Using Reverse Psychology To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Amy

January 21, 2019 at 2:53 am

My boyfriend just suddenly moved out while i was in class. He lied and said that he was going to be working out of town but really he had moved out. I didn’t even realize he was gone until the next day. It felt like my whole soul dropped out of my body. I called him all day but no answer, he’d only reply back with the “can’t talk right now, text me” auto texts. Finally, a couple of days after we finally talked and he was on such a high horse like as if he was punishing me. The issue was that he needed space without having to answer to me and he said he didn’t leave before because he didn’t want to be on child support. I begged and pleaded with him but he said no he’d washed his hands with me. I want him back. I know he loves me and is trying to open my eyes or make me conform to how he expects me to be for him but its hard in many ways when its mostly for his ego purposes. I’ve already begged and pleaded so where do I go from here?

Chris Seiter

January 21, 2019 at 3:46 am

Hi Amy! Its good that you have learned that begging is not the way to go. You need an ex recovery plan to help you forward and sometimes implementing no contact its the way forward. Tap into all my resources here at the site!

Butterfly

March 20, 2018 at 6:21 am

Hello Amor. Thanks for asking. We were together for 2months maximum and its been 4 months of his confusion and unstable acts. He’s been coming and leaving. Now its a total shut down for 1 month. but recently he’s been trying to purposely Message in a group where he never used to talk. He started to react when i changed the goup pic. His message was kind of bossy. i ignored. He has unblocked me on whatsapp and he’s updating pictures to show his interest on another girl. He’s doing things to irritate me. The point is he changed his picture immediately after i changed mine.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 25, 2018 at 4:47 pm

Why did you break up and did you keep talking to him, begging him or chasing him after it? Because it looks like that’s what happened and he wants you to stop and now that you’re ignoring him, he’s just trying to get back control by being angry..

butterfly

March 11, 2018 at 7:27 am

He strongly said to leave him alone without even giving a proper reason. i am confused and lost. He seems to be very angry for a petty thing and he’s holding on to it and not tryring or even ready to understand my side. He keeps pushing me away every single time. He says that he doesn’t have any neccessity. What do i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 14, 2018 at 12:00 pm

Hi Butterfly,

When and why did you break up and how long were you together?

Lilyyyyyyyyy

February 25, 2018 at 7:26 am

Hey
My baby and i were in a relationship for 5months… i had insecuities I diubted him because of a bitchs game plan I fellinto that planI broke up with him yes now i get ut i didnt give him much freedom soecially ti talk to this soecific gurl for i onew what shehad on mind despite this i saw him going hime with her post college that day qnd i yelled at him that i am breaking up two days later we had a priggramme at college and this time it went v v v messy we had an open break up dhewas by his side somehow he wasnt he he was different he shouted at me too he said he never wants to see me again and also that henever dated this girl but now he will This was last year 2017 just beforenew year on 23rd dec then 1 week on not speaking but he stalked my fake acc with his god…. he got into a relationship withthat bitch Did things that he usually wouldnt like keeping her image as his insta dp getting her gifts like he usually doesmt do tbat Plus rubbing her on my face in the college once college reopened after the new year break 2 more weeks and it turned super messy we were the talk of the college Callimg each ither by names Anger DRevenge Desperation etc… later by 23rd of Jan I was like fuck this I statrted trying Law of attraction okay It was good peaceful I saw them together always uk But i was trying to be like fuck ut sob sob uk Thenon the 23rd she told me that they were together even when we were together I said oh ho no probelm hehe to hide my emotions but i askrd her few mins later that but he was with me too mn she said its okay na… and uk what now on 21st feb or 20th I got to know that he wasnt even withher sucha bitch dhe is Now After a hikingtrip together when he me and that bitch were togwther on the bus and along the journey Imagine £ msgd him on insta that i am back8n off from your stuff i am a good person i dont daboage people’s relationship then doesnt mayter if or not there are friends to me indicared to that botch Then i have gone nc absolutely I dont even see him in the recess and he just fidgits like craxy and even walks near my class to see if i am there ir now my whatsapp too is almost off the while day Yeah and i unblocked him on 23rd jan when that bitch told me idk why lol and in return i blocke that bitch uk she made me miserable with her fake whtsapp status abt him and her I was borderline deaduk And when i unblocked him iraised he had already unblocked me Uk I was :/( Now ik he loves me But is he still with her? Or have they broken up? Pls help me %This is my crazy situation y friends only a few sane ones say that he always gets to places where he can see me atleast once Uk he has ego thing for other friemds of mine abused him like hell. Tht day of break up and lit frd this idea in my mind that ye is a dick and he cheated etc… i felt love uk We had some moments that words cant just ex0la8n … like heavenly… pls we love each other how to get back? I ll be indebted and grateful always! Pls helpe………. evenon the day of the trip my f riends saw him seeing me when i was speaking uk He wasnt even withthat bitch but the bitch and her 3other f riends spread stuff that yeah they are tigethet u k basically this isshe is… 8dk doing this … what to do:/ he doesnt even talk 5o her much now yet she puts it to others and me toothat yeah they are wonderfully togetherand uk i womt get back with him or egen think 9f doing that unyil they are happy together You can fell this right thins wont be right And this emotional jerk tjat I am That firl is using this teick to keep me away And my guy is idk what stubborn or scared or idk what to make a move… how should i give him hints I still love him by statying in absolute nc?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 12:25 pm

