be in contact with a few ladies. Cause i happen to see photos of his tagged photos with other ladies from his friends facebook. But he removed it from his profile (i’d like to think these ladies means nothing to him since he’s not showing them off) i maybe thinking too much though. But his friends and family members all still assume that i was the last lady he was most serious with.

is all hope lost? I may be paranoid. But just cause his facebook is clean, doesn mean he’s not seriously dating any lady right? Though he told me many times before that he’s currently not in a committed rshp. He could be lying to me. Then again, why would he lie to me if he’s indeed attached? But if he choose to commit to another lady, why would he tell me anyway.
anonymous

January 26, 2014 at 2:53 pm

I know i need to do nc again. But honestly, will doing nc again increase my chances in getting back with him? If he has a gf? Do guys chase their ex when they’re in a rshp with someone else? They’re not suppose to care abt their exs when they’re in a new rshp right. Thats what i fear 🙁 that he’d move on completely if i do nc again.

Anna

January 25, 2014 at 8:45 pm

Me and my ex broke up in August 2013. We dated officially only about 3 months but we acted like a couple 5 months. 4 months of knowing each other he said he loved me and have never felt this before towards anyone else before so I was his first love and he was mine. He said I was wonderful and his dream girlfriend ’till I started to treat him poorly (mainly because of my mental problems) and being overly jealous. I changed from dream gf to girlfriend from nightmare and soon he wanted to break up with me. I was crushed and I made all the mistakes which I shouldn’t have done, crying, begging, apologizing over and over again, wasn’t on no contact and just being too desperate. He said if I start to behaving better there could be a chance. We decided to start seeing other people but we still slept with each other which was a huge mistake. Then he had a crush on some girl and said he didn’t love me anymore and I should get a new bf. Two weeks after this I met one guy and it made my ex jealous and he said he still had feelings for me. I was very confused but we decided to only see each other but my ex wasn’t ready for a relationship yet. We didn’t see each other so often anymore and he didn’t really give me any attention because he got really depressed and he lost all the feelings, but he said it wasn’t because of me. I wanted to help him but he was just angry and cold. On New Years Eve he send me a message saying he actually would have wanted to spend it with me, but we didn’t meet cause he was with his friends. I didn’t contact him for 20 days and when I did he said he has started to seeing some other girl but has been missing and wondering how I was doing.
He doesn’t know yet what’s gonna happen between him and her. I asked him “so there’s nothing between us anymore?” and he answered “well things have changed now when I met her but I bet you’re gonna meet someone for you”. He said he still cares about me but only as a friend. I wished him and the girl all the best but told I was very dissapointed and can’t be friends anymore and said goodbye. Now he still sees me as a desperate and needy girl who cries over him and hasn’t moved on.

How can I show him I don’t really need him even though I still want him back? Or should I even try anymore and just give up? Is there any hope left? I’m gonna go to a few dates and focuse on myself but could I get my ex to love me again?
Sarah

January 25, 2014 at 5:28 pm

Hey,
My ex called me the other day and told me he still loves me but had to move on as he thought there was no chance for us 2 (I dumped him). We split in October and he got with his new girl in December. But he not willing – yet – to leave her and come back to me (I didn’t ask!). Does this mean he’s in a rebound and likely to come back if I play my cards right?
Melissa

January 25, 2014 at 4:38 am

I left a comment before but I never saw an answer so I’ll try again :p
I met this guy in September and we had a thing for a bit more than a month. We hung out everyday and it was great. He was crazy into me but I kind of felt mixed feelings at the time and sent out weird vibes. Eventually we stopped talking for a week and when I noticed I texted him and told him “i like you but if u want to be friends id love that” basically. Long story short he said friends but then didn’t really want to talk. Eventually I began to try ur no contact idea and he began to seem interested. I still go to school with him so I haven’t had full no contact. We only had a first kind of normal convo a week ago and a not so bad one today. He is seeing, but not in a relationship with a new girl and school is done in a week. Should I try complete no contact for month and then try texting? Or ? And is it different if u were never boyfriend girlfriend??

