9 Proven Steps To Get Your Ex Back If YOU Broke Up With Him

572 thoughts on “You Broke Up With Your Ex Boyfriend And Now You Want Him Back”

Isabella

December 30, 2014 at 4:44 am

Hey,

Well I really had feelings for this guy and we dated for about 8 months but he also had a girl bestfriend and he hung out with her a lot and I sometimes got jealous but I didn’t let it get to me. After school he would sometimes walk home with me but other days he would say he couldn’t because he had to “stay after school” so he did that a couple of times so I decided to stay after school and see what he was up to. I found out he would hug and hold hands with his bestfriend on their way home. I got furious and brokeup with him . It was a couple of weeks and I sometimes got my mind of him but I still couldnt stop thinking about him. Then one day he came to me in tears and told me he wanted me back and he was sorry and he was foolish of what he did. So we got back together and I told him if he wanted to date again he couldn’t be friends with that girl of his. We dated for about another 3 months and I caught him kissing the girl outside. I finally had enough of it and brokeup with him for good. He was also popular and all his friends that were mine kept bugging me about it and why I brokeup with him. He kept telling everyone I would want him back but I didn’t for about a good 9 months. Maybe 2 weeks after the breakup I thought I loved someone else that was his friend. We dated for about 5 months but I realized I wasn’t into him but the guy I fell in love with before. So I brokeup with his friend and now I do not know what to say to my ex. I still love him a lot but I do not know if he will be mad at me and not want me back . What should I do

bailey

February 18, 2015 at 2:23 am

its okay just tell him no trust me its the best thing to do or you will be hurt again
admin

January 5, 2015 at 2:56 pm

Hmm… well, are you with the new guy now or did that fall through?

Zoe Blake

December 15, 2014 at 11:27 am

Hey Chris,
You seem to be very helpful to all these ladies, confused & filled with emotional distress, I hope you can give me an advice on my story too.
I met the love of my life in high school, I was a junior, he was a senior.He was a very popular basketball player & whatnot & I was new in the country & at that school.He was quite the player at first & had a lot of attention from the ladies, but after dating/talking & whatnot for 6 months, I asked him to be my BF.We were together for 3 years, we were so in love, intense, adventurous, lustful, powerful love.He made a down payment on an engagement ring for my 21st bday & I lost myself in thoughts of “can I do better”, as he comes from not the most financially stable family & he himself wasn’t very good in that sense.He dropped out of college..worked in retail etc. He has big goals & talents but has yet to make any big & significant changes in his life.I on the other hand am very ambitious, graduated college, work in my field & am around eligible bachelors who would do anything to get my attention, but that’s not where my heart lies..
after I broke up with him, I was told he was going through hell.I say hell, which sounds cliche but he was doing drugs & let’s just say not doing very well in general.
After about 3 months a girl he had worked in retail with or whatnot, helped him out, took care of him & asked him out & they started talking etc. & I suppose she became his rebound.They dated for about 8 months.
During the whole time we were broken up, which was a year & a half, he had contacted me on numerous occasions, asked to see me on his birthday, asked me out for coffee & a chit chat about 2/3 times etc. Oh & I had to give him back the cat he gave me as a kitten, so we met then as well.I knew he was never over me, I wasn’t over him but I had to force myself to be, for my future standing & my mother’s approval or whatnot.
Then, our cats had kittens together & he invited me over to see them..
I went to see them about twice & he broke down crying to me..telling me how he never stopped loving me, how every time he’s with her he wishes it was me..how he wants me to be his again…he tried to kiss me, I refused, then I went back again, something just kept pulling me back & we finally kissed, amongst other things & after a few outings together, we, well, you know.
I told him I couldn’t do this blah blah blah & I told him that I want to see him again but she has to be out of the picture.He broke up with her & told her that he’ll be seeing me.
For about 3 months we were dating, going out etc. I slept with him on numerous occasions & soon, I found out that he was not only just seeing her, but sleeping with her as well.
I tried killing him 🙂
Either way, many dramatic events after he begged me to call it even for breaking up with him & left her for me.
I am in love with him, I always have been.
I did date & hook up with other men while I wasn’t with him, I mean a year and a half is a long time, he has a very, very, very difficult time with accepting that but insists that what he did to me was my fault, says that if I never broke up with him, he would have never even been with that person, let alone sleep with me & her at the same time.
He has told her that he is in love with me, in front of me, he has kicked her out of his house in front of me, he has even mildly, physically assaulted her in front of me when she tried to hurt me…
It has been almost 2 months since the nightmare has ended, I have tried to explain to him that if he can’t move on with me from all the pain we have caused to each other, then we should each move on separately.He promised to leave the past in the past & move on.
He has done none of that.
He is very bipolar, constantly brings up the past & blames me for everything…he has made my daily life a nightmare.He asked me to carry his baggage & he would carry mine…regardless of all the things he did to me, all the lies & the “cheating” I have been very cool calm & collected, positive & generous.He has done nothing but be negative.
I could go on & on pouring specific details about this, but I need some feedback on this so far…I am very confused as to how to help the situation.
I love him & I know he loves me, but in a way, we both hate each other..
Its the most bizarre feeling there is.
If you have any advice, Chris, please, spill.
Thank uou.
felicia

