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ruki
January 7, 2014 at 10:42 am
Me and my ex separated one year before , after that we never talk each other ,” We went to 2 days trip before we split , at the trip we both were very romantic and love , but I just told him I don’t think it will work out because we both are in different road ,after that he never talk to me , but I want him back , his b day is around the corner can I wish him for his b day .
Calvina
January 4, 2014 at 6:03 am
I have been dating this man for over three years we have a long distance relationship and we have a two year old. During my pregnancy he was not really there for me but was there during and after the birth. After the baby was born I noticed he was acting a little strange so I looked thru his phone and saw messages between him and a few females that were racy and suggestive in nature when I confronted him he go defensive and said I shouldn’t look thru his things. He then password protected everything. We regrouped and made up then I was using his computer one day and noticed again the flirty and racy behavior again even lies about who he was going on vacation with (we took a cruise in October) he said he was staying with his cousin. I looked thru his phone again and noticed he was calling the same women everyday more than five times a day, a women that works on the same agency as he does and one that he has said likes him, we will call her D. The calls are all times of day and night early mornings and late nights, this woman and the other women he flirts with do not know about Our child. D has sent love songs to him and suggestive texts. I called her recently to ask her what was going on and she said I know who you are I confronted her about the love song she sent him and the texts between them. She first said he was lying then she said everything was jokes, in typical fashion he called her when he went to work that night and she told him to leave her alone don’t call her anymore and that he was dead to her. So oddly enough I never got real proof that he was cheating although the messages and number of phone calls daily indicate that something was going on? He immediately told me that he wanted to be by himself and need some time alone, he complained that I don’t trust him and this was the worst relationship he’s been in and that he never cheated
I did what the author said not to do and what I always do when we argue I cried begged texted called several times and then on December 30th I stopped the calls afraid I would loose him forever, on New Years he called me back to back I didn’t answer he’s been calling everyday. Today I didn’t answer his calls because I feel like a fool and I don’t think he deserves me I am taking time to restock my self -confidence so that I can command the respect that I deserve I feel I have allowed him to take advantage and not responsibility for his actions it’s ok to flirt but not when the flirting is daily with someone you know likes you and in such a racy manner
Thanks for this website it’s great
admin
January 4, 2014 at 6:59 pm
Have you read my LDR guide yet?
Rebecca
January 1, 2014 at 7:06 pm
I was in a relationship for just over 5 years. This year has been hard as there hasn’t been much chemistry since Feb 2013. Every time we spoke about our problems, he would brush it under the carpet. Every time he would try to get physical, I would say Im tired. I started to hate his dress sense and the way he even spoke! My hours at work became more demanding so I would see him less and less (we never even lived together). By September my eyes had been drifting, looking at other men, talking to other men. I felt really guilty as I’d never done that before in the five years we were together! So end of Sept, I broke up with him. He came to my house a week later to try and resolve things. I still didn’t want to as I was excited at the thought of meeting new partners. I didnt know what I had. I didn’t feel too bad at that point because I had plans with friends and was excited to be single. I kept going out and drinking and having fun. So I met a man a few weeks later, he took me on dates and then realised he wanted only one thing off me. I thought at this point, my ex would never treat me like this, he would worship the ground I walk on. I started to realise that I spent too much time at work, never spoke about our problems and treated him like rubbish. I felt really guilty. I realised this is all my fault. So mid-December I got in touch with me. As you can expect, he was extremely cold with me. He told me he was seeing someone else for a few weeks and even slept with her! I was distraught. I think at the back of my mind, I always thought we would be together. I wrote him letters, sent him lots of texts and won him back. He told me he ended things with the other girl. So we got back together, it was like it was back to normal again! A week later, he meets me and says he couldnt do this. He told me he isnt in love with me anymore and that he feels guilty for stringing me along. He said he sometimes thought of the other girl and that he just wants time to think. I asked him if there was ever a chance, he said if its meant to be, itll be. That was a week ago. I haven’t eaten or slept and I feel hopeless. I sent him a text on Xmas day and he said I was stressing him out and being inconsiderate. He sent me a message saying this is it, there is no more us. Now I keep holding onto the thought that once he’s had space, he will come back to me. I keep looking at when he was online last on my phone. I keep driving past his house in the middle of the night, when he isnt home, Im scared hes with someone else. I can’t focus on anything. I don’t know what to do and don’t have the strength to carry on. I just want him back. People keep giving me different advice like ‘leave him alone, move on, fight for him’. Who do I listen to?? I blindsighted by the problems we had because these are problems we could’ve worked on together. My ex has convinced himself that everything was worse than it was. What do you think I should do?
