6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

2,943 thoughts on “Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (The Definitive Guide)”

dzy lou sincero

April 7, 2014 at 9:45 am

Hi chris! We dated for 3 months and i really thought we were very happy and emotionally invested with each other. We are officemates so we see each other everyday. We broke up for a month ago (it was my fault though, i’ve kept things from him) and a week after the break up, i already saw him with another woman. They’re seeing each other for a month now. NC for a month as well. Whenever we see each other in the office, he’s always the one who wants to talk first. Gets out of the way just to talk to me but i dont wanna talk to him coz i’ve been hurt by the whole scenario really. I pretended im okay, now i think im much better than the week after the break up. But whenever i see him and the new girl, i cant help but get sad and wonder if he misses me too. I still want him though but i dont know if he’s happy with the new girl or not. I’d appreciate the comment. Thank you so much
cyndia

April 5, 2014 at 2:46 pm

Hi,

My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Before that he seems prefectly fine. He will bring me out every weekend. The day before breakup he still care for me. But the next day he told me he like another girl at office and say he is confused actually. I followed the no contact rules after breakup. But he did not contact me ever since the breakup. I do miss him. I’m not sure what am i suppose to do now.
Kristen

April 5, 2014 at 9:14 am

My ex and I were together for 13 years and 6 months when he walked out on our daughter and me. My “ex best friend” let him stay at her place within a month of leaving us, cause he kept telling her he had no where else to go. I found out almost 3 months after he left us they had slept together and within days of me finding out about it they were in a “relationship”. Things have gone down hill for my ex and I since he has been with her. Up until they got together, we were talking, not fighting, and trying to be friends for our daughters sake. I have tried telling them both that after that long of a relationship that more than likely its a rebound. She says if it is then she lost her best friend and screwed up. He on the other hand yells at me now telling me that I don’t know his feelings. Right after he admitted to sleeping with her he was telling me that he was in love with her. Of course, my daughter and I have been seriously hurt! Let alone to mention that he is now saying that they have “talked” about getting married. We hadn’t filed for divorce and he is already thinking marriage?!?! I have since filed for divorce, and for it to be cheaper for us both since he isn’t working, I have been trying to get him to just go in with me and sign the no contest for, like we originally were going to for 2 weeks now, he is putting it off and saying that he don’t know if he will or not. He ignores the questions about it and moves on to a different subject every time I try talking to him about it. Let alone he don’t even act like himself where our daughter is concerned. He lies to her, and don’t show up when he says he is going to. He tries acting like this totally different person and seems like he is trying to make his GF believe that he is this person when he isn’t. He has told me that he knew he wasn’t in love with me anymore, cause he wasn’t happy. I’m sorry, but just because someone isn’t happy don’t mean they aren’t in love with that person. I know quite a few of my friends say they get to the point of not being happy, but that don’t mean they don’t love the person that they are with. I am just confused how he can talk to me and have no problems to being with his gf after 3 months of leaving and just totally change who he was in a short amount of time. Any advice, or help would be greatly appreciated!

admin

April 6, 2014 at 5:02 pm

13 years. That is a long time.

The girl is a total rebound. Don’t let her affect you. You just focus on you right now.

Amiya

April 4, 2014 at 12:28 am

I was with my ex boyfriend for 6 months until a few weeks ago he called it off, except he didn’t call it off himself. His friend told me that in my ex’s words, “He doesn’t want to see you or talk to you ever again.” And that made me think to myself, “What did I do?” I never found out why we broke up so I decided to leave it alone until about 5 days after we broke up, I found out he was with a new girl. And that girl was one of my friends. I couldn’t tell wether it was a serious relationship or wether he was doing it to make me jealous and come back to him. I’m really confused but not too heart broken to the point that I would lock myself in my room all day and cry. I need help Chris. Thanks.

Amiya

April 4, 2014 at 12:43 am

In addition, we were a very happy couple. Often saw each other, and held hands, hugged, etc. Basically showing displays of affection in public. I wasn’t clingy, I gave him space when I thought he needed it and When he needed me to be there for him, I was.