Hi Lily,

You don’t.. NC is your restart. You’re going to start a new routine in it, be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media. After it initiate contact to slowly build rapport while continuing the new routine you started in nc.

Christina

February 16, 2018 at 1:44 pm

My boyfriend of almost 3 years walked out the other day. His ex wife has convinced him I lied to him and did some really sneaky things(none of which are true, she just has it out for me). I did already initiate contact, but I have not begged him to come back. I told him I will miss him and that I hope he will be ok. I told him that I hope he will get clarity and see the truth and that we can hopefully talk about it someday. Since I’ve already messed up by contacting him first, what should I do? I don’t think he has fully made up his mind. He only took about 3 days worth of stuff with him and has only 1 time asked if he can come get some of his stuff, but has not actually done it. He also has 2 vehicles and he hasn’t come to get the other one. I think he’s torn, so what should I do now to get him to lean towards coming back to me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 19, 2018 at 12:11 pm

Hi Christina,

check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

MB

January 6, 2018 at 10:56 am

I’m following this no contact method since November 2017 . The last time he tried calling me was 28th November 2017.I didn’t receive his call because he was being blocked by me thereafter I tried calling him once he didn’t receive. I’m scared by now he has lost interest in me and going along with someone. In between these months he never tried to find out about me neither tried contacting me. What is going in mind presently will he return or moved away?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 1:03 pm

Hi mb,

When and why did you break up?

Lis

December 23, 2017 at 7:06 pm

Hi Amor,
3 years of relation mostly LD. When he broke up me about a month ago, I said like ”I am happy with you and Iove you and things gonna work…” during his ‘ the breakup talk” but didnot do anything like begging or pleasing to not to leave me. I cut all of the contacts immediately. A week and half after, I discovered your site and learn about NC. I realized that I did that without knowing it. During 21 days he did not try to reach out to me either. I was active posting my cool stuff starting the week 2. When I initiated first contact with texts like you always suggest, he did not reply even he read it. Then I waited a week and I initited again with another text message with a hook ‘ hey you need to hera what I jus saw” but he didnot reply at all ( he read it ) and he continue posting on social media to make it clear that he is ignoring me. I decicded to not contact him again until he contact me because I tired of being ignored. I am still active on posting photos and he try to make me realize that he is doing many things that he cannot do in our relationship.( shareing photo with a female friend, going out with the friend circle that I used to hate.) I think he realized that the life without me is better. And he try to show me that. What do you think about it. Any comment or suggestion? Thank you for your effort.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 25, 2017 at 9:13 pm

Hi Lis,

don’t worry a lot of girls do it. I hope you didn’t send an emotional text… I think you need to restart nc, do 30 days, and do more of posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours.. if you blocked him, make your posts public.. It looks like he has moved on, so he has to think that by the point you initiate contact again, you’re either moving on or has moved on too and just being friendly because he saw it through your posts.. Don’t say in your first text that you just want to be friends or you’re just being friendly.. just do it, don’t say it..

tamanna khan

December 5, 2017 at 3:23 pm

My bf ditched me….. I still love him…we had 6 months live-in relationship and now we broke up
M following no contact rule..but I called him on his birthday he rejected my call still I sent him birthday msg bt no rpy….
10 days have completed for my no contact rule yet no respond from my call side ….plzz guide me I can’t live with out him….can I get him back.???

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 5, 2017 at 8:47 pm

HI Tamanna,

no contact means no intiating and no replying.. that means you need to restart the count of your nc..and check this one:
Does Begging For Your Ex Back Even Work?

