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Ashton
March 4, 2015 at 2:47 am
Hi – I was engaged to my ex, together for 6 years. I broke it off because I was focusing on my career- and just like any long term relationship, we lost track on how to make it work. He was heartbroken, so we took space, but we began hanging out only couple months after the breakup. He accepted us having a friendship, nothing more. I was trying to figure out if it was a good move for us to try again, as I still loved him but didn’t give him false hope so never lead on how much I still loved him. He told me he loved me, but never begged- he respected my space. In that time, I went on dates and was open about it to him. Also in that timeframe, as we became closer- he met a girl eho was very persistent and is actually the complete opposite of me. He denied he would ever date a girl like her.. I became desperate, emotional, upset. Obviously pushing him away… They are now in a relationship and he has moved her in. It’s been 6 months, and his family is shocked and doesn’t understand. In this time he hasn’t reached out, I’ve made the mistake in doing so- where I have been again, emotional. But he has told me he loves me, and has broken down in tears because he says doesn’t know Why he’s with her or what he’s doing. We have no contact right now and I’m dating someone but overall am confused- I am ending things with this person, obviously I’m realizing im in an RR- but in your opinion, is my ex in one?
admin
March 5, 2015 at 8:32 pm
For 6 years?
You were engaged for six years?
I think he is… you don’t get over someone that fast.
Ashton
March 10, 2015 at 2:39 am
Together for 6 engaged for 3… Interestly today I saw him, and we basically were just catching up… I asked if he was happy and he couldn’t answer..he sisd “some days, yes, some days no. I think how things would be different…” I said at the end of the day I want you to be happy and I didn’t break down, I was neutral. He said he didn’t knkw what the future would hold….but I’m his “Rachel” from friends…(that we’d eventually end up together) …. I had texted him a week ago with no response and I asked if he wants him and I to have no contact to respect his new relationship and he said I don’t like being sneaky but if you text me I’ll text you back (my text was a funny memory) and he said it made him sad, and that today I made him nervous. he has invited me to stop by his work or spend time with his family… I want to give him space to miss me because I feel with the new gf he has been distracted from dealing with the emotions of everything and this is the first time in a long time he’s seen me confident and basically back to the old me… Howveer, he is inviting contact, but only if I initiate it. What is best in this situation?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 4:29 pm
What was preventing you from getting married.
I mean, being engaged for 3 years is a LONG TIME.
Also I LOVE FRIENDS.
Ashton
March 14, 2015 at 10:38 pm
We wanted to buy a house and get into our careers first.
Saw him and his new gf at the gym yesterday, I ignored him… I saw him look over when she wasn’t around.. I think he wanted to say hi, but I didn’t look his way at all. It was so uncomfortable but I acted super confident and hardcore in my workout.
I guess my confusion is where he says one thing but is doing another. I haven’t been myself in months so i suppose just trying no contact again focusing on me will get a different reaction…. I guess time will tell?
Vanessa
March 3, 2015 at 11:41 pm
My ex got into a new relationship a week after he broke up with me. A month later, the rebound girl broke up with him and he acted really depressed about it. He even sent her a bunch of emails trying to get her to come back. (I heard this through a friend.) Three days after they broke up (this was two days ago) we saw each other and he gave me some seductive looks (the half smile and raised eyebrows.) He then talked to me and said that he missed me. Later in the day he sent me a text saying hey. I didn’t reply because I wanted to see if he would text me more. Half an hour later, he sent me an emoji picture (I hope you know what that is.) Then nearly two hours later with no response from me, he said “Oh, I guess you don’t like my artwork?” I know it’s a good thing that he was getting upset that I wasn’t replying. I waited nearly an hour before replying and we had a nice short conversation (I ended it of course.) We talked a little more later and he again said that he had missed talking to me. Yesterday we didn’t talk in person. I did see him talking to the rebound girl though. We texted a little bit last night, but I messaged him first. Today I decided to not text him at all to see if he would text me first, but there’s been nothing. Are these all good signs, like him saying he’s missed me, the looks, and him getting upset I wasn’t replying? What bothers me the most is that he tried to get the rebound girl to come back to him. Does this just mean he is not over me? Thanks for your help!
admin
March 5, 2015 at 8:03 pm
Did you read this page yet?
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-has-a-girlfriend-version-2-0/
I would say its unlikely that he is over you that fast.
Lily
March 10, 2015 at 3:11 pm
He does not have a girlfriend anymore but I will read it since you suggested it 🙂
admin
March 13, 2015 at 6:39 pm
Definitely read it and listen to the podcasts if you can.