Peter Sowassey

April 3, 2014 at 11:48 pm

Hi…big question for you !!…ok so my ex girlfriend and I went out for 5 years both agreed soulmate connection madly in love and best sex ever !!!! All the time both agree. So when we broke up ( it was over her cheating and some unhappy times from me bc of the ongoing issue cheating trust etc ..ultimately she left me ) however she met someone a few months after we split although we were still having sex all the time . Since the day she met this guy 3 months ago and moved in with almost immediately we have been still having sex on a regular basis. She says she is struggling emotionally from day one with the new guy and does not love him but she continues to live with him and have very loving passionate sex with me. Will she end up leaving him ??? And come back to me ??? Or what is your opinion ? She knows I want her back ?? She says something will have to give …..what are your thoughts ….I really miss her a lot !!!! Thx

admin

April 4, 2014 at 5:15 pm

Have you read my other site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery? You can ask me questions on your ex girlfriend there and I will answer!

Eli

April 3, 2014 at 8:32 pm

Well, am not sure if about rebound of less than 3 months that will not last. I was with my ex for about seven years. We eventually got engaged, lived together, studied together, grow up together we went through a lot together. I could never see myself without him that how much I loved him, same as he… But things changed When we relocated for his family to his country, he became different man. Partying a lot alone, flirting around a lot and after Three years he broke up! a week later that I packed to leave the country he called and asked me to go for one month and come back I said No! either stop me now or I’ll go for good. He said that he needs sometimes off from me but I wasn’t buy it and I left. I regretted now when I think back cause I loved him so much but my pride didn’t let me to go back to him after what he done. anyway after not even a month he found a new girl, after 6 months he proposed and married now he has a kid with her all this happened less than two years so he moved on so fast that I was shock!! so there are always exception for rebounds. Funny thing is that for me after five months of break up, I jumped in a relationship but I was honest told the guy am a mess not ready for anything he didn’t believe it! I was absolute nightmare for him, worst gf anyone could wish for but he stood next to me, he was my angle until I broke up with him cause I felt he is not a serious guy even though her loved me and I didn’t want to get hurt again so we broke up and a month later I went out with his neighbor! didn’t last much cause I wasn’t in love with him neither. I just needed to replace my ex but I couldn’t find anyone who could be a bit similar to him. so my case was real rebound without wanting it and I definitely didn’t want to be ended like this with both guys after my ex.
Abigail

April 3, 2014 at 6:35 am

Hi I broke up with my ex last February but we kept in contact. I kept texting him and when I didn’t text him, he would text me. He went on holiday in October and came back saying he loved me and missed me. I wanted to meet him but he said he had to work. I contacted his friends on Facebook and asked them if he was seeing someone. They said it was none of my business. This sent me crazy and I emailed more friends and his family which was stupid. He then emailed my mum threatening with the police. I was just confused and I did It because I love him. After Christmas he found someone else. She is nearer his age, pretty and has a great job. He put photos of them on his whatsapp and Facebook. I stupidly found out where she worked a tried to call her too. He found out and threatened with the police again. I just feel like it’s so unfair. He kept me thinking there was hope of us getting back together. I love him but he is with her. I wish it was a rebound but it seems serious. I miss talking to him and every day is a struggle. We were together for two years and I thought he loved me, but was obviously wrong. What do you think?
Wtf

April 2, 2014 at 11:12 pm

Hi Chris,

So I dated this guy for 3 months last year. Everything was going fine (or so it seemed to me), until he broke up with me out of the blue saying he wasn’t in love with me and didn’t think he ever could be. I took it hard, but I also took the advice on this website.

I took some time and worked on myself physically and mentally. After 30 day NC, during which he contacted me 4 times, he eventually wanted me back and told me (and my friends) that he loved me. I didn’t want to jump back in so fast, but I loved him and believe in second chances. Over the next 6 weeks we went on dates and had a lot of good times. Then he started acting weird and distanced himself. He blew off a date we had, claiming he forgot about it. I was hurt and chose to ignore him for a day. Then the next day he had a new girlfriend. He never told me. When I found out through social media I confronted him and ended things. His excuse for his behavior was “bad timing.” Lol.

Needless to say I was devastated. I’m in 90 day NC again for my own sanity and recovery. I feel I was led on, lied to and cheated on, even though we were in a weird stage between dating and officially together. It’s now clear to me he has serious issues (anger, lying, drinking among others). He disrespected me so badly that I don’t want him back this time. I honestly feel bad for new girlfriend and wonder if she even knew about me (he claimed she did when I confronted him). Even though he chose her over me, could this be a rebound relationship? He’s been good friends with her for a couple years and has only known me since last summer. If he was really in love with her I don’t get why he wouldn’t have just got with her after we broke up the first time instead of trying to get me back. He also refuses to make them “facebook official” and to avoid this he put that he is in a relationship with his best friend.

