7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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RM

June 7, 2017 at 3:00 pm

Please help me. I broke up with my ex a year ago. We dated for a year and we was so in love he is my best friend. He even stayed with me in long distance as I went away to study at university for a year. However the past few weeks were none stop arguments. I said mean things I didn’t mean. He kept putting his friends first and I never felt apart of his life. He reached a breaking point and dumped me. We have been speaking everyday it’s usually nice conversations till I bring up the break up and things go sour. He is determined to stay single says he wants to be on his own for a bit. Last night he told me he has been stressed and pissed off and didn’t want to carry on what we was doing. Despite telling me he missed me like crazy a few days ago. Last night he said he missed me but not as much as he should. What do I do? I removed his number and unfollowed him on all social media. I’m so hurt. How do I make him miss me? How do I make him remember the good times? He told me I relied on him to much to be happy which is true. How do I show him I’m changing and make him find me attractive again? I’m so heartbroken

RM

June 7, 2017 at 3:02 pm

We broke up two weeks ago not a year ago. Sorry error
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 9, 2017 at 4:09 pm

Hi Rm,

do you want to try the no contact rule? If yes, do at least 30 days.

Holly

June 7, 2017 at 3:57 am

Hi,
My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago. It hasn’t always been easy between us, and there was a lot of growing up to do (especially on my behalf). He broke up with me for understandable reasons, i have trust issues, insecure, was negative, disrespectful and lost my confidence to name a few. (not his fault)
I approached him a week after the break up to apologize and get back together, but he told me to respect his space and leave him alone. This is really hard for me but I am trying the 30 day NC. How can I approach him once my time is up?
I am really working hard on myself to deal with my crap. But I love him, and don’t want to loose him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 9, 2017 at 3:31 pm

HI Holly,

check this one:
What To Text Your Ex After A Breakup (And How To Incorporate Social Media)

Megan

June 5, 2017 at 8:53 pm

It’s been about a week since my boyfriend broke up with me. He broke up with me because he felt we were arguing too much and we both have outside stressors in our lives and that is arguing was adding to it. We both agreed that we allowed these stresses to be taken out on each other, we both love each other, but he said he just doesn’t want a future of constant arguing. The break up went civilly, I got my items from him and he told me he was surprised by how this has been handled. He mentioned the idea of trying again one day but he was rocky on the thought. I’m trying the no contact rule, with the exception of him reaching out to me to sign legal documents to remove my name from some items, is that my best route to take? Do my chances seem high of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 7, 2017 at 5:45 pm

its ok to talk about legal matters, just make it about that only.. if its just about arguing too much, then yes, there’s a chance

Cece

June 5, 2017 at 2:24 am

I was dating a guy for 2 months and I’m 26, Hes 35. I got out of a bad relationship before him and I’m learning how to trust men again. He was also in a bad relationship. I started to become needy quickly and things started going down hill at the end of month 2. Ive been knowing him for 7 years but never took a liking to him until now. So hes mad because he can tell i dont trust him. He ended it when I spazzed out about him liking girls photos on instagram. Now i feel stupid about it and want to know if there is any way to fix it and get him back. We both are motivated and stubborn. I started begging for another chance when he ended it which i know his bad. Is there any way to salvage this? We broke up 2 days ago.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 7, 2017 at 3:21 pm

Hi Ceç,
check this one:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That

Sherry

June 1, 2017 at 8:08 pm

Hello, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. We have been involved for about the past two years but there was a period in that time that I was in a short-term relationship with someone else. Shortly after that situation ended my ex told me he “missed us”, I did too so we started dating. We broke up VERY briefly over some animosity from our previous involvement but got back together (long story short when we first started seeing each other after about 3 months he told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship so we decided to keep in platonic). After we got back together everything started going well up until about two months before the split. Of course bickering was the catalyst that brought him to say that he wanted a break and somehow a break turned into a breakup. Originally he said that we just needed some time apart but after discussing it a day later he said that he didn’t think it was a good idea for us to be together but he still wants to be friends. I told him that I am willing to take a break if we can come back after some time and work on our relationship. His answer was “I just think we’re too different, its not fun anymore, I dont think its going to work.” It has only been about 6 days since the established break and 3 since the breakup. I know it is too soon to “try to get back together” right now. I am willing to do whatever I need to, to not just get him back but make myself a better person to be in a relationship. Do you think there is still a chance?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 2, 2017 at 7:13 pm

Yeah, I think there is.. if you’re going to do the no contact rule, do at least 21 days..