Sarah
February 28, 2015 at 7:41 pm
Hi there, I’m trying to figure out if I’m in a rebound relationship with my boyfriend. He had a girlfriend for just over a year and they were on and off. Me and him were together about 2 weeks after they broke up and I thought I was just his rebound girl. Me and him have now been together for 8 months now. He says he loves me and his past relationship was never good and they always were fighting and he is glad to be out of it because apparently she was ‘crazy’ but I’ve always been suspicious about them, there has been rumours he has cheated on me with her but he has assured me it’s not true, they also seem to delete each other on facebook and re add each other often which I find quite strange. I love him very much, just need your thoughts, thanks
Sarah
February 28, 2015 at 7:44 pm
Also, he was the one to break up with her.
Jill
February 28, 2015 at 5:57 pm
I was dating a man for 6-7 months. It was really good never a fight always had a great time. I was building a relationship with his daughter. This were moving slowly but in a great way. We were together right before New Years. He had plans on NYE that were in place before we started dating. Not an issue I do not have problems with trust so he went and had a great time. Upon his return he called and had the flu. He was sick for almost two weeks. We spoke everyday and I went over to help him and his daughter. Once well we got together and had a nice day and dinner. After that he started pulling away. We didn’t see each other but continued talking/texting as always. He started making plans that did not include me and ignoring me a bit. I asked him what was going on and he said we should talk. It never happened. We had not seen each other since the beginning of Jan. On Jan 20 I texted and asked him to have lunch. We did it was great but he never talked. After I asked him what was going on and he said I think you know what is coming. I said I didn’t that is why I was asking and that he was one who wanted to talk. I told him I didn’t hate him if he didn’t feel the same way about me but didn’t like how he was handling the situation. Asked if he was seeing someone else he said no. Cut the the chase after minimal to no contact he called 2/27 said he needed to talk to me about personal things. He asked if remembered how we stopped seeing each other after NYE. I said I knew how he stopped seeing me even though we talked and did see each other a few times but not as a date. He said he met someone and was spending every weekend together that he was going to leave his job, take is 14 year old daughter, move out of state and in with this new girl this summer. He says they have an amazing connection. I told him he should have told me from the beginning because I have lost a lot of respect for him. He said is wasn’t my business. I said that the details were not but and explanation as to why he broke off was especially since he wanted to be friends. I don’t know why he told me now. I did tell him that as a friend he should slow down. They have only spent one day or two together a week for 5 weeks. This is crazy to me…is this a rebound? I do not think he cheated on me because the first time they spend together was the weekend after our lunch. I think he was stringing me along and weighing his options. Is there a chance to get back together or should I let it go. He also get really angry if I don’t respond to his texts/calls. I should add that he is a bit self centered and selfish and I did let him get away with more than I should have.
Jill
March 5, 2015 at 1:17 am
Would really appreciate some insight. Thanks
admin
March 7, 2015 at 5:26 pm
What specifically would you like insight to?
Jill
March 8, 2015 at 4:41 pm
Is he in a rebound relationship? He started seeing this girl a week after we broke up. She lives in another state and now he is leaving his job, taking his daughter, selling his house and moving in with her. They have only seen each other on weekends when they meet somewhere for a day or two. This seems like a rash immature selfish decision. Prior to this we discussed the idea of moving in but I told him that I would not live with anyone unless I was on the brink of marriage or married because everyone I know who has ended up breaking up. Please know that I am not in a rush to get married and I have never pushed him into anything. This will be the 4th woman he has lived with; it hasn’t worked out for him so why did he leave me to live with her and why does he keep doing this? He also keeps telling me all the details about the two of them and what their plans are. I don’t respond. I think I need to cut off contact completely, it’s been hard since we have to work on a project together.
Thanks and Confused
S
February 22, 2015 at 7:14 pm
Hi Chris
I hope you’re well!
I am trying to figure out if my ex is in a rebound.
So we dated for 5.5 months; not too long on paper but it was quite intense. We had said our I love you’s, established that it was serious because we both wanted the same things out of life and loved each other, met his parents/friends etc etc. According to them I was a “serious” one because they had only met his one other serious gf before me and no one in between.
Things were going well but towards the last 3 weeks we had a few squabbles but made up soon after. One morning he just suddenly broke up with me. Then over the next 2 weeks we talked about wanting to fix things and then one day again he said he can’t do it but wanted to stay friends. So I went straight into NC. Broke it 9 days later because he deleted me off Facebook and I didn’t understand why. He added me back, said he was sorry it was a mistake, he still wants to be friends with me but is not ready to talk right now and just needs space.