admin

January 27, 2014 at 6:45 pm

It is different if you two were never official. Neverhteless, you can still try NC but maybe a shortened one.

lucy

January 24, 2014 at 4:33 am

Hi , I have a question, my ex is my best friend the no contact rule seems hard because we always speak, we speak every day apart from the times I have gotten really upset or angry and said I cannot be his friend. I feel everyone will think I’m a bad friend and ThatI’m jealous I yhink that too. I’ve not been able to stop contact because we are so close. He’s in a new relationship I broke up with him but never stopped loving him when he moved state. can a best friend stop contact? I keep wanting to have the last perfect conversation before no contact. Also I think he has been looking for my blessing on his new girlfriend I told him to go be happy. I feel sick. She’s similar to me “his type”. I’ve said so many mean things and now we’re talking nicely again.it was easier when I was still angry. Sorry I’m rambling. Will the no contact rule work if your ex is a best/close friend? How do I make it seem I’m not a bad friend to him and without her using it to her advantage by becoming his new confidant.
Thanks

admin

January 24, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Yes the no contact rule can work.

I don’t get your other question though.

Madelin

January 23, 2014 at 4:47 pm

I’ve written my story on here before, but it was a while ago and on a different section. But, sadly it is my turn to write in this section. I just found out my ex has a new girlfriend. He and I dated for about four months and it has been about two months since we broke up…do you believe she could possibly be a rebound?

admin

January 24, 2014 at 5:21 am

I am so sorry :(.

It’s possible but I don’t want to lie to you. This hurts your chances a little bit.

Ellen

January 19, 2014 at 11:40 pm

Hi Chris,
My story is a long one but I’ll try to make it short. I’d been dating a man on/off for 7 years and in that time, I was mostly in control. He asked me to marry him several times and I always said no. I just wasn’t ready, for him or anyone else. We both had issues, mentally and emotionally, that had to be fixed before any healthy relationship could occur.
So, he started to date this other girl last March though he kept talking to me and telling me I was the love of his life. I wasn’t sure I could make the leap to be with him again so I played it casual. After much soul-searching, I decided that I couldn’t live my life without him and wanted to be with him last May. I told him this and he agreed to make it work. I flew out to see him the next day (we live in seperate towns) and when I got there he told me he didn’t want me anymore, that she was better than I ever was, and that I wasn’t loveable. I was crushed but decided to move on. After less than a month, he called me from a number I didn’t recognize and told me he was very sorry and handled things poorly and could I please give him some time to work things out. I agreed (stupidly) and felt a glimmer of hope. Later that week I googled his name and came across a wedding website of him and this new girl. He had gotten engaged and didn’t even tell me! I called him out on it and he said it wasn’t meant to happen, she provided her mother’s ring, and he isn’t sure what to do. He said he needed to talk with her and tell her he still had feelings for me. Well, he obviously didn’t, because a few weeks later he got a job transfer to her location and moved in with her. I decided that was it and told him I needed to move on and cut things off. I blocked him from everything I could think of. That was July of 2013.
Fast forward to December of 2013. I’m just moving on with life and getting better and he sends me a private facebook message that he misses me and hopes I’m as happy as I seem. That tells me he’s been checking up on me. I didn’t respond for the longest time but had a weak moment and sent him a return message on Dec 30. Since then, we’ve been messaging nearly every day and he called me one evening. He says he still loves me and isn’t sure if the wedding is even going to happen but he hasn’t called it off either. Their wedding date is June 26th of this year. It’s only 5 months away and I don’t know what to do. Is he going to marry her? Does he still truly love me? How do I proceed? I am having a very hard time being patient to see what he will do as I just want him to decide it’s me that he would rather spend his life with. Help!

Ka

January 22, 2014 at 10:45 am

This is the plan that worked but at the end you may not want to be with him after you finish with the game coz its more about winning then getting him.

Steps:
1. Text him “if you want to be with me, you got to let the other girl go”. THAT IS IT, AND THEN IGNORE ALL HIS MESSAGES AND WHATEVER HE SAYS.

