How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Wren

September 3, 2017 at 2:14 pm

my ex of 6 years broke up with me because he said he was unhappy. hard for me to believe since he stayed in it for so long. i found out i was pregnant after the break up and then i miscarried. i didn’t tell him until after the fact because i was unsure of what he might say or do. i did some things that i’m not proud of. i incessantly called and texted him, drunk called him, and showed up at his house unannounced and uninvited to give him stuff back. he has blocked my number again and will not unblock me. i haven’t spoken with him in over 2 months. i wrote him a letter about a month and a half ago saying something about the pregnancy and miscarriage but i am not sure if he even read the letter, so i didn’t get a response. then i messaged him two weeks saying that i was sorry for my behavior and that i would like to talk before i move. then i messaged him last week saying that i’d like to talk again and give him some things of his back, again no response. i have been messaging him on social media since he has blocked my number. i know that i haven’t acted right but he hasn’t either and i want a chance at reconciliation. i messaged him a few days ago saying that i would like to give him his things back and that i would like some closure and would like to discuss the pregnancy and miscarriage. but he won’t even acknowledge me and i just don’t think he is being fair. he says that he knows what he wants int he future but no one knows what he/she wants in the future, not even him. it’s unfair of him to say that. his demeanor changed when i got into grad school in the same place where he wanted to go to grad school and he got wait listed. he broke up with me 3 weeks after i got into grad school where he wanted to go. i want to work things out, i want him back, and i want him back now. i found out he is seeing someone else and i lost my cool and i got his family involved and i just wasn’t thinking very clearly and i was just so upset and angry. i have since then cut off contact with them and i have been in therapy for quite sometime and will continue to be in therapy. i cannot handle the fact that he may never talk to me again. he does not get a free pass to act like this and things need to be discussed. i want him back. i have already done no contact once before and he doesn’t respond. I guess you would say that i am currently in no contact now but i have his number blocked and we are not friends on facebook or anything like that. i know he is seeing someone else, i just do not care because i want him back. that is all i want. help me please!

Wren

September 8, 2017 at 1:55 pm

I have a routine and I have stuck to it and NOTHING has happened…I want him back and I don’t care what it takes to get him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 13, 2017 at 11:37 am

Sometimes, I hope I can guarantee that but the truth is, I cant.. And most of the time, desperation is what pushes the other person away because that means he’s more important than your self respect, which lessens your respect from others too..

Men are wired to chase, and if they see a woman chasing them, it’s a turn off.. They’re attracted to interesting, independent women, women who have their own lives and excel in it and women who has standards..the ones that that they have to work hard to get and the ones who are not afraid to lose them if they don’t fit the standards..
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2017 at 6:45 pm

HI Wren,

No contact period is not for the ex to contact you during it. It’s for you to have a starting point of change in your routine. You need to maintain that routine even after nc period. The routine should be in preparation of the possibility of not getting him back. If you weren’t able to build rapport and attraction after nc, it would hurt but you would just go on in life.

Anna

August 18, 2017 at 2:56 am

Definitely needing get some advice…

My soon to be ex husband (he just filedoesn’t for divorce) ando I had been married for 3 years and we have a beautiful 1 year old together. Unfortunately, despite how in love and devoted he was to me, I strayed and cheated. A month passed after this happened and we filed for divorce and I voiced my opinion on how I disagreed with it, told him how I felt but he continued with it anyway. Since we signed the divorce papers he has gone back and forth on wanting to be with me and then becoming cold. Recently I found out he has been sleeping with other girls, nothing serious, seems to be filling a void. I feel deep down that he still has feelings for me and I know ow that he wants our family back together but he doesn’t trust me. I feel like I’m in limbo and I feel stuck. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 18, 2017 at 5:34 pm

Hi Anna,

check this one:
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)

Annie2

June 21, 2017 at 2:59 pm

Hi,
After months of no communication with ex, we met a few times at his workplace, and he came to me to talk, walked with me to the door to speak there, and he saw me home twice. I followed the advice to keep it fun, and I feel we had a great time. But I don’t know how to move this situation further, I don’t want to be seen as needy , and I think he has a girlfriend. What do you think the smart move would be? Thanks

Donna

July 8, 2017 at 3:46 pm

Here is my situation. My ex boyfriend and I broke up two months ago I’ve been doing no contact now for 3 weeks. He blocked me from Facebook and he blocked me on Imo. He used to travel for business so we used to IMO each other a lot. He started seeing someone before he broke up with me. He claims they were just friends at the time. Our relationship is long-distance and there was a lot of stress going on his daughter died I have friends died it was just a lot happening and we fought a lot. He stayed friends with my best friend on Facebook so she posted pictures of May and doing things. Two days ago he unfriended her. He has not blocked me on his home phone or cell phone. And today I noticed he unblocked me on IMO. But I think with his new girlfriend he video chats with her on WhatsApp because I see a picture of him and her together on his profile picture on WhatsApp. So how can I show my ex and I’m enjoying my life taking trips doing everything if I have no way to show him?
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 7:25 pm

