How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Amy

February 15, 2018 at 10:26 pm

So my boyfriend and I split up back in September. We were together for 4 years (on and off for 4 years before that as well)

We split because we were at different stages in our lives, he wanted to settle and commit…I just wasn’t quite there yet – slowly heading in that direction but it wasn’t soon enough for him. We would argue and almost split up multiple times but neither of us could end the relationship.

The weekend before we split up he went to Berlin with friends where he met this American girl who had moved to Berlin. They must have instantly clicked and when he returned home he broke up with me. We were both very upset and he was questioning whether he was making the biggest mistake of his life.

We barely spoke after the breakup because I knew about this girl. When he returned home the girl went travelling in Asia for some months and they kept in touch the whole time. She returned in December and come over here to stay with him. During that week my ex contacted me (we had had 6/7 weeks of no contact) telling me that he missed me very much. We were going to meet up but our schedules clashed. The following week he then went out to stay with her and on New Year’s Eve they got into a relationship.

My question to you is, do you think this is a rebound? They seem pretty serious, posting pics together and constantly in contact.

This whole situation has knocked my confidence completely, before he got back in touch I was doing okay but now I feel I am back at square 1!

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2018 at 1:15 am

HI Amy,

It’s probable that she is a rebound but the longer they stay together, the more stable their relationship gets.

Lisa

February 6, 2018 at 11:25 pm

My ex and I were together for 4 years, we broke up in October because it kinda got boring. We always find our way back to each other though. For the first 3 months we were in the ‘weird/messy’ stage. Still seeing each other but not together. I found out he was lying to me during this period and was seeing someone also. He has taken her places we used to go and is doing things we did I.e. a spa weekend. I found out around Christmas. We no longer really. I know he is still seeing this girl but a huge part of me still wants to see if we can give our relationship a shot. I am aware we both need a break but I’m not sure if it’s worth going through the steps of getting him back as he is seeing someone. Any advice would be helpful

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 8, 2018 at 12:32 pm

Hi Lisa,

You can still try nc.. if after it you want to move on, that’s ok.. Just don’t initiate contact and continue on with your life.

anupa

February 1, 2018 at 6:13 am

hi everyone.. i am very glad to express. my feelings.. we date each other 2years but he leave me for another girl.. i am very upset but what can i do.. no words to say him.. he said he love her more than me… but i love him a lot. i cant forget him i try.. i try ncr but nothing happend he give no response.. what can i do.. plz help me

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 11:40 am

Hi Anupa,
when did he break up with you? When and how long did you nc? HOw much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting? What was the text you sent?

Linda

January 24, 2018 at 5:49 pm

Hey Amor

If the grass is greener should I move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2018 at 7:29 pm

it depends.. if you wan’t to move on, that’ s not wrong. If you haven’t done nc and you want to, that’s ok too.

Linda

January 23, 2018 at 5:09 pm

Hey Chris what if I broke up with him today then in 2 days he has a girlfriend then I dumped him then I begged we fix things then I stopped talking to him for two weeks begged and he said he needs space then I gave him another two weeks then when I call him after the two weeks he said he doesn’t want me I ask him why he says his got a million reasons so I ask is it because of this girl and he said they are in touch I ask if he is dating her he says yes then I wished him all the success and happiness he didn’t respond so I’ve blocked him for 12days his still blocked, he doesn’t wear the watch I gave him, for his bday.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2018 at 4:40 pm

Hi linda,

If he met the girl before you broke up, she’s probably a grass is greener

Ellen

January 19, 2018 at 2:33 pm

Hi!
Me and My boyfriend were in a relationship for 14 months
My boyfriend dumped me 7 weeks ago from nowhere! We were on a trip the week before he dumped me, the last Two days were bad and he Said that he lost his feelings for me the last Two days of the trip. The day before he dumped he had taken a beer with a girl that he met on an AW Two days before the trip and that he “clicked” nothing intimate before he dumped me.
They became official Two weeks after he dumped me Which i found out two weeks after that! During the first 2 weeks i messaged him a few times. He blocked me the day he dumped except on Two places! After we spoke one time on the phone for 3h one week after he dumped me we decided to meet (stupid i know) and a few days later he cancelled! Two weeks after that he asked me to come to his place and we talked for Two hours and hugged and cried for three! The first thing he Said about her was that he thought he was just imagining his feelings about her, but that he wasnt IN love with me but loves me still, he was so open and Said that he was afraid i was going to dump him first after the trip and he was terrified of feeling that pain and that he for a few months had’nt been feeling like himself but that wasnt because of me but that he has always fler like that periods in his life! After that it was quiet for Two weeks(sent a merry christmas) and got a cheerful one back. The 2nd of january i went on Facebook and saw that they had posted a relationship status for the 17th december Which was Two days BEFORE i had been at his place and talked for 5h but he never told me when i was there! I got so upset and asked him to call Which he Did right away and i yelled in the beginning (which i had’nt) he Said that he had been thinking of textning that week (still only words) had been starting to think and dream about me and had been so happy when i wrote merry christmas. He Said that he’s terrified of going to town with her because he thinks My friends hate him (he is terrified of conflictS) and when i asked if i had not been worthy of a second chance he Said that i was and he cried the whole time because i am worried about him and that no one has ever cared about him the way i do and that he Cant understand how(his parents are not the most Caring ones and he doesnt have many friends) after all this i saw pages like these, i wish it would have been sooner! I started NC after the latest talk so 2.5 weeks! He has never been the one to contact Only me and the only thing he always Said was that he just Wanted to feel good again and when he talks of her he always just Said “but i just got that strong feeling from her on the afterwork” they worked on different places so they never met before that!! I dont know how to look at the situation plz help!!!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 20, 2018 at 4:31 am