So confused! Any of your input would help. I mostly just want to know if this can be considered a rebound.

admin

April 4, 2014 at 4:43 pm

How long has he been dating her again? Do you know specifically?
bo

April 5, 2014 at 3:45 am

Since st. Patrick’s day officially. But I’m sure he was seeing her before I broke things off with him, which I did as soon as I found out about her. Not exactly sure when they started hooking up behind my back.

Sam

April 2, 2014 at 2:05 pm

I was with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. I broke up with him I’m January this year and a week later he’d moved on to the type of woman he used to moan about and the complete opposite of me and I keep seeing them around my neck of the woods. He decided to declare it all on Facebook on what would have been our 9th anniversary! He kept all my friends and family as his facebook friends and only deleted me once he was sure I saw his new relationship status. Two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying I have moved on. He’s sent these quite a few times actually. He also text me to ask how I was and wish my mum a happy birthday! He still has stuff at mine, after nearly 9 years, there is a lot! I made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of I have moved on makes me think why bother. I assume it’s a rebound as everyone has said to me it is and his own cousins where shocked it happened and so soon and having read your page. We were tight as a couple, never fought once, same interests Etc, the usual but we got strained through his work and I thought a break would be good. I didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. Apart from what’s recently happened, we both agreed we were happy and he even text to say I’m pleased to have spent them years with you, we had good times. Is he rebounding? I’m so confused and don’t know what to do to be honest.
He’s sent a few horrible texts since and blamed me a few times and trying to reinforce he’s moved on but I have been ignoring him, trying no contact!
sarah

April 1, 2014 at 8:53 pm

Hi so me and my ex were together about 8 months. it was a good relationship. he broke it off saying he didnt want a relationship. a week after he came vback and opened up how he felt. that he has a few problems with himself, hes scared of getting hurt, hes worried he is goijg to mess things up, hes worried he is a failure(to his family). Another thing i should add is he is going to oz in june for a year and im goingin aug for a year, we agreed to meet up inoz and see how it goes. When he broke up he also said he was afraid of the unknown when it came to oz and didnt want to be a basterd to me and unable to meet. In that week he said he loved me to pieces and could see i was hurting. He was in tears with me. He then turned around again and said he didnt want the relationship. That was a month ago and he is now seeing another girl. Pictures of them on facebook taking day trips ect. Is this a rebound? how can he do this if he is going to oz and still has his problems? any thoughts would be good. i want him to come back to me. x

admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:30 pm

How long have they been dating?

Lana

April 1, 2014 at 8:16 am

Hi Chris,

My ex and I dated for 5 months. We’ve had some amazing times but would get weird when it came to serious relationships

We broke things off a few weeks ago but suddenly last night he said, we can’t be friends bc he’s hanging out w a new girl.

By going nc will he see what he’s lost and is she a rebound?

admin

April 1, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Was it him not wanting to be serious?

mariyana

March 31, 2014 at 2:18 pm

hello Chris,
lately I found out that my ex has someone new in his life, his taking her already to vacations after a month- 3 month of dating (I don’t know exactly for how long they have been dating), making her dinners, etc. I would like you to tell me what you think about it and tell me if it’s a rebound or not.

We had been dating with him for about 2 and a half years, I took the inniciative to tell him that I need a breake due to lots of fights with him. a break that evantually we broke up. during the first month he flew to Canada and I though that while he is here, I will have the chance to see how it is without him and maybe the longing will do their work and we will got together again. nevertheless, he continued to whatsup me and when he came back we “stayed friends”- we slept together, he asked me whether or not i want to get back to him. I told him no everytime, but couldn’t resist sleeping and hanging with him and his friends at weekends.
at New Years Eve I got drunk and i didn’t like that he didn’t invite to spend the night with me, so I got angry at him and wrote him a SMS , we got into fight. he didn’t spoke to me for about 10 days.
after I initiate the conversation we stayed in touch, from a distance.
He wanted to see me, but I had a period of exams in the University, so I rejected his invitations. I told him that I will finish the exams first and then we will meet. In the end we didn’t met, he stoped writing me and we stoped being in touch.
I can tell you that in the begining of February he wanted to see me. Finally I found out that he started to dating this girl at that time.
The gut is going to be 25 in June and the new girl is 27 years old. I’m going to be 22 in May.
I want to point out that I asked him for my stuff in the beggining of March and he dropped by for a minute or two to give my stuff back. I joked with him that :”just tell me that you want to see me”, and he was like :”I just want to give your stuff back. that’s all. ” He told me that he wanted to throw my stuff by that time and waited for my decision if to see me and give me back my stuff or to throw them and that’s it. He was pretty cold to me, we just hugged when said hello and that’s it.

you can say that we dated with him for about 2 and a half years. He was my first, and I was his best relationship ever, he took care of me like a princess, he was afraid to lose me, we loved each other. I will always love him, I’m wondering now what about him? is this new girl of him is a rebound or not? he can be a really serious guy, taking care of his girl and really cute and happy when in love.