December 4, 2014 at 9:50 pm

So say you stopped seeing each other, and he doesnt know why. You just up and left one day, after trying to get ahold of him to tell him you needed space. Tried to get him once when you were very desperate one night, failed and now is texting him with somewhat positive/neutral results. Should you explain to him why you gave up so that we can progress and he isnt so suspicious of me or what? I feel the need to, but then people say to not bring up negative memories, BUT i dont want him to think im a bitch :

admin

December 8, 2014 at 12:29 pm

Before we get into that may I ask why you left him? What made you want to leave?
felicia

December 8, 2014 at 11:09 pm

it’s a little embarrassing lol. In summary, i lost my virginity to him (i was uneducated on sex, i come from a religious family and was homeschooled) we didn’t use protection the few times we did. I got a uti, went to get it checked out/do a few tests at the doctor and they told me i could possibly have an std or it just a really bad uti. They also told me to tell him asap even though it was just a possibility. So i flipped out, my emotions were all over the place and before i got the test results back i just came clean to my mom and told her everything because i was so scared. She threatened to kick me out so that was her way of saying you need to end this right now. Test came back, no stds, we were both relieved though we knew that wasnt the case because he told me he has been safe and i believed him. I knew i just needed some time to get my shit together and work on myself, I wanted to be mature about it and not tell him over the phone but everytime i tried to get together with him he was “busy.” I figured he lost attraction to me because i had been needy and emotional the last 2 weeks. I deleted him off of fb so i could just get over him and then i regretted it and tried to get him back (in a way i sorta begged — huge mistake). Ever since i’ve been using your website and worked out all the problems in my life. now i have been getting short, but neutral replies from him. So the reason why i left was because i was manipulated into not seeing him anymore and just high emotions.
admin

December 9, 2014 at 1:28 pm

Understood….

Well, that must have been a very scary situation to go through. I am sorry you had to endure that but things are getting better.

You probably need to find a way to engage him on a deeper level so you can get some more positive responses from him.

Feelingblue

October 9, 2014 at 9:18 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend of four years one month ago. During our conversation, (not angry one)he said that we would talk in a month, but not to expect him to come begging me back, that he had too much pride. We are long distance, but have spent months together back and forth. I know guys don’t like the phone and Skype like girls. He said the only problem we had was the distance, and I agree. But, I just broke down because we would talk for a few minutes here and there. I feel like part of me was unreasonable, but I told him kindly several times that I needed to talk a little more and that I was hurting. He really didn’t make a change. The distance got to me and I broke up. I think he is waiting to see if I will call, because I am always the one to call back. But, I haven’t. He has made it very clear to me and others over the last four years that “I am the woman of his life.” I was planning to move to him next March. we have waited this long together.
Today I am feeling weak and want to call or text him. but to say what? Will he then say I was just playing a game? Will he be angry? My brain and heart are arguing. I agree that the man should be the one, because I am not masculine and a man needs to respect a woman to love her. And he respects me, he was just growing weary of the distance, like me.
Should I call, or continue to wait?
J

Julia

September 15, 2015 at 3:06 pm

This is the same situation I am having right now, feeling blue can u tell me plz how this situation turns out to be ?
admin

October 13, 2014 at 3:14 pm

Wait!