Hi Ellen,

It looks like he’s just talking to you to clear his conscience and to gain support that who he’s dating right now will be ok to you and to common friends

Stave alw

December 30, 2017 at 6:19 am

My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years when I broke up iwjgh him just cause if the fighting. A month later he was seeing someone. They have been with each other everyday for the last month. He still text me and we fight over messages and I’ve done the begging thing and it didn’t work. I love him and really want to make this work and try again but I’m not sure if this girl is a rebound or if he’s serious.
Confused

December 28, 2017 at 10:55 am

Thanks Amor, even if he’s tagged in her post i wouldn’t be able to see it as her profile is all private and they are still not FB friends but everything else you said makes sense.

Would you think this is more of a grass is greener situation since the OW lives in his city and she’s different to me?….because that’s what he was looking for, someone who lived closer…. and is there a possibility that the Being There Method would work here or should I just move on? I’ve extended my NC to 30 days to work on myself more and forget about his social media movements.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 8:08 pm

yeah, she’s more probably a grass is greener.. you can still try the being there method.. if it doesn’t work then move on..

Confused

December 26, 2017 at 9:26 am

Hi Amor, thanks for your reply on the 11th Dec. I just finished 21 days NC two days ago but think I might wait a couple of days more to initiate first text. He texted me on day 4 NC asking me how my exam was but i think that was out of guilt because he knew I was upset when he told me about the OW, it was two weeks before my exams. I did not reply of course. The last time we spoke he said we could still be friends, he has love for me but is not “in love” with me and there is obviously still feelings for me as I was a big part of his life and in future if we’re both single we could maybe get together again but he doesn’t want to give me false hope.

He’s been viewing my instastories as soon as I post them (‘ve been amping up my social media game) but he’s been almost silent on social media eventhough when he first told me about her, he said he wanted to tell me before i saw it on snapchat/instagram and freaked out. I thought this was weird as he never really posts much on social media even when we were together, this combined with the fact that he says she’s completely different from all his exes, she’s “bold” and their personalities clash but he’s “loving it” right now (his ex and I are both a bit more reserved and ambitious with our careers in comparison) — This is why i thought it may be a rebound but you cleared that up for me in your answer.

My question is, why hasn’t he posted anything about her then if he said he was going to? I’ve just checked his social media after NC but nothing. They aren’t even friends yet on Facebook yet and it’s been 2 months but they follow each other on instagram and I know they see each other as much as possible from what he told me. Does he think posting about her will hurt me eventhough I’ve been going out alot and posting on social media? and why hasn’t he reached out yet if he’s constantly viewing my instagram stories? No christmas wish either. Was is it because I didn’t reply that one time? Thanks for being patient and reading this!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 12:57 am

Maybe he meant in case the other girl posts something and he’s tagged.. Maybe he doesn’t have something to say or he doesn’t want you to expect if he starts talking to you

Jamie

December 25, 2017 at 5:58 am

I broke up with my ex boyfriend a few months ago but we met a lot of times and he says he is still in love with me. Now he is in a rebound relationship and told me I am still the one he loves, said it was different with me, but he wont break up with her now (I didn’t ask him to)… I think he doesn’t want to admit he wants to go back. He cheated her with me, but I didn’t know they were serious at that point. I’m pretty sure he was faithful during our relationship althoug. We dated for 3 years and I know he was really in love. Should I try win him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 5:47 pm

Hi Jamie,

Check this one:
My Boyfriend Says He Wants To Date Me and Another Girl

Wren

December 20, 2017 at 8:38 pm

Amor

that seems silly, why should i do that? that’s like asking me to not drink coffee. i can’t do that. i need some closure. i want him back. i thought this site was supposed to help you get your ex back, regardless of the situation…

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 10:38 pm

I wish I could say that.. But it’s not..we’re here to help increase your chances, but not to guarantee he will come back, fool you and give false hopes..and also you can’t force a person who doesn’t want to be with you.. Would you drink coffee even if you know it’s poisoned? And he has already given you closure, you just wont accept it because it’s not what you wanted to hear… Not getting what you want always, and not in the time that you want is called life…That’s part of growing up.. You have to give the closure to yourself.. That’s one of the steps in your life to maturity because only babies scream I want what I want now..

