6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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Chicken nuggets

April 7, 2018 at 7:00 am

Hey there, thanks for doing this. My ex and I broke up last summer as he was moving away for school (his school was an already predetermined life choice for him as in he already knew and told me he was going to this new school when we started dating). We were worried about what would happen when he had to leave but decided to just see how it goes and not stress. We ended up liking each other a lot more than expected and when the time came close to him leaving he was trying to end things and wanting me to move on. He wanted to look tough and like he didn’t care, not showing any of his own hurt but it would sometimes show. When it actually came time to break up, he was having a hard time letting go. I implemented NC right away and he kept trying to talk. I started to talk to him when I was ready and have been messaging with him since. He recently got news though that he got a job back in my city so he’d be moving back! We didn’t discuss what that meant for us but there’s a chance. But I still don’t know what he’s thinking and it’s worrying me. I’m trying to just do my own thing and just get back in contact when he’s back. Any advice on how to deal with this uncertainty in a calm UG way? Any possible game plan so I don’t friendzone myself?

Chris Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 9:35 pm

You made me hungry… I think I am going to go to McDonalds and get some Chicken Nuggets… Thanks A LOT LOL

Ok, so the best way to deal with this is to literally seem like you are moved on from him. It’ll drive him nuts. I know it sounds counterintuitive but that’s the best way to approach it.
Chicken nuggets

April 7, 2018 at 11:42 pm

HAHA I want chicken nuggets too but I am stuck with the flu so I will live vicariously through your chicken nugget eating
Hmm, by literally seeming like I have moved on–do you mean I shouldn’t be talking to him or shouldn’t be asking to meet up in person?
Chris Seiter

April 10, 2018 at 3:47 am

I didn’t end up getting the chicken nuggets :(. My wife got sick and I ended up taking care of her so that’s why I’m a bit late to reply.

I think you shouldn’t ask him out for a date until you are sure something romantic is bound to happen on that date.
Chicken nuggets

April 10, 2018 at 4:07 am

NOOO!! Chris, you have to eat them in front of your wife and laugh muahaha that’s all good! I actually did not think you would reply. My guy generally isn’t very obvious about these things so I have no clue if something romantic would happen. Maybe I should just keep the communication to a minimum and not ask to see him in person when he’s back so he’s wondering why I’m not trying to meet up with him? It’s a bit risky because I don’t want him to think he has no chance and then to just attempt dating someone else.
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 12:01 am

Hey there Chicken nuggets! I think that is not a bad tactic. I have a suggestion for you! Take a look at my Ex Recovery Pro ebook which you can find in the Menu Section under”Products”. There are a ton of ideas in there for you! You don’t have to try and figure it all out by yourself!
Chicken nuggets

April 11, 2018 at 12:18 am

Thanks! I have the ebook! Just posting under a code name so I can’t be discovered by my guy. Thanks for the help!
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 2:56 am

So I guess we can call you “Chick”!

Creta

April 7, 2018 at 5:50 am

Hi there,
My ex and I dated for about 6-9 months and still basically had an FWB for two years after the break up up until six months ago when I realized rekindling wasn’t going to work. No contact failed, I ended up sleeping with him which was my own self sabotage. We have both established that we’re important parts of each other’s lives and we aren’t talking or contacting each other as far as two weeks ago with little communication since late December.

Today, I’m some strange odds, I was out of my town 2.5 hours from where he lives and an hour from mine. My friends chose a bar and when we walked in, he was there with a woman he lead on for two years before he began dating me. She slapped him in the face right before we started dating because he wouldn’t date her after using her for years.

None of our friends were aware he was in town and he seemed like he was caught with her and keeping her under wraps, just like when he didn’t want to be seen with me when we would take vacations together or do big things even after we broke up. I was shocked, but surprisingly not as upset as I thought I would be. She lives across the state from him, and casual sex is definitely going on between them. I said hi to both of them, was cordial and friendly, and my friend just talked them up before I went into the bathroom and they left. My friends said I kept my composure very well but my one friend texted him from his phone and thanked him for leaving which makes me feel like this gives my ex a sense of power over my emotions.

We still haven’t spoken besides that encounter. We went to NC on good terms where we talked about issues and left the conversation feeling good. I still don’t plan to contact him since I consider that breaking NC.

