6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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Nicole

February 11, 2018 at 9:27 pm

Hi, my ex-boyfriend of almost 3 years, broke it off because he was unhappy in the relationship, and apparently his friends were noticing his unhappiness. We had a good relationship, we were best friends, and we barely fought, we had our differences, but they were normal relationship problems. I apologized for the things that made him unhappy, and promised to work on our relationship and told him that I was willing to do anything to fight for him and for the relationship, because my love was true and I didn’t wanna lose him forever. He stopped replying to my messages, he took me off social media and I realized he had started dating a much younger girl (she’s 20 and he’s 26) right about the time he deleted me off social media (about 2 weeks after he officially broke up with me, yes, JUST TWO WEEKS). I was so broken because I didn’t understand how he could replace me so quickly, and wanted to talk to him about it, but I didn’t mention it. We don’t really talk anymore, but recently he replied to one of my last messages and basically said that he cared about me, that we should check up on each other every once in a while if we both care about each other even if we’re both hurt (basically implying he’s hurt still and wants to be friends).
I never did anything to hurt him, and was so willing to be better for him and make our relationship right, yet he said that people don’t change and that our relationship wasn’t gonna get any better.
But how can he care about me if he’s with another girl? And going off on dinner dates, museum dates, and other dates, just like nothing’s wrong and that he’s completely happy with this new girl? I’ve been stalking their Instagram stories, and they seem totally happy. It’s crazy how we just broke up late December, and a few weeks into January he seemed completely happy with this new girl. It breaks me to my core.
I wish I knew for sure that it’s just a rebound that’s gonna end quickly. No one normal gets over a 2-years and a half serious relationship in a few weeks.
It sucks that I still want us to be together in the future, and that I’m willing to fight for him someday again.
The worst part is that we’re long distance. We used to travel all the time to see each other, and right before we broke up, I spent 3 months living with him.
I don’t know what to do to make this nightmare end, and I don’t know if I should lose all hope with him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2018 at 6:16 pm

Hi Nicole,

If he met her before breaking up with you, she’s probably a grass iEBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriends greener case.. Check this one:

Phoebe

February 8, 2018 at 1:50 pm

In response to your question, I am not very active on social media I never have been, also in the two years we were together he never once posted a couple photo of us anywhere where he posted one with her after knowing this girl for a month. I have blocked him on all forms of social media currently as I was getting fed up of seeing the constant tags on facebook on instagram that she was tagging him in. I will have been in no contact for 5 weeks when I see him but we have a lot of mutual friends so I’m unsure whether to say hi or just smile and try to avoid him

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 9, 2018 at 12:15 pm

you have to unblock him but don’t add him. They’re beating you to the social media game because you have to active in posting even if he’s not and even if you didn’t use to be because that’s your indirect way of showing your improvements and making him regret not having you when he checks them.. There’s a high chance he will because he will get curious on how you’ve been.

Phoebe

February 6, 2018 at 5:56 pm

Hi, my ex boyfriend of 2 years is coming to my university this weekend to visit. It was meant to be our anniversary this weekend and he could have come any weekend to see his friends here so I don’t understand why he’s chosen to come this weekend. We broke up at the end of November and he started dating someone new fairly soon so I’m unsure as to whether hes coming here to try and prove a point that “he’s so over me and has moved on and is so happy”. Do you think it has any significance or not? I’m not fussed about seeing him, he rushed into seeing someone the complete opposite of me very soon and is moving at 100 miles an hour with her so I know avoiding any drama and letting him enjoy this new found relationship is for the best, but do you think I should avoid him if I see him out or what should I do? I need help!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 1:02 pm

It’s better not to give his visit a meaning. If you’re not in nc, don’t avoid him.. Use the opportunity to look your best.

Phoebe

February 3, 2018 at 7:04 pm

Hi, my ex-boyfriend of two years started seeing a new girl 5 weeks after we broke up. She is very different to me personality wise but I’m unsure as to whether it is a rebound or not. They started dating the day they met (having never met before) and post all over social media about how happy they are, including couples pictures. They knew each other for 2 weeks before she flew back to Australia and now they’re going to be apart for 7 months at least. Do you think this is a rebound or is it something more serious? Also do you think I have any chance of getting him back. Its been just over 2 months since we split and I know in a couple more months I will have grown enough to give him what he wants so how will I be able to show him this?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 1:01 pm

she’s probably a rebound but the longer they stay together, the less she stays a rebound. How active are you in posting in social media?

Tracey A Iwaniuk

February 1, 2018 at 1:17 pm

I need advice my ex husband is in a relationship he got with her within 6-8 weeks of leaving me and when I say got he just moved in with her.
His just started posting in a relationship with her now and photos of them on holiday after we had argument new year. They apparently been together coming up to a year But his not replied to divorce process since November any advice to what maybe going on, do you think relationship is serious .

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 11:47 am

Hi Tracey,

Sorry, I’m confused. You mean they’ve been together for almost a year now? If yes, then yeah it does look like it’s serious.. When did you last contact him about the divorce?

