9 Proven Steps To Get Your Ex Back If YOU Broke Up With Him

572 thoughts on “You Broke Up With Your Ex Boyfriend And Now You Want Him Back”

Hugo

April 10, 2014 at 9:02 pm

Hi,
I’m having a problem it’s kinda big.. Well I was in a relationship with a guy 3 years back and we broke up ( no reason actually, I broke up with him T_T ) and I never dated anyone after.. We didn’t keep in touch for a year or so and now we’ve been keeping in touch for almost two years he is still very good to me and knowing that I broke up with him makes me mad and also I know I would never find another man like him I want him I want to tell him that I love him and that I’m sincerely sorry that I had broken his heart but it’s very tough and idk if he actually will want me back .. Could you please help me?
He is coming to see me next month and I want to confess when we meet not over the phone but I’m scared and I’m not sure what I should say how I should bring up the topic bout getting back with him … He makes me happy and always makes me feel special even now even if he doesn’t want me back I just want him to know how I feel for him so what do you suggest I should say and when? Please help (T ^ T)
Zen Antonette L. Vicente

April 6, 2014 at 12:24 pm

Hello. I really wanted my boyfriend back. Well, we are in a long distance relationship, and i never meet him like NEVER, but i fall for him hard. We exchange messages and i got him sometimes a gift but ofcourse he needs to get it from a shipping company where i sent it and ive got nothing in return. Were like 2yrs. I love him sooo sooo much. That i would give him everything he wanted. But there is something telling me at the back of my head that maybe if i broke up with him maybe he’ll come running after me and see what’s my worth because in the past months he’ll always wish for money etc. and my friends told me that im being a sugar mama but i love him and i want them to prove that they are wrong, but i guess they are right because after i broke up with him he just like OKAY, like it was alright with him. But despite of all i want him back. I miss him soo much that i cry myself to sleep. I regret of breaking up with him even if he’s like that. There are soo many reasons i should break up with him and not love him but still there are reasons im head over heels about him. Plss help me. I don’t know what to do. Should i get back to him?? But if not, i cant live without him
Pooja Khanna

April 4, 2014 at 4:35 pm

Hey, i broke up with my guy a week ago! He was being disrespectfull, and was acting poor to me. He would’nt do that intially when the relationship started. I had broken up with him 2 times, just the very next day but he come back to me this time! Ive done alot for him. Im not even able to forget him, i still love him and still believe things can get better. What do i do? I dont want to be a retard going back and making him feel that see this women can not live without me, i want to get back to him with him realising my worth. Help me!
Hannah

April 1, 2014 at 1:04 am

I broke up with my boyfriend of a few months a couple days ago. This sounds terrible, but his mom had cancer and recently died. For the past month of our relationship, however, he was treating me pretty poorly. He would feel like he had to text me rather than actually wanting to and would never want to hang out with me. I just felt like he should have wanted to. I honestly think things could go back to the way they were before, when they were practically perfect. This is the reason I want to get back together with him. I told him I still wanted to be there for him and he can talk whenever he wants, but he hasn’t taken that offer. I want to keep up communication with him but I don’t want to bug him. So I don’t really know how to handle this situation.

admin

April 1, 2014 at 5:01 pm

Well, realize if his mom died… that probably messed with his head a little bit.