Where do I go from here? I’m moving forward and doing great in life and I’m really honing my talents, but this threw me for an emotional loop. I’m not feeling attracted to him, or much of anything currently from shock. I loved him, I still do, I think but writing this out makes me realize that I don’t need his presence for a long time.

Have you ever seen a delayed rebound/backslide like this before for an ex?

Chris Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 9:33 pm

Ya, to me this just says he is looking for the easiest possible woman. Someone who won’t turn him down. I realize she slapped him but she did that b/c she really wants him and couldn’t take the rejection.

I wouldn’t worry too much about this woman being some long term relationship.

Seems like historically he is just using her for sex.
Creta

April 9, 2018 at 3:52 am

Thanks, Chris! It’s nice to hear that, I believe that too. I’m just going to keep at UG and keep moving along with my life. I seriously appreciate this website and all you’re doing.

Ana

April 7, 2018 at 4:09 am

Hi, I have met my ex when he was in a relationship, but she was further away than me. He was trying to get me, telling me that she had no meaning for him. I tried to avoid any trouble, in the end I could not bare it anymore. After a month of cheating he broke up with her, because his friends were pushing him to stop cheating. He didn’t tell her about the cheating.
We had two months together and 1 year in a long distance afterwards. A month ago the same happened to me, he broke up with me. He said because he had been the cheating on me and could not live with the guilt. He said we didn’t see eachother enough and therefore he closed himself off from me emotionally. I also knew he had been bored and partying a lot.
While breaking up he cried (something he never did with his previous ex) and the days after he staid he wanted me forever, but he could not forgive the guilt. I was a mess and quite rude broke contact saying he should leave me for a few months at least. A few days ago (a month after breaking contact) he contacted me telling me he started dating the girl he cheated with after two weeks and he thinks he loves her. He’s nice to me, but reminds me very clear that what we had is over.
All signs show its a rebound but his past also shows he will try everything to make it become serious. Staying his friend seems impossibly hard, even after the no-contact. What should I do?

Chris Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 9:27 pm

This is where “The Being There Method” comes into play. I haven’t written an article about it just yet but it’s by far the most effective thing that you can do.

VAD

April 7, 2018 at 1:09 am

Hi Chris,

We dated for 2 years…. he cheated, I caught him. We broke up. Even though I said I would forgive him, he said that what he had done was too bad to be forgiven. I have cut off all contact with his friends and family and deleted everyone from social media (I was panicked to see anything that would hurt me). I think things are messed up with his fam pretty badly as well… They found out about everything and I became needy and wanted their validation (needless to say they stopped talking to me).
He has been dating the OW for 3 months… they work together (she’s his employee). I feel like she is great and fun and exciting and a great match for him because since she works for him they share a lot together. I have been in NC for the whole 3 months… I am scared to contact him and get rejected again…
I took the ¡quiz and said chances were 50%
What do you think I should do?

Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 2:54 am

I think you should text him. Make sure you read the guide on texting and try to become friends with him. You will be there like she was during your relationship.

Sylvia

April 7, 2018 at 12:02 am

Forgot to mention- we had initially met in person randomly while traveling, and I visited him in his country. We continued a relationship briefly after i left, before the distance issues which led to our breakup.
Ross Yates

April 7, 2018 at 12:00 am

I dated my ex for 2.5 years. She was my first girlfriend and I took her virginity. We loved each other very hard but failed with communication. We got Into the habit of small break ups, constantly. Back in July, she had to make a move from California to Texas with her family. We were going to try long distance. However, 3 weeks in, she broke up with me and got a new boyfriend the next day. It’s been 8 months and she is still with this guy. She has contacted me a few times missing me but swears by this new relationship. I am still in contact with her family. They constantly tell me they are against this guy because he is taking her down a very bad path. Her response to them asking why she is with him is always “He isn’t Ross” (me). And he isn’t. He is the polar opposite of me. I do not contact her anymore. However I am still very deeply in love with her. It’s been 8 months. What are your thoughts on our future and if this is an extended rebound?

Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 2:20 am

Generally the rebound phase ends at around 6 months so he might not be a rebound. It’s important to close the gap in long distance relationships if you want the relationship to last. You should try texting her and staying “friends” with her and be there for her when they breakup.