May I ask you why you wanted to break up with him?
Feelingblue

October 13, 2014 at 8:52 pm

I had spoken nicely about how I felt disconnected and he agreed and said it was the distance and we would work on it. he would for a couple of days and then trail off again. I just panicked I guess because we are not communicating the way we used to. I did call him this past Friday. He was kind and then mean and kind again. He said he was glad I called, but that he would never have called me again after I broke up with him. I understand, I mean I did break up. I told him that lack of talking, distance, etc. caused me to panic. He said we should talk again. He hasn’t called. We have never (in five years) gone a month and a week without talking. I don’t think he took me serious. He has a lot of pride.

Now what to do? Start over NC????

I appreciate you listening to me and everyone else here!

J

Lela Bones

October 8, 2014 at 2:10 am

So i was a sophomore in high school when i first started dating my ex. I will admit I am not good at relationships. A little after a month later I broke up with him. This was because it was summer and we never saw each other and the one time we did he did something stupid and I got mad at him. Looking back is was REALLY stupid for me to be mad at him. Then a month later I started talking to a guy who happened to be his best friend…and my ex didnt talk to me the rest of the summer. When school started up again this year i was still dating his friend. About a month ago I broke up with his friend because he kind of happened to be a jerk. I went an entire month ok, but all of a sudden today, sitting at lunch next to my ex i realized how much i really miss him and how stupid i was for breaking up with him. I think I blew any chance i may have had with him, but maybe not. HELP!!! I know I am only in high school and stuff, but i made a big mistake. I also think i was a little afraid of actually falling for him, so i tried to distract myself with other guys, which i am never doing again. But yeah, i messed up and was wondering if it was salvageable or not.

admin

October 8, 2014 at 1:08 pm

You just sitting next to him made you think that?
Lela Bones

October 8, 2014 at 10:01 pm

well i mean actually goofing around with him at lunch and being flirty…today someone asked my best friend if we got back together. she said idk, He said are they going to. She said idk. What if someone asks me that? i couldnt say no or yes… but yeah i with out a doubt miss him.

angel

October 7, 2014 at 8:44 pm

Hey chris,
I broke up with my boyfriend after being with him for a year the thing is im 19 and he is 37 now his age doesn’t bother me but in the last 3 months of our relationship we kept arguing I got tired of it one day my cousin had my phone I didn’t know he had texted me but my cousin did he responded to him like it was me and broke up with him saying he was too old and everything now mind u I was hurt after our last argument so I wasn’t really talking to him at the time..i was going through some stressfull times and it was right after our anniversary I was also feeling scared because ive been hurt in the past and I just didn’t want to be hurt again….so after we broke up an old flame came in my life 3-4 days later things heated up and we ended up engaged but I still had these strong feelings for my ex I mean I was deeply in love with him and I know he was deeply in love with me…I found out this old flame was using me I broke it off…I didn’t think I wanted to go baack to my ex I just wanted to be friends for awhile but I jus couldn’t get him out of my head…we are currently trying to figure out what to do but im afraid im going to lose him permenantly he’s so afraid of his age and afraid im going to hurt him again and ive tried to explain everything but he is still doubting but he says he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me either…the thing is I can’t just be friends with him and be happy with someone else when I am stil completely in love with him…being with the old flame made me realize im afraid to let people love me but it also made me realize all I want is my ex and im ready to goto battle for him no matter how long it take…I keep thinking back to when he hurt me I let him back in although it was hard for me and we made it through a lot of things and he has helped me in a lot of ways please I need some advise on what to do

admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:59 pm

37 and 19…. That’s a bit of an age discrepancy.

You broke up with him correct?