2. Get a friend to tell the other girl making it like an accident that you have been dating him recently and he has slept with you.

3. His finance to know, the average female will be hurt and jealous and then start annoying him and break up with him or just complain, complain until he call its quits

4. in this meanwhile you know that things aren’t going that well with his finance, you text him funny messages or messages that leave him hanging and always stop with the last message of him texting you and hanging – this creates more thinking of you, missing of you since it feels good to talk to you and sucks with his finance since she is screaming, whining while knowing your existence

5. Finally their break up. After they break up, you want to wait for at least 5 months to not to see him and continue to be funny and hard to get. He will ask you out, and you need to say sorry I’m busy with some friends. He will ask questions like, is there a new boyfriend, and you will not answer and let him hanging. But continue texting him randomly but SCARCELY those leave him hanging texts.

6. IN HIS MIND 24/7 is just YOU, YOU YOU…. while you actually go work on yourself becoming more sexy and hot outside and see other men and then you compare them to him, and most likely you will lose interest in him by then.

But you are the winner after ALL THIS!

In between the 3 months, if you want, you can go out with him for a 30 minute quick coffee, the point is to show him HOW HOT YOU HAVE BECOME, You will have a makeover to look super hot and different an new exciting you with confident, in the middle of the 30 minute conversation, you receive a text (tell your friend to text you) and then you check it and text your friend back, and the another minute, you receive another text and you text the person back and smile, and then he will be like, is it your bf? and you tell him no but and then after another 5 minutes you get another text and giggle, then he will ask you again, do you need to go? you look him in the eyes flipping your sexy hair, no baby, we are having a great time here. But then after another 10 minutes continuing the great conversation that he is doing most of the talking you tell him sorry, you actually need to go as you have another date with a FRIEND, do not say male or female, just say friend ad he will ask, is it a male? and then you will just smile and say, A friend.

That same night while he continues to think of you hours after your departure, you text him again, it was nice to see you, I’ll call you later.

BUT YOU DON’T CALL and increase his hunger for you while he is thinking and waiting for your call 24/7. IT is his treat once in a very random while after like he texts you 10 times and you reply once to keep him interested. You need to reply but your replies are diamonds to him, that he will drop everything when you reply.

But again, since he is so easy to get, and you being so sexy by then and attract other males with higher status, better looking etc. HE THEN just becomes another play toy or your slave.

jessie-please help!

January 18, 2014 at 7:04 pm

My husband and I have been together since 2007 we have two kids and one on the w issues..trust issues ..we both cheated and i did it last ((he was in jail)) it was the bigg Anyways we kept fighting about it then moving on then it gets brought up again N it split up but still live together till i could get a job and support myself..he started goin numbers ect i didn’t like it and i wanted him bak but nvr said anything ..anyways i en 4 hours away to my mom bcuz i couldn’t handle it anymore…he said to come back N then ended up moving two ppl into our home N then that option wasn’t an option an around November 15th N he was telling me were working on us N hopefully gonna b show to him I’ve changed…mean while around the end of December he got a girlfriend..telling me “he’s confused on wat he wants N waiting till after coury to give me an answer bcuz court is stressing him out bcuz he might goto jail anyways i didn’t knw r had a girlfriend until one day i drove to his house to talk about us N thats when i found out she broke it off with him..anyways he still said no we can’t be together right now… N.he’s not gonna b with het either..not knowing he’s trying to get his girlfriend back at the same time i leave two days later he told me he doesn’t want to be with her and won’t be bcuz how she was.acting when i was there but come to find out they got back together a day after I left… but what do u think i can do to try to get him back? He said even if they weren’t together we couldn’t b a couple right now anyways and he said SHE’S NOW N if they don’t work out then maybe in the.future if i still want to work it out N i didn’t already move on we can try then… i tryed the NC rule its limited since we have kids but i caved in bcuz he.wanted to meet up N see the kids so we hungout for the night N stuff but he wants more from me than just that ((keep it.a secret frm his “g.f”)) N still not B with me… do u have any advice on that?!….

admin

January 20, 2014 at 12:35 am

So, you are trying to get your ex husband back correct?
jessie-please help!

