60 thoughts on “How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend to Forgive You”

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   Rosa

   August 29, 2017 at 8:08 pm

   Hi Amor,
   Great article. My relationship with my ex ended in 2015. I didnt really follow through the NC correctly which forced my ex to block me. In January I promised myself to improve myself and extremely reflect on the relationship. I commited many of those crimes in our 7 year relationship and looking back at it I truly understand why he is angry, hurt, and doesn’t want to speak to me. I was way into getting him back and focused on the wrong things. He use to always tell me to put myself in his shoes and I was never able to until now. He’s very close to my brother. I have been distant with my family to improve myself but I recently spoke to one of my brothers and he told me that my ex was having issues with his current girlfriend. I couldn’t help but feel so sad about his situation because of my commited crimes. I really want to just apologize to him but I don’t see a way how. Questions pop into my head like will this anger him even more? Will he accept my apology? I go back to the times we texted and he would say dont ever call me or text me . He even once told me that if he doesn’t call or try to find me then it means he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I’m very hesitant and feel like maybe it’s going to take more time.

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   Rosa

   September 1, 2017 at 8:29 pm

   Yes it has been long ago. If the day comes when we do speak face to face. I am concern as in what to say. I dont know where I would start. Is there any tips you can help me with to prepare myself? Thank you Amor!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 4, 2017 at 7:18 pm

   Just open up a topic.. you can still try this one:
   How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

3. 

   Rosa

   August 31, 2017 at 5:36 pm

   Hi
   Honestly I don’t remember I want to say maybe July 2016

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 31, 2017 at 8:11 pm

   That’s so long ago.. Dont apologize as an initial text

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 31, 2017 at 1:15 pm

   Hi Rosa,

   Since when did you last text?

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   Joni

   August 24, 2017 at 12:04 am

   So I have been on and off dating my significant for the last year and a half. We have never actually gotten to the stage of boyfriend girlfriend because I live about 2 hours away from him, and we both were dating other people in-between this span of time. Needless to stay it is very complicated but we care/know a lot about each other but haven’t had a natural climax towards dating. Last may he reached out and we started casually dating seeing each other 1x a week because I left for a job in Asia for 3 months. I am back now and learned that I will likely be moving to his city in the next month or so. He told me he was very excited about it, and things were going great.

   two weeks ago I went to a concert and he was there. I am the least confrontational person, but because of our rocky past of dating other people, I let my insecurity get the best of me and drunkenly yelled at my S/O for like 35 minutes and I am pretty sure his closest girl friends were within ear shot and they probably think I am insane. I was pushing him to commit since its been months but he wants to take the pressure off things. We laughed about my meltdown the next day because I quite literally acted crazy. And two days later I texted him asking if I could get him a ‘thank you drink’ next week (aka this week right now) to make up for my outburst and he said ‘ haha sounds good’ that was 6 days ago and I haven’t heard from him since. He hasn’t liked any of my instagrams (HE ALWAYS DOES) or looked at my snap chats (HE ALWAYS DOES). I am so afraid that he is going to dump me even though we are not together. Have a totally ruined my shot at us finally getting a chance at this relationship?????

   WHAT SHOULD I DO?

   should I follow up with the drink opportunity after all I have not texted him either to follow up about it….?

   or should I just not contact him and wait until he reaches out to me.

   I have already apologized about the outburst, but idk what else I should do.

   Part of me is even considering sending a ‘lets take a break text and see how we feel when I’m settled in the same city as you’ text.

   I am so afraid I lost him forever. SOS!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 24, 2017 at 11:08 pm

   Hi Joni,

   check this one:
   Making An Ex Commit When He Doesn’t Want To

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   Maria

   August 19, 2017 at 5:56 pm

   Three weeks after our breakup, after a couple sexual encounters, awkwardly moving out of his place, and some horrendous fights, we’ve started NC.

   I was in a really, really bad place. Our relationship was amazing, he was so kind and attentive. Treated me like his queen. I slowly however began to suffer from nervous breakdowns and would lash out at him, often shoving him and yelling. (It was only at the latter end of our year long relationship though and by no means prevelant always).

   We finally broke up, mutually. He was so cold the day it happened. But since, I’ve seen lapses where he showed emotion. Why just last week he said he would help me get better, healthier. That I am strong underneath all of this and that what I’m undergoing is temporary. That we needed to see through the breakup for ourselves.

   Until I pushed him on the street and yelled at him because I didn’t want him to help me move out.

   Yeah, I’m a mess. No, it’s not okay.

   I went to his place the other day (he’s living in his fraternity until he starts grad school) and I saw him with another girl. After days of ignoring me, he took me across the street to a parking lot where I cried my heart out. That was when we decided it’s finally time to cut contact. The thing is….. he was So. Cold. He was a robot. He was almost mean. He grew angry at my emotions. He said “there are no more emotions, there are no more feelings.” He said he didn’t want me. That he didn’t love me romantically anymore. Stoicism to the extreme, a full 180 from a week ago. He even told my best friend that he didn’t think he wanted to be even my friend again.

   I don’t want him back immediately, I need to focus on myself so I never, ever exhibit this abusiveness again. I’ve gone to a new therapist and have been going through talk therapy and discussing medications. I’ve started to go to the gym again and am eating healthier and sleeping better. I’ve been excelling at my real estate internship. But he was my closest and my best friend.

   I want to lay a foundation while we are apart that will allow me to reenter his life positively. He’ll be very busy with dental school, and I’ll be finishing my undergrad (same university). I want to put myself in the best position to have something in the future — so I’m not contacting him. But what do I say when I reach out again?

   He said he would reach out to get coffee “maybe after orientation.”

   So…. here I am. A bizarre limbo.

   Help me get back the man who made me the strongest version of myself. How long should I NC? It’s only been a few days since I actually decided. I am so remorseful and I am getting better. One more year full ride at Berkeley and I’ll be ready to be in the real world — and hopefully his life.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 22, 2017 at 6:49 pm

   Hi Maria,

   check this one:
   How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

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   Rachael

   August 18, 2017 at 5:14 am

   my bf of 5 years finally broke up with me about a month ago. we were incompatible from the start and i knew it wouldn’t last forever but he became my best friend. the breakup was mutual and respectful and for a full week afterwards we were still texting like best friends. but then i admitted to him that i had been cheating on him at the end of our relationship and he immediately wanted nothing to do with me. of course i don’t blame him for that and i don’t think we should ever get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend but i do miss my best friend. do you think it’s possible he will ever want to be friends again? should i bother trying to find out since i know that he thinks it’s unhealthy for him to even talk to me right now?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 18, 2017 at 5:38 pm

   HI Rachael,

   Yeah someday when much time has passed.. It depends from a person to person but a safe bet would be maybe after 6 months or a year he would have moved on..