Michelle

October 6, 2014 at 11:34 pm

I just Broke up with my ex like 3 weeks ago. I wouldn’t say our relationship was horrible but one thing I didn’t like was not much communication. We would go a few days with out talking unless I texted, then after a while I stop doing that and seemed to get more texts from him. And when we first started dating we would go a week and not talk but I had expressed that I didn’t like that and things changed a little. When we first started dating I told him I don’t really want to be in a relationship but he really wanted to make us official and said I love you first and wasn’t bothered that I wasn’t there yet but when I did is did seem like we was in love.
See I had broke up with him because I was told he had been hanging out wit his ex,which was true, that really didn’t bother me to bad. What made me call quits was he was with her and another friend of theirs for my birthday and had told me where he was going to be out of town for buiness but lied about little parts of those days and who he was with. I wouldn’t have broken up with him if he had just told me that. Also I had come to find out he had told the girl he loved her sometime during our relationship. So after I texted him about calling it quits he just replied which was like the next day something like is that my real feelings regarding my text. And we haven’t talked since, I’m just not sure how to go about it I really care about him and he would tell me all the time he loves me and I began to love him too but that what has my mind bottled is with all that we still haven’t talked I haven’t contacted him nor him me, just him liking my Facebook post. I do still love him and think he might feel the same, I would like to see if I should take the step even if we just became friends again, I miss him.

admin

October 7, 2014 at 1:52 pm

Yes, I think the communication thing would annoy me as well.

Is he just like that in general though?
Michelle

October 10, 2014 at 5:20 am

Yes its seems to be the way he is. When we made things official communication became more. And he recently messaged me saying he miss me i told i do as well but he made it that way to miss me because he hasnt contacted me his excuse was that he dont have his phone any more, but im thinking just like he messaged me he could have been done that. Then he goes to say he’s empty without me. So i asked what’s on he’s mind and got no response after. Now I’m just confused on what the point was to contact me.

Jessica

September 5, 2014 at 10:33 pm

So I know I must sound really desperate, but I just broke up with my boyfriend today and I’m already depressed. I am in love with him but he is studying abroad and he never has time to talk to me. We’ve barely spoken in the last two weeks and I’ve made it clear to him today that I can’t handle a relationship like that because Its just getting me depressed. I’m also going to start school soon and hes going to become even busier as well and we just don’t have any time for each other anymore but were still in love. Lately all we’ve done is fight because im unable to handle his schedule. How do you reckon I get over him?

admin

September 15, 2014 at 2:37 pm

First thing you need to do is implement the no contact rule.

Rachel

September 4, 2014 at 7:35 pm

Hi,
I broke up with my boyfriend about three months ago. I thought that my feelings for him had changed, but now I find myself just thinking about him all the time. He was a fantastic and caring boyfriend, I can’t believe I hurt him so bad. Well I’ve talked to him about everything and he doesn’t trust me anymore. I don’t know how to try and get back together when he doesn’t believe a word I say. I still love him and I know he misses me too.. I don’t know how to fix everything.

admin

September 5, 2014 at 12:25 pm

Lets dive in to why you thought your feelings changed?

What happened to make you feel that?

Missy

September 1, 2014 at 6:33 am

I broke up with my boyfriend who i loved and thought about on daily basis. we met when I was 18 he was a little younger than me at that time we eventually parted ways.Well about 5 years ago we found each other and I ended up moving to where he lived. I had 2 teens and he had a 3 yr old at that time. Things went good up until about 3 years ago things between us fell apart our differences got in the way causing heated discussions and I blamed him for everything and didn’t look at myself as part of the problem and left him and moved in town in the city we live in. I have tried to keep in contact with him, most of the time he wanted me to come over and we always had sex when I did. Recently he texted me and said he started seeing someone else bur we had a talk before that if he did start seeing someone it will be short and that I will always be apart of his and his daughgter’s lives. She still calls me mom after our break up and friends with benefits thing. Now he is seeing someone else and I can’t stop thinking about him I love him and miss terribly I cannot see myself without him in my life.. I desparately want him back. I know I broke it off with him But I cry every night with regrets and I am angry at myself if only I communicated better instead of not listening to what he was actually saying how we need to come to a happy medium about our differences. How can I get him to look at me the way he used to with Love and Happiness, instead of disappointment and anger and sadness and still asking me why and that I really broke his heart

admin

September 2, 2014 at 12:32 pm

By becoming the ungettable girl!

Reyanna

July 8, 2014 at 3:12 am

My boyfriend and i broke up because he cheated on me with my cousin but i miss him i still love him i feel like im nothing without him i just feel like i need a guy to make me feel like im worth something i want him back i dont know how to get him back i cant i want him back but no use in trying.

admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:37 pm

With your cousin?