Danielle

January 31, 2018 at 10:34 pm

My boyfriend left me after almost 3 years. We had some relationship issues, due to his fear of commitment and infidelity. But he always told me he knew I was the one he was supposed to be with and when he wasn’t having the fears, our relationship was great. We even moved in together and talked marriage. He felt as if he was being pressured to propose to me and it started the fears back up. I believe he started seeing her before we even broke up, but he’s now seeing someone else. It hasn’t even been a week when I first realized he was texting her 24/7 and spending all his free time with her. He kept denying they’re together and kept telling me he hasn’t moved on and still has feelings for me and still deeply cares for me. He also told me he isn’t starting a relationship and “definitely” isn’t going to commit to anyone, even if they do start dating. But I saw their messages and they seem to be deeply involved with each other. It hasn’t even been 2 weeks since he left me. I feel like he is just in a rebound relationship, but he has extremely negative feelings about our relationship and after seeing their messages I’m just not sure.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 11:21 am

Hi Danielle,

actually it looks more like a grass is greener case.

Nicole

January 16, 2018 at 1:44 pm

Can I ask advice

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2018 at 6:28 am

Hi Nicole,

Sure!

Camille

January 7, 2018 at 10:04 pm

Hi Chris! Good day! Can you give me some insights about “overlappers” or people who enters a new relationship/fling before ending the first one?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 9:47 pm

Hi Camille,

That’s more likely this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Camille

January 7, 2018 at 10:00 pm

Hi Chris, can you give me insights about “overlappers”or people who enters a new relationship/fling before ending the first one?
KC

January 4, 2018 at 7:37 pm

Hello! My ex and I were together for 2 years. We broke up Nov 15. I went on NC after 1 week of breaking up. He was initiating contact towards the last week of my NC asking for his stuff back. I replied 3 days after that I’d give them after I return from my holiday. He wasn’t too happy that I didn’t want to just box it up and leave it for him to pick up. These are “stuff” that I gave him, and he wanted them back which i found weird. He then messaged me on Viber and Instagram and greeted Merry Christmas. Then a few more after that, liking some of my posts as well. He also greeted Happy New year and said thank you and sorry for everything. I just gave him a heart emoji on Instagram which meant like. He would send post of an inside joke. He even questioned of the bracelet I was wearing was the one he gave. Then today he posted on IG stories a photo of him and a girl. Like he was whispering to her ear. I don’t know what to do now coz i feel lost, and mad that he had to give me all these excuses making it sound like it was all my fault when this is just what he wanted. I messaged him “congrats on the new girl. I didn’t deserve the truth? No wonder it was so much easier for him”. I know that’s not the smartest reaction but I just can’t help it. I completed Nc, worked on staying positive, and take everyday with grace. But I’m still hurting. Especially now. Do I just unfollow him and block him off? Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 6, 2018 at 12:10 am

HI Kc,

that means you need to restart nc.. it would be better not to block him, so that you don’t look like you’re still angry and affected..

KC

January 4, 2018 at 6:55 pm

My ex and I were together for 2 years. We broke up Nov 15. I went on NC after 1 week of breaking up. He was initiating contact towards the last week of my NC asking for his stuff back. I replied 3 days after that I’d give them after I return from my holiday. He wasn’t too happy that I didn’t want to just box it up and leave it for him to pick up. These are “stuff” that I gave him, and he wanted them back which i found weird. He then messaged me on Viber and Instagram and greeted Merry Christmas. Then a few more after that, liking some of my posts as well. He also greeted Happy New year and said thank you and sorry for everything. I just gave him a heart emoji on Instagram which meant like. He would send post of an inside joke. He even questioned of the bracelet I was wearing was the one he gave. Then today he posted on IG stories a photo of him and a girl. Like he was whispering to her ear. I don’t know what to do now coz i feel lost, and mad that he had to give me all these excuses making it sound like it was all my fault when this is just what he wanted. I messaged him “congrats on the new girl. I didn’t deserve the truth? No wonder it was so much easier for him”. I know that’s not the smartest reaction but I just can’t help it. I completed Nc, worked on staying positive, and take everyday with grace. But I’m still hurting. Especially now. Do I just unfollow him and block him off? Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 6, 2018 at 12:10 am

HI Kc,

that means you need to restart nc.. it would be better not to block him, so that you don’t look like you’re still angry and affected..

So confused

December 13, 2017 at 5:38 am

December 13, 2017

I’ve been with my ex for almost 3 years. We’ve been struggling in our relationship for around a year. I busted him cheating on me and it was a very bad, emotional and messy breakup. That was a week and a half ago. He’s still with her. So I started the NC rule the next day to reflect and work on myself as well. I have only responded two time and both times were when he has asked for his things. I kept it short and set a day for him to pick them up.
I’ve made sure to put good use of social media to make it seem like I’m moving on as well. 5 days ago he started sending me mean text messages, shortly followed by an apology and with “he doesn’t know what he’s doing and is trying to figure it out, but looks like I’m better off”. Today he even sent me a song from you tube called “do I”. I have still maintained the nc rule though. Two hours later he canceled saying he couldn’t get his stuff because he was busy and would let me know when he can. I didn’t respond back but I’m so confused, I’m not sure what to do anymore?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 14, 2017 at 7:03 pm

Hi,

I hope you’re still in nc now..