So I went into NC again, contacted him after 35 days on Christmas with a wish and a funny picture. No reply. Then I waited 3 weeks and texted him an anecdote my grandad had told me about his favourite London bar which my ex loved as well. No reply. Then 3 weeks again I waited and just said that I assumed we would talk at some point and if he was open to speaking to me and I will respect his honesty. No reply. But he just deleted me off Facebook.
So obviously I got the message and left it. Now 3 weeks later, I see on his Whatsapp that he’s changed his picture to one of him and a girl and I am sure he’s dating her (its not exactly a friend/family picture). I am not blocked on there so he knows I can see it. Plus he never put a picture of me (that makes me mad now).
Its been close to 4 months since the break up but I am not even sure now if he left me for her or just got together with her.
Do you think this can be classed as a rebound considering our relationship intensity? We were so happy…
Any advise would be appreciated.
S
admin
February 23, 2015 at 9:21 pm
Well, I think enough time has passed for this to not be as much as a rebound as usual… HOWEVER the true test lies in how long they last.
S
February 22, 2015 at 7:28 pm
Just to add – when we were breaking up for the final time he said he doesn’t know what he wants from life, whether he wants marriage etc, not ready to get serious because ours was heading that way and doesn’t want a relationship for a really long time. He didn’t know if he could see me with him 10 years down the line and no there is no one else.
I mean seriously?
Janet
February 20, 2015 at 2:24 am
I was dating this guy for almost two years! We were really happy. He even proposed and we were engaged for a year. We made w beautiful baby and she is now a year old.
I never thought we had issues like yeah everyone bickers every now and then, but we never had serious issues! He was always cheated on from his past like he says and so was I. We got in a real big argument in November and he left for days and came back saying he loved and he wanted to make it work, so I did what I had to do to change. He’s always said I love you, soulmates, and always loved me! He the. Started acting strange and got mad over anything. I found out he was sneaking off to see someone and he went to see her. Before I confronted him about it, while he was coming home he called me and said baby I love you! And I said ok. He said baby I fucking love you as a jokey way and I said I love you too. When he came home I confronted him and he denied it and he was all stemmed up! That he sat down and said you wanna know the truth I’ve been cheating on you. I said WHY! And he said they’ve been seeing each other for a month and she knew he had a kid. He was angry while telling me and when he left he said maybe I never loved you and I felt pity for you and it was all lust!!! I choose not to believe that because it wasn’t for me. I wanna why he did this? Every now and then he looks up cute name for his new girl, then looks up all these depressing songs, then looks up songs about love and I hate it cause it kills me yet confuses me! I have to contact him when I drop off our daughter, and when he’s a available to get her and that’s it nothing else! I find any reason to talk to him before he takes her like, what he has to do, what I packed in the bag for her. He lives in Florida and she’s in Alabama so it’s long distance. Like I’m confuse when he looks up love songs and writes poetry. . . I guess for her. But then sad songs like just a dream by nelly, mgk mind of a stoner, and anything else. He can’t even that long at me, he has a soft tone when he talks, and he doesn’t seem like he cares. She’s completely the opposite of me, but yet said he would never cheat and never go for someone who’s preppy, university, and kinda plastic! I feel like he will never regret it! He even looked up having sex on promise which is confusing! So him from going to sad songs to Inlove songs! I know he came home with hickies whenever I was still with him in his chest so he probally slept with her. But idk what I should do, give him silent treatment, treat him with stern? ( cause I always let him do what he wanted and I was always nice I hardly got angry). Is she a rebound? Why did he do this? Now he’s even looking to go up to her!
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:45 pm
You should really read some of the cheating articles I have written.
Natalia
February 19, 2015 at 7:45 pm
I dated my ex bf for two years we broke up 4 weeks ago and on the date that we made it official two years ago February 17, 2013 . But on Feburay 17, 2015 he started a new relationship . My heart is shattered and so many answered questions on why he would do that. I’m confused because while he was building something with her he was still texting me wanting to see me and sending me texts on how he misses me and all of these things sending me pictures of us on how he misses us. He took that girl out on Valentine’s day but the day after he texts me wanting to see me. Then two days later makes it official with her on our suppose to be 2 year anniversary ..the relationship that he’s in now is that consider a re bound relationship ?
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:30 pm
Well does the relationship have the signs?
Natalia
February 21, 2015 at 12:36 am
Signs like how ?
