468 thoughts on “How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back With Reverse Psychology”

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   Liv

   September 20, 2016 at 4:20 pm

   Okay a tad complicated but I will cliff note
   I dated my bf for over a year and dumped him in July 2015 and had no contact for almost 5 months. After finding out he cheated.
   After that he was dating someone but tryin to get me back (found out about her afterwards). I didn’t give in . We slowly started talking again months later. And in late August of this year stated we would date again and not see other people. Last week I know he was out with that same ex and some friends and never mentioned she was there. He said he was just leaving the party to go home and instead of calling him out I just said “oh I know someone who was going to that bar too ” . That was Saturday. So I haven’t heard from him since Saturday night and I haven’t contacted him at all. My guess is he knew I knew he was out with his ex so figures why should he bother trying to contact me. Or .. Maybe he is waiting for me to contact him ? Any help is appreciated . Thanks

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 22, 2016 at 4:27 pm

   Hi Liv,

   It looks like he’s really a player.. and that’s just it. But the good thing is, you’ve been consistent on not taking him if he stays like that.

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   Qwona

   September 16, 2016 at 4:24 am

   Hello…
   Dated a great guy. Very short term. Never official. Date was most amazing. Never felt that way before. I miss it. I think I miss him or maybe I need to find someone who makes me feel that way again. No one has come close. And I’ve even teared up on dates because they remind me what I am missing from that stellar date. He was amazing to me for a couple weeks. Even sent heart eye, kissy emojis first and all that adorable garbage lol
   I did a great job of not rushing ahead and letting him set the fast pace but then he put on the brakes and I kept moving my feelings forward. It’s a bummer. We both have issues. He has an ex who destroys his things when she finds out about him moving on. And I have a lot of fear of letting go and fully trusting someone with my heart. We had a lot of arguments because I got frustrated with him pulling away and saying one thing but doing another. Anyhow, I definitely have strong feelings for him but I am not a wreck where I HAVE to have him in order to survive or anything. I tried dating a few guys since and like I said… little tears. I can’t really do that to myself right now. Not ready. But I’m on day 15 of NC. I’m not sure if I should contact him or wait till he contacts me. We are both stubborn. We argued a bit. I even miss those stupid arguments. We usually resolved with an “I still kinda miss you” thing. I know he had strong feelings for me once. My paranoia made me yell at him for lying about liking me and he made sure I knew he meant all the wonderful things he said about me. He claims we went sour because I got clingy as if we were in a long term relationship. That’s when I started my NC. It’s frustrating. I sometimes wonder if I want to go through with trying to win him back because of my fears and I don’t know if he feels strongly enough for me to keep allowing his ex to destroy his things. Again with the stubbornness though… should I wait for him or should I initiate? And RP works on him. I’ve used it a little before. We also have mutual friends so I know we will prolly see each other again in the near future if I don’t decide to initiate… argh!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 18, 2016 at 3:25 pm

   Hi Qwona,

   I think you should extend to 30 days. Have you started improving yourself?

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   Claire

   September 12, 2016 at 10:35 pm

   Hi

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   Claire

   September 19, 2016 at 1:28 pm

   I’m struggling today this is where I usually fail and get in touch. I’ve just had to get a new phone as my old phone earlier broke so he no longer has my number what do I do???

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 20, 2016 at 6:07 am

   be productive.. nc will not really be effective if you didnt change.. read a book, have a make over, make yourself feel good.. do what you love doing and do the things you’ve been putting off, do new things to make new friends.. you have to be active.. staying put and doing nothing will not help you.. You have to help yourself.. Try it. Have fun. You wont regret it and after that you’ll wonder why you took so long to do those things

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 14, 2016 at 3:08 pm

   Hi Claire,

   the more you do and break nc, the less it will work..

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   Claire

   September 12, 2016 at 9:17 pm

   This is 3rd time no contact last 2 times I set myself 21 days lasted 13 and 14 days gonna try 30 im on day 8 this time will it work? He said were goin round in circles and we’re best leaving things and I should move on

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   Claire

   September 17, 2016 at 9:02 pm

   Well I have spent the past 2 weeks getting a grip of my emotions and haven’t really been anywhere or done anything but have things planned next week with friends cinema and out for tea

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   Claire

   September 16, 2016 at 3:52 pm

   So does that mean it probably won’t work and I should give up now?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 17, 2016 at 5:50 pm

   Not really but you have to stick to it.. and what’s more important is what you do during and after nc.. how much did you improve?