You can’t be serious?????

Shan

July 4, 2014 at 7:52 pm

By the way, I should add that my ex is a very insecure person.

His last long term relationship before me was about 20 years ago!

All his friends said he was never interested in anyone in the 9 to 12 years they had known him.

His fingernails are so bitten theres hardly any nail there!

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:52 pm

Def sensing a commitment phobe now that you said the 20 years thing.
Shan

July 10, 2014 at 5:09 pm

Yea I think so, although I reckon he would have kept plodding along as long as there was no “hassle”. I had a “look” from him the other day when he passed me at work, kinda of half annoyed, half “thanks a lot”. Well at least he looked at me :(.
I just dont know what to do. Its so hard for it to be like this after what he had together. We were best friends and barely apart :((.
He wanted us to be friends but I said it couldnt work.

Shan

July 4, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Hi Chris,
I had a “out with it” talk with my ex last night, finally.

He is STILL angry about our breakup (initiated by me.. and then he refused to work things out), but I also think he makes excuses.

I broke it off 3 months ago, because of a misunderstanding. I was not very well at the time, and he had promised to do something for me which he didnt do. He admitted he had lied when he agreed to do that thing for me….. And feeling as low and unwell as I was, I told him to go screw himself. It was our first argument… ! After nearly 9 months of getting on really great bar those last 2 weeks where actually we still got on well, those 2 weeks I was just down due to external factors which got resolved.

Thing is, he knew that I had a medical condition before we met and that it could flare up. This is what happened. And he walked out on me, when I needed him most.

We have had several talks since our breakup, and he told me that he accepted that I was not well at the time, and that it wasnt my fault. I thought that he had accepted that I was truly sorry, and understood the reasons why it all happened. He also knows that things have changed for me since, in a big way. I dont allow my medical condition to rule my life, and its become a minor irritation now. Im living my life to the full again. However, despite his mixed messages since our breakup about whether or not he wants to work it out, he never told me why we couldnt work it out, and since we broke up he has treated me sometimes like dirt.

I had already told him that being “friends” wont work. I went no contact on him started 2 weeks ago I broke it by emailing him, then started again and then he broke it by following me and starting a conversation. EAch time I would get upset after. Because he was acting like nothing happened between us. So I decided yesterday enough was enough and turned up at his apartment to have it out with him.

Hell, he is a difficult and impossible person. You know the kind who want to argue over every word you say. Even argue over what was said in our only argument?

Anyway when I said I had decided it was best not to have contact with him anymore (which I said was in the last week… ie after the stupid email I sent!)… because I felt he had not treated me very well, he got very defensive and angry and started talking about the way I had broke up with him. He kept pointing it out that “I was the one who had sent him away and told him to go be single”… because he wouldnt do blah blah. and that I was demanding this and that, I honestly thought he was over these things, but obviously not!

He told me that he wanted to be with someone “as laid back as him”…. he just wants an easy life. He doesnt want a woman who is demanding (I asked him to do ONE thing! which meant something to me at that time), he doesnt want any negativity or problems… yea thats realistic!

Chris this is a guy with a whole list of faults! He is a long term bachelor sleeps next to a bicycle, who cant chop an onion or paint a wall! Despite all this I stayed with him, and he wants someone “more laid back..”?

When I FINALLY got it out of him why he thought it couldnt work, he said he just saw that the negativity and being demanding would never end… although there were only 2 weeks of it.
He went on to say that by turning up at his apartment and demanding answers I was proving that I hadnt changed!

Well I think after all the hard work I had done in accepting blame and making changes in my life, I deserved to know. He also needed to hear how walking out on me when I needed him, had affected me. Walking out on anyone in those circumstances is not nice. I think he got the message..

Anyway, I decided that I dont want to have anything more to do with him. He isnt being nice at the moment. He cant seem to recall all the nice and positive things we did. He just wants to focus on the 2 negative weeks…But he generally focuses on peoples bad points anyway.

I think he is a commitment phobe!

Im going off the radar. I told him I wasnt interested in knowing him, if this is the way he is with people.

Chris, I loved this guy with all of my heart. Hell we were happy. very happy until something went wrong!

What do you think will happen ?

Will he think about what I said ?