Natalia
February 21, 2015 at 12:38 am
After 4 weeks we broke up he made it official on the date of our suppose to be 2 year anniversary .. I feel like it’s a rebound relationship
Natalia
February 19, 2015 at 7:48 pm
Un answered*
sabrina
February 19, 2015 at 1:58 pm
hi,
i just have a few questions… how in the world would i know if his family thinks he’s dating to fast?? even if i wasn’t in NC i would have no contact with his family or friend…(our relationship didn’t extend to friends and family, don’t get me wrong we got a long but i never had any contact with them outside the “us” don’t have any of there numbers..and to sniff through his friend is a bad idea considering the’re HIS friends and not mine…)
my ex is very hard to crack ( i do believe he’s more like you, meaning he sits to heal and reflect).
again besides being able to see when he was online i have no idea as to his wear about. even when we were together all of our photos together were uploaded by me (he likes his privacy and doesn’t think one should waste much time on facebook) he hasn’t put up photos of himself in 3 years, all of his new stuff is tags by me or his friends. the only thing he initiated was in a relationship when we were dating because he wanted everyone to know that i was his so back off kinda like thing…. and going back to single after we broke up).
we don’t live in the same city or hang out in the same places with no mutual friend. he dropped off the radar, he also hasn’t tried contacting me in any shape or form since the break up. how am i supposed to know if he’s in a rebound? or if he still love me? or misses me?
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:26 pm
Do you have any mutual friends who know his family?
sabrina
February 24, 2015 at 1:51 pm
as i mentioned no
Liz
February 18, 2015 at 5:44 pm
Dated a guy for 4 years. He is getting ready to turn 30 in a couple months and I’m a couple years younger than him. We didn’t live together – each having to return to living at home due to neither of us having roommates any more. Everything seemed to be going fine. The day after Christmas he signed a lease on an apartment. The next night, after spending the evening with him helping him move, I text him good night and that I loved him. He told me he loved me, too. I asked if he was sure because that day he seemed odd towards me. He the. Proceeded to tell me he was no longer happy in life and needed to make some changes.
The next night he told me he had made a mistake and was wrong that he needed me in his life. We spent some time together the next couple days and then went to a party NYE. He said maybe 5 words to me all night. I questioned him about it and he said it was because we were both interacting with other friends and he’d try harder to convince me he wasn’t thinking of leaving. In fact, I asked if he needed a few more days to think about things and he said he was afraid if he said yes to that, that I would think he was considering leaving again. So I gave him a few days. The relationship basically just ended. Kept telling me he just didn’t know. So we cleaned out our joint savings acct and it was just over.
Side note – we work together. Same company, different building but we do occasionally have to Interact for business purposes.
A couple days after we cleaned out the savings account, I drove by his apartment (was going to return his storage room key) and noticed another co-workers car at his house. This co-worker has been flirting with him for 2 years. He always told me they were just friends, but I knew she wanted more. When I saw her car there I flipped out (naturally) and accused him of cheating and lying to me. Again, he told me they were just friends.
He would still occasional text me random stuff up until about 2 weeks ago (I sent him a text telling him I had deleted all our photos off Facebook and our them in a folder called ‘4years of lies’ incase there was just 1 of him that he wanted to keep). He even stopped by my office about a month ago and said hi. Now he doesn’t attempt to communicate at all… And I’ve tried to cut all those ties myself. (Blocked him on Twitter, deleted photos of us off Facebook, set it to where he can only see minimal stuff of mine on Facebook, etc)
He however hasnt deleted our photos and has not posted anything on social media to indicate she’s even around. However, through mutual friends I know he’s spending most weekends with Her and possibly most nights through the week. He started “hanging out” with her less than a week from when we had cleared the saving account out.
She’s got a lot of qualities that he always talked about hating (tattoos, she’s church of Christ, he’s baptist…. Loves the walking dead show…etc). She does however have some of the same interest as him — music, sports, etc.
I can’t decide if this is a rebound or if he’s been thinking of dating her for a while. Again, there is nothing posted anywhere that they’re in a relationship. I just know they’ve been spending a lot of time together – and he’s pating when they go out to eat.
Thoughts?
admin
February 18, 2015 at 10:13 pm
Hahah well don’t get mad but I like the walking dead too…
But if there are that many difference between them then they probably won’t last in the long run which is good news for you, right?
Liz
February 19, 2015 at 3:28 pm
I guess it is.
If he’s acting completely opposite, my chances of this being just a rebound are greater, right?
He’s deleted some of our stuff on Facebook, but there’s still quite a bit on there. Am I reading too much into that?
All his friends said they can’t believe he’s done this and that it’ll blow up in his face. They tell me I deserve better. Even his parents have told me they never saw it coming. And as of 2 weeks ago, he was still telling them that him and his homewrecker were just friends.