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   Claire

   September 14, 2016 at 4:23 pm

   So it prob won’t work now

5. 

   Mazza

   September 14, 2016 at 4:07 pm

   same thing he said to me and now hes blocked me! this is sooooo hard 🙁

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 14, 2016 at 3:09 pm

   Hi Claire,

   the more you do and break nc, the less it will work..

5. 

   Kate

   September 9, 2016 at 7:18 pm

   Hi,

   My boyfriend broke up with me six months back because I had lied about my age, I am older, though he knew I older to him , he didn’t know my age. We were every happy together and we were to be married. He loved me a lot, My lie also was because of my insecurity as I had come to know that he had slept with his ex some time back during the time he was with me.

   We got back together after the breakup within a month and were together again, this time he broke up with me again saying that he cannot get married to me as his parents would not agree and he cannot forgive me for my lie.

   I do not understand this on and off , one day prior he loved me and the very next he broke up again.He has blocked me from everywhere ,I have begged him take me back. What to do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 10, 2016 at 1:17 pm

   Hi Kate,

   when did he last broke up with you?

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   Kylie

   September 6, 2016 at 7:51 am

   Hi there,
   6 nights ago, I got my boyfriend back after an argument. Right after I got home, we talked on the phone and he started disrespecting me due to my past again (the argument I’ve mentioned). Then he clearly stated “let’s break up” after asking him why he had to slap my past into my face again. (Actually, He’s been asking me to leave him as he won’t do me good for that reason. That there are other men better for me. I never gave up on him because I know he loves me. ) So 5 nights ago, After he said he’s “happy” to break up, the call ended. Called him 5 times and didn’t get an answer. Left him my last text that he should’ve just killed me. Ever since, I have not contacted him. I am just dealing with my emotional state at the moment as I felt that this is no joke and that he’s leaving me for good. I would love to get him back but I don’t think I will be helping him. He’s immature. He’s hurt. He has a lot of flaws. I wanted to grow with him and be better with him. I don’t think he’ll come back this time around. I tend to forget myself. This is my problem. I can’t hate him. I just want him back. I believe I am just desperate. but I don’t want him back due to my desperation. I don’t want to feed his ego. I want him back with securing our relationship. Without him thinking that he will leave me again. Help me.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 6:37 am

   Hi Kylie,

   so that means you broke up because both of you had issues?

   Put yourself first. Help yourself by healing and being independent.. before trying to fix a relationship

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   Victoria

   September 5, 2016 at 10:58 pm

   Hey I really need advice. This is a tricky situation. I dated this guy on and off for about 3 or 4 months. He was my everything. We ended things because he was flirting with other girls. He told me when I confronted him about it “Listen, I’m not going to stop flirting, there’s nothing wrong with it.” Since we broke up I went a little crazy. I was harassing him and things like that. We broke up the end of June. I finally saw him at his work a few days ago and he had his back towards me but he was obviously listening so I decided to talk to him. He never looked at me once and I told him I wasn’t there to start trouble. I then sent him a long text saying this was the last time he will ever hear from me and explained how he made me feel, pointed out things that happened in our relationship and how wrong they were. He’s a crappy person, yes, but I’m still in love with him. He’s been ignoring me for the last 3 weeks. I just want him to realize what he did wrong, feel like crap about it, and come crawling back to me at some point. What do I do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 6, 2016 at 6:01 pm

   Hi Victoria,

   That’s good. Although we can’t guarantee that he will come crawling to you at some point, it’s easier to make him regret what he did. First, don’t chase him again. Second, be your best self.