January 21, 2014 at 1:35 am

Correct

Jim

January 18, 2014 at 4:14 pm

My ex is seeing someone. My NC is up Valentines Day.
Do I send your sample text “you see someone and they automatically put you in a good mood” or my own. I want to use, “you know that loud sound you make with your tongue whenever I was lost looking for you”? Hopefully the response will be “yea”. I want to reply, “I heard that sound today in the mall and for a moment there I thought I was lost”.
Your thoughts….
anonymous

January 18, 2014 at 5:37 am

What if your exboyfriend has a new girlfriend after you did nc on him and you’re in the midst of trying to win him back? Not during the period you did nc on him. Do you do nc on him again?
Nj

January 18, 2014 at 4:38 am

Hi,Chris
When i asked my ex does he has a girl friend now,he just stop responding my text till now, i dont get it, what does that mean? I mean i asked in a very lightful way,and i think its totally OK he’s be honest with me to telling me that since he said we are still friend and after we’d been texted each other happiy since last September.really appreciate your insight!
Bsrgs!
Nj

Ka

January 22, 2014 at 11:15 am

Hi,

Based on past experience this is what’s happening.

To be blunt, he has another girl on his list and you are just one of the girls on his call list when he is bored and perhaps wanting to get laid.

So you need to tell him you ain’t just a girl on his list by…

NOT RESPONDING TO HIM the next time he texts/calls you “here doggie, doggie, here’s a treat, come to papa!” Instead you stick your nose up, and tell him No I don’t want this cheap treat, I want something much more! By..

Simply not responding to him… say normally you respond to him immediately after he texts you, if he calls you DON’T PICK UP.

This stops the pattern of he calls, your respond, here doggie doggie… what’ll he know, doggie aint responding anymore coz the doggie is a HUMAN with control.

Example:
Normally this is what happens:
He texts you “what are you up to?” lets hang out.
You text back immediately ya sure, where or somewhere along the lines, he goes this expectation you will say yes.

BUT now you change the pattern
He texts you “what are you up to?” lets hang out.
YOU DO NOT TEXT HIM BACK IMMEDIATELY, YOU TEXT HIM 3 HOURS LATER and say sorry I’m busy at a party.

He will ask, with who? you reply WITH SOME FRIENDS. He asks a new bf? YOU DO NOT REPLY.

Then you are in control.

Then wait a 2-7 days, he will text you, and ask you to hang out again, you tell him, “I have to see, I’ll call you back” BUT YOU DON’T CALL.

Then he gets impatient and asks do you have a new BF? and then you don’t reply.

But then wait another day and send him a text like “oh my gosh!” AND THEN HE WILL SAY WHAT? and then you say something like, I saw a cat chasing a rat and a duck following a dog on the street the other day!” he would be WTF huh?

NOW YOU GOT HIS FULL ATTENTION.

And then he wait for another 3 hours, YA THAT a weird dream I had last night.

And he may start flirting like oh was I in the dream? and you tell him, well I’m not too sure, AND HE ASKS IF HE CAN CALL YOU NOW or just calls you to talk.

In a sexy voice you ask him do you want to be in my dream… and then you get him thinking about your bed and he just wants to sleep with you at this moment, and you continue this sexy talk flirting for a while and then just STOP while he is hot and WANTS YOU NOW.

AND you tell him, I’ll call you back! sorry my stove is burning.

BUT DON’T CALL.

and let him call you, he calls, once, twice – 20 -100 times! HE IS INTENSIVELY HUNGRY FOR YOU.

A couple days later, YOU FINALLY RESPOND and say something like “WOW, I dreamt of something weird last night! somehow you were sleeping next to me!”

NOW YOU GOT HIS FULL ATTENTION AND ALL HIS HORMONES ARE OUT OF WHACK AND WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU NOW!

And then he goes, really can I come over now?! I miss you.

And then you go, oh sorry, I got plans tonight.

You keep this going until well you can make him Crazy and lose his mind until you have enough fun.