You have yo make your posts public on sites where posts lasts likr Facebook and Instagram
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 23, 2017 at 1:58 pm

Check this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Cassia

June 19, 2017 at 5:02 am

My ex and I dated for almost 2 years (would have been 2 in July), he broke up about a month and a half ago, I went into NC right after then texted him when it ended. When he responded he asked if we could talk in person (I sent a “guess what?” Text), so we set a date, met up, and he apologized for what happened. After this we texted for about a week then met up again. We were both having a good time, but then he told me that he was currently seeing someone. When I asked him why he told me he said it was because he didn’t want to keep anything from me, then I asked if she knew that he was spending time with me and he said no. He made a few comments about our relationship saying that it was perfect, pure and that he knows he screwed it up. I don’t think he thought that he had the option to get back together with me, so I made a slight suggestion that I wasn’t opposed to the idea, which made him smile.I believe he started seeing the person sometime during the NC period. I told him that I was glad he found someone that fit him better, and he said that she wasn’t necessarily better, and told me the break up wasn’t my fault. He also seemed very unsure when she came up from time to time. I’m unsure if what to make of this situation, some of my friends think that he’s using me, while others believe that he still loves me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 19, 2017 at 7:01 pm

you’ll only know as time passes.. so continue building rapport and attraction

Jane

June 10, 2017 at 1:32 pm

Hi,

My ex and I broke up roughly a year ago, he has had me blocked ever since with zero contact. I recently managed to contact him and I promptly received a “I have a girlfriend so there’s no point being in contact” text. He seems pretty adamant and is very cold towards me. Should I leave things and move on? Or do anything else? Usually (with my previous exes) they would chat away and be very friendly, this particular ex is the complete opposite. Before the break up he was obsessed with me so I don’t know what happened (he left me to pursue other women).

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 14, 2017 at 8:46 am

Yes, jane.. You should move on..

Flower0222

June 3, 2017 at 9:31 am

Hello,
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 10 months ago,and we’ve been in total no contact for 5 months.Lately we met due to work once,and he came to me and we talked, he was very nice to me.Then after a few weeks,we accidentaly ran into each other, and he joined me,and walked me home.We had a very good time,laughed a lot and at a point,he even stroke my cheek.He has a girlfriend,and I don’t know if i have a chance,I don’t want to scare him,but I’d like him back.What could I do which won’t be too much for him?

Flower0222

June 20, 2017 at 6:21 am

Thanks for reply, I’m grateful for it 🙂
We met again due to work, and I only wanted to say hello to him,but he came to me till the door and stopped there to talk.When we said goodbye, he looked back smiling. In your opinion, what can I do next?
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 23, 2017 at 1:58 pm

Check this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else
Jane

June 15, 2017 at 6:17 am

Hi, thanks for your reply. I’ve asked him to unblock me now (its been a year so I don’t see the point) but he refuses. He’s mentioned some arguments that we had last year as a result (they weren’t big at all but I’m sensing a lot of anger). I feel like he’s refusing to unblock me in order to be vindictive. I’ve barely messaged him (2 messages over a week) and have been nice and friendly in my texts. My texts are simply a “how are you”. I don’t want to get back with him at this point (he’s being very cold and cruel so guess that solves my issue of a ‘what if’) but I’m wondering if you could share an insight as to why he’s trying to get one up on me? My other relationships ended far worse and yet we are still friendly, what’s wrong with this man? If I could end things on a happy note I’d be satisfied!
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 3, 2017 at 4:35 pm

do you want to try the advice above?

Fee Smith

May 28, 2017 at 5:31 pm

I’ve been annoying my ex with constant questions and he said that I was asking way too many questions and it was irritating. I asked if we were ok today and he’s ignored me. Why doesn’t he block me if I’m that bad?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 29, 2017 at 7:52 pm

do you want him to come to that point before stopping?

P.A

May 21, 2017 at 10:32 pm

Hi,

I don’t know if you got my response from my other comment but I’ve managed to get my ex boyfriend to think on his feelings and admit deep down even though he is with someone he still has feelings for me. He thought on coming back to me for a couple of days and then said he couldn’t leave his new girlfriend due to the fact he didn’t want to put his heart and soul into our relationship for him to get threw away again and feel the dreaded emotions he once did. I understand he’s scared so I was wondering if you had any ideas of how I can work around this and show him that I really do want to be with him. I’ve written a 9 page letter out for him as a last resort outlining everything I feel and so forth, but I was wondering if you had any guidance? Thank you!