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   Irina

   September 3, 2016 at 10:58 am

   So hey,I really do like all the articles you published here.Its a good insight on how men minds really work.Oh well,I will cut the chase.I was in a relationship with a wonderful guy for 1 year and a half.We were great together but things started to change when I started to be clingy and needy and we broke up 2 months ago because of that.I tried to implement NCR and it does work,he come back to me after 7 days but then thanks to my impatience and needy attitude,I scared him off.I really am like this guy.Do you think it will work if I implement NCR again? He treats me nicely tho.Asking me how am I and either I’m good or not but when I said I misses him or want us to start over he ignored my texts.Please help.Its hurt but I dont want to move on.He’s my dream guy.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 4, 2016 at 4:08 pm

   Hi Irina,

   the more you use nc, the less the effect.. but since this is just your 2nd time doing it, make the most of it to make him that you have moved on before intiating contact again.. dont caption your posts that you are doing it to move or forget him, just make it normal posts.. and do 45 days

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   MARIA BONELA

   August 28, 2016 at 5:46 am

   This is Maria here. I would like to narrate my part of of story. There is this guy who is currently my boyfreind. We’ve been in a realtionship for 2 And half years. All was going good… he was so much into me that at first I never valued his love or relationship. It’s not like I don’t lovehim. Just that I didn’t value. I was very abusive and tried to be that bossy kind of girl were I nevrr respected him or made him feel respected. In my mind I knew he’ll never leave me. Butslowly and gradually things started changing. We we’re supposed to get married this year. It is an intercaste marriage. He made memeet his family his freinds and people close to him. He has a sister who is very close to him. She somehow doesn’t like me. I don’t know how but he got manipulated so fast that the same guy who loved me like anything is the same person who started denying for marriage.the moment these started happening it ticked my brain. Somehow my consciousness woke up saying what was I doing when this guy lovedme like anything. I love him genuinely and want to get married to him. Don’t wanna loose him. 🙁
   To cut it short he said he needs a 1year no contact break. Then he can decide whether he wants to get married to me or not. It’s been 2 months we didn’t speak to each other at all. Then once he contacted me saying this two months has affected him and that he really loves me a lot. Things came back to normal when until I started doubting him that he is dating another gal..due to which he again stopped calling and texting me…please help me get him back..it really hurts..i need your help.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 30, 2016 at 3:27 pm

   Hi Maria,

   how are you now? Are you in no contact rule?

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    devika

    August 25, 2016 at 7:45 am

    Hi, I messed it up really bad.
    I begged him for ten days post breakup and then I completely disconnected but after 15 days I again contacted him, told him I am dating someone and what a bad boyfriend he was.
    I told him that he never did anything for me and how much he has insulted me.
    Now he is blocked from everywhere except call list.
    My birthday is round the corner.
    Should I expect his call?
    How do I get him back after this yelling?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 29, 2016 at 12:25 pm

   Hi Devika,

   restart the count.. do 45 days and just focus in moving on without totally moving on..

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    Ashley

    August 23, 2016 at 10:21 pm

    He broke up with me because he said he couldn’t be there for me. He is going away to school. When we broke up I was crying and asked him why he was so stubborn. I know he wants to be with me. But just won’t come through. He was calm and a little annoyed. I said I won’t visit any more and I’ll leave you alone to your studies.He answered with you swear like I want you to go. I have contracted him in about 3 weeks. And he left for school already. I miss him and want it to work.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 27, 2016 at 8:05 pm

   Hi Ashley,

   for college? when did you last talk? Are you going to do no contact?

12. 

    Denise

    July 23, 2016 at 5:19 am

    What if when I don’t reply to him when he finally texts me he gets mad and says things like “OK bye” and “whatever have a nice life”? I’m afraid if I don’t reply he’ll really want nothing to do with me.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 23, 2016 at 2:02 pm

   Hi Denise,

   just let him be.. most of the time the guy will do that because he knows you can’t handle that…

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    StillMarried

    July 22, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    My husband left me when I was 7 months pregnant. of course I begged in the beginning. After the baby was born (2 months ago) I asked him why wont he come home? he was so rude and cruel to me and all I could say was “ok”. I haven’t contacted him in about a week. he’s been texting but I haven’t replied. he called late last night and I acted as if I were sleepy so he asked for me to call him the next morning. I waited until about 8 pm to call back. he asked why I haven’t responded to his text. I said ‘I’ve been busy’. he said ‘too busy to reply to a text?’ I said ‘unfortunately…’ he got quiet and said ‘well I want to see the baby tomorrow.’ I said ‘we’re going to a pool party’ he said ‘oh, well I’ll call u’ and I just hung up. my dilemma is IDK if he’s acting this way bcuz he’s wondering why I’m not answering or he misses the baby!!