Or until he is fed up that he ain’t getting his piece of juicy meat.

Or if you decide to go with him, then give me a little bit at a time, not sleep with him right away but give him tiny treats here and there like a french kiss in the theatre or some playing in the car or here and there but not the full deal of getting to sleep with you.

You continue this until you make him sub consciously feel that HE NEEDS JUST YOU. and then he asks you to marry him, and tells you I love you. From then on, don’t work too hard to please him, actually don’t work to please him, he is your slave you demand stuff from him, its his responsibility to get it.

BUT THEN, you need to work on yourself while playing this game, one thing you need to focus on yourself is… work out, look sexy, change your look, make yourself to become a new sexy piece of juicy meat that he has never seen and is totally blown away, become the sex goddess that even girls stare at you and think you are hot. This drives off the less confidence girls that are interested in your man.

If you don’t help yourself get back in control, no one can and you will just continue to be the “doggie” and NOT human in his eyes.
anonymous

January 26, 2014 at 10:45 am

I’m in this same position too. My ex admitted he is seeing another 3ladies excluding me. I’ve not been dating him but i know he has been dating the rest. He refers to all of us as “friends” and insist that he is not in a committed rshp and is not ready for commitment. Though all of us ladies are pushing him for commitment. My ex claims that he lets fate decide which lady he ends up with. So since now, i pushed him abit too far for commitment, he’s ignoring me.

I dont think the above plan will work in my case. Haha. It really sounds like some whack up game. But i do need a whole different strategy or gameplan since i screwed up after my first nc. Chris i wonder if you have any idea what i should do now? Any ladies can u pls share your story if you’re in a similar position as me?
admin

January 20, 2014 at 12:26 am

So, he didn’t respond at all? Just stopped responding?
Nj

January 20, 2014 at 5:43 am

Yes, right after i asked him that question,he just stopped responding at all till now, and i really dont get whats going on, why he reacted like that, Chris,what do you think as man’s perspective, i really dont know what can i do now:(

Bsrgs!
Nj
Ka

January 22, 2014 at 10:13 am

I think he has a GF but not responding because if he still wants both you and his new GF in his life, you as back up.

His plan A is pending to see how things work out with this new girl, and plan B is if it does not work out, you are his back up, but if he tells either Plan A or Plan B, that there is another girl in the block, he loses either Plan A or Plan B or both.

So Basically, go with the No Contact Rule to lure him in more.

Heidi

January 18, 2014 at 4:37 am

I dated my ex for 2 and a half years. He is 28 and I am 23. After about 2 years of having the best relationship we got engaged. However his dad did not approve of it and threatened me and my horses. So needless to say his dad won and he took the ring back and broke off the engagement to keep me and my horses from becoming hurt. We tried to work things out but everything was a little bumpy. He really wanted to try and work things out and so did I. We were doing pretty good and then this monday he simply informed me he was done and now 4 days later is in a relationship with another girl. Sunday he said he loved me and couldn’t live without me and now he has a new girlfriend less than a week later. He couldn’t seem to give me a good reason as to why he broke up with me. Does this new girl seem to be a rebound? I have made myself into a text gnat the last few days trying to get an answer. He is totally ignoring me (blocked my number and my Facebook) except for one phone call he made today to inform me of the new girl, but of course still wants to be friends with me. He still has some things of mine and I still have some of his things. We also will both be at a saddle club party next weekend because we both are members. Should I implement the no contact period now and worry about my things later or try to get my things and after the party implement the no contact period? Or is there a better course of action?

Ka

January 22, 2014 at 11:32 am

To be blunt, you are super annoying to him now and pushing him away, you are like his mom nag nag nag nag nag…. not sexy attractive.

You need to stop the nag nag nag and turn this around by…

Based on experience…

Give back all his stuff to him, leave your stuff and don’t pick them up at his place so he will always think of you when he sees your stuff.

STOP CONTACTING HIM for at least 30 days to RESET THINGS, now your image is a nagger but only time will fade this with you stop nagging.

