2,943 thoughts on “Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (The Definitive Guide)”

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   Doreen

   July 30, 2013 at 3:33 pm

   My ex boyfriend and i had a one-year relationship but most of it was a long distance relationship. We broke up this February and when he got back here last May I heard that he’s now courting the girl he used to work with abroad and they went home here together. We talked and finished it for real last May. We didnt have communication for almost a month after that. Then he texted me and it continued for a month. I was at a party this July and he texted me that he’ll pick me up. So we see each other for the first time after May. He told me that he still loves me, he cant stop thinking about me and i’m still the one he’s looking for even when he’s with his new girlfriend already. Should i believe him? Is it possible that he’s in a RR? If he truly loves me then he should have left the girl and come back to me but he didnt. My friends tell me that maybe he was just lying. Im so confused. And by the way, he got a job here with his girlfriend. Which makes me think that he will forget about me since they’re gonna each other everyday.

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 6:29 pm

   Hi Doreen,

   I am really sorry your so hurt from this situation :(. He is still with the girl and I think that he does feel something towards you but he wants to have both at once. That is my honest opinion.

   I think you need to work on becoming an “ungettable girl” to him b/c he knows that he can get you any time he wants.

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   Doreen

   July 31, 2013 at 6:56 pm

   Thanks for your honest opinion 🙂 But how will i ever get him back? Im afraid he might forget about me and his feelings towards me if i do the NC rule since he’s with his new girlfriend EVERYDAY 🙁 he’s not just a normal guy i used to date, we planned our future together like going to other countries, how many kids we want to have, etc. i know im stupid for still wanting him even though he left me but please dont judge, he’s my happily ever after 🙁 please help me 🙁

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   admin

   August 1, 2013 at 5:20 am

   Hahaha Doreen,

   Not to burst your bubble here but everyone in a relationship over a year usually has the “marriage, kids, countries” talk. In the end though that is all it is, just talk. Yes, things are great with his new girlfriend right now but I wonder how he will like her in a few months when the relationship has gotten stale and he can’t take his mind off of you.

   My advice is simple. Stop focusing on things you have no control over. Focus on stuff you do have control over.

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   Doreen

   August 2, 2013 at 4:02 am

   oh. okay. thank you very much 🙂

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   Lisa

   July 29, 2013 at 8:22 pm

   Hi.
   I suffer from depression that got too much for my ex to handle, and once i got things right and stopped messing up, he still was too affected by our past bad experiences (he said things got bottled up until he couldn’t take it), so he dumped me 6 months ago. 3 months ago he got a new girlfriend and they have already met each others families and are sleeping together which is killing me.
   My ex says he used everything bad i did (which i couldnt help due to my illness and he said that if he got tempted to like me again he thought of some mistakes i had done in the past) and got over me really fast and said he didnt wanna waste any time being single so he met this girl. He said he put his feelings for me aside and made the feelings for her a priority

   He went out dating just two weeks after the breakup, but since he says he only focus on our negative experiences, does that mean he’s not having a rebound and really is over me? He keeps pointing out how happy he is and that she doesn’t do the same mistakes i did and that she’s much better because of it..

   And even if he’s not having a rebound, is it still impossible to get him back?
   I should mention it’s along distance relationship and she lives in his town.

   I’ve told him how angry i am over the breakup, that it feels like he let me down by leaving and that i cant stand that he’s with someone else, he also knows that i’m planning to kill myself because i cant live with the consequences that my depression ruined everything and that i cant put things right again since he keep holding my mistakes against me and don’t want to give me a new chance.

   I’m sick of people telling me to move on since I know that wont happen and I don’t see any point in getting my life back together since all that matters to me is him right now and I’d do anything to get him back.

   so my third question is: is it impossible to get him back or is it still possible it may happen in the future if i keep fighting for it?

   I can’t forgive myself for letting my illness ruin it all and I can’t get over it, I just want a new chance proving i’m a good person when I’m not controlled by fears, if he doesn’t like me then then I can live with it, but I can’t now.

   Maybe it’s too much personal information, but my two first questions are pretty specific concerning the rebound-topic and I’d appreciate any advice I can get, I don’t wanna give him up but i don’t wanna live knowing I cant put things right again..

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 2:18 am

   Ok, I think it is a really good idea for you to do a NC rule. If you haven’t done it already. I want you to evolve during that time though.

   Oh, and also I think that you should try everything first before giving up completely.

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   Lisa

   July 30, 2013 at 4:00 am

   I did the NC rule for 30 days, it didn’t do any good at all and then i just couldn’t keep myself from talking to him.

   So he’s not having a rebound but there might still be a way for me to get him back?

   Right now we’re only fighting each time we talk since i claim he never loved me since he’s sleeping with her after such short time.. :/

   I also fear that if i get him back, i wont be able to forgive him for having this current relationship because it hurts me a lot. Do you have any tips on how to deal with that?

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 5:51 pm

   Well, it seems your issue is that you fight with him every time you talk to him. Work on having a calm and pleasant conversation but not right now. I think you need to take a step back and reasses. Go another week without thinking or talking to him. Just focus on YOU.

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   veera

   July 29, 2013 at 6:01 pm

   And one more thing i was wondering, do men think that their ex stalk or will want to revenge? in the begining my ex thougt i tried to do than. And i wasn´t and im wondering why.

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 2:06 am

   I do believe that if I really wronged a girl (which is why I do my best not to wrong them.) However, did you maybe give him the impression that you would want revenge?

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   veera

   July 30, 2013 at 3:23 am

   No, i didn´t give him that impression. and i didn´t stalk him. we had some money issues, but i had to look out for myself. there was legal contracts i had to make, he did do a thing to make them happend or helped me with them, only asked me constantly have i done them already. He kind of thought that when we broke up he could go on with his life and I should sit home and do every paper work what needed to be done (he told me than when i asked) One point he even asked if i hired someone to hit him (witch was ridiculous, im no a violent type) when i told him to watch out his new friends ( they are violent and sell drugs)

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   anna

   July 29, 2013 at 2:43 pm

   Hey,
   I think I am the RR.
   My ex was in a relationshiop for 4 years, broke up and after two month we started to date each other.
   Then his exgirlfriend called him and now we broke up, because he doesn’t know what he want… he said he is not sure if it is right to be with me..

   But anyway, I like him a lot and I want him back. Do I have a chance?

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 1:53 am

   Well, I think you need to work on reestablishing a meaningful connection. Start by implementing a NC rule.

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   Veera

   July 28, 2013 at 4:21 pm

   Thanks for this article. I read somewhere, that if new relationship moves very fast it is a sign for a reboud relationship. Do you think so?

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   admin

   July 29, 2013 at 3:37 am

   If the new relationship forms fast like he starts dating someone new in a week then I would say it is a rebound. However, I am not sure about if you progress quickly in the relationship to having se& if it is a rebound. Usually though, a lot of rebounds are about se$

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   veera

   July 29, 2013 at 5:28 pm

   Okay, you´re man. Can I ask you, do men think about their ex? or just forget them, when new comes around. If se& was bad at the end and it is good with the new one? is there any hope? And Yes, i have found my se&uality again. and feel hot. and men do check me out, but do men only remember when it was bad. I thin that was one issue with us.

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   admin

   July 30, 2013 at 2:03 am

   Men think about their exes just as much as women. However, bad se$ is something they don’t forget easily. Here is the thing though, most guys are just happy that a girl wants them.