I just want to know whether or not he is over me ? if it is going to last between them for long? if he still remmember me? and whether he will re-establish the connection with me again? even if it just for talking?
Tell me please what you think of this. I felt so much pain the last week, since I found out about his new girlfriend that I just want to know the truth.

mariyana

March 31, 2014 at 2:30 pm

also I wanted to tell you that I deleted him from my facebook after new years eve, and he was the one who added me later.
but in the beggining of March I couldn’t see his facebook page, I though he deleted his page, it turned out to be that he blocked me, on purpose- that I could not see that he has a new girlfriend.
But I saw the photos and it killed me.
Is it real all this?
I will be glad to hear your opinion on that.

thnx a lot Chris. 🙂
mariyana

April 4, 2014 at 8:10 pm

why aren’t u replying me?
admin

April 6, 2014 at 4:42 pm

I took yesterday off.
Mariyana

April 7, 2014 at 2:45 pm

Ok… So can u tell me what do you think about everything or not?

Joan

March 31, 2014 at 7:42 am

Hi Cris, I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year, it has been on and off, He said he has in his mind the day we left each other in as he goes to back to his country that I didnt respond to his kisses, and that he didnt see that we are good for each other, I explained and he was the one to call me and we are ok again. Then on the last two months he said that he didnt love me anymore and no feelings when we talked, I made a mistake of sending him lots of messages some with my emotions that I think hurt him, I apply nc and on the 21 day he called and emailed me saying sorry for hurting me, that he has good memories about me, I respond after 2days saying I am ok, then he told me he was worried but when he see me got online on the site where we meet as he was also in it he feel ok, I told him that I sometimes go there to see him in there as it gives me reason to move on, so the issue was not resolved then suddenly he posted a new girl on his account on fb, then I ask him if how long it has been, he told me when he stopped answering my email I dont know if it is a month ago or just a week, he said he is going with the flow, he havent seen the girl in person but when I ask him if he is serious with the new girl he said yes, I ask him if he will see me when he visits the country he said maybe but it would be unfair to the girl, what was wrong with me he said that distance made him realize we are not for good.
I dont know what to feel or do,now Im not contacting him again. I
Is this a rebound? Will no contact saves our relationship when he said he realized that we are not for good and what should I do to change this thinking of his?
Thanks, really need advice I am blurred and cant think what to do.

admin

March 31, 2014 at 4:22 pm

You might get something out of the LDR page.
Joan

April 1, 2014 at 2:27 am

Do you have link on this ldr page? And if I do nc again, would there be a chance that he will miss me if he his talking to this new girl?
admin

April 1, 2014 at 5:03 pm

Yes sorry… so busy I forget to link to it sometimes:

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-complete-guide-to-getting-an-ex-boyfriend-back-in-a-long-distance-relationship/
Joan

April 2, 2014 at 11:53 am

Thanks For the link, read it already, my question is, he did contact me on my first nc after 21days but after a day he had this new girl, i know its a rebound but how long probably it will last and is there a chance that he still love or miss me? Is doing no contact again will make him miss me when he is already talking to this new girl? Thanks
Joan

April 2, 2014 at 11:55 am

Another one, should I delete my profile pic in skype and remove him as contact?
admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:04 pm

NOOOO

Sam

March 30, 2014 at 10:19 am

I was with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. I broke up with him I’m January this year and a week later he’d moved on to the type of woman he used to moan about and I keep seeing them around my neck of the woods. He decided to declare it all on Facebook on what would have been our 9th anniversary! Two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying I have moved on. He’s sent these quite a few times actually. He also text me to ask how I was and wish my mum a happy birthday! He still has stuff at mine, after nearly 9 years, there is a lot! I made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of I have moved on makes me think why bother. I assume it’s a rebound as everyone has said to me it is and his own cousins where shocked it happened and having read your page. We were tight as a couple, never fighter once, same interests Etc, the usual but we for strained through his work and I though a break would be good. I didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. Apart from what’s recently happened, we both agreed we were happy and he even text to say I’m pleased to have spent them years with you, we had good times. Is he rebounding? I’m so confused and don’t know what to do to be honest