Its like your mom nags you all the time and suddenly stops nagging you for a while maybe 30 days or longer and suddenly you miss her, SAME DEAL- especially he sees your stuff at your place or he gets in an argument with his new GF and he will compare you to her.

YOU CAN’T SEE HIM during this 30 day period, if you must since you both in the same club you need to pretend to be busy with another guy and smile and laugh and show that you enjoy your life and another male is in competition with him to make him jealous.

He will ask you who is he, and your reply with super short details, no explanations to let him hanging, just a friend and smile.

You need to get as many males as possible and giggle with them in front of him to let him realize that you are attractive and many males for some reason is after you.

You at this time work on our appearance, dye your hair with a new color, or get high lights, get a new long hair sexy cut, and dress sexy, while you lure in more males he will be lured in too.

As for the whatever excuse he gave you about the horses can’t get married, honestly he might just be BS-ing you as he got tired with you as you no longer exciting and fresh like when you first met.

Imagine you are beef and 2 years, you just were beef same old look, same clothes, same everything BORING… but if you change your look to become say CHICKEn and then duck etc. You will keep him interested in you, men love new exciting stuff, 50% or more is based on your appearance, are you sexy, attractive -to stay sexy and attractive, that is why so many women go to salons, beauty parlors to keep their external appearance sexy with new looks to keep their man interested in them.

The same with the bed room- new costumes, new fetishes, etc. You want your man to feel you are a new you and look forward to be with you as you bring excitement to him ALL THE TIME, THERE IS NO NEED FOR ANOTHER GIRL because YOU ARE HIS GODDESS!

When you are his goddess, your wish is HIS COMMAND! HE will jump, dive, even kill himself and do ANYTHING FOR YOU. You are the master, he is the slave. Men need obstacles and purpose to feel importance to live, and you are his only reason for his survival!

Angelica

January 15, 2014 at 8:08 pm

My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me about 4 months ago. We were still talking and having lunch dates. After 2 months he started sleeping over again about once every other week and we were texting everyday. It seemed that we would officially get back together soon. However on new years he was out partying and one of his girl friends he works with and has classes with kissed him. Now they are together. I made the mistake of texting too much and acting desperate. I am determined to do the No contact rule. However, as my college classes start up again I realize I need to get a semester of notes from him for the class. I won’t need the notes until about 2 weeks and if I could get it from someone else I really would. I don’t want to jeopardize anything with my ex but I also need the notes to do well in my lab. I want to keep the No contact as long as possible but how can I approach my ex to retrieve the notes? He saved the notes for me during the time after we broke up.

Ka

January 22, 2014 at 11:40 am

STOP making excuse with your heart to see him.

For the notes, you got 2 options:

1. get a friend to pick up the notes from him
2. get him to drop them off at your friend’s place and tell him thanks but you are busy
3. tell him to just drop them off at your physical mailbox
4. tell him leave it at the register desk at school and call the register desk and ask them a favor to leave the notes their with your name on it

JUST STOP YOUR HEART from making more mistakes and excused to contact him, the longer you continue to contact him, the longer it will take to get him back! YOUR CHOICE.
admin

January 16, 2014 at 5:37 pm

I think you can break NC just this one for the notes.