Other than work related stuff, I haven’t spoken to him in 2 weeks and that’s when I wished him good luck in a big meeting and told him he looked nice. He responded to that message.
I know how the female mind works, just not the male. Our relationship was the longest one he’s ever had. We hadn’t had sex in the 2 months prior to the breakup – but that was just because of living situations that made it difficult.
I have no idea what to do. I Do plan to stick to the no contact rule – but again, sometimes that’s unavoidable because of work related reasons. I love him very much and really think he’s just scared of marriage so he ran. You can’t go from telling someone you love them very much to “I’m not in love with you anymore” in a matter of 2 weeks, can you?
(I really hope he never finds this post…)
Elizabeth
February 18, 2015 at 4:09 pm
This is going to be a long story,but I am stuck 🙁 . I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 5 years and the relationship was beautiful but there was always a problem and it was the fact that he focused so much in the relationship and me that he wouldnt do anything with his life. He didn’t even finish high school. He is 23 now and he works in Pizza Hut,lives in a studio with his mom and brothers, doesn’t have a car. He is an amazing person but he is lazy. Anyways, this year around halloween( October ) I broke up with him out of the blue because he was suffocating me. He was always scared I would find someone else because I go to college in buffalo and he lives in New York. I felt like we needed time apart so he can focus on himself. I made a mistake by having sex with another guy a week after I broke up with my ex. I told my ex what I did and he was hurt but was willing to work things out which I found it a red flag. But he kept asking me if I was playing around if that was a joke. ( my ex was the only guy I had sex with and he wanted it to be like that and so did I but shit happend) 2-3 weeks later for thanksgiving he meets this girl who also got out of a 5 year relationship. And my ex decided to use her to get back at me for what I did so he slept with her several times but he kept it a secret from me. When I went back home( new York) for break the whole month he was telling the girl one thing and telling me another and he loved the fact that two girls where after him. He blamed me the whole month of December saying if I would have never slept with he guy none of this would have happened. Little did I know he gave her the promise ring I gave him and he been slepted with her ,but he was keeping all that a secret. He would tell the girl to lie to me and tell me that they haven’t slelt together or kissed or even seen each other.but towards the end he ended up telling me because he found out that me and that new chick spoke. A week before heading back to school he tells me he doesn’t love me and he can’t forgive me and he hates me and he is just used to me. I have been in school for almost 2 months now and he has been going out with the girl still but tells my family and friends that he wants me in the future .how it’s impossible to be with me now and that he will do anything to be with me in he future but right now it’s not going to happen. I tried not speaking to him for a week and he kept blocking and unblocking me from watsapp. And his friends would text me trying to get information out of me but I wouldn’t tell them anything. On valentines days he sends me a message saying happy valentines day, and starts saying that he isn’t happy about valentines day and it’s just a regular day and he starts asking me if I’m talking to someone and am I going out and stuff like that. He also told my roommate that he basically loves me and wants to be with me in the future but wants to have fun with this new girl now because he can’t forgive me for what j did to him, but he isn’t realizing all the things he has done to me that are worse. He broke up with me 3 times in the month of December,gave her the promise ring I gave him , told me he doesn’t love me that he is just used to me .. And so much more 🙁 ..the next day after valentines day I ask if we can talk on the phone to clear things because I feel like he is playing games and he is 23 years acting like a child. And he ended up stooding me up saying he has stuff to do and then goes off by saying he can’t be with me for what I have done and said to him and it’s not easy to be okay with that especially from someone you care about, and he wants to be friends now and how anything can happen in the future ,how he has hope for us in the future but right now he can’t be with me . I don’t know what to do 🙁 .. I feel like I should move on but my heart belongs to him , I love him but I can’t even see him the same anymore .. I don’t know why he is doing all of this to me..I don’t understand what is going in his mind because now I feel like he is using my one mistake as an excuse to be with the new girl so when that fails he can than come back and say he forgave me for my mistake( a mistake he also did and continue and added more ) ( I don’t even think I did a mistake Becasue I was technicallly single but I know that hurt him because he was the only person I had slept with 🙁 ..what to do !!! What is going on with him ..why he is doing all this to me 🙁 is that chick a rebound or he is seriously done with me because he told me he really likes her and he is comfortable wth her and doesn’t feel judged. He took her to a restaurant that we use to go to and it meant the world to us that restaurant and he took her 🙁 .. I don’t know why this is happening .. Help me please !!!