Sylvia

April 6, 2018 at 11:38 pm

Hey Chris,

Is it possible for a guy to stick out a rebound relationship or any relationship in general, not out of love, but just for the sake of having a relationship that is available?

My ex and I broke up because the distance was getting to him. We were not able to have an end date in sight to live near each other at the time. He still stayed in touch with me and would continue to flirt and wishing we could be physically together but that at the time it just wasnt feasible. He and I discussed future plans of restaring a relationship when the distance can be minimised.

He began dating the current gf a few months after that. He never once said anything harsh about me or ever stated she was above me in anyway. He’s extremely attracted to me and the activities i get involved in.The only problem towards me is the distance ( a factor not in my control currently). Theyve been together about 11 months now.

In his own words, hes stated shes obsessive and tracks everything he does online etc. And because of that i noticed him becoming distant with me, he even said “she doesnt like when i chat to any other girls” which is one of the reasons I completely broke off contact with him over 4 months ago. He still likes posts i put up on social media (although i should be posting alot more). His gf constantly posts of them and she always looks overly happy while he doesnt post nearly as often and always looks grim. Their pics are not very coupley.

1) Could he be sticking it out with her because shes “just there”?
2)Is there any chance for him and I to have an opportunity for a new relationship?
3) should I begin posting more often, using UG strategy for 30 days to get his attention, then break off this really long no contact?
4) apparently “being there” worked too well to the point we dont msg now because “she doesnt like it”. How do i get around him avoiding contact with me because of her anger?

Thank you!

Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 2:15 am

Yes he could be sticking it out because she’s just there. Yes I think you could still end up in a relationship with him again. Yes, post often and then try the texting phase again. Next time he doesn’t want to talk because she doesn’t like it just say “What doesn’t she like? Were just friends.”
Sylvia

April 10, 2018 at 9:12 pm

Not sure if my follow-up reply to you was received!
Chris Seiter

April 10, 2018 at 10:24 pm

I will keep an eye out for it Sylvia. I am going back thru the comments to catch up on replies. Been a little helter skelter for me lately. But you know all about that as I suspect things have been a bit wild for you as well!
Sylvia

April 12, 2018 at 2:56 am

Thanks Chris, Jennifer!

You should, at some point, write an article about “How to get an ex back whom you haven’t had contact with in a long time and currently has a gf”

I keep thinking its a very messy process in this situation but maybe its not as bad as I believe it is.
Chris Seiter

April 12, 2018 at 3:03 am

Thanks for suggestion Sylvia!
Sylvia

April 9, 2018 at 5:09 am

Thanks Jen, this makes me extremely hopeful and excited to implement this!

I do have one concern though.
Regarding the advice you gave in the 4th point – will saying “we’re just friends” unintentionally end up placing me in the friendzone? Or could it bruise his ego and make him think I placed HIM in the friendzone instead?? 😉
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 1:13 am

Hi Sylivia. hope you don’t mind I jumped in here! I think it just puts the balance of control over to you.

Joanne

April 6, 2018 at 11:29 pm

My ex left me and our kids and within 24 hrs was in another relationship with in 3 months later he was bk saying he made biggest mistake of his life he loves me and 2 half wk later he gone saying i cheated on him like 11yrs ago wouldn’t take no for answer so told him i did and for them 2 half weeks said he had no contact with the ow but drove past them yesterday i asked for the truth said he got nothing to say i was the cheater but i think he lying why he doing this to me

Joanne

April 8, 2018 at 6:14 pm

Just wanted to know if my ex was in a rebound relationship cuz of getting with the ow within 24 hrs of leaving me and it lasted just under 3 months and came bk 2 me for 2 half wks and now we are over again he saying been seeing her but not together but he might, is he saying it 2 hurt me or that what he wants am so confused and he being hot cold and now we aint even talking or seeing each other and got 3 children 13 11 and 1 there ages are
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 1:53 am

Hello Joanne! He could be trying to hurt you and he could have a rebound going on. No sure. Your message was cut off, so I didn’t comprehend it fully.
Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 2:11 am

It sounds like he’s gaslighting you. Why is he all of the sudden bringing up this cheating from 11 years ago. It sounds like he wanted to sugarcoat the cheating to paint himself in a better light. Did you actually cheat and have you ever discussed this with him in the 11 years?
Joanne