Will time soften him up and make him realise what a fool he is ?

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:52 pm

Do you think he is hung up about this medical condition too?

Tasha

June 9, 2014 at 11:48 am

Hi Chris, I broke up with my ex 6 months ago, after a very dramatic fight. Our relationship was serious and lasted five years. The last few years we faced financial hardships that made us fight a lot and our lives gradually drift apart. I eventually found someone new. Thought moving on was the right thing to do. My ex was devastated.. I left a wreck behind. Cruel words were initially said. Although he managed to move on and found someone new, he did forgive me telling me I’ll always be the one for him. He always cared and contacted me from time to time. I had feelings of remorse and true love for him the whole time, which kept me from really moving. After some life changing events I decided to break up with the other guy. He did nothing wrong, however there is no one else I wanna be but my ex. He knows I want him back (it’s been almost 1,5 weeks). He also wants to return he said though we’ll need our time to ‘heal’. I proved him how sorry and changed I am. He was there for me when I recently faced a health problem. The thing is he doesn’t know how to break up with this new g/f as she’s only been good to him, he has feelings for her he says and doesn’t wanna hurt her. He is an extremely sensitive guy. She herself is extremely hurt since she always knew he had strong feelings for me (and lately proved it). Besides, he told her once she met her that I was the love of his life. He needs time to work things out he said but it seems he can’t keep himself from calling me every few days (so far at least) to see if I am ok and express how terrible he feels being in this position. This is nerve wrecking. How long should I have to wait? Will he ever find the courage to let go of her? I only expect the worse. Any advice will be appreciated.

admin

June 9, 2014 at 3:35 pm

How long has he been with her?
Tasha

June 9, 2014 at 6:58 pm

4 months or so…during those months he kept telling to my family members (he kept contact) that she didn’t mean anything to him, being with her was just a reaction to what happened, that he loved me etc…and everytime he called me or referred to me it was as if nothing had changed (including the different names we used between us that showed intimacy)..

Michelle

May 13, 2014 at 6:29 am

I am in AGONY because I am no longer with my ex but I closed the doors on him out of differences and hoping
for a greener pasture on the other side! IT was VERY
Bright Green, but turned brown just as quickly! I left my good man in VAIN! HOW May I get him BACK???!!!
We Shared 5 great growing years together, he still takes good care of me if I need anything and still gives me a car to use since I lost mine last year. He is a VERY hard working man who has a lot on his plate like myself! It’s been 5 months I have no desire for any other man and already past 40 and Time is short!
That is what started it, but I did the damage, but wish I could take time back and never wrote that
sweet good bye poem! He is much nicer to me now too!
He also has a big 50 b day coming up! I want to throw him a party at the park with all his friends because he
has come so far and just few folks know his bday, I showed this man a way to bear fruit, I am proud of all his accomplishments since his dream was realized!
He just didn’t want stress or chaos in his life, that would be me, but he is a type a personality and I have adhd! We also still have each others house keys. All I can think of is improve my work and hope he comes back, he really isn’t marketable so I am not concerned
he has a g/f but I wasn’t sure if Aug be too soon and afraid of the answer or if need more time to prove to him I am real!
I was thinking of writing and even stronger love return poem, to give my apologies and desire. The sad thing is he picked me up, and i never wanted to date him, now I had him leave on his how b/c the poem and I want him back in the worse way, he really grew on me
very quickly, so much like my grandfather too, business first! I NEVER wanted to let him go, but I did!!!! WTF? OMG! I just want to die! I want him by my side! I hope I can focus on work and improve my
quality of life it seems so impossible when I can’t see his or touch his face or hand every day! What did I do!????? I am so screwed! I finally see the LIGHT,
but I am on the other side! UGH! Why I read that POEM!

admin

May 13, 2014 at 5:37 pm

Have you followed any of the advice on this site?