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   StillMarried

   July 24, 2016 at 1:27 am

   He texted me today asking if I was gonna be in the area. I didn’t respond. But I called later that night and he blocked me. So I called from my moms phone a little later and he said he didn’t block me he dropped his phone in some water and he wanted to invite me to a bbq. We ended the call. Should I start the nc process over?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 26, 2016 at 5:53 pm

   yes, you should..

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 23, 2016 at 8:48 am

   hi Still married,

   probably both..he’s used to you reaching out and answering whenever he wanrs.. that’s good that you’re already in limited nc.. keep that up

14. 

    Cee

    July 18, 2016 at 6:41 pm

    Hello,
    I was in an on and off relationship with my ex with no titles. I went through his phone and noticed a new girl he had been calling recently that I didnt know about. So i confronted him and he told me that it was just a friend. I kept nagging and asking him how he met her, where he met her, etc. and finally he told me that he is interested in pursuing her. So i ended things with him.
    I am in love with him and have been for all these years. We are still in contact because now im obsessing over that relationship. He finally told me he slept with her and i let him come over the very next morning so I can have closure. We had sex twice and then he told me that he was still going to pursue her. I want him back even though I know he is actively pursuing someone else.
    He told me she was hard to catch and that after he finally slept with her after a few weeks he felt relieved but also told me my sex was better. HELP!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 20, 2016 at 11:23 am

   Hi Cee,

   you see why he wants her even if the sec was better with you? it’s because she is hard to catch..he worked for her.. do the same thing.. don’t chase and then start no contact and start on focusing in improving yourself and being independent

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    Josie

    July 17, 2016 at 11:32 am

    Hi, I had been together with my boyfriends for more than 1 and a half years. We were being so good, no even with one argument or conflicts. I was suffering from depression for few years, after he knew that he found the new doctor for me and accompany do the follow up. From January 2016, we started to have the long- distance relationship. And during April and May, i was so suffer from the bad emotional and the side- effect of the medicine, and I met someone who can help me with my work and so sensible. At that moment, my will power was so low, and I just emotionally attached with the new guys and even had sex with him for many things. I even had sex with him while dialing with my boyfriends. And I told all these to my best friend.

    In the early June, I was supposed to go to oversea and find my boyfriends. However, I changed the flight because of the new guy. An my boyfriend found out all of these bad thing I did by himself by checking my phone (he gave my several chance to say it out myself, but I did not tell him completely, because i did not know he had checked every single message and I was so afraid to tell hi the truth. ) Besides, before he was travelling with my friend who I told him how I treated my boyfriend. That’s why my boyfriend found he was being so humiliated and lose face. And I even contact the new guy during the early days I was traveling with my boyfriend.

    He did not want to break up originally, and i promised to try very hard to make our relationship works again. However, after several days, he thought we are wasting each others’ time and the scar in his heart will never heal. He said he still loves me. However, he said we could be together again for a short-term, he will still remember the bad thing I did, if that day this memory pop up, it will lead to break- up again, and will be even hurt. He cannot see the future of us.

    I am so regret as I thought that was not the real me, though I have conscious at that time, I did not mean to do all these things to hurt him. He said he understand it, he did not blame me at all but it doesn’t mean he accept it. he can accept small mistakes, but this time is far beyond his bottom line. He is such a good guy, promised to be friend with me, can keep on hang out and do the follow- up with me together (which I stopped it for the recent months).

    I so want to do things to make the wrong right again. my case is soooooooo complicated.
    Please give me some advice, I am currently implementing the no contact, and try to do the self- improvement to show him I have some positive change. But how to heal his wound, make him face and accept what I had did. And how to make him believe we have a future?