April 7, 2018 at 9:16 am

I asked him to tell me the truth about him and ow saying it got nothing to do with me and just found out he blocked my moblie number i dont get why he is doing this to me it hirts so much
Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 10:33 pm

He doesn’t want to get caught. He will unblock you in time. Try to focus on yourself in the meantime. What are some things you enjoy doing?
Joanne

April 8, 2018 at 1:45 pm

Things have got worse we are not in contact at all only through his mum for kids says he dont want me bk can never trust me had said he might want to get bk with the ow but said few wks ago he made the biggest mistake of his live so really dont get why he acting and being horrible to me
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 2:15 am

Hi Joanne. Some men can be cruel. If he continues this, is he worth it?
Joanne

April 8, 2018 at 1:36 pm

Not really got kids all the time i just want to know if you think he does want me back or dont because am thinking he dont now
Joanne

April 7, 2018 at 9:13 am

No never cheated and it come up afew times but never listened or belieaved me
Jennifer Seiter

April 8, 2018 at 2:30 am

Okay if you never cheated then you do not need to send him a letter. Also if he still has doubts have an open book policy. Let him look through your social media and phone anytime. Sometimes you just have to be open in relationships if he’s insecure. (Note that sometimes the insecurity is coming from the guy cheating. I know that’s weird but that’s how insecurities work.)

Sahra

April 6, 2018 at 11:21 pm

Hi, my ex broke up with me in september last year. Se where engaged to get merried. Looken fore a house, bought a care a fre weeks befors it ended. We where together 5,5 years. We hade to share apartament from sep-nov because he would not leav! He broke up because he hade no more feelings for me he said. I bought a new flat and he moved home to his brother. We did not argue, i did not pleed for him to stay. I just asked If he thought he would regret dumping me and he said that he probably would, but so be it. My ex continued to go to the gym with my brother, they sent on roadtrips shopping!? Until now in mars when my family and i saw a post on post on Facebook where he had tagged a girl saying he could not emagin his life without here. Then my brother cut the contact. The strange thing is that the new girl is a coworker of his! My ex hade mentioned here a lot when we still where together but i truster him and did not think anything of it then. My ex has not contacted me since we moved apart in december exept for practical things. Will he ever come back? He cried when he broke up and ess depressed after the breakup, but has moved on with a new girl i think. The breakup whas a chock for me, my family and his family no one could understas why. Will he evere come back? Is the new girl a rebund or did he chefat with here way back, since they work together?

Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 2:07 am

It sounds like the new girl is probably a rebound and the fact that he cried during the breakup is a good sign that he has strong feelings for you.

Eva

April 6, 2018 at 3:02 pm

Oke I am going nuts. So many things going on. The break up with my ex was nasty, even the time before was great, yet in general we had it rough (on off LDR).
He told me to go lost and never contact him again, he wants a new girlfriend that is better matching (religious differences) and peace. Just todday he told me to never contact him again, well I was stalking a bit (he unfriended me on fb) and saw he likes another girl. It is not much yet, but I know him well and this is his pattern. She is the complete opposite of me, muslim girl, devoute and in his town.
This is a nightmare… could this be the beginning of a rebound? and I mean since she matches pretty well at first sight and has the huuuge advantage of being close…I lost right? Especially since he wants to have nothing to do with me any more 🙁
I also tried to get into the facebook group, but I couldn’t pay somehow, otherwise I would have searched help there.

Jennifer Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 3:03 am

I think you should start here. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-an-ex-boyfriend-back-with-religious-differences/

Also If this is a rebound, I think it’s good news because most rebounds don’t work out.
Eva

April 8, 2018 at 5:32 pm

Hey Jennifer thanks for your reply.
This article is great, but I am not sure if I ever have a chance to use the tips, because he said he never ever want to hear from me any more and he wants to move on. I do NC now, crying buckets though and no energy to get Ungettable.I am also unfriended on social media…this is why I am also afraid that the rebound will work.
What can I do
Jennifer Seiter

April 10, 2018 at 7:09 pm

Do you know how often I hear that? Everyday, literally everyday! Don’t worry if he said he never wants to talk to you again or he hates you etc. Guys say that a lot after a breakup usually coming from emotion.