Rachel
January 12, 2014 at 9:46 pm
Rebecca,
You just described exactly what I’m experiencing right now. Wow. Like, word for word, everything the same with my ex. I don’t have advice for you, since we’re in the same boat, but I just feel really amazed by this. It sounds like we need the same solution.
Jenna
December 26, 2013 at 3:28 pm
I am in big trouble. I broke up with my first boyfriend when I was 18. He was completely shattered. He tried his best to get back with me but I just kept pushing him away like a fool . After a while I started seeing my best friend and broke up with him too because I realized that I was not in love with him and I wanted to go back to my first boyfriend. It’s been 8 months to my break up with my best friend and I am 21 now and since I am deeply in love with my first boyfriend I have no idea what to do. Its hard to fall in love and experience such emotions for a person like me. But, the irony is that I finally fell in love but with a guy who I brutally dumped once. He won’t talk to me. We are completely out of touch but I cant stop thinking about him. I just moved to his city because of work. We both have ego issues plus he is hard to get. He is an amazing guy and I am sure I am never getting a guy like him ever again. I love him and I want him back. Please help.
Laurie
December 24, 2013 at 5:04 am
I broke up with my ex one month ago because he was having personal problems and he wasn’t treating me right. He admitted that he was at fault. We tried to make it work one more time but we eventually drift off. We called each other once a week, but it got to the point it was hard for me to talk to him. I stopped talking to him for two weeks (end of November) because I was busy and I needed to focus on school. When I finished my finals, I posted something on my status. He messaged me the next day to say congratulations and he reminded me that he was leaving to Hawaii. I felt that he did that to get my attention, which he did. I responded and told him to have a safe trip. I didn’t think we would talk again. Just a week ago, he called me to tell me he was back. He sounded so happy to hear my voice. I didn’t mention about seeing him again. We just talked about what’s happening in my life, and what he’s been up to. It was a friendly conversation. Its been four days, and I haven’t contacted him. Does this mean he misses me? Does he still have feelings for me? I don’t know if I should continue with the NC or answer him?
admin
December 24, 2013 at 7:27 pm
Continue with the no contact at this point.
And even I have to admit Hawaii is pretty nice.
Laurie
December 25, 2013 at 9:21 am
Yes, Hawaii is a beautiful place. In your opinion, do you think he contacted me when he came back because he missed me or to see if I’m still waiting for him? I’m still going to keep the NC rule, I just want to know if I’m making the right decision. I have been spending time with friends/family and going to the gym to better myself.
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:52 pm
I think you are making the right decision.
Stal
December 21, 2013 at 11:54 am
I just broke up with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year, long distance for 4 months. I moved away because of medical school. I broke up with him because I heard he has been at parties with a particular girl. He dint defend himself when I told him the reason for the break up. He just said how sad and unhappy the break up makes him feel. And he agrees if its going to give me peace of mind. What does that even mean? I love him and I want him back. Do you think I should try getting him back? Is it a waste of time ? Since he obviously agreed with the break up. Will he come back?
Please reply
From a sad girl.
Stal
December 22, 2013 at 9:29 am
I started it, I have to start over again because he called me yesterday. i dint pick up but I called back, which I know I shouldn’t have done now, because he ignored my calls. Why I don’t know, since he was the one who called at first. I hope the nc still works in my case.
Stal
December 22, 2013 at 9:32 am
Do you think I still have a shot? Even if it seems like I kinda blew it by stopping the nc.
admin
December 22, 2013 at 7:54 pm
Ofc ourse but it is not going to be easy.
admin
December 22, 2013 at 2:25 am
Are you doing NC?
Brigitte
December 7, 2013 at 11:57 pm
You are awesome. It’s a harsh world out there for girls and guys are a puzzle. So you are awesome.
admin
December 8, 2013 at 6:46 pm
Thanks!
But I actually feel I learn more from talking with you ladies more than you learn from me.
Izzy
December 2, 2013 at 10:59 pm
i broke withmy ex bf a year ago wetalked sometimes and instagrammed and things like that but then i moved house. we havent contacted eachother since then. i still haveall his contacts and i have really missed him since i moved about 3 weeks ago. is it worth a shot
admin
December 3, 2013 at 7:39 pm
Absolutely it is!