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 24, 2017 at 1:18 pm

it’s still not fair for you.. you already offered to come back together and his answer is to be with the other girl to be safe. Saying yes to that lowers your standards and self respect.. If I were you, after I said that, since you already admitted you wanted him back, I would say, “I had lowered my pride because I wanted to say the truth, but that doesn’t mean I would lose my self respect. I understand that you’re not sure but my integrity is intact. What I said I will do and if you can’t jump in with me. I won’t jump in with you with another girl in the picture too.. but I sincerely hope the best for you both.

Alice

May 14, 2017 at 7:06 am

Hi there!
I’m in my 25 day of nc rule and my ex still didn’t reach of me. He is in a relationship with my ex best friend since march and i don’t know if it’s a rebound, but i know he does a lot of things with her that he never did with me… We’ve been together for a year and separated for a year and a half now. I still have feelings for him and I don’t know if I should wait for him anymore even if i miss him everyday… i feel hopeless.. Could you please help me to figure out what should i do?

Alice

May 16, 2017 at 1:05 pm

Hi!

First of all, thanks for the reply! 🙂
So.. i didn’t just wait for him to contact me. I’ve also improved myself, I found a perfect job, i was going out more often and posted on my social media more than I did before. It was just a question because I tought he wouldn’t reach for me, it means their realationship is not just a rebound and I’m pretty confuse… Also… how can i initiate the contact if he is in a “solid” relationship with her? Will he care about me anymore?

Thank you!
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 17, 2017 at 7:17 pm

that’s good that you’re proactive..if he’s serious with her then approach it like he wouldn’t care about you..if you still want to try, the questions you need to answer are how much interesting are you for him to want to talk to you, to keep talking and to get to know more about you?
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 14, 2017 at 4:45 pm

nc shouldn’t be just waiting because you can initiate contact after it.. the most important thins is that you improve yourself and that you’re active in posting in social media and to be more rational.. so, you have to restart the count and do that first

Vane

April 21, 2017 at 6:07 am

My ex and I were dating for 9 years and 5 months, broke up on Monday. We’re from the Philippines, and he went to Taiwan to work last September 2016. He asked for a cool off last March stating he thinks he’s falling out of love from me coz he can’t feel me anymore and we’re always fighting because I couldn’t trust him. Thing is, he went to Taiwan last 2011 as a factory worker, cheated on me, I forgave him and he came home to me 2013. We were ok from then until he went back to Taiwan last year. We got engaged a month after he went there. Then March came and he asked for a cool off. We were fighting yes, i was nagging, couldn’t trust him because I can’t move on from the past cheating. Then Monday, i caught a Facebook post with him and his workmates on the beach, a girl he previously said wasn’t even attractive was with him, super close and girlfriend-like. I confronted him and he said he doesn’t love me anymore, he was weak and it’s all his fault. He did say sorry. He said I could have all the money he sent me as our savings all to myself. He said it’s fine. I was so heartbroken, i reacted violently, i said i will make them pay. By the end of the day, i had changed my mind and wished them well together. He just said thanks and i should always take care. The next day i told him i will go to Taiwan to take him back. I said won’t let the other woman take him from after all this years. I said i know he still somewhat loves me but was just looking for physical comfort and the affection i couldn’t give him. This made him very confused and he said it will just make things complicated, i’m messing on his mind and all, said he wouldn’t know how to face me if ever i go to Taiwan. He wanted me to unfriend him and he will deactivate his Facebook account, will just create a new one without me. I said go ahead, it’s your choice. Yesterday, i was again reaching out to him about my application to Taiwan, and he said we should not be talking anymore, i should do all the application myself, he will deactivate his Facebook account and someday, he will no longer talk to me. He again said sorry for being weak, i said i understood.

Now im starting the No Contact. What chances do i have with him after this? What if he will deactivate his account, creates a new one and blocks me? How do I reach out to him then?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 26, 2017 at 4:39 pm