Ashley

June 1, 2017 at 4:12 am

My ex and I had a talk after the breakup, and we concluded it’s best not to communicate for a couple of months so we can both work on ourselves. There was no implication that we would then revisit the option of getting back together…just clear he needs time to work on himself. Since we agreed not to communicate “for a few months”…does the no contact rule still work? Like should I still try reaching out following the texting guide after 30 days even though we technically said “a few months”? I’m worried if I go more than 45 days it could be too late…but I also don’t want to ruin giving him the space he needs…which may be a few months and not just 30 days.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 1, 2017 at 6:07 pm

why did you break up? he probably doesnt even expect you to not contact him for 30 days and to see you moving on, so that with at least 30 day nc..

Lene

May 28, 2017 at 5:48 pm

Hello! Please help me, i just need some advice. My ex is my colleage and i think he has other girl now. Im using the nc rules but its hard for me because we always see each other in work. Im trying not to talk to him and to him in work. How will i know if he still like me? And what should i do everytime i see him?thank you very much for the help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 29, 2017 at 6:09 pm

Hi,

check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Annelise

May 28, 2017 at 3:14 am

Hi there,

SO my partner of 7-8 years broke up with me. We have a child together and are high school sweethearts. Nevertheless it shattered me. We had been experiencing rocky roads for a little bit but I never thought he would leave me, me being in such denial. We’ve been split up for almost a month and I find it real difficult applying the nc rule esp. when we share a child together. He had said that he’d been feeling like this for a few years and I can only pin point it to the time when I kissed another guy because my partner at the time showed me no interest and worked all the time. Plus, I was real insecure about him wanting to leave or get revenge that I controlled what he did most of the time, I even tried to push for marriage (which now that i reflect was a bad idea to keep someone) and I felt like it pushed him further away. At that point, I was ready to leave him and move on but I figured I should own up to how I felt at the time, and try try again. And I learned to love what was right in front of me. Which was him. So when he finally admitted he’d stopped being happy with me, I was crushed. And he’d also said he’d been talking to someone else. Hurt me even more. She’s currently married with two children. Which he thinks is love although he’s aware she wont leave her marriage, even after the affair was exposed. SO what do I do? He still says he cares about me, he says he misses me. What do I do? I miss him and still love him like crazy? I would love to reignite the spark between us that we clearly lost a long time ago, I understand its not an over night thing but I would clearly try anything possible to get him back, and permanently if I can 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 29, 2017 at 6:54 pm

HI Annelise,

check this one:
Getting Your Ex Back If You Have A Child Together

Nati

May 28, 2017 at 2:29 am

So day one first contact was good. Ended it on high point after 2 texts. Day 2 was also good. Skipped day 3 and on day 4 his response are one to two words response time farther apart and on my 3rd text to him that same day he never replied back. Should I wait a couple days to start again.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 29, 2017 at 6:50 pm

yes

Apple

May 27, 2017 at 6:56 pm

My ex is my colleage, and im doing the nc rule but i still seeing him everyday so its hard to apply the nc rule im only not texting and chatting him. I dont talk to him in work and i dont even look to him im just trying to think that he is not existing. Can you give me some advice what will i do in this situation? Thanks alot!

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 29, 2017 at 6:09 pm

Hi,

check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Jay

May 24, 2017 at 11:00 pm

Boyfriend broke up with me after I moved 7 hours away from my hometown for him to say he doesn’t love me in that way anymore and that he doesn’t see a future with me. I had no where to go and he knew that. I ended up not talking to him and haven’t spoken to him in over a week. He’s called, left messages via Facebook about things I posted online, and text me asking me to call him back but I haven’t responded to his text or read his fb messages. What does he want? He feel guilty? Do I keep ignoring him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 27, 2017 at 1:50 pm

Hi Jay,

he might be feeling guilty or he misses you because he’s still used to talking to you.. it’s good that you started nc immediately and that you are sticking to it.. how long were you together? commonly we recommend 30 days of nc and being active in improving yourself and in posting during and after nc, while slowly rebuilding rapport with him.