Sam

March 30, 2014 at 12:02 pm

Also he kept all my friends and family as his facebook friends and only deleted me once he was sure I saw his new relationship status!

honey

March 30, 2014 at 9:54 am

Now the 7k question for you Chris:
What if he is in a rebound relationship with another ex he was just the half time with her together than with me. He never made this relationship official before btw.because he claimed she was not pretty enough for him and it made him feel bad to show her off and to present her as his gf.
He said she was more like an good buddy to him…and I was marriage material. Though after the break up they are hanging up together and I dont know for sure but sometimes it seems like they are more than just friends hmmm…what do you think? Just a rebound???
Naomi

March 30, 2014 at 9:29 am

Hi Chris,

I need help.
My husband broke up with me about 2 months ago. He met some with in days of us breaking up. We have 2 kids together. He in the navy and works away. He been home twice and each time he finished with her and wanted me back. He gone back to base and he with her again. I started filing for divorce and he said he doesn’t want to as u font know what tomorrow could bring and how he will feel. He says he wants to sort him self out and that he like the girl and she somewhere to ex scape to instead of been stuck in his room. He say he wants us to be friends and build bridges and if it meant to be it will. What do u think. Plz help.
pat

March 28, 2014 at 9:22 pm

Hi chris.
My ex and i dated for four months, the relationship was going great then suddenly said he wanted to be alone and single. Two weeks later i find out he’s already dating a new girl and seem to really like her. Is this a rebound and can i still get him back? Because of the relatively short time we dated, I’m scared to go no contact as he might forget about me and fall in love with her. What should i do?

Please help i miss him.

admin

March 30, 2014 at 8:36 pm

The timing is right for a rebound.

Keira

March 28, 2014 at 3:21 pm

Hello Chris. I just finished reading this page and it was really helpful for me. You see, I broke up with my boyfriend for 2 years and 7 months. The reason we broke up is I always caught him chaeting or flirting with other girls. But we both really loves each other. We’re crazy and insane about each other. I thought that our break up was just like our other break up’s. I was not expecting that after 2 weeks since our break up he’s in a relastionship with other girl. That girl that he’s in a relationship right now is the same girl that I caught him flirting with. I though after I caught him theyre communication stop. So I was really hurt when I find out that theyre in a relationship so it’s mean they’ve been together before we broke up. I feel so stupid. We block each other in facebook, i change my number we don’t have any communications escpet from our common friends. I didnt let them see that I was hurting so I’m trying to be a better person I was really happy because I think without him in my life for a just moment makes me want to be a REALLY better person. I get a job, new set of friends, new place to go and there was no one to hold me back. I was not thinking about him for real I just hope that he’s happy with his relationship now. Actually his new girlfriend now is a much more better than me. She’s a model and every mans dream. How can I compete with that? *sigh* It’s been almost 2 months now since we broke up and just out of nowhere I’ve been thinking about him a lot this past few days. Maybe I miss him I dont know. But they’re still together with that girl and it looks like he’s happy with some of their pictures. I’m really confused and I’m not one of those girls who contacts theyre ex boyfriends. They’re toghether for 2 months now or more and I can’t say if it’s a rebound or what? Helppppp.
zzizz

March 28, 2014 at 3:44 am

Hi Chris,

This was very helpful. I am very lost. I was with my ex for over 4 years and we lived together for over 2 years. I moved away for school and i guess he was trying to fill the void and got feelings for a girl at work who is a LOT younger than him. He broke up with me two weeks ago and just couple of days ago mentioned that he started seeing her a week ago but has had feelings forming toward her since the fall (essentially when I left). would she be a rebound? he wrote me a letter and seems extremely confused. ridiculous. thanks for your help

admin

March 28, 2014 at 4:52 pm

Ya the moving away may have messed with him..
zzizz

March 28, 2014 at 4:01 am

I forgot to mention he said he wasn’t emotionally (yeah right) or physically (i believe this) cheating on me as she also had a boyfriend whom she broke up with to be with my ex not long ago.

Amber

March 28, 2014 at 3:08 am

What’s some casual things to say or to start with to your ex after NC rule?

admin

March 28, 2014 at 4:48 pm

Read this guide: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-version-2-0/

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