Check this one:
Your Worst Nightmares During The No Contact Rule

Em

April 15, 2017 at 11:25 pm

I really need help…
a few months ago my ex of 3 years started dating someone else she was possessive over him and hated me even though she’d never saw me, she got my ex to stop talking to me I got blocked on Facebook and Instagram my name was changed in his phone so if I text him and she saw she wouldn’t know it’s me..
long story short they split just before Christmas so it was just a quick 4 month rebound.
Me and my ex got very close we talked about maybe giving us a chance and taking it slowly..
jumping to February this year I think things are going great we’re hanging out flirting and talking everyday, when one day he decided to tell me he’s seeing someone else and he’s been saying that he wants to try again and that he still loves me because he didn’t want to hurt me by telling me the truth… he told me he does have feelings for just not in the same way I do and that he did want to try again but he didn’t think it would be a good idea but didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to hurt me.
I wanted to talk to him but unfortunately his dad got very poorly a few days later and sadly passed away.. I was there for him though it all he phoned me of a night to talk we spoke for hours every night we both cried down the phone to each other… all the while he was seeing someone else and again hadn’t told me.. I found out one night when he was out with me as she found out he was with me phoned him and flipped asking what was going on… he drove me home and I think they talked and he told me they were okay…
At his dads funeral we were very close he was all over me hugging me flirting with me asking me to come home with him and wouldn’t let go of my hand.. two day later he texts me to tell me he’s gonna be in a relationship with this girl by the end of the week
Me obviously confused want to talk to him and he doesn’t I tell him how I can feel believe how he’s done this to me again after everything and he eventually stops texting me deletes me on Facebook after changing his relationship status and then tells me we can still text etc because his new girlfriend hated that I was on his Facebook so he deleted me so I blocked them both. but he said we can still text every now and then, only a day later he blocks me on whatsapp and snapchat….
I don’t know what to do I’m heartbroken I love him so much I’ve been there through everything and I feel like ive been pushed aside for someone else again…
what can I do…

Emma-Louise

April 23, 2017 at 8:37 pm

I haven’t spoken to him since he told me they were together and the was almost 2 weeks ago, last night I seen a snapchat of a friends phone from him with her and I burst into tears seeing it… I don’t know why considering I’m seeing someone else.
But I am starting to worry I’m supposed to be on a night out on Saturday coming up for a friends birthday and I know he will be there as it’s his best friend.
I haven’t broke no contact and I haven’t heard from him since
Do you have any advice for seeing an ex at a party you know he will be at that you really can’t avoid?
I’m stressing about it and really starting to worry and overthink..
thanks in advance.
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 29, 2017 at 7:45 pm

avoid being emotional, look your best, be casual and cool.
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 16, 2017 at 2:27 pm

dont be too available.. when he chose her, you should have started nc right away..but for me, it’s not yet too late for one last nc.. try at least 45 days

Alexa

April 13, 2017 at 3:37 am

So my ex and I have been seeing each other for a while now, the relationship is not exactly defined. He told me he still loves me and I the same. We had a nasty breakup in 2013 and I only saw him late last year and about 4 times this year, the last being last week. We had a good time together, watched a movie, we even had sex, but I noticed when he thought I wasn’t paying attention he kept texting on his phone and was ecstatic while at it. I tried to play it cool. Truth is my feelings for him are very strong and I hoped his were too but the problem is when we text he response is very flag, he is distant when we r apart, and he doesn’t give me a clear definition of what we are or what he wants so I just stopped asking. I started on NC, this is the third day but he seems to have a new girlfriend now and he didn’t tell me about it all the time we have been meeting up. Am disappointed and confused and just wondering if he will ever think of me as his girlfriend ever. Is there hope?

K

May 5, 2017 at 3:59 am

He used thumbs up emoji this time.
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 13, 2017 at 6:33 pm

focus in nc for now.. make the most of 30 days of improving yourself and being active in posting, make him regret that way.

K

March 28, 2017 at 4:22 pm

Hi
I don’t remember if the most recent comment i left was on this article…
Can you check please? Thanks:)

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 29, 2017 at 11:34 am

🙂 You’re welcome! Have a wonderful day too!
K

March 28, 2017 at 4:26 pm

Oh i found it..thank you always for your work!!! Your comment made me feel better and a little bit more confident. Have a wonderful day:)
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 29, 2017 at 11:34 am

🙂 You’re welcome! Have a wonderful day too!

K

March 24, 2017 at 4:09 am

Hi, I’ve commented on some other articles here but I’m feeling lost and need help:(

So me and my ex dated for 3years and he moved back to the states and 2months later he broke up with me saying he doesn’t have feelings anymore and he’s been like it for quite a while but was trying to convince himself that he liked me but it was too hard and that we’re never getting back together again(have been on and off). And I texted him 2weeks later to call but he said 1or 2weeks later. But he didn’t call me. So I texted again about how much I appreciate all the things he’s done for me for the last 3 years even though I don’t want to be back in the relationship right now. 1week later he texted me “thanks for the nice words,(insert my name). I’ve been so busy lately and that’s why I couldn’t respond right away. I’ll text you later when i get some more time.” But he never did. You said I should wait until I actually go to the states and get to see him in person so i was.

And then I found out that he posted a pic with a girl on Facebook about a week ago, which he never did with me. And he was smiling like a really happy person. (He doesn’t know I know about the pic because he doesn’t think i do Facebook)

I don’t think it’s a rebound because a)this new person is nothing like me, the nationality, language, race, height, hair and b)and he isn’t an impulsive or emotional person who would go for a rebound or maybe he’s really over me already.
Maybe it could be gigs..