Start with your no contact. Improve your life and do things that you love. I know it’s hard now but things will get better.
Eva

April 11, 2018 at 2:46 pm

Dear Jennifer,
To be honest with had to laugh about myself.People tend to panic a lot in these situations and I am absolute no exception. Now after starting to improve myself and my mood my sight is getting clearer. I love myself.
My ex is not in a rebound and he even reached out already after I was short and a bit indifferent (because the heck,how he treated me..)yet positive. I try to detox from the old RS and get Ungettable.But I fell back in old patterns and he said ok he is still carefully and steps back because he feels uncomfy.He did not even apologise.
I should go NC now. So my last question how do I do that looking good and respectable? I told him to relax, that before he thinks I am chatting I will let him rest and continue working on my positive.
I really am still angry at him for not respecting me or checking on me as a test if I am still available and at me that I failed the test and fell back in old patterns.
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 11:18 pm

Hi again Eva. Just the act of going into NC is a respectable measure to undertake because it is proactive and can benefit you. At this stage, what he might thinks is respectable or nice matters less. By the way, if you think you need some ongoing support in this whole matter, consider joining my Private Facebook Group (go to Menu/Products). It is great support resource and you can learn more about to see if you think it is a fit for you!

Victoria

March 26, 2018 at 8:36 pm

My ex has gone to australia to see the girl he met a month after we broke up. Since seeing her he’s documented their whole relationship and has been posting couple photos, something which in our 2 years he never did. He’s become a completely different person and everything about their relationship is the opposite of ours. I’ve been doing so well to move on and gain my confidence back but as soon as I posted a picture on instagram of mebeing happy the next day he’s posted a couples photo of them, completely knocking my confidence. At first I thought it was a rebound but he’s taken time off work and gone to the other side of the world to see a girl he knew for a week before she went back home. My head is so confused I feel like I meant nothing to him now. We broke up because he couldn’t handle us being 2 hours apart and only seeing each other twice a month but he’s fine only seeing her every 4 months. Has he moved on and how can I move on?

Chris Seiter

April 3, 2018 at 1:31 am

So,big question here.

Are you looking to move on fully from him or are you looking to get him back?

I know you mentioned you might be interested in moving on but sometimes it helps to ask the person directly I find. These things change so often.
Victoria

April 10, 2018 at 11:14 am

I’m looking to move on fully. I know I don’t want to be with him but I want to understand why he’s treated me the way he has and has gone about his new relationship in the complete opposite manner to ours. He’s known this girl 4 months and has said he’s going to move to Australia after he finishes university next year. It just seems he’s rushing everything with her and is trying to have the same level of intimacy and connection with her that he had with me but in a much shorter period of time.
How am I meant to ask him why he’s done all of this? He’s blasting all over every form of social media how happy he is so I doubt he’ll reply to me
Chris Seiter

April 10, 2018 at 10:57 pm

Clearly, he is a bit full of himself and insensitive about your feelings if he is blasting everywhere about how happy he is. My sense is that he really has not changed that much and you should consider this a valuable lesson in how sometimes the match is not right. He treated you badly because of his own shortcomings.
Victoria

April 12, 2018 at 10:57 am

so do you think its best to just leave it? I am happier without him and hes just showing how immature he is by doing all of this but I’ve always been someone whose believe that if you once loved and cared about someone things shouldn’t end badly so maybe thats why I’m still holding onto something
Chris Seiter

April 12, 2018 at 4:58 pm

Hi Victoria. It is hard to let go of feelings and the sense that something was complete or finished right. But that life. Not everyone clicks like they hope to. If you are happier with out him, then ride that wave.

Amy

March 25, 2018 at 11:52 pm

My boyfriend and I were in a relationship for just short of 3 years. Before we dated he had been seeing one girl very minimally who he immediately stopped talking too for me. Fast forward three years within a few weeks of us breaking up he started seeing this girl (the one he left for 3 years back for me) and now they have been dating for nearly 6 months. At times he will call me and you can tell in his voice a sense of jealousy and concern about whats going on in my life. When we broke up he told me “if you ever loved someone you always will, Amy you know that I will always love you.” He also told me that he did want to get back together in a year. With that being said I question every day if the girl who he is now with is a rebound. Hardly anyone knows they are dating,and they never go out in public with each other. Two months into their relationship he took her on a trip to Europe to all the countries we went and visited together. In many ways I feel like my ex is trying to relive his relationship with me with his new girl friend. Do you think that this is possible? Is the girl my ex is dating a rebound? Do you think he is in still love with me? Do you think that their is hope we will get back together?