Wren

December 18, 2017 at 3:00 pm

my ex of 6 years broke up with me because he said he was unhappy. hard for me to believe since he stayed in it for so long. i found out i was pregnant after the break up and then i miscarried. i didn’t tell him until after the fact because i was unsure of what he might say or do. i did some things that i’m not proud of. i incessantly called and texted him, drunk called him, and showed up at his house unannounced and uninvited to give him stuff back. he has blocked my number again and will not unblock me. i haven’t spoken with him in over 4 months. i wrote him a letter about 4 months ago saying something about the pregnancy and miscarriage but i am not sure if he even read the letter, so i didn’t get a response. then i messaged him two weeks later saying that i was sorry for my behavior and that i would like to talk before i move. then i messaged him a few weeks before i moved to a new city saying that i’d like to talk again and give him some things of his back, again no response. i have been messaging him on social media since he has blocked my number. i know that i haven’t acted right but he hasn’t either and i want a chance at reconciliation. i messaged him a few days before i left for school saying that i would like to give him his things back and that i would like some closure and would like to discuss the pregnancy and miscarriage. but he won’t even acknowledge me and i just don’t think he is being fair. he says that he knows what he wants in the future but no one knows what he/she wants in the future, not even him. it’s unfair of him to say that. his demeanor changed when i got into grad school in the same place where he wanted to go to grad school and he got wait listed. he broke up with me 3 weeks after i got into grad school where he wanted to go. i want to work things out, i want him back, and i want him back now. i found out he is seeing someone else and i lost my cool and i got his family involved and i just wasn’t thinking very clearly and i was just so upset and angry. i have since then cut off contact with them and i have been in therapy for quite sometime and will continue to be in therapy. i cannot handle the fact that he may never talk to me again. he does not get a free pass to act like this and things need to be discussed. i want him back. I am not sure if he is still with this new person, I am too afraid to look on social media to see if he is because I do not want to have another mental breakdown. All I want is him back. That is all. I am tired of people telling me to take care of myself, I have done that and I want a second chance. I have since this apologized to his mom but not his sister. As for him, I have tried to apologize but I am continuously ignored. I heard that he wasn’t seeing the new girl anymore and I want to reach out to him but I don’t know how to reach out in a way to get him to respond to me. I want to rekindle things. I haven’t reached out to him since I moved to a new city for school which was over 2 months ago. i texted his mom thursday and said “i hope that your son and i can talk one day too and wish him well” and she didn’t respond either. i messaged him last week via txt and my number wasn’t blocked because the message went through. all i said was “hope you’re doing well. i was just thinking about you.” no response. i understand that he may not know what to say to me or he may be doing other things but 6 years is not a freaking joke and i just want him back. i know he’s not acting right. i cannot explain why i want him back, i just do.i am also trying to get something of mine back and he won’t give me the time of day. I really want a chance at reconciliation and working things out with him. His mom and sister say that his new girlfriend is not very nice and is pretentious and they don’t like her. They both thing he is an asshole. I just feel like I have lost my chance to fix things with him even though that is all I want. I want him back. if he really acts so disinterested and whatever when he is around her according to his family, don’t you think that this relationship or whatever he is in is temporary or not long-lasting? i just want him back, that’s all i want. i know he is an asshole, but i like to think that i am a forgiving person. I feel like i have done everything and he has me right where he wants me. by my texting him and him not responding, it feeds his ego knowing that he can have me whenever he gets his head out of his butt. I’ve reconciled with his family and i feel that i have been robbed of a second chance and he robbed our relationship of a second chance.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 7:18 pm

Hi Wren,

Honestly, you need to move on..

Help

December 17, 2017 at 8:33 pm

I broke up with him in April and we tried being friends until August, when I asked for him back. He said no because he didn’t want to get attached again. I told him I couldn’t be his friend anymore because things would get complicated when we both started dating other people. He kept trying to be my friend but completely withdrew when I froze him out via NC (not unfriendly, just didn’t engage him past polite pleasantries.)