I don’t know how long it has been going on.. but the time before he started dating+the duration of the new relationship should be 3-4months because that’s how long it has been since he moved to where he’s living right now/ the breakup. I see some hope because 3-4months is comparably short period of time to actually heal and meet someone new or to fall in love but maybe he’s actually happy now and completely over me and doesn’t feel anything towards me because he’s got something else and he didn’t like me anyway…

What are my chance if i text him and go to the states and meet him as innocent friend. Will he ever second guess about leaving me… what’s the best game plan in my situation? What do you think? Please help..!

K

June 27, 2017 at 3:30 am

Hello
So it’s been 3-6months(I don’t know the exact time) but they seem to be still together…maybe it’s not a rebound nor gigs…I’m pretty sure that person even has met his family. I’m loosing hope.. I’m in the states which makes it more easier for me to meet him in person but I’m not sure he would feel anything even if we met. What’s should i do???please help. I know he wouldn’t care even if we met or talked or anything!! So devastated and upset..
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 29, 2017 at 5:36 pm

Approach it like that.. Like he wont care because you’re a stranger.. Currently, are you an interesting person to talk to? Can you communicate with him interestingly to build rapport over time? Do you look and sound like you moved on, you’re just friendly and not chasing?
K

June 16, 2017 at 8:17 am

Oh okay I’ll do that! But then why did he ignore my text? It seemed like a good text to send! Is he really over me and I’m just an annoying ex??
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 17, 2017 at 7:49 pm

act from the perspective that he is over you.. to avoid acting the expecting ex..and to act more like the stranger that knows his interests
K

June 11, 2017 at 3:10 pm

Hi, it’s me again:) so i saw he changed he profile picture to the one he took with his sister and he even uploaded a profile picture on instagram and there was a girl in the picture and I’m not sure if it’s his sister or someone else but it didn’t seem like the person in the previous Facebook profile picture.

I tried to making a conversation by texting him “I just walked by the Chinese restaurant we went together. Happy to see it again lol” and he read the texts and ignored me.

I think I’m doing a pretty good job having my own life but just a little bit confused. I’m leaving to the states tomorrow and should I let him know like he told me to? Or should I wait? Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 14, 2017 at 10:04 am

It would be better to just mention it casually when you’re already there..so that it doesn’t look like you’re expecting him to want to see you once you arrived
K

June 3, 2017 at 1:37 am

Oh, no he didn’t rushed to hang up because i said that. I’m assuming it was because this new person came or something. Or maybe his sister (he told me his sister came to visit him the day before). So what should I do now to turn this”friendship ” into something more than that?
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 3, 2017 at 3:56 pm

ah ok, that means you just need to keep talking and building rapport.. you have to build over time.. just dont lose having your own life.
K

June 1, 2017 at 6:46 pm

Hi, so a few days ago somehow we talked on the phone and it went like this
me: if you ever come to the California and wants to check out their car market, you should let me know. It might be better if i went to buy a car with you
him: Are you going to CA? For how long? And do what there?
me: (answered all of his questions) someone might come to where I live this summer and that person quite knows about cars but it would be better if you could help me before summer.
Him: I don’t think it’d be easy for me to travel to California but let me know what car you want before you but it. And let me know when you come to the states
Me: okay thanks. If you visit California I’ll give you a tour or I’ll visit Nevada sometime.

And he kind of rushed to hang up. The talk was kind of friendly and made me think “is he starting to regret leaving me?” but when I checked his Facebook just now that photo with that new person is still up…and she is now friends with his family. Then is he just being friendly for old times sake? It’s been 3-6months he’s with that person and maybe there going strong? I don’t know…is he UNINTENTIONALLY trying to keep me on the hook or just thinking I’m some kind of old friend????
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 2, 2017 at 7:00 pm

You said he rushed ending the conversation after you mentioned that you might come to Nevada(assuming that’s where he lives)I think he’s just being friendly..
K

May 18, 2017 at 1:56 am

Hi, so 10days passed and I texted him “do you remember that time we went on a trip? You said i was a good driver, right? My friends won’t believe me!” And he texted “i was scared to get in your car at first but it turned out to be okay….but you’re a beginner” and the next day I replied “my friends think I’ll be on American news!” “They think I’m so bad at driving because I only talked about how good you were at driving!” And the next day I found out the messages were marked as read but no response….What does it mean? And what should I do next if he decided to end the conversation by not replying like this??
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 19, 2017 at 9:08 pm

a day is too long of a wait to reply on a first text.. it looks like you just replied, but the flow of the conversation is already dead because that was a reply from yesterday’s text.. initiate again after just 3 days this time.. dont wait longer than that and if he replies, an hour should be longest time before replying..shortest is 5 minutes..
K