Nicole
November 25, 2013 at 7:04 pm
Ok, so I just broke up with my boyfriend less than an hour ago. I was really upset when I broke up with him, but I was also tired of my feelings being played with. Last night he told me he had posted something on Facebook that was about me. I hadn’t been on in a few hours, so I asked him what he was talking about. He never responded to me & I saw that he was on Facebook talking to another girl through comments on a post. I was upset about that & a bunch of other things. As I come to my senses, I’m still questioning if I made the right decision. Yes, I did want the relationship to work, but his actions don’t show that. Did I make the right decision to break up with him? I know I was mad, but overall I just wasn’t happy like I should’ve been. What do I do now? I wasn’t nice about the breakup either. Then I texted him several times, to try to make it seem better. I know that didn’t work though. I’m really lost right now & I don’t know what to do. All I know is that I want to be happy again & not be upset or crying every other day.
admin
November 26, 2013 at 6:36 pm
1 hr and you already find this site.. GOOD WORK!
Have you began NC?
Nicole
November 26, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Yes, but I planned on using it only for a week & then trying to talk to him. If he doesn’t want to fix things next monday then I’ll just move on from him altogether.
admin
November 27, 2013 at 7:04 pm
Well go for it. It’s all up to you on what to do! And I don’t think thats a horrible idea.
Nicole
November 28, 2013 at 6:01 am
When I talk to him on Monday, I really want to catch his attention. This Monday I will have my hair straightened & I’m also getting my braces off. Would you say that these 2 slight changes in my appearance will help him respond positively? Do I have a better chance of fixing things with him?
admin
November 29, 2013 at 1:31 am
Woot Woot on the braces off!
I think it would help for sure but the emotional connection and regaining that is really what matters more than anything in your case I think.
Nicole
November 29, 2013 at 6:57 am
I also forgot to add that my ex didn’t only text “happy thanksgiving”. He told me to tell my family that he said hello & to also tell my stepdad something. I know this gesture doesn’t mean that he’ll immediately take me back, but it obviously means he was thinking of me. I mean he took the time to send me a text & try to have a small conversation too. I think this a huge step for him especially because I was so mean to him when I broke up with him. I can’t believe we just broke up on Monday & he already has found a way to make contact with me. I’m not complaining though, I just didn’t expect this from him. I’m actually starting to think that he might want me back, but I don’t want to get too excited if that’s not the case.
I don’t think he just texted me because of the holiday either. When we broke up before in June (he ended it by not talking to me), he didn’t talk to/text me anything.
Would you say his texting insinuates that he has realized what he lost & possibly misses me? I also was wondering if your ‘how to make your ex boyfriend trust you again’ article would be good for me to read. Do you think I need to regain his trust since I broke it off?
Thanks!
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:26 am
Yes absolutely. I think every guide on this site is good for you to read. I don’t mess around. I go all out so you can get the best value from them.
Nicole
December 9, 2013 at 5:45 am
Ok, so I’ve decided to do 60 days of no contact with my ex. I’ve been in no contact since this past Tuesday. Some days I feel like calling him or going to see him, but I think about how wrong that is. I also think of how much I’m overreacting. To help keep myself calm, I write my thoughts out. That helps me to release all of my emotions that constantly build up over time.. After I do that, I’m free to live my life.
After 60 days of no contact, I plan on contacting him. Is that ok? I think that should be enough time & space for both of us. Last time (when we broke up in June) I did 30 days & we had missed each other by then.
When we broke up in June, I thought I would just want him back to try things out for a second time. I also figured that if we were to break up again, I wouldn’t want him back again. Now I want him back because I really love him & I’d rather have my ups & downs with one person than a million. I really do believe that we have undeniable love for each other. We just need some space at times. I’m also a little worried about in the future, if we were to get married about the break issue. You can’t really take a break in a marriage. I just want to get all of our breaks & disagreements out of the way before we make that step. (Yes, we have talked about marriage & kids several times. He doesn’t shy away from it. We have both brought up the topics several times.)
Since I’m doing 60 days of no contact, will I have a better chance of him contacting me? My birthday is next Monday & I’m a little nervous about him contacting me.
admin
December 9, 2013 at 7:26 pm
I think so.
But only he has the right answer for if he will contact you or not during the 60 days.
Nicole
November 28, 2013 at 7:39 pm
Happy Thanksgiving! Anyways my ex just texted me for thanksgiving, which was quite awkward. That means I have a little better of a chance on working things out with him.