Jazmine
February 17, 2015 at 8:26 pm
Hi, so my ex and I broke up 1 month ago after being together for 2 years and planning to move in with each other. he felt he couldn’t give me the time I deserved since we lived an hour away from each other and worked ridiculous hours. He was consistent in trying to stay my friend and we still talked for about 2 1/2 weeks afte that just casual conversation. One of the days he was being rather rude to me and upset me so I told him his breakup was a cop out. (I shouldn’t have but he was saying things like well whatever it takes for you to get over me) then two days later I see his in a relationship with a girl who is his best friends gf best friend. She has been liking him for years (way before I even met him) and he wanted nothing to do with her. Even made fun of her for having a crush on him since she is like a foot taller him. Would this be considered his rebound since they got together 3 weeks after we broke up and 2 days after I said that? He had told me He wouldn’t be dating and said “why would I have time for someone else if I don’t have time for you” and said that just a few days before they got together. . When we broke up he told me he loved me and that’s why he had to do it. I just don’t understand what’s going on
admin
February 18, 2015 at 9:30 pm
Have you attempted any of the tactics on this site?
Lough
February 17, 2015 at 7:33 am
My ex and I broke it off on Christmas Eve and he got married a few days ago on valentines day (I know how cliche?) we were together for 6 years and have a 3 year old daughter together. I am mostly concerned about this being a rebound because of the child involved. I have full custody and am not really comfortable with him taking her around his new wife, whom our 3 year old does not even Know. Not to mention his new wife has 3 children of her own all by different fathers and my ex has three other children and I am his 3rd baby momma. I forgot to mention that his new wife has been his “best friend” for like 14 years. I was never comfortable about their friendship cause I could tell it was one of those friend zone type of things and I’m sure he’s always wanted to date her and she just uses him. He even admitted it to me when he first introduced her to me in the beginning of our relationship. He had the nerve to say “she’s the one girl I always wished I could have before I met you.” So now they are married. I found out via Facebook and called him as soon as I found out to ask wtf. He was on the phone with me for over an hour on his wedding night, he called me telling me he missed me just the week before he got married. I cut him off tho and told him he was being inappropriate because he had a girlfriend at that point. Then I found out from his mother that the same day he called me missing me he called her and his sister telling them that he wasn’t happy and his 11 year old son whom he has custody of isn’t happy. But then a week later marries this girl. I know my ex is very compulsive, maybe even a sociopath. Would you say this is a rebound even if he married her and he claims to have always been in love with her?
Tai
February 17, 2015 at 6:09 pm
you wouldn’t go through all that effort of marrying someone who is merely a rebound. as hard as it may be he loves her.
admin
February 17, 2015 at 1:03 pm
I would have trouble classifying a rebound he married as a rebound.
Lough
February 18, 2015 at 4:56 am
Thanks!
Tai
February 16, 2015 at 11:13 pm
me and my ex were together for 5 years, we were very close and madly in love with eachother. we both never had many friends and would prefer to be in each others company. Hes my first love and the first and only guy i have ever slept with. we did alot of travelling together and talked about getting married and starting a family.
one day on my birthday, we were suppose to be going out, we were speaking on the phone as normal then suddenly he broke up with me. it seemed initially he wanted a break because he started telling me that his aunt and uncle broke up for a while and got back together then it went to he didnt want to be with me at all and he suddenly saw no future with me. when i drove to his house to demand answers he told me there was nothing to talk about and that he didnt want to see me. time went pass and i would call him to find out more answers he was like he couldnt progress and that he has reached his limit in with the relationship. he told me that it was not girl related and the reason he wanted to do this is because he wanted to better himself and that he didnt think he was good for me etc. we broke up in october and he started a new job in late Nov early Dec – there he met this girl whom he now claims to be his girlfriend, he has been flaunting her on instagram and snapchat with no remorse for my feelings, and doesnt care what i see. he started going out more and started being very horrible to me, i called him on new years to wish him a happy new year and he practically hung the phone up on me, the way he was acting like i had done something wrong. not forgetting to mention that within these 4 months he had at one stage asked me out to lunch then cancelled at the last minute whilst i was getting ready. he called me for motivation when his uni tutor threatened that if he doesnt pull his weight up he could fail. this whole process had made me feel like shit and i was wondering if anyone knew ways that i could move on and feel happy again. the question is also is this new relationship a rebound? – facts you may wish to know . – flaunting her on social networking sites, going on meals with her, visiting her at uni, been together 2 months now, received a present from her on valentines
admin
February 17, 2015 at 12:39 pm
Its interesting that he would call you for support rather than his new girlfriend…
I don’t think he relies on her that much quite yet.
candy
February 18, 2015 at 3:49 pm
can you please reply to my question down below? i got skipped
admin
February 18, 2015 at 10:00 pm
I am so sorry Candy!