Chris Seiter

April 3, 2018 at 1:22 am

Hey Amy, by any chance have you taken the Ex Recovery Chances quiz on the homepage of our website? That might give you some insight into your chances.

Laura

March 6, 2018 at 5:56 pm

i broke up about two months and a week, our relationship lasted 3 years but after two major fights i broke it off. i recently learned my ex is been seeing someone new for a month now, although is not official, in this case he wishes it is. Supposedly the new girl is the one taking her time because she knows of his recent breakup. They have been expending time together (sleeping over each other place) and they seem to be having a good time. He has made it clear he wants nothing to do with me but after learning form his rebound, should i have hope it wont work?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 10, 2018 at 6:11 pm

Hi Laura,

They might be in the honeymoon phase but if he met her and started talking to her before the breakup, it might be a grass is greener..

Laura

March 6, 2018 at 5:52 pm

what are my chances? we broke up after a three year relationship, this time after two major fights. he is still very hurt and although it was just a little over two months ago, i just find out he started seeing someone a month ago. Although it is not official yet, the new girl is the one taking her time because she knows of his recent breakup. If it was up to him they would already be official. They seem to be expending time together (sleeping over each other place) and having lots of fun. He has no been contacting me and wants nothing to do with me (as he once told me, he is done). Should i have some sort of hope this relationship wont last?
Taylor

February 22, 2018 at 8:09 pm

Hello,

My boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me in November 2017. We were living together so we had to find our own apartments and deal with all of our shared belongings. The last month of the relationship I could tell something was going on. He never confronted me on how he was feeling, and previously we never had any communication problems. So this break up was a complete shock for me. We were talking about a family and houses in the past few months before the breakup. During the break up he told me that it was not me it was him, I did nothing wrong, he wants to live his life outside of the relationship because we have been together since we were 17. I was heartbroken and I knew he made up his mind and there was nothing I could do to change it. I have been trying to do no contact with him but keep failing at the 2 week period. The most recent reason why I contacted him was because I found out that he has been dating someone for a little while now. When he broke up with me he told me that for the first time in 7 years he never thought of the possibility of another girl, but that weekend someone caught his eye. This is the girl who he is now dating. He is bringing her to events for others to know and see. He told me he has changed as a person and is no longer interested in me. I feel like he has only focused on the negatives or the small problems (we barely fought or argued with the 7 years of being together). He is focusing on the negative and not looking at the positives of the relationship . It is hurtful to see someone who you have unconditionally loved for the past 7 years, and have gone through so much with just have them treat you like you are disposable and unworthy. I do not know if he is changed and will never want me back, I am so lost and not sure what to do. I know I will restart my no contact period again but is there even any hope.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 9:39 am

Hi Taylor,

The more you restart the nc rule, the less it can help you.. So, if you’re going to restart it this time,make it the last one and do 45 days.

Phoebe

February 20, 2018 at 9:13 pm

My ex started dating someone new a month after we broke up (we were together for 2 years), they haven’t even known each other for 2 months yet they’ve already said they love each other. Do you think this is actually real or is it rebound behaviour? And do you think that this sort of relationship will last moving so quickly?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 24, 2018 at 10:50 pm

Hi Phoebe,
If they met after the break up she can be a rebound. If not, she’s more of a grass is greener.. It’s hard to say if it will last but the longer they stay together, the less it stays as a rebound relationship.

Mae

February 20, 2018 at 12:55 pm

Hi- my boyfriend of five years was pressuring me big time into blending our families and my kids just aren’t ready for that. He became angry and started drinking a lot and I told him if he couldn’t handle things as is that we had to break up. 3 days later he was engaged to a former co-worker of his, they were sporadic acquaintances with prior to that (she confirmed this). They were together for 19 days in total, during which time he completely cut off communication with me- wouldn’t even look at me when I saw him in person. On the 19th day he found her with her ex and he came back to me. He claims he would have eventually come back but I read texts between them where he tells her she is the one, their sex is amazing, he never let anyone in like he let her in and how special she is. He even brought his 11 year old daughter to meet her and her even younger children. This behavior seems crazy to me and I am having a lot of trouble taking him back. He even told his parents and clients about her – the texts say everyone says they had never seen him so happy. I love him but how do I believe anything he says ?? He as also said all of those things to me in the past. I feel like he doesn’t care who he is with, he just wants to be married. I don’t know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 23, 2018 at 5:56 pm

Hi Mae
If he’s that impulsive, I wouldn’t trust him too. I would run away as fast as I can from him.