    Thank you so much!!!!!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 18, 2016 at 5:46 pm

   Hi Josie,

   this is the one that you should read.Click the title: Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)
   EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

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    Valeria

    June 11, 2016 at 12:17 am

    Hello! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We’ve known each other for about 4years. He was always very loving in every way. He does have his insecurities and would sometimes make me feel like i was doing something wrong. I made the mistake of cheating on him last year and i regret those decisions i made. He said his live for me was a lot bigger to just end up losing me. He forgave me and we started to work on us. A few months ago i do about that i was started to exclude him or avoid him someone’s because he was really clingy and it’s hard to give him full attention when i have 4 kids to worry about (they’re not his children) and work. He felt rejected constantly. But for a good while he wanted to marry me already and for us to live together as a family. He meets a girl recently and she whispered so many things to him of what promises she will have set for him and his son. That she will give him the family he wants. He became infatuated and was convinced that after a week of knowing her and connecting really well with her that he actually loves her. Is that possible? He claimed he was really hurt from my behalf from putting him to the side so much. And now when I’ve pretty much begged him for another chance and that I’ll even marry him and move in to show that I’m serious of not wanting to break this family apart, he now tells me that is too late. My kids love him and he loves my kids but he said he wants an opportunity to be happy with this girl. Yet, right before he met her he did confess to his mother that he was anxious in marring me already and living together, then 2 or 3 days after that this women steps into his life and now he says that is too late for me to work it out. How unfair! I really do love him. And i know his love for me was true but i hurt him these past few weeks. It’s been about a week now since NC. What do i do? Stay strict to it? What if he really is in love with this new chick? I want to have hope but i don’t want to set them too high only to get down in the dumps…

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 16, 2016 at 3:47 pm

   Hi Valeria

   he’s in a grass is greener case.. first,check this post: The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

17. 

    vanes

    June 8, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    thanks for this post . He broke up with me and said ” AFTER TODAY I DON’T KNOW YOU ANYWHERE” couldn’t believe he said that and he also unfriended me on Facebook, my first thought was blocking him since he unfriended but i don’t know if i should.. . i am so sticking to the NC irrespective of how i feel about him i am going to fight it . i am guessing he is expecting me to come begging oh hell NO I deserve better and if he isnt seeing my worth then good riddance.

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    Ygritte

    May 15, 2016 at 1:10 pm

    He isn’t replying to me.. Although I only talk about my dad.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 19, 2016 at 6:37 am

   you should change the topic.. it has to be interesting for him.

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    Ygritte

    May 15, 2016 at 4:00 am

    Hi Chris. I’m in a situation that is slightly unusual. I have or had been with my ex for almost 2 years now and it became long distance soon after we started dating. I was quite young, barely turned sixteen and he, two years older. We were very immature back then and our communication was horrible. We did not communicate our feelings, and had a lot of mind games going on. I was insecure and cheated on him when we were rocky last May. We were rocky for probably three to four months, leading to me cheating on him. He caught on, but with no evidence, and we broke it off for a month and a half before I saw him again in July of last year.

    Ever since then, we were really rocky until this year. I flew over and saw him for two months. Everything was great.. Until he found out about my cheating 6 days ago. I had a very bad emotional breakdown and he witnessed that but we haven’t stopped talking since. Sure, communications have been cut short (no more Skype calls, just texting) but he’s still in contact with me. What’s even weirder is that I’m going through other issues with my father and he’s been here to support me — maybe not 24/7 but he’s angry FOR me and feels bad for me. We still talked sexually and teased each other until two days ago.

    We’re seeing each other early July– in 3 weeks? And he’s going to be tutoring me. He told me he told his friends we broke up, then corrected himself when I seemed upset and said he actually just told them that because he’s having his exams, that we’re on a break because he’s ‘too stressed’. Although he removed our location sharing (he claims it’s to help us ease our minds and not constantly check on each other), he still has our Facebook relationship status on. And the most important thing is, he got a hair cut (3 weeks before he’s seeing me) because that’s what he does before he sees me! He gets a haircut a few weeks before so that it grows out and looks good by the time he sees me.

    My gripe is, I am going through some really bad issues with my father right now and it’s perhaps one of the only things that’s tying him to me. He still told me he loves me yesterday, and offered for his family to ‘adopt’ me. The thing is, he doesn’t have to come back to visit early. It’s summer break, and after our break up last year, he only came back in July. But I suggested that we take down our no hookup rule today and he said he doesn’t have time to hookup anyway, and if I want to hookup, that I can do it (kinda passive aggressively, I think?). And I said, he can hookup after his exams and he said no, he’ll be back like 2 days after his exam ends. I’m also seeing my dad on the 7th next Month and he said himself, without my suggestion, that he’ll be there with me.