We saw each other a few days ago and kind of re-started a friendship but I just found out he’s seeing someone new. I told him it would be good to catch up and he agreed but only after the holidays as he’s busy right now. I still want him back, should I send him a nice Christmas present?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 7:06 pm

Hi,

what do you mean that you didn’t engage him past polite pleasantries? Does that mean you kept talking? You’re friendzoned.. Don’t send a present..

loving

December 15, 2017 at 10:24 pm

hi thank you for your response, I can’t stop thinking about him, should I just tell him how I feel and let him make the choice?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 19, 2017 at 6:46 pm

It would be better to own up your decisions..

loving

December 15, 2017 at 5:05 am

My ex and I dated for 3 month, broke up because I cheated. we kept talking for 4 months after without meeting up. we then stopped talking for a month during which time, both of started dating other people. 2 months later, the second guy and I broke up. My ex then asked for us to get coffee, it was the first time we hung out since our break up 6 month ago. during our meet up he told me that he was really bored with his current girlfriend, and overwhelmed by how how much she likes him and is invested in it than he is, and said that if he wasn’t with her he’d want to take me out to dinner. I don’t want to break them up but I do want him back, I’m not sure what to make of our meeting, although we planned to get coffee again soon. do we have a chance?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 15, 2017 at 5:55 pm

HI loving,

if you don’t want to break them up, don’t talk to him again.. but if you want him back, you have to face the reality that you are going to be reason if they break up.

Emily

December 15, 2017 at 4:46 am

Hi
My boyfriend left me after 2 years because he said he couldn’t stand the fighting anymore. I asked if it’s possible to start again later in life and he said “it’s possible just not now”
Anyway, 3 weeks later he has another girlfriend but they’re actually getting along great?
I want him back so badly like I’m trying everything.
Unfortuanately I’ve done the whole begging and crying thing.
He said that he forgives me and he doesn’t want to waste any more energy on me and he hopes we can be friends in the future.
I’m so confused?
Is this a rebound and does he mean it when he says we can start again later?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 15, 2017 at 5:12 pm

Hi Emily,
if he met her after the break up, possibly.

Confused

December 7, 2017 at 8:42 am

Hi, im confused on my own breakup timeline and cant make out if she’s a rebound or not. if say according to him we technically ended things around the end of June but still loved each other & got back together around August but not officially(according to him) and then continued being loving and affectionate all the way until October before he stopped texting. He met someone in early November and decided he really likes her and wants to be serious with her and told me . And i was shocked and confused because i thought we never really ended things but he believed otherwise and he assumed i was on the same page. Is this a rebound if to me the break-up occured literally NOW when he’s told me OR not a rebound cause it ended when he magically decided he wanted to date while we were apart? It was ldr.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 11, 2017 at 8:35 am

Hi Confused,

It doesn’t look like a rebound..

Elle tanner

December 1, 2017 at 4:05 pm

What about when he has known (worked) with this woman for 2 yrs. Cheated twice with her this year ( last time was last month) and now the woman is pregnant ?? We had a 7 year relationship. Also we have a child together.
He claims to love us both. I’m mean is that even possible to love two woman at the same time???
That is my main question !!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 4, 2017 at 4:53 pm

Hi Elle,

Not really..that means he’s fulfilling needs from the both of you..
Check this one:
EBR 056: My Ex Boyfriend Cheated On Me Multiple Times… What Do I Do?

MaryK

November 26, 2017 at 5:19 am

Hi EBR Team, My ex-bf and I were in a serious relationship for 4 years and were planning our wedding. A month ago he said he doesn’t think he can marry me because of our different cultures. He also said he doesn’t want mixed children anymore and his family is embarrassed of my dark skin colour. We broke up and I implemented no contact for 30 days, where I was improving every day and posting.
After 30 days, I text him first contact texts for 2 days and he has responded extremely favourably. On the 2nd day he said he wanted to share something with me since he wanted to be open with me. He told me that he is “talking” to someone, and unsure of how I will react by this news (is this a rebound?). I acted confident and told him I was happy for him and that I am doing the same. His reaction was not that excited but he wished me all the best. Should I still continue to text him and build rapport and move on to meeting up? Technically he’s still single, but talking to the other girl. How often should I text/meet up with him in this case? Although he always responds, what if he never initiates the texts?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 1:46 am

HI Mary K,

For me, you shouldn’t get back with a person who thinks of you like that.

Emy

November 10, 2017 at 9:26 pm

Hi Chris! I bought the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro book, but not sure where to start… My “ex” is leaving the country in a few months and he has become more distant towards me and more interested in his previous ex (I know, how ironic)… To make matters worse, we are exclusive friends with benefits. :'(
I’m afraid that if I initiate the no contact rule, he will dump me and get back together with his ex. Please, help! I don’t know where to start!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 13, 2017 at 12:51 am

Hi Emy,

did you mean, if you stay being friends with benefits, it would be better than losing him?

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