Pat

February 14, 2018 at 5:20 pm

Hi
I dated my ex for more than a year but broke up with him because life got in the way and I felt pressured and needed space. We tried to agree to stay as friends but he still had feelings for me. He got extremely depressed and kept texting me to help him go through this break up but I ignored him because I knew he was an emotional mess. A few weeks later, he gave out to me for not helping him and throwing his feelings aside and I grew bitter and cold towards him.
Less than 3 months later he’s dating someone else who I know doesn’t deserve him. I texted him saying congrats and we chatted a bit but then he stopped replying. I apologised about my actions but he left me on seen. After that, I went into no contact mode with him, unfriending and unfollowing him on all social media. I used to stalk their social media like crazy for the first month, but I just check her account every weekend since he posts less frequently than her. I’m private person and we didn’t post much of our relationship but she constantly posts about her relationship with him. They post about how happy they are more frequently than when I was dating him, and they’ve only dated for 2 months. They seem to be taking the relationship fast. I post frequently on my instagram story and caught him checking it a couple of times.
I don’t know if it’s serious or if it’s a rebound and I’m curious on how long it’ll last. I was thinking of writing a letter to him and returning his voucher he gave me 2 weeks after we broke up.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 18, 2018 at 11:35 am

Hi Pat,

She’s probably rebound..Don’t write a letter..that’s chasing.. Start at least 21 day nc and check the link below:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Pat

February 13, 2018 at 7:23 pm

Hi
I dated my ex for more than a year but broke up with him because life got in the way and I felt pressured and needed space. We tried to agree to stay as friends but he still had feelings for me. He got depressed and kept texting me to help him go through it but I ignored him because I knew he was an emotional mess. A few weeks later, he gave out to me for not helping him and throwing his feelings aside and I grew bitter and cold towards him.
Less than 3 months later he’s dating someone else who I know doesn’t deserve him. I texted him saying congrats and we chatted a bit but then he stopped replying. After that, I went into no contact mode with him, unfriending and unfollowing him on all social media. I used to stalk their social media like crazy for the first month but now I just check her account every weekend since he posts less frequently than her. I’m private person and we didn’t post much of our relationship before, but she constantly posts about her relationship with him. They post about how happy they are more frequently than when I was dating him, and they’ve only dated for 2 months. They seem to be taking the relationship fast. I post frequently on my instagram story nowadays and I’ve caught him checking them a couple of times the past few months.
I don’t know if it’s serious or if it’s a rebound and I’m curious on how long it’ll last/ if I have a chance to get him back. I was thinking of writing a letter to him and returning his voucher he gave me 2 weeks after we broke up.
Danielle

February 13, 2018 at 5:47 am

I was in a 7 year relationship when me and my ex called it quits. There was infidelity on both ends( more on mine). Most recently I went away for 3 months to work, he did not want me to take the job. When I came home I noticed he was being distant so I said if you dont want to be with me lets break-up. I wanted a response, but he ended up agreeing with it. I did not want to break up. I started asking him to get back together and he said he needed to find himself. We still live together. I come to find out he was cheating on me my last month away at work and is still sleeping with this girl. I asked if he is serious about her and he says no, but ask him to pick either her or me cause I cant live like this anymore and am becoming depressed. He said he will not choose as he still wants to come home to me cause he loves me( no sex or communication), but wants to keep “having fun” I was able to get into his Facebook and see that she is constantly sending him loving and sexy memes and calling him her man and babe and they are making plans to hang out all the time. He usually gives her one word answers, but has not said I love you to her yet. I also see he is making plans with her for Valentines Day. He doesn’t answer his phone when she text around his friends, he visits her before or after work, but sleeps at home with me ( separate room), and won’t move out when I tell him to go be with her. Is this a rebound?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 17, 2018 at 6:19 pm

Hi Danielle,

It’s not a rebound.. Are you going to move out?

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