jessie

January 15, 2014 at 12:33 am

My husband and I have been together since 2007 we have two kids and one on the way our relationship has its issues..trust issues ..we both cheated and i did it last ((he was in jail)) 🙁 it was the biggest mistake of my life!! Anyways we kept fighting about it then moving on then it gets brought up again N it was nvr ending er agreed to split up but still live together till i could get a job and support myself..he started going out to bars N gettn girls numbers ect i didn’t like it and i wanted him bak but nvr said anything ..anyways i ended up leaving with the kids 4 hours away to my mom bcuz i couldn’t handle it anymore…he said to come back N we would figure it out but then ended up moving two ppl into our home N then that option wasn’t an option any more …. we split up around November 15th N he was telling me were working on us N hopefully gonna be together in the future if i show to him I’ve changed…mean while around the end of December he got a girlfriend but kept it a secret from me..telling her he loves her and me “he’s confused on wat he wants N waiting till after court (January 23rd 2014) to give me an answer bcuz court is stressing him out bcuz he might goto jail anyways i had no idea he had a girlfriend until one day i drove to his house to talk about us N thats when i found out ..the girlfriend got mad N broke it off with him..anyways he still said no we can’t be together right now maybe in the future he said he really thinks we can…not knowing he’s trying to get his girlfriend back at the same time telling me these things..i leave two days later he told me he doesn’t want to be with her and won’t be bcuz how sshe was acting wheen i was there but come to find out they got back together a day after I left…((g girl had been engaged prior to all this so idk what happened to that)) but what do u think i can do to try to get him back? I mean i feel very sad knowing he lied N basically left me.for someone else but he’s lying to me and her what he says to me….now i jst don’t talk to him the NC rule its limited since we have kids but i really feel that’s what he wants anyways bcuz i seen a txt in his phone saying to his “girlfriend” i won’t b getting ahold of him so whats the problem..bcuz when i was there N he told me he wasn’t gonna b with her i told him i wouldn’t bug him about US anymore N when he’s ready he can come to
Me…buut he has a girl again…..what should I do? Any advice ….do u know if this is a rebound relationship?….thank you!!

Sent from my LG Mobile

admin

January 15, 2014 at 6:47 pm

Have you read my ex husband page yet?
jessie

January 16, 2014 at 1:16 am

Yes i have.. do u have any other advice. u can give me. i can’t buy ur book right now..so any advice u can give me on what i can do can help..thank you…

Madea Bill

January 13, 2014 at 8:01 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend broke up with me last year october, its now three months and some weeks we have been together for a year.. I was desperate looking for a blog or website then i came across your website.. I didn’t know about the no contact rule.. I stopped talking to him, begging him since 1st of January 2014, he hasnt checked on me, but he’s now dating a new woman which they’ve have been talking since we broke up and it really hurts me because i still want him back..I havent asked him anything yet.. i dont know if its too late or not.. but I have started the no contact rule, please advice me what to do.. should i contact him or continue with NCR?

admin

January 14, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Continue with NC at this point.
Madea Bill

January 15, 2014 at 7:32 am

Thanks for the reply.

I just heard it from the brother saying my ex is so serious with the new girl. I’m so worried of losing him Chris. whenever we fight, if i keep quiet he does check on me. This time its different, he hasn’t checked on me at all. I see them very happy together. He even posted a pic of her on Instagram and putting her on his Whats-app display picture, this is not him. The girl got all the attention now, I think he forgot about me and probably don’t care about me anymore.. This is so painful, it hurts Chris. Only God knows 🙁
Madea Bill

January 16, 2014 at 9:50 am

Hi CHris,

My friends told me that my ex is talking shit about me.. Saying that he doesn’t want me, and that I disturb him a lot , he has moved on.. Which is not true, I use to disturb him before but not anymore. I stopped, and I’m on NC rule it’s my 16th day today.. Is there any possibility of my Ex coming back to me? Maybe it’s true he has moved on.. He hasn’t checked on me , and he busy with the new girl..
Madea Bill

January 20, 2014 at 9:07 am

Hi Chris,

Im on 20th day of NC still no msg no call no email.. He still posting pictures of the new girl, I have seen the girl wearing my boyfriend stuff.. im so jelous.. I dont think if he will come back to me again, they are very happy I can see it.. they are together everywhere.. he’s taking her to all the places we use to go together..

Chris, is there anything i can do? im going crazy, i dont want to lose my man.. i know i made a mistake but im ready to forgive him for whatever he’s doing now.