May 7, 2017 at 12:27 am

Maybe he said that because he felt bad that he ignored me for a month. But I’ll still try another text in a few days. Thanks:)
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 7, 2017 at 3:17 pm

well that’s good if that’s his reason.. Welcome!
K

May 5, 2017 at 10:38 pm

No, I didn’t complain. When i said “I’ll let you know if i need help about the car or the states,take care” in a kind of kind way, he said that with like lol. I think maybe he’s too happy about the promotion? So you don’t necessarily think him being super not serious with all the walls down(is that an expression tho?) is a bad thing or it means I’m friend zoned? And how long should I wait until i try for another conversation?
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 6, 2017 at 4:46 pm

he said he would reply faster out of the blue? I don’t think you’re friendzoned as of now, initiate again after 3 days
K

May 5, 2017 at 4:56 am

So i did text him and he replied “lol okay, I’ll reply faster next time.” He didn’t ask me if I’m in the states now or I’m getting a car. How does it look..?
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 5, 2017 at 4:40 pm

just keep talking to build rapport while you continue on your activities and in posting… why did he say he would reply faster next time? did you complain to him?
K

May 5, 2017 at 4:03 am

Oops I just commented under somebody else’s comments.

So he used thumbs up emoji this time.

Feel like I’m friend zoned. I just reqd the article about it and should i go into nc again? Because the article didn’t really cover the case where you find out after months of nc that he’s with somebody else…..which I don’t think is a rebound:/
K

May 5, 2017 at 3:37 am

So I waited 3days and replied “it was about car issues and somebody helped me. Thanks:) so you’re a sergeant now?” (I knew he was going to be promoted in April) and within an hour he replied “yes, from last week lol. May1st.” Which is very weird because after the breakup he always took 1week to a month to reply. And when he did he was super serious like he never used lol or emojis. He must be really happy with the new person and the promotion… am I really nobody now? Like some old friend? I’ll end the conversation saying “congrats sergeant:) I’ll let you know if i need anything about moving to the states. Take care.” But I’m just sad to see him so happy without me and not caring about “us” or our past….
K

May 3, 2017 at 12:57 am

Should I text “it was about the car and somebody helped me. Thanks:) We should grab a lunch together sometime” ? What I’m aiming is: I want to look cool and not chasing. I want to make him curious about the car since he likes car and that mysterious somebody and make him believe I’m in the states and start think about the lunch together without pressuring him or sounding specific about the date. Can I send the text?
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 3, 2017 at 7:19 pm

you can send the first part but dont ask for a meet up.. there’s not enough rapport..have more conversations
K

May 2, 2017 at 4:12 am

Okay so one month has passed since I texted him”can i ask you something? Because i have no one else to ask this” and today he replied “yeah you can ask. Actually I totally forgot about this app and the messages.” So he texted in my language so I can’t exactly translate the vibe of the text but it was literally FRIENDly with like lols. Like nothing serious. Knowing that he has some other girl in his Facebook profile picture and that he’s happy with that person, this kind of FRIENDly message doesn’t look good. It feels like he doesn’t care at all. Like I’m nobody. Am i friendzoned?? I haven’t replied yet. I’m just confused. What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 2, 2017 at 6:57 pm

that’s normal.. it’s your first text..the question is if you can buuld rapport and attraction slowly.. set a limit on until when you would build rapport
K

April 23, 2017 at 11:57 am

Okay..so should I forget about the messages or not getting reply for now?
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 29, 2017 at 7:26 pm

yup..focus on what you can do for now.
K

April 20, 2017 at 1:13 am

Yes he has accounts on both snapcaht and instagram, and so do i. But because I don’t really know how snapchat works so I don’t really know how much he’s active on snapchat. And for instagram, he’s not really active but I think he checks instagram every 1-2weeks.
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 22, 2017 at 9:33 am

Then you have to use both of those and get familiar with it..if he’s on Instagram once a week, that means you can use it, so post there too
K

April 17, 2017 at 12:10 am

Yes he doesa. I do have snapchat account but I don’t really know how snapchat works so I can’t really tell you if he’s active on snapchat. And he’s not really as active on instagram as he is on Facebook, all I know is that he checks instagram like once a week or so..!
K

April 16, 2017 at 3:42 pm

What do you mean by my own thing? You mean living my life and keep sending texts and uploading on instagram?? What should i do about the text? I think maybe he deleted the app…should I try with Facebook message? But in that case, he would know i saw the pic of them because if you’re Facebook messaging someone, you get to see their profile picture….and besides I’m not even sure if he knows I texted, because I’m not sure if he deleted the app or is just ignoring the text. Thanks always!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 16, 2017 at 5:17 pm

Does he use Instagram or snapchat?
K

April 15, 2017 at 1:37 pm

Hello
So it’s been 2 weeks and still nothing from him…and the messages are still marked as unread. Maybe he either deleted the app or doesn’t really want to talk because he’s truly over me and so happy with this new person?