Kelsey

May 22, 2017 at 12:24 am

My ex and I had been in a slump since graduating from college. We both moved back home with basic jobs but not careers. He is trying to get into a federal program which takes months to do and I am trying to get into nursing school. We got into this slump of me coming home after working from 7-1pm then going to his house for 4 hours before he left for his job at a restaurant. He told me around February about this girl at work who has epilepsy and had a terrible fiancé/ home life. I knew deep down he had developed feelings for her but did not say anything. What’s crazy is that at one point he wanted to me to hang out with her because apparently, we were ” the exact same”. Fast forward a couple of months and I confronted him on being distant and told him I felt as if he was giving his energy away somewhere else when he blurted out that he had feelings for the other girl and had been texting her behind my back. A day later he called me and asked for me to come to his house. He then told me he wanted to make it work. Then the next day he came over and broke up with me. We did NC for a couple days then had to attend a friends party together ( we had not told any of our friends) and I asked him if he was still talking to her. He told me that he met with her and told her that they could only talk about work. Then 2 days later I met with him for the last time where he said they started talking again. Mind you in the 6 years of loving this boy not once did I ever think he would go this far. No, he didn’t cheat on me physically and I trust that he is telling me the truth but he told me they had connected. He said even if she was not involved in our lives that we would be in this position anyway because of how our relationship was going. He is not good at communication and did not tell me at all during the last year that he had doubts about us. I was bad at handling my depression and put that burden on him. We both discussed our faults together and talked about it but he said he didn’t want to try anymore. We have officially started nC for 4 days and it is hard. It’s hard because I love and miss him so much and All I keep thinking about is how unfair he is being by finding his happiness with someone else. He is not letting his feelings settle. I want him back so bad but am scared that the longer NC the more involved he will be with the other girl. I want to fight for him so bad but he told me he didn’t love me the way he used to and that he doesn’t miss me the way I want him to. Do I even have a chance?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 24, 2017 at 1:22 pm

You would like you’re chasing him instead of fighting for him.. Focus more in improving yourself.. be active in posting.. make it look like you’ve accepted the situation and that you’re moving on..

Mei

May 20, 2017 at 11:00 pm

He just broke up with me a day ago and told my brother he lIves me but isn’t happy with his current life. I bought the books and what not and I did beg during process of breaking up and got sparky and resentful. Is there still a chance to get together?

Mei

May 20, 2017 at 11:11 pm

Loves* we were together 9 months and lived together.
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 22, 2017 at 6:45 pm

Hi Mei,

Yeah, the nc helps increase your chances.. have you read the books? are you going to do the no contact rule?

Sonia

May 13, 2017 at 1:58 pm

I started seeing this guy last November, well he started talking to me thru Instagram, he sent me a friend request, I accepted it because he’s cute and also he used to go to the same middle school I went. I think it’s important to say I’m 21 and he’s 20, I know it’s too early and you deal with more important relationships everyday but it would really help me to know your opinion.

So he asked me out and at first I wasn’t that interested, our way of we meeting up was to go running to a park near my place it was quite far from him, but so we did, that led us to a second date and third, until we hooked up after two months of going out. He knew I wanted a serious relationship, so on February he asked me to be his girlfriend.

I know I fight for everything, well for the stupidest of things, not even a month after we started we got into a fight and he decided to call it quits thru text, I went all the way at night from my house to his place to fix it, we talked and we got back together. Even the day after he told me he was very sorry, he didn’t know what he was thinking and he loved me.

After that I did improve and started to realize that it’s not worth it to fight for everything. He was the sweetest he got me flowers, he opened up about previous relationships and he even told me that I was the most caring girlfriend he ever had. He wanted to do a road trip and we even talked of going to Europe one day. He does crossfit and he really loves it and he even told me of not doing more crossfit so we could go together to the gym, cause I go to a different one. He would always be on top of me and touching my cheeks saying how obsessed he was with them. He would get sometimes jealous, so that showed me interest and I once told him I didn’t want him to see no one else and he told me that’s not new, that it’s a thing since we started dating. He would tell me you are my girl and I need to know. I was friends with his family and they like me. We were the entire weekend together and part of the week when we had both time. He would tell me how anxious he was to see me and how much he wanted Friday to come. I was really happy. The happiest I’ve been in a while considering I’m in the US with no relatives. So he was pretty much my everything, besides work and school that I plan to attend.