He clearly hasn’t moved on yet if he is taking those small little jabs at you.
candy
February 16, 2015 at 1:23 am
me and ex was in a relationship for 4 years and( lived together for 3 years)i broke up with him in may 2014 and move out in june. In august he contacted me when i was back in town and wanted to work things out, i give him a shot then he pissed me off ending part of november so i cut all contact with him by blocking his nr. I then texted him xmas day to wish him merry christmas and he was mad and said i shouldn’t contact him again, so i never did.
But After that he started taking jabs at me on social media. i ignored it for a month and a week ago i contacted him asking him why the hate? we started texting back n forth for hours mainly why things didnt work out and maybe we should give it a try so he called me the same night and asked me if we could meet up because he wanted to see if i was sincere with him. we decided to meet up on wednesday but on tuesday night he texted me and said he couldn’t make it but that he will let me know when he has time so i said ok and never bother.
After some days i texted him with no reply, today i decided to texted him again to ask him where his head at and he should stop playing with me. Either he wanna give it another shot or not. he never express the fact that he moved on , he said i don’t wanna hold u up, if u have someone in your life …go be with him. he seemed very unsure when he text me because he’s talking to this girl (which i had a problem with him talking with while we were together) but he always said they were normal friends and i never believed that.
After the last text he posted a pic of him and her laying down as his profile pic on whatsapp.he´s always posting pic of her on his whatsapp but not on fb or instagram. he just met this girl in real life this weekend (she lives in another country) and all of a sudden they all lovey dovey and he is posting her on his whatsapp? so is he in a rebound relationship because obvisouly he moved on really fast and we always said he will never love another girl like he loved me and that i was the best he ever had and that he wants to have kids with me , marry me ect ( yea you know how couples who been together for too long be talking). even though he posts pic of her as his profile on whatsapp , his status on whatsapp always be about me leaving me ( he´s always taking small jabs at me). SO has he really move on? or is he doing all this to get me jealous?
Laura
February 15, 2015 at 6:22 am
Dated this guy for 12yrs and was engaged for 2 of the 12. We grew apart and a year or so ago we broke up. Throughout our 1yr+ so called “breakup” we have still hung out, been there for each other, and have slept together off and on (basically dating without the title). About 4 months ago i stopped hanging out with him and sleeping with him cold turkey because i needed space. Although he took it pretty hard; we still talked every few weeks, usually for hours, initiated by him calling. He began online dating 2 months after I stopped hanging out with him and sleeping with him. He has met a few people which had not led to anything. A few weeks ago we slept together out of the blue. We continued to speak following the hookup and ended up sleeping together once again this past week. He then told me he had been introduced to someone a few weeks ago and had been talking to her, and wanted to see where it would lead, but that he sees us together in the long run and that i still have his heart. He has been to see her twice in two weeks. She lives a few hours out of town near some of his family. Could this be a rebound relationship?
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:34 pm
It might be…
I think I might write a little more on rebounds. I think this article could be better.
Alyssa
February 15, 2015 at 4:59 am
My boyfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago. We were both really shy at first and it was really awkward, but we got to know each other more. Until we finally felt comfortable around each other. Later on, I found out I was moving once I finished school. I told him about it and he was really sad. Things weren’t the same. We stopped talking. At first I thought that he didn’t like me anymore, but it wasn’t that. He was really sad that I was moving. We talked about it and we both thought that it was better if we ended the relationship. He said,”I’m going to be honest, I really like you and I would continue with this relationship, but…” I finished his sentence for him by saying, “But I’m moving”.I was really sad because I didn’t want the relationship to end. I talked with my friend about it and she told me that I should tell him how I really felt. That I really liked him and that it shouldn’t matter whether I’m moving or not. We should just live the moment. The next day I didn’t see him so I wasn’t able to talk him. The next day, one of our friends told me that he was already going out someone else. Our friend asked me whether or not I was okay. I told him I was, but I wasn’t. I felt lied to, betrayed, and stupid. He’s always accompanying her to her classes. Now, he sits with her and her friends at lunch. Something he didn’t do with me. He’s spending so much time with her and the worst part is that they’re both in most of my classes. I act all happy like it doesn’t effect me, but it does. Most of my friends say that he’s using her as a rebound, but I’m not really sure.
bummed
February 15, 2015 at 4:02 am
Hi, me and my ex met in 2012 (he was visiting friends in my city) and then texted for 7mo but then just went silent: he’d texted that he was coming to my town around halloween and I made a joke about a costume party for his celebration and we just stopped contact. 6mo later (April 2013) I texted him randomly and went to visit him in his city with a GF and after 4mo of frequent texting we started an official relationship. The official relationship lasted only 2mo (LDR), I broke it off b/c communication became less frequent and the night before he’d hitched a ride with a random girl after a night of drinking (he called me when he got home that night). I have trust issues.