Melissa

March 24, 2014 at 5:07 am

Hi Chris I really need your help. I broke up with my ex boyfriend over 8 months ago end of July. My friend was tragically murdered, I was failing out of a top university, struggling financially, working 3 jobs and I broke up with him because we had small problems yet I didn’t know what to do and still stressful. After I lost my friend I was a mess I couldn’t think, sleep, had nighmares, etc. I broke up with him because I had to focus on myself and I thought being with him was too much for me at the time and I couldn’t handle a relationship. We stayed really good friends because well he was always like my best friend, so we still hung out a lot. He said it would be easier for him to still see me after and I agreed and we got so much closer as friends. Of course it was hard at first for both of us but more for him. Long story short recently I told him end of January 2014 out of respect I started dating someone but ofcourse didn’t even work out because I’m a commitment phobe. Then I saw a picture of him kissing a girl(which she posted on his profile) and it brought back so many emotions. I came to the realization I can’t see him with anyone but me. He’s my best friend and we’re suppose to get married and have kids like we planned. I realized all the stupid mistakes I made in our relationship and realized he treated me like a princess and instead of thinking about all his flaws all the time I should have just accepted them like he accepted my many. Now I’m a mess. I poured my heart out to him face to face because yhey are still seeing each other so it’s early but he said he just started something with this girl and wasn’t just going to leave her. I know this man loves me with all his heart and waited months and months after we broke up so I have hope but very little because I was his first love and broke his heart bad. I know he has love for me but not in love with me anymore. I need some advice. He puts his all into a relationship and I’m afraid he will with this one and I can’t loose him. Hes going to be 25 and she’s 20 with a kid so hoping her immaturity and having a kid will work in my favor but I don’t know. He was the best, most loving, forgiving person I know and I can’t loose him. He’s my soulmate and sadly it took seeing him with someone else to wake me up. Please I need advice.
ritu

March 19, 2014 at 5:27 pm

Hey chris,

I m having difficulties in my relation frm very long time. But somehow i was managing. He doesnt seem to care abt me. Very disrespectful. He cancels every plan i make to meet or to go out. He doesnt apologize and starts talking normally after he hurts me. He hurts and insults me almost daily.
Yesterday it happened agn. I was hurt deeply. I ignored his every call. Now he msgd me dat he is not well, having fever. I called up, he started talking normally, doesnt apologize for his yesterday’s behavior. I said i cant tolerate ur behaviour any longer, u r hurting me daily. He said ok and disconnected.
He just doesnt care abt me. R u seeing any possibilty dat he will come back to me and apologize for his behaviour if i go nc? Plz advice.

admin

March 20, 2014 at 5:55 pm

There is always a possibility but it’s really up to you to decide how good your chances are.
NM

December 12, 2014 at 4:48 am

Re the post above thisis the biggest problem i have.
That he wont even Acknowledge he’s been rude, that he behaved badly , or hurt me, forget about apologising. He just pretends nothing happened and then wonders why I’m angry all the time.
If you break off a conversation n say you will call back, not once but hundreds of times, instead just disappear till the next time, is it wrong on my part to expect that he atleast ‘mentions’ he was to call me back but something got in the way? And the same when he has been rude, hurtful?
Does he not ‘know’ he hurt me , to pretend as if nothing happened?
For eg he will plan a night out with friends but ‘forget’ to tell me, instead just disappear, n if i try calling him, he keeps disconnecting, later claiming there was too much noise, when for all I know he could be with anothe girl?
Is that not the height of selfish self-centred behaviour?
Btw this is 56/28
Would love to hear your take on this.

Danzz

March 18, 2014 at 1:31 am

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 1/2 year. We were in a LDR for 8 months of the relationship and coming down to rhe last 3 months he bega. Arguing with over every little thing. Then I cut my hair really short to grow it back healthy and he said he wasnt attracted to me anymore last week when I did it. Then we barely talked for the next few days and he said he was uncomfortable calling me “babe or baby” anymore. He’s been being very distany and very hurtful for the last few konths and I couldn’t take it and I broke up with him… but I want him back, not having him in my life is worst than our arguments. I really love him. More than anything. I’m visiting June 1st 2014. What should I do?
Lourd

March 12, 2014 at 9:36 pm

My ex partner and I broke up almost 2 years ago. We broke up because his family againsts me we lived together for 3years. After 3months we broke up, him and his exGF gt back together. He attempt many times to talked with me even if he already has a gf but I always stay away or not to talk to him. Despite of what happened his communication on our child wasn’t end. We start texting last Valentine’s day and then one day I was suprise when he said that he wants me to visit him with our child and planning to have an out of town on our child’s birthday. I asked him why or what’s the reason why he attempts many times to communicate with me even if I drove him away he just said that he don’t have bad intentions nor make a fight with me. I can feel that’s not the real reason. I still love him and I really want to win him back.
red

March 3, 2014 at 6:38 pm

dating for 2 years, got into a fight. i broke up with him, and tried to take it back asking if we could work it out. he never really committed to wanting to fix things, so a couple days after the fight i thought he was just stringing me along and i started nc… 4 days into nc i wrote back to a text. did i mess it up? he replied angrily about me being MIA. i told him i needed time. he responded with one word and i haven’t heard from him.

admin

March 4, 2014 at 3:08 am

Well, stick to NC it is still pretty darn early.