So just two days ago, we got into a little discussion it wasn’t a big thing, I promise. I’m in my period if that helps. I told him what if this doesn’t work and he was like well he have to keep on with our lives, a very mature answer, but obviously not the one we want to hear. He told me also I was mature and he wasn’t and that he never wanted to have a girlfriend he just did it to keep me. I told him I don’t want to break up, and he was like please don’t make this more difficult.

He asked me to remain friends I said no, cause I cannot see him and talk to him as friends, that that was gonna kill me. He left me in my place and I left a bracelet on his car on purpose, he didn’t notice.
This morning I was going to work and he put it on my car’s handle (the thing you open the door with) he left it there, so he went to my place.
Since the day of the breakup I haven’t talked to him I even erased my social media for a while to avoid seeing him. I know he posted on his Instagram story cause my friend told me that he was at the gym. Yesterday I posted on my story singing a catchy happy song that I like and I know he saw it. I also posted me going out and drinking.

Bottom line: I don’t want to reach out to him, but I love him and he does make me happy, and I know I make him happy, he couldn’t be faking every minute. I’m stuck between the Fight for the things I want or everything happens for a reason. Please it would really help me figure out this whole mess. I’m a wreck and this two days have been a disaster.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 13, 2017 at 4:32 pm

try at least 30 days no contact rule.. use it for yourself so you can reflect on what you want.. if you move on after it, move on. If you want to try, then initiate a conversation to slowly build rapport. If you don’t want to initiate, set a limit on until when you would wait.

Angel

May 11, 2017 at 11:38 pm

Hi! My ex and I had only dated for 2 months. We belong in a close group of friends and we see each other often. Not meeting them causes a lot of drama in the group, while meeting them makes a huge air of awkwardness between my ex and I, and our interactions with the group. How would I do the NC rule, and show that I am becoming better, and make him jealous????

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 12, 2017 at 7:26 pm

how active are you now? When you’re with them, just be casual and civil with him

Sarah

May 6, 2017 at 6:16 am

My ex went for a student exchange and it became a long distance relationship.
We broke up as I was becoming needy and we had some fight few times a week.
Somehow, he kind of like changed into someone that I’m not familiar with (eg. going to pub.)
I understand when people have new exposure, they might change.

After the break up, he is acting weird (to me) as he changes his profile pictures in Facebook more frequent and even post photos of his travel (his last profile photo last for 2-3 years and hardly photo anything on Facebook, but now change twice in less than 2 months)
I tried the NC but failed (22days) when he texted and sent me photos on our so called anniversary.
After that, he disappear again and text me again after a week asking how are you….
We chat quite a time and I end the conversation.
I see him having much fun and lots of travelling.
He ask a lot about my recent life during the chat and when I ask does he miss the cushion that we used to hug… he just give me a smiley. (why he wont say a thing about it)
I still loves him and want him back .
Pls advise what should I do 🙂
I’m now try to focusing on myself by going to gym and learn how to make up.
Thank you.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 6, 2017 at 4:50 pm

restart nc and do at least 30 days.. that’s good that you’re improving..Improve the health, wealth and relationships aspect of your life.

Sarah

May 6, 2017 at 6:12 am

My ex went for a student exchange and it became a long distance relationship.
We broke up as I was becoming needy and we had some fight few times a week.
Somehow, he kind of like changed into someone that I’m not familiar with (eg. going to pub.)
I understand when people have new exposure, they might change.

After the break up, he is acting weird (to me) as he changes his profile pictures in Facebook more frequent and even post photos of his travel (his last profile photo last for 2-3 years and hardly photo anything on Facebook, but now change twice in less than 2 months)
I tried the NC but failed (22days) when he texted and sent me photos on our so called anniversary.
After that, he disappear again and text me again after a week asking how are you….
We chat quite a time and I end the conversation.
I see him having much fun and lots of travelling.
He ask a lot about my recent life during the chat and when I ask does he miss the cushion that we used to hug… he just give me a smiley. (why he wont say a thing about it)
I still loves him and want him back .
Pls advise what should I do 🙂
I’m now try to focusing on myself by going to gym and learn how to control my temper.
Thank you.