Im asking myself what if the girl gets pregnant? im asking myself alof of questions with no answers..

rather not say

January 12, 2014 at 12:19 am

I met Chris thru an online dating site in June. Wed talk a lil on the site until the beginning of July. After a couple of days of intense conversation on the site i suggested we exchange numbers. We hit it off. We would talk for hours on the phone after that on a daily basis. We would even txt all day and end the day with a couple hour conversation on the phone. Talk of meeting came up and i happened to have a day off as him while my son was at his dad’s. So we agreed to meet and i went to his house we had some drinks and he cooked for me and we played cards and watched a movie to which i passed out during. He was a gentleman the whole time. He didnt even try to kiss me. When i woke up the next morning i left before he woke up (he left me sleeping on the couch and went to his room to sleep. . . See gentleman) well we continued to talk and txt constantly everyday and wed see each other as often as we could. He lives an hour away from me. So it was once or twice a week. We continued like that for 3 months and got serious enough we referred to what we had as a relationship but wouldnt call each other bf/gf. (Im not big on titles anyways so i was good with what we had) then he ended things out of the blue. But he would continue to txt me and call me almost daily. Then after a month we agreed to see each other. Things slowly went back to tje way they were with us except we didnt refer to what we had as a relationship anymore. He became my best friend over those 4 months. We started seeing each other as regularly as before and talked almost daily. I didnt push for fear of pushing him away and my feelings grew stronger for him. 2 weeks ago today he was acting funny and i asked whats up. He ended things again. He said the distance and the fact our relationship (or whatever it was) seemed to be mostly about sex and thats not what he is looking for. I found out today he is seeing someone else. Needless to say im beyond devastated and feeling murderous (a feeling i would NEVER act on! Im a mom of a young son who needs me and i wouldnt look good in prison gear and i cant hit and kill an animal with my car without crying) knowing this girl gets my happy ending. Im sure this guy and me are ment to be. Ive never in my life met a guy like him. It just feels so right and he bring out a happiness and peace in myself i have never felt. I feel complete when im with him. Im starting the no contact today but wonder based on the things hes said to me even days before the break do you think we have a chance? He has said im everything hes looking for and ive really grown on him (he actually said that part during a conversation when we were teasing each other talking about one another as if we were talking about other ppl lol we always joked and teased each other) and had made comments about not being able to leave me alone even tho the distance was getting to him. I think i love him. . . I know ive never in my life felt this miserable and ive decided if hed give me the titles i now want (been wanting them since nov) i would pack up me and my son and move to his city so we have less of an obsticle. Even tho hes seeing someone else do u think it is worth trying ur system for or should i give up?

rather not say

January 17, 2014 at 11:50 pm

Wow. . . Thanks for responding to the other but not me. . . Wtf
admin

January 20, 2014 at 12:20 am

Hey take a deep breath and calm down.

Please understand that a lot of people contact me every single day and sometimes people fall between the cracks.

I am sorry that you fell between the cracks but I am here now.

Renee

January 11, 2014 at 1:06 am

My ex is back together with his ex BEFORE me. I’m pretty sure it’s his first love but it’s always her such an unhealthy relationship. We dated for 3-4 months and they dated for longer. It’s been about 8 months since they’ve had a thing and 3 months since they’ve been officially dating. Does the no contact rule apply to me right now and also, how do I get him back after all this? He is my true love and I know for sure he’s the one. Please help!

admin

January 12, 2014 at 4:38 am

Do you think you were a rebound for him?
Renee

January 13, 2014 at 1:24 am

I don’t know he seemed pretty into me and I mean, even if I was, I still think he’s the one omg is that bad…

Emma

January 10, 2014 at 12:18 pm

Ex brought home at Christmas h is new gf of 3 months .according to his mom( his mom and I are still close) she texted and was on her phone the entire time! Rude right??! I keep getting check in texts from him.. And we always end our texts laughing .. Do you think his gf really knows or cares? And why would he continue to do this ? It’s painful for me because I want him back! Friends are saying the ole ” eating his cake…Should i do the nc rule now? When we are on good terms? We dated 3 years almost engaged..basically he left me for her ..

admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:53 am

I think yes.. nc now.
Emma

January 11, 2014 at 6:58 am

For how long? 15 days? Or 30 days? He leaves on his band tour in 4 days and will be for awhile.. I am worried the outta site outta mind will take place..and on a side note, she is 24 and he is 38..she is a party girl .. Will that age difference last? Just a thought..:^)

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