Nivedha

November 4, 2017 at 10:37 am

Hi my relationship with my bf is 7yrs i m 25 now . We had good relationship until college days then after i got job because of his insecure feeling we fought very badly even when i am honest in my relationship he himself imagined and worried that i will cheat him even when there is so much fight for past 2 yrs we both were happy when hanging out but when he comes to job again his insecure feeling spoiled our relationship. In my anger and ego instead of making him understand i myself made the problem big by doing the stuff which he doesnt like just in anger. Atlast our parents got to know about the relationship and they did not accept us. Even then we were together by fighting then 6 months back he completely broke up with me n got new female friends but he is not into any new relationship but i am scared what if he will get someone new after these many months. I tried begging pleading but he is ignoring me too much then i tried no contact for 50 days but no use. Again i called and begged no use. He did not call for my birthday last week even on that day i called him but he was so rude. He knew i cant live without him and i feel he has atleast few love for me left over but he s not getting back. I m literally dying please help me i want him back i truly love him. I cant replace him in my life forever please help me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 5, 2017 at 6:21 am

Hi Nivedha,

get a therapist and read this one:
Does Begging For Your Ex Back Even Work?

Samantha

October 11, 2017 at 3:06 pm

Hi! So much ex boyfriend and I were together for almost a year and a half. We broke up about three weeks ago. During the breakup, I fought for us, begging and pleading, but eventually accepted it. He said there’s too much love to let it go and that he wants us to work out but not sure if his heart is in it anymore. He was crying the whole time, even kissed me and said I love you when he dropped me off home after the breakup. The next day he was supposed to take me to the airport. I asked him if it’s still a good idea, to which he responded he doesn’t mind at all and he’s doing okay, then I said on second thought don’t take me to the airport, then he said he understands and he’s so sorry for all of this. I said I’m sorry too and that he has a good trip (he went out of town for a week for work). Later that day he said he’s having a hard time and asked if it’s okay we continue talking that week. I said I don’t think it’s a good idea and we need the space to think. Then he said he agrees with that, it’s tough honestly but maybe it’s what’s best for us right now. I didn’t respond. A week later, he messaged hey how are you? I said doing well, got out of a dance class, hope all is well with you. Then he responded that he hopes things are great with me with school and everything. He said let him know when I have time if I want him to drop off my stuff (2 towels I don’t care about and he lives an hour away with traffic). Then I decided to go cold turkey on him. He’s giving me inconsistent messages. I’m still in his fb profile and cover photo too, which doesn’t mean much. I still love him. I’ve been dismissive at his attempts to talk so I think he gets it.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 12, 2017 at 12:05 pm

Hi Samantha,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Rashmee Sarmah

October 1, 2017 at 2:10 am

Hello, thanks for your respond. It’s been almost 1 month that I m following no contact rule. Regarding improvement and social media I can say that I m trying a lot to concentrate in my studies, hanging out with friends and uploaded good pics in facebook.. One thing I also have to say that during no contact rule when I changed my profile pic in Facebook that day itself my ex also changed his profile pic.. So is it a symol of anything that he wants me back ?? Please give me suggestions.. Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 11:37 am

That’s a good sign,it means he’s checking you’mr account..Continue improving yourself, do nite things and posting in social media even after nc while you slowly build rapport

Mike

September 29, 2017 at 7:32 pm

Hi, me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago. She dumped me. At first I was devastated and begged her back but she stood firm on her decision. Then I didn’t contact her for a while (like 2 weeks) and she message me back just talking like normal friends but with some kind of care. Now it’s been a month and i dropped her a letter saying the things I realized I did wrong in our relationship, I’m sorry and I’m not expecting to get back, but asked if she wants a chance to get to know each other from scratch again. Did i make the wrong move by giving her such a letter? How should I approach this situation in order to make my chances of winning her back higher? Thank you.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 7:47 pm

Hi Mike,

Restart nc, do at least 30 days and check this one:
exgirlfriend recovery

Rashmee Sarmah

September 26, 2017 at 10:37 am

Hi.. I m 29 years old girl. Recently my ex broke up with me.I met him in the month of July through a matrimonial site. Afterdat my parents visited him home. We dated 5 Sundays regularly.. He was quite interesting in our relationship.. Hold my hand also.. Very loving and caring. But suddenly after their parents visit at our home his behavior changed. They asked about early marriage during this October only which was not possible for us. We said we can go for marriage in coming March 2018. But slowly the boy showed his disinterest and confusions regarding our marriage. When I asked him about compatibility he expressed his confusion. That made me very disappointed and I said him ‘ good bye ‘ as I was very upset. But afterdat I contacted him, called him so many times one night, lastly he picked up my phn saying that I m disturbing him. After 2 days he called my father day he doesn’t want to go forward. Since then I m following ur no contact rule. Actually I love him so much and want to spend my whole life with him. Please let me know what should I do now, or did I do anything wrong in this process. I need your kind help and suggestions.
Regards
Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 7:46 pm

Hi Rashmee,

how many day have you been in no contact, how much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting in social media?