Olivia

March 2, 2014 at 7:56 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend because I was told he was cheating on me. Take in mind we had a long distance relationship and we’re still in high school, we been together for 8 months now and basically someone told me he was kissing on other girls and doing other stuff and instead of talking to my boyfriend about it, I believed the other person. When it came to brake up with him, all he said was “umkay”.

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:17 pm

Have you read my LDR page yet?

Jewell

February 24, 2014 at 8:46 pm

I need some major help , I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago because his ex wouldn’t leave us alone , he hates his ex but they have 2 years together and me and him wasn’t together long . he doesn’t want anything to do with me now and it`s killing me inside I fell inlove with him . how can I get him back , any and all advise is welcome !
Erin

February 22, 2014 at 10:00 am

Last week I broke up with my boyfriend because everyone was telling me he is a player (at first I ignored it) then they were telling me that soon he will break up with me, so to save myself the pain I stupidly broke up with him. I dont get it because when I broke up with him he was really sad and angry he said ‘to me you are perfect, no one can ever replace you, I’m never getting a girlfriend again’ he was talking about commiting suicide just because I broke up with him! Later that week I found out he had been slitting his wrists cuz I broke up with him. Anyway the day after the break up he got a new girlfriend. Recently he’s been pissed off because his Girlfriend never talks to him, they’ve been out for just over a week and they don’t show any signs of breaking up, I love him so much! I’ve told him but every time I do he just ignores me, Ive tried face to face telling him as well but he doesn’t seem to care! My friends are telling me its because he loves me too but I doubt that. Anyway what do I do to get back with him??

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:49 pm

You broke up with him b/c other ppl advised you to?

Makayla

February 20, 2014 at 8:50 pm

Hi,My name is Makayla and i’m having some difficulties with relationships… I broke up with my long distance boyfriend because I thought that he deserved better then me…I had also heard rumors that he was cheating on me…I still love him with all of my heart and i want to get him back but i don’t know how it would work since it would still be long distance. Can you help me??

admin

February 21, 2014 at 6:08 pm

You should read my LDR guide.

Dianna

February 8, 2014 at 2:06 am

Hello Chris,
I desperately need your help. Last week I broke up with my boyfriend. It was for stupid reasons I guess you can say. I was honestly just insecure and didn’t want to get my heart broken so I broke up with him first. Now I feel terrible because I really do love him and I want him back. Please help me!
Rachel

February 2, 2014 at 1:34 pm

Hi Chris,
I love your website! You have a great writing style that is very relatable and easy to understand. I’ve read all your articles so far. I would love to get your e-book but my credit card doesn’t work on your web store (I live overseas, so maybe it’s a currency conversion thing.)
Anyway, I just have a quick question.
I broke up with my ex after a fight. It was a rash decision on my part, but what is done is done.
Does the nature of the texts a woman sends change if she broke up with him? By default, am I “ungettable” because I did the dumping? Most of this advice seems to be geared toward women who got dumped, so I’m not sure if the steps are the same if the woman was the dumper.
I did NC for over a month, worked on myself, then sent a first-contact text. His reply was “I’m really sorry. Meeting you was a treasure. I’m sorry.”
I responded briefly and positively that it was nice to hear from him, and that I hoped we could talk again.
A week later I sent him a funny youtube video saying it made me think of him. His response was prompt, positive but a bit neutral. I kept the conversation short, positive and ended it first.
I’m giving it time, but I’m a bit nervous as to my next moves. Should I move on to the “best of the relationship,” or just keep it light? I’m tempted to just ask him to meet face to face now, after that apology.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
vicky

January 30, 2014 at 12:33 am

i had a guy and 3 months when we began his ex girl showed up beggin to come back to him,he was confused because both parents were also asking him to reconcile with da lady,he ask me for some time to fix things,i did that but one day i over haered a lady’s voice in his kitchen so i broke up with him,he was very hurt and angry with me that day,am scared i might loose him i still luv him madly.pls help me
Nay

January 29, 2014 at 3:02 pm

I still love my ex I was the one who break up with him because he wasn’t giving me much attention. It been a yr since the break up he has a new girlfriend now 🙁 we were just together for 3month and I have strong feelings for him is it possible to get him back? And if yes how? I don’t talk to him or call him we have no contact. Someone plz help me I really love him and I don’t want no one else but him

admin

January 29, 2014 at 7:06 pm

How long have you been in NC for now?