    What do you suggest I do at this point? I feel horrible and actually think I’m a changed person. I have no intentions of ever cheating again. I told him that I, WE were such different people a year ago and that I have done everything to prove him wrong in the past year. I’ve no clue as to what to do. Do I go NC? Or do I continue having him feel bad for me and to care about me? Because I feel like once that connection is gone, he might grow a spine and want to stop being with me.

    Another thing to note is 3 days ago, he said he wonders why we’re still talking, that I’m using him all this while, that he hates me and I should go away. And yet he’s willing to do so much for me still. What should I do, Chris?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 15, 2016 at 9:37 am

   HI Ygritte,

   Thank him first.. for being there inspite of everything.. I think you should not do no contact but start to improve yourself and change.. but continue to talk to him if he talks to you..

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    Lena

    May 3, 2016 at 12:33 am

    I am a college Sophomore and just got broken up with by my first real boyfriend of 6 months. We were tied at the hip from the beginning, like he basically moved into my dorm and we went everywhere together. Looking back, I know that’s unhealthy. Basically, he has severe depression (which he is highly medicated for) because his dad killed himself when he was young and he grew up in poverty in Norway and both his parents had bipolar disorder. I on the other hand have extremely bad anxiety which I am also medicated for. So this was either a terrible match or a perfect one, because we are quite opposite in our mental stability but it almost balanced each other out. Anyway, everything was absolutely perfect until about 2 weeks ago. He stopped taking his medication for whatever reason which was bad enough. On top of that, I found out my brother is taking meth (he crashed my car while high and ran from the cops, yaaaay), THEN I heard my uncle who is a priest is being charged again for child molestation, and a bit before this one of my friends told me that him and I made out when I was blacked out and it scared the living shit out of me. I would never ever do that and I was scared he would find out and count it as cheating and leave me. Needless to say, it was a shit time. I would cling to him like no other, scared that I would lose him when my world felt like it was crumbling. Then one night I got super fucking drunk and blacked out and called him 10 times, then his roommate a few, then his other roommate. I tend to do stupid shit when I black out. Finally he came over and got me to bed and I started bawling and screaming, saying I was unhappy and I wanted to hurt or kill myself (REMEMBER HIS DAD KILLED HIMSELF) so that was the last straw for him. He asked me to go to couples counseling the next day, only to sit me there and break up with me. He wasn’t mad, he was incredibly sad. He said he still loves me and cares but he can’t be around someone who acts like that. I felt so terrible, mostly because I didn’t even mean anything I said when drunk. It was totally nothing at all to me but it hurt him so bad. After that, he blocked me on everything and wanted no contact except for through the counselor if needed. I was a mess for 2 days, I went home and slept and cried and didn’t eat (still haven’t eaten 6 days later) and made the mistake of writing him a letter that my friend passed along 2 days after the breakup. My friend said he read it but didn’t want to talk still. He said maybe he will talk later, maybe. But the problem is is that he is going home to Norway for the summer so I won’t see him or have contact unless I go through a friend. I know I made the mistake of the letter, which I read about on your posts. Is it too late? He is obviously very emotional so I could do RP, but will it still work? Won’t him leaving the country for the summer make him forget about me? Mind you, he told me he loved me at 3 weeks (I said it back but didn’t mean it until 3 months), he told me he has never felt so strongly, never been so happy, felt we were soulmates and asked me to move in with him in September (I said yes, so now I have nowhere to live this fall). SO, how do I get him back? Did I fuck it up? The letter didn’t mention getting back together. It was just everything I felt I did wrong and apologizing for causing him so much hurt. He is still seeing the counselor to talk about me and sometimes she relays little messages like “he might want to talk in a few weeks”, but I am so anxious and what if he is just saying that to get everyone off his back? What now?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 4, 2016 at 8:54 am

   Hi Lena,

   I read your other comment too.. keep the lizard for now, well if somebody buys it then good..but I think you have to take this last chance to do nc..give each space.. stop drinking, don’t chase him and improve yourself.. there’s a chance that if he sees you’re emotionally more stable and more mature, he’ll talk to you again.. do nc for 30 days.. it’s a short period so make the most out of it..