Rashmee Sarmah

September 24, 2017 at 11:18 am

Hi..my age is 29 years. Recently I had an arrange marriage proposal from a guy aged 34 years in the month of July.. But now he broke up with me. We met 5 Sundays regularly and he holds my hand also. He was very caring and loving towards me. But suddenly he showed his disinterest and confusion regarding our marriage. I became disappointed and said him ‘good bye’. But after that I tried to contact him. One night called him so many times but he said not to disturb him. And officially told to my father that he does not want to go forward. But I truely loved him nd want to spend my whole life with him. I used ur no contact rule. But I don’t get any results. Please give me suggestions

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 7:47 pm

Hi Rashmee,

how many day have you been in no contact, how much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting in social media?

Lilly

August 21, 2017 at 9:34 am

hey ! I had posted on this website last January as me and my boyfriend had broken up . In the beginning of June he texted me asking to be friends. We started being friends with benefits ( it was more of a dating thing as we didnt go out with anyone else). We stopped things again 2-3 weeks ago . I was begging but I stopped. Last Sat he texted me whether he should come to a reunion we both got invited to and when i told him im not coming he asked why . I talked to him plain and simple . What shall I do ?

Lilly

August 23, 2017 at 7:23 am

What do you mean do things right this time ?
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 24, 2017 at 10:06 pm

Sorry, I didn’t explain it well. Do the no contact rule, be active in improving yourself and in posting during and after it while slowly building rapport and don’t be friends with benefits again.
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:46 pm

Hi lilly,

do one last no contact rule of at least 45 days, and do things right this time.

Yung mama

July 2, 2017 at 4:17 am

I’ve been using your articles as a pillar of support since last July, 2016, when my significant other left me 6 months pregnant. Fast forward 3 months I delivered alone, sadly. He disappeared with the girl he had been cheating on me with, his intern. He changed his phone number around our daughters due date. After their relationship crumbled he reached out to me in late March. I was doing fine. I looked great and had just bought a new BMW. So I made several long trips to visit him in April and eventually moved to his new town. This was unexpected. But he kept saying things like “I wish I could be with you and our daughter all of the time”…I took this literally.

The first month, May, I was living in his new town (two blocks away) he made up a different excuse every weekend to leave town. Then on Memorial Day weekend his landlord ratted him out and told me about the other woman. I was devastated. My baby daddy tried to lie. He eventually came clean and said they had sex several times throughout May. We had just reconnected. We were having sex regularly. He played me, again.

He went back and forth saying he will never talk to her again to saying he didn’t want me. Then over Father’s Day weekend he took me on two of the most beautiful dates. I’ve gone above and beyond to help him in every way.

My beautiful daughter is now 8 months old and is in my arms now. I want nothing more than to provide her with a stable united family. Not a broken home. He flaked on us again today. This morning he said its reaching the “restraining order point”…I cringe. This man used to be obsessed with me! Now I’m the one chasing him. I am so much better looking and younger, not to brag. But he avoids me.

Will no contact be effective now that he’s met our daughter? He is HIGHLY emotional and truly believes he was the best BF I’ve ever had despite abandoning me pregnant (lol men)

Feeling desperate
Young Mama
*I’ve read all the articles but think this one would apply best as long as I’m not too obvious

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 4, 2017 at 9:12 pm

The nc nor the child is not going to change him.. A child definitely should be more than enough to change. New parents always said their child gave them direction, but your blessing already came out for months now and he’s still like that. Honestly if I were you, I would be open for him to be a good father but he has to make the effort..he has to be the one traveling to me and my daughter. He has to struggle to prove to me that he is not the same man anymore because if I had a daughter, I would love for her to have a father and I’m not going to block or stop her father from doing that but I would also be an example to my daughter on how she should be treated or what she would allow other people to do to her…

Jess

March 26, 2017 at 9:09 am

Hi,
We have been through this break up thing for around 4 months, either of us keep going back every time. Recently when I stopped contacting him, he called me saying he wanted me back, but then we had few arguments abt getting settled. I feel he loves me still but his parents doesn’t like the idea of us together. I don’t know how to make him understand. His parents agreed to our marriage but eventually took advantage of the small misunderstandings we had. They re emotionally controlling him, n my bf is bit immature kind. He keeps checking on me but tells me he doesn’t love me that’s the reason for wanting to break up n not his parents. His father called me once n told me they would go to the extent of suiciding if we talk to each other. I actually had a breakup before, the guy cheated on me n it was 7 yr relationship, and I lost my virginity to him. After a year I got into relationship with my bf, he was my childhood frnd, he knew everything abt my past except fr this big mistake that I did, not revealing abt my physical relationship until we got together. That affected him a lot, but we had been pretty close n I couldn’t think of anyone else being my better half ever, n he felt that too, that’s y we took it forward to marriage. What should I do to make him realize he has to stand up for his decision to his parents, he wants to make his parents happy than make himself happy. As of now, with all begging and fighting he had told me not to come in his life at all. But he has not blocked me everywhere, he gives some channel to communicate him everytime. Biggest problem is we work for the same company n we might be going for post graduation to the same college.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 26, 2017 at 5:12 pm