Maybe when we were together we fought alot and I’m like 2-3 to him and because of this honeymoon period effect, this new person is higher than that. What should i do to show him that I’m better if he’s not even replying to me and when I’m not sure if he’s seen the pics on my instagram (which is the only social media we’re friends on but he’s not really active on instagram)??? I feel hopeless…
Thank you
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 16, 2017 at 1:26 pm

that’s just really the only way. You just to keep doing your own thing but as of this point, you have to set a limit on until when you would wait before totally moving on.
K

April 5, 2017 at 10:50 am

Sorry I always seem to leave the longest comment:( but I really appreciate that you read it and support me through all this!! Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 5, 2017 at 7:10 pm

No worries.. Send the it’s ok it’s sorted out text if he asks about it.. but don’t tell him that you thought it was ok for him to this and that.. it sounds confrontational.. Just initiate a different topic.. if you feel he is uncomfortable, set the mood by not being affected by his mood. Keep being positive.. If he does say he is uncomfortable, tell him, “Oh sorry, not my intention..but I understand. 🙂 Ok, I’ll let you be and do your own thing coz I gotto go too! have a great week!”
K

April 5, 2017 at 10:45 am

Broke up 4months ago and about 2weeks into nc i texted him like I explained above in the first comment and every time I texted him, it always took him a week to reply. So you suggested I should wait untill i go to the states because we far away from each other and he didn’t seem like he wanted to talk.. so I waited about 2 and a half months and found out about the other girl and 2weeks later I texted him. So this time nc wasn’t really mini because I waited 2 1/2 months to text him this time..but if i had to count, it would be 3 times of nc(one after our first breakup in 2015, one after our second breakup(now) and one after you suggested to wait) and I don’t know if those kinds of text count as building rapport..
And I thought maybe I should wait at least a week before i try anything else, considering taking a week has been some kind of pattern for him. Should I still text him “oh it’s okay, I asked (insert our mutual American friend) and everythings good now. Thanks” before 1week is up and the messages are still marked as unread, or should i wait until he replies and when he dose, I go like “now that i have all my emotions sorted out and dont feel angry or sad anymore, I thought you’d be the same way and it was okay to ask you America related questions. But if you’re not, im sorry. I’ll just ask someone else. Thanks” ? What do you think?
K

April 4, 2017 at 1:05 pm

Hi, so last Saturday I texted him “how are you doing? I have a something to ask you. Because i am working on something but has no one else to ask this” and nothing from him.. This is so annoying that I’m actually starting to be like ‘i don’t care…whatever…’ but I still feel lost.. is he really over me? Am I being the annoying ex who wouldn’t stop trying? Is he just being protective of this new person he took the picture with because he’s so happy without me? What should I do???
EBR Team Member: Amor

April 4, 2017 at 6:02 pm

send a follow up text, that everything’s good, you figured it out.. thanks still.. hmm… how long have you been trying to build rapport and how many times have you done mini ncs?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 25, 2017 at 12:38 pm

Hi K,

both texts are good..dont mention that you saw the picture because you would look like you’re social media stalking him.. and dont think about there for now, it’s too early. Build rapport first..

Sarah

March 21, 2017 at 1:51 am

He has also update his profile pic of the 2 of them on vacation. Does this mean my chance of getting him back is over?

Sarah

March 23, 2017 at 12:52 pm

She is a similar version of me. He has also not stopped texting me every day and he is usually the one to initiate it.
Also, he seems like sometimes he does a little flirting with me. He moved stuff into her house after only knowing her
for 3 months. Does this mean his relationship is most likely a rebound? He is also in the process of a divorce.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 26, 2017 at 7:16 am

yes, can be..just be careful that it goes to a point that he’s just stringing you along
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 22, 2017 at 3:25 pm

Hi Sarah,

don’t rush.. It will take time, he’s still with her. You have to keep building rapport to the point that he will want to be with you rather than the other girl because you’re the better option and because he will lose you if he doesn’t. So, you have to keep being active in your activities and in going out too.

Sarah

March 21, 2017 at 1:13 am

I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 months all to find out he was cheating on me with someone else. He asked me
to leave as he saw something in her so I did. I completed my 30 day no contact rule and started the texting part. I
got into 7 days and he seemed like he was getting interested again. Then I didn’t hear from him for a week all to find
out he went away with her for a week. He text me when he got back and he was not very nice. He has text me first ever
since then and it has been 3 days of him texting. It’s just chatting nothing to exciting. My first few days of texts
were interesting ones but now its not really. When I ignore him he sends more messages. He was listed as single on FB
for the past 5-6 months that they have been together. Today he has changed his status on FB to in a relationship. Do
I still have a chance at getting him back or should I stop trying?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 22, 2017 at 3:26 pm

Hi Sarah,

don’t rush.. It will take time, he’s still with her. You have to keep building rapport to the point that he will want to be with you rather than the other girl because you’re the better option and because he will lose you if he doesn’t. So, you have to keep being active in your activities and in going out too.