Sarah

May 11, 2017 at 7:58 am

Thanks Amor ^_^
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 11, 2017 at 8:15 pm

You’re welcome!
Sarah

May 7, 2017 at 9:08 am

Thanks Amor. 😀
But I was seeking help in school work from him recently.
Will it be late if I start the NC after that?
And is he kinda like trying to flirt??
He sends me a photo of dessert and tells me not as sweet as I am.
I’m kind of confuse with his action.
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 7, 2017 at 3:30 pm

not really.. you can start nc after that.. yes, it does looks like he’s being flirty which is good but if you keep talking now, you might end up being friendzoned
EBR Team Member: Amor

May 6, 2017 at 4:50 pm

restart nc and do at least 30 days.. that’s good that you’re improving..Improve the health, wealth and relationships aspect of your life.

Sa.94

May 2, 2017 at 9:27 am

Hey! Me and my ex-boyfriend of 7 months broke up a little over 2 weeks ago, and he texted me a few days ago saying that how im feeling? and make sure that everything is okay or not!
I answered that Im okay but H have some issue at work.
Before we were in a relationship, we were friends.
I think he wants to be my friend again not my boyfriend.
Now what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 2, 2017 at 8:03 pm

check this one:
The Friend Zone: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Just Wants To Be Friends

Sally

April 28, 2017 at 9:06 pm

Hi I’m 21 years old. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago after 3 years of that relationship, but the break up was not bad. His reason is that he was getting tired of the relationship/me = I was very bossy, control freak.. I know, pretty bad. But we did not fight much and we were maaaadly in love, we lived together and had anything in common and we were also best friends in the world. But I had those control issues… And he gave up because he is not good at showing his emotions so I did not see it coming.. I reeeeally want him back! Since the break up we have met, and when we met he couldn’t help it but hug me and kiss me and we even had sex, he still loves me and has feelings for me. He wants to meet me and he hasn’t got his stuff because he wants to have an excuse to meet me, but he wants to meet me as a friend. We had this talk after we had sex, he said “I want to give the relationship another try, because I believe you can change BUT I want to be alone for awhile, and I dont know how long I want to be alone, meanwhile I still want to meet you and be friends and i love you and miss you so much” …. Should I use the No contact rule while he wants to be alone or should I let him meet me as he wants? Friendly but aloof NC rule? And do I have a good chance of getting him back? I know I can change and I’ve already started to change myself into a better person. I really love him, we were talking about our marriage in the future the week before he broke up with me (and no thats not he reason he left me, he started that convo on our first date 3 years ago actually!) Please, I am clueless I don’t know what to do, its driving me nuts!

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 11:41 am

do the no contact rule for at least 30 days.. don’t sleep with him again when you’re not committed if you don’t want to be friends with benefits..

Sinikka

April 26, 2017 at 11:35 am

Hey! Me and my ex-boyfriend of ten months broke up a little over a month ago, and he texted me a few days ago saying he missed me. I have been doing no contact, but not as strictly as I should have. We have met up and texted a bit about three weeks into nc, but that was only related to him getting his clothes back. He treated me with litte respect and pretended to “forget” when he was supposed to come and get his clothes, which ultimately led to me throwing them away when he never showed up. About a week after the break-up we both regretted our decision and wanted to have a fysical relationship, but it didn’t work out at all.

Today it is Wednesday, and on Monday I gave him my letter as a symbol of endin NC and finalizing my process of healing. I have now accepted what can and what cnnot happen as a result of our mistakes. On the night of the day I gave him my letter I got a lot of texts where he said he misses me terribly and apalogized for his behaviour. Stupid and impatient as I was then I replied back immediatly that everythings okay now and that I missed him terribly too. He then went on to describing how he misses having sex with me and wanted to have a fysical realtionship. It was clear he was only horny so I told him to stop. He insisted he was horny, but that he meant what he said about missing me. He then requested once again to have a secret fysical relationship, which i declined right away. He texted back “okay” and the conversation ended there.

I couldn’t sleep because of him and in the morning I was furious, so I texted him saying I will not meet him to have sex and that he can call someone else for that. I ended my text with me expecting an apaology and that if he missed me for me he could contact me. He answered me right away with an apology, stating that he does in fact miss me for me and that we could talk later. All this happened on Tuesday morning, and now it is Wednesday… I’m still hoping for å response and I know that I have to take it slow with him if we are going to try things again, but I will not be the first to contact and I don’t really know how to act… I know he has been talking to a girl from his hometown (he moved to the town we live in about 2 years ago), but I have made sure to not let him know that I know of that. I’m also not sure if he has changed at all since the break-up, but I know I have for the better.

Please help, and thank you for all the help I have recieved from your website so far!

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 29, 2017 at 10:17 pm

has he responded?

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