cheche

April 23, 2014 at 1:18 pm

Hi Chris,

I have been dating this guy for over a year now and like a typical couple, we argue usually over text and its becoming more frequent like every week instigated by me. He broke up with me last October because he found out and read most of my personal messages to my guy friend. There was a little flirting but nothing serious. After 2 weeks of NC, he came to me and wanted us back together. After that everything was fine until we had these fights and he usually keep on mentioning what happened during our last breakup. The past couple of weeks have been tough for me. Usually when I have my period I have this irritable and erratic mood. So we had an argument over a text for the reason that I was tired of him not texting me almost every night. His reasons were he was busy with his kids (he has two kids from his previous marriage). He has custody of them for the summer. Anyway, we argue but he told me he dont want us to fight and we made up. Then after a week, I got angry again for no apparent reason and he told me hes tired of my attitude and my way of thinking. But we made up a day after. But this week, was the last falling out. He was out with his family last Easter Sunday and I was out with my family 3 hours away from him. He texted me five times and I didn’t get to reply cause I was having a stomach flu. I got diarrhea along with vomiting. When he texted me again thats when I told him I havent been feeling really well and I have diarrhea and vomiting as well. Then suddenly, he texted me this “When did that start? Can I ask you something?” Then he called me up and asked me if I have gotten my period. I’m 30 and hes 31. I told him don’t worry cause Im not pregnant. I asked him why are you scared of me getting pregnant? And he told me he sucks at being a dad to his kids and he doesnt want to suck with another child more. I was heartbroken and I cried with his answers. After a few hours I texted him I wanted to end our relationship for the mere reason that I want someone who wants to have children with me. He didnt answer me back.
After three days, I kinda missed him so I texted him and told him I was wrong and Im sorry and I wanted us back together and that Im going to his city today and was hoping I could see him. I still havent got a reply from him.

What does this all mean? Am i going to assume that this is his way of telling me to leave him alone and move on? Are we really done for sure? How should I know if were done if he isnt talking to me? Ive been crying for days now. Please help.
Jenna

April 23, 2014 at 3:25 am

Hey!
So I broke up with my boyfriend about 9 months ago because I was leaving for college and felt like I was to young to settle down. I haven’t met anyone I like better and realize that I made a terrible mistake. I’ve been trying to contact him and establish our relationship to the way it was before I broke up with him, but I don’t know how to do that. I’ve sent text messages, tried calling him, and done other things to tell him I’m sorry, but nothing seems to work. I’m afraid he might be interested in other girl. I really have no idea how to approach this anymore. Please help!
Victoria

April 15, 2014 at 9:06 pm

Hello!
At this time I broke up w my boyfr because before that he always used to break up w me and at this time I gave up and Left because I realize there is no future and he lied to me over and over again! He was shocked when I left and he couldn’t believe it and now its a month pass by he is asking around about me but still hasn’t contact me. Should i still wait for him to call me and how long more I should wait?
Candace

April 14, 2014 at 11:55 am

After 4 months of dating my younger bf I broke with him because stop spending time with me. Even after I told him that I wanted to spend more time. Needless to say I regret it the moment I did it. He says he loves me but feels like he can’t make me happy but I want him back and don’t know how to get him back. Help! Plz!
Claudia

April 11, 2014 at 3:09 pm

Hello Chris, it’s been two weeks since I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 9 months. We had a beautiful relationship, we had crazy chemistry and such a wonderful bond. We both have nothing bad to say about eachother because we truly had something special and out breakup was good it wasn’t nasty. The reason why I decided to break up with him was because I wasn’t really happy anymore because I felt unloved and insecure from his lack of affection. At the beginning of our relationship he was so passionate about making me feel special, however when we turned 2 years he just stopped being as affectionate as he was before and that made me very insecure and we would constantly fight about it. I tried everything to try and fix our relationship and stop all the arguing but he just didn’t put the same effort as I did. I got tired of giving and giving and receiving nothing. He always told me that he loved me and cared about me but his actions didn’t show that. When I broke up with him he didn’t try fixing things he just agreed that we should break up because he said he was tired of being the reason for my misery and he just wanted me to be happy. Deep down I wanted him to fight for me and try to win me back but he hasn’t tried reaching out to me and neither have I because I’m not the type to beg a man. It’s such a shame to have ended a relationship with so much potential. I’m really scared that he’s not going to contact me again just because he wants me to be happy but I really really want him to come back. My question is do you think there’s a good possibility that he will come back and want to work on our relationship? I know it’s only been two weeks and I’ve been really patient and will continue to do so but I just want to be with him more than anything.