Sarah

January 16, 2014 at 10:37 am

I’ve gotta tough situation here: so I broke up with him, we spent 3.5 years together, 2 of which are LDR due to uni but that should end soon, and he’s got a new girlfriend. No contact ends Monday 20th. He’s also a fair bit older than me but I think that’s irrelevant.
The question is: even with all those factors, do u think if I’m patient and follow the plan and my gut, do u think I stand a fairly good chance at recovering the relationship? Or is it too many factors making it difficult?

Angela

January 20, 2014 at 5:57 pm

Sarah, LDR is really tough. I broke up with my boyfriend about 5 weeks ago after LDR. I initiated but then regretted. I tried to contact him and told him my honest feeling but he already made his mind. I am still having an extremely hard time but I can’t really do anything right now since he is far away and he believes that this is better for us. He texted me emailed me a lot in the beginning, but now he is kinda in NC which makes me really worried and sad. He might be seeing someone, I dk.

Sorry for my story, but in my opinion, since your ex already has a new girlfriend, you might not want to contact him and try to move on. He might be more annoyed since he is with a new person.. I know it will be so hard,, I can totally feel.. since when I think about my ex seeing someone and in love with that person, I will go crazy.. but, we can’t just be crazy and sad.. it is unfair for us being sad when they are being with someone else and happy, right??
Hope you can move one and meet a perfect person for you!

Cheers.
Sarah

January 26, 2014 at 9:42 pm

See I can see what you’re saying but after all of 5 weeks I think you’re giving up a bit easily. And my situation wouldn’t have been long distance for much longer as I finish my degree in May. I’m convinced this new woman is a rebound: he even called me at 7am the other day to tell me he stil has a deep love for me but felt he had to try and move on. Although he’s not come back yet if I play my cards right I’m convinced he will.
Sarah

January 16, 2014 at 9:55 pm

Sorry to bother you again I’m just scared there’s too many issues in the above. But we get on amazingly, are a great team, share the same goals and can be total relaxed and ourselves round each other. Do u think that is worth fighting for or too many issues?

Nicole S.

January 10, 2014 at 7:05 pm

Ok, so I’m doing 60 days of nc & I’m currently on day 38. Yes, I’m so proud of myself! Anyways I was talking to my mom about my ex & she told me that I should show up at his house on his birthday with a gift then tell him the relationship is back on (his birthday is February 6 & my nc ends on February 1). *Do you think that’s a good idea? Please answer that question.

Before she said all of this, I was just going to text him something that would catch his eye & go from there. I also just finished reading the ‘How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Letting You Go’ post & I will definitely be using the (available/unavailable) trick.
Nicole

January 9, 2014 at 6:30 am

I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 9 months because of him lying to me. He told me one lie about a problem we were facing and I quickly broke it off, like you mentioned, It was a rash decision which I didn’t think through. All three of the reason you said that you SHOULD get back together applied to my situation, we both want the same things in life, not only that but we wanted them together, and we were happy most of the time we were two peas in a pod together. But after the break up I panicked and tried to immediately fix things, which didnt go well(of course) and so I texted him and called him constantly, not giving him space. It’s been over a week since I tried texting him. I’m doing the no contact thing now. But I wondered, even after I did that, is there a chance? There are plenty of reasons for us to get back together which I can deeply explain without problem and they’re all the right reasons, according to your article. So am I too late? Or can I still regain the respect he lost due to me being clingy and have him see that I’ve changed and matured and truly changed? Thanks, Nicole

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:21 am

I don’t think you are too late. But recognize that this isn’t going to be an easy process and it will take some time.

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