Well, then I launched your recovery program and things were going well but I guess b/c no changes had been made (on either side) we were on-off for a year until last Dec. he & I were talking about him visiting me. We’d been rehashing our physical side of our relationship & sexting a bit and then it became clear that he had no immediate plans to see me so I told him we should stop talking because we obviously wanted different things. He responded: “sorry i can’t come up there in 2 weeks” and I said the next day that it seemed like he didn’t want to see me and 2 days later I said that we can talk but that I didn’t want to sext.
Silence followed for 1.5 wk and then on Christmas Eve I got a picture text of an inside joke between us: a buff dude in a red g-string (I’d always told him I wanted him to wear one for me). I responded: “Oh Holy Night!” and then sent a picture of a street sign of his name: “Henry St” (an inside story about him and the city I was living in). 1 week later I sent him a picture of myself on NYE with a Louisiana mask (he lives in LA). No response from him until 1 week later: he texted a link to an NYC subway event (I had been living in NYC). The next day I told him I’d relocated to his state to live/work with family (appx 4 hours away from his city). He didn’t text respond to that but the next morning I was awoken to an internet prank call from his number. After the call I sent him a text: “funny guy”. No response from him. 2 days later I started sending him casual texts: pictures of t-shirts he likes, a video of my dog, and a picture of me freshman year in college. He never responded. I sent him an email of a rap video with slightly offensive language and then sent him a text “why are you ignoring me?” and 24 hours later he responded: “its over”. 30min later I asked why and 4 hours later he responded: “Its not meant to be”.
My friends think that the only way to explain this unexpected change in demeanor is that he has a new GF. Do you think its a new GF/RR?
-Anonymous-
February 14, 2015 at 4:12 pm
My (ex) boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago. It was more him than me, but in a way, it was mutual.
Here’s the backstory:
We have known each other four years. We eventually dated for a few months, then he left me for another girl and say that “I was not for him.”
Months later, we started talking again, because it didn’t work out with that girl. So, this is where it gets “serious,” lol, we made up and dated for over a year.
We had good memories in that year, but the last few weeks, we were always arguing and not at ease. He had been flirty with other girls through out the relationship, and near the end, he was leading another girl on. I feel like it was to have her right there as soon as he broke things off with me.
After him and I broke up, they were hanging out all the time and there is a picture of him kissing her on the cheek at a dance. We broke up less than two weeks ago, and he left me and moved on like it was absolutely nothing. His excuse was that “he is too ‘ immature’ for a relationship, he can’t meet my standards, and he also said that I made the relationship unhealthy?? (Long story, he was also emotionally abusive and always tried twisting arguments about other girls around of me saying that I was “jealous, has trust issues, and that I needed to learn how to have grace with people.”.)
But anyways ,, it bothers me he can get away with all this like its nothing… But my question is…Is she a rebound? I can tell he was leading her on while we were still dating, and right after we broke up they seem to have gotten together super fast and are hunky dory. Two weeks later, after him and I dated for over a year. Rebound?
admin
February 16, 2015 at 11:26 pm
She could be!
Does she have the signs I outlined in this article?
Jane
February 14, 2015 at 10:14 am
Hi there, my bf and I were together for almost two years, had a child together and are still not sure who broke up with whom but, we’re in the middle of a bad break up and he’s already seeing a co worker whose eight years younger but my colleagues tell me she’s just a rebound, is this true?
Lee
February 11, 2015 at 5:52 am
Hi chris, my boyfriend and I were in a serious relationship for almost 3 yrs. My boyfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago and I found out He was talking to another girl, (he tried hiding it from me by Defriending me on facebook). I later found out that she lives on the other side of the US. He met her while out visiting friends. But it seems like he actually likes her. Can this really go anywhere? She is in school for the next 2yrs and he doesnt want to transfer his work. Nor can he. He told me all this stuff. Will no contact work in this situation even if he currently isnt contacting me? I feel him pull farther from me and closer to her it seems. Like 3yrs never meant anything.
admin
February 11, 2015 at 2:16 pm
Long term I don’t see it lasting…
Lee
February 12, 2015 at 5:57 am
would you advise no contact? And follow your game plan in your book, with intiating contact after 1 month?
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:07 pm
Yup!