Sofia reyes

March 17, 2017 at 1:31 am

My ex and i broke up after our 10 months relationship because he told me that he likes this new girl which is his classmate in college, they’re not “official” but they are actually dating,
is it possible that it’s a rebound relationship because they start dating one week after we broke up. We had a great relationship, his parents likes me everything was okay our family, our friends. recently he keeps liking my posts, my pictures. Is there any chance of getting him back? What do i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 17, 2017 at 7:29 pm

Hi Sofia,

nope, it’s more likely a grass is greener one.. Try the advice above and check this one too:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Linda

March 14, 2017 at 6:51 am

Hi

I’ll try to make it short. Recently broken up with my long term boyfriend of 11 years, we were both our first. He always has been very dominating in the relationship hence we argue often. During the earlier years, i have wanted to break up few times, but he always said no. Hence i kinda give up contributing in this relationship, hence when we eventually broke up after 11 yrs, he felt i was with him just because i was scared of him, and couldnt feel my input that i cared. I admit it was a emotionally call breaking up with him. I found out recently he has moved on and got a new girlfriend, unfortunately, i have already make all the mistakes you’ve listed above and i can feel he is getting further away from me. When we just broke up, i often made excuses going over to see him, and i can tell at that time he didnt want let me go either, but i was being very cold him, and he felt i was pushing him away. I know even if went back with him then, we would’ve just gone back to what we were like before, sad to say, knowing that he had moved on really pushed to reflect on myself and feel clear that i still want to be with him, we both had too much pride in ourselves and i guess i over estimated myself too, always thought he will come back to me. Its only been 2 months since we broke up, and he’s moved on to a new girl, i do hope this is only a rebound relationship, but she has already moved in with him! and i can tell she do look after him well which is what he wanted, so im really scared this may turn into a serious one. he say hes only with her because of need, but i know its not all true, i know he feels comfortable with her and dont have to commit at this stage until he figure out what he want in his life (part of the reason we broke up was ongoing pressure from family, work, and finance as we were planning to marry this year) he want to explore different relationship to know which one suits him he says. I dont understand how he can move on so quickly after 11 years of relationship, is it still possible to win him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2017 at 5:24 pm

Hi Linda,

yeah, it’s still possible.. You had 11 years, so unconsciously he will compare you to her..So, start nc and do at least 45 days to focus in improving yourself..

Samantha

February 28, 2017 at 7:27 am

Im currently doing the no contact rule with my long distance boyfriend and its been over 30 days and he hasn’t tried to contact me at all but still has me on fb. I noticed that he recently added a new girl and I got a worried feeling hes already talking to someone else I don’t know what to do. I don’t know now if hes ever gonna contact me again and forget about me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 28, 2017 at 8:39 pm

Hi Samantha,

You can initiate but don’t mention anything about the other girl because you would look like you’re stalking him.

Is it possible?

February 25, 2017 at 6:55 pm

Hi there,

Going to try and make this as short and to the point as possible. I have been with my husband since I was 25 and am now 31. We have been through a ton of stuff together and got married a few years ago. I left him shortly after the wedding due to falling for another guy and hurt him extremely bad. After multiple attempts at reconciliation he told me he couldn’t trust me and we ended the relationship 4 months ago. I’ve improved a lot and have found a new job and have been trying to move on. Every time we are in the same space he gets mad and is obviously still hurt. When I say in the same space I mean I had been packing up my stuff to move out. He helped move me out officially yesterday and am so emotional. I thought I was over it and can’t believe its really over. We haven’t started the process of filing yet. The thing is he had been actively dating for months and is seeing someone I think serious for a little over a month now. She has a child and is going through a divorce as well which I think brought them together emotionally. I want him back but I don’t know what to do or how to make it happen. I am trying to pretend I am over it but I am sure he could tell I still want him back although I haven’t come right out and said it in a long time. My relationship with the other guy has fallen apart but I honestly don’t think thats why I want him back. Everything with us as a couple always seems to turn out magical together and its hard to explain. Yesterday the move went very smoothly and we magically got everything in for one truck load and magically found an empty spot right in front of the building in New York which is pretty unheard of. And my new buildings leasing manager has the same last name as him which he commented on. I don’t know what to do. Please help. me asap. We always talk and he always texts me about business like things such as I got a package or about my stuff etc.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 25, 2017 at 11:01 pm

Hi,

You have to stop talking to him. If you really want him to believe you’re moving on, your actions should show it. He knows you still have feelings for him, so not talking him just makes sense because you want to really move on. But honestly, it should be at least 45 days..

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