Mave

December 9, 2017 at 7:41 pm

Hello love,

I was in a 2 year relationship and I left the house, after I left the house we decided to keep trying for one month but it did not work. 2 days later after we broke up he started dating this girl. She seems like she cares for him but, he tells me that he still loves me but, can’t see me hurt anymore because of him. During that month period of us trying he got me pregnant, which i didn’t know until i had a miscarriage

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:03 am

Hi Mave,

when was all of that? And when did you last talked? Are you going to do the no contact rule?

Anonymous

November 28, 2017 at 8:03 am

I broke up with my ex bf 3 months ago and he was still trying to contact me all the time and see me for the first month after it, but I didn’t give in. So then he started dating a new girl about 6-8 weeks after we broke up. However I still want to be with him and I reached out to him after 2 months, I met up with him once to get my things and then when I tried to see him again, he said yes but that he wanted me to know he is seeing someone. I told him I was interested in seeing if we might work on things and get back together but since he has a new gf it’s prob best to just leave it. This was a couple weeks ago and he hasn’t contacted since. Do you have any advice for me please? Is he in a rebound relationship? What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2017 at 2:02 pm

Hi Anonymous,

Restart nc, after it follow this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Leanne

November 15, 2017 at 1:11 pm

Hi Amor,

Will nc work if his attention is on someone else and he is focusing on this new girl as opposed to his feelings for me? I have been active on social media but he has blocked me! Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 17, 2017 at 8:29 pm

It’s not a guarantee to work in any case.. and honestly, if he broke up with you, that means he wasn’t thinking about his feelings for you in the first place and chasing him will just make you look less valuable for him..

Leanne

November 13, 2017 at 9:07 pm

Hi Amor,

Thank you I will try the NC. I have been improving myself and have lost 1.7 stone in weight and have been actively exercising and seeing friends. Also been trying new things and actively posting positive things. I have also found out that the girl is 8 years younger than him. He is 28 and she is 20. Do you think I have a chance of getting him back based on the situation I told you?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 17, 2017 at 8:31 pm

he’s in a grass is greener situation, it’s going to be harder.. but you had 5 years.. it’s not that easy to forget, though I admit he’s attention is probably more on the other girl for now..

Sarah

November 7, 2017 at 1:21 pm

Thank you Amor. I am responding to your previous advice. I accidentally saw him last night with one of his friends. I stopped to say hi but he ignored me. Should I still reach out?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 8, 2017 at 6:59 pm

If you’re in nc, you shouldn’t have said hi.. just extend a week before initiating..

Leanne

November 5, 2017 at 4:50 pm

I was with my ex for 5 years and we were engaged, own a house together (which we bought a year ago and the first time living alone) and a dog. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying he doesn’t love me anymore and hasn’t for a while and that he has met someone at work who he has feelings for. He insits that nothing has happened and he hasn’t cheated. He told me a few days ago that we are definately over and he doesn’t want to try and doesn’t see us getting back together. Since then he has blocked me on facebook and has started going on dates with this girl. He has even booked to go on a weekend away with her in 2 weeks! They have only been speaking for a month so I would say this is a rebound. We have financial things we need to sort out so i will need to see him at some point. How long should i do NC for and what shall i do if he is still seeing this girl? Please help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 6, 2017 at 7:56 pm

HI Leanne,
Do at least 30 days, be active in improving yourself and in posting and focus on that because you can only control yourself.

Sarah

November 5, 2017 at 3:36 pm

Hi Amor,

Thanks for your response. He met her about a week after we broke up. And i have been very active in focusing on myself. Could we get back together? I can’t imagine that he had no feelings for me. And should I reach out to him since he hasn’t reached out to me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 6, 2017 at 7:48 pm

yeah, she’s more a rebound then.. There is a chance and yes, you can initiate contact after nc.

Sarah

November 4, 2017 at 9:32 pm

Hi,

I was in a relationship for three years. We really loved each other but would always get into stupid arguments so he broke up with me just over a month ago. The arguments would always end well though, we would always make up and move on. He started hooking up with another girl about a week after breaking up with me and just started dating her now. When we broke up he told me that he really cared about me and wanted to be friends but that we need a month of no contact. So we haven’t spoken or seen each other for over 30 days. He hasn’t texted me about checking in with me even though the 30 days have passed. He also posted on his Instagram and Snapchat pictures with his new girlfriend. Is this a rebound? Do I have any chance of getting back with him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 5, 2017 at 7:12 am

Hi Sarah,

can be but if he started talking to her before the break up, she might be a rebound… How active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

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