Nicole
November 26, 2013 at 12:41 am
I’m just so distraught right now. I’m not sure that I really want the relationship to be over. I just feel like talking to him about his actions does nothing for me. We’ve had many dark conversations about the negatives of our relationship, but nothing changes. It only gets worse. At the same time, I’m hung up on him & don’t want to let go. I don’t know if I’ll ever be fully ready to move on. I wanted to be there for him because he needs help in getting his priorities straight. On the other hand though, you can only help someone for so long, especially if they don’t want your help.
I broke up with him because instead of him talking to me, he was on Facebook talking to other girls. He didn’t care enough to dedicate his time to me. I just don’t understand things right now. Did I make the right decision?
admin
November 26, 2013 at 7:29 pm
I think its up to you on whether or not you made the right decision.
Lucy
November 19, 2013 at 6:05 am
Hey
So me and this guy were kinda friends for about 2 years. But at the end of year two we started to talk alot and really hit it off. He was always making me laugh and so we started hanging out alot in the summer and he always texted me. We were pretty much dating but as time went on there were things that made me less attracted to him, like hanging out with my girl friends alone, talking about himself alot, ALWAYS wanting to hangout. Don’t get me wrong he was a great guy and sweet but I just didn’t think I should keep the relationship going because he liked me a lot more than I liked him. So I ended it and said we should just be friends. We still go to the same school and its small so I always see him and after I told him we should be done. He really wanted to get me back but I freaked out and egnored him because he was really annoying at that point. I really regret doing that. But now we don’t talk and I think he’s mad at me, I miss being close to him. We were really good friends and I feel like we are strangers now and I miss him. He always flirts with girls around me and it makes me want him back! What should I do?
Abigail
November 23, 2013 at 12:49 am
i know exactly how you feel girl. im in the same situation. but i know how to help, all you need to do is go up to him and say “I’m sorry for everything i have done, and i miss you, i miss our relationship, and i want you back in my life if you’ll except me?” tell him what you like about him and what you regret and tell him that if he has any questions that you are there, i know it might seem scary but it is totally worth getting back the one you love or miss.
admin
November 19, 2013 at 7:07 pm
Do you want him back b/c you want him back or because he is flirting with other women?
*Anonymous*
November 18, 2013 at 4:42 am
I broke up with my baby daddy almost 5 years ago, after dating him for 5 years. I have been in 2 relationships since then and he has been in none. He has dated but not seriously involved. I have found myself catching feelings again for him lately and wondering if I could be with him again and make our family happy again. But he is now seeing someone and he seems to want to see where it will go. My feelings returned a bit too late and i dont know what to do. Should i leave him be or should i fight for what i feel is meant to be? HELP!!
admin
November 18, 2013 at 6:45 pm
Well are you in NC right now?
zuce
November 16, 2013 at 9:35 pm
Hi chris,
I was wondering if I broke up with him, should I have done the no contact rule for 30 days?? because you know I texted after 5 days telling him i was sorry, and that i miss him, but he havent reply.. and I don´t know what should I do now?
is he still mad, or is he ignoring me?
admin
November 17, 2013 at 7:13 pm
Yup you should have done NC.
Liana
November 16, 2013 at 3:01 am
So me and this guy dated for three months. On the third month I realized he was becoming more uninterested in me. Later, I found out he was talking to this girl and one day planned to meet her so they can hook up (never actually happened though). I also found out that he was saying that his biggest regret is going out with me and that his love for me was his biggest lie. So I broke up with him. That was like four months ago, and I still think about him to this day.. He’s not even the ” asshole” type; he said sorry but I think he has moved on because he has a girlfriend. I miss him like crazy though and I want to let him know, should I? I’m afraid of rejection , I don’t want him to think im annoying
admin
November 16, 2013 at 9:53 pm
Have you done NC yet?
Cynthia
November 15, 2013 at 8:23 pm
Hi!