Hi Jess,

check this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

V.

March 16, 2017 at 9:26 pm

Hello there, I would really like your help..

My (ex) boyfriend and I have been together for over two years (I’m 18 now and he’s 20). We met on a webite similar to FB, and got together pretty quick. Our relationship is long distance, however we did meet once.
Anywho, since the start of the relationship we frequently argued, but we would make up pretty quick. The arguments would vary in severity, and it always hurt to a certain point, but we’d always end up working it out somehow. This has been going on for two years but I have never stopped loving him, and he seemed to have forgiven me as well when I was the one to blame for a certain argument. We finally met in person around 7 months ago and it was the most amazing week ever.. we were both so in love, he showed all the signs of real love, he even brought his whole family along to meet me; basically, meeting for the first time truly couldn’t be better.

However, a few months ago, we had a really silly argument and he broke up with me – which was very unusual for him to do since he’d never truly want to break up before. He told me that this was the ‘biggest one yet’ and blocked me. I didn’t respond at first because I thought that it was better we let our anger subside and talk reasonably after we both cool down.. however after a few weeks, I contacted him again (on another website) and he didn’t reply.
I contacted again via texting, and he replied, but said he wanted nothing to do with me.. so the begging began. He eventually unblocked me after a two months.. but he told me that he does not want me back. I tried reasoning with him, asking him why he came to this decision and he told me that he does not love me anymore.. he told me that he does not feel what he used to.
I cried, I begged more, and I begged for another chance to which he eventually agreed to (however he said he wouldn’t be with me until he feels something again).. but nothing seems to work on him. I have tried doing everything he used to like before, but his reaction is always very cold, as if it didn’t even matter to him anymore in the slightest.
I’ve been trying really hard for weeks, and I feel so lost because I feel like all my efforts go to waste and no matter how hard I try, it just isn’t good enough.
He told me he doesn’t want a relationship, however he said he would be in a relationship with me when he loves me again. Then another day he also told me, that if he meets someone before I achieve my goal in making him feel something for me again, he will be with that person instead and won’t wait for me.. which left me very confused and quite hurt.
I asked him (multiple times) what he thinks would work and all he has said thus far was “I don’t know”. The only thing he did suggest is waiting until we meet again (I have been planning on visiting this time), however I’m not sure if I will be able to visit soon enough due to plenty of complications – but I will definately try my best to make the visit happen.

I feel like the no contact rule wouldn’t work since we already did that after our break up, and I feel like the reverse psychology also wouldn’t work since he would just accept that I have “moved on from him”.. at the same time, he told me before that he wants somebody just like me, but more “chill”.

We do talk a lot at the moment (almost every day), have been for around three to four weeks (that was when he finally unblocked me) and he is also the one to message me first at times. He also has told me that he does still think I’m pretty and attractive, and that I still make him laugh.. but when I tell him that I hurt or that I cry, he reacts negatively..

I feel like he still feels something but he keeps denying it.. Is there any chance of us being togehter, what do you suggest I do?

– I really do want him and do not wish to let him go, since I have already tried moving on and going on dates with other men, but that did not work – it only made me realise how much he means to me.

– I’d be ready to accept him for all that he is and work hard on the relationship, and make sure I don’t repeat my mistakes and things that he disliked.

– waiting until we meet would be extremely painful, and risky as I risk losing him to another, is there really no other way?

Thank you so very much.

– Vika

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 17, 2017 at 5:42 pm

Hi Vika

we can’t guarantee that you’ll get him back, but why is it that you’re the only making all the effort? It’s starting to look like you’re chasing him.. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

priya

March 2, 2017 at 7:27 pm

hi

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2017 at 12:34 pm

Hello Priya

Rebecca

January 17, 2017 at 2:51 am

I just have to say… this article is amazing!!, loved it!! very clear. It answers all my questions!!! Congratulations Chris, I’m your fan!! =D

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 17, 2017 at 5:54 pm

Thank you Rebecca! I’ll forward this to Chris

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