I broke up with my boyfriend six days ago,we have known each other for over 2 years, I always liked him, but I never give him a chance because I was dating another guy. but 3 months ago I decide to give him a chance ( since i was single again). everything was good, he always show me he was very interested in me, but recently the only time we spend together was when he ask me to come to his place, at first it was fine with me, but later I start feeling upset because the fact that after i used to came to his place he didnt worry to spend time outside… I start complaingn about it, he said he also wanted to go out but that we both dont have time… but the last sunday I was very sensible.. he didnt text me to meet.. i text him to see how was his day, and he responded that he went to the gym, met a friend, came back home to take a nap…when i read the text I felt so angry because he said we dont go out because he doest have time, but how come he have time for his friend and take a nap…. then i text him back, are we going out one day? his response was where do you want to go? i tod him, somewhere. then he text we will see if I have time… this last text made me to broke up with him. so I broke up with him with a text that says: I think I made a mistake with you, i will let you go, take your time i will continue on my own.. Im sorry you became important for me, but anyways we-re not really spending time together, just the nights when i come to your place, I wanted to have fun with you..
we can still be friends if you want,
then he text me back: I wish you the best, and i reply I just wanted to go out with you and have fun like at the beggining, but sometimes things change, I understand you are busy and is ok, I want you the best too,
and that was the last contact we had. Now it has been six days and he hasn´t contact me… I wonder why if he was showing interet in me, why he didn to anything to make me stay.. and now I regret I want to be back with him, eve though we wasen´t going out like at the beggining, I enjoyed his company as well as he enjoys mine, he was always making me laugh, we were always having fun about every little thing, joking around, playing, he is very fun amd positive, I miss him, he used to text me every day, he find me a doctor and paid for it when i was sick, he cooked for me, I think it wasn´t a good reason, I got mad and i did it as an impulse.. I was wondering if I shoul contact him, or do the NC rule, im afraid that he doesnt wwant to be with me.. what can I do? why did he just wish me the best instead of of trying to fix our relation? do you think he will contact me?
admin
November 16, 2013 at 8:37 pm
I think in your case the no contact rule seems ideal.
zuce
November 16, 2013 at 10:58 pm
thank you so much, I will do it!!
And also once he told me: sometimes I think that you don´t care about this,
I can´t know what you are thinking, why it takes you hours to txt me back?
Do you think he is mad because I broke up with him and he didn´t expect it?
do I still have a chance to get him back?
admin
November 17, 2013 at 7:47 pm
I think he is… Maybe he is trying to get back at you somehow.
There is a chance definitely though.
Rhiannon
November 14, 2013 at 1:04 am
So , I started dating this guy & he made me really happy . (I’m gonna say his name is “D”.) D & I were dating for 1 week , & then I this really cute guy that I fell for like super quickly . (I’m gonna say his name is “C”) & C & I started texting we were all sweet to each saying that we wanted to date & everything like that . So , I broke up with D so I could date C . But I got too beedy & stupid with C , he stopped texting me , blocked me from Instagram . So , now since D has a new girlfriend I’m more attracted to him than I ever was beforw . I want him back but he said he is happy with his girlfriend & that he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me . I want C , but I think I’ll be better off with D . I just want D back ..
admin
November 14, 2013 at 7:09 pm
Do you think the only reason you want D is that he has a new gf?
Elle
November 13, 2013 at 6:03 am
I ha e been friends with this guy since hs. We lost contact then regained contact 5 years ago. We became close friends. We started dating exclusively a yr and a half ago. In Nov ’12 he proposed to me after begging me to start a family with him. After accepting his proposal, we decided we had been friends forever and wanted to try to have a baby. It worked instantaneously.
In June he started drinking again and left one noght in the middle of the noght and moved two states away. He said he wanted to be here when the baby was born…he never showed up. He came when the baby was a month old to visit and said he loved me and didn’t want to leave but had unfinished business to take care of for some family. He hasn’t talked to me, except an occasional I want to come home or I’m trying to get money just barely have enough for gas, food and alcohol. When I try to engage conversation I get ignored entirely…its a bit more complicated but I got tired of the roller coaster and him not even offering to help in any way with the baby. I broke up with him indefinitely…I also recently found out he stole from me when we were “friends”. He has also been seeing someone else while telling me he misses me.
I deactivated my facebook and haven’t talked to him in almost two weeks…is there any way we can get back together and reconcile trust?
admin
November 13, 2013 at 8:02 pm
Sure, have you been doing NC.
Amy
November 11, 2013 at 12:00 pm
Ok so this is my story, 2 years ago my ex husband and I got divorced due to not being very happy. I was hung up on him for the whole 2 years wanting to get back with him and what not. I don’t know exactly why I wanted so bad to be back with him after the divorce. Was it me feeling guilty for leaving in the first place? Was it because he was seeing another girl? Or was it simply because I loved him still? This past January, I met an I incredibly amazing guy. He cared for me and loved me so much. Well as relationships do, it got not so happy after a few months. My ex husband came back to me one day after me and my boyfriend had a huge fight and asked me to come back to him. Me, being upset with my boyfriend, accepted my ex husbands offer of moving back in. Now I feel empty and I miss my boyfriend so much. I really don know why I made the decision I did but since I have been back here with my ex husband, I miss my boyfriend and realize why I had gotten divorced in the first place. Is this normal? Why am I feeling this way? Please any help for this lost soul?
admin
November 11, 2013 at 6:48 pm
Maybe all of the above.
You felt guilty, he was seeing another girl thus jealousy probably happened and you still kind of loved him.
marie
November 4, 2013 at 5:23 pm
i had this boyfriend, and we were perfect together.. until the summer came and we barely talked.. when summer was over we talked but not as much as before.. a week after we got together at a friends house, we were having fun but i felt like it wasn’t the same as before. after he left that day my friend told me to ditch him because he wasn’t worth it.. she was pressuring me so much i had no choice but to call him and break up with him.. we got to talk and all and we had ended it up “well”.. that was until my friend told everybody what he told me that night.. he thought i was the one who told everyone and now he hates me and even worse doesn’t trust me.. not that thats all, a month later we broke up, his best friend started asking me out.. my best friend took my phone and agreed with him.. now I’m stuck with “liking” his best friend when I’m actually not over him.. my ex hates me.. but i really want him back.
admin
November 5, 2013 at 4:53 pm
Have you implemented NC yet?
marie
November 5, 2013 at 11:34 pm
what is NC?
admin
November 6, 2013 at 5:06 pm
Oh sorry about that. Its the no contact rule.
Shannon
October 26, 2013 at 5:47 pm
I was dating him for 2 months. He works long hours 6-7 days a week. I told him I didn’t want to change him but I was unhappy with the frequency of seeing eachother (it had been 3 weeks). He said he would do better. He got sick that week. Offered to come watch a movie with him. Took him 6 hours to respond. Said he was embarrassed to hag out with a runny nose and asked what I was doing Wed. Told him I hoped he feels better but I had plans on Wed. Haven’t heard from him since. On Wed, I texted that my plans had been rescheduled and asked if he was still available. No response so I sent him a text saying that I had fun when we were together and looked forward to more happy memories but it kind of sucked not to get responses in a timely manner. Wished him all best. Now, I regret having jumped the gun. I was feeling needy at the time. It has been 3 days since I sent that text. Any way to open the door again?
admin
October 27, 2013 at 9:59 pm
Yes, wait some time before you text him again though. I say at least a week or two.
Noel
October 23, 2013 at 10:40 pm
Hi,
I broke things off with my guy of three months.He went away for school and I hadn’t heard from him so my friend suggested that I call his school to leave a message. I did he called me from his friends phone and said nothing about him being mad that I called his school. I’m 21 years old, yes I am young and naive but this is my very first relationship. We had broke up in September but talked about things and kept up on communications and still saw each other. He said we were on that whole on that level but no labels. And I was okay with that but we got into a huge fight and communication ended. We met up, I went to his place we talked about things and he told me that me being impatient, and getting mad at him made him mad..he even said that it was becoming annoying and a turn off. I tried to change but he started not texting and calling and I just got frustrated. I called him one day and the phone hung up on me twice. So I left him message after message after message. And he flipped out on me and I could understand why but me thing is that if his phone was messing up why could he just called me on his friends phone and tell me that he would call me when his phone started to act right? He does things to make me flip out and when I do he makes me look like the crazy one. After he started to ignore me, I asked him if he needed space to breathe and he told me he was breathing just fine that I needed to chill. But every time I wanted to talk to him about us and if he still cared about me he avoided the answer, he said that he didn’t know what to say? I broke up with him last Thursday 18th of October. And he hasn’t said a word Ive been trying to contact him, he won’t answer. My friend talked to him and she asked him if he still cared about me? His answer was not really. But what I don’t understand is if he doesn’t really care about me then why did he take the time to talk to her about things instead of coming out saying I won’t nothing to do with her? In the beginning he said that he didn’t want to talk about it but no he saying that he cares maybe. So my question is what should I do because I’m really confused by his actions and what he says? Did I lose him or do I still have a chance to fix what I’ve messed up???
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October 24, 2013 at 7:30 pm
You still have a chance for sure.
How long have you been trying NC?